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Welcome to Her with Amina Brown, a production

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of the Seneca Women Podcast Network and I

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Heart Radio. I'm your host, Amina Brown,

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and each week I'm bringing you hilarious

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storytelling and soulful conversation

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while centering the stories of Black, Indigenous,

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Latin X and Asian women. Join me

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as we remind each other to access joy,

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affect change, and be inspired. Welcome

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to this bonus episode

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of Her with Amina Brown. For

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this episode, I wanted to give you

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a little bit of a window of what

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some of my stage performances are like. And

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this is actually one of my favorite stories

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of all time to tell

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on stage. So you

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are hearing a recording from

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me performing at one of Atlanta's

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fantastic venues, Eddie's Attic.

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And just know, as of this recording,

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we are still in a global pandemic and I missed

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the stage so bad. So I thought

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that we could all reminisce on

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what it was like when you could be in

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a venue and here's someone performing

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and from me as a performer, getting to hear

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everyone laughing, gasping however

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they respond. So this story is

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as a reflection on

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the amazing things that I

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get to learn from my grandmother. My

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grandma is wonderfully inappropriate,

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as you should be when you are in your eighties.

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So, uh, this story that I'm

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telling right now on stage is

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me talking about when I was bringing

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my now husband then boyfriend

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home to meet my mom and

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my grandma and what my grandma's

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subsequent relate ship

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advice was, check it out. I

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love my grandma because I don't know if you get

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a chance to hang around with people who are eighty five, but

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it is amazing the ways

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that when you're eighty five you lose

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some concerns about the

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ways people might feel about the

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things that you want to say. Right now, you

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just need to go ahead and tell them the truth, and

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you're gonna let them work it out how they

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feel about it. Like I'll

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go to visit my grandma and she'll be like me,

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now, how you doing, baby, And I'd be like, I'm

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doing good. Grandma should be like that's good.

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I want you to keep doing that. And when you exercise,

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do some of these and

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I'll be like, did my grandma just

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tell me to work out my midsection? Like with a smile,

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though, like I don't know, I

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don't know how to do I don't know what to do about that. So

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when I was like, I went to my grandma

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and I said, look, Grandma, if the way to

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a man's heart is through a stomach, I'm not gonna

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get there. I'm not gonna get there like

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this because I got spaghetti,

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got meat loaf, it's

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tuna fish? Does that count as I think I

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got spaghetti? That's all I have? Grandma, you

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need to tell me. So over the years

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she's been taking me in her kitchen, showing

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me how to make some of the soul food staples,

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showing me how to make the collar greens, the

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mac and cheese, some of these southern

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things, the ruta baker, some of y'all like, what's that? Search

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this? Because it's delicious, you need to be a part of it. It's

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a turn up. It's amazing you could turn up

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and turn up. Okay. So

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by the time I start dating by now

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husband, Uh, Grandma

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got me kind of educated on some things. You

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know, some I'm kind of feeling prepared. But I go to

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her, my mom, and I'm like, look, how I met this man

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and I want to bring him to y'all to have dinner.

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So this is immediately like a. She's

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never brought a man here to have dinner with us?

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What does this mean? Right? Take

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Matt over there. My mom inspects

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him. She asks him all the

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Godfather Corleone questions

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necessary. You know, my

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grandma is all in this business, kind

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of flirting with him a little bit, but

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we'll talk about that later. Dinner

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goes great, everyone's happy with one

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another. Man. I get engaged.

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My grandma at this time decided to start

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giving me relationship advice. So

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every time I see her, she's like, sit

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down, baby, got something to tell you, And I'm

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like, tell me. So, I'm like, I just got back from

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the marl, Grandma, I bought this? Did that? The third

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She's like, oh, did you buy Matt something? But

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I was buying a dress for myself. Well, I know you did

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that, but did you buy Matt something? What

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you have for lunch? Well? Had

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simmon? I went to Fresh to order. Oh that's good.

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Did you order Mat something? And

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I don't know if Y'll have the kind of grandma that like be

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shading you, but she looking at something else. That's

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how my grandma is. She'd

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be like, I want to know it. Did Matt get something to eat?

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So there's one particular day, I'll come in and

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she's like, Mina, we got

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to talk. So I'm like, I'm sitting down at a kitchen

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table, like what's going on. She's like, Mina, I'm gonna

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tell you something. Don't kiss Matt too

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hard. So

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there's a moment in your relationship to your family

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members where you're trying to

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understand if you should let curiosity

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carry you down the road. Because

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I'm a very nosy person, so I'm immediately

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like, what's this tell

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me more? But then there's another

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part of me that's like, is my grandma about

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to tell me something that I can't unknown? Like

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once she say it, I can't unknow

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it, I can't unsee

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it. But I'm like I'm going

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with it. So I'm like, Grandma, why can't I kiss

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Matt too hard? She's

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like, I'm trying to explain to you. Then

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white people bruise easy.

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So for

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those of you all that I've seen The Color Purple, um

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there's a scene in The Color Purple where Celia

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is about the shave MR and somebody

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all like, I don't know what this is. We really want you

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to google this. There's like a whole lexicon

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of things you're missing out on, but those

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of you that have seen it follow me. Okay,

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Celia is about the shave Mr. This

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is this is straight razor shave, where

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you sharpen a straight razor on the leather strap.

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Okay, and for various and sundry reasons,

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I don't want to spoil the plot for you. Selley

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has reason to not shave MR and

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do other things with the straight razor instead. Okay,

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so should Gavrie is

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in a field of lavender flowers,

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painting her nails things I wish

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I could do, and that she's painting

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her nails, she realizes

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it's time for Celly to shave Mr.

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She realized this Celly might kill

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Mr. So she starts

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running and you hear like all the he

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like all the African drums and shooks,

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trying to catch silly because she don't

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want to see little catch your case over this man.

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You know, my mom is basically

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sugar Avery in this scenario. Okay,

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my mom is running from the back of her

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place to try to catch my grandma

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before my grandma say something we can't

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unsee, right, So

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my mom like shuk. You know when sug

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make it to silly. She catch silly

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wrist right before Celey was about

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the shade Mr. So, my mom walked

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in. She like, Mom, you don't need

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to tell Mina. She can't kiss Matt

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too hard about to get buried. She

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can kiss mass hard as she want to. He

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go, my Grandma, she better watch it right

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here, yo.

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I love my Grandma. I

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hope that Grandma story gave you a good laugh.

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I have many more Grandma stories to

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tell. Plus, I have a

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lot of great guests to bring to you, a

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lot of thoughtful and

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uh what I hope is hilarious content

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to bring you. So I cannot wait for you to

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check out these next episodes

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of Her with Amina Brown. Stay

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tuned. Start

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with Amina Brown is produced by Matt Owen

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