Jeff Jay and Debra Jay provide an introduction and overview of the Intervention Workshop. How can we come together as a family to help our addicted loved one get treatment? How can we avoid catastrophic consequences and raise the bottom to righ

Underestimating the Problem

Mar 28th, 2019 7m 35s

Families often hope it's not really addiction (or substance use disorder). Different family members have different opinions, and that dilutes the power of love and family. By the way, family is whatever we define "family" to be. Addiction is a

Inside the Addicted Brain

Mar 27th, 2019 9m 34s

Debra Jay takes you inside the addicted brain for an up-close look at the neurobiology of addiction. Addiction has been recognized as a disease since 1877, and it has been recognized as a disease by the American Medical Association since 1955.

Myths and Misconceptions

Mar 26th, 2019 20m 12s

Substance use disorders, alcoholism and drug addiction are widely misunderstood. They are often considered moral issues or failures of will power, or defects of character. These ideas are wrong. In this chapter, we explore the many myths and mi

Enabling

Mar 25th, 2019 5m 51s

Jeff Jay discusses the dynamics of enabling. Here he defines "innocent enabling," which happens when the family thinks there loved one is just going through a phase, and will grow out of their problem. Then he talks about "desperate enabling,"

Detachment and the Brain

Mar 24th, 2019 9m 3s

Debra Jay describes the changes that happen inside the brains of family members and friends who are trying to deal with an active addict. How does unpredictable stress and unmanageability affect us? How does stress and fear affect the developin

The Power of the Group

Mar 23rd, 2019 5m 25s

Why does 1-to-1 discussion seem fruitless with someone with a substance use disorder? Addicted people tend to keep friends and family off balance, telling different stories to different people, pitting one against another, and playing the blame

Road to Integrity

Mar 22nd, 2019 12m 43s

Addiction robs the individual of their integrity, causing them to lie to the people they love the most. But family members also lose their integrity. We say we won't stand for it anymore, but we do. We say we won't cover up or enable, but we do

Step by Step

Mar 21st, 2019 5m 18s

Starting your intervention process. Choosing a detail person. Downloadable materials. How to find a good interventionist, getting referrals from top treatment provider. The necessity for planning carefully, and not cutting corners. When you nee

Building your team

Mar 20th, 2019 17m 10s

Who should be on your intervention team? Who should not be on the intervention team? How to involve reluctant team members and bring them into process. Guidelines for when children (minimum age 12) can be involved. Tips for determining if an em

Choosing Treatment

Mar 19th, 2019 10m 46s

Choosing treatment, choosing the right level of support, so your loved one has the greatest chance of success. Inpatient residential, intensive outpatient (IOP), halfway house or sober house. Local treatment or a national-level treatment center

Writing Intervention Letters

Mar 18th, 2019 15m 53s

A guide to writing letters for an intervention, based on the book "Love First," by Jeff Jay and Debra Jay. Seven point process for writing intervention letters. Interventions should not be done off-handedly, with people making up what they want

Deciding on Bottom Lines

Mar 17th, 2019 12m 5s

Most people go to treatment on intervention day, about 85%. However, if we get a hard NO from our addicted loved one, there may be some natural consequences which will follow. At a minimum, we may look at the ways we've been enabling the proble

Brainstorming Objections

Mar 16th, 2019 7m 31s

In many cases, the addicts objections to treatment may be the addiction fighting for its life, almost as though the addiction is a separate person. Two types of objections. 1) Substantial objections, such as work or family commitments, scheduli

Intervention Rehearsal Process

Mar 15th, 2019 3m 59s

Everyone is nervous prior to the intervention. When you complete a good rehearsal process, you will feel more confident in yourselves and the process. Use your checklist. Choosing the last letter: the closer. Determine the right order for the l

Choosing the Chairperson

Mar 14th, 2019 19m 13s

The chairperson leads the intervention if there is no professional interventionist involved. Even if you have a professional, you will still want a chairperson to head the family and friends group. The chairperson should not be a spouse. The ch

Intervention Day

Mar 13th, 2019 38m 37s

Guidance and tips for the day of the intervention. Preparation is the key to success, so now the work of all the previous chapters will pay off. You must follow all directions to maximize your chances of success. Dealing with silent objections.

After the Intervention

Mar 12th, 2019 25m 47s

How to communicate with treatment, getting a release, delivering bottom lines in case your loved one want to abort the treatment process. How to help your loved one stay in treatment. The importance of Al-Anon. Developing a relapse agreement. K

Intervention Workshop FAQs 1-10

Mar 11th, 2019 16m 36s

1. Our addict has just had a major crisis. Can we still intervene? 2. What if the alcoholic becomes angry during the intervention? 3. What if the addict walks out? 4. What if the alc says ‘Yes, I’ll go, but not today. 5. How do we act around

Section 4, FAQs 1-10

Mar 11th, 2019 16m 36s

Intervention Workshop, FAQs 11-12

Mar 10th, 2019 18m 56s

11. When does a family need to hire a professional interventionist? 12. How do we get the alcoholic to the location of the intervention? 13. Aren’t we being deceptive? 14. What if the alcoholic doesn’t show up? 15. How can you say it’s a di

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