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Have you
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ever wondered how some people just seem to have
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a way with words? They have
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this spark that lights you up when you're near
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them. They have the if
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factor and while most
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people think it's something that only a few are
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born with, I believe that you
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can find it so it
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can become your super power to grow
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your business. It's about
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you bringing your brand to life by
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becoming a magnetic communicator in
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person and on camera, showing up
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with confidence, authenticity,
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and inspiration. So,
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are you ready to become magnetic? I
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thought so. I'm Heather Sager and
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I'd like to welcome you to finding your
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it factor .
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guys, we're here. We're finally here
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for the first episode of finding
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your it factor and I say finally because I
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have been dreaming about doing a
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show for years
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and it wasn't up until very recently that I finally
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got the courage to
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actually do it and probably
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for a variety of reasons. Also probably a lot
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of reasons why you maybe are a little shy of
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the camera or sitting in front of an audience.
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We all have our own doubts
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and thoughts around why we should
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or shouldn't do something, but the reality
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is we still just got to do it anyways.
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That's when the good stuff happens, so we're
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here and if about me, let's talk
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about you and why you're here. I
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know that first episode
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of any podcast , it's an audition.
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Let's be honest here. It's an audition. You want to know who
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the heck is this chick? What does she
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know? What is she going to teach me?
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Am I really going to commit the next
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bit of my time to listening to
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her and at my hope is
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he ? Yes. I'm hoping we're going to have a lot of fun.
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I'll make you laugh and sure
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as heck you're going to learn something today
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that'll help you in your pursuit
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of wanting to become more magnetic in your
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communication. If you listened to the trailer,
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you know that my jam is helping people
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with their communication skills. You see, I
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think that we all take for granted
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this gift that we all have and being able to
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communicate with one another. It's like
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breathing. We don't think about it. We just
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breathe in and out and our bodies just
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do it on autopilot. And the
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end of the day , I think our voice is a lot
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like that because we, for the most part
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all can speak and
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hear . Although I mean full caveat disclaimer,
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I had a hearing loss and we'll talk about that at another time
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so I can kinda hear , uh , but
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this idea that we can, we can communicate back and forth
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with one another. We take it for granted. And
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I say that because we, we just do
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it on autopilot for the most part in our personal
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lives and also in our career. And it's, it's
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not really until we have a very significant
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moment, a really important conversation
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or we're giving a big talk
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or we have a really important
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sales call that we're, we're getting
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on, or maybe we're pulling
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up a microphone or a camera to shoot a video.
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It isn't until those moments that we actually
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put some thought into, oh
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my gosh, what am I going to say? And
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hopefully, how am I going to say
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it? And here's
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how I, this is my pure belief. If you
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can train for those big
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significant moments with more
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strategy and more intention,
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and you can show up in those most
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difficult moments as the best
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version of you, so that audience gets
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your best, whoever your audience is, right? It could be a big
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ass audience, it could be a little audience. If
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you can do in those moments and
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you show up and put the energy into it,
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just imagine how much more
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impactful everyday conversations
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would be conversations with
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your significant other or with your kids
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or with your coworkers, with
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your boss, with your clients, with, with
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, uh , just on social media. How
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much better would every single one of those
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interactions go if you practiced
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good old fashioned communication skills
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to become better at being articulate
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and empathetic and energetic
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and compassionate or whatever the skills are that
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you want to bring to the table. If you trained
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for the Marathon, a 5k would
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be a piece of cake, right? You'll
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learn about me. I'm a, I'm a runner. I'm getting back into
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running. So I might have some running analogy. So if you're
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not, I think you'll still get the analogy
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and we'll be just fine uni. But
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today, why we're here. I want you to really
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think about on this first episode, we're going to
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start at the most important thing
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and that is becoming more intentional
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with yourself and how you show up.
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So follow me in
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this thought process for just a moment. I
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want you to imagine that you have just
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had the most amazing conversation
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with your dream client, with
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your dream client. Now side note, if you
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are not a business owner and you're listening, let's say
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you're an employee in an organization, I
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want you to think about you having
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an incredible conversation with
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a still, it could be a client or a
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prospect, whatever that translates for
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your job. So you've just had the most
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incredible interaction at this
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conversation. And you
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walk away feeling, I
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mean, just elated. You feel like you nailed
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it, you're going to close the deal, whatever that
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next step would be for you. And
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let's say I am hanging out over in the little corner
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and I walk up to that person you
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just spoke to and I ask them, hey,
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how would you describe
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that person? Meaning how would
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they describe you? I
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know that's really crazy to think about and we're not
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supposed to speculate around what other people think
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about us, but come on oil, do
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it. And I don't want you to get caught up in like
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worrying what other people think about you. But for
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a moment, I want us to be mildly
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scientific here. And think for
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a second. How would that person
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describe their interaction
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with you? Would
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they say you had positive
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energy where you charismatic? Were you empathetic?
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Were you compassionate? Were you
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, uh, open where you vulnerable?
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Were you witty? Were you
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intelligent? What, what would they say?
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And I want you to really stew and speculate
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on that for just a moment. If you had the
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best engagement with your ideal client,
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how would you show up? How would they
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perceive you? And
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if we all think about our
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best days and the most
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positive, amazing version of ourselves,
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I mean we can give ourselves a pat on the back for that. But
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the question we have to ask is, do
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we bring that same level
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of us, that best version of us? Do
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we bring that in every single interaction
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in our business or in our personal lives every
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single day? And
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I think we would be fully in ourselves if we said
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yes, we all know we have good days and bad days.
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But I think we also need to be real
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with ourselves. That we,
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we bring more intention
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to higher stakes conversations
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than we do everyday conversations.
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And when you think about
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your business, especially if you're a personal
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brand, every
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single interaction that you have
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with your audience or if you're an employee,
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every single interaction that you have with your coworkers
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or , uh, the people that are
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above you in the organization, in
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executive roles or whatever else , um,
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every interaction that you have leads back
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to how people perceive you.
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And you can either
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just let this happen and
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hope that people see the best version
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of you or you
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can become far more intentional
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around your reputation and how others
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see you. Start associating
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yourself with the things that you want people
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describing you as. Because
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when you can have more control
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over your brand, meaning how
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other people perceive you, you
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can unlock so many opportunities
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for you to work with the people that you want
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to work with, not just the people
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that are showing up and connect
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with what they see. I hope
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that makes sense. It's this idea about being much
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more intentional with who you attract
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and if you think about the word persona,
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what does it mean? Well, a quick Internet search tells
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us that persona is the
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aspect of someone's character that is
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presented to or perceived by others.
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That is our public persona. And another way
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to look at it is our reputation. And the
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reason why I want to focus on this topic
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before we go into any other
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aspect of communication on future episodes
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is when we are more
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clear about who we are and
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how we want to show up for others,
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we can become far more intentional
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for showing up on
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video or walking into an
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interview or a showing
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up on a Webinar or a live presentation
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or whatever. The , the important
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moment is when we are clear
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around who we are, we
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can be, we can be really strategic
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and how we position ourselves and our
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personal brand. So today
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we're gonna talk about that. We're going to talk about why
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it's so important that we have that persona.
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I'm going to beat that dead horse because it's really
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important to consider. And then I'm going to walk
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you through exactly how
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do you identify what your persona
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is so that you can use it to become
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more intentional. Sound good? All right, let's
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do it. Okay. If we want to become more
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intentional in how we communicate.
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First we have to recognize how are we
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communicating right now
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today. And I want you to think
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about how you show up
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as a dial. So imagine
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really imagine in front of you right now is a giant
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knob like a dial
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and you can turn it to the left and you can turn to the
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right. And on that dial I want you to consider
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there's a version of you
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that you bring forth into the world. So
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I'll give you an example. Uh , there's
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a version of me when I get on a stage
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and talk in front of c suite executives
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what I'm going to wear , the type
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of vocabulary that I use in my presentation,
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the types of stories
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that I use. Um, just the
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overall way I hold my posture
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and my body language. It's
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very specific.
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It's the, let's call it the Sunday best
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version of me where it's
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still 100% me, but I'm a little
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bit more polished in my word choices.
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I might use a little bigger words for that
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audience. I definitely going to keep
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my language shorter, more
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concise because their tolerance level
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for long stories is much, much
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lower. I'm definitely going to wear
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my best clothes, my higher end
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clothes. I'm gonna wear a most likely gonna
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wear a blazer. I'm telling you all
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this because what I want you to consider this
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, it's still me still my
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clothes still my hairstyle, still my words,
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but it's my Sunday best. And
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then on the other end of the spectrum,
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I have ratty
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sweat pants version of Heather.
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I have what my husband and my two
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kids see on Saturday morning when
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I'm hanging around the house drinking coffee with no
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bra and my ratty sweats that have
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paint stains all over them
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because I love them and they're cozy on the inside.
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Still me, just a very,
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very dialed back, very raw
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version of me. And
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each of us have, I
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would say that same version. It's The Sunday
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best contrast to these Saturday morning
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coffee that you would be totally and
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terrified if the doorbell rang
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and you had to figure out how to answer the
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door. Is
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that just me? I don't know. Sometimes
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I hide and I don't actually answer the door
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when that happens. True story,
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but the reality is is those,
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if you saw that person that me
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and my sweats versus me and my Sunday basket
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and ready to talk to c suite executives, here's
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what I know to be true. You probably
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would look at it and be like, Woo
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, that's a stark contrast. But
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also you would see it's the exact
12:25
same person and
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that is the dial that I want you
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to consider is when you think
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about how you show up to
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your audience, you have
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to be completely, authentically
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yourself. Designing
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your own brand persona isn't about
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you saying you're going to be, you're
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going to be one way versus another
12:48
with different audiences because that's
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fake. That's not, that's not authentic.
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You have to understand who you are at
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your core to be able to
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understand, whoa , like what
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is that dial in its entirety. And
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then you can adjust that dial
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based around the audience that you're speaking
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to. So let's apply this to
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business. So you know me, I'm an
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entrepreneur. I work with entrepreneurs, primarily
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personal brand based entrepreneurs online
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and I've had to go through quite a
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shift over the last 12 months because moving
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from a corporate world where
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business communication is a little bit more polished,
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a , you use a little different
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words in your email and your writing skills
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and in your conversations in meetings
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and in classrooms versus
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working with entrepreneurs that have lifestyle
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brands for the most part , uh , it's way
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more conversational. You actually
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type wanna instead of
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want to in an email, you
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can clean up what you talk about. Uh,
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on social media, showing up in Instagram stories,
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I can wear a messy bun and
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it wouldn't be perceived me as being disheveled.
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It would be B being an entrepreneur or working
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at home on my laptop with sweatpants on.
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So me understanding
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that who my audience is and how
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I've transformed and how I show up
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for my audience , um, has been really
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interesting. But the, the common
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line between both
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is a couple things and I wanted to share these
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with you. When I think about my brand
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persona, there's some things that are really, really
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important to me. And it , again, it
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doesn't matter if I'm on stage in front of c
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suite executives or I'm in a classroom
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talking to Grad students, or
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I'm talking to multimillion
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entrepreneurs or nonprofit. Like
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it doesn't matter who I'm talking to. These are the things
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that ring true for me. Uh,
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I want people to perceive me as being
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, uh , having really strong common sense
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that I actually speak to people
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like a person. I am relatable.
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Uh, I'm real authentic. I don't
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try to pretend that I'm perfect, that
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I embrace the imperfections, the stumbles
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in my language , uh, the, the mess
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ups. If I, if I have them, I acknowledge them.
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I laugh at myself. I want
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to make people laugh and
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when appropriate, I want to make people
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cry because to me, the contrast
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of the two of actually sharing very open and
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vulnerable stories or things about myself,
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I feel like that is something
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that is signature to me. And my story is telling
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storytelling style. And
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I think it's important to help people feel
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something so they're compelled to do something.
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I want to be seen as
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stylish. That's important
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to me. If you know me, you know,
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a fun, interesting fact about me as I
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competed in the Miss America program in my teens
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slash early twenties. And
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uh, I learned a lot about myself, but I definitely
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care about my appearance and how I look
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and not because I want other people
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to think I'm pretty or whatever
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else like that. That's not the case.
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I actually feel better when I show up and I feel
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like I look good. I always wear heels
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when I present because I feel like I
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stand up a little bit straighter and have better posture
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and it allows me to have better hand gestures
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when I have better posture. It's like a
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super, super specific reference, but it's
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totally 100% true for me. I
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also feel far better when
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I wear eyeliner, really,
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really specific. But something that I know about myself.
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Uh, you know the question, if you
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were ever to be deserted on an
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island, if you were to be on a deserted
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island, whatever the phrase is, you're on an island, you have no
16:24
one around you and you could take one thing. My
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answer to that question was always my
16:28
eyelash curler, which is
16:30
super weird and again, oddly specific,
16:33
but I just feel like a whole new person when I
16:35
have my eyelashes curled. And
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if you're a man listening to do this, this is not
16:39
probably relatable to you. However,
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I want you to imagine for a second or what
16:43
are the things about you that
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just make you feel like
16:48
a million bucks? You feel like you can show
16:50
up and be the best version of you. To
16:52
me, I want to be stylish, but
16:54
approachable and not stuffy. And these
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are all things that I think about when it comes to me
16:58
and my brand. They're important
17:00
to me. It's part of my brand persona. And
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when I say persona, it's not this
17:05
fictitious thing. It's the WHO I am.
17:08
But it also comes back to the definition of
17:10
persona. And remember that was around this aspect
17:12
of someone's character that's presented or perceived
17:14
by others. So me understanding
17:17
how I want to be perceived as others is
17:19
in direct alignment with me wanting
17:21
to be true to myself.
17:23
These things are important to me
17:25
and my image of myself. Therefore,
17:28
I'm able to be more intentionally with how I project
17:31
that into my videos,
17:34
my social media , uh, my live
17:36
presentations, my client conversations.
17:38
These are all very important things. Oh , uh , I
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forgot to mention one of the other really important
17:42
things for me is compassion and empathy of
17:45
being vulnerable so that I can
17:47
encourage other peoples to be vulnerable real.
17:50
So I share with you all these things cause I think it's
17:52
really easy for us to think about our
17:54
brand as a style
17:57
guide. If you're an entrepreneur,
17:59
you've gone through the process where you've had
18:01
a style guide created, you have the
18:03
fonts, you have the colors, you have the textures,
18:06
you have the logo, you have all of those
18:08
things. And maybe you even taken it a step further
18:10
to consider. Okay, what's Your
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Voice Guide? Meaning for your written copy on
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your emails and your website
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and your social media, what does that look
18:20
like? And all of those things are
18:22
so important. But when we think
18:25
about how we engage with other people,
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I want you to consider that your brand
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has two facets. I
18:31
think about this. Your brand has the curated
18:34
part and then it has the live
18:36
and candid part. And let me break that down
18:38
for a second here. The curated piece,
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this is content that you bring up that's
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curated. These are social
18:46
posts there , the copy on your
18:48
website, it's the content
18:50
on your website, it's your graphics.
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It's the things that you choose to
18:54
like and share online. It's your prerecorded
18:57
videos, things that you have
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premeditated, like predesigned and
19:02
you release it. So there's intention behind
19:04
that. So you can apply your style guide and your tone
19:06
of voice and all those things to it, but,
19:08
and you and you can be intentional and work on those
19:10
things. But then you also
19:12
have these more live candid
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aspects of your brand. These are
19:18
on social media would be your Instagram stories
19:20
or your Facebook live streams or
19:23
you speaking up on a Webinar.
19:25
You've actually doing a Webinar, your
19:27
client calls, your prospect calls,
19:30
going to networking events and talking
19:32
to peers, a schmoozing with
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your coworkers or employees
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in your business , uh , actual live presentations
19:40
or talks. All of these
19:42
interactions have a live impromptu
19:44
element and they all require you
19:48
and your voice. And
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what's fascinating to me
19:52
is how much time and energy
19:55
we put in being
19:57
intentional with the curated content.
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Again, the website, the prescheduled,
20:03
social media posts, the predesigned
20:06
videos, all those types of things.
20:08
But on the other hand,
20:10
how little little
20:13
planning or intention we put behind
20:15
the live interactions. When you
20:18
consider what you,
20:20
what resonates with you as a
20:23
listener or watcher or per user
20:25
, online, whatever word resonates
20:27
with you best there. I sure
20:30
the curated stuff is fine, but what we
20:32
really love are the stories
20:35
or in a, at a conference.
20:37
We love the interactions with people.
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You know, it's so funny thinking about live events
20:42
here for a moment. The organization that I work with.
20:44
We were huge on live events and my team produced
20:47
and we always got
20:49
such great feedback about the content we created.
20:52
But beyond that, whenever we asked
20:54
what was the number one value that
20:56
people received out of those conferences, it was
20:58
always the interactions with
21:00
their peers, with each other.
21:03
And I'm learning this to be very
21:05
true. Attending conferences myself, I've gone
21:07
to some incredible conferences here and
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uh, it's always about the interactions
21:12
with other people. So for a moment, think about
21:14
you being someone who is attending a conference,
21:16
networking with other people. How
21:19
much time or energy do you spend thinking about
21:22
how you're going to show up in those conversations,
21:24
how you want people to perceive you,
21:26
what is your persona that you're bringing to
21:28
the party? We don't
21:31
spend time and energy thinking
21:33
about how we're going to show up and how
21:35
we're going to be perceived by other people. And
21:37
that has a huge miss because
21:40
if you want to attract people into your
21:42
business or if you want to ascend
21:45
in your career, if you work at an organization,
21:47
if you want people to think about you as
21:49
being the most logical,
21:51
obvious choice for them to
21:54
promote you or you want to be
21:56
the like, hello, Duh, I
21:58
want to work with this person. If people
22:00
are consuming your content online as an entrepreneur,
22:03
like you have to be crystal
22:05
clear around how you want other people to see
22:07
you do . We have far
22:09
more control over that than we give ourselves credit
22:12
for it . But it's because we spend so much time
22:14
on the curated content, the planned
22:16
content, the kind that
22:18
we can spend our time finessing and
22:20
tweaking and perfecting. That's
22:23
where we spend our energy. But what if we were just
22:25
to put even a fraction of that energy into the
22:27
live real engagements with people?
22:29
Like how much more magical would
22:31
it be to have people connect
22:34
with you real in the moment? So
22:37
that's what we're going to focus on is the how do you
22:39
bring more intention and strategy into
22:41
those live interactions? So people
22:44
are attracted to you, to
22:47
, to you as a brand, to you as a person
22:49
and therefore they want to follow you and
22:51
work with you and
22:54
ideally become excited
22:56
and enthusiastic ambassadors of your
22:58
brand and bring their friends to the party.
23:01
That's really what this is all about. So
23:03
let's dive in and talk about some questions
23:06
that you can explore to start
23:08
understanding what is your brand
23:10
persona so that you can be more intentional
23:13
with how you bring that persona
23:15
into your interactions. I've already shared with you some
23:18
of the things that I think about and my persona and
23:20
if those resonate with you, totally steal
23:22
those and use them for yourself. Uh
23:24
, but let's help you identify
23:26
yours. So here we go. I have , uh,
23:29
I have about five or six questions here
23:31
that you can ask yourself. And as we get going here, I
23:33
might think of a couple more, but let's
23:35
dive into them. And these are questions that I really
23:37
want you to think about. You're probably in the
23:40
car driving and or maybe on a walker or run.
23:42
So when you have a moment , uh , I
23:44
also have these posted on
23:46
the show notes so you can head over there and
23:49
actually print them out and journal on
23:51
these. I think that'd be a really great episode. But for now,
23:53
hopefully this will give you some thoughts
23:55
to start provoking your thinking a little bit more and as you need
23:58
to just pause this and let
24:00
your mind flow and see where
24:02
it takes you. Because the more that you can, you
24:04
can dream up on this, that the more
24:06
you can bring your ideas
24:08
into action when it comes to designing
24:11
your interactions with other humans.
24:14
I mean that's what this is all about. Okay.
24:16
So question number
24:19
one, and it goes back to the initial question
24:21
I asked you at the top of this episode. I want you
24:23
to imagine that you are
24:25
having an interaction with,
24:28
you can do this how you want, but I , I would say
24:31
with your existing
24:34
clients, you just have an interaction
24:36
with them. When they are done
24:38
with that conversation, what are the words
24:40
that they would use to describe you? So
24:42
let me rephrase that. After
24:45
you have a conversation with a client, what
24:48
are the words that they would use to describe their interaction
24:50
with you? How are
24:52
they describing their their experiences? Now,
24:55
if you are an entrepreneur and you're already
24:57
getting surveys from people, you actually might have
24:59
some information that you can pull from on this, but
25:01
if you're not, you need to speculate for a moment.
25:04
If you're a team member, you can ask
25:06
yourself the question, if you work with clients,
25:08
whoever your end client is that you work with
25:11
on a daily basis, think about the last
25:13
conversation you had or maybe the ideal
25:15
conversation that you, you would like
25:17
to have is how would people feel
25:19
and how would they describe that conversation?
25:22
That's a really great starting point because for
25:24
most of us, for far more,
25:27
well , you fit into two camps. You either might
25:29
be instantly seeing all of the great,
25:31
wonderful things and if that's
25:33
the case, good, keep going, write those
25:35
down. But if you're on the side
25:38
of things where you're tend to be a little bit more critical
25:40
with yourself, I want to stop.
25:43
You're just right there for a moment and encourage you
25:45
to focus more on that side of your strengths.
25:48
Don't worry about what you're not doing
25:50
or , uh , getting on your , on
25:52
top of yourself because you're not doing it how
25:54
you would like to do it. So if you were describing that ideal
25:57
scenario and you started going, oh, I'm not doing
25:59
that yet, or I need to be better at consistently doing that
26:01
and stop, cut that out, like stop that.
26:03
That's not what this exercise is about. We're focused
26:05
on how do you ideally want to
26:07
show up and the how you
26:09
do it. We'll focus on that a little bit later
26:12
on . But for now, I want you to focus on your strengths and your positivity.
26:15
So that first question really start thinking
26:17
about in your actual interactions you have
26:19
with your clients today, how would they describe
26:21
you? What are your strengths? How are
26:23
you coming across? Okay,
26:26
let's go to question number two. I
26:29
want you to dream up a little bit in the
26:31
future. Think
26:33
about where you want to be. Let's
26:35
not go to distant the future. Let's go a year from
26:37
now. Think about where you want to be in a
26:39
year from now and what do
26:41
you want to be known for
26:45
when someone says your name, what
26:47
do you want to be known for? And
26:51
I want you to think about two different things here, right?
26:53
You can think about your craft. So
26:55
what do you want to be known for? While for me,
26:58
I want to be known for
27:01
teaching people to be better communicators.
27:04
Like that's not a sexy way to say it, but that's really
27:06
what it is. What it comes down to. People
27:08
who want to become better communicators
27:10
to attract their ideal audience. I want to be known
27:12
for that. So helping people give live presentations
27:15
and showing up on video. I want people
27:17
to know me for that. They want to come to me
27:19
for that. But beyond
27:21
that, I want you to think about the secondary piece.
27:23
It's not just about what you do, it's
27:26
also about who you are. So
27:29
how do you want people to think of you? What
27:31
do you want to be known for? I
27:33
want to be known for being a little silly,
27:36
but wicked smart. I
27:38
want to be known for being
27:41
funny. I think I'm funny.
27:43
Hopefully you will develop my
27:46
style or you'll develop a taste for
27:48
my sense of humor as we get to know each
27:50
other a bit. But
27:52
what do you want to be known for? Like how do you want people
27:54
to know you, a describe you. It's
27:57
not just about what you do, but it's also who you
27:59
are. I want you to chew on that for a
28:01
few minutes. Okay.
28:04
Question number three, how
28:07
are you right now?
28:10
So we talked a little bit about thinking
28:12
more aspirationally in the future.
28:15
Now I really want you to be tough and
28:17
real with yourself of how you're showing
28:19
up right now. When you
28:21
think about the good and
28:23
you think about maybe the not so great
28:25
moments, what are the things
28:27
that really stand out for you? Are you
28:30
great with being empathetic?
28:33
Are you really good at asking questions?
28:36
Are you super relatable? Do
28:39
you have a tendency to talk over
28:41
people? Do you have a tendency to interrupt?
28:45
Do you have a tendency to not
28:47
speak up? Do
28:49
you have a tendency to shy away from difficult
28:51
conversations? Do
28:54
you have a tendency to clam up on camera
28:58
in live presentations? Do you get
29:00
more focused on how you feel versus
29:02
your audience? I
29:04
want you to take a second and just explore for a moment.
29:07
How do you actually show up today
29:10
and start really
29:13
strict , understand or are speculating
29:15
real quick for a moment around what
29:17
is the difference between how you're showing up right
29:20
now versus
29:22
those first few questions around how you
29:24
want to show up in the future. Taking
29:28
a couple minutes to to start understanding
29:30
that the contrast between these two
29:32
things and if you're, if
29:34
the gap between the two is not very
29:37
large, that's incredible.
29:39
Good for you. Now we need to about how do
29:41
we actually crank up that dial so that
29:44
your bringing the best version of you in more conversations.
29:47
But if you're sitting there going, oh, there's
29:49
these things that I keep doing, like
29:52
interrupting people or
29:54
a , I mess up on words so
29:56
often that now I've developed this fear
29:58
of speaking that I don't speak up in those higher
30:00
level meetings because I don't want to sound dumb
30:03
. Or maybe you have this
30:05
hesitation on camera where all
30:07
the sudden you know the phrase, the camera
30:09
adds five pounds. While there's also
30:11
a, I believe there is this a thing that happens
30:13
with the camera that makes us all go dumb, dumb,
30:16
like the vibrant and charismatic,
30:18
personable versions of ourselves. When the camera
30:20
hits us, we just become very bitter
30:23
. Like you have to bring more energy to the camera.
30:25
But if that , if that's you, just recognizing
30:28
that and knowing maybe where the opportunity
30:30
lies for you to start focusing
30:32
on bringing more of you into
30:35
that interaction. That's a really powerful
30:37
thing. If you want to be somebody
30:39
who is more charismatic or you want to bring your humor
30:41
into conversations and you're struggling
30:44
to be able to get more comfortable on camera,
30:47
well how powerful it is it if you know
30:49
that, hey, you're funny, hey,
30:51
you're personable. Hey, you don't have to be perfect.
30:53
Those are strengths of yours. Bring
30:56
that on camera and don't worry about
30:58
trying to get it perfect or to sound smart. So
31:01
you can start using your strengths and your aspirational
31:03
areas into those areas that make you
31:05
a little nervous or a little more self conscious.
31:08
And that's bringing your brand persona
31:11
to life with really, really strong
31:13
, uh , intentional , um , focus.
31:17
Okay . Exploring this idea around
31:19
, uh, who you are and starting
31:22
to develop an understanding for who is your
31:24
brand persona when it comes to your communication
31:27
style. Uh, another way that you
31:29
can look at this. Here's the fourth question
31:31
is look at the people who
31:33
you follow online, the people that
31:35
you admire, and ask yourself,
31:38
why do you follow them? What
31:40
is it about them that attracts you
31:43
to them and start
31:45
writing out? What are those things? A
31:48
lot of times you'll notice the people that you follow
31:50
online as you love them. Yes, for their content.
31:52
The fact that they always show up and have something
31:55
to say and it feels like they're talking directly
31:57
to you. You feel like they're
31:59
open, they're honest, they're vulnerable, they share the
32:01
good with the bad. Maybe you
32:03
love them because they're unapologetically
32:06
themselves. They don't try
32:09
to adapt who they are for you
32:11
or anyone else. They just show up as them.
32:14
So thinking for a moment about who
32:16
you follow online and why you're so
32:18
attracted to them, oftentimes
32:20
we're attracted to those things because
32:23
we, we see something in
32:25
there in them that either
32:27
we have a glimmer of to or
32:29
we really would like to be more like
32:32
those things. So those
32:34
specific characteristics speak to you for
32:36
a reason and it's because most
32:38
likely you would like to have those qualities
32:40
too or what? I actually think as you
32:42
have, you have a little sense of
32:44
that quality. You seem to draw it out of you more,
32:47
so really exploring who you follow online,
32:49
who your mentors are. It'll help you start
32:52
getting more clear around what your brand
32:54
persona is. Let's leave
32:56
it with that four questions. I think that's
32:58
quite a bit for you to start exploring
33:00
and going through the exercise of starting to think
33:02
about how do you want
33:04
to be perceived by others.
33:07
Getting a list of those things. What I want
33:09
you to do from here is as I go through those questions
33:11
and come up with a list of all of those
33:13
qualities, you're probably going to come up with 30
33:16
different qualities or things that surface
33:19
and start working through
33:21
those and if you boil those down to
33:24
10 things and then down to five
33:26
things, you'll start getting a lot more clarity
33:28
around how you want to
33:30
show up as a
33:32
communicator online in your business
33:35
or you'll, if you're an employee, you can be
33:37
a lot more clear on how do you want others
33:39
to perceive you in your
33:41
role in your organization and
33:43
when you're clear around who you are,
33:45
you can be far more clear around how
33:48
you show up in situations that are stressful
33:51
or in everyday conversations
33:53
that might not seem to have a lot of weight
33:55
behind them. But remember every
33:58
touch point that others have with you,
34:00
it's all of those touch points together that sum
34:02
up who you are as a brand. That sums
34:04
up your reputation. So you don't want to undervalue
34:07
those little seemingly meaningless,
34:10
seemingly meaningless. You
34:13
know what I'm trying to say? There, but those moments
34:15
don't undervalue them. And if you, if
34:17
you know how you want to be in the big moments, you
34:19
can definitely knock it out of park and the little moments.
34:22
I really believe that the secret to being authentic
34:25
is knowing exactly who you are
34:27
and exactly who you're not. And
34:30
when you get clear on this,
34:33
you can be far more effective
34:35
and attracting people into
34:37
your world and attracting opportunities
34:40
into your career and in your business
34:42
that you're far more excited about. And
34:45
when you attract people into your universe,
34:47
you're going to have a heck of a lot more fun building
34:49
your business or building your career. So
34:53
I want you to consider this your brand persona.
34:55
Once you get clear around what are those
34:57
core things of who
34:59
you are. And again, for me it was common
35:01
sense speaking like a person
35:04
being real on authentic, sharing
35:06
the good and the bad, making people laugh.
35:09
Also getting emotional and it's okay if
35:11
we cry together , uh , being
35:13
stylish. I want to feel good about
35:16
how I show up to my audience because when I feel
35:18
better, I feel more
35:20
confident. And more competent. These are just some
35:22
of the things that, again, I come back within my
35:25
persona, but remember once you pull
35:27
those things together, they become aspects
35:29
of your dial and
35:32
you get to choose how you show up
35:34
and level of formality depending
35:36
around the audience that you're working
35:39
with. But at the
35:41
end of the day, your persona persona is always
35:43
there. You're always being true to who you are,
35:45
and therefore you can be more intentional
35:48
with how you practice
35:50
your communication skills depending
35:53
on the format in which you're communicating. So
35:55
maybe you have a live presentation coming up or maybe
35:57
you're wanting to get better on camera, or maybe
35:59
you want to be more compelling and increase
36:01
your conversion rates in your sales conversations. You
36:04
can't get tactical and do all those things
36:06
until you are super clear around
36:09
how you want others to perceive you.
36:12
Because if you start trying to
36:14
acquire those skills and work on all
36:16
those other things without having clarity around who you
36:18
are, what will happen is you'll
36:20
start seeing other people who
36:22
you like and then you'll start
36:25
copying them intentionally
36:27
or not. But what you'll do is you'll start borrowing
36:30
other people's scripts or borrowing other
36:32
people's way of doing that thing,
36:34
that tactic, and you'll try it on
36:37
and sure it might work, but
36:39
it's not going to feel quite right
36:41
for you. It's gonna feel inauthentic.
36:44
And that mismatching of borrowing
36:46
a , an online personality who is really
36:48
good at video versus an online personality who is
36:51
really good at Instagram or somebody
36:53
who's really good at live presentations. When you start
36:55
borrowing from all these different people, it starts
36:57
feeling kind
37:00
of okay. You know, you know when
37:02
you're trying to , uh , do
37:04
some interior design on your house. If
37:07
you're a good interior designer right now, this, this analogy
37:10
does not apply to you. But for the rest of us who
37:12
really don't have an aesthetic eye
37:14
for design, here's what happens. We
37:16
go to the store and we pick out a pillow that we
37:18
think looks cool and then we pick out a pattern
37:20
of a curtain that we think looks cool
37:23
and then we pick out a rug
37:25
and all these things individually are super cool.
37:27
And then we bring them together and
37:30
house looks terrible. Like it
37:32
just is a mishmash where you've, you've meshed
37:35
all these different patterns and
37:37
designs together that don't really
37:39
come back and you've spent all
37:41
of this money and time and you don't
37:44
love it. Maybe
37:47
that's just me. My husband and I have this experience
37:49
where , um, we call it the argument
37:51
of the curtains where , uh
37:53
, this is like a total tangent here, but for years
37:56
in our very first house we bought like, I dunno
37:58
, 10 years ago, maybe more , uh , we
38:01
argued over the pattern of
38:03
the curtains and we couldn't agree
38:05
on it. I had the , I think I
38:07
wanted something like Paisley and he wanted these really
38:09
weird contemporary circles that I strongly
38:12
felt looked like they were like circa 2001
38:14
and we argued over it. So we settled
38:16
on something that we didn't both
38:18
love. And
38:21
then I made him change the curtains, I swear
38:23
like six times over the course of
38:25
living in our house , that house for a year. And
38:27
we never felt like we were in love with
38:29
the house. Okay. And I bring this up. Coming back to you
38:32
is I consider this
38:34
idea not when you're not
38:36
clear around what your
38:39
specific style is. When you're
38:41
not clear of exactly who you are
38:44
and exactly who you're not, you
38:47
cannot be authentic, so
38:50
borrowing other people's styles, their
38:52
scripts, their processes, it
38:54
doesn't work if you don't start with you
38:56
being clear on you, and
38:59
that's why I cannot impress
39:01
the need for going
39:03
through this initial work that we've talked
39:06
about today. Those questions, they might sound super
39:08
simplistic, but the, the
39:10
impact of exploring your own
39:12
thoughts and your own identity and how you want
39:14
to be perceived by other people, it
39:17
is a mentally
39:20
impactful. If you want
39:22
to position yourself as someone who
39:24
attracts their ideal
39:26
clients, their ideal projects
39:28
are ideal opportunities into their universe
39:31
to pick up the pace on accelerating
39:33
your success. That's what
39:35
this is about. So don't skimp
39:37
on this. Don't be like, Oh yeah, yeah, I know
39:39
I'm already gonna do the work on this. Spend
39:42
an hour, spend 10 [inaudible] , five
39:44
minutes thinking about this for a moment. Any work that you
39:46
would do in on this now is
39:48
going to accelerate any
39:51
work we do later on helping you become
39:53
an even warm , magnetic communicator on
39:56
any facet we talk about when it comes to communication.
39:59
So, okay, if you love today's
40:02
conversation , would you please, please do me
40:04
a huge favor, take a screenshot of
40:06
wherever it is that you're listening, post
40:09
it on Instagram or Facebook and tag me,
40:11
I'm at the Heather Sager and shoot
40:13
me a message. I would love to know what really
40:15
stuck with you today and what are you going to do? What
40:17
are the characteristics, the persona that
40:19
you're looking to embody? Please tell me
40:21
I would love the feedback beyond
40:24
that. I can't wait to connect with you
40:26
again next week as we are on the journey
40:28
of finding your it factor and bringing
40:30
it into so many dynamic
40:32
conversations in your business. So until
40:34
then, I hope you have an incredible week and I'll
40:36
see you next week. Same time, same place.
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