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Ash Johns: Hey everyone, just a heads up that this episode of It's Still
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Happening podcast has a little bit of noise, pollution, and distraction in it.
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It is not recorded in the same quality of audio as I usually do because I was
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not in my usual, recording location.
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So I'm asking for your grace. I'm asking you to look beyond and through these slight audio
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imperfections such as the peacocks.
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Peacocking and enjoy, this message and this session.
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Thank you for your grace and enjoy the show.
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All right everyone, welcome back to It's Still Happening podcast.
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this is actually my first time ever creating any content like today's episode.
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I'm not really one to create content based on holidays or
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trends or like current events.
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Or even about what everyone's talking about online.
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Even in my personal life, I tend to, wait until years after the most popular movie
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that everyone's ranting and raving about. I will wait until the series is over.
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The movie is like, no one's talking about anymore.
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It's dead and gone, quote unquote. something new has come out and then I will watch it or then I will talk about it.
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But because of the experience that I just had this past week.
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And even coming into this second week.
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Right. And to give you context, those of you who are listening from the future, which
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technically all of you are, we've just come out of the 2023 Eclipse Skate.
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It is, fresh energy coming through.
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A lot of us are reorienting ourselves and like wrapping up the bow of
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huge change in transformation we've been feeling for a long time.
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I know that I definitely have been. And so because of that, I had such a beautiful experience with my mother.
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Well, not because of that, but in conjunction or at, you know,
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happening at the same time. My mom came down to visit and it's so interesting because her visit was
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originally to see both my youngest brother and I, but because he was
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out of town, I actually was able to enjoy all of my mom's time myself.
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So why am I talking about this and what do I mean around trends and making content
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based on, what's happening in the world is that we're coming up on Mother's Day.
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And it was not, it didn't even dawn on me when she booked her travels
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that we were gonna be spending time so close to Mother's Day.
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And so, even before I get into today's topic, I wanna preface and say that
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if you are someone such as I have been in the past, Who has had a challenging
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relationship with your mother, um, who don't have a relationship with your mom,
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never had a relationship with your mom, or really struggling with your relationship
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with your mom, any of those things. And even if you have a fantastic relationship with your mom, I, invite
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you to breathe and take your time as I reflect over, our visit and kind of
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share some amazing moments, healing moments loving moments, affirming
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moments, growth moments, elevated moments with my mom in hopes that it inspires
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and blesses you as it did for me.
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So again, if you do have a challenging relationship or just wish that your
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relationship was different, or even if it is the way that you want it to be, I
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want you to like take your time, breathe through honor what is, what can be and
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what may never be, you know, because. I would have like a whole entire show if I were to document my
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in relationship with my mother. And, that's not what we're doing.
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but I do wanna celebrate how far we've come and how this recent visit
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was such a reflection of the work that I have done in me to be the
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catalyst to be the, pattern breaker.
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To be, a new standard, a shining light, a receptive vessel to facilitate a
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relationship that I've always wanted and that I needed, and also to,
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yeah, just shift the dynamics that compared to what we've had in the past.
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What an intro, right? Like what an intro.
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And by the time this episode comes out, we will already have past Mother's Day.
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And so depending on how your Mother's Day went, you get to,
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use this episode to support you.
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And you know what? And let me also say something else. I feel like there has been this trying to Fix or like we're so
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fixated on the relationship with our direct mother or mother figure,
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or lack thereof that we forget our mothers and even our, existence.
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As women and and feminine people, that it's not just about the actual mother as
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a person or mother figure as a person or lack of the mother figure as a person.
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Whatever we are experiencing with our mothers and in our lives and who we are
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as women is a reflection of a lot of things that's happened to a lot of people
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all the way down our maternal lineages, whether that is our mother's mother's
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line or our father's mother's line.
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And to expand that even more.
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For those of you who are not as familiar with my work, it is also
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reflected in the people and the energies from our mother's father's
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line and our father's father's line.
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Because the mother wound, the mother conditioning, the mother
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patterning the maternal instincts. All of that is weaving in and out regardless of your sex or your gender,
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or which side of the lineage you're on. All of us came from a mother.
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All of us came from the land of this earth.
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All of us came from someone who carried us in whatever way that they
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did, she did, for us to be here. And so I want to, as I talk about my own mother, I'm gonna be opening the aperture.
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And kind of weaving through or illuminating some of the patterns
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that have really, it's not about my mom, it's not about just me.
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It is about the entire system of people and system of experiences
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that we have inherited and that has been programmed in our psyche and
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ourselves and our energy field, right?
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And our beliefs, all of those things. And then obviously in our bodies, but I'm just talking about from
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like the smallest, energetic level. So I just feel like every time we talk about, or people talk about it, this
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is my first time doing it, mother's Day or you know, honoring the mother.
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We're always looking at it from the context of our immediate maternal figure.
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And there's so much more. There's the people who have motherless.
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There is Mother Earth. There is the whole lineage of mothers who birthed the person who birthed the person
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who birthed, the person who birthed you. People you don't even know, right.
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but I know from our human minds it's easy for us to just focus on our
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direct umbilical cord connection.
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But I want you for a moment to think about all of the wounds and all of the
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umbilical cords that pass down information to love, exist, survive, be, hold,
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endure, sacrifice, expand, nourish.
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and all of those things can be seen in a positive way, in a loving, maternal
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way, in the way that we want to, and also nourishment and expansion and things
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in ways that didn't feel good, right?
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So we assign positive and negativity to these experiences that we've
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inherited and that we experience with our own, mothers in maternity.
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Maternity. That's an interesting way to use that. But, I just want to give grace.
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Our minds love to just fixate on the person in the position closest to us.
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But the truth is, if we, again, open the aperture, if we zoom out, this
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is a system, this is a movement. This is an epidemic, if you will.
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Cuz I know there's such a movement right now of people talking
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about how their mothers were narcissists or even their partners.
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But that's another episode for another time.
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And for me, I'll be honest with you, and this is not to discredit
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or dilute or you know, talk.
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Badly about anyone's experience and what they're doing in therapy
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to heal what they need to heal and move how they need to move.
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And this movement of just calling everyone a narcissist is just, it never sat right
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with me because I think of what created the experience of quote unquote, D V
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S M book, medical Book of diagnosing narcissism, like all these disorders.
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That we're running around this world and internet using and sitting in these
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chairs and talking to doctors using within the context of just our personal
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life is a reflection, is a symptom, is a survival pattern of many years, many
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generations, centuries of conditioning.
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And so I've, I've learned in my own life and also with my clients, that every
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time we, allow ourselves to zoom out and look at the system of our lineages
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and how it's manifesting in our lives, and the system of our family dynamics,
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and the system of our relationship to the maternal, to our mothers, to the
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energy of mothering and nurturing, we get more information and we can
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understand, but also change our behaviors.
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Transmute the energy, transmute the meaning.
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Alchemize it. Evolve, grow, heal, and be an example of what's possible as opposed to,
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making sense of it in a way that labels and blames, and don't get me
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wrong, we've all been hurt by people. You know, I'm not gonna ever name a mother as a narcissist or any other
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label, but there is ways in which she has mother that has harmed me.
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And there's ways in which I have daughter that has harmed her.
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Let's be honest. Right? Over the years, I've had clients who had done years of therapy with, their
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relationship with their mothers and their fathers and looking at their
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mother wounds and maternal wounds.
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when we did whole lineage healing or when they embarked on the
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whole ancestral healing journey, which by the way is never about.
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The lineage as a whole, it's really about your freedom and who you are
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becoming so you can step into your role and your power and so on and so forth.
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But there's many podcast episodes and YouTube videos for you to explore,
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and emails and all the things from me that you can explore on that.
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But when they did this work, they were like, oh my God, I have so much.
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And again, I get teary. I hear like compassion.
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Compassion for the person who held the mother pole.
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Or the maternal energy, or the nurturing energy.
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There's so much compassion in understanding the circumstances
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and seeing what it was before and what it can be through you, right?
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It's like, coming out of the weeds on the ground and getting in a helicopter
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and being able to actually see where you're at and what you're working
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with and being like, oh my God. On the ground, it seemed like it was the most catastrophic flood and it was.
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It was, I mean, I live in South Florida, so like it was a huge flood, but as
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soon as you come up, you're like, oh, okay, I see how this was caused.
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And like we just need to set up the levies differently and drain this and like
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do this and move this and level up the land and, look at the weather patterns.
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And I now can evolve, like the cycle of flooding is not gonna
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necessarily end in my lifetime.
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Mother wounds won't end in my lifetime, however, The growth and the healing that
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I do will transform this phenomenon.
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Will the strategies that I've put in place, the healing that I do,
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me looking at the whole big picture here, I can respond to it differently.
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I can lean my life differently so that over the years we don't have these
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issues as strongly when they come up.
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Right? Such an interesting analogy, but I think it fits the bill.
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So let's come into the storytelling, cuz as y'all know, if you're familiar
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with me and if you're not, hi. I, always love to share personal stories because I, I feel that it
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truly illuminates experiences that helps you see yourself in someone.
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And you might get something from my story that I didn't even expect you
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to, but it helps you on your path. So I'm never sharing personal stories just for the sake of being vulnerable
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in a person, talking on the internet. Like it's because I know it's a gift.
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I know it helps people. I know I've taught in many different ways and people always come back to you, oh
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my God, thank you for telling that story. It really brought to life what you were saying.
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It illuminated and changed things in me beyond just my mental understanding.
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It dropped into my heart. It dropped into my energy field and it, it changed me.
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So shout out to those of us who share our stories and teach by, as I say,
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my saying is, I teach by living.
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I teach by living. So let me give you some context.
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My mom is like, The sweetest lady, and I know we all say these things when we like,
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have a good relationship with our moms. We're like, oh, it's good. And it's true.
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She is a very simple lady, and by simple I don't mean like homely.
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But just like she's easy to please, like she just really rolls with things
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and, observes people and, and just likes to create comfort for folks.
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Like she's really, really good at that. In fact, anytime that I have moved, anytime I'm going to travel, I
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love if I can to have my mom come into town and like pack for me,
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clean for me, organize for me. Cuz if it's up to me, I pack at the last minute.
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If it's up to me, I unpack. Like two months later, it's a whole thing and she's really, really
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good at it and she wastes no time. However, when she comes to visit me, it's always an experience of like, she gets
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here and she will do the housekeeping and the nurturing and like all the cool
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stuff and like cook or like, let's buy the food or this is where we're gonna eat.
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But like I plan things like I am the, this is where we're gonna go.
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How do you feel about this? We can do this. This is what's happening.
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You know, I always drive. And so I definitely step more into my doing and my masculine energy and she's
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in like the maternal mothering energy and then we do this little dance, right?
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But I have definitely been going through a life transformation, becoming a fiance.
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coming off of my six month, sabbatical with business and traveling
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the world for six months and. Changing where I live and I'm soon to change where I live again,
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like there's been a lot of change.
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And so she didn't tell me this until after she left, but she's like, I
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just had the mothering, like nurturing nudge that I needed to come and love
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on you, that I needed to be there and to allow you to be in a different space
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for a moment and remember who you are. And me in my, like, I'm a big girl and I'm here.
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I like. I do so much for my family.
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I've done so much for my mom. Like I'm the person that no one has to worry about.
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I was just kind of like, yeah, yeah, yeah, mom.
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Thanks. You always say that, but I'll tell you in the experience I had to whew open
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and receive my mother's mothering in a way that I have never done before
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in a level of appreciation that I truly feel I have never done before.
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It was like we were in a sink.
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Like I was in such a state of transformation that I was used to
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living with myself, like being in my body, experiencing myself daily.
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That the change of moving to, you know, an Airbnb, beautiful Airbnb
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that she picked out because she loves, I have a certain style of Airbnb.
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So she picked something that's totally my style, which I loved.
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And she said that, you know, she's like, I knew this would be your thing.
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Like you would love this. and. To go into a new space with her, and it's just me, her, and Ziggy, who right now
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is getting like attacked by mosquitoes. and to allow myself to relax and allow myself to be around her, not to experience
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my mother and show her around town and go places and do things together, but simply
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to be there in her presence and allow her loving mother energy to pour upon me.
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I have mothered myself very well for a long time.
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As I said, my teenage years were horrific.
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Like horrific. I was a completely different person.
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I definitely could have been dead by now or like, I'm not
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even joking, like seriously. and so I don't remember why I brought that up, but like to go from that to
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now, this where I can just be around her and feel her energy and receive
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it and like, Allow her to mother me as a grown 36 year old woman.
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Was a moment.
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It was a moment. It was a moment that I will never forget and always cherish because
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there's something that I realized. My mom has said stuff over the years.
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I've also like mothered my brothers and mothered other people obviously.
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But My mom has always said our style of dealing with my brothers in
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particular is very different because she is an actual birth mother.
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She birthed them and so she tends to get really soft with them.
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And I'm a little bit more like, I will give you inspiration and softness,
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but then I will also hold like a very strong fiery like boundary.
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Like you must man up, you know? And so there's times where, I'll be honest with y'all, I have criticized
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her mothering and been like, the way that you are going about doing this with
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them or with me, I don't agree with.
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And you know, I, I actually attended a, mother webinar by the coach,
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therapist, writer author Bethany Webster recently, and I've had her book and
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I've known about her work for years. And I just attended it just because I was like, I've known
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this woman and I've heard of her. And our work is supportive to each other.
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I should check out. You like, just go to this. And so I was listening and it was really beautiful.
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Like, shout out to her, check out her work. check out her book.
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but as the women were sharing in the chat, there were so many things people
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were talking about that I realized I didn't, resonate with, I didn't experience
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feeling like I'm in competition with my mother, or there's not enough space for
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me and her to exist together, or that I couldn't speak up and say my, my truth.
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I have always. Has been like, and this is just me being a, a feisty, like first house
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Aries kind of person where I was like, listen, I'm gonna say what I have to
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say, even if you punch me in the lips, which my mom has totally done before.
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But that's no judgment to her. That's just the generation she was raised in.
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We can talk about all this stuff later, but I bring that up to say
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I definitely, communicated with my mother things that I didn't agree with
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her the way that she mothered and. It was hard for her to receive that and sometimes she didn't receive it at all.
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But on this trip it was beautiful to see this dance of my maternal energy
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meeting her and giving her feedback and, and talking with her in ways that was
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supportive to her, while also being able to receive her mothering and maternal
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energy in the way that I deeply and desperately, I would even say need it.
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It was such a dance of womanhood of.
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Nurturing of seeing each other, of sensing what each other needs and
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wants, and being able to do it in a way that did not deplete either one of us.
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It was like such a celebration and such a glorious moment.
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Like it was just so beautiful to the point that it was so hard to leave.
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I was just like, let's extend, like let's stay together longer.
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And I don't think I've ever had a moment, sorry mom to say this,
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where I was like, oh my God, I don't want her to leave, you know?
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I knew I needed to like get even more in my own space to integrate some of
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the loving and nurturing that she gave me so I could implement it in my life.
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I do that in all areas. It's not just spirituality, it's not just a retreat or a workshop.
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Like I'm always integrating and taking the lessons and putting
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it into like fully into my body.
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Not just my physical body, but like my existence body.
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But still at this end, of this visit, I was just like, wow, I didn't know
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I needed the medicine of mother. I didn't, and I didn't know I could appreciate it at the level that I did.
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So I wanna highlight a couple things that I did and she did that was new for us.
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And monumental. Like monumental.
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The first thing is my mother was a very giving mother, right?
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I've been blessed with that. She will give you the shirt off your back, even if you're not her child.
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And if you're her child, she's like ready to pour her like slight of
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service and pour blood into your mouth, like if you need to give
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you her own blood transfusion.
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and so because of that sometimes I've been like, no, stop giving.
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You've done enough. I'm independent. I'm good.
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I'm a grown woman. Let me give to you mom. But this time I actually allowed myself to receive, and that's
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a representative of my growth. And it allowed her to experience being a mom and doing in a way
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that is just built, like my mom was built to be a mom, you know?
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And I saw how good it made her feel to give.
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And was also amazing, she didn't give to depletion.
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So in that I allowed myself to receive in ways that I've never received before.
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Like my mom was like, please, I actually want to cover the Airbnb.
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I want to get another Airbnb. And you go on another little staycation.
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Cause I'm really in like a staycation moment right now.
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and like going different places still in the area, but just
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to have a different vibe. And I was like, no.
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And then I was like, actually, yes, I will receive your gifts.
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I will receive your gifts. You are pouring into me in ways that I need to receive it.
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And we will see the fruit of you doing so and of me receiving it and allowing my
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seeds to be tended to very soon, you know, this is huge growth, in my opinion of my
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mother, is that she knew when to stop.
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Sometimes my mom love has love so much, and you guys know if you have a mother
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this way that loves so much that she would just keep giving and keep giving.
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At the end of the day, she's like exhausted. And all of my mother girlfriends talk about this too.
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They're just like, as a mom, you just want to do it.
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But then there's, I forgot about myself and I saw my mom not do that
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for the first time on this trip where she was like, okay, goodnight.
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Like, okay, deal with that later.
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And there's a lot of reasons why that is happening.
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The wisdom of her age. if you follow me on Instagram, you know, my mother is a newlywed.
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She recently got married for the second time, and that was like a huge phenomenon.
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We had done some personal work together to support that happening, and also
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it was just God's plan, like truly. and to see my mom give, allow me to receive and then for her to still
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be filled up was just such a gift. I don't know if you've ever experienced.
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Seeing your mom do good in a way that takes away from her, and how
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that, that made me feel very sad. I, it made me want to, and, and again, therapists and people who specialize
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in this work will talk about and label this as codependency and da, da, da,
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and all these things, and that's fine and dandy, but at the end of the day,
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the personal experience of me wanting to save or to give to my mom or to
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take care of her or to alleviate her survival patterns, It's not just a
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me a thing that needs to be labeled. It is a relationship that's been passed down in our lineage.
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So for me to not do that, for her, to not get herself to that place was massive.
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Like, massive change, massive growth, massive evolution, massive restoration of
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the existence and the expression of our.
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Woman and of our maternal instincts.
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And I love it because this, one of the reasons in my twenties I chose not
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to become a mother was because what I witnessed and what I saw both in my family
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and in the culture and in the culture of just women and mothers, was that we
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are, we're willing to give up everything and our freedom for our children.
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And I was like, that is a no for me. Me, I will never be a narcissist mother, but I also am not going
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to forget my identity as all my hyphens, all my commas, just because
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I add mother to it at the beginning.
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Like I, I just refuse to do that. And I still stand by that.
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And I, I just feel that there's such, and all the mommy blogs and all of the videos,
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everyone's like, this is how it happens.
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This is how it goes. You give everything to your children to the point that you have nothing
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and like you have to lose yourself. And then you have to learn Self-love and self-growth, and I
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was just like, I'm a no for that. I will never do that.
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I will follow up about that in another episode, in another teaching, because as
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much as I said, I will not do it, I did it in a different way when it came to
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my business, and I will talk about that. But um, yeah, this, this experience was huge for me and I was just,
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digesting it and watching it and being like, that was amazing.
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There's evidence of change and evidence of growth.
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In so many ways, just in one interaction or one visit with my mom.
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The second one I wanna talk about, cuz that one was full of like, it was like
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four different things I just talked about. But the second one is actually a little bit cleaner.
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and like straight to the point, all my life I have been a very creative person.
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I'm the only girl and I would go into my bedroom and I would, Close the
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door and paint and draw and move the furniture and make my own clothes.
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And so, you know, again, we could talk about attachment styles,
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but at the end of the day, I am a person who thrives in isolation.
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We could also talk about the fact that I'm a projector.
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I like to be around people and then disappear and do my own thing and
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rejuvenate and get clarity, and then I bring it back out into the world.
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So if you follow me on social media, you know, that's my, my steelo, but like, As a
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girl, I would go in the room and close the door and create, and then I would come out
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and share with my mom, or I would invite my brothers into my bedroom and I'd have
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all these creation stations and I would teach them things and we'd make bookmarks,
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or I would read to them and she was like, you've always been a person who loved
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people, but also loved your alone term.
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And somewhere in our life journey, we often forget who we truly are, who
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we've always been, what our lifestyle has always looked like, even if it was,
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Through the context of just a bedroom. And now the context is like my whole life, I'm always wanting to travel
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into my and create these experiences, micro experiences that I get to contain
27:17
myself in, and then I make stuff. And so what I've been looking at is like somewhere in life
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we sometimes forget that. Like through our evolutions, through our changes, through the ways we
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have impact, how our businesses grow, how our visibility changes.
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How we get recognized, who we work with, what relationships, like all these
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different changes that we go through sometimes, oftentimes, all the time
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we disconnect from the roots of our person or, and we're in this journey
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of constantly healing and seeing what is truly us and what was like harmful
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conditioning or coping, conditioning, that we abandoned the truth of who we are.
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Yeah, and my mom so beautifully illustrated this or brought
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this to life for me. Illuminated it for me actually, is what I will say.
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Because she turned to me as we were in the first Airbnb and she said,
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you've always been this way, Ash. This has always been you.
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You've always been adventurous. You've always been curious.
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You would never settle for what you don't like.
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You always outspoken. You always can speak right to the heart of the true thing that's
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going on with someone, not just.
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Like the surface level or the bandaid or the mask, you've always gone off
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into your own world and created and then come out and shared it with people.
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You did this your whole life. Remember since you were a little girl, remember?
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And I was like, I got teary eyed. And I was like, you're right.
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And the reason being is I was feeling guilt and was having some tension around
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needing this space with my mother, but.
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Subsequently needing space from everyone, like from my fiance, from
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my home, and just wanting to be with me and my dog in a beautiful space.
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So I can create. And I just wonder, and I don't even have to wonder cuz if I go and sit
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down, I've just been enjoying my space. But if I go and sit down and talk to my ancestors about this, I know that
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there is a bigger story, a bigger system around this, of women abandoning who
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they are and what they really need to thrive and to have their cup overflowing.
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Because of the pressure of their, of their business or their partner, or
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their rules, or the culture or the legislation or whatever it might, or
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the money or whatever it might be. And when she pointed this out, I was like, thank you.
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Even me, I needed to be reminded that this is rightful for me to be here with
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you and then for me to extend my stay, to have the space that allows Ash to thrive.
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And when Ash thrives, everyone around her thrives.
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That's how us women, that's how we women, and that's definitely how I work.
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And I was like, you know what? I know this about myself.
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And yet I was not honoring it. I was making the truth of who I am wrong.
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It was a mother's love that brought me back to myself in that moment.
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So, I hope that this episode of is still happening, gives you permission to receive
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the nourishment, the mothering, the care, the love, the rest, the being held that
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you need from wherever you get mothered, even if that mothering is from yourself.
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Allow yourself to mother you and to receive the mothering you need.
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And if you do have a mother in your life, if you do have a maternal
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figure in your life, and if you don't, then let's do ancestral healing.
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So you can loving energy of all of the women down your
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maternal lineages around you. And with you, I've done that myself, especially in my paternal and father line.
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To feel the mothers and the men, and this the case that I'm giving,
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the men give me the fathering that I did not receive from my father's.
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It's possible, but even if you're not doing ancestral healing work, I want
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you to open up to receive the mothering that you need, wherever it's coming
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from, and that you remember who you've always been and how your mothering
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figure, whoever they were, saw you.
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In your best, in their best moments and the clarity of their
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eyes and love when they had it. Whether it was every day or just once a month or once a year, right?
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Like we have a lot of complexities in our relationships.
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But in that one moment that you can remember that there was some love or some
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reverence or care, look through their eyes at who you truly are and allow their care
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to remind you to live and operate from.
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The seat of your identity, the seat of how you operate best, how you express
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yourself best, and how you want to move forward in your life and in this world.
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I think that feels complete. There's a lot that I can say, but I don't wanna ramble and I just wanna honor.
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All of us who are mothering in our own ways, all of us who come from mothers.
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So I'm gonna honor all of our mothers, and I wanna honor all of our maternal
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lineages who lived, loved mom, nurtured, sacrificed, encouraged,
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right, nourished, protected all of us in the ways that they could.
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As best they could under the circumstances, under the unhealed,
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inherited, ancestral and personal trauma as best as they could.
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All right. So I'd love to hear your feedback and thoughts about this.
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I think I'll be writing a lot more about this experience because I don't know,
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I feel like I grew as a woman because of spending this time with my mom and
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being mothered, which, is surprising.
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As you can see, I'm a little like. Still integrating and digesting and in awe, in awe.
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So I hope you had a beautiful Mother's Day.
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I hope that you honor yourself as mother because all of us are
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nurturing something in our lives. even if it's only ourselves, and that you go forth with having the best day that
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you possibly can, knowing that you are here for a reason and have a role to play.
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In this world, in your community, and in your lineage.
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Thank you for being here with me. Shout out to my mom.
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I love you. Thank you so much.
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