In this episode, Michael reflects on the importance of addressing uncomfortable or challenging discussions. Inspired by a Simon Sinek interview, Michael talks about the need to express fears and anxieties about having these conversations with the person involved. He discusses the significance of maintaining relationships and the potential risks of ignoring unresolved issues. Michael shares personal experiences and highlights the importance of planning and preparation when approaching difficult conversations. They also discuss the potential outcomes and the need to establish boundaries and guidelines for effective communication. The episode concludes with the reminder that difficult conversations are a part of life, and the lessons learned from each experience can be valuable for personal growth and improved relationships.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Difficult conversations can be approached by expressing your anxiety and fears to the other person, while emphasising the importance of the relationship.
• It is important to ask for permission and consider the other person's mindset before having a difficult conversation.
• Planning and preparation are crucial for a successful conversation, including discussing when and where it will take place, establishing confidentiality, and setting guidelines for effective communication.
• It is important to consider the potential consequences of the conversation but also to question the quality of the relationship if it cannot withstand a difficult conversation.
• Difficult conversations are a part of life, and while it is preferable to plan and prepare, sometimes it is not possible and lessons should be learned for future interactions.

BEST MOMENTS

"If you are fearful, or what could result from having the conversation, that you can explain or express your anxiety about it, and ask the person to be patient and understanding as concerns your fears." 

"The outcome of his conversation with his friend was extremely positive because it resulted in them both being willing and able to open up and discuss a number of matters which led to their friendship being strengthened yet further."

"What frequently occurs then, as a result, is that you carry around the burden of indignation or upset with you, knowing that you have to somehow discuss and air your thoughts and feelings in a constructive as opposed to destructive manner." 

"The likelihood is that the worst that can happen is that the conversation becomes heated, unpleasant, and you lose your friendship. Were that to happen though, you would likely have cause to question the real quality of that friendship in the first place." 

"As this example illustrates, difficult conversations are a part of life. Where it is possible to prepare, plan and enter into manageable agreements to influence the outcome in a positive way, this is clearly preferable." 

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HOST BIO

Michael Watson is a qualified social worker and author with over thirty years of experience working with children and families. As an expert in family court, Michael is in a key position to assist, advise, and coach parents through their private law family proceedings and provide them with the information and skills to represent themselves successfully in court. His two books, ‘How to Represent Yourself in Family Court’, and ‘FAMILY COURT: Giving Evidence In Family Court’, provide parents with a clearer understanding of family court proceedings, legislation, and parenting skills.