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This week's Thanks for Being Here is from a
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friend of mine. Her name is Tamara Gendler. We
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did an episode with her in the fall of 2020
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where she knit together
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brilliantly the relationship
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between ancient wisdom
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and modern happiness. It's
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one of my favorite conversations, if
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for no other reason, than Tamara
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is hyper articulate. Like, she's
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in the top one one-hundredth of
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one percent in terms of her life. of personalized
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intelligence. And
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so when she sent me the eulogy she
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wrote for her father, I was
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eager to share it. So this
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is Tamara Gendler's eulogy for her
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father, Everett. Everett
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was always ahead of his time. Nearly
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75 years ago in 1948 he became a vegetarian. Some
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seven years later in 1955 he
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spent a summer at a folk
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school receiving civil rights training alongside
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a young Rosa Parks.
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He was an environmentalist by the
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time of Eisenhower. In 67 he
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gave a sermon on the immorality
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of factory farming. By the
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early 70s he and Mary had a large
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organic garden filled with chard and
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kale complete with a compost heap. In
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1978 he installed photovoltaic
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solar panels on the roof
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of his synagogue. He
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has used gender-neutral pronouns to
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refer to God for half
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a century. In
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the early 60s at his congregation
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in Princeton, New Jersey, Everett began
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a tradition of conducting Shabbat services
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outside. On bright
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days he writes in Judaism for
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Universalists, temperature permitting we
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would leave the sanctuary and
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head outdoors. There under
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the skies and in the face of the
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sun we would chant together that part
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of the service which celebrates the gift
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of life and the radiance of the
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luminaries. He viewed
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nature as being along with scripture
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a divine text revelatory of
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the giver of life and guidance. As
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he said both nature and scripture
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are the garb of the mud.
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And just as he was ahead on the
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environment so too was he ahead in other
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domains. Quote, our age is
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a time of tremendous upheavals he
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wrote in 1957. We
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have seen a nearly complete overturning of
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the political order which once seemed
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so firmly established. The
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earth has shifted on its axis, eastward
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toward Africa and Asia. 4,
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1971, feminine and female and woman are
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not necessarily equivalent terms. Feminine
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is a quality found in females, but
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it is found in males as well.
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Preter naturally sensitive to the
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world's moral order, Harvard was always
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out in front, sometimes lonely
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and isolated in his profound awareness
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of the earth's simultaneous beauty and
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injustice, sometimes accompanied by
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or leading others who came to
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share his insight and commitment. But
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in other ways, Everett was slow.
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Anyone who has ever had the pleasure of
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eating a meal with Everett knows that he
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took the advice to chew
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before you swallow with a
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literalness that exceeded even its
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promised interpretation. Breakfast
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alongside Everett lasted almost until
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lunchtime and dinner before an
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8pm concert at Tanglewood needed
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to start before 5. He
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bought his first house in 1971 at the age of 43. His first grandchild
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was born in 1997 when he was almost
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70. His first book,
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Judaism for Universalists, was published
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when he was 86. His
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second, a translation of the
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writings of Samuel Tamars when
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he was 91. Those are
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hardly the time stamps of someone in
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a rush. Nor was
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he in a rush to adopt new technologies
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until well beyond the moment that they went out
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of style. Indeed, all the
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way through the time that they
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came back in, he held firm
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to his typewriter, his vinyl records,
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his loose leaf tea. He used
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old fashioned paper maps, carried
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a pocket calendar, which he called, in
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a reference to modernity that was itself
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outdated, and
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he knew hundreds of phone numbers, including those
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of most of you here in this room.
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with a salt, who cooked
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with cast iron pans, who
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treasured his multi-volume Oxford English
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Dictionary. And in the
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words of the inimitable Reverend Philip
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Zader, his co-choplin at Philip's
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Andover, when he moved from place
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to place, he quote, carried
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books of all sorts in a
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cardboard box masquerading as of
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Blee's first. Everett
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was not only ahead and behind.
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He was also fully. His
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life was filled with radical astonishment
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at the beauty of the world that surrounded him
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and those who inhabited it alongside
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him. His ability
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to connect was extraordinary. He
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would engender true and real love
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in other people, even in a
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brief encounter, writes our dear
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friend, Trudy Snackenberg. For
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Everett, the realms of the secular and
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the sacred were in
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powerful proximity. Ever
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a lover of the celestial bodies and
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their cycles, Everett met each
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phase of the sun and the moon with
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great care. He turned
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chores into ceremonies, changing
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the filter on his well at
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solstice and equinox, accompanied by
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selections from traditional Hebrew liturgy,
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and modern poets and musical
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offerings from Handel to
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Mahler. His
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garden fences bore a ratio
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of 42 to 72.
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Why? Because, as he notes, quote,
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Jewish tradition has a number of names
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designating the divine. Two of
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those I have found valuable in reminding me each
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time I step into my garden, that
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the living sale with which
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I cooperate in helping food grow is
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itself a gift of the author of
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the works of creation. One
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of these names has 42 letters, another
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has 72. Always
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ahead, always behind, always fully
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present. How is this possible? Everett's
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teacher at seminary, the great
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Abraham Joshua Heschel, gives us
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some insight in his 1951 book, The Sabbath. There,
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Heschel distinguishes between the realm of space
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and the realm of time. The
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realm of space is our ordinary human
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domain, the realm of the transient.
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The realm of time is
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the domain of the everlasting and the
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divine. As Heschel writes,
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to gain control of the world of space
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is certainly one of our pulks. The
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danger begins when in gaining power
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in the realm of hosts, we
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forfeit all aspirations in the realm
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of time. Sabbath
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provides us with the opportunity to
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turn our attention away from the
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space to connect with the eternal
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through time. To the
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realm of time, Everett was exquisitely a will.
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He followed all earthly rhythms,
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natural, musical, spiritual, with
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uncanny attention. He
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was superlatively sensitive to the phases
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of the moon, the pacing
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of notes in a musical performance, the
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rhythm of prayer. It is
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no surprise that he held on to
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life, to earthly time, until
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a moment of profound sanctity.
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Even as his oxygen dwindled,
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even as his breathing flowed, Everett
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remained in his earthly body until the
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sun went down on Friday. Simultaneously
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ushering in the new moon, the
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new Hebrew month, the renewal of
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spring, and the Sabbath. The
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Sabbath, Heschel writes, is a
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realm of time where the goal is
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not to have, not to be, not
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to own, but to give, not
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to control, but to share,
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not to subdue, but to be in accord. Everett,
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you spent your life being, giving,
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sharing, and being in accord. Though
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you are no longer with us in earthly
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spools, no longer with us
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in earthly time, you remain with
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us, always leading us
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toward your vision for the future, always
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holding on to the wisdom of the
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past, always focusing our eyes on
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the miracle of the present. May
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your memory be a blessing to us
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all. Thank
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you, wonderful. Tomorrow I love knowing you. And
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here's to you. Sounds like a praying
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leader. We'll be
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back on Tuesday with another Kelly Corrigan wonders
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and then on Friday with another go-to.
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Thanks everyone.
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