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welcome to the program. You know, so

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last last time we were all together,

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we opened up the phone lines to see if

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anybody needed some help out there. We met the

1:01

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1:03

things, giving us advice, and

1:05

there were so many people left over in the waiting

1:07

room. I thought, you know, let's give everybody

1:10

who who wants a chance, a chance to get

1:12

in. So we're continuing this conversation from

1:14

last week. We're picking up on people.

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You never know who's gonna be here,

1:19

what they're gonna ask they need advice

1:21

from me or if they have question for me. I have

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And welcome back to the program. Okay. I'm

2:33

so excited. Let's see. Who's in our waiting

2:35

room to say hello, Ross, and see what they

2:37

have to say? I believe is

2:39

it Juliana, are you there? Well,

2:42

hi, my dear. Where are you calling from?

2:45

I'm at work. Live from my

2:47

office and I love that this is

2:49

work. And and what what state are you in?

2:51

Connecticut.

2:52

Oh, so you're not far from me here in New York City.

2:55

So tell me what's going on

2:57

with you and welcome to

2:57

the program. Thank you. It's

3:00

my second time calling. Oh, great.

3:02

When did you call me before and

3:05

you were in a mid drift?

3:07

That's

3:09

me. That's you. I remember

3:12

you when we were talking about I

3:14

think let me remind you this. You were talking about

3:16

the like, if people dating,

3:19

you were dating, and a lot of times

3:21

they just wanna date and not get

3:23

serious. Is that you?

3:25

That is me. Oh my god. You remember. And

3:27

I do. I have a file in my head about you. Okay.

3:29

Good. So how is the dating going?

3:32

Good. Not much progress. Much progress.

3:34

And what are you twenty two, I think. Right?

3:37

Twenty about to be twenty one.

3:39

About to be twenty one. Okay. Well, what's

3:41

new? It's been about a month since I talked to

3:43

you. What's new? And how can I help you today?

3:47

Well, not much is new. working in the office. I'm

3:49

not working at home anymore. So that's been a struggle.

3:51

Like, getting up and, like, getting dressed and,

3:53

like, leaving my house. That's,

3:54

like, that's a lot. Yes. We have you're

3:57

so you're what you can talk to me while you're off

3:59

is, like, I'm looking at you right now. You're in an office

4:01

setting. So and you're wearing True.

4:04

So so you're no longer working from

4:06

home. What's the worst thing about having to go into

4:08

the

4:08

office? I'm not a morning person. Mhmm.

4:10

Like, unless I have I

4:13

have gone to the Ukraine more show taping twice.

4:15

That that I'm a morning person. I'll wake up at six

4:17

AM to do makeup, get on the train

4:19

and run to Hell's

4:21

Kitchen. But, like, for things

4:23

that I'm not excited about, no, I'm not a

4:24

morning person. So tell me about the experience

4:27

coming to the show because so many people, if you're in

4:29

New York, it's free. Right? You can come to the

4:31

show. And so I

4:32

I just

4:32

can't recommend enough. It's so fun, but tell

4:34

me your experience. What is it like beginning to end?

4:37

Oh my god. Well, the first time I went with my

4:39

mom, which was February first.

4:41

I went with my mom and

4:43

my mom has MS. So

4:45

and my first of all, you wouldn't know if she knows how to

4:47

hurt. Like, my mom look like sisters, but along

4:50

with my mom, and she had her

4:52

cane. So we were like taking turns holding

4:54

hurricane outside. Actually, you want bias.

4:56

Oh my god. I do remember this. We were, like,

4:58

second or third in line, and you were, like, walking

5:00

And I

5:01

was, like, that's what I was about looking.

5:03

Yeah. I was stunned. I didn't say anything. You didn't

5:05

say you waved at us. I did waved at you

5:07

on the waiver. Yeah. You you

5:09

you babe. I was like When

5:11

I walk by the line of audience members, I

5:13

always say say hi to them and talk to them.

5:15

It's so fun. Probably just because I was just

5:17

staring at you like this. I was hitting my mom. I was like, that's

5:19

literally Ross Matthews. And she was like, what? And I

5:21

was

5:21

like, that's literally Ross Matthews, like,

5:24

walking right there. And then you walk essentially?

5:27

How much better did I look in person than you

5:29

imagined I would?

5:30

Oh, you were slang, Ross. You had your

5:32

big pepper on and you had your pink phone case.

5:35

You were slang.

5:36

That's me. Like, my phone case. Yeah. My

5:38

buffer. And what did you try

5:39

and show you my phone case? What did you do on my

5:41

phone? When you came into the show, what what was

5:44

your impression when you got to see it all

5:46

done? What did you what surprised

5:47

you? I was, like, seeing

5:49

it in person because, like, I binge watched

5:52

it all the time. Like, it started,

5:54

like it was actually right after I got my

5:56

heart broken. I got my heart broken,

5:58

like, January. And so then,

6:00

you know, I was spending a lot of time just, like, laying my bed,

6:02

being lazy. And then I found her

6:04

interview on the show with Janet McCurdy

6:07

Yeah. She was, like, really, like, her book was, like,

6:09

really blowing up on TikTok and stuff and with

6:11

Gen Z. So that, like, God, I recommended. And I was,

6:13

like, she's an amazing interviewer. So

6:15

then I started watching everything. Like,

6:18

everything drew very more related. I was watching

6:20

it. So seeing the actual, like, stage

6:22

in person, I literally was like, And

6:25

then something actually so embarrassing happened

6:27

the first time I went to this. Okay. What?

6:29

Tell me everything. Okay.

6:31

So, like, my the whole time when

6:33

I found out I got the tickets, I was like, okay. I mean,

6:35

they're gonna, like, scream or cry when I

6:37

see Uber anymore. Because I said the same thing when

6:39

I went and saw my favorite artists ever Kaitlynian

6:42

concert. I was like, oh, you did your scream or cry. Okay.

6:44

And what happened? Scream. So

6:46

the second that the the guy's like, you know, who's having her

6:48

going out? Oh, my god. So Drew, very much come I started

6:50

sobbing. Brosie. I started stopping

6:53

so noticeably that people in production

6:56

really giving me side eyes and they were like, okay.

6:58

And I was like and my mom was like,

7:01

a 2 stop. Like, then it's and

7:03

it had so much makeup on too. So

7:05

I'm like, I was just sitting there, like, crying.

7:07

And I was just like, okay, wait. I can't do this. I can't

7:09

do this. I can't do this. I can't do this. And then at the end of the

7:11

show, my credit You cried again?

7:13

Yes. Because at

7:15

the very

7:16

end, it was the oh, it was the episode where you

7:18

got in the dog crates. Oh, yeah. When I got into

7:20

it, we had this couple on who got stuck into

7:22

their dog crates. They got locked in and

7:25

went viral in

7:25

TikTok. So Drew and

7:27

I got 2 dog bites and and had to

7:29

escape. And I was good at it. I got us out.

7:31

You you did get her out mad

7:33

back. Thank you. And I was sitting, like,

7:35

right in the front row right next to the concrete.

7:37

So it was ended showing she was around that area,

7:40

and she came up 2, like, where I

7:42

was sitting, but she was talking to, like, a family,

7:44

like, three rows behind

7:45

me. But because I was in the front, she was

7:47

so close to me, like, I could have went like that.

7:49

You can just post this text her. Exactly.

7:51

It's so fun with me at her. Isn't it

7:54

fun that during commercial breaks, we're all out there and we're

7:56

talking to everybody and hang on. It's it's so

7:58

fun. And did she stay at the end of the show and sort of

8:00

chat with everybody and and say things

8:02

are

8:02

coming. She was doing she was, like, talking

8:04

to the like, there was, like, this family of, like, two girls

8:06

and a mom, like, behind me. She was, like, talking

8:08

to them and, you know, she is and she's talking people. She just

8:10

still, like, zoned into them. So she didn't see me literally

8:13

staring at her like this. I mean, she started to walk away, then

8:15

I started crying. 2 the point, we're, like, a security

8:17

person literally came out to my mom and was

8:19

like, is she okay? Oh my god. That's hilarious.

8:22

You know what that means? We are

8:24

we are safe space. We do not judge when you're there.

8:26

We're excited you're there. And I'm excited when

8:28

you call in, my love. I'm I'm grateful you hear.

8:30

I'm grateful you know you're back in the office. You still have time

8:32

to call in and check-in. And thank you

8:34

so much. And I hope to stay with show again. Okay?

8:37

Oh, I'm already trying to come back. Okay. Good.

8:39

Let me know. And I'll see you there. I'll

8:41

come and say hi. Okay. You better cry when you see

8:43

me too. Oh, of course, a hundred

8:46

percent. If there's no tears, I'm walking away from

8:48

you. I got you. I will literally

8:50

start solving just so you can notice me.

8:53

You're the best team. Thank you, my love. I'll

8:56

talk to you soon. Yes. Bye.

8:58

That's so cute. Listen, it's so fun

9:00

when people come. There's I

9:03

just have to say, like, I used to dream

9:05

about being in the audience of a TV show. I used

9:07

to sneak away from school so I could go to this show

9:10

in Seattle called Northwest Afternoon just to be

9:12

in the audience because I loved watching how

9:14

the camera's work in the production and the host

9:16

during the commercial break, it's to me never

9:19

gets old. So

9:21

come see us. Tickets are free. So

9:23

money back guarantee you don't like it. Alright. Let's

9:25

see who's next. Hello? Are you there? Wayne?

9:28

Hello, Ross. Well, hi to

9:30

you. What is your

9:32

name, Wayne?

9:33

Yes, it is. And where are you where

9:35

are you calling from? In Canada.

9:38

One of my favorite places I've talked about in this

9:40

podcast. It's the first time I ever saw another person's

9:43

penis. Was in it was at

9:45

a gay bar called Odyssey, I think. And

9:47

they had shower Thursday

9:49

shower nights where do you remember

9:51

this? Yeah.

9:52

That was a long time ago. That mark closed.

9:54

Yeah. I don't don't please don't age me.

9:56

BFF, yes, it was a long time ago. I was like, what

9:59

I was eighteen so this is like a ninety

10:01

eight or something. We'd go up there because we could drink

10:03

and they had these little booths where like dancers would

10:05

shower and we went with my friends and we would always drink

10:07

killer kool Aid which I don't know what it was.

10:09

Yeah. Well, it was killer COVID. Yes.

10:12

And what a great bar that was that's also

10:14

where I was the first time I ever heard shares

10:17

believe.

10:18

Oh, okay. Now you dated yourself.

10:20

Yeah. I did. It was it was called

10:22

shower power on

10:23

Thursday. I I

10:26

remember it. Shower

10:29

power. That's such a great name.

10:34

Oh, man. So how you've been in Vancouver forever?

10:37

No. I originally grew up in Ontario, but

10:39

I've been up here for twenty seven years.

10:41

So it feels like

10:42

Yeah. Where was the first place you ever saw in another

10:45

person's penis?

10:47

That would have been in Ontario.

10:49

Oh, wow. Congratulations to you.

10:52

So what's your story? What do you do in Vancouver?

10:55

I work for a robotics

10:57

and technology company, so I'm just working now.

10:59

I just thought it popped you on.

11:01

So I have So we on hold. Do you build

11:04

robots? Yeah. We work

11:06

for a robotics and technology

11:08

company. So in the UAB industry,

11:10

which is the unmanned vehicle

11:12

like drones? What do you see happening?

11:15

Gone. What about that drone? The the other

11:17

week in the that

11:19

Russia shut down or put gas

11:21

on or blew up or something?

11:23

Yeah. It's crazy, and you have footage

11:25

now. So There's a lot of

11:27

drones everywhere. I mean, are

11:29

there is every country flying drones into

11:31

every other country? Are we all watching

11:33

each

11:34

other? What's going on? Yeah. For sure.

11:36

It's all about a technology, keeping

11:38

an eye on digital printing, everyone's

11:41

doing

11:41

it, away from corporations, cities,

11:43

And

11:44

what are they gathering up there? Are they just looking

11:46

at us? Or how are they gathering our info?

11:48

What's going on?

11:49

It's artificial intelligence. So they're

11:52

there's a lot of technology that you can

11:54

use just by photographing the

11:56

landscape to figure out what's what's

11:58

happening on the land, what's underneath the

12:00

earth, So there's a lot of the technology

12:03

that you can gather just flying over. So

12:05

that balloon that was flying over, the

12:07

states, I'm sure they were getting technology below

12:10

ground as well.

12:11

That's so weird. Artificial they're just

12:14

getting I don't understand. You know what

12:16

I like to do? You know what I love about myself is

12:19

I I'm kinda

12:20

stupid. You know? Like, I I just

12:22

kinda don't get it, and I'm kinda fine with that.

12:25

Yeah. We all are. And it's good to be that

12:27

one.

12:27

Okay, good. I prefer not to know

12:29

everything that's going on. Interestingly

12:32

enough, because when I talk to your wife

12:35

and you're asking questions, My question

12:37

for you was kind of around that.

12:39

Well, it's for me than watching you forever.

12:41

Mhmm. And not the status quo, but your podcast

12:44

everything you come across

12:46

to me as somebody who is so

12:48

joyful, so

12:50

positive, and I

12:53

mean, I used to listen to your podcast when I

12:55

was down because I'm sure you I

12:57

know you hear it from others that it

12:59

just lifts us up. So

13:01

what do you do to stay in

13:04

that

13:05

space? Because I'm sure he must get

13:07

down. You know, I do. It's

13:09

interesting. I think we're all sort of

13:11

prewired to handle things,

13:14

how we handled specifically. And I think

13:16

as we get older, we can sort of talk

13:18

ourselves into, oh, no. Don't spiral.

13:20

Don't spiral. Or, you know

13:22

what? That's not good for me. I know I'm gonna

13:25

avoid that because I'll just get heated. So we

13:27

sort of learn our patterns. I'll tell

13:29

you one thing that I about

13:31

me. That is probably one of my

13:33

favorite things about myself. And it's

13:35

gonna sound like an insult. And I kind of alluded

13:37

to it when I said I'm kind of 2, but Like, in

13:40

many ways, I'm very simple minded. Like,

13:42

I can I don't spiral? I

13:44

don't spin. I don't go into dark holes. If

13:46

something BFF something affects

13:48

me, I'm able 2, like, think about it,

13:51

process it, and then I I just don't

13:53

linger. I I'm just kind of on

13:55

to the next. And maybe it's like this thing

13:57

where it's like, let's go. I I can distract myself,

13:59

or I get up, or I go do something, or something

14:02

shining in. And I I think it is just

14:04

that I'm it's either that I'm very simple minded

14:06

or that I'm determined to keep going. There's It's

14:08

one of those two things, and I don't know what it is.

14:10

But I I don't linger. Of

14:12

course, with grief, you know,

14:15

the big stuff that that that

14:17

lays you flat out, you know. But I'm just talking

14:19

about, like, the little stuff being disappointed

14:22

or some someone says no or something.

14:24

I'm just undeterred.

14:26

Okay. So I'll take that.

14:28

I think that's I think your lingering part

14:30

makes sense because I think that's where a lot

14:32

of us stay. We stay in

14:34

that lane. And then that little voice,

14:37

just the what BFF, and then

14:39

you're rehashing a conversation or

14:41

a situation

14:43

So that's good idea. Well, listen.

14:45

And so if you're look that's telling you my process.

14:47

BFF, yes, good if you're looking for

14:49

a takeaway from from that, I think

14:51

it would be to distract yourself.

14:54

And and I don't mean don't have conversations

14:56

with yourself you need to have. There's a difference.

14:58

It's about don't spin

15:00

yourself into a hole. Yeah.

15:03

Uh-huh. And if so, by distracting yourself

15:05

or moving on, it really is about

15:07

going for a walk. Go to the mall, call a friend,

15:10

get some perspective. Read a book,

15:12

you know, something outside of your

15:14

own spin cycle in your brain?

15:17

Well, I wish I would have talked to you fifteen years

15:19

ago and developed that. BFF

15:21

it's never too late. Never too late for you.

15:24

Alright. And thank you for the question. Thank you for spending

15:26

so much time with me throughout the

15:28

years. And I I think we're just getting started together.

15:30

Pay. So thank you for being here.

15:32

Thank you for everything you do for us.

15:34

I'm sure you do. You're welcome. It's

15:37

it's 2 way street. It's all about connecting. Okay?

15:39

So thank you for for being being

15:41

here. Awesome. Thank you, Ross. Talk

15:43

to you soon, Wayne. There's so many people here. I

15:45

wonder if we can get to everybody. Let me try

15:47

here. Let's

15:50

take a sip of water. Let's see. It's it's who's

15:52

next

15:53

Hello? Are you there? Hello? Well,

15:55

hi. What's your

15:56

name? On Kelly and

15:58

Palm Desert. We kind of met last time

16:00

remember. Oh my god. Kelly and Palm

16:03

Desert. You're very close to where I live. How

16:05

is it is it cold here in New

16:06

York. How is it out there? It's

16:09

beautiful today. Of

16:10

course, it is. You know, actually, yesterday here in

16:12

the city, it got up in the in the afternoon.

16:15

To about fifty seven degrees, which

16:17

was the warmest it's been in months and months and months.

16:19

So I actually put I took my coat

16:21

off and I went through a walk in Central

16:23

Park and I walked up the upper of a

16:25

side and I found a little place to get

16:27

dinner. I was all by myself. It was

16:29

so lovely and I remember thinking to myself, God, I

16:32

took this for granted when I lived in Palm springs

16:34

in Palm Desert full time because it just

16:36

was it's always beautiful

16:37

there, you know. So don't take it for granted.

16:40

I'm not. Day out, what's the weather? Seventy seven

16:42

today, I think. Seventy seven, gosh,

16:44

that's perfection. So what's your story?

16:46

What's going on with you? What question do you have for me?

16:48

Well, I wanna remind you to watch

16:50

prices right at Wednesday. Price

16:53

is right. You were on it.

16:54

I didn't say that. You remember you

16:57

called in and you said you may have been

16:59

on it. You couldn't tell me. So you tell me to watch Wednesday,

17:02

which means you're on

17:02

it. Now BFF you are on it, did you give me

17:04

a shout out? That was my

17:07

plan if I'm on it. To to

17:09

give you a shout out. BFF what I really

17:11

wanna ask

17:11

you, because I'm a little calmer today the last time

17:13

you back. Okay. Okay. Totally wrong

17:15

for a loop.

17:16

Okay. Everybody watch prices right Wednesday. I'm gonna be honest.

17:18

She's gonna give me a shout out. I feel it. I'm gonna get some

17:20

sort of shout out. Yep. But I

17:24

did wanna ask you, and I was gonna say, even

17:26

ask you questions, but I heard your little intro

17:28

because I do have tickets to both Anaheim

17:30

and

17:31

Elko. Oh my god. You're coming to

17:33

see my live stand up show everybody. I'm

17:35

going on tour at heliros dot com.

17:37

Oh, yeah. Yeah. I bought El Cajon because

17:39

that was the first one who released. I don't really need

17:42

that now because I'm gonna go to the the

17:44

other one in so I have

17:47

questions for you. Okay. But because

17:49

I'm gonna be calm today. So

17:51

how do you stay so focused on

17:54

WW? Like, how did you get there

17:56

mentally to stay so focused? I

17:58

have been there before, and then I had

18:00

some health issues that I was on steroids and gained

18:03

a lot of weight. And I mentally just

18:05

cannot wrap my head around how

18:08

to get so

18:09

reinvested in

18:10

that. So here's the deal. I mean, listen, this

18:12

weight loss journey, man. This is such a universal

18:15

thing. I mean, I always I make this

18:17

joke all the time, but I back in the day,

18:19

I lost weight and gained it again so fast.

18:21

I could be a weight detective because every time I lost

18:23

it, I managed to find it again. You know?

18:26

And the truth is that's a hard part.

18:28

But something that's really clicked for me is that I

18:30

understand there is no winning this

18:32

battle. You know, you're you're never

18:34

going 2, like, reach the mountain top and

18:36

be like, I won, it's done. I've done that before.

18:38

I reached 2 goal, wait. And yay, I'm done. Let me celebrate

18:41

an order of pizza because we did it. And then what

18:43

happens? Right? So I understand

18:45

that there is no winning this fight, accepting that

18:47

was a big aha thing for me because it's

18:49

like, oh, there's no winning. But being

18:52

in the fight is the closest thing to

18:54

winning. Okay? So

18:57

I think it's literally

18:59

meal by meal, choice by choice. And

19:02

knowing that, like, one if

19:04

you just mess up ones, it doesn't mean

19:06

that you

19:06

lost. It just means, okay. That's mean

19:08

that's the starting point for tomorrow.

19:10

I just said, I I think with and I just

19:12

said that my girlfriend, Diane, I'm saying, hi, that,

19:16

you know, I'm sixty some years old.

19:18

I've been on steroids. I'm off of those

19:20

now and kind of, you know, it's just hard.

19:23

Like, who do I I just have to learn to accept

19:25

myself where I am in this life. I'm gonna like

19:27

to text him and Dion who's visiting from

19:29

Denver.

19:30

Hi, Dion from Denver. Hi. You're so cute. You've got

19:32

great hair.

19:33

Hi. You're welcome. We we should call him

19:35

Matthews. That's what he likes to be called. Right?

19:38

Yeah. Yeah. My last day I love. We talked about

19:40

this on the Gilberrymore show that yesterday yesterday

19:42

I think where it's, like, being called by your last name

19:44

is

19:44

Hot. Oh, man. It is. So

19:47

Oh, so yeah. And I did.

19:49

So when are you coming back to the desert? I

19:52

I think I'm going back in April just for

19:54

a quick weekend, and then

19:56

I'll be shooting some out in LA

19:59

this summer, so I'll be there, but it's you know,

20:01

I really I I told everybody

20:03

last week I just bought a new apartment here in

20:05

the city in addition to the house

20:07

on Long Island. So we're we've decided committed to

20:09

being here on the East Coast. And so

20:12

Palm Springs is I'm not gonna sell the

20:14

house. I'm gonna I think I'm gonna rent it out and

20:16

do all that stuff, and then we will retire

20:18

there. So in a few years, I'll be

20:20

there full time. But right now, life

20:22

is here my husband works here. The

20:25

Drew show is just soaring.

20:27

You know, the ratings are amazing. We're doing

20:29

great. Oh, and so And thank

20:31

you for watching. I'm so so happy it's

20:34

on like it

20:34

has. And and so I'm here and I'm

20:36

happy to be here and

20:38

not going anywhere.

20:39

I well, thank you so much. I'm really

20:42

I did. Because, you know, I sent you you know, I'm

20:44

not sure how to DM and I know you got to go, but

20:46

I did send you an invite because I'm going to

20:49

donor mixer event

20:51

for Matthew

20:52

Shepherd. It's in Palm Springs.

20:55

You know, I meant Judy

20:57

Shepherd. I'll tell you quick story.

20:58

I have had so many times that I love her

21:01

dearly. Yeah. love her 2.

21:03

His mom, Judy, Go

21:05

back to two thousand and

21:07

nine. It's the January. It

21:10

Obama has just been elected. It's

21:12

his inauguration. And I

21:14

am friends with the president of the human

21:16

rights campaign. And his husband,

21:18

Jed and I, so he's Joe. His husband, Jed

21:20

and I are great friends 2. And we decided

21:23

we're gonna go watch this watch

21:26

this

21:26

thing. So we were on this we had no tickets,

21:28

nothing fancy.

21:29

After white house? We were we were in DC.

21:31

We didn't go into I'm telling you we were on the side

21:33

of the road. Okay. And we sat there

21:36

probably for eight hours.

21:38

It was, like, nineteen degrees. And we

21:40

were next to I was sitting with Judy Shepherd,

21:43

and it was so cold. And we were waiting and

21:45

at a certain point, we were, like, screw this. Let's go

21:47

and Secret Service wouldn't let you leave. So we were, like,

21:49

we're just in this for the long haul. And Judy,

21:51

Trevor, we were talking. We were, you know, she was so

21:53

sweet. And this is this

21:55

beautiful thing that

21:57

moms do. And I get I get emotionally talk

21:59

about moms. But -- Yep. -- it was so

22:01

cold. And she took out. She had

22:03

one of those heating those --

22:06

Okay. -- hand warmer pocket packets.

22:08

And she gave me one of hers, and

22:10

she said, here honey, keep yourself warm. And

22:13

I just remember thinking, that's

22:15

moms. That's what they

22:16

do. So I I had snap real

22:18

quick. And we're both moms of gay boys. Mhmm.

22:20

And every

22:23

time I met her, and I met her through my son

22:25

because he was very involved. He was a Human

22:27

Rights Commissioner in or

22:30

in pump screens when he was smooth. And

22:35

I've been to many events, fundraising

22:37

events that they put on in Denver and

22:39

one of the last times they ran a different dentist at the

22:41

airport and they always remember me and they're

22:43

just beautiful people and I cry every time

22:46

I hug her because they've done amazing

22:48

wonderful things out of such a horrible,

22:50

horrible tragedy. And yeah.

22:53

And it he's one of those that I remember where

22:55

it was the day that I found out that he passed

22:56

away. And It's horrible.

22:59

But

22:59

yeah. Right. What they've done what they've done in his

23:01

name is just incredible. And I mean,

23:03

actually, like,

23:04

history changing and and beautiful.

23:07

Yeah. So I hope you can

23:08

Trump Springs on April twentieth. I

23:12

won't I won't be April twentieth. I won't be there.

23:14

I'll be gonna be in New York. We're still shooting in.

23:17

I'm sorry. My love.

23:18

That's fine. Yes. But thank you for that

23:20

invite. And we'll hopefully reach each other in happy hour

23:22

sometime out there. Okay? Well well, thank

23:24

you. And I'm gonna try to get refocused, and I

23:26

will you on June first Front Row

23:29

Center VIP

23:30

ticket. Okay. I can't wait to see

23:32

you and everybody. I'm we're releasing

23:34

new tour dates soon to everybody across the

23:36

country. And Canada, BFF Dubs,

23:38

just FYI, hello ross dot

23:41

com, check there, and all my social media

23:42

for five more days. Pretty upset that

23:45

we get that to to do two different shows.

23:47

So, like, come on. Well, you'll have fun.

23:49

The show's different. You know, there's some things that are the same,

23:51

but they but some parts are totally brand new and

23:53

different single

23:54

show. So you'll see. It'll be a lot of fun. I can't wait

23:56

to see you out there. Thanks so much for calling in. Thank

23:58

you.

23:58

Have a great weekend.

24:00

You too. Thank

24:01

you. Bye. Bye. Oh,

24:04

I love I love moms.

24:06

I really do. There's something special about

24:08

that connection that That

24:10

makes me emotional. Oh, hi. Our

24:12

our last person is you're you're the last

24:14

one who's getting in today. Brianna?

24:17

Brianna, well, hi, where are you?

24:20

I'm in Ottawa, Canada, the Canada.

24:23

I was just talking about Canada. I think I'm

24:25

coming there on or dates 2 BFF it out

24:27

soon, hillaross dot com?

24:29

So I'm assuming Toronto. I'll

24:31

let you know. Date of life

24:33

is I know. So what how

24:35

can I help you today? You are last caller?

24:38

Well, funny enough. I was actually watching

24:40

you mister Malone, the KK. Behind

24:42

the scenes

24:43

stuff. Love it. Thank you. Thank

24:46

you. How can help? I know.

24:48

Someone 2 tell you, but stick into the topic.

24:51

So I'm sure you've talked about it,

24:53

weight loss and things in your journey. Mhmm.

24:56

And, you know Right.

24:58

Yeah. You have the resources, you

25:00

have the need, you have everything,

25:03

but it's it's just you take a

25:06

step and then how do you just keep

25:08

going? And then kind of a two parter,

25:11

what was your, like, weakness? Were you, like, a snacker?

25:13

Were you a nighttime eater? Like, I'm

25:16

all of those things. It's like how do you, like,

25:18

break the bad habits or do

25:20

you change them into good

25:21

ones? Like, what was kinda, like, the momentum.

25:24

I guess You know I get it. I know where you are right now.

25:26

And for starters, you we I just wanna say this.

25:28

Anyone in who's connecting

25:31

with you and I right now and understands this I

25:33

want you to know, like, wherever you are in your journey

25:35

right now, blanket statement, you are

25:37

perfect good as is, love yourself

25:39

here. It's important to love where you are.

25:42

And if you want to, you

25:45

know, make that change, there's something I say all

25:47

the time that nothing changes, if nothing changes.

25:50

Okay? So what that I mean by that is

25:52

BFF we want to have a different result,

25:54

we have to behave differently, make

25:57

different choices. And so

25:59

the truth of the matter is it

26:01

just is and I was just talking to somebody

26:03

else about this. It is choice by choice

26:05

meal by meal and you have to choose

26:09

every single time or the

26:11

majority of the times, but I try to do every

26:14

single time to do the choice

26:16

that benefits me the way

26:18

that I want. Not for that quick fix,

26:20

that quick snack, that quick taste. But like, what

26:22

do I really want? Do I really want that? Or

26:24

do I really wanna be around here for a really long

26:26

time? Do I really want that? Or do I want

26:28

to make sure that new wardrobe a bot still fits?

26:31

Do I really want that or do I

26:33

want to be the best version

26:35

of myself this one life that I

26:37

get? You know? And, like,

26:39

not to be heavy, but you kinda have to ask that

26:41

that, like, do you

26:44

want to be here forever or for not

26:46

ever? Do you wanna be here for long as possible? Do

26:48

you want to be the

26:50

strongest, best version of yourself that

26:52

you can be? And I do,

26:54

and I think the thing is, is I am facing

26:56

health challenges, and I think that's It's

26:58

scaring me. But at the same

27:01

time, I almost feel overwhelmed going,

27:04

oh my goodness, I have to do all of this

27:06

in order to get over that so I

27:08

can live the long

27:09

life. Like for me, it's like it's heart

27:11

issues. It's dealing with overcoming that.

27:13

It's, you know, the genetics. It's all connected.

27:16

Right? So when you -- Yeah. -- you know, you

27:18

can't care everything by by with

27:20

weight and and how much weight. BFF

27:22

you'd be surprised what happens when you

27:25

start making those choices that are beneficial

27:27

for you. Like, I was on cholesterol and blood

27:29

pressure medication in my thirties. And

27:32

I when I lost weight and maintained

27:34

it, I no longer needed to be on them. So, like,

27:37

it's not just about the jeans fitting

27:39

and you hitting that number on the scale, they're

27:41

so much that comes along with

27:44

putting good things in your body as opposed

27:46

to putting the stuff that just adds

27:48

weight. That that's not good for for us,

27:50

you know. And it's it

27:53

really comes down to just you and

27:55

that potato chip at the end of the day, or

27:57

you and that Hershey's It it

27:59

is that simple.

28:02

And so, you know, when you ask me

28:04

how and it's not about resources. It's

28:06

not about money. It's not about about

28:09

choices. So True. -- you

28:11

just have to make that choice. And

28:14

and whatever you decide, I love you.

28:16

I love you as you are. BFF I think

28:18

it'd be great to be here for as long as I possibly

28:21

could. And we don't have control over

28:23

cancer or heart things, you know,

28:25

BFF bus hitting

28:26

you. We don't have control over that stuff. But,

28:28

you know, I'd like to control

28:30

whatever I can. Yep. I

28:32

thank you for that. And I just 2

28:34

I I connect with you for so many years,

28:37

but I'm a part of an Uber

28:39

driver. Okay. And I like,

28:41

I have my day job with an important food driver,

28:43

and I always say, everyone has a story.

28:46

And whether or not you meet with them for five

28:48

minutes or thirty minutes, you

28:50

come to know them. And I think I'm connecting

28:52

with you so much more on this because you're

28:55

you're the Uber driver right

28:56

now. You're everyone has a

28:58

story and you're doing wonderful. And How

29:00

many stars do

29:01

I

29:01

get?

29:02

It's my it's my stars. It's like Oh my god.

29:05

You know, my my Uber rating as a writer

29:08

is like A49 something, like a four

29:10

point nine two. Yeah. And I don't all

29:12

I can think about is why is it not five?

29:15

Right? What did I do? Exactly.

29:17

You're like, what did

29:18

I did I not say thank you loud enough? Did

29:20

I not, like, Because even when I leave

29:22

in Uber you know what I say when I leave in Uber, I

29:24

tell them I go five stars. Okay? And

29:26

they're like, okay. Because I want them to know, like, I'm

29:29

giving you five stars. I need you to show up

29:31

for me now. So, anyway, hopefully,

29:33

I'll get that even higher than a four point nine two.

29:36

Good stuff. I'll get there. Thank you. And thank

29:38

you. And good luck to you. And you

29:40

know, I know exactly where you are.

29:42

I and I know

29:44

I know that you you you can do anything you wanna

29:46

do. I know that much. I

29:47

BFF this.

29:48

Alright. Chewy. Alright. Wonderful.

29:50

Alright. Continue to hear you. Thank you so much.

29:52

Thanks. Bye bye to you. Oh, and thanks

29:54

to everybody who called in this

29:56

week and last week and every single week. Thank

29:58

you so much. We're gonna continue this conversation. It's

30:00

ongoing, you know, always. When

30:03

we come back, it's my happy ending. The best

30:05

thing I've seen all week.

30:19

And welcome back to the program. It's time

30:21

for my happy ending. It's best thing I've seen all week, and

30:24

I'll tell you this. So I was I I told

30:26

you we have this new apartment in the city, and I

30:28

was walking around yesterday I had an afternoon free.

30:30

I said the weather was beautiful. I

30:33

I was talking about this a second ago, and I was walking

30:35

on the upper west side, and I

30:37

walked behind a restaurant called

30:39

Joanne. And all of a sudden, it hit

30:41

me. I'm like, wait a second. That

30:44

is Lady Gaga's

30:46

family's recipe a restaurant. And

30:48

I I had this flashback this

30:51

moment because I remember when

30:53

she was a guest judge on Drew

30:56

Paul's Drag Race season nine. I didn't know she was

30:58

gonna be there. And I walked in and they said, who's

31:00

here? And they said, Lady Gaga, why? I

31:02

lost my mind. I write about this in my book

31:05

name drop. And she was

31:07

so nice when we were talking and

31:09

she was just and she told me she'd

31:11

just finished her new album and she also told me BFF

31:13

the way, she'd just got me offered to do a new movie.

31:15

And I was like, it a star is born? Because I heard rumblings.

31:17

And she was like, I can't tell you, and it was.

31:19

But she said, I just finished my new album and I

31:22

was like, oh, I can't wait to hear it. And she said, do you wanna

31:24

know the name. I haven't told anybody yet. And

31:26

I was like, yeah. She said, it's Joanne.

31:29

And I was like, well, tell me more.

31:31

And Joanne was her aunt who passed

31:33

away and the album's dedicated to her and

31:36

it was I think her father's sister

31:38

and the restaurant that they have is named Joanne

31:40

after her as well. And And I

31:42

just, like, dropped everything. I'm, like, I'm going in.

31:44

They had 2 sign and said, happy hour. I said, I'm going in.

31:46

I was by myself. So I went in and

31:48

I sat down and I ordered a Martini. And

31:50

a Caesar salad and a meatball. True

31:54

story. When I sat there and I ate

31:56

it and there were like family pictures

31:59

all over the wall, and it was just this little

32:01

small, I think it's on sixty eight, sixty

32:04

seven, or something like that in the on the upper

32:06

west side. And it

32:08

was delicious. And it was

32:10

like this family restaurant. And they

32:12

just were didn't know who I was. They were so

32:14

nice to me. And just sat there by myself and

32:17

and had this beautiful time and pictured her like as

32:19

a, you know, a young girl hanging out

32:21

there and, you know, the whole family

32:23

and the ginkdosh they had

32:25

no idea that she would become who

32:28

she did. Oh, no. No. It

32:31

made me think, like, god, you know, all these people we

32:33

revere and that we love and that are so iconic.

32:35

They were just like kids one day, just hanging

32:37

out in their family restaurant

32:39

or something. Maybe feel that even in this big

32:41

city of New York, there's still just people.

32:44

I know. I don't know if that makes sense 2 you.

32:46

But it just it just sort of even though

32:48

I had seen her just do the Oscars and,

32:50

you know, she's as big as she is, it

32:52

was just I don't know.

32:55

Made me feel like a little a

32:57

little piece of home in a way just because,

33:00

you know, I just come from a little town

33:02

too. We all come from somewhere.

33:05

We all have those family

33:08

recipes. And, anyway,

33:11

The German nada family meatball

33:13

is delicious. It's

33:16

the best thing I've seen all week. Well,

33:18

thank you so much. And until next

33:20

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33:28

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from a guy walking up down aisles like you would

33:53

have a trifle of beers and you scoffed at that

33:55

and got this from Greg. My grandparents

33:57

would take me and my brothers to the Schreiner circus

33:59

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34:01

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34:02

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