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We're still in the same house that we bought when
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we first got married. It was supposed to be
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a starter house. And here we
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are 13 years later, still in the same
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house, still in the middle of renovating it.
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I thought we would be done with renovations.
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I thought we would be not living
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paycheck to paycheck. We
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couldn't save $1,000, which is
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pathetic, but we needed the money. I would
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save $100 and something would come up or
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$50 and something else would come up again.
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We could never get past that step. I
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failed our, I
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wouldn't say our marriage, but I failed
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to provide us a life
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that we deserve. Technically, we've made
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it. We're making way
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more than we made when we first got married,
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but we're still in the same place that we
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were 13 years ago, but
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worse. Meet
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Elizabeth and John. They're
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in their mid thirties. They've married for
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13 years with an eight year old
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daughter and they spend way too much.
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They're stuck. They're in debt. They
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admit to being impulsive with their money,
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but they can't figure out what to do to
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make a change. They told
1:22
me in their application that they have a
1:24
10 out of 10 problem and
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that within one year they're going to reach a breaking
1:28
point. But when I
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talk to them, I'm surprised
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at how casual they sound
1:35
about the severity of their situation. Listen
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in as you meet Elizabeth and John. For
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me, Christmas is a huge thing. We're
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huge on giving gifts. We're
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huge on family. We're huge on food. And
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usually Christmas is the time where we
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are Overly
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strapped. We overspend. We
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want to give the best gifts for our daughter.
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Oh, she's our only child. Very
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obviously very special to Ashes
2:07
are Miracle Baby. So.
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We love to spoil her, willing to give
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her from everything she's asking. For that
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usually requires us borrowing
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against every little thing
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we can possibly borrow
2:20
against a good. Ah
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we views v like
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prepay asked like Florida
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and. That all there's the
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whole bunch of them. Were. You you.
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Pay in increments. kind of like your
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credit card, but not really. You're still
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charge interest rate and it's like payments
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and for payments and six months so
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we are used. Those apps basically.
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To find our Christmas this year?
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Or did you get your daughter?
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Fergus? Her
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big gift was a ride on
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pony. I was like five hundred
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dollars so for us that was
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like a huge a minute spend.
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This is one ride on a
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bony. No. No,
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sorry it is a toy he did you
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ride on it. Was okay, like a
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hover board and a pony. Put.
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Together. A Big is a five
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hundred dollar. Only. Hover
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board. I said. That. Pretty
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big sister and we're going on our living
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room right now. There's no place to put
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it. So yeah, like any good, she had
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a big lifts. And. We
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could have bought her. Any
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number of other things off of a. And
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she the been just as happy about it than
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the bony. When. I asked about did
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we really need to spend five hundred dollars
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on a bony. It was.
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I'll make it work. And
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I felt pushed aside. Because.
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What I said just didn't seem to matter.
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How did you decide the financial
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part of that purchase? Like.
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Did you say. Oh, this is how
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much we can afford. Or was it more like. She
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wants this and so we're going to find
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a way to get her that. More
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that, yes. More, I will find a way. I
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will make it work. How did you make it
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work? By
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borrowing against money that I didn't have. Yeah,
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once January rolled around, the payments started
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coming in. And
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once those payments started hitting, I realized
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we couldn't afford those payments, utilities,
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house payments, car payments, all of
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that in one month. So
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then I have a nice
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little system where I'll pay
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this this month, not that, and
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then catch up when I can,
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wherever I can save a few bucks.
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So I have this wonderful, I'll show
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you, little
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diary that I write everything down
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within a two week period that our
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paycheck covers, the bills that are due
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within those two weeks. And
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I just keep track and
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hopefully by the, you
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know, right now we're $200 away from paying off
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Christmas and it's February. If
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you were to describe how that notepad makes you
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feel, what words would you use? Oh,
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anxious for sure. Sad,
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because I have to use it. I
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would say doubly sad because it's
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been going on for so long. We
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started this when we got
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married and I haven't seen
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the end of it. Like I thought this was kind
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of be a stopgap
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for when we started making more money,
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you know, because when we first got
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married, we were dirt poor. We
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were making minimum wage. We had just bought
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a house. We just paid
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for the wedding out of pocket between
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the two of us making no money. We couldn't
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afford to go on a honeymoon. We couldn't afford
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to take vacation days, you know, married
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young and poor. So
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I thought surely by the time we
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get to, you know, our thirties, things would
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be good. be great. And obviously it's
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continued on and on. And here
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we are, you know, in
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our late thirties. It's the same process.
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John, what do you think
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hearing Elizabeth describe the notebook
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and how she manages one
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account to another every single month? It's,
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it's a bit chaotic to me. I've
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always been the more structured person, you
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know, I may not pay the bill
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on time, but it's getting paid this month.
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I would give up luxuries
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or other things to make sure
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that like the electric bill or the gas bill
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or the house payment was paid. It makes
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me sad to see
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how, how much that book
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just beats her down because there's
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times in the book where it'll look like
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we're going to, we're going to finally start
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to outpace it and get ahead.
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But then life and it's funny way, you
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know, comes up and kicks dirt in
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your eye. And you know, we've gotten
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just about there to start outpacing
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it and then we fall
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back into where we were at
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and fall right back into the rut. What
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is your role in the finances in
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your family? All
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support. I started out
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with being the one paying
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the bills because of
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the way that I handled
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money. Our spending
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tendencies started to get away from us and
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it started to frustrate me.
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And so we started to split
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the bills. We started
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to fall into the position then where
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we would get paid and one
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of us would pay all of our bills
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because we got paid. But
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then the other person didn't have money to
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pay their bills that were due because we
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weren't, we weren't really talking about who needed
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to pay what and when our communication
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was just non-existent about what needed
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to be paid. Elizabeth
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said, you know, I'll take it all. Just
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give it to me. I will start doing it.
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And that's when the book started. 10,
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12 years ago. Is
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that correct? Yeah. Yeah. Probably about
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10, 12 years ago. I'd ask questions.
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If we were gonna go do something, I would say,
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you know, hey, are you sure we
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have money to go do this? What
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would she say? The phrase that I
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feared the most, I'll make it work. He
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doesn't see the numbers every day. Like
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I wake up and check
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everything, I'll make
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it work. And when did you stop asking that
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question, John? I never stopped asking. Did you ask
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it about that pony? Oh
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yeah. Okay. What'd she say? I'll make
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it work. Is she making it work? Are
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you making it work? We're
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still here, but no. The
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big clue here is a lot of chaos.
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Chaos in the way that she manages money, chaos
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in the way that they make
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decisions about money, even physical chaos
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in having a huge toy pony
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in the middle of their living room. When you
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think of your money, it's very
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common for people to say overwhelmed or
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reactive, both of which
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are trouble signs. I'd
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like for you to think about something in your life where
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you're really good at it. Might
9:22
be your workouts, your cooking, your job. How
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would you describe yourself? Maybe
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confident, maybe competent,
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maybe calm, relaxed. When
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it comes to your money, think about the
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way that you describe yourself today and
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think about what you might like to describe yourself
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as. For me, the ideal words
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with money might be calm,
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cool, collected, present, safe,
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future focused, even
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indulgent, luxurious, and
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Now, back to Elizabeth and John. I
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don't have any guidelines in the way that I do
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the finance, I guess. I don't have any guardrails.
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I just kind of, whatever
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I can make work, I
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can make work. What do
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you mean make work, though? It's not working. It's
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not working, no. But whatever
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I can pay with what money I have, I pay.
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And if I don't have the money, I borrow. So
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can you say that to me in a complete
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sentence? Because it's not working and it's not the
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money you have. So how do you decide
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if you're gonna buy something? Complete
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impulse. It's, I
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want it, I buy it. Thank you. Now
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we can work with that. Yep. Okay.
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Are you in a better or worse financial situation
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than when you first got married? Worse.
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Because? We're in debt. What
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was the first thing you got into
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that house and
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then car
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or truck? I should say I know
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your feelings on trucks. What
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are my feelings on trucks? It's just an F one 50.
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Oh, just F one 50. All right. You
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need it. You need that. It was used.
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I will use it was used within faithful
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price. Yeah. Uh huh.
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But at the time we probably couldn't afford
14:30
the car payments anyways, but we needed a
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second vehicle and that's what he picked.
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So I needed
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the four wheel drive. Why I
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work in maintenance at
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a retirement community and I need to
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be able. It was during
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the winter. If we get
14:47
like a lot of snow around here, I still
14:50
need to be able to get into the facility
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to clear the parking lot and
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stuff like that. He's also, I will,
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I will give him the benefit of the doubt
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here. He does also have to, when
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other people are snow bound, it is his
15:02
responsibility to go out and pick them up
15:04
because of his job. Because
15:07
of his job. Yes. That
15:09
it falls on the maintenance crew to go
15:13
collect people when they're stuck. Does the company
15:15
pay for that? No.
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On company time. Yeah. But
15:22
they don't pay for the vehicle. He just told them like I
15:25
have that little car. What would they say? I
15:27
don't know. That's a good question. I don't know.
15:30
That's never really come up. It never
15:32
hurts you, right? No. No. I
15:35
need to cut in here. That was a major,
15:37
major clue. Did you catch it? Elizabeth
15:39
and Jonathan just calmly told me
15:41
that he needed a truck, which
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they admit he couldn't afford because
15:46
he has to clean the roads and
15:48
pick up stranded people at work. But
15:51
it literally never occurred to them
15:54
that their job should
15:56
pay for this. This is very common among
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people who grew up poor. work
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in low-wage industries. Basically jobs where
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employees don't have a lot of
16:04
power. The invisible script here
16:07
is, the job tells me what to
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do, and I do
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it. That is the power dynamic. But
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in industries where employees have a lot
16:16
of power, and among communities
16:18
where there's a lot of agency, this
16:21
would never happen. For example, if this
16:23
interview were held in San Mateo, and
16:25
I were interviewing for the job, I
16:28
would literally say, well, I expect you'll
16:30
be providing a work vehicle. And
16:32
they would. Already,
16:34
we can see how they view the world
16:37
profoundly differently. There's
16:39
a lot of passivity, a lot of accepting
16:41
that that's just the way it is. And
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one of my dreams with my book and
16:46
my podcast and my show is to
16:49
show you that you have power
16:52
to change the situation that you are in.
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What's the status today? When do you talk
16:57
about money? I show them my
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little notebook and I show them what
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bills we have due within that two
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weeks. I show him
17:05
which ones we can afford to pay.
17:07
And I show him which ones are getting
17:09
bumped. And what does he say? And
17:12
why? And he says, usually he just
17:15
says, okay. When
17:17
you are going through the process of showing him, what
17:20
are you really trying to accomplish there? I'm
17:23
trying to engage him maybe a
17:25
little more with the finances to
17:28
prove that what I'm doing is
17:30
correct. But no, no,
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he doesn't. He just says, okay. And that's usually
17:35
the end of it.
17:37
Can I tell you, I love talking about rich
17:39
life and personal finance stuff. Even
17:42
I would not be engaged by that. Yeah,
17:45
why not? But I
17:47
did think you were pretty perceptive there.
17:50
But the second thing you said, the way
17:52
that I'm trying to prove to him that
17:54
what I'm doing is right. Yeah.
17:58
Yeah. Because if you were doing it
18:00
wrong, what would that mean? I
18:04
would hope that he would point it out and correct
18:07
it or help give me a better idea of what
18:09
to do. When was the last time he's done that?
18:13
Never. So can I ask again,
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if you were doing your
18:17
finances wrong, what
18:20
would that mean to you? I
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have that
18:27
I'm responsible for putting us in the position that we are
18:29
now. I'm the
18:31
reason we're in debt. I'm the reason
18:33
that we can't pay our
18:36
bills because it's all on me.
18:40
I've failed our, I
18:42
don't know, say our marriage,
18:45
but I've failed to provide
18:47
us a life that we deserve. What
18:51
does that mean, deserve? You
18:56
know, we bought this, we're still in the same house
18:58
that we bought when we got
19:00
first got married. And when
19:03
we bought the house, it was supposed to be a starter
19:05
house. And here we are 13 years
19:07
later, going the same house, bill
19:09
in the middle of renovating it. None
19:11
of the renovations are done. I
19:14
thought we would be in a nicer place.
19:16
I thought we would be done with renovation.
19:19
I thought we would be not living
19:21
paycheck to paycheck. Technically
19:24
we've made it. We're making way
19:26
more than we made when we first got married,
19:29
but we haven't. We're still in the
19:31
same place that we were 13 years ago,
19:35
but worse actually, because
19:37
we're so much in debt. So
19:41
it feels counterintuitive to what I
19:43
thought we would be, where I
19:45
thought we would be. Yeah,
19:48
we're going to have money to be able to what?
19:51
Tell me. Go on
19:53
a vacation on a moon. We've never
19:55
done that ever. What else?
19:57
Tell me. Honestly,
19:59
I don't know. I don't think we've dreamed
20:01
past vacation as far as
20:03
money goes because we're so in debt. I'm
20:06
with her on it. I mean, I would have thought
20:09
since we both started out making
20:11
minimum wage and all we had
20:13
to worry about was making
20:16
sure the utilities were paid. We had gas in
20:18
the cars and our
20:21
home. We're making considerably
20:24
more than we'd made then, but
20:27
we find ourselves in
20:31
the same circumstances, I wouldn't
20:34
have necessarily said that we deserve to
20:36
be better off, but I would have
20:38
hoped that we would have been
20:41
in a better position to just enjoy
20:44
the simpler things. There's a
20:47
recurring theme on this podcast where people
20:49
say what they deserve. And
20:51
usually it's them describing things they
20:53
want. A truck, an expensive
20:55
mattress, all kinds of stuff for their kids.
20:58
I think you deserve to have a good
21:00
education, health care, a safe place to live,
21:03
which is why I vote for progressive
21:05
politicians who want to build more housing
21:07
and expand access to public education and
21:10
health care. But too
21:12
many of us have twisted the concept
21:14
of deserving into random desires,
21:16
which are coincidentally the very same things
21:18
we see advertised all over TV and
21:20
social media. Is it any wonder that
21:23
American consumers love to spend
21:25
the majority of their money and they have
21:27
very low savings rates? Personally,
21:29
I would like you to banish
21:32
the word deserve from your
21:34
vocabulary when it comes to money. You
21:36
and I can set big ambitious goals, but
21:39
if we want something, we have to work hard for
21:41
it. We have to save money. And
21:43
yes, we even have to incorporate a bit of
21:45
luck. And if we are lucky and if we
21:47
work hard and we save money, then we can
21:49
buy the truck or the trip or new clothes.
21:52
In fact, I support it. I want you to.
21:55
But if you begin with the idea
21:57
that you deserve certain things, it's very
21:59
likely that you'll find yourself. in financial
22:01
trouble because you'll add more and more
22:03
things to that deserved category without ever
22:05
focusing on the hard work and habits
22:07
that actually let you comfortably afford them.
22:11
One thing that I hear when
22:13
you describe the situation you're in
22:17
is it sounds like you
22:19
both are passengers on
22:23
the ride of life. It
22:27
feels like it. I
22:29
bet it does. You wake up, first
22:31
thing you do, think about bills.
22:34
Go to work, maybe get
22:36
the paycheck. Think that's not
22:38
even going to cover what we need to. Sit
22:41
down every two weeks, talk about money, but it's never a
22:43
positive conversation. It's never, oh, we're going to save this much
22:45
or we're going to do this. Okay,
22:47
we're going to pay this but not that. Then,
22:50
every so often, spend
22:52
a whole bunch to feel good for that.
22:56
Yep. Very
22:59
accurate. Because we're living
23:01
so down
23:05
on ourselves for weeks
23:07
and weeks at a time. I feel
23:09
like we need to have that spending
23:12
spree or whatever have you by
23:16
that pair of shoes or by
23:18
that movie or whatever
23:21
to make us feel good,
23:23
to feel like we're not complete
23:25
failures at life. Do
23:28
you think you're a failure at life? I
23:30
feel a little bit like it right now. Why?
23:33
Why? Just
23:37
financially, I feel like I've
23:39
failed at providing
23:42
for my family, providing for my daughter. I
23:46
hustle at work a lot to
23:48
try and hustle my way up
23:50
the corporate ladder to
23:52
try and make up for my
23:55
lack of financial sense, I guess you'd
23:59
call it. I try
24:01
and do a
24:04
lot of side hustles. I fail at
24:06
them, but I try. But
24:08
I feel like it's my responsibility to
24:10
fix it. Her work
24:13
allows her to do overtime.
24:16
I mean, they're constantly busy. Even
24:19
if I could do overtime, she's usually
24:21
doing overtime. So our daughter
24:23
dances. So I take her to a
24:25
lot of her dance stuff and I
24:28
try and help around the house, make sure
24:30
it stays picked up and dinner gets made
24:32
and everybody gets to
24:35
eat. And with my
24:37
maintenance background, I fix things around
24:39
the house. Well, that's valuable. Right.
24:43
It is. 100 percent. So
24:47
that's why I took on the
24:50
financial side of it. He
24:52
has his value in the
24:55
household things. And I try and
24:57
use my position to do
25:00
what I can to help with the finances. But well,
25:04
I will say I have tried to make changes. It's
25:06
not that I'm not aware that we're not
25:09
working, but it's not working. I'm
25:11
very aware of it. I'm very conscious of
25:13
it. It is more so
25:15
that I've
25:18
tried many different things and
25:21
I always come back to the notebook.
25:24
What else have you tried? The
25:27
Dave Ramsey, we've done tried
25:29
that. That didn't work. Why not?
25:34
We couldn't get past the first step. We
25:36
couldn't save $1,000, which is pathetic, but
25:40
we couldn't save $1,000. Hold on,
25:42
hold on, hold on. Step one, save
25:45
$1,000. What happened? We
25:49
needed the money. I would save $100 and
25:53
something would come up and the money would be needed
25:55
for something, $20 or $50 and
25:57
something else would come up again. could
26:00
never get past that step because I couldn't
26:02
save more than, you know, 100 bucks. If
26:04
that. What
26:06
does that tell you? That
26:12
we're spending
26:14
too much? John, what do you think? Why
26:18
do you think we couldn't save 100 bucks? We
26:21
couldn't say no to things. It
26:24
didn't matter whether it was something we wanted or
26:27
needed. We
26:29
couldn't say no and we would spend
26:32
$100. The way
26:34
you describe your situation is something
26:36
is always happening to you. It's
26:38
coming at you, a bill, an
26:40
expense. But when I dig down
26:42
into it, a lot of it, maybe not
26:44
all of it, but a lot of it
26:47
is we couldn't say no. We couldn't change
26:49
our own behavior. It's not the world. The
26:51
world is going to always throw things your
26:53
way. We couldn't
26:55
change our behavior. You
26:59
notice that? Yes,
27:02
unfortunately. Yes. I
27:05
have a lot of sympathy for people who
27:07
overspend and it can sound
27:09
infuriating to others to hear people overspending
27:12
when they're in obvious financial trouble. But
27:14
one of the reasons I started this
27:16
podcast was that I want you to
27:18
hear the stories underneath the spending. For
27:21
example, Elizabeth said, we're so down
27:23
on ourselves. Sometimes we need to
27:25
have a spending spree to feel
27:28
good. People are not
27:30
robots. When people feel bad,
27:32
we will do almost anything to
27:34
stop that feeling. And
27:36
the reason I can see this is how I
27:38
was raised with my immigrant parents taking
27:41
us to India every few years and
27:43
studying psychology and persuasion. Now,
27:46
because of that, I also believe we
27:49
can make changes. I believe in
27:51
personal responsibility, but I also
27:53
understand why people make irrational decisions.
27:57
We'll be back after these messages. Ever
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since I started my website in
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Ramit, R-A-M-I-T. Let's
32:06
get back to the show. I
32:08
suspected part of their behavior came from how they grew
32:10
up, so I asked Elizabeth to tell me about her
32:12
childhood. I grew
32:15
up in a very conservative Christian
32:17
family, and I was, I
32:24
rebelled against a lot of the things, and
32:27
didn't end well for me a lot
32:29
of the times. So I
32:31
always felt out of control in my life, like
32:33
I didn't have control over anything. So obviously
32:35
as soon as I
32:37
went to college, I
32:39
immediately got a credit card, and lost control
32:42
of finances. And
32:47
you said it didn't go well for you. No,
32:49
I was constantly in trouble, constantly
32:52
grounded, constantly pushing
32:54
back, constantly fighting, constantly
32:58
being shamed, or
33:00
everything. I
33:03
hate that word. Sorry. It's okay. Let's take as
33:05
much time as you need today. We have plenty
33:07
of time. I'm
33:14
sorry you had to go through this. Nobody,
33:16
no adult, no kid, should
33:18
have to go through that. As
33:21
far as money goes, my
33:23
horrible spending habits, I
33:26
know that I need to do this,
33:28
and I rebel against all rules. So
33:30
I know we need to save, so I spend.
33:34
I know we need to buckle down, and
33:38
do a no-spend month, and
33:42
immediately I can think of five things
33:46
that we need right this second. What
33:48
is that phrase you use to
33:50
explain how you're going to make it all
33:53
work? What do you say? I'll
33:56
make it work. I'll make it work. I'll
33:59
make it work. it work, then
34:03
who do you become? Who are you
34:05
in that scenario where you made it
34:07
all work, despite all, against all odds?
34:10
I'm the hero of my own story. Yes.
34:15
You know. We
34:17
all love to be the hero. But
34:19
in your case, you're the hero of
34:21
a story you've created, where
34:24
the hero only buys one
34:27
more month before
34:30
they have to go back into turmoil again. I
34:36
understand that you speak to
34:39
a therapist. Yeah. I
34:41
would imagine this is one of many
34:43
topics you've talked about. Oh, for
34:46
sure. Okay, good. Good. I'm glad. This is
34:48
exactly the kind of thing that I always
34:50
encourage my guests to go. This is something
34:52
that does not get changed in one conversation.
34:54
So I'm very happy to hear. Right. Thank
34:58
you. Yes, thank you. When
35:00
you were younger, what do you
35:02
remember your parents saying about money?
35:07
We never had enough. When
35:09
I was young, my
35:11
mom was working
35:15
minimum wage job. My dad was still
35:17
in college. And then he
35:19
got a job. Things were looking great.
35:21
And then he was laid off. And I think
35:24
he was laid off for probably two years.
35:27
So that was really hard.
35:29
You know, lights
35:31
would get turned off. We would have to move to
35:33
Grandma's house for a week or two
35:35
if we needed to. We could
35:38
make that whole nine yards for
35:40
a while and then things would get back.
35:43
Can I ask a question? Yeah.
35:45
When the times would get really tough, what
35:48
would your parents say to you about
35:50
money, about the things that were going
35:52
on around you? They
35:55
didn't. They would ignore it very
35:58
much so. How would they
36:00
explain that you don't live in your apartment or
36:02
house anymore in your movie to grandma's? We're
36:05
just going to go visit grandma for a while
36:07
or a couple of weeks. It was just, you
36:09
know, a visit. It wasn't, but
36:11
I was aware enough to know what
36:14
was going on. I knew fully why
36:17
we were, you know, at
36:19
that age, I think it was, I was eight
36:21
or nine. I knew the lights
36:24
weren't on. I knew we didn't have electricity. Wow.
36:28
It wasn't hard to put two and two
36:30
together. You know, when the money came
36:32
in, you got what you got because we could finally
36:34
afford it. So get
36:36
it now or forever hold for peace because who
36:38
knows when that's going to come back. This
36:42
is classic from people who grew up poor. Hurry
36:44
up. Eat what you can when it's
36:47
there. Spend what you can when it's
36:49
there because we don't know what's even going to be
36:51
here tomorrow. Yep. And
36:53
you've carried that with you. Very much
36:55
so. Yeah. You have
36:57
to live in that mentality. Hurry up and get what you
36:59
want now when you have the money because, and
37:02
honestly, that's one of the major
37:04
reasons we're in the position we're in. That's right. That
37:06
was extremely insightful. What I love
37:09
about that example is you
37:11
connected it to your childhood, but
37:13
you also took responsibility for your
37:16
behavior. Oh yeah. I
37:19
spend, we spend.
37:22
That is powerful. Yeah. How
37:25
many people in your family? I
37:28
have two younger sisters. So there's three
37:30
girls and then my parents. Yeah.
37:33
And what general area did you grow up in?
37:37
Indiana at
37:39
a small town. So it's like
37:41
already we're in a community
37:43
where probably money's not really talked about with
37:46
kids. No. All right. And
37:49
then it's religious. Okay. And then there's a
37:51
lot of income instability.
37:53
So one, two, three. All
37:55
right. Yeah. Yeah.
37:57
I said my dad was in college when.
38:00
when I was young and he made
38:03
sure that he got his degree in engineering and
38:05
he wanted to make sure that his family was
38:07
taken care of. My
38:10
mom went back to school in her 30s
38:12
to become a nurse. Wow. So
38:15
they made progress,
38:17
you know, as far
38:19
as financially to
38:23
make sure that they could take care of their family. So
38:25
they were very adamant that I get an education and
38:27
that I get a good job so
38:29
that I could thrive
38:31
later in life. Did you
38:33
end up going to college and graduating? Yes.
38:37
I went to college, I did not graduate. But
38:39
you did not? How many years were you there? I
38:42
was there three years. And
38:46
I didn't get
38:49
as much financial aid as I needed and
38:52
I was going to have to borrow a lot more and I
38:55
didn't want to do that. I also
38:57
discontinued my program at the school that I was
38:59
going to. I
39:01
went to school for a library and
39:04
I don't remember the name
39:06
of it. It's library science basically, but
39:08
for education. So it should be
39:10
a librarian in a school. And
39:13
mind you, this is around 2008. So
39:18
at the time, all of the librarians in
39:20
the schools were being laid off. The
39:23
professor that was teaching the program was
39:25
in her 70s and wanted to retire.
39:29
And so they discontinued the program. So
39:31
I left and I did
39:33
eventually go back online, but
39:35
I am literally one class
39:38
away from graduating. Why
39:40
don't you do it? Because
39:44
I'm in $50,000 worth
39:48
of debt for school and I don't want to go into
39:50
more. For me, it's
39:53
almost like, what's the point? Yeah, I understand.
39:55
You're two sisters. How
39:58
are they with money? Yeah, they're both with money. That
40:00
at it as well. Admins would.
40:03
Probably. Same situation the wherein Living
40:05
paycheck to paycheck lots of credit that
40:07
it about your parents are they with
40:09
many know. Ah,
40:12
they were living paycheck to paycheck for
40:14
very long time and and months of
40:16
credit card that I don't know. I'm
40:18
assuming they're much better off. Now all
40:20
of us are out of the house.
40:23
You know that's kind of changes, You
40:25
know, financials? there. He. Didn't
40:27
have a relationship with them. Ideal
40:29
so we do not talk about money.
40:32
Oh. Have you ever. Mouth
40:35
me as a was.
40:39
When. I
40:42
was getting a year when
40:44
we got engaged. Son and
40:46
I ah my dad told.
40:49
Him. That never to let me get
40:51
a credit card because I'm really bad with money
40:53
and so always use cash. Like
40:55
that was his like preface to whether or not
40:57
he could marry me. With
41:00
this he said. Rain me in
41:02
because I'm so bad it. With
41:04
money that that was. the many jokes
41:07
Would he make a that. Is
41:09
if any of. Know it's
41:12
not. it's. It's harmful,
41:14
but. It's. Honest
41:17
man that money's I
41:19
feel. So.
41:22
No I am afraid of the
41:24
other side to they do the
41:26
surveys of allies self sabotage. I
41:29
can things when great and I'm
41:31
doing what I'm supposed to do
41:33
and lead nice self sabotage. And
41:36
a buses are ones where do you
41:38
do it. Why
41:41
do I saw Salvador's. That's
41:44
not something I've. Completely
41:46
figured out. but I'm assuming.
41:49
I just don't feel that they this about ways
41:51
of of. I would assume. That's
41:54
probably true, so I just. right?
41:57
Yeah, because if a
41:59
sad Maybe you just don't care that
42:01
much to change. I've
42:05
fought with myself about that. Thought
42:07
maybe I'm just comfortable living in
42:09
this cycle because
42:11
it's my comfort
42:14
zone. It may suck, but it's
42:16
comfortable. But I know
42:18
that that's not where I need to
42:21
stay. I want to reiterate
42:23
how happy I am that Elizabeth is seeing a
42:25
therapist. Something that I
42:27
want to de-stigmatize. I get
42:29
the chance to spend a few hours with
42:31
couples here, but sometimes there's a lot of
42:33
work that needs to be done with a
42:36
therapist. I'm really glad that Elizabeth is doing
42:38
that. Elizabeth mentioned
42:40
self-sabotage, which happens with her
42:42
finances and I would be willing to bet
42:44
almost certainly other parts of her life. Imagine
42:48
if you grew up in a chaotic
42:50
childhood. Imagine if you
42:52
came to expect chaos, almost like a
42:54
familiar sweatshirt. If
42:57
things started going well, suddenly
42:59
it would feel weird, unfamiliar,
43:01
even uncomfortable. And what
43:03
do a lot of people do in that situation? They
43:06
self-sabotage. They're used
43:08
to a lifetime of chaos or when
43:10
it relates to money, money scarcity. And
43:12
so when they finally see money in
43:14
their savings account, they quickly spend
43:17
it. Because who knows if it'll be
43:19
here tomorrow. Chaos. You
43:21
can see how deep this goes. We'll
43:24
be right back. A
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Now listen to Jonathan describe his childhood.
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Well, growing up, you weren't allowed to have a job. Your
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job was the farm, going
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to school. I
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was born and raised
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on a farm. Midwest, right?
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Yep, Indiana. There
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was always something to do on the farm. My
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dad worked and still to
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this day works 12 to
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14 hours days. And
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I mean, he just, he's
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a workhorse. to
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do stuff. I mean, that was the time that
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we got stuff done on the farm with my
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dad. And we also
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took care of my grandparents farm further
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north. So we would go up there
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on Sundays and do farm stuff up
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there. They had an old
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wood burning furnace. So in the
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wintertime, we'd go up there and we'd chop trees for
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an entire Sunday. Did
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you like it looking back? I enjoyed
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it. Yeah. It was just
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time spent with my dad and that. And
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as far as money went, my parents never talked
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about money. We were poor
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in the sense of having money
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because it was just my dad working and my mom
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stayed home and took care of, I have
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four siblings. And at
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some point in time, she ended up going back
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to work. She was a medical transcriptionist. But
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I mean, as
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kids, you ask for things and it
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was constantly no. What did they say after that?
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We can't afford it. You're just not getting it.
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Oh, okay. It was just a
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hard no. We were poor, but
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there was still food on the table. We still had clothes.
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We had roof over our head. I mean,
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my parents had debt. I mean, I knew they
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had tons of debt because they had five kids
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to put through school, buy clothes
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for and all of that. I
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knew we had debt, but
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I never knew how much. Did
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they help you with your college loans? Yes,
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they did. All of them. How
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much was that? All part? Well, I
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went to a technical school.
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I'd say probably about $25,000 maybe. Let's
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just assume that all your siblings were
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the same ballpark. That's $125,000
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in debt. Your
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elderly parents have helped out
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with and are helping out. That's a lot, right? Yes,
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yes. help the kids
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with whatever they need, no matter
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what. They're so giving of themselves.
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They watch our kids for free. They
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provide us with meat from the farm
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for free. They will pay
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truck payments when we need
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truck payments paid. They will pay whatever we,
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they'll pay for our gas if we don't
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have gas. To
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them, that's their way of showing
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love is whatever they can give
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of themselves, they
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will give. And they have given
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us an immense amount
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of just everything in the
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context of free childcare
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for one is an
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insane financial help. If we didn't have that
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free childcare, we would be in worse position
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than we already are in because
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childcare is insane. Yeah.
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His family, his parents are just
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all about whatever they can do
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for family, they will do. And it's been very
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much of a giant blessing
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for us financially as well
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as, you know. Okay.
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I love hearing that. I think from a family
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perspective, they sound like lovely people. So you
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sound lucky to have them in
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your life. Awesome. We are very lucky. Very
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lucky. I wanted to move to
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the present day and try to understand exactly where
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all of their money was going. I asked Elizabeth
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to give me a tour of their house. Here
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we are in her closet. What do you
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notice? It's literally just
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a hole in the wall, but it's
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jam packed. Go ahead and go in tight on that.
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Let's look at these clothes. Describe them for us, would
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you? I mean,
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nothing very exciting. And this is
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me being, I
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didn't grow up by a lot of options
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when it came to clothes because we
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were poor. So
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clothes are my
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outlet, like where I go crazy
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because I didn't have a lot of options
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as a bigger girl as
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well. So now there's
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a store in my area that carries clothes
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that I actually like to wear that fit
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me. And
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so I overspend there.
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Her clothes are, that's her pitfall.
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That's usually her go to. The
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other day she had a target run and
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she likes to shop
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the clearance stuff. I
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think it adds up faster
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than she realizes at times. Generally
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if we have to do grocery shopping of
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any kind or have to run to the
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store, I do it because I
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go in, get what we need and walk
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out. If Elizabeth
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goes in, she
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thinks of 50 other
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things that we could use, but we don't
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necessarily need in the moment or
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she runs across
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something that she likes that
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we don't need, but it's grabbed
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her attention enough to want it and
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gets it. What do you think about
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that Elizabeth?
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It's accurate. I
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do like the rush of
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finding that good deal.
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I do like to buy clothes for my daughter.
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That's probably where the other big portion of it
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is, clothes for my daughter. What
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do you think of that to cost you? I don't
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mean financially. Probably
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trust. My husband doesn't trust me to go to
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the store on
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my own without coming back with... Five
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other things that we didn't
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need, but I wanted or I wanted
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for the family. The
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way he described it, it sounded like he treated you
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like a child. Yeah, a
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little bit. Do you think you could change it? Yes,
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I have tried to change it in the past. I
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do try to... Sorry,
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not could you try to change it? Could you
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change it? Yes,
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I could change it. If
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you keep going the way you've been
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going with your finances, where
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do you end up? Two years, a
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year from now, two years, five years
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from now? Yeah. In the same position and
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or worse than we are now. You
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have a house, you have a roof. I think
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I saw a TV, piano, got kids
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toys and clothes. What's
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so bad about that? Nothing's
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bad about it. But are
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we guaranteed to keep the house? Are
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we guaranteed to keep all these nice things? As
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bills are paid or not
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paid, there's no guarantee where we
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get to keep the house. We could
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end up living back with his
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or my parents. At
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this point of the conversation, I was getting
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frustrated. The stakes are dire.
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There are bad habits, deep family
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histories, a daughter who's being spoiled,
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debt. And even with all
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this, I was getting very little engagement
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from them. And remember, they called me.
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Do you both realize that you cannot get out of this with
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just one of you doing it? Yeah.
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Because if you did, both of you would
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be engaged in this conversation. John, you'd be asking
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me questions. The two of you be talking back
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and forth. What's
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up with the dynamic here? I'm curious. I
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don't know. Why are you disengaged with money?
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I never really had much
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money. So I never
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really had to. to deal
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with it. I went from having
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a minimum wage job, living with my parents straight
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into us being married. And
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it's all new
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territory for me. And
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I'm just trying to gain footing where I
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can, but
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it all seems like it moves so fast. I'm
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trying to play catch up with the
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things that are going on. John,
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it's been 13 years. And
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I was disengaged for most of them.
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What happens if nothing changes, John? We
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stay stuck in the cycle we're in. Yeah.
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And what happens with your daughter? She
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learns the same cycle. Cause she
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asks us all the time. She'll say, mommy, do
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we have money for this? Or mommy, do we have money
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for that? She
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knows. She already knows what we're doing. So
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the cycle repeats. And
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what do you think happens as she gets older? Just
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continue to get more expensive. Or
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she'll be asked for more things. Fine. What will you two
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be doing when she asks for more expensive stuff? Probably
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saying yes. That's
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honest. I agree. Making it
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work. Making it work. Okay. Making
55:37
it work. She goes off to
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college. Let's say she's in her mid twenties.
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What's happening in her life financially speaking? She's
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going to get a credit card cause she's going to
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want what she wants. And it's
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going to start the process all over again. And
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when she has an eight year old daughter, she
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teaches it to her children. She's
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going to continue the cycle. doing
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it? No, not at all.
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It's really hard, but it can be done.
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I'm not gonna give up on you. Let's do it.
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Yeah. Well, as
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you can tell, we have just scratched the surface. In
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part two of this conversation next week,
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I'm gonna go much deeper on their
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numbers. And I think you will
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be surprised by what you find. Thanks
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for listening to I Will Teach You To
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