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Hello , welcome to Steven speak . On

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this episode . I'm gonna be talking about sleep and

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the need of it , but also the

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innate hate of it that I have

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. You could say it's a bit

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FOMO , which I don't like to say that I don't know why I

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said that . Don't . I don't say that . Take

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that back you

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. Welcome

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to Steven speak . The podcast , unscripted

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. Welcome

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to another episode of students peak

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. Apologies that this one's a little bit late . If

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you're listening to it after the fact and

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you weren't waiting for it to come out , then you're not any different

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. But you'll know is this came on a Monday ? I

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don't know . At least things are not Sunday . So apologies

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if you've been Awaiting

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this episode with with

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anticipation . You

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fool Again

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, excited about my podcast , I don't know . But

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thank you . Thank you very much . Yeah

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, I was away in London at the weekend , which isn't the

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the theme of this podcast . If

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there is a theme of any of my podcasts , I suppose

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there is . Yeah

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, I was way in London , so I was

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planning to do it when I returned and

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when I got back by time We'd sort

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ourselves out and had something to eat

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, etc . It was late and I was very

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tired . Yeah

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, it was quite a time , it was great two

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days , which is very tiring and Decided

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. Don't really like London that much . Other people

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came across , a lot of rude people

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, and that's

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an episode for the day . I kind of covered

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one my previous podcast about the

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people in London being very , would

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you say , like in it for themselves and

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busy and you know , not waiting for a

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tube train . That's like a minute away when one's really

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full , yeah . But this weekend

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it was just got to me a little bit anyway

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, with

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not having a lot of sleep because we say it somewhere

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, we I kind of booked like kind of

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the cheapest thing I could , so we literally just booked a room

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with

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a couple of beds in , and I

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think I'm thinking about like sleep and the whole need for sleep

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. But I've never really liked sleep

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and it's

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a necessity to me , necessity

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to everyone . Obviously everyone has to sleep

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. Apparently it actually kills you if you don't

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sleep . If you actually try and stay awake , it

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like actually your

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body kind of shuts down and you can die and

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I think it's like something . It's not even that long . Neither

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it's like is it like five days

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or six days . If you stay up like six days , like

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you're at your death's door basically , and

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it may be sure that actually , but

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yeah , your body does loads of repairs and stuff

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at night and it's a download of your brain

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and lots of other things and you repair

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and yeah , yeah , you

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need your rest . You know your muscles work hard

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all day . You know your heart

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rate needs to kind of get lowered and

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return to like a , you know , just just be

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a lot lower than it is , just walking around

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. I'm not a doctor , as you can tell

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, so

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, yeah , so , but when I was a kid , I was terrible

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like my mom Would

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, my dad obviously as well . He was that it

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was a terrible time trying to get me to

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go to bed . Now , it wasn't the

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fact that I don't say

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it's a fear of missing out , it

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kind of was that I also

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them

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to be like going sleep . I think it's because I used to have really

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vivid dreams and my

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dreams were like so they are now as well . Actually

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, I think we've covered a couple of vivid

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dream situations that I've Explained

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to you , and I think

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when I was a kid I don't know it was like I Used

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to get scared ace for really vivid nightmares , but

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I probably was fair me , being being

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scared of missing out on something , and I also didn't

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need a lot sleep . I was a kid so I

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didn't feel it was a necessity for me to have like a nap during

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the day . I felt that was good enough and I was

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kind of like lived on the thing

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of I'll sleep when I feel like

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I have to , which

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happened quite a lot . It was like my body would shut

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me down , like I put when you get a puppy , you know , when you have

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a puppy and you play with them for a little bit

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and they have no , no

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desire to go sleep , but they just have to , like they

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have to , just , they just fall wherever

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they are and they just go sleep . I

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was kind of like that as a child up to

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quite an old age Say old

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age and I would I would say probably like eight

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or nine like I would have naps and not

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realize I'd fell asleep or

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just do something that was really relaxing and

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like semi-sleep , you know , put a film on the background . You

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only do that weird like it's

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like a dream state . You kind of vaguely

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know what's going on in the room . So if you're watching

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something , you kind of following in your brain but you're also

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on that warm

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, cozy Like

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trip to to sleep . I

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used to do that quite a lot as a kid and then now that

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that seemed to give me enough energy , that

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like three , four hours a night would do me

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like and I'm not even joking like

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I would fight and fight and fight and fight

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sleep . My mum , dad probably

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sent me to bed when I was younger , like a toddler age

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, to like . I'd probably

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go bed about seven , eight o'clock at night and

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If I was asleep before midnight

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those that

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was a great thing and

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I didn't necessarily like come downstairs . A lot

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died nights when I would do that . I would come

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down and creep down and try and like

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sneak back to the living room or just sitting when

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our stairs was in the house where I Mainly

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growth . I was quite young when we in my

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first house but we moved when I was about

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three or four and I

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used to keep onto the stairs and Watch

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TV through the banister if the living room doors

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open and many a night Like

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I'd fell asleep on the stairs . I think my mum

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dad quite scared that I was like gonna fall asleep

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and then roll downstairs and die and

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Even the problem . That

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was actually that much that these were kids

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gate , like a child gate across the

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top of the Landing

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stopped me coming down the stairs . But

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I was with an injured as a kid and

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in our first house I used

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to climb out of bed and

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then climb over the child's gate and , like , make

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my way along the banister rail and drop down into the

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stairs . Don't recall doing this . I

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can't remember climbing over it once in in the house we

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moved here when I was a bit older . Yeah

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, but you

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know what TV you've got on which TV , so I buy

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it . I think it was more the comfort of not

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really missing out , but the

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comfort of being near someone . Maybe

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that's what it was actually . Have I thinking of it ? I think it was

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probably more that the comfort of , you

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know , not being

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on my own . Maybe I was

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just really needy as a child . But

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yeah , I just , I just recall like

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Actually having a favorite going bad

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, like just not wanting to go to bed , not wanting

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to be out of that , like

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, like living

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room environment and

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I know so it's the older I got as well , my brother's like

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five years old at me , so that kind of

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like added to it because I also didn't want to

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. I

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also didn't want him doing

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stuff that I wasn't doing and also wanted to try and be older as

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well . So if he was a boy , I wanted to be up . Yeah

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, complex , complex , but

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basically I hated sleep and I

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, I I actually remember thinking to

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myself as a child why

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do we sleep ? This is pointless , we go bad , we

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do nothing like we , I'm not getting anything

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done , I'm not coloring in , I'm

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not in the garden , I'm not playing and not watching

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my films . You know , I , genuinely

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I was . I was just like this is like

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wasted time . God

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, if only I could have carried that motivation through in that thought

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process through , because

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if you've ever , if you've read Arnold Schwarzenegger's

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, arnold Schwarzenegger's Autobiography

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his in part of that it basically says

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that he kind of felt the same like sleep

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was wasted . So when you're awake , you've got me the most of

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it . Um , if

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I keep taking that like child

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kind of like thought process and put it into my adulthood

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, like I'd have probably achieved so much more in my

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life at 40 . It's

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kind of depressing , but that's

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that's how I felt . Like going bed

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was a For

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me , like a , like a big event

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. My

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brother didn't help . He's to like kind of induce

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nightmares . And I remember

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and he said he didn't do

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this . But I'm pretty sure he did . But you know

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, maybe he didn't . But I was really terrified of

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the gremlins when I have said this before , I was really self-right

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gremlins when I was a kid , love

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it now I don't know why . I think I just saw a

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clip of it when I was really too young to have

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seen it and it just terrified me . Didn't

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even know it was a comedy , I just thought they were evil

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little bastards and they'd murdi in your bed

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and my brother had like a little

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Stripe figure and

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I used to play with it . Weirdly enough , I

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was also terrified of it . It

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was like a co-op mechanism . I was trying to like desensitize

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myself to it and

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I remember going bed all night and he was , it was in my bed

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and I was and I said to him like how did

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it get there ? And he was like , oh , I don't know , it's obviously crawled

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into your bed . So now I was thinking it was a

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lie . Yeah , it was not good times . I

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think he said that the real Gremlin

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have put in me bed as well or something . Maybe I can't remember

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. I remember being absolutely terrified and

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I was convinced this little toy or a

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gremlin was gonna be bad . So for

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a while that stopped me going to bed . And

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Aliens stopped me going to bed . Once , like

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that , you know , like the grays with the big eyes

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, I'd watched a film with my

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brother Probably shouldn't have watched

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called communion , and then that freaked me

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out . We used to watch UFO programs all the time

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and the X-Files and stuff . When I got a bit older but

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I was probably eight or nine we

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watch this film and I was . I was literally every

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time like a light came on outside , I was convinced

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that it was a tractor beam and the aliens

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were coming for me and yeah

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, I just , I just didn't like sleep

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, one because I hated it , because it was like

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a waste of time , and two because I was scared of having nightmares

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and , yeah

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, you're alone , like I was quite lucky when I was a kid because

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I had my own bedroom and

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I had the biggest room and I don't know how

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that came about . Actually , when we moved

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house when I was about three or four

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, I actually had like the medium

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sized room . So I remember I had the biggest room , I had

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the medium one . Maybe I had like the box room and

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maybe I really used to play in

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my room that was kind of like the playroom

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as well as my room , and

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then I was

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always jealous of what he had . So

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I begged and begged , and begged and begged my mum

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just to move room so I could have the

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small room . And

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she was like , are you sure

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You've got the bigger room ? But you know , as a

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kid you don't think logically and

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I kind of like small spaces . Anyway , I like

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being cosy , having my stuff around

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me . If you could see this room you would be like

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, oh , I can see that . So

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I like kind of to be enclosed . I suppose

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it's kind of like a safety thing . You

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feel secure . So I kind of enjoyed

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when I swapped rooms , to be honest , until I got to

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a certain age when I was like , why did you

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make this stupid decision ? So as soon as he went

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to university , straight back in that room . I

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have no idea where this was going , yeah

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, but we swapped rooms . I never felt comfortable

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in that other room . To be honest , I never felt as

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safe in the other room . But he

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used to wind me up all the time

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about things being in my bed or aliens

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, and so that came from it . But

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yeah , I just don't really like sleep now

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. If I'm honest with you , it's a thing

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I am more tired now . I'm getting old , you

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work and you have to do housework , so

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you kind of do need sleep when you're an adult Because

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of all the things you do in the day . It's

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not just for physical activity

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especially for me at the moment , like my work is not

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very physical , it's just mentally draining

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. So yeah

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, you kind of do need to sleep and I do like

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going to bed . Now I do . I'm like , oh

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yes , I can go and get some sleep , but

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it's still in the back of my

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head . That it's . I

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do like to get the minimum amount possible and

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I like to be out and do and stuff , especially if

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I'm somewhere . Like we went London on the weekend . So

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if I'm away my holidays or

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I probably spend less time in bed on holidays than I

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do when I'm at home , probably

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Because I'm

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away and I'm at my normal environment and I want to do

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things . So at the weekend

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when we were away , I was up at

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like 7 o'clock most mornings . We did have some

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noisy neighbors in

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the other rooms , but I

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was up at 7 and I would literally have

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just got up and gone out , but

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my mate and my wife basically slept till about

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half 8 . So I was literally on my phone

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for an hour and a half just scrolling as

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you do nowadays . But

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if I'd have been on my own I would have literally

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just been . I'd have woke up and been out

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of the door and just wondered . It

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wouldn't have bothered me and I'd have

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gone to bed as late as I

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possibly could , because I

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still can get away with about 6 hours sleep

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and be okay . But

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when I was a kid like , yeah , it's

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going back to this fat Jesus , you

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can tell I'm a bit tired because my brain's worse

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than usual . Sorry , okay

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, cliff Notes . So far I don't like sleep . Even

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when I was a child I could have been in the fear

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of missing out . I could have been because I

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had nightmares . I could have been because I had some old

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rooms , I don't know . Yeah

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, when I was a kid , literally I

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used to . I

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have three or four hours a night . If

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I had any more than that , it was a real bonus

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for my mom and dad and

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looking back , I don't think it was every night , but most nights

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it was a struggle for me to go to bed and they had to

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really convince me to go to bed , to stay

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there at least anyway , and they used to just say

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lying bed awake , and they didn't mind me lying in

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bed as long as I wasn't getting up

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and trying to come down . I

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think their view was , if I lay in bed I

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would eventually go to sleep because nature

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kicks in it's nighttime . You know , we're not

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night creatures , are we . We're

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not . Nocturnal is the word I was looking for

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. So eventually my

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natural brain would be

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like oh , you're in bed , so you're lying down , you're

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comfortable , and then I would just fall asleep . Didn't

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really happen for me . I used to just lie

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there and think about stuff . I'd lie there singing , just

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use my imagination , like making things up

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, talking to myself , talking to my tatties , doing

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like I used to sit on my bed . I'd

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sit on my bed playing with my bears and

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this dog toy . I'd lost quite a

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lot of dogs and bears and I used to just like sit

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down and just chat to them

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and then that

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would lead on to me trying to get all the toys out and I'd normally

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get told off of that because I'm not the

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most quiet person . I get in my

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own head and then I just don't

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really . I

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think I try to be as like accommodating

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as other people , but if I'm in the zone I

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don't really know my own noise

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. The kitchen is probably

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the best example of that . If I can get something out of the kitchen

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, I can just slam cupboards and stuff

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. Other times I'm super like aware

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of that and I'll just be like closing the most

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gentle that you can close . And I was like that as a kid

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, so I'd get told off , I'd

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read a lot in bed and that used to send

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me to sleep . We should try that now . But

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yeah , three or four hours you'd do me . But

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that meant that , as I've said

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, it was normally about midnight when I actually finally

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got to sleep . So that's normally when my parents would come to bed , like 11

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, 12 o'clock at night . So by the time I'd

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actually drifted off . I'd

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get three or four hours sleep . I was awake at four in the morning

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, so I

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would either go and call into mom and dad's bed and

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they'd let me at that point normally like sleep them

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a little bit . Depend

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on my dad , really , I think , what he was working and

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whether he was on night's or not , and

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sometimes they wouldn't let me get into bed , but I was like a ninja

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. I could literally go into that room and creep

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into their bed and crawl up from

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the foot of the bed and

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crawl up underneath the covers and

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fall asleep . Sometimes I'd just fall asleep

16:37

in the bottom of the bed like a dog . I

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always thought the dog was my spirit animal . Yeah

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, so I used to do that , but when I got a little

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old , because I used to wake up hungry

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, because I used to love breakfast . So I've

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always been the sort of person to wake up , eat . And

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when I was a toddler I was skinny , I was super

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skinny . It was like the only meal I ate . So

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dad used to . They got me a TV

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for my bedroom and this was when I was in the bigger room and

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they kind of agreed that I could get up and

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they'd set some breakfast stuff out downstairs . So

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all I had to do was put some milk on some corn

17:10

flakes or whatever and I could bring it back upstairs and just watch

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TV for a couple of hours and

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eat my breakfast , and that's what I used to do , so

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from probably like the age of six

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maybe , I

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used to prepare my own breakfast and little drink

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and bring it upstairs and just go

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just sit in my room , and sometimes I'd fall

17:28

back asleep again as well . So it was kind of a win-win for

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mom and dad . I'd fed myself and

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I was maybe possibly getting a little bit of extra

17:35

sleep , and it was a win

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for me because I felt like I was older

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, because I was getting my own breakfast and I

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wasn't having to lie in bed doing nothing . So

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I would get my toys out and play , as long as it was quiet

17:46

stuff , like again , no

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real sense of my own volume sometimes

17:50

, but

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yeah , that's what I used to do . And

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, um , I

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used to hate falling asleep in the car as well . Oh my god , if

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I was going anywhere , traveling back in the car

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, like If

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I Was enjoying the journey

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, like it's a thing as a kid , you don't , you

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don't always know when you're gonna fall asleep . As a kid it's very

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, very bizarre . Like as an adult , you purposely

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go to sleep , don't you ? You like think I'm

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going to have a nap or I'm gonna go to bed , but

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as a kid you just fall asleep . And if we were

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coming back from it . This is normally where I would . I

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would kind of get upset , I would get a bit gnarly

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if I was aware , and

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sometimes a throw paddy . But

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if we were just woke him back and I fell asleep during

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the journey home and woke up at home , oh my god

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, I hate it , because that was Definitely

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fair of me to now . It was like I missed the journey home

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. I like to see , you know , just

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see the places we were going through and Ask

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questions about stuff and see the motorway

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journey or see the countryside , etc . Even

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if it was dark , even if you know it was pitch

18:57

black . I used to like watching my

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dad drive . Weirdly enough why

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that was , I don't know why that was . Maybe

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I just aspire to drive one day . And

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, yeah , I really hate that and I Remember

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what women would have managed to carry me upstairs

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once and put me into bed . And then I woke up in

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the middle of night and I was like , oh my god , I'm in bed . How the hell

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did I get here ? And I was really upset that

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I'd even missed like

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saying goodnight to mom and dad . Basically

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, what I'm saying is I was a little , I was a little shit

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, I didn't like to sleep and I

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was very needy . I think is the summary

19:31

of this podcast , which

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makes me sad because I thought I was quite she , quite

19:36

a sweet , non-pestering

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little little . That

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was the case , I think pretty much mom and dad me

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probably would actually completely disagree with that , so

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maybe I can't get away with saying

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that , well

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, that was a , that was a random Journey

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, wasn't it of words ? Thank

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you very much for listening . If

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you've got to this point , well done . If

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you're still awake , well done . Yeah

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, thanks for listening , and I've been

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a bit rubbish with the whole social media and Websites

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over the moment . I'm trying to set some stuff up

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in the background . I'm

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really slow at doing stuff . Sometimes . I have to

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be in the right mindset , and I

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love doing this podcast . It's

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probably one of the things I've stuck at the longest for

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the for the longest time as well , so

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that goes to say something . So

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I'm really appreciate Any

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regular listeners . If you are

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a regular listener and you like what I do , please

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reach out . It's there's something with this . I

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don't . I can't see anything . I don't know what people

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are thinking . I don't get a lot

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of feedback apart

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from the downloads and stuff . So

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it would be nice just to know , like , what people

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are thinking about the podcast

20:52

, though Just just reach out and you

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can contact me via the website if you're interested in being

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a guest . You've got something interesting to say . You

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need like to have a chat ? Yeah

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, but until until the next episode

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, which I Generally

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don't know what it's going to be about . And

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yeah , just Just

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chatter away , like I do , just take the opportunity

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to listen as well . That's that is important

21:15

. I need to . I need to learn that lesson . I

21:18

go in a roll and and I

21:20

need to shut my mouth . As a

21:22

wise man once said , you have one mouth and two ears

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for a reason . Nice

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words to live by . Okay , I'm gonna

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shut up now because I'm annoying myself . Thank

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been listening to you , steven speak the podcast

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