"I feel like my mother loves me more than she loves herself, and it makes me feel really guilty. Am I bad if I don't love her more than I love myself?"

Man, turning 30 does a lot of things to you. This quote is from our conversation with Chelsea Hines, a New Orleans-based musician, screenwriter, and entrepreneur (among many other things) and what started off as a conversation about being a musician and what that entails quickly morphed into a conversation about how to build a life that is worth living.

It is increasingly starting to feel as though living your life and having children is mutually exclusive. It's starting to feel like so many of the dreams we once had are unattainable, at least in the ways that we were told to imagine. It is incredibly difficult to balance believing in the individualism and self-reliance that we were taught to aspire to and also build a community where everyone feels safe trusting and relying on each other.

Many millennials, and especially straight women, have gone into the dating pool with a lowered sense of trust that they could ever find a partner who would meet their expectations, and be as reliable as they needed them to be.

But then if you try to be perfectly independent and not rely on anyone else, then what was it all for?

Links:
Chelsea's Healtys Herbal Smoking Blend: https://chelseashealthys.com/

Music is The Beauty of Maths by Meydän.

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