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Welcome to the Imagine Me podcast

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. Imagine me , imagine you , imagine

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us . I am Lily Price

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And I am Tisha Antony .

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Imagine yourself in a space where women

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can laugh and learn to value themselves

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by creating a deeper relationship with the

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divine . Imagine yourself free . What

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do you imagine ? Welcome

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to the Imagine Me podcast . I am Lily

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Price .

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I am Tisha Antony . What's up ?

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Ty , we are sitting here

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on these hair couches . No , it seems

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like yesterday we did our first episode .

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Right Went so fast , I know .

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It went so fast and throughout this

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journey Ty has

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had a roster . Ty

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has been on several days . I've

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heard of other stories about

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Uncle Grandpa's .

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With Amanda Right Right

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, what are they called the ?

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Mandals . Jesus , if anybody's

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wearing mandals , take them off

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. Take them off now

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, in the name of Jesus

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. So

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we're just going to jump in today . How

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do you know he's the one

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? So this episode

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it's not just for the ladies , though

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. Right , it can't just be for the ladies , because

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y'all men got to listen . So you know

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what to do . So you can be the one

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Right , be the one

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. So how do you know he's the one ? I

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?

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have no idea . I

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mean , I know what I want , but I

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know that you

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don't want mandals . No , I don't want mandals

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. Ok , or , uncle Grandpa , go Grandpa

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.

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In case y'all are not sure

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what Uncle Grandpa is , I think

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I have this right he wears mandals

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. He

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doesn't take care of himself physically

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. He had a lot

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and he might not

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really be right

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. You know what I'm saying . Like

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y'all know what it is , we ain't got to break it down . We ain't

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got to break it all the way down . But that's

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Uncle Grandpa . He's just not with

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it . It's like let's go out , let's have a good time

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, and he ready to watch . Mr T , we

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talked about that right OK . Nothing against

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Mr T , though I love Mr T . Did you

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see him during the Super Bowl ? Come on , wow

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, it was pretty good See

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how I jump around . So

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, ty , how do you know he's

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the one ?

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I have no idea , but

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what are you looking for ? I'm

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looking for someone who

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has actual goals and

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actually is working towards those goals . Can

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I cut in real quick ?

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I just realized that we're doing like

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a . We're setting you up

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right now . So who's out there right

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now ? Oh my gosh , yeah , we're giving the

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shout outs . We don't want no Uncle Grandpa's

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up in here . You know what I'm saying . We want the real

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of the real , the cream of the crop . You

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know , we don't want the brothers , we want King Dave

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. No

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, but what is it that you're looking for ? You

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know ?

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Like to talk about . It is kind of like weird

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. It's kind of weird to me because

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, like I know what I want

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. When I am like listening to someone , like

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I'm conversating with someone , I'm like , okay , this

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is what I'm hoping he's gonna say , or something like this

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you know , but like now you like

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put me on blast , like what is that ?

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I always put you on blast .

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That is the relationship that we have

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Putting you on blast

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, I don't know , and that

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can like hold his own and

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it's okay , like with me if

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something happens and I have

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to hold down everything . Like they feel okay

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and they feel secure in that . They don't feel like like

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, oh , I don't feel like the man because

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my woman is taking care of everything

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, right ?

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now , because I feel like sometimes that happens

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, you know .

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Sometimes a woman does have to hold it down , then

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he pick it back on his feet Like I'm not saying

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stay there forever .

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Okay , now we're getting somewhere .

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But I mean , I understand , like sometimes

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things happen .

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Yeah , do you feel like that's a

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struggle ? Or maybe in the past or

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situations that you've been in , or

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even situations now in dating

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, that you feel like you're running into people

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that maybe can't hold their own ?

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Oh no , not really Well

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, a little bit , A little bit some people .

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I just feel like the dating pool right now

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is like it's

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sucky . It is because when I was out there I

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was like large , yes , it's really sucky

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, yeah , but I've learned a lot .

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I've learned a whole lot about myself . You

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know , dating like different people and talking to different

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people , and

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I think it helped me more . So know what

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I'm looking for , what I actually want , right

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Like to explain what I'm looking for is

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kind of like hard .

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I mean we were talking about this earlier today . In

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a sense of , I

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didn't realize when I started

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dating my now husband , there

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was a situation where he had

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to fix like a pipe in my grandfather's

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house . We were talking about this . He

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didn't have to . The pipe was broken in

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my grandfather's house and he

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was like , okay , I'll figure it out . He , like YouTube

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did and

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got all the parts , did everything

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. Had never done this before YouTube

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did , watched it and fixed the pipe

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, then drywalled it Like he did

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it all . And

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I was like , oh yeah , that's why

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I mean we were engaged at the time and I'm like , oh

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yeah , and I had never

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had anyone

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that could just fix things . That

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was so attractive to me . But to

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your point , I didn't know that that was something that

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I wanted , you know

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. It's to the point now where

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I'm so spoiled we were

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laughing about this earlier because my

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older son is like mom , remember when you used to know how

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to do stuff ? I'm

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like what do you mean ? He's like you act like you can't

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carry in groceries . You act like you can't

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do this because , honest

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to God , like my husband goes above and beyond , to

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the point where I'm a little lazy , but

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I think that's okay . You know , sometimes

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, and I didn't realize how much

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that took off

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of me , like as far as like responsibility

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and relief and weight , but

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I also didn't know that that's what I was looking for . You

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know , like I didn't know that that's well

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, I don't even want to say that's what I was looking for . I didn't know

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that that's what God would give to me . You

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know our grant , but that's what he knew that

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I needed . So I

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think sometimes we just have to kind of look

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at ourselves . What are the things that we need

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help with ? And I don't even

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mean financially , but just like

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in life . What do we need help with ? And

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knowing that God is going to bring those

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people in our lives , I mean , is that

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too deep to think ? I

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mean so when you're out there looking or

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dating . I'm not saying you're looking , when you're out there having fun

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, you're dating and

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you don't really care anyway , Really

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care . Sometimes you're like , you know

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, like you flick your hair , I don't really care anyway , but

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I'm out here , but I'm cool , I'm

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cool with it . When you're out there , are

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you thinking how

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can this person benefit or add to

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my life ?

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I do think that and also think how can I benefit

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to this person ?

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Right .

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That is a big thing . If you

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can't add value to my life , what is the purpose

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? We're supposed to add value to each other's life . We're

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not supposed to stay at one

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level and just be there , or one of us is

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here and the other one is down . I

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feel like it should be . I mean , it

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can't be even balanced , but I think it should be some

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kind of balance somewhere .

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I think there's going to be times where they're going to be up

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and we're going to be here and then we have to

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. You know , it's what is it ? Iron

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, sharpening iron ? I feel like that's what relationships

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should be . But I also feel like , as

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women um , sometimes

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we feel like we have to save the day and

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sometimes that can put us in positions

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or situations where

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we're with someone . You

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hear how I said that , where we're with

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, where we are with

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someone , and we feel like we're supposed

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to save them or I can really

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help him . I've been there

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Like , oh , you're just pouring so much

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of yourself into this person and

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then you're empty because they're not adding

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value to you . So sometimes

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what we think okay , well , oh , I can really

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help them . I also feel like

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women . We often

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will pour into other

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people and we'll think , okay , this is my job , this

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is my job , I can really pour into him

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, I can really lift him up , and

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then we pour in so much that our cup

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is empty and they're not pouring

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anything into us , and

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so we have to look at it like are they adding

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? When I told me this years ago

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, I was probably like 20

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. I remember where I was at . I was working

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out the why , because I work out just for

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you guys , just so you guys I work , take

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care of myself . I

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was working out the why . I was like 20 years old

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, I didn't have any kids , and

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I remember this woman saying you have

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to find people that pour into your life or add

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to you . If they're not adding

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to your life , then what's the purpose ? And

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I'm 20 . I don't have any kids and I'm like , yeah , yeah , yeah

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, yeah , but I don't know why . But that stuck with me . I

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didn't take your advice . But

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now I completely understand . If

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someone is not benefiting

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to you , or even while

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you're dating , having that conversation

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of where they want to

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add to your life , I'm

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so blessed . I

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tell women all the time I

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am very blessed and

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I'm just going to put it out there to be the age that I

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was at the time having

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three kids to

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find my husband and

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it just happened so fast Like

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it wasn't this like long journey . We

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talked about this today too . We

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were dating for four months before

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we got engaged , so it was definitely

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a god thing , but I

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knew , based off of the conversation

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, that he could add to my

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life Wasn't about money

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or it wasn't anything like that . It was about

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adding value . Like

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we would talk about doing things together , building

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together . The interests were

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the same . He would involve my children

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in his conversations . You

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know what I mean Different things like that and

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so that conversation with him was

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totally different from

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some of the other guys that I

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had been talking to around that time . So

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that's how I

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knew and I remember

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and I think I've said this in previous

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episodes I remember my

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spirit saying okay

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, don't , don't let this go

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, Don't mess this

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one up . Like , don't let this one go If

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you want to keep dating . Because I was having fun , because

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I know you're enjoying yourself , yeah

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, it's fun . Like when you've been

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in a long term relationship and you're dating

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, yeah , I

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mean , this time of dating right

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now is sucks , but

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there are highlights to it , like even

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just hanging out with your girlfriends and just having a

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time . But I

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knew like , okay , this is fun

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, but I can't lose him . Like

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it was literally one

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of those times in my life where I had to

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make a spiritual decision .

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I want to let it go right now . Let

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the singleness go . I know

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from my heart .

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I want to . It is fun yeah .

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And then I'm

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like , do I just want to like be

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one person again , like just kicking in one

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person and only that's it and

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nothing else , cause I like talking to different

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people , getting perspective about different things

12:23

and I know that changes after

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you with someone . You can't go

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to a male friend and say

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so , like what do you

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think about this ? You got to ask your man because you start asking him

12:34

that he can be like , um right

12:36

, who is this , you know , but I

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like different women and

12:41

men's perspective when it comes to certain situations

12:43

. But I also like am having fun

12:45

, like just dating and talking to

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people and just doing different things .

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I almost felt like , when you said that , though you felt like you were doing something wrong

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, I almost felt like

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I'm kind of feeling like I just want to be

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like what if I just want to be single

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? Like why do you feel like

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that's not okay ? Like I can feel

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the energy , I can feel the energy of you

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thinking that it's not okay . Um , I

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mean .

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It's not that I don't think it's okay . I just never expected

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to feel like this . Yeah , um

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, look at me , it's really is . It's very

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different for me . Um

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, yeah , but

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also I don't know . I want somebody

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Like I want to have a person . I

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don't like being out here . It is fun

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being out here , like kicking in or

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whatever , but I don't want

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to just be out here .

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I feel like I don't have a purpose

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, like really because I've been married for so

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long , so I was just gonna jump in

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. Why do women feel like

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they have to be and I'm not saying this is you

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, but it sounds like that's

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what you're saying Like why do we feel ? It's

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almost like we're created

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to feel in this society that we

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have to be married or we have to have

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someone in order to feel like , all

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right , I made it . You know what I mean

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. Like I made it , I'm married . I found

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a person . Because there

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are women that have been married and are absolutely

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miserable , you know , and it doesn't mean

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that they're there . Like I

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feel like , especially even on the spiritual side

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I don't want to say the spiritual side , the

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religious side of things , not spiritual

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, the religious side of things sometimes certain

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people will make you feel like you have to be married

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. Success is

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marriage . You know what I

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mean . But you see a lot of

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folks that were not married

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that did amazing things

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. Christ , okay

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. Paul , who wrote most

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of the New Testament , right , never

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married . So the things that God

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can do with us as an individual are

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just as wonderful as the things that he

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can do when we're married . You

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know , like I think the

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search for a person is

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sometimes okay

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. You know when I

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do this . You know what that means . Thank you , lord . Sometimes

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we're out here searching for a person when we just

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need to be searching for God and

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in our search for God , he

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, just being so unselfish

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, sends us our person . I

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will say that that's what happened to me . I wasn't

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like I was kind

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of where you're at , I was like enjoying

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myself and

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I was like , oh , it'd be really cool to date this

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guy . I'm calling my friend here

15:29

. Girl , hook that up Like yeah , I'd date him too . I'd hit

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here's another one Like Oprah , you get

15:33

one , you get one . I

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mean I was enjoying myself , but

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I've always said that at that time

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I was really seeking God . I

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was , I was doing my Bible studies , I was working

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out , I was trying to take care of myself . I

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was doing all these different things . I was waking

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up , I was in prayer , I was in my word . I was

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like , okay , lord , and

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he just sent me my husband . He

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just sent me my husband and I

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was scared . I was enjoying it so

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much and I was like , oh my gosh , amazing . I

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never thought I would feel like that . I was

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always a young woman who was

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like I want to be married one day . You know , I was

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raising the church . It was something that I always

16:12

wanted to have . I wanted to be

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married , but at that point in my life

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I knew the next person I would be

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with would be my husband . But

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I wasn't necessarily looking for one

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. I was looking to just

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enjoy myself and

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allow God to show me who I am Really

16:29

, just kind of took the pressure off , like

16:31

I'm not really looking for it . But

16:34

I date you . It is fun , you

16:37

know . So maybe

16:39

if us , as women , start taking

16:41

off the responsibility

16:44

of having to be married , Right

16:48

, yeah , I mean .

16:49

But dating is after being

16:51

married for so long . It's hard . It's hard

16:53

to not feel like that , it's hard to not

16:56

Move in that direction

16:59

.

16:59

Yeah .

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Because when I am dating people , like if I really like

17:02

this person , I Give a lot

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and I think I give too much . Also

17:07

, like I haven't had oh

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, I shouldn't say that . I was gonna say I haven't had anybody

17:12

really take advantage , but I had , like that's you take

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advantage a little bit . Yeah because in

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this I never even knew I was a giver , like

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I'm a giver , like I like

17:22

to give gifts . I didn't know that .

17:24

So I was been out here dating people and I'm like

17:26

when it sounds like you're a player like oh no

17:29

, let's roll a tape back . Yeah , I'm a

17:31

give-all .

17:33

Because when they say like they have something

17:35

, like even just a box of candy , I'm

17:37

like , oh , you know what , when I see them , make sure they have a

17:39

box kid .

17:40

Okay , he's just like simple stuff . That's sweet . I'd

17:43

never think of other people . That's awesome

17:45

. I don't know .

17:48

But like I noticed , I've been doing that a lot

17:50

like a lot . Yeah like down

17:52

to a bag of chip , like it'd be simple yeah

17:55

, little simple stuff like . And

17:57

a lot of people I talked to I know this

17:59

is not normal thing they like good

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and plenty . I love good and plenty , but

18:03

a lot of people don't like his black refresh . You know they

18:06

like it and I'm like it too . So

18:08

you're so connected .

18:11

Oh , that's so crazy . But Ty you're a servant

18:13

. Yeah , so that makes sense

18:15

that you would be a giver because you're of

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service .

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I am , but I just I want

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to learn how to bring it back a little bit , because I

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do feel like I give too much and then

18:25

I get to a point where I'm like we

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talked about before you kind

18:30

of expected people to be like you but I'm not

18:32

saying that I gotta give me anything like physically

18:34

, but I'm like give me something

18:36

back like right , right right like more

18:39

interest or you know , I mean like I don't know I'm

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.

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We just jumped into two other episodes

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on our podcast , so go check us out , hit

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, hit the like button , subscribe , because

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you did go back and talk about the

18:54

value part , right where , when

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you're in these long-term relationships or

18:59

when you are married , when you go out there and

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start Dating , it's like you're out here , you're

19:03

talking to people who actually don't value , even

19:06

though sometimes we don't always feel valued in

19:08

that long-term relationship , for that marriage , we

19:11

still had something like

19:13

that . We were connected to , right . You know , I

19:16

mean there was some sense of value . Might not

19:18

have been the value that God

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wants us to have or that we Needed

19:22

at that time , but it's darn sure

19:24

better than Some of the people

19:26

that you interact with . You know , I

19:29

mean I get that part . I guess I just feel

19:31

like Sometimes

19:33

the pressure is on , it's

19:36

on so tough to just

19:38

be back into that relationship

19:40

or be back with someone

19:43

that it's really hard

19:45

to just Let it go and

19:47

enjoy . You know , and

19:50

then also like you even saying

19:52

that you want to give gifts or you're listening

19:54

to people , you're doing this or you're going I your way

19:56

to do that . I don't think that there's anything

19:58

wrong with that . I just think that it's

20:01

important to identify who to do that with

20:03

. You know what I mean . Like

20:05

how serious is this that

20:07

I'm gonna go out of my way for it , because

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you're gonna find yourself doing that with everybody

20:14

, and Everybody's just not gonna think

20:16

that way , and I just think , as women

20:18

are dating , we need to learn how to create

20:21

balance within our lives . Let

20:23

this man chase us . There's

20:26

, like always a chaser in a relationship . Let

20:30

him chase you a little bit . It's okay , you know

20:32

, but

20:35

I just feel like we always want

20:37

to give so much . We want to give so much

20:39

and then , when we do , we're let down . So

20:43

, going back to how do we know he's the right one

20:45

? What are the things that men

20:47

need to do in

20:50

order for them to even meet our qualification

20:52

?

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You guys , let us .

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Well , I know you have a house

20:58

, so you need stuff fixed . I

21:00

mean , let's think about those things Like

21:02

I don't think women think about stuff like that . Like

21:05

if you have a home or if you have a car , you

21:08

want somebody that's gonna be able to help you with that car

21:10

, right , I'm not talking about the payment . Do you

21:12

know how to put brakes on a car ? Do

21:14

you know how to jack the

21:16

car up and at least put a tire on ? Maybe you know how

21:18

to do the brakes . But can you help me if I get stuck

21:20

? Something Like think about the

21:23

realness of life . I have kids

21:25

.

21:26

Yeah , but I'm used to doing that by myself too . I

21:28

used to do everything by myself .

21:29

Me too , but we're not see you might as well

21:31

, have me doing something . Me too , I'm

21:34

used to doing that stuff too , and I've been in relationships

21:37

where I had to do stuff . I'm putting them drywall

21:39

. There's a man upstairs

21:41

, mm-hmm , but God

21:45

wants to take the pressure off of us . We're

21:47

created to be the nurturers . If

21:50

we are nurturing and cutting

21:52

drywall and

21:54

cooking dinner and working and bringing home the

21:57

bacon , we don't really

21:59

have time to nurture properly . We're stressed out . We're

22:02

full of anxiety . I don't

22:04

think it's bougie for a woman to look up and say she

22:06

wants a man that can act to her life . I have three kids

22:09

when I started dating my husband , what

22:12

type of personality does this

22:14

person have and what can he

22:17

pour into my children ? Well , one , he can

22:19

teach them how to fix things . I have two boys

22:21

. Watch me fix this . My

22:25

husband keep talking about it . Babe

22:28

, you are wonderful . He

22:30

is the hardest working

22:32

man I have ever met

22:35

outside of my day , and

22:38

I didn't even realize that was what

22:40

I needed until it came to me . My

22:43

dad worked from four in the morning , sometimes

22:45

till seven o'clock . He worked on the railroad . I

22:47

grew up with him coming in and out . Sometimes he

22:50

would just be full of dirt , right . That's how

22:52

I see my husband sometimes

22:55

Just full of stuff he

22:58

loves it . He wouldn't feel

23:00

right if he not working . He'll say that I don't feel

23:02

right , I didn't . That's

23:05

the type of person you know

23:07

that I needed in my life . I

23:09

have boys in the home , I own the home , I

23:11

have a vehicle like I'm working all day

23:13

. So if something needed fixed

23:16

or something needed handled , I needed

23:18

someone in my life to handle that . If

23:21

I'm still handling everything , I'm stressed and

23:24

I think sometimes we're looking for that

23:26

. The right one is like oh well

23:28

, he brings me chocolates and he brings me flowers

23:31

. Scratch that . I don't need no

23:33

chocolate and no flowers . Can you put

23:35

the brakes on this car ? Because

23:38

how much did they quote you on your brakes the other

23:40

day ?

23:41

They told me 1097

23:43

on my brakes ? No , who

23:46

in the world is paying that ? No

23:48

, I think they was

23:50

after me because I was a woman .

23:52

But I just saw somebody post today another

23:54

woman , a friend of mine . She posted

23:57

today who knows how

23:59

to put brakes on because they're

24:01

charging me too much . And I was thinking about you , stuff

24:04

like that . If you can find

24:06

somebody to do those things for you , like

24:08

, what a benefit . I don't need your chocolate and your flowers

24:11

and

24:13

speak up for me , stand up for me , you

24:15

know , take care of certain things , like

24:17

make me feel like I'm

24:19

protected . No , I don't want you out here

24:21

fighting people , but I'm talking about being confident

24:24

enough to speak up for our

24:26

home , for our family . You know what I mean

24:28

it feels safe . Yeah , and feeling safe . You

24:31

know , not Mr T . He's cool , though right . Mr

24:34

T is cool , though Pity the fool , not

24:37

Mr T . I don't need somebody kicking A , it's

24:41

just about knowing that you're safe and

24:43

that man is going to handle stuff

24:45

. I

24:47

think sometimes we're looking at the wrong thing . Oh

24:50

he's cute , oh

24:52

he dresses really nice , oh

24:54

he has a nice car . Scratch

24:57

that . What can he do

24:59

for us ? How

25:01

can he add to your life ? And

25:04

, yes , in turn , how

25:06

can I to his Correct

25:10

? So what are you looking for ? Let's

25:15

describe it on the imagine me . What

25:17

does he look like , ty ? Is he tall , dark and handsome

25:19

? He ain't Uncle Grandpa , I know that

25:21

.

25:21

What color he is , I don't know

25:24

how tall or short he is .

25:25

We know you like the

25:28

ginger .

25:28

She likes the ginger . You see her hair . She likes

25:30

that ginger .

25:32

Oh , he's ginger too .

25:35

But no , I mean , it don't matter to me , as

25:37

long as you treat me right and I can treat you right

25:39

and you respect my kids , respect

25:42

our relationship . Who

25:44

would that ?

25:45

Yeah , listeners , let

25:47

us know . How do you know he's

25:49

the one ? What are you looking for ? What

25:52

should women be looking for ? Why

25:54

we're out here in this ? What

25:56

, what , what did Luke is called the

26:00

dating pool . He said there's P in the dating pool

26:02

.

26:02

Pissy pool .

26:03

It's a pissy pool . I paid a fool From

26:05

the spits . Oh what ? Yeah

26:10

, let us know . Let us know your thoughts . Let

26:13

us know what you're looking for . Let us know your

26:15

experiences in dating . Are we off

26:18

? Maybe off ? Maybe we're . Maybe

26:20

the dating pool is what

26:22

it is right now . There's a lot of single people out here . Instagram

26:25

is popping , there's a lot going

26:27

on , so maybe we're missing something

26:30

, but I will say

26:32

, when I was out there , I don't miss it . It

26:35

was fun , but I don't

26:37

miss it .

26:38

And I will say I'm not looking . They're

26:40

gonna just find me .

26:41

I know that's right , and

26:44

if you're a ginger you

26:46

don't have to be ginger , you don't have to be . But

26:48

I'm just saying , her eyes

26:50

do a special thing with her ginger . I

26:52

can see it . She's like , ooh , he's ginger too . Imagine

26:57

me , imagine you , imagine us

27:00

putting God first , allowing

27:02

ourselves to love ourselves enough to

27:04

not settle and

27:07

have expectations . Have

27:09

expectations when you're out here dating

27:11

and we out .