In every relationship there are going to be problems. Sometime these problems end a relationship but they don’t always have to. The truth is, your spouse is going to annoy you. You are two different people with your own thoughts and characteristics so its inevitable. How you deal with it can make or break you. So we put together 7 ways to deal with some of your spouses annoying habits.**There is a part during this podcast episode that I was suppose to edit but I left it in. I wanted you to hear a little behind the scenes of a real couple who is not perfect!**7 Ways to deal with your Spouses annoying habits

1. Talk to them without attitude- Be clear that it is a problem with what they are doing, not them as a person. Don’t let it build up and eventually you explode! Kick the door open and say “PICK UP YOUR FLIPPIN CLOTHES!!!” Communicate in a non-confrontational way. Express how you feel. “Honey, when you get undressed, will you please put your clothes in the hamper. When they are on the floor it makes me feel like you think I’m you maid and not your wife” It may not happen over night, just keep reminding him.

1. At the end of the week tell each other 5 things you loved and 1 thing you didn’t -We heard this from a friend of ours who is in counseling and we thought it was great! At the end of each week her and her husband write a list of 5 things they loved and one thing they didn’t love about the other for the week. That one thing they didn’t love is usually not done the following week and eventually not done at all. Thought this was a cleaver way to lift your spouse up and at the same time a way to find out how you can improve you! 

1. Be patient -They say it takes 21 days to make a habit. That doesn’t mean you stand next to the calendar and mark off each day. So on day 22 you can say “WHY ARE YOU STILL DOING THAT!!” Give it time. Habits are hard to break, especially if its been a habit they have been doing for years

1. Don’t bring it up in front of people -It may seem funny to bash your spouse about their “Funny” annoying habit of eating chips in bed and crunching loudly but its not. Your spouse may laugh a little and admit that he/she does it but it can be damaging. Your spouse may feel stupid and embarrassed and eventually resentful toward you. Take it from us, this is not healthy for a relationship.

1. Work on yourself -No matter who you are, you are not perfect. No matter how incredible someones Facebook or Instagram appears, they are not perfect. So don’t sit back and expect your spouse to do all of the changing. You need to work on yourself as well.

1. Do not try to get even - Sometimes we can act a bit childish and instead of talking about these annoying habits, you want to get even by annoying them as much as possible! Remember two wrongs don’t make a right, in fact this will cause even more damage because now you have to frustrated annoyed people. “He didn’t take out the trash, so Im not going to have sex with him” Not good and this will not work!

1. Pray about it -Yes this is part of every answer we give. We believe in Prayer and that it works. Pray for patience, Pray for the right words to say, Pray for understanding. CAUTION: "IF YOU PRAY FOR PATIENCE, GOD WILL GIVE YOU THE OPPORTUNITY TO BE PATIENT” -GOD -Evan Almighty

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