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This program is made possible by the partners

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of Joyce Meyer Ministries. Anybody

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who lives by their feelings might as well

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just get a rubber stamp that says destroyed

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and stamp it across your life. We

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cannot live by emotions and ever

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have victory. Victory demands

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that we operate in self-control. I

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do what I do because I've

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seen God's power transform my own

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life and He will do it

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for you. The key

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to everything is found in God's Word.

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I'm Joyce Meyer and I believe

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that God can heal you everywhere

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you hurt. The

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consequences of certain things

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brings death. And

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when I'm talking about death in

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this way, I'm not talking about

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no longer breathing and being in

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a grave. Actually,

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in the Amplified Bible, it says

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the type of death that's being

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talked about, and especially in Romans

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6 where we're going to read a couple of verses,

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it says the consequences

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of sin, for example, brings death, but

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it says death that comprises all the

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miseries that one can imagine both

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here and hereafter. So

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how many miserable

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Christians are

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walking the earth? You

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know, it's one thing to be a miserable sinner, but

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it's another thing entirely to be a miserable

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believer. We're

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supposed to be the happy group. Amen?

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We're supposed to be the one spreading joy.

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Our lives are supposed to be

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salty. We're supposed to make other

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people thirsty to

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have a life like ours. That's

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why I say we don't even really have to worry

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about preaching so much

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if we just get out there and live the

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life that Jesus died

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for us to have, people are

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going to be like a magnet and

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people are going to be drawn to you and want

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to know what you have and how they can get

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it. But as long as we

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continue to be no different than everybody else except we go

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to church on Sunday and have a bumper sticker on our

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car, come

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on, you know what I'm talking about. I

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don't want to be miserable. I spent enough

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years of my life being miserable and I

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don't intend to be miserable anymore. And

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you know what I've discovered? If I

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want to be happy, then I have

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to decide to be happy because

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the devil's not going to help me be happy. He's

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going to do everything he can to make me unhappy,

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but nobody, listen

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to me, nobody can make you

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unhappy if you won't let

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them do it. You

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know, I've told you that I had all kinds

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of problems, I mean like from being abused for

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15 years by my dad. I

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mean this wasn't just an occasional thing. This was all the

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time, all the time, all the time, all the time, and

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I'm not going to go through all the nasty details. You

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can get it in other teachings

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and books, but I

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was in bad shape by the time he got done with

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me. And

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I looked okay on the outside. I mean I didn't

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look like there was anything wrong with me, but boy,

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I had a mess in my soul. And

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you know when you have a mess in your soul,

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you know where it starts showing up in relationships. Amen?

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The one thing I didn't like myself, because

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I thought something was wrong with me because of what he

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had done to me, and if you don't like yourself, you're

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not going to be able to get along with anybody else.

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And so I was miserable. And

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therefore, I set about

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trying to make Dave miserable. And

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miserable people don't even realize what they're

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doing, but the honest truth is, is

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that when you're miserable, you really don't

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want anybody else to be happy. You

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want other people to be miserable with you,

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and you maybe don't even do it

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on purpose, but you really just try

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to make them miserable. My father was

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a miserable human being, and he did

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his best to make everybody else that

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he was around miserable. And

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we all let him do it because we didn't know that we had

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a choice. Well, Dave

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was a born-again, spirit-filled Christian

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who'd been praying for a while, and

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he told God, make it somebody that needs help. Now,

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you want to be very careful how you pray.

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Can you imagine somebody praying that? But

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see, that's what a strong Christian

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says. I can take it, give me

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somebody that needs help. I

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want to be used by you, God. I

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don't even think he knew what he was doing when he prayed that.

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I'm sure it was just like a

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divine, maybe he was in

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a trance or something when he prayed that prayer. You

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know, let me tell you, he got somebody that

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needed help. But

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Dave was strong enough in the Lord that

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he would not let me make him unhappy. And

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the happier he stayed, the madder

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it made me. Does

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anybody know what I'm talking about? But

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it was one of the best things he ever did for me because

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I saw, now listen to me, those of you that

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are married to somebody that spends all their time trying

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to make you unhappy, come

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on, or maybe you're

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the one that spends all your time trying to make

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somebody else unhappy. I

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don't know, you're the one that's here, so. I

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got to preach too, I got to preach too.

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And, well what I began to see was stability,

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something I had never seen before. I

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began to see somebody who wasn't

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controlled by outward circumstances. Dave loved

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me unconditionally, but I had to

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receive the love. He didn't

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turn it on and off based on my behavior.

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He just was, and

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he was, and he was, and

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he was, and

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he was, and we need to learn

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to be who God wants us to be

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no matter what everybody else is doing. Did

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you hear me? OK. Maybe

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somebody's been mean

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to you they haven't treated you right. So

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now your temptation is you are going to build a wall and

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you're not going to let them into your life and

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you're not going to talk to them and you're

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going to give them the cold shoulder. Well, that's not the way

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God wants you to read. That's not the way God wants you

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to respond because now you're letting them

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control you and

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what you need to do is just say,

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God, I'm going to be who I am

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and I'm going to trust you to take care of them.

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So I'm telling you that you don't have

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to let other people make you

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unhappy and that's something that you

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can do but only if

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you have self-control. Because

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your emotions, anybody who lives by their

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feelings might as well just get

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a rubber stamp that says destroyed and stamp

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it across your life. We

7:31

cannot live by emotions and ever

7:33

have victory. Victory demands

7:36

that we operate in self-control. When

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I'm talking about self-control, I'm not just talking about

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eating and exercising. I'm talking a

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lot about controlling your thoughts and

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controlling your words and your

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attitudes and especially these emotions

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that want to go down at the same time

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a circumstance doesn't suit us. We

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need to toughen up a little bit and

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be able to deal with disappointment. and

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stay happy when we don't get our way.

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Come on, I'll say that to this side of

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the room. Stay happy when we don't get our

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way. Come

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on, can you be happy when you don't get your

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way? Amen. We

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spend too much time trying to get

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God and the whole world to serve

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us. And

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Jesus said he came to serve, not to

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be served. I

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hope you love me when today is over. For

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the wages of sin is death.

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Sin makes you miserable. Every

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kind of misery. That's why really,

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instead of getting so mad at people that

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sin and do things that hurt us, we

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really need to realize that hurting people

8:51

hurt people. And

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I'm telling you what, sin brings its own punishment.

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You don't have to worry about trying to

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punish somebody who's

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sinning. It has its own punishment

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and its misery. Do

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you really think that a drug

9:07

addict is happy? No, they're miserable.

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Do you really think that somebody who

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does nothing but mistreat other people all

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the time is a happy person? No,

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they're not. They're miserable. Sin,

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the wages of sin is death. Death

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that comprises all the miseries that

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we can ever have in this life and

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in the one to come. Romans

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8, 6 says, for to set the mind

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on the flesh is death. Here

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again, it's not talking about being

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in a grave. It's talking about

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the more you think about yourself

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and the flesh and what you want and what

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you don't have and what you think you should

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have and what other people have that you don't

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think they should have and you don't understand why

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you don't have it. Come

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on. I

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mean, you spend the whole day thinking like that

9:57

and just see how happy you are by bedtime.

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Not going to be too happy. That you

10:05

can purpose to say, God, I believe I'm in your hands

10:07

and you have a plan for my life. And

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as long as I obey you and do what you

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want me to, when your time comes to bless

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me, no devil in hell and no person on

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earth can keep you from it. Come

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on. Real promotion comes from God, not from

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man. And

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I have found this and I preach this a lot. I

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hope you don't get tired of hearing it, but it

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doesn't matter to me even if you do

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because we need to hear things over and

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over and over and over. The

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flesh is naturally

10:43

selfish. It

10:46

wants what it wants. And

10:48

we do need to take care of ourselves and we

10:50

need to be good to ourselves because if you don't

10:52

take care of yourself, you're not going to be able

10:55

to even help anybody else. But

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I'm not talking about being selfish

10:59

and self-centered. What

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we need to do is purposely, everybody

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say purposely. I

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stress that because I have to do it on

11:08

purpose. And I mean, I've

11:11

been hard after this God thing for over

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40 years, almost 45 years now. I

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mean, studying the Word, preaching

11:19

the Word, really doing

11:21

everything I know to do to try to live

11:24

according to the Word. And every

11:26

single day of my life, I

11:28

still have to use self-control. I

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still have to say no to myself

11:32

and I still have to resist being

11:34

selfish. I was just sitting and thinking

11:36

the other day about some ways I'm

11:38

just still so stinking selfish. And

11:41

I hate it. I don't want to be that way. Thank

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God He changes us from glory to glory. Now

11:47

what I have to do is

11:49

purposely, everybody say purposely, think

11:52

about what I can do for somebody else. I

11:56

just challenge you, but take

11:59

for example. just exhorting

12:02

somebody or edifying them, which basically means

12:04

to make them feel good, just

12:07

to make somebody feel good. Imagine that. You

12:09

have the ability, every single one of you

12:11

has the ability, no matter how many problems

12:14

you have, you have an

12:16

amazing ability to make somebody else feel

12:18

better. Think

12:21

about that. And

12:25

I would venture to say that far

12:28

too many are

12:30

not using that ability at all. They

12:33

want everybody else to make them feel better, but

12:37

they're not really giving their life to making

12:39

other people feel better. I

12:42

took on a little new project. I'm pretty goal

12:44

oriented. And so I like my

12:47

little God projects, things that I

12:50

feel that God wants me to do. And

12:54

I make a thing out of it. And so for

12:58

a while I had this thing going on and now

13:00

it's become more of a habit. See, when you do

13:02

something over a long period of time, it becomes a

13:04

habit. And so then you don't really have to try

13:07

to do it anymore. You just do it and don't

13:09

even hardly realize you're doing it. Like

13:11

I don't have to try to go brush my

13:13

teeth. I mean, I brush my teeth three, four,

13:15

five times a day and don't even realize. I'm

13:20

not like, okay, now I have to go brush my teeth. It's

13:22

just what I do. Well, for

13:25

a long time I was kind of pressing this

13:27

thing. Be sure you put a smile on at

13:29

least three faces every day. Do

13:32

something to make at least

13:34

three people smile. Well,

13:37

now my new thing is at least one time

13:39

every day, at least one,

13:42

surely I can do one. Come

13:45

on, how many of you think you can do one of something?

13:48

Okay, one time a day I wanna

13:50

reach out to somebody, you're gonna be greeted

13:52

by email or phone or in person. And

13:54

I wanna Compliment them

13:56

and say enough to them.

14:00

The older appreciated and that

14:02

they have worth and value.

14:05

Now. So if anybody wants to join me

14:07

in my quest, you. Can join me? How many

14:09

would like to just set a goal that want

14:11

at least once a day. Come.

14:14

On so I can do it once

14:16

at least once a day. You're going

14:18

to ask? John? Put somebody on my

14:20

heart that I can. Blast

14:23

that I can appreciate an acidic

14:25

getting on social media and kill

14:27

on every bad thing you know

14:29

about everybody. Come on, don't do

14:31

that kind of stuff. Don't

14:34

get caught up in that, don't. Even

14:36

when you get, just get used to

14:39

you know that it's true. I'm

14:42

can you hold reputations are being ruined

14:44

by social media and people are just

14:46

tell lies about think what talking about

14:48

stuff. I mean some other stuff. That's.

14:52

Online about me. I'm

14:54

I'm almost. I'm never hardly ever look at

14:56

it but I kind of it's it's amazing

14:58

where they. Stick stuff is like to be.

15:00

In the middle of looking at a mad about dish. Soap

15:03

and all of a sudden was here comes

15:05

up the latest secret about Joy. Smile. Or

15:09

whoever you know, Zola Los Angeles for

15:11

that one, or somebody else. And

15:14

though our dumb enough to open that

15:16

went out and take a look at

15:18

it and I just thought I could

15:20

not say that I did not do

15:22

that and until we have to stop

15:25

believing everything that we read because just

15:27

doesn't. Make it. And

15:35

don't don't sleep. Part of that. I mean,

15:37

on. The technology

15:40

game but. Let's use it to

15:42

build somebody up. But here's a edifies

15:44

somebody hit over every day until some

15:46

some have. L

15:49

something to say. Some sort of put a

15:51

smile on. Somebody was so mcqueen

15:53

joke. Thought. of

15:55

are throwing clean just in

15:58

case the my moses Romans

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8, 6, for to set the mind on the

16:04

flesh, to just think about me, me, me, me, me, is

16:09

death. But to

16:11

set the mind on the spirit is

16:13

life and peace. You

16:17

know, if you think more about what you can do for

16:19

other people than what somebody ought to be doing for you,

16:23

you're going to have life and peace, and

16:25

that's going to turn into joy. But

16:29

the more you think about what you don't have, what you

16:31

think you should have, what somebody else has, you don't think

16:33

they deserve, and the whole thing I went through before, the

16:37

more miserable you're going to become. We

16:40

control our happiness a lot more than

16:42

we think that we do. Come

16:44

on. I'll

16:47

just say, I think you can be miserable. Any day

16:49

you want to be miserable, you can be miserable. And

16:53

any day you want to be happy, I think you can

16:55

find something to be happy about. You

16:57

say, well, I've got a lot of problems. Well,

17:00

you know what most people do these days? And

17:05

the more you think about them, the bigger they

17:07

seem. And the more

17:10

you talk about them, the bigger they seem.

17:12

Whatever you focus on becomes the largest thing

17:14

in your life. So

17:16

the best thing to do is just get up out

17:18

of your sad chair where

17:20

you're feeling sorry for yourself and

17:23

having your pity party and

17:25

just go do something. Take a walk.

17:28

Thank God for nature. Amen.

17:32

Head a dog. Do something. Get your

17:34

mind off yourself and do something else.

17:38

All right? Few

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quotes and comments on discipline. Lack

17:42

of discipline leads to frustration and

17:44

self-loathing. You

17:47

feel good about yourself when you discipline yourself. You

17:51

know as well as I do, if you start out in the

17:54

morning and you know you've got a plan, you know what you

17:56

should be doing that day. You're going to get your house cleaned

17:58

up. You're going to go, you know, you're going to do this. right?

18:00

Yeah, whatever. it. Is you got a few goals

18:02

and projects you want to get done. Have. You do. I'm at

18:04

the end of the day. You're going to be able

18:06

to sit on realized enjoy yourself Uses users

18:09

feel good. Scolding.

18:13

When. You go to a whole day and you

18:15

know you were just super busy all day long.

18:17

And for the lighting or at the end of

18:20

the day you cannot figure out one thing that

18:22

you did. I

18:27

mean that is the most frustrating. And

18:30

you know what, com letting other

18:32

people control what we do? We

18:36

have a plan. And.

18:39

We let somebody else. Do you

18:41

realize. Don't. Think

18:43

for one minute that the devil don't use

18:45

any body the he can use to get.

18:47

To offer your goals to frustrate you and

18:49

keep you from the in person God wants

18:52

you to the. Army

18:55

Have you ever try to study the

18:57

bible for one hour without getting interrupted?

19:02

You know what? Is.

19:05

The phone beeps. We

19:08

just can't stand it. I

19:10

mean, if the phone beeps we gotta know who

19:13

wants us. I

19:15

don't know when we all got so important.

19:21

Army we at once a scientific if we leave

19:23

the house I'm real as would all have our

19:25

phone. My

19:27

Phone. Where's My phone? My

19:31

phone. I mean if you lose your phone in my

19:33

house is like a world us to stop trying to

19:35

find the phone. I'm

19:42

around a few years so I remember when we

19:44

used have a four way party line and if

19:46

anybody. says.

19:50

Now we're dating ourselves. but I

19:52

mean use that. Lesser people use

19:54

the same line. As

19:58

always, if you want to make a bomb, And

20:00

you picked it up. Somebody was talking. You

20:03

had to hang it up white again and

20:05

as you really want them to get on

20:07

the phone, you'd pick it up ninety. Don't

20:10

forget among us. As

20:13

a really common as the money if you could have

20:15

a two way party line. A more

20:17

than a private. Why? The wormhole? Now that

20:19

was really. Bad. And

20:21

I remember when you were driving, If he

20:23

wanted to make a phone call, you had

20:25

to find a pay phone. And

20:36

it's amazing how well people did was out

20:38

of. An.

20:44

Army of him to prefer. To

20:46

Fly Geico and I got a know

20:48

who's trying to call me and what

20:50

they might be science. We

20:54

need to stop letting all. This other stuff control of.

20:56

You know what? the world is not going to end

20:58

if you turn your phone off and spend an hour

21:01

with God. Characteristics

21:09

of a disciplined person. They always

21:11

go the extra mile. They.

21:15

Always do more than they. See.

21:17

On discipline to the for lazy people.

21:20

Are Peter Arnett Front pages do what they

21:23

barely has to do to get by. But.

21:27

An excellent person Or a person doesn't

21:29

do that. Matthew

21:31

Twenty Five One through to him. Great

21:35

terrible I'm sure you know it. But a teacher

21:37

such a great lesson. Then. The

21:40

kingdom of heaven will be like ten virgins. Who took

21:42

the lamb? Someone to meet the bridegroom? Five.

21:45

Of them were foolish and five or

21:47

y. C.

21:50

As our choice whether to be

21:52

wise or to be foolish. And

21:55

a wise person does. Now what they'll

21:57

be happy was later, even if that

21:59

means sacrifice. now for

22:02

a future benefit. No discipline for the

22:04

present seems joyous. Nevertheless, later on, it

22:06

yields the peaceable fruit of righteousness to

22:08

those who have been trained by it.

22:12

I say some people live like there's no

22:14

tomorrow, but tomorrow always comes. So

22:17

live today in such a way that you'll be

22:19

happy with tomorrow when it gets here, instead

22:21

of then saying, oh, I wish I would've when it's

22:23

too late to go back and do what you should've

22:25

done. When

22:28

the foolish took their lamps, they took the

22:32

ESV Bible says no oil with them. The

22:34

Amplified Bible says no extra oil with them.

22:37

And I like that better because

22:40

they took just enough oil to

22:42

keep their lamps burning if everything

22:44

went exactly right. Come

22:49

on, are you one of those people that it takes you 22 minutes

22:51

to get to work? If

22:57

everything's just right, and

23:01

so you do not leave your

23:03

house until 22 minutes before

23:05

it's time to get there, and

23:09

then you go into your car, you

23:12

forgot your phone. Gotta

23:14

have the phone. Go

23:18

back in and get the phone. Now

23:20

you're down to 19 minutes to make a 22-minute

23:22

trip. Then,

23:25

oh my gosh, you forgot your sunglasses. Well, if you're

23:27

like me, you gotta have sunglasses because my eyes

23:29

are light-sensitive, can't drive without the glasses. Then I gotta

23:31

go back in. And

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then I get to the front door and realize I left my purse in

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many trips have you been on now? This

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is my third trip with Nandofo. And

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what was the main reason that you did want to do this?

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You said you wanted to travel to help

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people? Yes, it's

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a total different work as a doctor

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here than back in my home country.

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I feel like I really

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wanted to do that, to just help people

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in poor countries who cannot

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Sometimes we just pray right at the

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Thank you.

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We hope you enjoy today's program. Please

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