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Hi. I'm Holly Randall, and
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funny, the inspiring, the tragic,
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So sit back and
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Hello,
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everybody. Welcome back to Holly
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Randall
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Unfiltered. Before I introduce my guests,
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basis. Okay. So
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let's introduce our guest.
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She's one of the most popular porn stars
2:56
of the last decade. She's somebody
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that I've been trying to get on the show for
3:01
a while, so I'm super thrilled to
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have her here. We have some amazing
3:05
questions to go through. She's
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been through quite an emotional journey to
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get to where she is today, and so
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I'm so excited to bring you the one
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and only Kimi Granger.
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Hi. Hi. So happy to
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be here. Thank you for finally having me.
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Oh my god. finally have thank you for being
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so patient. Well, I mean, I to
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be fair, I dropped the ball for like -- Yeah. --
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almost a year. I was like, hey, you wanna come on the
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show? You're like, sure. Great. And then I, like,
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vanished over a year. So I'm very sorry
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about that. But here
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we are today. It is. I'm also
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super excited because you said this is your first podcast.
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It is. I'm a little, like, you know,
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I'm, like, excited, I'm nervous. I'm gonna
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pop your podcast cherry. You are gonna pop
3:46
my podcast cherry. It's one of the last cherries
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that I actually have to my body.
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So what why have you never done a
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podcast before? Have you been asked to do it and you turned
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it down? Or You know, I have
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been asked to do podcast.
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It's just I think it's
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just divine timing every time the
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it's when
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it's my time to go do
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the podcast, I something comes up
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or -- Mhmm. -- I can't make it or
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whatever.
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So maybe this is just Okay.
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Yeah. I I was hoping that you were gonna
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say, well, you didn't wanna do any of these
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other podcasts. Because yours is the best. Yeah.
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They weren't up to your level and you were,
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like, if I can't do holy randal and filtered,
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then I'm never doing a podcast. It's it
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was the main goal, but the whole time. Okay.
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We'll just go with timing. It's the end of my
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time. Excuse
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me. The
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universe knows that your podcast is the best
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and that's why
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yours is my first. There you go. Okay.
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Good save. Yes. Good save.
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Alright. So usually, I
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start from the beginning with my guests. How did
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you get into the adult industry? I
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got oh my god. Okay. So I got
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into the I was
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a stripper. I started off as an
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exotic dancer stripper, whatever you wanna call
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it. I call those strippers. It's you
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know. And
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I was about nineteen years old.
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I stripped for about maybe
5:06
six months. And, you
5:08
know, I had a crush on this guy that I worked at
5:10
a restaurant with. My first job was a waitress.
5:12
And I
5:15
was in love with this bartender. Like,
5:17
I was crazy about him and he was not
5:19
even cute. He was kinda creepy looking, but
5:21
I was obsessed with him and he dated a
5:23
porn star. And so I felt
5:25
like I needed to, like, get on that
5:27
level, so I became a stripper. And
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then I stripped for six months
5:31
got completely over him. I ended up hooking up
5:33
with him. It was like, oh, whatever thing. And I was
5:35
like, you know what, fuck this? I wanna go be a porn star.
5:37
And
5:37
then I, like, looked into, like,
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nude modeling. I looked
5:42
into, like, other things. I answered an
5:44
ad, and it was for a company
5:46
that shoots
5:47
adult films in San Diego. And
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I answered it and they
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wanted to do, like, a one time thing. Like, you can
5:55
only shoot for us once and then you can't work for
5:57
anybody else to sign a contract blah blah blah and
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I was like, okay, whatever. Like, I
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don't think I'm gonna do porn anyway.
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So I committed to it, but
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I I bailed so many times. I think I
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bailed on him, like, four or five times. And then he was
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like, you know what? I don't have any more work for you.
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Not for, like, the next couple of months because I
6:13
was I was nervous. I was like, I don't know.
6:15
Like, this is scary. Yeah. So he's like
6:17
whenever you wanna take this seriously, hit me
6:19
up. But for the meantime, if you actually, like,
6:21
wanna get into like real porn, I have a friend who's
6:23
an agent in the industry, here's
6:25
his number if you ever wanna pursue that. And
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I was like, okay. Whatever. Like, I saved the number.
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It's actually really nice that because
6:32
initially, he
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wanted to sign you to a contract where
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you would only appear -- Right. --
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for him. Mhmm. And then
6:39
when you flicked on him a bunch of times, he was like,
6:41
here's somebody else's number who can
6:43
help you get into all of the other
6:45
productions that I was trying to keep you from
6:47
doing with this contract? Yeah.
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I mean, it was it was meant to be. That's the way I
6:50
look at it. It was definitely meant to be because
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it worked out, like, to
6:54
my favorite, I ended up getting I
6:57
think I had like a bad night at the club. I was
6:59
like, fuck this shit. Like,
7:01
I'm gonna go do porn now. Fuck this. I,
7:03
like, did all my research. How much do porn stars
7:05
make? Like, how much can I make? And
7:07
you know, what do I need to do? Do I need to get my tits done?
7:09
Blah blah blah. Like, I, like, did all my
7:11
research. And I
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ended up calling the agent I
7:16
won't say his name, but he
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was, you know, he was amazing. He was my
7:20
first agent. I have so much love for him.
7:23
and he flew me out to Miami, got me, like,
7:25
a week's worth of work, and it was just it
7:27
was love at first sight. I was obsessed.
7:29
Like, I have fun with or I enjoyed
7:32
the the life. I I was nineteen,
7:34
so I'm like, this is, like, so
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new and exciting and wrong and,
7:38
like, dirty but fun and, like, I
7:40
don't I didn't know what to make of it, but I it
7:42
just felt right within me. Mhmm. And
7:45
so I just kept going and it just
7:47
continued to flourish and I'm like,
7:49
okay, this is exactly where I need to be.
7:51
This I had to be triggered
7:53
and emotionally affected by some dirty
7:55
bartender who dated a porn star for me to
7:57
get exactly I need to be in life, I truly
7:59
feel that. Like, I think it was like a karmic
8:02
destiny
8:02
or something. Is this so interesting how
8:04
the universe works in such mysterious
8:06
way? It's so crazy. Yeah. I look
8:08
back on it and I'm like, holy shit. Like, if I
8:10
wasn't so, like, boy crazy, this
8:12
probably would have never happened. Yeah. It would have been like
8:14
a lawyer. Yeah. I don't
8:15
know. Oh, my gosh. No.
8:18
We're at a we're at a, you know, at
8:20
a desk somewhere. I don't know.
8:23
So tell me about your actual first
8:25
scene. My
8:26
first scene was it
8:28
was comfiesta. Oh
8:30
my god. You're like the third girl who's told
8:32
me that their first scene was comfy. It's
8:34
every That's
8:37
how they get you. They get you with the comfy
8:39
that their favorite thing to break
8:41
the cherry is with a fucking comfiestat.
8:43
Like, everybody that I know, they're first
8:45
seen as a comfiestat. And if it's not,
8:47
you're weird. like, get the fuck out. You're not
8:49
part of the club. You know? Like, you're not part of
8:51
the Comcast club. So
8:54
it was like, I remember being,
8:56
like, so fucking
8:57
unbelievably unbearably
8:59
nervous. Like, I was literally, like, I
9:02
was, like, shaking. I didn't know
9:04
what to, like, I wasn't, like, familiar
9:06
with you know,
9:07
cleaning out. They handed me a douche, and I was
9:09
like, what the fuck am I supposed to do? Do I stick it
9:11
in my ass? Like, what do I do with this? Do I drink it?
9:14
Like, I had no idea
9:16
And I had to go and do
9:19
and, like, I hadn't, like, mastered
9:21
my, you know,
9:23
my my clean out like,
9:25
technique my clean out routine for, like, a porn
9:27
yet. So, like, this was just very new
9:29
for me. And
9:31
I remember I cleaned out. I
9:33
showered. I just did what I had to do
9:35
and then I put on the little outfit. They
9:37
gave me a kind of like
9:39
a basic line of like what I need to do. And
9:41
I remember like I
9:43
was just so fucking nervous. I don't even remember.
9:45
It was like kind of a blank. But when I got
9:47
to the point where, like, we had to, like, do the
9:49
sex. I remember, like, I
9:51
just went primal. Something inside of
9:53
me just shut down. Like, I turned off and I
9:55
just, like, did it. Mhmm. And I didn't
9:58
know if I was
9:58
good or not, I was really
9:59
insecure about it. I remember, like, kinda just
10:02
laying there with my eyes closed. Like, I was, like, not,
10:04
like, being
10:05
violated, but I was like, oh my god.
10:07
What the fuck am I doing? You know? because I
10:09
was, like, young and nice and
10:11
nervous. And I remember,
10:13
in that moment. I'm like, my dad's gonna fucking kill
10:15
me. Like, this fucking sucks.
10:17
I'm like, holy shit. I'm sorry,
10:20
mom. Like, I don't
10:20
know. Like, I was like,
10:22
freak. I was geking out a little bit. I'm not gonna
10:25
lie, but I just I got through it.
10:27
And then I remember when they were done,
10:29
they the director or no, the the
10:31
male talent that I worked with that day, he
10:33
took me back to the model house that I was
10:35
staying at and he
10:38
was so cute. He was so gracious. He was like,
10:40
she was fucking amazing. One of
10:42
the best we we've had so far. Well,
10:44
well, they they always say that about all of them. hors,
10:47
you know, whatever. Thanks. I
10:49
know I wasn't that good, but it was like
10:51
he was
10:52
being so sweet. So I felt very
10:54
right out of the gate, very welcomed and
10:57
very loved and held and, like, there was,
10:59
like, nothing to be as it'd be afraid of. Nobody's
11:01
gonna, like, make
11:02
fun of me. Like, I felt very
11:04
very welcomed with open arms
11:06
by everyone. Mhmm. You know, even though I
11:08
felt in my heart, I
11:08
was like, oh, that was first scene
11:10
ever that was, like, trash. It made them,
11:13
like, a freaking baby. You know, like, I didn't
11:15
know what I was doing.
11:17
But
11:17
after that, I think I got
11:20
into the motion of things and
11:23
I I got you just get the hang of it. It's like
11:25
riding a bike. eventually, you don't You're
11:27
not so nervous. Eventually, you get used to being in
11:29
hair and makeup. Eventually, like, the routine
11:31
becomes a thing and then you just you
11:33
just get used to it and you kind of work into,
11:35
like, a routine of, like, how you open up to
11:37
camera and, like, it -- Yeah. -- I had to
11:39
learn that as I went on though. Like, there were so
11:41
many things I didn't know in the beginning. I
11:43
didn't know to point my toes. I didn't --
11:45
Mhmm. -- I didn't know my angles. You know, like, there
11:47
was, like, certain things that I
11:49
didn't know how to do yet. So, like, some
11:51
of my very first scenes are, like, my
11:53
most embarrassing ones because I had no fucking
11:55
idea what I was doing. Like -- Yeah. -- I was
11:57
just timid and I'm like, oh, what am I
11:59
doing? Yeah. But, I mean, that's the truth
12:02
for everybody. Right. You know, I mean,
12:04
most of the time.
12:04
Yeah. For sure. What is
12:05
so because I've this name
12:08
has come up so frequently lately, and I
12:10
actually don't know anything about like the scene. What is a
12:12
comfy as a scene? It's
12:14
basically,
12:14
like, it's such a typical,
12:17
like, rehardy king's style
12:19
shoe, very, like, amateur. Some
12:22
girl walks up to your door and, you know,
12:24
it's in POB. The guy opens the door
12:26
and she's like, hi. I'm
12:28
here for the comfiesta. And he's
12:30
like, yeah, you wanna suck this dick baby, and
12:32
then she's like, yeah, that's why I'm here.
12:34
Picked me. And then that's how it happens.
12:36
It's so dumb. But -- Okay. --
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I was texturing like a ging bang in a Mexican
12:39
restaurant. I don't know. I was way,
12:41
way off. It
12:42
might as well be that too. It's it
12:45
could be equally as strange
12:48
and random. It is you
12:50
know,
12:50
but it's yeah. That's basically what it is. It's
12:52
very immature and I
12:54
think that people like that. They like the idea
12:57
of a girl going up to your door
12:59
and saying, hey, I wanna fuck you. Like, it's a
13:01
fantasy thing. Yeah. And it works
13:03
because people freaking love
13:05
it. Yeah. They love it. And especially when they
13:07
get those brand new girls that are so
13:09
green and, like, they look
13:11
just
13:11
brand new. They're not brand new. They're not like showing
13:14
up like a porn star that's been doing this for
13:16
ten years, and it's like like, hey,
13:18
daddy. You know? Like, it's a
13:20
girl. It's like, hey, hey. I
13:23
wanna have sex. You know?
13:25
I don't know. Yeah. I mean, you like it. I
13:27
think it feels accessible totally. Yeah.
13:31
So what was your first year
13:33
in the industry like? I I
13:35
you talked about your first couple of
13:36
scenes, but, like, overall, what was that
13:38
first year like? It was cool. It
13:40
was a blast. I had a lot of fun.
13:42
I did a lot of drugs. I party a
13:44
lot. I made so many
13:46
friends and, like, I
13:49
I But as far as, like,
13:51
the shooting aspect of it, I
13:54
learned a lot. Like I said, I had to,
13:56
like, get into the motion of learning how to
13:58
point my toes. I ended up falling
14:01
madly in love with this fucking
14:03
guy in in the industry. I won't say his
14:05
name, but it was I think
14:07
the motivation of, like, my
14:09
feelings for him really
14:12
motivated me to wanna be the
14:14
best performer that I could be. And and
14:16
like sucking him off camera all
14:18
the time. Like, it really trained
14:20
me to, like, understand, like, this is how
14:22
I open up. This is how I and he taught me.
14:24
He literally trained
14:25
me. Mhmm. Like, like
14:27
a like a dog. Like, it was
14:29
kinda cool. Like, I'm grateful for
14:31
that, but it really helped me
14:33
in the sense that, like, whenever I would show up on that, I
14:35
had that confidence because when I first got into
14:37
porn, I wasn't sexually experienced. I
14:39
had sex maybe, like, seven times.
14:41
Oh, eight times my entire life.
14:44
So I had, like, lost my virginity, like, right
14:46
almost when I was out of high school,
14:48
had sex one more time,
14:50
like, right before I turned eighteen, and
14:53
then slept with a couple of guys at a party
14:55
and then whatever, you know. And,
14:57
like, it when I got into porn, so, like, I didn't know
14:59
what the hell I was doing. So this guy that
15:01
I was filling around with.
15:03
He kind of
15:05
opened things up for me. Like, opened
15:07
up my sexual he, like,
15:09
sexually woke me up. And so I was able
15:11
to, like, navigate myself through the
15:13
industry with that, and it
15:15
really helped -- Mhmm. -- within
15:17
my first year, though, it was really
15:19
easy. It was really cool. I
15:21
had a scene that came out and it
15:23
just blew up on pornhub. I
15:25
don't know why. I don't know
15:26
how. What was the seeds? It's it's called
15:28
kimi Granger likes it rough. Okay.
15:31
It went fucking nuts.
15:33
It was, like, second most viewed scene right
15:35
under Kim Kim Kardashian's sex tape
15:37
on pornhub. For years -- Wow.
15:39
-- for years and, like, was your partner in it?
15:41
It's Chad Chad White. Okay.
15:43
Yeah. Yeah. But
15:46
he when that came
15:48
out, I was just I was, like,
15:50
confused. I'm, like, that seems not even that good.
15:52
Like, I remember, like, that day I had a fucking
15:54
you know, I had a rash. I had a yeast infection. It was
15:57
feeling good. It was fat, like, not fat, but
15:59
like I You felt bloated. I felt
16:01
bloated. I was, like, starting my period
16:03
soon. My hair was kind of a mess. Like, it
16:05
was just not it was just another day
16:07
on Saturday. I'm like, okay. Let's wrap this shit up. Let's
16:09
get it over with. You know?
16:11
So I mean,
16:12
looking at it now, can you see why
16:14
it went viral? Are you still like perplexed? You
16:16
know, I literally just went back and
16:18
tried to rewatch it just to see because
16:20
people still talk about it to this very
16:22
day. That is where I got recognized.
16:25
That is where my name
16:27
shot out was because of that
16:29
scene. So sometimes I go back and I'm like,
16:31
I
16:32
still don't get it. But, okay, if you guys like
16:34
it, then cool. Like, that's awesome.
16:36
Thank you. Thank you for the recognition. If that's
16:38
the scene that was my undoing,
16:40
then awesome. I'm grateful for that, but, like,
16:42
I don't get it. I was you know,
16:44
once again, my toes weren't pointed. I was just
16:46
kinda, like, you know,
16:47
just new. I had, like, this
16:49
new but that's what what they
16:51
liked. Probably what it was. Yeah. I
16:53
don't know. But when that happened, it
16:55
was I hit number one on pornhub, and
16:57
it was just off to the races.
17:00
Wow. Yeah. It
17:01
was really cool. So you got in at
17:03
nineteen. Mhmm. There's
17:04
been I've talked to so
17:06
many different performers about feeling
17:09
like when they got in that early, it was
17:11
too soon and they should have waited till
17:14
later. I've also talked to performers who
17:16
were like, no, I was ready and
17:18
eighteen nineteen. There's, like, so much controversy
17:20
over whether or not the age
17:22
for getting into porn should be raised.
17:25
Mhmm. How how what was your experience
17:27
like?
17:28
Well, I
17:29
can see why that would be a
17:32
debate because
17:34
if I knew then what I know now,
17:36
I feel like would be better, it would be different,
17:39
obviously, my performance. I I don't know.
17:41
I I think about that sometimes, but
17:44
I'm really glad that I got in when I was young
17:46
because I could spend all of my
17:48
twenties growing and
17:50
learning
17:51
and and And,
17:52
like, what's the word I'm
17:54
looking for? Expanding in the
17:57
industry. Like, if I started right now, I
17:59
would
17:59
be
17:59
older. I would be more
18:02
experienced. Sure. But, like, I would be older and, like, I
18:04
would have, like, kind of, my time would be
18:06
coming up. So in in some sense, like,
18:08
in four years. you know. Mhmm. So I'm
18:10
I liked that I got in. I almost wish I got
18:12
in when I was eighteen, like, right out of high school,
18:14
like, even earlier, so I had even more time.
18:17
But it happened exactly when it was supposed
18:19
to. But I think it's beneficial for
18:21
girls to get in when they're younger. Mhmm.
18:23
Because you can grow with
18:26
yourself in the industry. Like, if it's
18:28
something you really, really wanna do
18:30
and it's something you have a passion for,
18:32
like, if you're just born
18:34
bread slut and you wanna get into born,
18:36
do it when you're young. Mhmm. And have fun with
18:38
it and blow up and go
18:40
have fun with it, you know, and spend
18:42
as much time as you can in
18:44
it because there is a time frame
18:46
until you're eventually like, you know, you
18:48
gotta make some decisions on, like, what you
18:50
wanna do with yourself in your life. It's a lot of pressure. Yeah. It's
18:52
a lot of societal pressure. It's a lot
18:54
of pressure, like, you know,
18:57
because our brand is reliant
18:59
on our bodies and our health and our
19:01
youth and whatever. So if you're,
19:03
you know, getting that start
19:05
out young I feel
19:07
like that's more beneficial. Right?
19:09
Yeah. I mean,
19:09
you have a longer trajectory. I guess it
19:11
just depends
19:11
on what it also depends on what your brand is.
19:14
Like, there's some women who have like, missus
19:16
Robinson's a great Example, she's in her
19:18
fifties and she got in, like, in her fifties, but
19:20
her brand is MELF. Oh, for sure. Like, she's,
19:22
like, the MELF. She's, like,
19:23
the sexy housewife, That's her
19:25
things. And that suits her perfectly. Absolutely. So,
19:28
yeah, I think it just depends on, like, how you're
19:30
gonna market yourself. No. Totally. And
19:31
so for me, it was the team thing. So
19:34
I -- Yeah. -- I had no other
19:36
avenue because I wasn't I didn't look like,
19:38
you know, I didn't have my boobs done. I had the
19:40
small boobs. So it was all natural. So it worked
19:42
for me. Mhmm. But, yes, if you
19:44
have, like, big tits and you're more, like,
19:46
in the Milfy category than cool, then
19:48
there's, like, the, you know, the Madison
19:50
Ivy's. She's stunning, and she's hot
19:52
bitch. Like, she's hot girl
19:54
born. She's not mil. She's not teen. She's
19:56
just hot girl born. So there are
19:58
different categories for different times to get in.
20:00
Mhmm. So I think it is I think it's just
20:03
it just depends. Yeah. For
20:05
me, like, if you're like a young girl
20:07
and you're cute and have small
20:09
boobs and whatever, then get in young and
20:11
work the teen shit. It's a great niche and
20:13
it's really really like lucrative.
20:15
I think, like,
20:16
the only time when I see it being a
20:18
problem getting in young is when you
20:22
sometimes
20:22
you're in pulse when you're young and you don't really think
20:24
things through -- Okay. -- and porn is not
20:26
for everybody. No. I think we can everybody
20:28
in porn can confidently say
20:30
that. It's like, a great job
20:33
for, like, I was quote
20:35
Asaakira because I feel like she said this so
20:37
perfectly. She's like, porn is
20:39
a horrible idea for
20:41
most people. but for like a small amount of
20:43
people, like a small percentage, it's
20:45
like a great job. It's a great
20:47
decision. So you have to know that
20:49
this is something that
20:51
you're comfortable with. You're comfortable with
20:53
your sexuality. You're definitely
20:55
an exhibitionist. You're not just doing it for the money
20:57
because if you're doing it just for the money,
20:59
like, no amount of money will ever
21:01
make it feel okay. Mhmm.
21:05
And that you are also,
21:07
like, okay. With the stigma that comes along with
21:09
it, like, you, you know, have thought through, like, how
21:11
your family might react, like, what
21:13
your future might look like. Like, if you've really
21:15
considered all of these things, then it
21:17
can be a fabulous career
21:19
choice for you. Mhmm. But if you haven't and you
21:21
get in just because, like, I don't know, and
21:24
then you find that, like, it is not
21:26
suited for you, the unfortunate thing is
21:28
is that what you've done is out there
21:30
forever. It will follow you forever.
21:32
And then also too, I just see
21:34
a problem with younger people.
21:36
And even Dude, this is something that I'm
21:38
still working on at forty four hold
21:40
my forty four. I think I'm forty four.
21:41
I just turned forty four. Right? Like forty
21:43
four. No. Or forty three.
21:45
I think
21:46
I'm forty four. Twenty one. Pretty sure.
21:48
Twenty one. I'm forty four. At my
21:50
age of twenty one, I
21:52
still struggle with this as setting boundaries.
21:55
Yes. Right? That I think is the hardest thing to
21:57
do, and that's harder for younger people.
21:59
And if you don't
21:59
have if you get started with a
22:02
bad agent or you get caught up
22:04
with the wrong people, and you don't
22:06
know, like, how to say that you
22:08
can go down the wrong path.
22:09
Definitely. And it like I said, it just
22:12
depends on where
22:12
you're at in life. And, yeah, those there
22:15
are the the repercussions that come with
22:17
it. The consequences, of course. Like,
22:20
I you have
22:20
to go in with grit. Mhmm. You do. You need to
22:22
go in and you need to be strong. You need to tough it
22:24
out because this is not for everybody and you
22:26
need to be you need to have that mindset like
22:28
I don't give fuck what people think. My family
22:30
finds out then and they wanna dis me for this
22:32
and then disown me like fuck them. You
22:35
know, that's that was the mindset that I went
22:37
into it with. because
22:40
I was already,
22:42
like, fending for myself -- Mhmm. -- at that
22:44
time in my life. You know, I wasn't getting
22:46
along with anybody anyway. So I
22:48
was like, fuck you. Yeah. Like, I'm gonna go do
22:50
me. Yeah. You know? And I
22:52
didn't and when they did find out though,
22:54
it was everything was chill. Like,
22:56
nobody judged me, and I'm grateful for that.
22:58
But, you know,
22:59
it it is. It's
23:00
It just depends on
23:03
the life that you're living. It depends on what's
23:05
in your heart. It depends on you
23:07
can't be sensitive. You can't you can't be
23:09
hard on yourself. You have to
23:11
have grit. You also I feel that you also kind of
23:13
have to have that if you're just gonna be in entertainment
23:15
anyways. Mhmm. Like, if you're just gonna put yourself
23:16
out there, especially now with social media and
23:19
everyone in the world getting like,
23:21
chime in in the comments on Instagram, like, what if they think
23:23
about you? If you're gonna go into a
23:25
career path where your
23:27
job is literally to appear in
23:29
front of the world put yourself out
23:31
there, like, yeah, you're opening the
23:33
door for criticism in anything that
23:35
you do. Right. It's you gotta just
23:37
be okay with it. Yeah. That's with
23:40
anything Hollywood singing whatever
23:42
-- Mhmm. -- people are gonna be
23:44
mean regardless of where you're at, so
23:47
completely
23:47
agree. how do you handle that? Like, trolls on social media,
23:49
like, negative feedback? Fuck
23:51
the trolls,
23:52
dude. I I so back
23:54
in the day, like, the old me used to
23:56
just play with them. You know?
23:58
If they would say some shit, I would
23:59
just slap
24:02
them on a grill and fry them.
24:04
for twenty minutes, you know. But now
24:06
I'm just, like, whatever. I block and delete. Block
24:08
and delete. Block and delete. Block and delete. I'm, like, I
24:10
don't need that negativity in my life. Fuck
24:13
you. Mhmm. So I do a lot of blocking and a lot of
24:15
deleting and I do not let it
24:17
affect me. Like, I don't. because I'm just like, you're
24:19
just a little bitch dude.
24:21
You're just sad and miserable and
24:23
your own weird weirdo ass life and
24:25
you're going out of your way to, like,
24:27
come
24:27
at me, like, who the fuck are you?
24:30
Mhmm. You know? Like, okay.
24:32
Yeah. I've always
24:33
felt that the way people treat you is more
24:35
indicative about how they feel about themselves -- Mhmm. --
24:37
rather than how they feel about you. No. For sure. There's a
24:39
lot of people out there with a ton of
24:42
shame and fear around
24:44
sex. And, like, you're the perfect
24:47
candidate attack.
24:48
Yeah. Yeah. I mean, you're the perfect punching
24:50
bag because they can take out all, like, their
24:52
fears and, like, their misogyny and
24:54
and everything against Definitely. It's funny
24:57
because I kind of forget the kind of visceral
24:59
that you guys experience because
25:01
I don't get it so much. I mean,
25:03
don't worry. I get it. Like, yeah. Go
25:05
read my YouTube comments. I mean,
25:08
like, they can be pretty mean sometimes.
25:11
But I think because I'm not a performer, I don't
25:13
I don't get it as much. And I recently
25:15
did a podcast with Adrianna
25:18
Chechek, and I released a
25:20
real and then I tagged her as a collaborator
25:22
and she accepted so it got pushed out
25:24
to all of her fans as well. Mhmm. And I
25:26
went through and I was reading the
25:28
common I was like, holy shit. Like, there
25:30
was
25:30
so much nastiness in there.
25:32
It just really really means
25:35
stuff. just
25:35
about how you're worthless,
25:38
you're used goods. I mean, just like
25:40
everything that you can imagine. And I was
25:42
like, wow. This is stuff that
25:44
you guys face every day all the
25:46
time. Yeah. It's nasty. It's
25:48
it's fucking
25:48
nasty. It's not
25:51
You know? And at first, I remember in the beginning,
25:53
like, when it started happening, like, I really let
25:55
it affect me. I did. It used to
25:58
it used
25:58
to break my fucking heart
25:59
because I'm like, oh my god. Like, I would
26:02
allow that to consume me to the
26:04
point. Like, I wanted to fucking
26:05
kill myself. Like,
26:07
now, I mean, now I'm, like, fuck
26:10
you. Like, I know my worth and I know
26:12
my value and, like, what I bring
26:14
what I've brought to the table
26:16
to myself, my family, to the industry,
26:18
like, there's nothing that anyone can tell me. Like,
26:20
you're just a miserable fuck. And you're jealous. And you wanna
26:22
fuck me? That's so you can't. fuck you. It's
26:24
also weird
26:25
because these are people who are following
26:27
you on. So, like, they've chosen
26:29
to follow you and watch your career
26:31
and watch your
26:32
Yeah. No. You can't follow me now. Yeah.
26:34
You know, I'm gonna go to and and
26:36
they just wanna, like, attack you. It's
26:38
just really bizarre. Yeah. It's so weird. I'm,
26:40
like, whatever, dude. But yeah. No. I
26:42
think, like, for I would the best advice I would
26:44
give to, like, new girls is just block and
26:47
delete. Block and delete. Block and delete. Like, if
26:49
you see any negative comments, like, when
26:51
I post something on Instagram, now
26:53
that when I anytime I do it, like, I
26:55
spend the whole day going through the
26:57
comments and sifting through them and
26:59
filtering out the shit. Mhmm. I do it
27:01
because I don't want that shit in my life.
27:03
I don't want that negativity on my page. If
27:05
I go and read the comments, I wanna see
27:07
nothing but You're amazing. You're
27:09
beautiful. I love you. You're my favorite.
27:11
Just uplifting me. I don't wanna see, like, oh,
27:13
your dad must be so proud or you're
27:15
fucking disgusting. Like, you're going to hell, whatever. You
27:17
know? Like, my dad is proud, by the way.
27:19
Not proud of this, but he's proud of me.
27:22
He's proud that I'm happy and stable,
27:25
like, you know, and so people don't
27:27
think about those things. Like, you don't
27:29
know my life. Yeah. You don't know what
27:31
you don't know shit. Like, you think that you know, you there is
27:33
a stigma. Like, you're putting you're putting a
27:36
stereotype on something
27:38
and it's not anywhere
27:40
near, like, what you think it is. That's your
27:42
fucking problem. I always find you
27:44
know what I find interesting? I find that your
27:46
dad must be
27:47
proud comment interesting because it
27:50
suggests that your value only rests in
27:52
how your father sees
27:54
you. Like, on how another man, like, if
27:56
if, like, you know, the man in your life,
27:58
your father doesn't, like, consider you
27:59
valuable, then, therefore, you have no
28:01
value. And, like, people have complicated family
28:04
relations totally. Means people don't have dads. No. You know,
28:06
we're no relationship with their fathers whatsoever
28:08
or their dads are shitty. Oh,
28:10
yeah. So, like, why does your value have to
28:12
be measured in, like, what your father
28:14
thinks of you. It's just like a strange kind of
28:17
misogynistic, archaic -- Oh,
28:19
yeah. -- thing, you know. It's
28:20
so deep. but -- Yeah. -- you I just let him think
28:22
that because I know my relationship with
28:25
my dad. Mhmm. And,
28:27
you know, I bought him a home. Like,
28:29
I take care of him. I love him. Like, I want my dad to
28:32
be proud of me. Mhmm.
28:33
You know, I don't ever want
28:34
him to think that I went into
28:36
this to hurt I don't want anybody to think that
28:38
I went into this to to
28:40
affect them or
28:41
piss them off or anything. Like, I went into this because
28:43
I wanted it. I really genuinely
28:46
feel like it's the right thing for me. I love
28:48
it. I love love love love love this job. More
28:50
than anything. I just pick it over boyfriends, I
28:52
pick it over anyone. Like, it's my life. It is
28:54
my love. And so my
28:57
my
28:58
dad and I have like
29:01
built such a tremendous relationship
29:04
throughout this journey of me being
29:06
in the industry. And that's like something that I
29:08
don't show on social media because I don't want I
29:10
don't want my dad to be act. I don't want anybody to
29:12
see that. You know? And I don't want them
29:14
to, like, say any weird shit about my dad because I
29:16
love my dad and my dad loves me and,
29:18
like, we're
29:18
chill. Like, we're good. You know?
29:21
And I know that in my heart. So, like, when they say shit
29:23
like that, I'm like, block and delete by.
29:25
Yeah. Yeah. You did say when you first
29:26
got it started though that you were, like, not getting
29:28
along with your family. Decent. So then that relationship
29:31
changed over time. It did. And
29:32
surprisingly, it this like, it was,
29:35
like, almost, like, porn
29:37
brought my dad and I closer together.
29:39
Interesting. Which is, like, crazy, you
29:41
would never think. Right? But, like,
29:43
my dad and I never were,
29:44
like, super close. Mhmm. You know, I
29:46
was always focused on my mom. You
29:48
know, my mom was an alcoholic and she
29:51
was just gone. She
29:53
was just you know, done. She was
29:55
done with life and she checked the fuck out a long
29:57
time ago and I was always focused on her and, like, come
29:59
back. Come back. I love
29:59
you. I love you. And, like, my dad and I were
30:02
always, like, up and down and, like, whatever. Like, I
30:04
didn't really I didn't really
30:06
bond with
30:06
him too much growing up.
30:08
He was very
30:10
good to me. My dad and I had a good relationship. He
30:12
always took good care of me, but I
30:14
was I had a better relationship with
30:16
my mom because I was constantly trying to
30:18
get her stop drinking constantly get her try to get her
30:20
to, like, love me and, like, change for me
30:22
and, like, whatever and it didn't
30:24
work. And I just kinda let
30:27
the the
30:27
rejection consume me
30:30
and drive me into the
30:32
decisions of just not giving a
30:35
fuck, which eventually led me into porn, which
30:38
somehow, you know, brought me closer to my It's
30:40
weird how it worked out. I don't really know how
30:42
or why, but it worked out in
30:44
my favor and super grateful for
30:47
that.
30:47
But my dad when he did find
30:49
out it was traumatizing. he
30:51
was mortified. He didn't he wanted to
30:54
die. Like, he was, like, what the fuck did I
30:56
do wrong to make the like,
30:58
what did I do wrong as a father?
31:00
You know? no dad wants this for their
31:02
kids, you know. It's common,
31:04
but he Well, I think like
31:05
no parent wants to think of their child in a
31:08
sexual way. No. So when you're going out
31:10
and having, like, sex on camera for the
31:12
world to see it's uncomfortable for all
31:14
parents because you don't, you
31:15
know. Yeah. So he
31:18
Exactly. And so, like, he he
31:20
he disturbed him and I gave him
31:22
the space that he needed, and then some months down
31:24
the road after he found out, I
31:26
would always reach out to him and be like, hey, dad,
31:28
I'm just checking on you. I love you. I'm
31:30
just sending you a text to let you know I'm still
31:32
here whenever you're ready. I love you. You know,
31:35
like, I'm I love you. You know? Whenever you're ready to talk to
31:37
me, I'm here. I love you. Like,
31:39
I'm not doing this to hurt you.
31:41
And
31:41
the and one
31:42
day he finally reached out to me and I guess he
31:44
went and saw a movie that,
31:47
like, touched his heart and
31:49
reminded him of you
31:51
know, there's so many other things to worry about and
31:53
there's so many things to be
31:55
grateful for and, like, he'd rather have
31:58
a daughter that does porn than a
31:59
daughter that's dead basically. You
32:01
know what I mean? And he had a
32:03
lot of guidance from his friends and he had a
32:06
buddy that also had lost
32:08
a daughter to cancer, and it was horrible.
32:10
And he said that to my dad. He was like,
32:12
listen, I wonder if my daughter was
32:14
banging the Dallas Cowboys. the entire team.
32:16
Mhmm. It's like, I just would rather have her
32:18
back here. Yeah. And my dad was
32:21
like, you know, I think that that really,
32:23
like, affect him. Yeah. That's a powerful
32:25
message. Yeah. And so he he
32:27
finally came to me and it was
32:29
just like, Amazing after
32:31
that. Yeah. And then he was
32:33
probably once you had him back in your
32:35
life, was he then able to see
32:37
that, like, maybe the industry
32:39
wasn't as harmful as we've all been
32:41
taught that it is. Yeah. Well, because I
32:43
I told him, I made it very clear to him,
32:45
like, I'm safe. I'm happy. I'm not on
32:47
drugs. Like, I'm listen. I'm not perfect.
32:49
I was having fun, but I wasn't
32:51
like, you know, my dad looked
32:53
at porn like, the Linda lovelace days.
32:56
Mhmm. You know, where, like, the women were
32:58
getting traffic and beaten
33:00
and and, like, you know what I mean? I'm
33:02
getting kinda, like, treated like shit.
33:04
Mhmm. Those are like the the the different
33:06
era of porn that's it's not like
33:08
that anymore. And I explained that to him, like, everything
33:10
is so careful and documented
33:12
and, like, to by by
33:14
a very specific book and, like, the women in the
33:16
industry are, like, respected to
33:19
a extremely high degree. Like, we are
33:21
treated like Princesses and, like, they
33:23
love us and, like, nobody and once again,
33:25
like, it's not perfect, but
33:27
I had never had a bad experience.
33:29
you know, I was always treated with the utmost respect by
33:31
everyone and I told my dad that, I was like,
33:33
I'm safe, I'm good, I'm happy -- Mhmm. --
33:36
just be grateful for that. Like, I'm financially
33:38
stable. Things are good. And then he ended
33:40
up being you know, he now he's
33:42
my manager. Like, he manages all my
33:44
finances. He helps he does, like, all my
33:47
bookkeeping and, like, we're like a like a
33:49
team.
33:49
Wow.
33:50
So it's super cool. Yeah. So it's
33:52
super cool. So he you know,
33:54
it worked out and my dad is,
33:56
like, completely he doesn't even think of porn
33:58
as porn anymore. He literally says it
33:59
like, P0RN Like, it's just a
34:02
word. Like, I don't fucking care. You know? He's
34:04
like, just as long as you're happy, you're making money,
34:06
things are good, like, I'm good. You know? Yeah. I
34:08
mean,
34:08
I think once people start to see,
34:10
like, how the industry works. Like and and
34:12
there's,
34:12
like, different size of the industry. I mean, you
34:14
mentioned, like, the Linda lovelace days. Mhmm. And
34:16
I definitely think that the industry
34:20
is like, significantly better now. There's just better structure. It's
34:22
a more I mean, it's
34:24
ironic that this has made the industry
34:26
better, but
34:27
it's more corporate than it used to be, which is, like, good in
34:30
some sense and bad in another sense, good in
34:32
the sense that, like,
34:34
corporations
34:34
really like,
34:37
structure and they like to play by the rules, and
34:39
they're always, like, terrified of getting sued.
34:42
Yeah. So I think they're just,
34:44
like, let's do all of these things to make sure that,
34:46
like, everybody's
34:46
No one's gonna sue us. There's no liabilities.
34:49
Right. Right. So that's where, like,
34:51
the boundary checklists come in and stuff like that
34:53
and, like, the talent, liaisons, and all the stuff that we
34:55
have on set now. Yep. But even like
34:57
back then, I mean, there's definitely tons horror stories. But I
34:59
also think, like, it's not as bad
35:01
as people like
35:02
to think it is because
35:05
you know, the mainstream media has been
35:07
feeding the idea of porn as
35:09
a violating act, as, you
35:12
know, exploiting women, as
35:14
trafficking women, forever.
35:16
You know? So that's the narrative that has been
35:18
fed to the world --
35:20
Sure. -- for all eternity. And the only
35:23
reason that I feel like it's even changing
35:25
now is the accessibility from things like
35:27
social media, from
35:30
platforms like podcasts
35:32
and stuff, where performers and people who
35:34
work in the industry can actually come forward and say,
35:36
like, this is actually my experience and
35:38
this is my life. Yeah. You
35:41
know, because it's like, why don't you allow sex
35:43
workers to speak for themselves and tell
35:45
you about their experience? Or
35:48
you know, I mean, you
35:50
might find people, like, documentaries specifically. No
35:54
shade. There's
35:56
a documentary crew hair
35:58
filming today, but they're gonna, like, penis
36:00
in
36:00
an amazingly wonderful light.
36:03
cherry
36:06
picking the worst stories that they can
36:07
find, like, they're the
36:10
performers who had a terrible experience. And those
36:12
experiences are valid too, by the way, I don't
36:14
ever wanna suggest that
36:16
they're not. Yeah. There's all different kinds of
36:18
experiences, but they love to, like,
36:20
ignore the people who are,
36:22
like, actually, this has been a great experience for me because,
36:24
like, I don't know, people wanna turn
36:26
on the TV and they wanna hear
36:28
about these.
36:29
horrible stories and they wanna hear
36:31
about this shocking, like, you
36:33
know, porn life. Mhmm. Like,
36:35
when people
36:36
were, like, actually, like, made me financially independent. I
36:38
bought a house. I bought a house for my dad. Yeah.
36:40
Like, I'm managing my finances. I'm actually,
36:42
like, doing really well. I'm not exciting to
36:45
people.
36:45
No. I mean,
36:46
it's it's that's so true. It's
36:48
people they
36:48
want to have a stigma
36:51
against it because some people
36:53
just cannot wrap their
36:55
mind around how someone can be so vulnerable in
36:57
that position and how you can literally get
36:59
stripped down, get naked, and have sex
37:01
in front of a camera and put it out for the
37:03
world to see, like, it's it is mind boggling -- Mhmm. -- to people. And
37:05
I get that. I understand if I wasn't
37:08
in porn, I'd
37:10
be like, oh, god. I probably could never do that, you know, in another
37:12
life. But so I can see
37:14
why people like find it so
37:17
mind boggling, but there
37:19
are people that are fucking down for
37:21
it and are cool enough to do it and so
37:23
like be grateful for that instead of like attacking us
37:25
about it. Be grateful that we
37:27
are here to provide you the shit that you need to have an
37:30
orgasm. Yeah. You're welcome.
37:32
What the fuck? instead
37:36
of attacking me, yes, my dad loves me. And also, you're welcome.
37:39
Like, fuck. You know,
37:41
I also think about how the fact
37:43
that the two things that the
37:45
best in media is sex and fear. So if
37:47
you combine those two -- Yeah. -- into,
37:50
like, a tragic
37:50
story of, like, a fallen porn star, it's,
37:52
like, Mm-mm. The
37:55
rating. Yes. It's so
37:57
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40:34
you became
40:35
extremely popular. You were a
40:37
browser's
40:37
contract star. You had you
40:40
were the number one on
40:42
pornhub. How did how did, like, all
40:44
of that fame affect you? I
40:46
don't really like to think
40:47
that it affected
40:48
me in
40:50
a
40:52
in a
40:53
cocky way because I have pun intended.
40:55
Sorry.
40:55
Sorry. I couldn't help
40:58
you.
40:58
No. I I remember,
41:02
like, telling myself that in
41:03
the beginning, like, if shit ever popped off and, like, I
41:05
did something happen, like, I'm gonna stay humble.
41:07
I'm gonna stay cool. I'm not gonna
41:09
let this, like, destroy
41:12
my personality because I am bubbly
41:14
and I'm fun and I like to laugh
41:16
and joke and be myself. And so I'm
41:18
like, I'm not gonna let this destroy me.
41:21
And so that was
41:22
it was a conscious effort. It did get
41:24
to my head a couple of times. I'm not gonna lie.
41:27
There were sometimes where I'm like, fucking amazing. What
41:29
all you want? What all you envision? Like,
41:31
you know, but, like,
41:33
III was
41:35
always humbled by you
41:38
know, something. There's always something that, like, reminded
41:40
me, okay, you're still human. We're all human.
41:42
Chill the fuck out. You're you're
41:44
just it's just pouring real
41:46
you know. But I
41:49
think that staying in
41:52
my element
41:54
to staying home and living in San Diego with my family
41:56
staying around my friends and like
41:58
only going to work and back.
42:02
really helped because it kept me grounded and it kept me
42:04
in a place of
42:08
familiarity, like
42:09
that reminds me of who I used to be
42:11
before this. Mhmm. Being around all my friends that I
42:13
grew up with and being around
42:15
my family who raised me and, like, whatever
42:17
else, that's what kept me grounded. Mhmm. I feel
42:20
like there's a lot of people in
42:22
this industry that lose sight of that. You
42:24
know, they
42:26
they end up, like, like, moving to LA or moving to Miami or
42:28
Vegas or whatever and getting caught up in
42:30
the scene and getting blowing
42:34
so much smoke up their own ass. They forget who they really are and
42:36
they just become like And
42:38
I always thought that was
42:39
so nasty, you know. I always looked at it
42:41
and I'm like, oh, stop. Like, don't
42:43
be that guy. Don't do that. Don't don't be that girl. Like, don't don't be
42:45
that person. Mhmm. Just don't. Yeah. Like, you're really
42:47
you're not, like, don't
42:49
stick your finger up
42:50
your own ass and sniff it. Don't be that weird out. Yeah.
42:52
You know, I don't know. It just it always, like,
42:54
grossed me out. So I think that
42:57
by keeping myself grounded with the friends that would like
42:59
be like you're you're still that weird ass bitch
43:02
in middle school that like did that
43:04
thing and like remember who
43:06
you are you know, and, like,
43:08
that really really helped. I'm, like, okay,
43:10
that's right. I'm not, like, this little
43:12
princess that -- Mhmm. -- you
43:14
know, people try to
43:16
make me out to be or, you know, I don't know. I
43:18
just I just tried to
43:20
I just
43:20
tried to keep that that person inside of
43:22
me that I was when I was a kid, when I was in
43:25
high school, when I was in middle school, like, just try
43:27
to stay humble. Yeah. You have to stay humble. You
43:29
cannot let this shit consume you. advice
43:32
to new girls. Like, be getting
43:34
in. Like, stay humble. Stay
43:36
yourself. Like, don't let this shit turn you into a
43:38
monster because
43:40
it's
43:40
not I think it's also,
43:42
like, having family
43:44
and friends you knew from before there
43:46
to ground you, I think is such
43:48
an important -- Yeah. important thing to
43:50
have and not everybody has that. You know what I mean? Yeah. So I
43:53
can see how that would be difficult.
43:55
Because, yeah, I mean, for me,
43:56
like, first of all, I I
43:58
really don't think I'm a big deal anyways, but, like, if I
43:59
started to feel that way, you
44:02
know, like, my siblings are
44:04
just, like, Shut up.
44:06
Shut the fuck
44:06
up. Yeah. No. Totally. And, like, if
44:08
if and, you know, obviously, there are people that
44:11
get in this that don't have that
44:13
-- Yeah. -- availability in their life to
44:15
keep them, you know, regrouped and grounded
44:16
and remind them who they are.
44:19
So, like, I think the best thing
44:21
to do in that sense is to pick your friends
44:24
wisely. Mhmm. Choose people in
44:26
your life that
44:28
make you that make you feel
44:30
safe, that don't make you feel like you need to be
44:32
someone that you know you're not -- Mhmm. --
44:34
because that can happen too. Like, you can get
44:36
caught up in the wrong group of people --
44:38
Mhmm. -- in this industry that will, like, turn you
44:40
into literally a fucking
44:42
monster. Yeah. I don't know. I've seen it
44:43
time and time again, and that was
44:45
just a motivation and people always hold me like when I
44:48
would walk on set. They're like, we love your energy.
44:50
We love you. You're so goofy. You're so fine.
44:52
And like, I wanted
44:54
to always keep that in people's minds. I don't ever want people to think that
44:56
I'm just this,
44:58
you know, amazing --
44:59
Yeah. Yeah. -- you know,
45:01
I don't ever want that. that's not
45:03
who I am. I'm -- Right. -- kinda grainy like, I like to sit in
45:05
my sweatpants and and gourd
45:07
on burritos and fartened
45:09
my couch cushion. Like, I'm not, like Wow. It's
45:12
hot. Do you know what I mean? Yeah. I'm not
45:14
this, like I don't know. So
45:16
I just try to keep
45:18
that stable because it can get to your
45:20
head. Yeah. It can. It can
45:22
it can get you -- Yeah. -- keep up
45:24
really hard. You've mentioned that you regret getting your
45:25
boobs done. Oh, yeah. Do you wanna
45:28
talk about it? Yeah.
45:29
Let's talk about it. I
45:32
forget you're like These
45:34
won't be hitting the first. These stupid
45:36
things. Yeah. Well, so I got my boobs
45:38
done in twenty twenty. January
45:41
of
45:41
twenty twenty, and I
45:43
got them done after my
45:45
mom passed away. And
45:47
I wanted something for myself. My mom
45:50
and I were supposed to get boot jobs together. It was like,
45:52
aren't gonna be our thing. And, like, I was
45:54
gonna, like, get hers because she has her
45:56
boobs done or had her boobs done, but
45:58
she ended up never
46:00
getting
46:00
them, like, redone. And I was like, it's okay
46:03
mom, like, gonna get them together and then she ended up passing away and
46:05
I was like fuck this. I'm gonna go do this for me and
46:07
I'm gonna do it for my mom as well. Like,
46:09
I was like, the grieve
46:10
it was the grieving that took over.
46:12
You know, grief makes you do crazy
46:14
shit. Yeah. It really does. And the
46:17
grief drove me into
46:19
making really weird,
46:22
miss stake that I can't turn really Like,
46:26
I I marketed on being all natural. I
46:28
marketed on
46:30
having little boobs. They loved my boobs. Nobody ever had shit to say
46:32
about me -- Mhmm. -- because I
46:34
I stayed true to myself, you know,
46:36
and I lost sight of that.
46:40
because
46:40
I was depressed and, like, grieving, and I
46:42
needed to, like, feel like you're not going to
46:44
make you feel better. I wanted something to make me feel better,
46:46
and I felt like it was time. I'm like, I've been
46:49
in the industry five Like, I've had a
46:51
great career. Like, I've done
46:53
a lot. Like, I have a flashlight.
46:55
Everything's cool. Like, I I did all the
46:57
things. It's cool. you know, so
46:59
I, like, justified it in my head.
47:02
I got them done. Low and behold, the
47:04
doctor, when I went to my
47:06
consultation, she ends up putting telling me she wanted to
47:08
put a textured implant inside of me. And I was like, fuck
47:10
no. I don't want a textured implant. Like, that
47:12
sounds so weird. She's like, yeah. Your boobs are kinda
47:14
kinda, like, staying in place. And I'm like, no. I want them
47:16
to be, like, bouncy and
47:18
natural and like, I don't want them to look
47:20
weird. You know? The day
47:22
of the surgery, they fuck me
47:24
up. They give me some drugs. They give me
47:26
something to, like, ease the nerves. And she comes in while
47:29
inflect up and talks me into
47:31
getting that textured implant. When I
47:33
didn't want it,
47:36
at the
47:36
consultation, when I was willing sound, she talked me into
47:38
it when I was
47:39
fucked up on drugs, lo and behold, it turns out she
47:41
gets a commission from, like,
47:44
upselling those. took a
47:46
completely advantage of me. I I'm,
47:48
like, two weeks into healing from my boot
47:50
job, and someone, like, sent me a link
47:52
that the specific implant that I had
47:54
inside me was being recalled everywhere for causing cancer and all this crazy shit.
47:57
I'm like,
47:59
great. that's fucking awesome. Like, thanks a lot.
48:02
Thanks for fucking nothing, you know.
48:04
So I ended up having to give it six
48:06
months. You have to wait six months until you can
48:08
get them
48:10
redone. And I
48:10
excuse me. I wait six
48:13
months,
48:13
I get them redone. And then the doctor
48:15
that I got them
48:18
redone, why puts them in too far apart and one
48:20
of them was like, they were like going like
48:22
that. They looked fucked up. And
48:24
I'm like, oh my god, this is getting
48:26
so much worse. I'm like,
48:28
I'm literally, like, digging myself deeper
48:30
into a fucking grave. I'm like, this is
48:32
horrible. And so and then anytime
48:34
I would lay down, they would,
48:36
like, literally slide into my armpits. I was just all sternum and
48:38
implants. It was so
48:40
bad. It was so fucking ugly
48:42
eyes. Oh, they
48:44
look like shit. They were horrible. And I was just like, this is my worst
48:46
nightmare, but whatever, I got obviously got to get
48:48
them fixed. My body is
48:50
reliant on
48:52
my life. Like, I have to look good and I have to feel good. So
48:56
January of
48:57
twenty twenty one, I
48:59
get them redone again. I get them done by a doctor up
49:01
here in LA. And
49:04
he does a fucking lobotomy
49:06
on them. He does everything he could. He did the
49:08
best that he could. But
49:10
because I have a wide
49:12
breastplate, I didn't know
49:12
this before. No doctor told
49:15
me about this. So implants
49:17
naturally will sit farther apart on
49:20
me because that's how my breast plate is.
49:22
Mhmm. I didn't you know, and the doctor told
49:24
me that like they're gonna you're gonna have
49:26
some rippling in the middle, but they're gonna be closer together. They'll be normal ish.
49:28
And I'm like, yeah. Yeah. Just do it. Fix them,
49:30
please. You know? Mhmm. he
49:33
fixes them to the best of his ability. He
49:35
puts, like, what's called an internal bra so they
49:37
don't, like, slide into my armpit because that's where
49:39
my pocket sits. It's, like, farther
49:42
away
49:42
-- Right. -- part.
49:44
He
49:44
puts the internal brine. Everything's cool,
49:46
but, like, now my I
49:49
have you know,
49:50
fucked up scars. This one
49:52
was sewed in too tight. So my nipple,
49:54
like, goes down like that.
49:56
My rippling is just ridicate. I mean, you
49:58
could probably see it. Like, I've
49:59
got rippling. Right? You didn't
50:02
show me
50:02
after. Okay. I no. No. No. No. I
50:04
just you can't show me on YouTube because I
50:07
was pull my tits out. Okay. I mean, you don't talk. I have no problem
50:09
with you pulling your tits out. Just for clarification.
50:11
I just don't wanna get deleted on YouTube.
50:13
That's all. Gotcha. you. But you can
50:15
totally show me
50:16
up. But there's there is rippling in the middle and
50:18
then ripples on the side. I see, like, a little bit. I
50:20
think that's of what you're talking about. Oh, yeah. You
50:22
you could definitely it. you know, and it's
50:24
it's all I see in the comments now. It's like, I'm just
50:27
like, don't I've the biggest mistake
50:29
I ever made in my in in porn
50:31
was getting my boobs done. Nobody
50:33
wanted me to get my boobs done. Everybody
50:35
warned me. All of my girlfriends that I
50:37
had in porn that got
50:38
their boobs done. They told me not to
50:41
do it. And I was like, no. No. No. No. like,
50:43
fuck you fuck you. Like, I gotta I gotta learn
50:45
my own way, you know, and I learned
50:47
my own way. Yeah. I
50:50
can relate I had I had a bad liposuction experience,
50:52
which I'll explain to you later. So
50:55
but yeah. So I've
50:58
been there bad decisions. Mhmm. Yeah.
51:00
Horrible. Plastic Surgery
51:02
Man. I
51:02
know. Yeah. But you
51:05
can also, like, I didn't do my research, really.
51:07
I thought I did. Yeah. I thought I did my
51:10
research. I mean, I did, but I didn't
51:12
do enough. Yeah. No. Well and,
51:14
like, that's the thing too is I have to live with my
51:16
mistakes now. Mhmm. And I have to try
51:18
and just pretend, like, it is it's it is
51:20
what it is. you know, and if you
51:22
don't like it, then don't jerk off to me. I'm
51:24
sorry. Like fuck you. You know?
51:26
Yeah. You might the real one stick around
51:28
and that's cool. Yeah. But I regret
51:30
it. Okay. So stop yelling at
51:33
me. Fuck. I know
51:35
they look like shit. you know.
51:37
So okay. So let's let's move
51:39
on to
51:39
another wonderful happy topic.
51:42
You struggled with drug addiction in the past.
51:45
and you've been very open about that. Can you
51:47
tell us a little bit about that experience?
51:50
Mhmm.
51:51
Yeah. So after the passing
51:53
of
51:53
my mom, I started
51:56
experimenting with
51:59
like, Percocets and Xanax because it was
52:02
literally the only thing that was, like, numbing
52:04
the pain. because, I mean, once again,
52:06
grief makes you do crazy
52:08
shit. Right? And not only did my mom pass
52:10
away, but also we went right into
52:12
COVID quarantine, so I was
52:14
alone. I had
52:16
to
52:16
grieve alone.
52:18
In quarantine, in my home,
52:20
I had some connections to
52:22
get some something to entertain myself.
52:25
I was fucking bored I'm like, it was boredom, it was grief,
52:27
and it was fuck it.
52:29
You
52:29
know? So so many people started
52:32
drinking, like,
52:34
really. Actually, So you know I'm sober and I'm in like a twelve step program. cool.
52:36
so many people that I knew from
52:39
like the program relapsed
52:42
during COVID.
52:42
Yeah, I can see I can completely get it
52:44
because that's how I started. So
52:47
I ended up just
52:49
here and
52:49
there would dabble with, like, I would get the little
52:52
bars like the Xanax bars and I would take, like, a
52:54
quarter here or quarter there
52:56
every other day, like, just whenever I was
52:58
feeling crazy or it and depressed
53:00
or whatever. Like, I would just piece
53:02
off
53:02
of Xanax and just eat it. Mhmm. And
53:04
then I started mixing them and, like,
53:06
taking Xanax with Percocet and finding that
53:09
was fun shit. I'm like, this is cool. I
53:11
like this. And then I started, you know, and
53:13
then, you know, half of a or
53:15
quarter of Xanax turned into
53:17
half of Xanax. And then that half a
53:19
Xanax turned into, you know, a whole fucking
53:22
bar and, like, it just progressed
53:24
over time. Like, over a
53:26
course of some months, you know,
53:28
and then I bought my house,
53:30
and I was so stressed out.
53:32
Like, I did not realize the animal
53:34
that I was taking on when I
53:36
bought my walking house. I was on I'm on, you know, 383 and a half
53:38
acres of land and I have,
53:40
like, gardeners and, like, all this
53:42
shit happened when I first bought it. My water
53:44
heater fuck got fucked up
53:46
and something wrong with the plumbing. Like, it
53:48
was right out of the gate. Like, there was problems. And I
53:50
was just, like, already on drugs,
53:52
but I wasn't, like,
53:54
on drugs a lot
53:54
yet. Mhmm. And then I had a falling
53:56
out with a girlfriend of mine. She
54:00
did
54:00
something
54:02
awful
54:02
and it just disturbed
54:04
me and
54:05
I started using harder. And so
54:07
that's when my I spiraled. I
54:09
spiraled out of drugs are
54:11
out of control on drugs. After that, I was
54:13
sticking them up my ass. I was snorting them.
54:15
I was swallowing them. I can stick
54:18
them up your ass.
54:20
can. like, pills. Mhmm. I assume that it
54:22
that's faster than It is. It
54:24
hits
54:24
quicker. Yeah. You wanna
54:27
wet it I'm not gonna give advice, but
54:30
I suck it up
54:31
my ass. And I was also taking them
54:33
and I was up to, like,
54:35
three to four bars a day. Like, it was
54:37
really bad. Wow. And
54:40
one day, I I guess I was
54:42
blacking out and, like, doing crazy shit. I
54:44
did my very live on only
54:46
fans like fucking
54:48
blacked out and dilated.
54:50
And I had just had an abortion,
54:52
so I was wearing a fucking diaper
54:54
And I was, like, dancing on my only fence shaking my
54:57
diaper ass, blacked out of my mind on
54:59
drugs. Like, it was horrible. It was
55:01
so fucking bad. and
55:04
everyone called me the next day and they're like, dude,
55:06
get your shit together. This
55:08
is not okay. I'm assuming you
55:10
deleted
55:10
that off of your iPads. I
55:13
mean, at least I will say, like, at least that's on a
55:15
platform where, technically, you can't download content.
55:18
Yeah. So to be honest, people screen record
55:20
shit, but
55:22
still and then you have control over it. So it can't wait. Yeah.
55:24
So It was it
55:25
was totally fine. It was it was I
55:27
live with my mistakes. I'm not perfect, and it
55:29
is what it is. But I
55:33
I remember one day
55:34
my
55:35
my best friend came over and she
55:37
was like, listen, because she's in the twelve
55:39
step program. She's Five five or six years clean and
55:41
sober now. Mhmm. So she's a sponsor. She's
55:44
amazing. She's fucking
55:46
kills it.
55:47
She came over
55:49
and she's like, listen. It's time. Like,
55:50
you are blacking
55:51
out, you're calling people and threatening them,
55:53
like, you're doing crazy shit, like,
55:55
you're you're fuck. like, it's time to
55:58
and I'm like, okay, fine. You know, I finally hit a point where I was like,
55:59
okay. I agree. You
56:02
know? And so I stopped
56:04
taking them. And didn't
56:06
taper off of them properly, which
56:08
was really bad. I thought that I thought that if
56:10
I didn't know you did this shit takes, like,
56:13
weeks. to, like, when it comes to, like,
56:15
opioids, you have to yeah.
56:18
Fortunately, I mean, I don't get me wrong. I've taken
56:20
my share of Percocet
56:22
and and fucking Xanax and all that shit. But I never
56:24
took, like, so much of it because
56:26
alcohol was always my thing. I would take, like,
56:28
like, a little bit with alcohol when I had it
56:30
available. Yeah.
56:32
But, yeah, I'm just from my experience in rehab
56:34
a couple times. I can tell you that
56:36
kicking that is is really rough.
56:39
didn't That
56:40
was the first time I ever, like,
56:42
got flipped on drugs like that. You know?
56:44
So I I didn't know. She told
56:46
me she's like, you have to tape her and
56:48
these are gonna be your withdrawal symptoms and whatever. And
56:50
I remember the first day.
56:52
So what I consider tapering off
56:54
was just give it three days. I
56:57
was like, I'm gonna go from three bars
57:00
to, you know, one bar
57:02
at night and then one bar in the
57:04
morning to
57:04
half a
57:05
bar at night, half a bar in the morning
57:07
to a quarter at night, and then a quarter in
57:09
the morning, and then just I feel like I'll be done
57:11
in, like, three days. I'll be done in, like, three days, and it's
57:13
gonna be chill. you know, and so I ended up
57:15
no. No. No. No.
57:16
That was that was not the that's not how
57:18
to do that at all. So I remember the
57:22
first day of tapering
57:22
off. She came over and she was, you
57:25
know, like, she checked on me and she's, like, how you
57:27
doing? Blah blah blah. And, like, I started going crazy.
57:29
I wouldn't do a drug psychosis. I
57:32
was having hallucinations. I was starting to have, like, drug
57:34
dreams. I remember I woke up from
57:37
a dream.
57:37
Really fucked up dream. It was
57:39
so vivid and fucked
57:41
up. And I remember waking up and opening
57:43
my eyes and there was like a drone.
57:45
It was literally like a drone disguised
57:48
as like an it almost looked like R2D
57:50
two's like,
57:51
head. It was, like, blinking red
57:53
and white or red and blue, and it was, like,
57:55
had, like, a white dome. And I, like,
57:57
opened my eyes and I swear my cat
57:59
saw
57:59
it too. My cat the time was, like,
58:02
sitting there, like, flicking her tail and staring at it.
58:04
So I fucking lost it. I literally
58:06
threw the blanket over my head. I was, like, no,
58:08
it's not real. Like, I'm it's like,
58:10
I freaked out And I've
58:11
tried to fall back and sleep and then the next day was even more excruciating. It was like the
58:13
tremor started kicking in, the
58:16
sweating, the
58:19
the
58:19
intrusive thoughts, the hallucinations.
58:21
I was hearing shit in the walls, whispers, and
58:23
the ceiling fans. Like, I was going completely
58:26
fucking
58:27
crazy. And after by the third
58:30
day, I I was
58:31
gone, like I was done. I couldn't I couldn't
58:33
do it anymore.
58:36
It was agony. It was literal physical,
58:38
emotional, and spiritual agony.
58:40
Like, I could not bear it for
58:42
another second
58:44
longer. Mhmm. And
58:44
I remember my brother came and stayed with me that night because I could not
58:47
be alone. I was seeing shit. I was hearing shit.
58:49
I was going fucking nuts. and
58:52
I looked it up and it just says, like, you gotta just tough through it, just get
58:54
through it, get through it, and I'm like fucking
58:57
going crazy. Right? So
58:59
my brother sleeps over and he sleeps at the end of
59:01
my bed on the floor, like on the floor
59:03
in my room, and
59:04
I didn't sleep all night. And it's,
59:06
like, all night, I stayed up all night, like, doing the shit in bed. Like, looking
59:09
at the walls, like, looking at the ceiling
59:11
fan, like, the walls were talking to me.
59:13
I was just fucked up. And
59:15
by four o'clock in the morning, I still hadn't slept. I'd
59:18
been doing this. Like, all night tremors.
59:20
Like, I was, like, twitching. Like, I couldn't
59:22
breathe my stomach. It
59:24
felt like, someone had a fist around my stomach and was,
59:26
like, pulling it out of my belly button. It
59:28
was horrible. I had diarrhea.
59:30
Like, it was fucked
59:32
up. Yeah. by the
59:33
time four four thirty in the morning hit,
59:35
I call up my dad and left him
59:37
a voice mail because he didn't
59:39
answer you sleeping. And I'm just balling my eyes. I'm like, you need to take me
59:41
to rehab. I can't do this. Like, I need help. Like, please,
59:44
like, call me as soon as you can.
59:46
It's like a medical
59:47
detox. It was horrible. Yeah.
59:49
My dad is calling me back within, like, a
59:51
matter of minutes and
59:54
he said, okay, let's
59:57
let's call you know, call the the same doctor that detox my mom
59:59
when she
59:59
had cirrhosis. And
1:00:02
I
1:00:02
called him up, thank god he answered, thank
1:00:04
god he's a freaking early riser
1:00:07
because I was I couldn't take another forty
1:00:09
five seconds of this shit. And
1:00:11
he ends up sending
1:00:14
his nursing crew, like, up to
1:00:16
my house, within by, like, eleven AM that
1:00:18
day. And they
1:00:20
the same nurse that detox my mom,
1:00:22
she saw me and she just and,
1:00:25
like, down balling her eyes out. She was just,
1:00:28
like, devastated. And it started obviously,
1:00:30
I'm, like, so fucked up with my withdrawal
1:00:33
don't do this right now, please.
1:00:35
Oh my gosh. Like, we started crying my
1:00:37
dad. Just like, can you guys fucking pull
1:00:39
it together? Like, let's
1:00:40
get this shit done. Like, she's fucking
1:00:42
cries. you know,
1:00:43
so we take me into
1:00:45
the room.
1:00:46
We start the detox. I did an NAD, like
1:00:48
a fifteen day NAD detox. And
1:00:50
the moment like, I mean, within the the first
1:00:53
I swear
1:00:54
forty five seconds of this
1:00:55
shit hitting my
1:00:58
system, I like,
1:01:00
I
1:01:00
could
1:01:00
breathe. Like, my my
1:01:03
my voice,
1:01:03
like, stopped cracking. Like,
1:01:06
I could I just felt so calm. I felt so good. It was already
1:01:08
starting to, like, you know, my tremors went away.
1:01:10
Like, everything
1:01:12
went to happy
1:01:14
medium. And she put a little bit of out of van on my drip to, like,
1:01:16
taper me off and it was, oh my god, I felt
1:01:18
amazing. Mhmm. I haven't felt that kind
1:01:21
of relief and forever.
1:01:22
You know, I felt like it was like a decade I was feeling like this. And
1:01:25
then I, like, took
1:01:26
a nap. I remember just like taking a
1:01:28
nap and I closed my eyes and she
1:01:32
gave me some crackers because I had to take my meds. She gave me I had, like,
1:01:34
a a row of meds, like -- Mhmm.
1:01:36
-- of just random shit, Galva
1:01:37
Penton, you name
1:01:40
it everything. and she gave me some crackers because I hadn't eaten in, like, I think
1:01:42
something crazy, like, six days or something. Like,
1:01:44
I was not eating, like,
1:01:46
I had to have something in
1:01:48
my stomach. And
1:01:49
she ends up I end up just falling
1:01:52
asleep. I don't remember, like, when I fell
1:01:54
asleep, but I just
1:01:54
remember, like, falling asleep. And this is probably,
1:01:56
like, two, three minutes into
1:01:59
the detox. And
1:02:00
I wake up from my nap and
1:02:02
they're sitting on the edge of the bed and they're talking
1:02:04
about seizure, the seizure. You know, like, they're they're, like, talking about
1:02:06
some seizure. I'm, like, what seizure? Who had a seizure?
1:02:08
My dad was, like, honey, you had a seizure.
1:02:11
And I was, like, what?
1:02:12
why And
1:02:14
he was like, yeah, you fucking
1:02:16
you I thought we thought you were gonna die. Like,
1:02:18
we literally thought you were dead. Yeah.
1:02:21
and the nurse didn't know what to do. She wasn't equipped.
1:02:23
She had never dealt with something like this
1:02:26
before and my dad didn't
1:02:28
know what do. He's, like, the hands of my daughter's life this
1:02:30
woman's hands who's fucking losing it
1:02:32
right now. Like, he she literally was, like,
1:02:34
on the phone with
1:02:36
the ambulance. She's like, we lost
1:02:38
her. She's gone. She's gone. Like, help me come
1:02:40
quick. Like, my my face went
1:02:42
black. Like, blue. Like, I was
1:02:44
my pulse was gone. Like, my body went cold. Like,
1:02:46
it was fucking done. And I guess I had a full blown
1:02:48
grandma seizure, the shock to my system,
1:02:50
from the detox, and from the withdrawals. Like,
1:02:52
it was just too much. My body,
1:02:55
like, lost it. but I felt fine. I woke up and I'm
1:02:57
Your guys are fucking tripping. Like, what are you talking about? I just
1:03:00
had a nap. I just sent me a little nappy nap.
1:03:02
What do you
1:03:04
mean? Like, everything's cool, but
1:03:06
my dad was, like, going taking me on this,
1:03:08
like, emotional journey that he just went
1:03:10
through. Yeah. How he literally thought my his
1:03:12
daughter was gonna die and, like, all this crazy
1:03:14
shit and think on him, okay.
1:03:16
Everything's cold, but, like, that
1:03:18
was the beginning to my
1:03:22
surprise. Not sobriety, but I've been clean off drugs. Yeah.
1:03:25
Two
1:03:25
the years
1:03:27
now? Almost years. So
1:03:29
what was that?
1:03:30
He was like, yeah, it's twenty twenty,
1:03:31
so I'm almost two years now.
1:03:33
Congratulations. Thank you. I still drink. I'm
1:03:35
not perfect. I like to I'm not
1:03:37
an alcoholic though. I'm
1:03:39
drug addict. So it's it's
1:03:41
different for everybody. It's like, you know,
1:03:44
whatever whatever your thing is.
1:03:46
Only you know -- Mhmm. -- what you can
1:03:48
handle and what
1:03:48
you can't. Exactly. So it was
1:03:51
it was very interesting. And
1:03:53
then
1:03:53
my girlfriend started taking me to AA
1:03:56
and it just wasn't for me -- Mhmm. -- but
1:03:58
it helped it helped me
1:03:59
to take the right steps
1:04:02
into the
1:04:02
right direction of, like, not
1:04:06
you know,
1:04:06
staying away from drugs and I felt very held in that moment because
1:04:08
I felt like I had community and support
1:04:10
and -- Mhmm. -- I was kinda going
1:04:12
through my own shit with it,
1:04:15
you know. And so it was very nice
1:04:17
in that moment to, like, be understood. Mhmm. But I
1:04:19
just I just didn't go through,
1:04:21
finish my stuff. and stuff, I was just
1:04:23
like, this isn't for me. I'm I'm okay. I'm very
1:04:26
comfortable with what I'm doing. So Right.
1:04:28
Right. Yeah. I mean, that's that's
1:04:30
all it matters. As long as you feel good,
1:04:32
Yeah. So so let's
1:04:35
talk about your mother
1:04:37
because she's come up so
1:04:39
many times. I've seen the posts that
1:04:42
you have made about
1:04:44
her, you know, on social media about losing
1:04:46
her. And I'm always, like, so
1:04:48
incredibly moved and touched by that
1:04:50
for two reasons. You know, first of all, you said
1:04:52
she's not. She was an alcoholic -- Mhmm. -- which
1:04:54
which I am. I've recovered alcoholic
1:04:56
or recovering this. I wanna say, sure. something
1:04:58
I struggled with my entire life. So, like, that very much hits home for me. Mhmm.
1:05:00
And then just, like, I have, like, kind
1:05:02
of a complex relationship with my
1:05:04
mother -- Mhmm. -- who, like, sometimes
1:05:07
I wanna kill her. Mhmm.
1:05:09
And then other times, I'm just, like,
1:05:11
you
1:05:11
know, the thought of, like, losing her is
1:05:14
just, like, very
1:05:14
painful for me. So -- Mhmm. -- so me tell me
1:05:17
about your mom. So
1:05:18
we'll start
1:05:21
from the beginning. kinda break it
1:05:23
down. So my mom, when I was a little girl, she was my
1:05:25
best fucking
1:05:26
friend. She was literally
1:05:28
like barbie. was
1:05:30
my favorite toy. Like, I loved her so
1:05:32
much. Like, I wanted to grow up and be just like
1:05:34
her. Like, she was the most beautiful thing
1:05:36
I've ever seen in my entire life.
1:05:39
I remember, like, when she's picking up
1:05:41
from school and her convertible and her hair's
1:05:43
in a high pony and she's just so
1:05:45
hot and young and happy and,
1:05:47
like, life hadn't eaten her alive yet. You know, she was
1:05:50
that's how I like to remember her when she
1:05:52
was doing her mascara in the car
1:05:54
and listening to third eye blind and she
1:05:56
was just happy, you
1:05:58
know. And
1:06:00
so when I was a kid, that's how I always
1:06:02
attached myself to her. It was just this
1:06:04
beautiful, happy,
1:06:06
vibrant, amazing human being
1:06:07
who just loves my brother and
1:06:09
I endlessly in, like, anytime she could
1:06:11
have like twenty dollars in
1:06:13
her bank account. and she would
1:06:16
spend fifteen of it buying us some
1:06:18
toys and whatever we need. If we wanted that
1:06:20
stupid toy at the shelf, she would get it.
1:06:22
Mhmm. And she would starve
1:06:24
herself to make sure that we were fed. Like, she was very just
1:06:27
just amazing. She was
1:06:29
an amazing mom. And she would play
1:06:30
with
1:06:31
us, laugh with us, huddle
1:06:33
with us. Like, that's why, like, the
1:06:35
dynamic between her relationship with me and
1:06:37
my relationship with my dad was so different because
1:06:39
my dad's a little more,
1:06:41
like, like,
1:06:42
militant
1:06:42
and structured and, like,
1:06:45
he wants things to be by a
1:06:47
certain book and, like,
1:06:49
he did his very best, and I love
1:06:51
him so much. Like, I love them both in their
1:06:53
own way. Mhmm. But when I was a little girl,
1:06:55
my mom was, like, my soul mate.
1:06:58
Mhmm. You know? And
1:07:00
so
1:07:02
as time progressed, you know,
1:07:04
my mom, after she divorced my dad,
1:07:06
she spent some time being with anybody
1:07:08
and she took care of my brother and I. It was just the three of us
1:07:10
and everything was cool. We lived in our crappy apartment
1:07:12
and, you know, we eat eggs for dinner
1:07:14
and, like, we were kind of broke, but
1:07:17
it was it was fun because we had each other and, like,
1:07:19
that's how I, like, always remembered her.
1:07:22
And so she ends
1:07:22
up getting remarried to the
1:07:25
sky. married for about
1:07:26
three years when I was in third
1:07:28
grade. That's when they got remarried and
1:07:30
I spent fourth grade and fifth
1:07:33
grade. living with
1:07:34
my stepdad and my new step siblings,
1:07:36
and that was cool. And, like, we had
1:07:38
a lavish lifestyle, lived in a big beautiful home, and
1:07:40
we thought that this was gonna be our new
1:07:43
life. And when
1:07:44
I was in fourth
1:07:45
grade, my mom's mom passes
1:07:48
away from cancer completely
1:07:50
destroyed
1:07:50
her. It destroyed
1:07:52
her. but it didn't break her
1:07:54
down really yet. And then
1:07:56
a year later, her dad
1:07:58
gets
1:07:58
diagnosed with
1:07:59
cancer. And then during that
1:08:02
same month, her
1:08:03
husband decides that he wants to
1:08:05
divorce her and
1:08:06
file for divorce. So my mom was
1:08:08
just like, nope. I'm done. fuck
1:08:10
everything.
1:08:10
Fuck life. Fuck my kids. Fuck everything. Like, I'm
1:08:12
done. I can't, you know, and I I feel for
1:08:14
her. If I was in that position, I
1:08:18
couldn't
1:08:18
even imagine how I would react. You know, but as a child, I didn't understand.
1:08:20
I didn't understand the magnitude
1:08:22
of her pain. I was just
1:08:26
like she's being selfish, she's not taking care of my brother and I,
1:08:28
you know, so we hands up we end up
1:08:30
moving out and she gets alimony and
1:08:34
they file they they get the
1:08:35
divorce, and my mom ends up taking her bringing
1:08:37
her dad down to die in her house
1:08:39
from Arizona. And
1:08:41
it was
1:08:43
horrible. I mean, she
1:08:45
became a raging, and I
1:08:47
mean, a raging fucking
1:08:50
alcoholic during that time. consumed
1:08:52
her irreparably -- Mhmm. --
1:08:54
completely. And once again, as a child,
1:08:56
I didn't understand. Like, I just I didn't know
1:08:58
what to say. I didn't know what to
1:09:02
comfort her. I just looked at it like my
1:09:04
mom is I'm losing my mom. You know, she's gone. What do I do? Like, how
1:09:06
do I bring her back? And I thought maybe this was just a phase
1:09:11
and it wasn't it wasn't a phase. She was literally this
1:09:13
was gonna be her undoing. And
1:09:15
she ends up fucking
1:09:18
dating out of all the revolving door of men that
1:09:21
were going in and out that year, like when
1:09:23
I was in sixth grade, all these men that
1:09:25
were coming in and out of my mom's
1:09:27
lives. I mean, she was fucking around with
1:09:29
all these disgusting guys going to the bars. Like, I missed a ton of school. It
1:09:31
was a really rough year. she
1:09:35
sticks with this one guy who's the
1:09:38
fucking
1:09:38
most disgusting thing
1:09:40
I've
1:09:41
ever seen or met in my
1:09:43
entire life ends up being her
1:09:45
husband, she ends up marrying the fucking
1:09:48
guy, and we end up moving into a shitty situation. And
1:09:50
I had to, like, kinda grow up in this shitty
1:09:52
situation. you
1:09:55
know, and I was exposed and subjected to
1:09:57
a lot of just dark shit.
1:09:59
My mom
1:09:59
never stopped drinking. She
1:10:02
kept drinking harder. He encouraged it.
1:10:04
he didn't care, like, what happened to
1:10:06
my brother and I. Like, it was very, like, tumultuous and volatile and
1:10:08
nasty and, like,
1:10:11
grimy I I clinged to my dad, started
1:10:13
clinged to my dad a lot more, like, through middle school and high school
1:10:15
because but
1:10:18
but it was devastating. for
1:10:20
me because my mom was always that princess, that beautiful person, that
1:10:22
person that I looked up to, and I'm like, you're amazing. You're my soul mate.
1:10:25
I love you. Like,
1:10:27
come back to me. but she never
1:10:29
did. She just kept going darker and darker and more and
1:10:31
more spiraled out of control. And so
1:10:33
and so I kinda had to
1:10:35
start distancing myself and and rejecting
1:10:38
her whatever love she had
1:10:40
left for me. It was
1:10:42
really hard because I didn't I
1:10:44
couldn't keep torturing myself like this. I'm like,
1:10:46
my mom's not coming back. She's done. And so
1:10:48
I started being nasty
1:10:49
to her, mean
1:10:51
to her like fuck
1:10:54
her. You know, look what she's done to me. Like, look what
1:10:56
she's done to my brother and I, like,
1:10:58
I hated her for so long. And
1:11:00
the and You know,
1:11:02
I spent the rest of my time with her
1:11:05
fucking hating her and treating her
1:11:07
like royal dog shit. Anytime she
1:11:09
was drunk, which was all the
1:11:11
time she would you know, try to love me and
1:11:13
hold me and I would always have to, like, get the fuck off of me. You're disgusting.
1:11:15
You know? How old
1:11:18
are you at this time? high school. So, I mean, you're already going
1:11:20
through that stage too that -- Yeah.
1:11:22
-- like, you yeah. Unfortunately, everyone
1:11:24
goes to that stage like in high
1:11:26
school where they kind of, like, hate
1:11:29
their parents sorta anyways -- Yep. -- because, like, you're establishing your
1:11:31
independence and there's that whole, like, weird stage. And so in
1:11:33
addition to that, you
1:11:35
have your mom drinking and
1:11:38
behaving in a way which is more horrible and modifying anyway.
1:11:41
morning and more frank
1:11:42
So that's like But it was
1:11:45
just also the fucking husband that she was with. I mean, he was just
1:11:47
fucking I don't mean, that's a whole another episode, but
1:11:49
he it was
1:11:52
just awful. And
1:11:54
by the time I graduated high
1:11:56
school, my mom's
1:11:58
in my relationship was already,
1:12:00
you know, it
1:12:01
was already, like, kind of buried. It
1:12:03
wasn't there wasn't much left. I loved my mom. Loved her. Still loved her
1:12:07
very much, but It's like she was just
1:12:09
too toxic for me. Mhmm. You know? And I kept thinking, nope. This she's gonna change.
1:12:11
Something's gonna
1:12:12
happen. She's gonna
1:12:15
have a breaking point. I'm just
1:12:17
gonna keep my distance. I'm gonna keep torturing her. You
1:12:19
know, like telling her to fuck off and come talk to me when
1:12:21
you're done drinking and being a piece
1:12:23
of shit. You know?
1:12:25
you know and
1:12:26
low and behold without even
1:12:29
knowing it, like, I was wasting
1:12:31
the only years that I had
1:12:33
left with
1:12:34
my mom. Mhmm. You know? And
1:12:36
I
1:12:36
by the time I was twenty five years
1:12:38
old, she dies. And I didn't get to last time I
1:12:41
last things that I said to her was
1:12:43
your fucking joke, and I I
1:12:46
fucking hate you.
1:12:48
Literally, verbatim, you're
1:12:48
a fucking joke. I fucking hate you. Go
1:12:51
fuck yourself. Like, it was the
1:12:53
last things that I said to her,
1:12:55
and I can never take that back. I can never
1:12:57
write that wrong. I can never
1:12:59
she died with
1:13:01
that in her heart. I'm sure she
1:13:03
it's I'm sure it's not that's not the case. I
1:13:04
know she knows that I love her, and I know
1:13:06
she knows and I'm I make I make living
1:13:10
amends to my mom every day. Now, like, that's how I bond
1:13:12
with her. That's how I live out the
1:13:14
rest of my lives and my life without
1:13:16
her here with me is I
1:13:18
make a living amends to her.
1:13:20
I never treating another person the
1:13:23
way that I treated her ever again. Like, someone's disposable, like, someone is,
1:13:27
you know, if
1:13:28
someone is just a monster and they're not
1:13:30
just going through something, I took her completely for granted. And it
1:13:34
the it destroyed me. It was the worst
1:13:36
pain I ever felt in my
1:13:38
fucking life. I don't know you don't
1:13:41
know pain until you lose your mom or
1:13:43
your dad. It's it's awful I
1:13:45
can't even imagine losing my dad. But, like, my mom that was horrible because it was I
1:13:48
can never i
1:13:51
can ever I
1:13:52
I can't I couldn't I couldn't take
1:13:54
that back. I have to live with that guilt. I have to live with that regret, you know, and it's you
1:13:57
know, and I
1:13:59
I
1:13:59
don't know.
1:14:00
It's it
1:14:02
is it is hard. It is hard. It's
1:14:03
still hard every day, but, like, I have made so much peace with
1:14:05
it because she was such
1:14:07
a tormented soul She
1:14:11
was so so
1:14:11
miserable and so tormented and
1:14:14
so sad and so
1:14:16
lost. She wasn't
1:14:18
serving herself anymore. She wasn't serving anybody, not herself, not her
1:14:20
family, not her kids. She's not that
1:14:22
she deserved to die, but
1:14:23
she's really better off
1:14:25
where she's at. She's happy
1:14:28
now. She's at peace. She doesn't
1:14:30
have to be in pain anymore. And that's fucking awesome.
1:14:32
I'm happy for her.
1:14:34
I really am. And like, I
1:14:37
I think about that all the time.
1:14:39
I'm like, if you were still here right
1:14:41
now, like, you would
1:14:42
be pissing everybody off. Yeah. You know? So
1:14:46
I'm so
1:14:46
happy for you. Yeah. But
1:14:48
it
1:14:49
fucking killed me. It from months,
1:14:51
as you imagine, it was it
1:14:53
was awful. You know, regardless of
1:14:55
how her and my relationship was, that does not mean that the the
1:14:57
sadness goes out the fucking door. Yeah.
1:14:59
Does not mean
1:15:01
that I don't still love her. you know? And like I had people telling me that
1:15:04
they're like, yeah. Well, your relationship with your mom
1:15:06
wasn't that good anyway. So why are you even
1:15:08
sad? And
1:15:10
I'm like, are you fucking
1:15:12
kidding me right now? Like, who
1:15:14
the fuck are you to tell me
1:15:17
how to grieve over my mom
1:15:19
regardless of what we went through. Yeah. You don't know, like, why
1:15:21
our relationship was bad and why we're
1:15:23
at this point. Like,
1:15:25
you don't know shit You know? And so
1:15:27
there was nothing that anyone could say. No
1:15:29
right thing. No wrong thing. Like, I just
1:15:31
shut everyone out and did drugs and
1:15:33
was just like, Bye. Yeah.
1:15:36
No. I mean, god, I feel for
1:15:38
you so much because it's the hardest
1:15:40
thing to love an alcoholic. Mhmm.
1:15:42
because the things that we do to ourselves
1:15:44
and the way that we hurt the
1:15:46
people who love us,
1:15:47
sounds like, god.
1:15:48
It's really hard. That's, like, one of
1:15:50
the worst things about being an alcoholic. It's, like, not even I
1:15:53
mean, the way that I hated myself because
1:15:55
the pain that I saw. Like, that
1:15:57
I felt I feel I
1:15:59
bleed
1:15:59
through, wow. I didn't
1:16:02
think I was gonna get this bad. No. No. No. No. But so I just want you to know that
1:16:04
I know that your mom
1:16:06
loved you, and I think that you
1:16:10
should not feel guilty about pulling back the way you
1:16:13
did because it's not fair to
1:16:15
put you through that. You
1:16:17
know what I mean? And, like, that
1:16:19
is to have to watch your mom, like, slowly kill herself
1:16:21
like that. That is fucking horrible.
1:16:24
And
1:16:26
and you're not responsible. It's not your responsibility
1:16:28
to, like,
1:16:28
stick around and, like, we're
1:16:31
only human. Right? I mean for
1:16:33
you to be constantly, like, loving
1:16:35
and forgiving and, like, understand that she's
1:16:37
just going through something because it's like it's so
1:16:39
hard to understand, like, even when I was like in the
1:16:41
depths of my alcoholism, I was like, why
1:16:43
am I doing this myself.
1:16:46
Mhmm. Like, I remember
1:16:48
so often I would, like, make
1:16:49
myself so sick and I would, like,
1:16:51
throw up in
1:16:52
the toilet. Mhmm. and I'd be, like,
1:16:54
sitting there and I'd flush the toilet and
1:16:57
I'd feel, like, as I'm watching, like, my
1:16:59
vomit go down on the toilet, like, that's
1:17:01
my life. right now. And I know this
1:17:03
and I'm who love me and
1:17:05
like, my family didn't know
1:17:07
what to do. they'd
1:17:11
never, like, no one in my
1:17:11
family's ever gotten sober. You know, there's no recovery in
1:17:14
my family at all, and I have a lot of
1:17:16
alcohol. It's especially on my dad's side.
1:17:18
Mhmm. And they just
1:17:19
didn't know what to do. And and
1:17:21
I had no reason to be an alcoholic. Like, your mom went
1:17:23
through a lot of stuff, you know. She had
1:17:25
a lot of pain,
1:17:27
and I can And in some sense,
1:17:29
it feels like that makes more sense. But for me, I had like this wonderful gifted life. I had
1:17:31
like people who loved me. I had like
1:17:34
all of these things and I still
1:17:36
like chose
1:17:37
to, like -- Yeah. -- do, you know, just to I mean, I was, you know, I was at
1:17:39
a state where I was
1:17:42
drunk all the time. I
1:17:45
was drunk in the morning. I started
1:17:47
drinking in the morning, and I drank twenty four fucking seven. Mhmm. And had the shakes, and
1:17:49
I my liver was
1:17:52
swollen, like, I
1:17:55
was in bad bad shape.
1:17:57
Mhmm.
1:17:57
So and
1:17:59
so I just I
1:18:02
don't
1:18:02
know. It's the worst part is the thing, is the pain that we put other people through. And
1:18:05
I hope that you
1:18:07
don't feel like you
1:18:11
did anything bad by feeling
1:18:12
the way that you did. You know what
1:18:14
I mean? Because, like, how how
1:18:15
could you be any
1:18:18
other way and you were
1:18:20
young? you know, and to to it's
1:18:22
just like It's so hard. It's I I don't. Like I like I said, I
1:18:25
have made so much
1:18:27
peace with it.
1:18:29
beyond, like,
1:18:29
the amount of spiritual growth that I have gone through
1:18:32
and the amount of digging that
1:18:34
I had to do and the amount
1:18:36
of
1:18:39
therapy I had to go through to get to this point where, like, I
1:18:41
could talk about it and be, like, it's okay.
1:18:43
Like, I'm okay. You
1:18:46
know? Like, I don't I don't, like, freak out
1:18:48
and break down and cry about it anymore
1:18:50
because, like, it's it broke me
1:18:52
so
1:18:54
hard that I don't have
1:18:55
anything left in me to give. Yeah. I
1:18:58
I broke it already. I broke myself
1:19:00
enough, you know.
1:19:02
Now it's now
1:19:04
I'm I'm
1:19:04
grateful for the relationship that I get to have
1:19:06
with her now -- Mhmm. -- because she's not she's
1:19:09
she lives in
1:19:12
my heart she lives in my spirit, she
1:19:14
lives in everything that is me, and she always sends me little signs, she sends me songs, she
1:19:16
turns
1:19:19
on my there's all kinds of weird shit that I've I like to connect myself
1:19:21
to her too, knowing that she's still here. She
1:19:23
visits me in my dreams. Like, there's
1:19:25
so many things that I
1:19:27
get to speak experience for her and knowing that she's
1:19:29
still here with me, and we get to bond, and we get to smell love each other. We don't have we're
1:19:32
not biting,
1:19:35
we're not She's not drinking in front of me. She's
1:19:37
not doing anything that's pissing me off. I just get to love her now. Yeah. I get to live
1:19:40
with so much
1:19:42
love for my mom and that
1:19:44
is something I've never experienced before. So it's a blessing.
1:19:47
Like, I'm happy
1:19:47
for that. I'm grateful for
1:19:50
that because I would have probably not be doing that right now if she still here.
1:19:52
Yeah. I would be, like, in the
1:19:54
fuck you stage still. Yeah. You know?
1:19:59
Just not learning and not
1:19:59
I
1:19:59
learned so much from her death. I
1:20:02
really did. I learned so much about
1:20:04
people and and
1:20:07
and addiction and people's minds and, like, healing and
1:20:09
growing. I learned a lot. I really did. Yeah. And so
1:20:12
it's it's it
1:20:14
really is okay. Like,
1:20:16
And how amazing too just
1:20:19
in comparison that you were able to come out of this and have that perspective and have that
1:20:22
personal and spiritual growth
1:20:24
from such a
1:20:26
tragedy where you look at, like, how your mom got into where she was because
1:20:28
of, like, being surrounded by
1:20:30
a lot of death. And
1:20:33
So it's
1:20:35
just like -- Yeah. -- it's
1:20:37
amazing that you were able to go
1:20:39
the other way and in, like,
1:20:40
a weird way. I mean, that's, like,
1:20:43
the gift your mom gave
1:20:43
you with her death, you know? That she
1:20:46
didn't get to she didn't get to experience.
1:20:48
Yeah. You know, she
1:20:50
she let it break her. Yeah. Life really
1:20:52
fucking ripped her apart. It really did. I mean, she's
1:20:55
beyond her parents dying, going through divorce, like,
1:20:57
all within the same, like,
1:20:59
two years. Yeah. I mean, she was
1:21:01
raped a couple of times. Like, she's been abused. She's been fucked up with life.
1:21:03
Life literally put her
1:21:07
in its mouth. chewed her up and then
1:21:09
shit her out and flush her into a sewage line. Like, she really did
1:21:11
not you know,
1:21:14
she had it rough and -- Yeah. -- that I I think that to
1:21:16
touch on what you said, thank
1:21:18
you for recognizing that because that is
1:21:20
something that I am really proud of is
1:21:22
that I did not let it consume
1:21:25
me
1:21:25
the way that it consumed her because I very well could have.
1:21:27
I have depression. I have suicidal depression. I go fucking crazy.
1:21:30
I have in the
1:21:32
past. you know,
1:21:34
and so that almost took me the way that it took her. Mhmm. But
1:21:39
something something
1:21:41
is on
1:21:42
my side to where maybe it was her that was like, nope. Gotta go through this, but
1:21:44
you're not gonna let
1:21:47
this fucking kill you. you're
1:21:49
gonna be stronger than me. You're gonna be better
1:21:51
than me. You know? And and but that was cool. It was,
1:21:54
like, I looked at it as a cool experience, a learning experience, and
1:21:56
I'm I'll
1:21:58
never
1:21:58
I don't regret it,
1:21:59
you know. I don't regret what I went
1:22:02
through, and I don't regret I don't regret
1:22:04
You know? And I I maybe I had
1:22:06
to go through with with my mom what I went through in order
1:22:08
to learn how to really, truly
1:22:10
love and respect people -- Yeah.
1:22:13
-- you know, and take people not don't
1:22:15
take people for granted, you know, and
1:22:17
and and take it one
1:22:19
day at a time. Yeah. And not
1:22:21
try to change anybody, not try to
1:22:23
control anybody. I tried to control and change my mom, my my control
1:22:25
issues were crazy with her. Mhmm. You
1:22:28
know, I spent all this
1:22:30
time fucking trying to change her
1:22:32
and hate on her and whatever
1:22:34
instead of just spending the time that I had with her, but I didn't know. Yeah. You know, I couldn't have known.
1:22:37
yeah you know i couldn't have known sound So
1:22:40
It's okay.
1:22:40
And I mean, really, like, you know, I mean,
1:22:42
you're a part of your mother and your mom lives on through
1:22:44
you. So, like, maybe
1:22:46
there's that
1:22:47
side of her. that
1:22:50
could have survived through all
1:22:52
that and that's like you. It's a piece
1:22:54
of me. Yeah. Yeah. I agree. I like
1:22:56
to think that. I mean, I Yeah.
1:22:59
And
1:22:59
like I said, that's part of what I
1:23:01
said about making a living immense to her. Yeah.
1:23:03
You know? And
1:23:05
that's that's cool. I'm excited. excited to
1:23:07
keep doing that. Yes. You know, I
1:23:09
wanna make her proud. Yeah. I wanna
1:23:11
make everybody proud. Well,
1:23:13
that's amazing. Kimmy, you're Thanks
1:23:15
for ruining my makeup,
1:23:18
Kimmy. Thanks a lot.
1:23:20
She looked beautiful. No.
1:23:22
Thank god, Melissa's makeup really stay.
1:23:25
I know. She's the
1:23:26
best. Wow. God, I feel like
1:23:28
I just
1:23:30
wanna talk about Dick's to,
1:23:32
like, clearly Wait. Can we,
1:23:34
like Your
1:23:35
grandmother's underwear. Can we talk
1:23:40
about dicks? Someone breaking me
1:23:42
down. Seriously. Let's talk about dicks. Oh
1:23:43
my god.
1:23:47
I'm so sorry. no. I mean,
1:23:49
it was my decision. I was like, oh, okay. Like, her mom died. She
1:23:51
wants to talk about that. This will be great. We'll, like, get
1:23:53
really, like, into it, and it'll
1:23:54
be really emotional. I just
1:23:58
I guess, I didn't expect. I thought I would, like, get
1:23:59
a couple of tears.
1:24:01
I didn't expect my voice to
1:24:03
break. No. Sorry about
1:24:05
that. Wow. We are we are going on almost an hour
1:24:07
and a half. That's amazing. We're killing it. Yeah. Okay.
1:24:12
Well, let's let's wrap it
1:24:14
up because I still wanna do that bonus q and a Yeah. -- with you I can ask you safe questions. Mhmm.
1:24:16
Like who your
1:24:19
celebrity crush is. color.
1:24:22
Yeah. So my god. Please. Let's
1:24:24
like let's
1:24:25
talk about some really, like, not
1:24:28
important shit. Let's do it. Okay.
1:24:30
So but before we
1:24:32
go there, let's obviously wrap
1:24:33
this one out. Can you tell everybody where
1:24:36
they can find you on social
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media? You can find me on social media through
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Instagram and Twitter. My Instagram, I
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have two pages and my original one,
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is at stranger than Granger.
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And then I have a backup
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account, which is at king kimi
1:24:54
Granger. And then my Twitter is
1:24:56
at Kimi Granger, XXXI
1:24:58
think.
1:24:59
Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. XXX
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xxx
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Yeah. Fantastic. And you
1:25:05
guys can find me at holy randal on Instagram
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a. We're gonna do here. Can we thank you so much? This was incredible
1:25:27
interview. I'm very even
1:25:29
though, like, I I'm also
1:25:30
sad. It was amazing and, like, really, really powerful. And and
1:25:33
these are the kinds
1:25:35
of interviews that you
1:25:37
know, for me or, like, the most important because I feel like I walk away
1:25:39
from stuff like this and I, a new appreciation for
1:25:41
my mom and for
1:25:43
life and just new,
1:25:47
like, perspective on on everything. So thank
1:25:49
you for -- Of course. -- thinking me,
1:25:51
like, whoever's person
1:25:52
to.
1:25:53
Fuck. Yes. Of course. Anytime. Yeah.
1:25:55
Thank you. Thank you guys so much for
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watching. We will see you next week.
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Bye. Where I will
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