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We've been led to believe success is having a yacht or having copious

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amounts of money or traveling all the time or making the life look glamorous

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and always this, but you know what? I work with some of those people and they will be one of the first

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to admit that they're not happy. At least by the time they reach me.

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So my suggestion is that you get good with your idea of what success

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is, you define it on your own terms, and then you figure out how to

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create the business from that model.

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Hi, thank you for joining me for this episode of Intuition:

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Your Success Compass. This is the business episode.

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So the last week of every month, I focused on business concepts

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and what I help my clients with and hopefully it can help you.

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And the idea of expanding who we are through business, a lot

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of us provide this service. And I feel like it's a need out there to balance the nonphysical world

1:11

with the physical world of business, the ethical business model the heart

1:16

centered business model, and then yeah, the moneymaking business model.

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Because why in business if you're not going to create a success for

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those around you and yourself.

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Thank you very much. So that's what this episode is about.

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It's about success. And part of the reason I wanted to do it was because I love the idea of

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identifying success for each of us.

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It's going to be different for you than it is for myself, than it is for some

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clients I have, than it is for Amazon or for another business of that model, right?

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So there's all different ways that we can measure success

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and they're not all monetary.

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From my perspective, when we focus on the love of what we're doing with systems, and

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then what is it that, and how do we want to contribute, the money is usually there.

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Okay. I say usually because not everybody shows up to do the work, and this

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is not something that can be just blinked into existence unless you have

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somebody who's funneling cash in and you don't have to do anything about it.

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So when I work with companies, I want to know what is it that you feel you bring

2:38

to the world that you are contributing and then what is it that you would like to,

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because it's not always the same thing. You know, sometimes you get in a model and, or you have a product

2:49

that you don't even really love. But it's working, so you keep doing it, and then you realize years down the

2:55

line that you have not been having fun.

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And if you're going to own your own business or be an

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entrepreneur, there has to be some level of enjoyment or fun to it.

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Or what is the point? As a soul, you're here to have fun in this experience and then...

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you know, have the connections and have the abundance returned to you.

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So the definition of success for each of us is going to be different.

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For myself, it's changed over the years.

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I've been doing this 23 years. And when it first started, it was pay the mortgage, make sure the kid's braces are

3:33

paid for, to support you know, a partner, husband, my late husband at the time who

3:39

wasn't always consistent in his work.

3:41

he went for good five year stretches and then would just up and leave a job

3:45

and not tell anybody he was doing it. That's a little disconcerting when you have overhead and when you promise to

3:52

pay your bank the note on your house.

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So, in the beginning... My level of success was kind of tossed back and forth between, I just want to

4:03

help as many people as possible and holy crap, I have to pay this bill I'm not sure

4:09

how we're going to pay it and I better get out there and create some dough.

4:14

And then it shifts over time to, I really love what I'm doing, but I have

4:19

and interest that's moving in this direction from intuitive readings to

4:23

coaching and I want to go that direction.

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I better get certified in coaching. So I do that.

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And then I realized I really miss talking about building business and

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what it takes to do that and what are the systems that you can create.

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You can tell I get excited in video, I'm moving back and forth

4:42

because I I get excited about this.

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I know systems don't always seem glamorous or all that fun,

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but they are to some of us. So then it shifted to, okay, I'll only do business consulting.

4:56

But then I realized, Oh wow, I really am all about the people

5:00

that are within the business. So let's merge this to what you see today plenty of content out there that

5:07

is free to consume along with some offerings that are very affordable

5:14

on up to the individual coaching that is an investment and business

5:20

consulting and retainer packages.

5:22

So the idea of success if you have a business and if you're just

5:27

starting out is going to change It's going to change as you evolve.

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It's going to change as the market evolves what your customers want and

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What matters most to you and what I wanted to talk about in this episode was

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defining success on your terms I want to encourage everyone to resist comparison

5:55

with others and instead define success based off of what your values are.

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What is your measure of achievement because it may not be that you

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want to be the next, let's do a flashback here blockbuster.

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Maybe you don't want to be the next blockbuster.

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You know, maybe you want to have a community store where you know the

6:25

people, you can recommend what they would like, might like to watch by

6:30

what they've watched and you want to build, that relationship and you maybe

6:36

want to volunteer for a position on the town board and you want to raise

6:41

your kids and actually raise your kids be there and be present for them.

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Maybe it's the another version of that and you want to not only have Blockbuster, you

6:54

want to do Blockbuster better than they did because, well, they kind of went out.

6:58

Digital helped along those lines. But you want to be forward thinking and you want to consider what's

7:05

coming up ahead and create the business that is sustaining for you

7:09

for the rest of your experience.

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More and more people are turning, especially after the pandemic to

7:16

creating their own stream of income and creating their own success and this

7:24

often sounds like a great idea, but I have found that if the structure is

7:28

not there, it is so stress inducing.

7:31

It is so challenging. And in any way that I can help with that, I want to.

7:38

So defining success has to be delved into by what is it in

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your life that you like now? And what is it that you would like to change?

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And if you are measuring success because you're looking at others and their

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success, in a way that is in comparison model, unless you're looking at it

8:04

from a perspective of like mentoring up, Ooh, I see what they have and

8:10

I'd like to have that in my own life.

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Let me figure out how I can get there.

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If it's in a comparison model of well, they have it, so I can't have it.

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That's not going to serve you because that's scarcity.

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First of all, but it's also minimizing your own capabilities because I truly

8:31

believe that If you have within you the desire to create a business or

8:37

some kind of income stream then you have the capability to do it too,

8:44

it's just a matter of learning. Now, I also want to say if you have never considered having a business or

8:50

maybe you tried having a business and you realize I don't really like that.

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High five. High ten.

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Let's get all the hands up there, pretend we're an octopus and smack them all.

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Because knowing that is equally as important.

9:05

Just because people are trending in this direction does not

9:08

mean that it's necessary. This, it's important for you to define success for yourself.

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If you are someone that feels...

9:17

Much more at peace and calm because your employer is in charge of thinking of all

9:23

those things at 10 o'clock at night and you don't want to because even though

9:28

you can achieve amazing life business balance that those thoughts still pop

9:33

in when you own your own business.

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But if you're someone who doesn't want that, they want to log out, go

9:39

home, have the life that they have.

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I am so grateful for you.

9:45

And I know so many other people are too, because we wouldn't have service

9:50

providers, we wouldn't have medical staff.

9:54

You know, we wouldn't have like, the gentleman who came yesterday and told us

10:00

that our refrigerator is beyond repair.

10:03

We ought to head somewhere and buy a new one, and then we wouldn't have the

10:08

absolutely lovely gentleman who waited on us and got us the refrigerator

10:13

and then it was delivered today

10:16

! Today, that's magic by two equally lovely human beings who came in did

10:23

their job efficiently were kind and Left and took the old broken one with him.

10:29

So the idea that of comparison in that, well, everybody's got a side

10:35

hustle, everybody's got business. That's not necessarily true and our world cannot revolve in the most supportive

10:43

collaborative way if we didn't have those of you who know themselves well

10:51

enough to know that they would feel most comfortable going to bed at night

10:56

knowing somebody else is taking care of the insurance claims and everything.

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So I need you to be kinder to yourself.

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If this is something, I've worked with many people who came to me and said, help

11:08

me start this business from this thing I love and we realize that no, you love that

11:14

thing you love, but you may not love that thing you love if it becomes a business.

11:20

And I don't want to take that away from you and say, yes, we can do this.

11:24

Of course we can do it, but is it in your highest interest to do it?

11:29

And that's a level of success that needs to be determined from within.

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I can help bring clarity, that is my job to provide clarity, to

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bring clarity, to pull the clarity out of you, out of my clients.

11:44

But I can't tell you whether it's your calling or your desire to have a

11:50

business, you're the one who can do that.

11:53

So if you'd rather simply make things for people like my felting, people

12:00

have suggested my needle felting that I create a business because surprisingly

12:06

to me, it, I'm pretty good at it.

12:08

I don't want to, because that would put pressure on me in a way that I

12:13

don't find pressure in this business.

12:16

Like I would feel a pressure to produce and I don't feel that in this business,

12:21

in my business as a coach, I feel excited to get on here and talk about things, I

12:27

feel excited to go into session and to lead and to write books and all of that.

12:34

I guess what we're endeavoring on this week, this year.

12:37

So, that would not be the same if I followed what other people have suggested

12:43

and created more of the needle felting.

12:46

Right now, it's kind of a crapshoot, really.

12:49

If you get something, it's not because I love somebody more, it's

12:53

because I had an idea for that particular person and I ran with it.

12:58

So to me to lock that up oh, it would be sad I have very

13:03

few other creative outlets.

13:05

So it's important to be honest with yourself.

13:09

Yes, identify opportunities If there is something that you're really good

13:15

at and you would like to continue doing it or something you came to like

13:21

O'Malley's Oven in Schenectady, in Troy.

13:25

I get those towns confused. Anyway, in New York, although you can order online, makes the most amazing

13:33

gluten free foods and desserts macarons which I learned how to make if not say

13:39

well and that came out of the fact that she discovered she had celiac and her

13:46

stuff is amazing and she's self taught and there's a love that is in that food,

13:52

which makes it taste all that much better. As someone who went 10 years without having, like, bread bread, I had

14:00

a cinnamon bun from her store.

14:03

I've since taken four classes, but I had a cinnamon bun and I just knew

14:09

that there was so much love in this, and then the fact that it was chewy.

14:12

I had no words. Yeah, yeah, me, who can talk up a storm, had no words.

14:18

She saw an opportunity there, and also had a need so she

14:24

moved forward with her business. I'll do a business spotlight on her one day, I'll get her on here.

14:30

So her success is in helping people, but it's also in helping her own health and

14:36

her daughter's health and being a part of the town Because when you're there taking

14:42

a class people pop in and you can tell they're popping into may not be purchasing

14:48

but there's a relationship that's been developed there and they'll think of

14:53

her when they go to purchase things. Because you can not tell these things are gluten free and for those of

14:57

you who have tried gluten free and been like that tastes like a roof

15:00

shingle it's an impressive feat that she's happened, er, made happen.

15:06

So success We've been led to believe is, you know, having a yacht or

15:14

having copious amounts of money or you know, traveling all the time

15:19

or making the life look glamorous and always this, but you know what?

15:23

I work with some of those people and they will be one of the first

15:26

to admit that they're not happy. At least by the time they reach me.

15:30

And one of the things we do is reverse engineer their life.

15:34

They've arrived in this message of success that society says, but they are not

15:39

feeling any of it and feeling dejected and not valued for who they are as people.

15:45

So my suggestion is that you get good with your idea of what success

15:52

is, you define it on your own terms, and then you figure out how to

15:57

create the business from that model.

16:00

Now I'm not saying that when you first start out that there's not

16:04

going to have to be more time put into it, of course there is.

16:08

Of course there is. You're not gonna just wave a magic wand, again, unless you have a benefactor

16:15

who's just throwing money at you, but I haven't met anybody like that yet.

16:19

So, this idea of understanding who you are actually goes into

16:25

the marketing and the branding of a business that you want to have.

16:30

Because, branding it...

16:33

is, and branding yourself is actually knowing yourself.

16:37

Now you may have a product, but if you're starting the business or you're running

16:42

a business, your energy is guiding this business and it's vitally important

16:48

that you take some time and you check in with what your message is and how you

16:57

will connect to those that will pay you.

17:00

TikTok shop is a big thing right now and I'm watching this as a professional

17:08

observer and I'm watching people, they're so excited about their products

17:14

selling and I can pinpoint which ones now, of course, we'll need the data

17:18

and maybe follow up in a couple years, but of which ones are gonna do okay,

17:23

and which ones are going to peak and.

17:27

Because you can tell the ones that have been doing it consistently and

17:31

they're doing it because perhaps their heart led them there or

17:35

their ideas and their joy about it.

17:37

And they wanted to provide these things and you can tell the ones that are

17:41

in there because they just need to be loved need to be approved of and

17:46

need to prove that this thing they have going is a successful thing.

17:51

And, you know, if you follow these trends enough, you'll.

17:55

I feel for these people because often then they face a sense of failure, which

18:02

I don't believe exists unless you refuse to get up and you refuse to help yourself.

18:07

But there can be this feeling of failure and a lot of that happened because they

18:13

didn't know what their you know, their South Point was, their humanness was,

18:20

and what was their goal in this lifetime?

18:22

And then from the compass model I use, the North is your soul and what

18:27

was your soul guiding you to do? And it's sad to me, it's predictable and it is unnecessary because if each

18:37

one were to know about, I mean, you can't do until you know, but each one

18:41

were to know about, okay, what are the things, and I'm going to give you

18:46

some steps so that you can do this.

18:49

No matter where you are in business, this would be a good idea to take a moment

18:55

and take a meeting with yourself and figure out what is success to you, what

19:00

does it look like in my life right now?

19:03

What it looks like is helping a few people at that coaching package level

19:10

so that I have more energy available to myself for writing a book, for

19:18

creating more courses, and for taking the dog for a walk whenever the weather

19:24

permits because it's been hot here.

19:28

Or that I can decide, you know, if a friend is available on a random Thursday,

19:35

I can say, you know what, I actually don't have to be attached to my computer

19:39

today because I've created the success and the systems that I don't feel

19:45

obligated to sit here and get it done because my systems are already in place.

19:49

I'll be able to get that done quickly later.

19:52

So some of the ways that can help you define success one of them is first,

20:00

identifying those personal values and that's why I say it's going to change

20:04

over time because at different times of your life you'll have different values.

20:10

You'll you'll have different beliefs about what is important right now and hopefully

20:16

you will have grown as a person and you will learn what truly matters to you in

20:22

times past I would have said a massive savings account, that still matters to me.

20:27

But you know what? It matters less Then making sure that I'm okay, I'm physically available,

20:36

I'm mentally available, I'm spiritually available to those who hire me.

20:41

But most importantly to my partner and to my kiddos and to my friends

20:48

and those that I have committed a little bit more of myself to.

20:53

So my values nowadays are a lot different than in the past when I would

20:58

say, no, I can't come I have to work. And now I'm like, let me see if I can rearrange my schedule.

21:03

So identifying your personal values will also help you create a sense of purpose

21:11

in your, in your work, not as your whole self, but a sense of purpose that

21:16

will go beyond the external validation.

21:20

I think this is integrity. I think this is doing what you say you're going to do, following through

21:26

on that and we all ebb and flow in this, especially in business because

21:30

sometimes there's fires to put out.

21:33

And, you know, sometimes there's just a a need to take a little break break,

21:38

but when you go beyond the external validation, so the tobacco, the example

21:44

of those in the tick tock shop, if they're pounding all this stuff out

21:49

because they're feeling some sort of external validation, I really met it.

21:53

It's going to be short lived and I wish it was different, but as humans

21:57

were pretty predictable in that way. So in identifying your, what is the idea and then the application of

22:08

success to you, I think, from that point of seeking external validation,

22:15

you seek internal validation.

22:18

You look for the pride that comes from within.

22:24

You look for recognizing yourself for the work put in and for maybe a job well done.

22:31

Maybe you guided someone in their own business and they had a level of success.

22:35

This week, some of my clients are absolutely kicking you know, what at

22:43

creating an ease within their home life, like within their physical dwelling

22:49

because we were able to identify why they weren't doing it and then it

22:56

took a little bit for them to show up and go for that inward validation.

23:02

And one of the things I said to one of them was, I know that there's another

23:08

adult that lives in this house and I know that there are children that live

23:11

in this house and I know it sounds like I'm asking you to do all of this and take

23:16

care of everything and be in charge of everything, but what I'm really asking you

23:20

to do is to do this for yourself, to clean up that kitchen for yourself or clean

23:26

up the bedroom for yourself, even though you may share it with another adult.

23:31

It is a way to create what is the success that you want in this home and

23:37

if someone's not going to join you in that, you still have to create that

23:41

for yourself and then maybe it'll help as an example or maybe you can say

23:47

consistently, I've been doing this and I'm asking you to meet me in this area.

23:53

So that inward validation though, is the energy generated to keep you going.

24:00

When you recognize your efforts and you recognize achievements and you get to

24:07

identify your growth and then pat yourself on the back for it, creates a desire

24:14

to do it more inside your head, right?

24:17

Like in your practice, in your heart and in your spirit, you know, like Mel Robbins

24:23

has the high five habit and there are, there's so much science to back it up that

24:32

when we congratulate ourselves and we high five ourselves, especially when making

24:36

eye contact in the mirror, our brain go seeking for more of those experiences.

24:44

So that might mean instead of walking past the pile of something,

24:48

you pick it up and you put it away. Do not underestimate how you can create success in your business by

24:55

paying attention to your home, to your physical body, to your relationships.

25:01

It all relates. So seeking inward validation, what did you do today that made the day great?

25:10

And answer that question and if it's you brushed your

25:12

teeth, well, you freaking rock. So answer that question and along those lines, another way to help

25:21

you define success for yourself is to practice some self compassion.

25:27

Okay, maybe you didn't do those things before, but you're on board now.

25:32

Maybe you were needing a little bit of a rest or taking a break like previous

25:37

podcast episode, give yourself a break before you end up with a break.

25:42

So practicing self compassion and acknowledge that everyone is on their

25:48

own particular trajectory, their own path and when you do inward validation,

25:56

you don't look so much for external validation and that can help to,

26:02

identify when there are some challenges or what we might consider a setback.

26:08

Are they really a setback? Maybe it's a reset.

26:11

Maybe something wasn't working in the first place and you were

26:14

just plowing through and not paying attention to the signs.

26:18

So if you can treat yourself with the same understanding as you would another.

26:24

It goes to helping you create clarity in what it is you like and what you

26:29

don't like and that will pave the way to and for success and success can be

26:37

in a monetary, it can be in a spiritual connection, it can be in your physical

26:43

body, it can be in the relationships that you create, it can be that the

26:49

peppers are starting to produce. I'm so excited about that, they take a long time to germinate.

26:54

I really need to start earlier next year and that will put me on a path

26:57

of success earlier in the season.

27:01

But that practice of self compassion.

27:04

I could beat myself up for that or what I've done is say, well,

27:08

this is the first year I've ever planted a garden of this magnitude.

27:13

It's the first year I've ever really planted a garden.

27:16

Last year we dabbled, but this year we went full force and I did 90% of

27:22

it from seed and I have things to learn and that's self compassion.

27:26

So along those lines, another way to define success is to measure, measure,

27:34

measure progress, not perfection.

27:38

Perfection does not exist.

27:40

But what is the progress that you're making?

27:44

Those who have coached with me sometimes have been, I hope relieved and I hope

27:50

feeling safe when they didn't, the first time they come to a session and they

27:54

didn't do what we said and what they had indicated they wanted to do in the

27:59

previous session and I don't yell, I don't blame cause that helps no one.

28:05

But we will identify why didn't it get done.

28:09

do you not want to do it? Like, are we setting a new goal?

28:11

What's changed? Because sometimes when you're having a conversation in coaching, well, actually

28:17

98% of the time, the conversations you have in your coaching session, take effect

28:23

in the time between coaching sessions.

28:25

So back to my garden metaphor, we're planting a seed, but it may not

28:31

germinate for another week and a half. So when you're measuring progress, not perfection, if someone came back to me

28:38

and they said, you know what, that thing that we set up that I said I wanted to

28:42

do, I got clear and I don't want to do it.

28:46

That's progress and we are going to celebrate that and we're also

28:49

going to say good job You did that because it's not always about action.

28:54

It's sometimes remember in the if you've listened to the previous episodes

28:59

around the compass coaching model, we have to pay attention to our wiring and

29:04

from our West, like where we've been.

29:07

And there may be a message in the past that You know, you're only successful

29:11

if you keep following through, if you do this and you do this and do

29:14

this, but when we come to the model of connecting our soul and our physical

29:19

being, it, that may not be the definition of success any longer for us.

29:24

So measuring progress and not perfection will help you recognize the small steps.

29:31

The micromovements matter, very good.

29:36

Towards the goals that you've set, and you get to appreciate the effort that

29:41

you put in, and not be so dang attached to the outcomes, because outcomes are

29:47

going to be very different, you know, they're, you may launch a program that you

29:54

have very high hopes for, the beta told you it was good, and it just goes, meh.

30:00

Well, what happened there? Were you tired?

30:03

Did you not feel like you could support the process?

30:06

Did somebody leave your team right before it launched?

30:09

Were you more intent in launching than having all the steps be lined up and

30:14

be successful in and of themselves?

30:18

So many things go into this. So, regardless of outcomes, you start to, measure the progress and then

30:27

you get to celebrate it as well.

30:30

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achieve success in all areas of your life and whatever success means to you.

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You'll have the tools you need to get started.

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And then you can build on that with the other bundles that are in

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the collection at vickibaird.com

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So did any of that sound like it would help you, those bundles, um, the programs

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that are put together for you in mind, because I respect your schedule, I respect

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that we all have quite a bit going on, but I also know that if we want to make

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any progress, we have to stop, and we have to get clear, and part of the reason,

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one of the reasons I created the bundles that are there was for that reason so

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that you could get clear and you could.

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Kind of guide yourself towards that and if it guides you towards coaching

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with me fantastic come on in and if you figure things out Because of

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the help that the bundle created. Well, that was one of my ultimate Intentions and goals and a

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definition of success for me, because I can't coach everybody.

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But I want everybody to be able to coach themselves.

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So another way that you could learn to define success on your terms and this

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one would be chal is challenging, but not so much if you have a context around it.

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So limit the social media or the news or the friend next door or

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whatever limit the comparisons.

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I'm all for leveling up, mentoring up, like I said earlier, for looking at

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something someone else has that you want.

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This is actually how I got to a place of being debt free in my life is I witnessed

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people in my life who didn't have debt and I just thought that's, that means how

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I grew up, it was the marriage I was in. I just thought, that's kind of how you did it.

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And I remember having this awareness one day when somebody said, well, I don't

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have any debt, uh, thinking I want that.

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I want that because ultimate freedom, right?

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So you're always going to have the electric bill and things like that.

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I guess unless you have your own solar farm, but, and it can turn

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into anyway, not going to go there. But measuring or sorry, comparing up great, fantastic.

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Comparing so you put yourself down.

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No. So we need, your brain is going to do it at some point, but I'm going

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to ask you to limit it, which also means minimizing your exposure to

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social media and anything that's going to fuel a feeling of inadequacy.

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Because that will also get in the way of you creating it too.

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Because if you're feeling inadequate, how is anything going to show up?

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You may not see the opportunities there.

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And if you... Don't see the opportunities.

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You can't act on them and then it you may be living a pretty flat experience.

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So if you remember that social media often showcases the very best

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curated, highlighted, edited, rather than the full reality of someone's

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life or their business success.

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You maybe put your own filter on that and it's hard for our brain to do that.

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You know, we did it in high school for those of us who are of my age and this

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social media stuff didn't exist, but we still did it like humans will do that.

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But you have to be conscious enough and sure of yourself that you aren't

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making those comparisons in a way that is detrimental and it's easier to become

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sure of yourself when you're not making those comparisons that are detrimental.

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And it does take a certain level of understanding and knowing

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self in order to do that. But I'll tell you what, it's really easy because there are so many times

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people have suggested to me that I just get on YouTube or I get on TikTok or

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Facebook live and do live readings.

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It's not going to happen. I can't say that I wouldn't get a hit, an intuitive hit maybe share advice under the

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guise of advice rather than saying this is straight from spirit But it's not gonna

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happen because that's not how I roll.

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I need to know that the person I'm working with understands

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what I'm saying, they're okay. They can hear the message and they can roll with the message.

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I, I'm not a carnival act. So, and I've been doing this 23 years.

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So if you want to reading, book a reading. But, Numerous people have said, well, Vicki, that's a quick

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way to grow your platform.

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Well, then I don't need to grow my platform that way. Because that does not feel right to me, it feels disingenuous to me and

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there was a time in my career where I did radio and I did take those calls.

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That's where I was in the career, this is where I am now, right?

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So, the idea of what is success changes because we have to answer to ourselves

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and we have to do the work to know what matters to us enough to be able

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to say that doesn't work for me in a kind way, in a no thank you way.

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I mean, just a couple of weeks ago, somebody who I have said it to

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multiple times came back around again and I said, I don't know how else

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to say it except this topic is done.

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Because I'm not hiring you as my business consultant so no, it's not happening.

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But I couldn't do that if I hadn't spent the times I've been walking

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or in meditation asking myself Well, Vicki, it would be really easy.

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It would be really easy. And it would be something that could catapult and I'm like, no,

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I just, that's not where I am.

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It's not what I want. I want you to know who you are and I'll bring my experience to that

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and if we happen to meet up one on one or in a group setting and

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that's available, I'll download it. So, by doing this brings me to the last one I'm going to talk about, which is

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surround yourself with supportive people.

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Because when I say those things to people who know me well, or even

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heard it the first time I said it, I don't have to repeat myself.

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I don't have to justify why I'm not doing what you want me to do.

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Not necessarily what I want to do.

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So, when I surround myself with supportive people, they're like,

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yeah, that doesn't feel right for you. And I'm like, thank you.

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I, I don't need your validation or your permission, but we are community

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based, and it's nice to hear that somebody actually sees us, and

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knows us, and who support, like, my personal definition of success.

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So you surround yourself with people that you one, you feel comfortable enough

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talking about what success means to you.

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And two, that they don't knock it down when you actually say it.

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Because if somebody knocks down what you're saying, this would

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bring me great joy because we can translate success and into joy.

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We can even replace the word success with joy.

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I use the word success because we know it.

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What I know we want is the joy in our life.

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So if you have people that you can, you can share what your level of

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success is and they get excited with you, you're doing really well.

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And then be that person to other people because there may be things that you

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can't even fathom wanting to do and yet your friend wants to and you're like,

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great, how can I support you in that?

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And that might mean you have to walk away from the ones in your

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life who are telling you you'll never do that, that's not possible.

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We aren't people who do that. That's going to take too much work.

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It won't if you're lining up with your own joy.

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So seek out those mentors, the friends, coaches, coworkers, partners, um, you

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know, other parents who understand your vision and cheer you on and sometimes in

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that you can learn to cheer yourself on.

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All right? So in your definition of success, I need you to consider

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that no one else is listening. Sit down with a pad of paper.

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I do want the pen or the pencil, marker.

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I don't care what you write with but it needs to be to paper

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because it grounds you, it grounds all of us when we're doing this.

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And I need you to write down what is your definition of success as it is in

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this moment of time when you're doing it and because what that will also

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do is put out a focal point for you.

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And it may help you to then reverse engineer how you're

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going to get to that success. Sound good?

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Good! Thank you for joining me.

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Thank you to all who are commenting who have left reviews on the podcast.

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I pay attention when someone says Hey, go read this book or that there's

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a podcast that I think you'd like. And I really appreciate those of you that share this and I'm requesting that

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because I feel like the more people who feel the joy in their life, the

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more joyous this world is going to be.

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And then we can get to actually living in peace and, and spread

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that out, you know, exponentially.

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So thank you very much. And I will see you in the next episode.

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