"It was also said, 'Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.'" Matt 5:31 With, for and unto you. God aims to be with us, to be for us, so that the Holy Spirit would be given unto us. Jesus speaks in triads "you have heard it said", then "Thus I say unto your", the vicious cycle, followed by a transformation statement Traditional teaching of Matt 5:31 "If one wishes to divorce, let them issue a certificate of divorced", the tradition was due to the hardness of their hearts.Vicious Cycle (Matt 5:32; Jer.. 3:8-9, 24-25) "but unless she committed sexual immorality, you should not divorce her." When we treat divorce lightly, our future fall to pieces. God's plan for us is so much better. Transforming Initiative (Matt 5:37; Eve.. 16:8; Duet 23:21-13) We should treat our marriages as an oath or vow. If we are not ready to keep that vow, then just say no. To delay working on our relationship is the same as disobeying; to be guilty of sin. "When you make a vow to the Lord your God, you shall not delay to pay it, for it would be sin in you, and the Lord your God will surely require it of you."