In this episode, Emily and Gene discuss the things that adoptees wish their adopted families knew. They explore topics such as the sense of loss that adoptees feel, the importance of grieving that loss, and the impact it can have on their ability to receive love. They also discuss the significance of thinking about their birth families, even if they don't talk about it, and the need for open conversations about adoption. They touch on the issue of abandonment and how it can affect adoptees' relationships. 

Overall, the conversation highlights the importance of understanding and empathy in adoptive families. In this conversation, Emily and Gene Trowbridge discuss various themes related to adoption, including feelings of abandonment, toxic shame, obnoxious behavior, and the importance of knowing one's medical history. They reflect on their own experiences as adoptees and the impact it has had on their lives. They emphasize the need for open and honest communication within adoptive families and the importance of understanding and supporting each other's unique perspectives.

Story Notes:

• Understanding the Sense of Loss in Adoption
• The Importance of Grieving and Receiving Love
• Thinking About Birth Families
• Addressing Fears of Abandonment
• Creating a Supportive Environment through Openness
• The Fear of Abandonment
• Dealing with Toxic Shame
• Expressing Fears through Obnoxious Behavior
• The Distress of Not Knowing Medical History
• The Importance of Communication and Support