0:10

Hey, what's up Ken folk , how y'all doing listen

0:13

, uh , I'm PT, Gullo

0:15

, and I'm Ray

0:18

Sanders. All right . So

0:20

the question for today, the question

0:22

for today was this. I wish

0:25

I knew about the different types of love, the

0:27

Bible references, especially the three types

0:30

and songs of songs, romantic

0:32

commitment, and sexual wish.

0:34

I had a better understanding of God's love before

0:36

getting married, though

0:39

his wisdom and timing didn't provide that.

0:41

And I know I can trust his plan. Wish

0:44

I knew how to reject teachings that idolized

0:46

marriage, rather than ponder them as

0:49

possibly credible. So

0:51

this is a multipart question , uh

0:53

, that our friend Sonia asked . And

0:55

so we're not gonna get to the whole question today,

0:58

but I , what I wanted to deal with today

1:00

was specifically her thought of

1:03

idolizing marriage. And,

1:07

you know, this is a conversation. And

1:09

so for those of you who are there , um

1:12

, man , we just, we want to just foster a

1:14

conversation between us

1:20

and you and whoever else is gonna be

1:22

joining us about marriage. And whether

1:24

you think in the culture is idolized. And

1:26

so I'm a , I'm gonna let Ray talk a

1:29

few Ray, what's up first

1:32

off . I obviously I'm

1:34

not married. Yeah. And I

1:36

would , I'm pursuing that that path, but

1:39

how do you not idolize the

1:43

world ? What do you think that it's idolized? Yeah,

1:45

I think , I think that the, the , what

1:47

I want to tackle is the fairy

1:49

tale that Disney has sold us, that there's a happily

1:52

ever after. And that marriage is built upon

1:54

love and love will make everything better.

1:57

And although that's true, I think that we romanticize

2:00

it a little too much. So that's why I think the idolization

2:02

comes because , uh,

2:04

I don't want to sound too extreme,

2:07

but it , it , to me, from what I've seen and

2:10

heard, it seems like the altar

2:12

is more of a picture , uh

2:15

, picture time and not necessary. I think

2:17

a lot of people don't think past the altar

2:20

and the cameo and the pitcher and the celebration.

2:23

Yo, I used to have a saying , we

2:26

nobody thinks about, well, I want say

2:28

it's very, very sex . I don't have the

2:31

side of , is this safe, safe space? I

2:34

don't know if it's safe or not. <laugh>, they're

2:36

safe for me, man . I gotta go home. But no , uh

2:39

, I used to have this saying , everybody thinks about

2:41

the wedding. Nobody thinks about, I

2:44

used to say, nobody thinks about being a wife, but

2:46

conversely, everybody thinks about the wedding, right?

2:48

Nobody thinks about being a husband,

2:51

you know, and what that entails and what that's

2:53

going to take. And

2:55

that's where I met with it. What , like, what does it,

2:58

after, after the honeymoon is

3:01

where the marriage I feel really takes

3:03

place. So how do we go

3:05

from what we've seen? Like the

3:07

, the bat Tourettes, the , the

3:09

, uh , the fairytale weddings. How do we go

3:12

from that to really understanding that you gotta dig

3:14

in? Yeah. And how does, how

3:16

does God look at a marriage

3:19

and how do we look at it? Like God. So we see

3:21

it the right way. Well, yeah , man,

3:23

it's , it's funny that you say that cuz the

3:25

rest of her question kind

3:28

of alluded to some of the things you're talking

3:30

about cuz um, she

3:32

, she, she went on to say specifically ones

3:34

that subversively promote marriage as

3:37

excluding, replacing other friendships

3:40

and make marriage seem like a necessary

3:42

tool of salvation rather

3:44

than one of the many things God uses

3:47

to bless us and grow us. So

3:50

I guess, I guess today, what

3:52

do we, what do we really need

3:54

marriage for? Yeah. No. Okay.

3:58

First of all, I love being married. Um,

4:02

but I think, I think we,

4:05

we go into marriage sometimes looking for marriage

4:08

to serve us rather than for

4:10

us to serve God through the marriage. Um,

4:14

there's uh , a passage of scripture I'd

4:16

like to look at it's Ephesians chapter five. I

4:19

wish I could pull it up for y'all but I'm gonna just pull it

4:21

up on my own. Ephesians chapter

4:23

five, verse

4:26

25, he'll say husbands, love your wives.

4:28

Justice Christ love the church and gave

4:30

himself up for, to make

4:32

a holy cleansing her by

4:34

the washing with water, through the word and

4:37

to present her to himself as a radiant

4:39

church, without staying or rink or

4:41

any other blemish, but holy and

4:43

blameless in this same way, husbands out to love their

4:45

wives as their own bodies. He loves his

4:47

wife, loves himself after all, no one

4:49

ever hated their own body,

4:52

but they feed and care for their body. Just as

4:54

Christ does the church for, we are members

4:56

of his body. For this reason, a

4:59

man will leave his father and mother and

5:01

be United to his wife and the two will become

5:03

one flesh. So then, you know,

5:05

he's taught my man , but then he goes on in verse 32

5:07

to say, this

5:10

is a profound mystery, but

5:12

I'm talking about Christ and the church

5:16

and you

5:19

, you know, he , he basically

5:21

takes marriage and

5:25

he says

5:28

that basically it's a earthly

5:32

copy of a heavenly reality. It's

5:35

supposed to help us see the

5:38

ultimate marriage Christ

5:40

and his church. And so, you

5:43

know, when we talk about the gospel message, when

5:46

you go to a wedding and, and people are

5:48

at a wedding and you're just like, yo it , you

5:50

, you see the bride and groom get together. It's

5:54

supposed to remind each and each and every

5:56

one of us of this eternal

5:59

unending, undying love

6:01

that we have , uh

6:03

, with Jesus Christ that's possible. Uh

6:06

, because cuz we are his bride of course.

6:09

And he's

6:12

uh , he's out , he's outgrow . And

6:14

so rather than it pointing

6:17

to, you know, so, so I think

6:19

what happens sometimes is like we don't see that

6:22

the weddings here, point to the ultimate

6:24

wedding that we have in Christ

6:26

Jesus and the gospel. So

6:29

in today's in today's world

6:32

is really just our opportunity to

6:35

see what the relationship will

6:38

be like when Christ

6:40

comes back kind of . Yeah,

6:43

well, yes.

6:45

But then also now, like

6:48

we have the opportunity to experience , to

6:50

feel and to experience unending

6:55

UN committed love right now.

6:57

Like I don't need to settle for

7:00

anything less than God's best,

7:03

which is Jesus in the church . So that, so

7:05

that every time I'm at a wedding, it should remind me,

7:08

Ooh , I got the same love available

7:10

to me right now, whether

7:13

I'm married or whether I'm single. That's

7:17

a lot. That is a lot, man. We

7:19

, uh, uh , it's something,

7:22

you know, I , I think over, over

7:24

time you kind of, you know, I

7:26

, I , I think sometimes like the culture

7:28

says, Hey, everybody needs

7:31

to get married. And you know,

7:33

when you look at the statistics, that's

7:35

not gonna bear itself out. You

7:37

know, if you know, 80%

7:40

of people, you know, if we

7:42

talk about African Americans , 80%

7:45

of , uh , women are in are

7:47

single, you know, not married

7:50

then you know those numbers,

7:53

aren't going to bear themselves out. And so

7:55

is it that God wants us to have less

7:57

than his best or is it that God uses

8:01

the, the temporary , uh

8:03

, institution of marriage to

8:06

point us to where we can get love real

8:08

love right now with the way love

8:10

and marriage is going. What

8:12

do you think, what do you think is pointing

8:14

to like with the divorce rates , the

8:17

marriage rates, the what

8:20

in the macro sense, is

8:22

there a problem with the way that we are looking

8:24

at marriage? Or is it

8:26

a misunderstanding of marriage or, well

8:29

, well , I think a lot of times we put the,

8:33

the eternal weight of Godhead on

8:35

marriage. Like all

8:37

my problems, all my issues, all

8:40

my needs, all my, whatever, like on

8:42

that person and that person can't

8:44

bear the weight of God, like

8:46

at , at , and vice versa. And

8:49

so ultimately sometimes

8:52

I think some of our , um

8:54

, broken or sometimes

8:56

the , that, that breaking

8:59

or tearing of that union is it sometimes

9:01

I will , a lot of times I think it's it's

9:04

I idolize the person I married. I thought

9:07

they were God. I mean, no one will say that,

9:09

but they weren't and they always let

9:11

you down. Okay.

9:15

So, I mean, look at the

9:17

movies and stuff that we watch . I , I can go all like

9:20

, everything is like, yo,

9:23

like I watch one. I , this person, yeah.

9:25

My life becomes complete because

9:27

I can depend on this person, yo look, EV

9:30

like, okay, I don't hold it radar . Nobody's

9:32

afraid , but no, we got to I , no, no, I don't.

9:34

I mean, I watch these movies

9:36

right. And great

9:39

movies. And , and I also watch

9:41

, uh , Marvel movies that

9:43

ain't real too. So nobody don't nobody. Yeah

9:45

. Yeah . Okay. So, but like

9:48

it's, they meet the person head

9:50

over heels and then instantly

9:53

life is 50 times

9:55

better and they live heavily ever

9:58

after. That's what we sell every

10:01

time you see one of these. So

10:03

then, so then what do you think happens

10:06

with the individuals , uh,

10:09

that are looking for love and looking for

10:11

something real and meaningful?

10:14

Oh, it gets deeper than that because you

10:16

see the , you see the movies, right . You see the happily

10:18

ever athlete . Right . Then you look at your parents. Mm

10:21

. So now where do you exactly

10:23

look for the actual reality of

10:26

what love and relationship and marriage.

10:29

So then you start to idolize, you

10:31

know what it seems like, because if they're putting

10:34

it on TV, that means, well, I

10:36

guess subconsciously I could say from my point of view,

10:38

it means that this is what society is really thinking

10:40

since they're putting it on movies, putting it on screen. Yeah

10:42

. This must be what majority of society is

10:44

thinking. And if somebody that doesn't really think clear critically

10:47

to me, if they don't look at it,

10:49

like this is just a movie, then they're looking

10:51

at society. Like this is what it should be.

10:53

And then that's their expectations

10:56

for yeah. I

10:58

, I , so I'm with you there, but okay.

11:00

So I'm gonna push a little bit. Okay. What

11:03

if that's what we were design for and

11:07

like, instead of suppressing the, the,

11:12

the want and desire to be fully

11:15

loved and fully known , um,

11:18

what if we are just looking for

11:21

love in the wrong places,

11:25

but where , but where are the right places? Well , and

11:27

see, that's what I've said. I think we were

11:30

designed for

11:32

a love that no. Wow

11:34

. No other human can give

11:36

you that mud came full circle, right?

11:39

No other human. Well, if

11:42

his name is G and , and that's really what we said,

11:45

love it . Oh , okay. Right . Okay. So

11:47

deep down in our soul, you

11:49

know, I used to say this all the time. Um,

11:52

I took it from GK Chesterton, he's

11:54

from the 18th century. And so I had

11:57

to bring it in into today. A

11:59

man , uh , a

12:01

man goes into a strip club looking for God

12:05

like that, that

12:07

deep down in every one of you'll

12:10

catch that other way . <laugh> right . That

12:13

, that deep down in every one of our souls,

12:15

right. There's this, there's this

12:18

hunger , uh , for

12:20

God. Okay . And we just feel

12:22

it with junk food. Yeah

12:25

. And you know how we eat, eat some junk

12:27

food, eat

12:29

a little bit here, eat a little bit, there, you

12:31

get hungry with in an hour, two hours and

12:33

you want to eat again. Right. That's how I ate my

12:35

last paint on ice cream. Right. That's exactly

12:37

how I did it . Right. You know , I mean, but, but

12:40

the full meal is Christ

12:43

is Jesus, right? Yeah. And

12:45

I think everything in our world pulls us

12:47

away from that. Yeah. Uh , and

12:49

there're tantalizing things that we see

12:52

with our eyes each and every day

12:54

that take our focus and

12:57

that sometimes even lie to us and say,

13:01

that's not glorious. Jesus. I

13:03

am. Oh , that brings

13:05

me to another question. So I saw , oh , okay

13:08

. Like serious come . So this , so this

13:10

, uh , I , I think I might have sent you

13:12

the video, this , uh , Muslim devout

13:14

, Muslim, Muslim , like not the

13:16

, um , nation

13:19

. Yeah . Not nation , no Muslim Muslim. He

13:21

was saying that , um , one , some of the differences between

13:23

, uh , was

13:26

, is Islam and Christianity

13:29

is that with the women covering up

13:31

and the men, you know , how , how they dress

13:34

is to keep the distractions down.

13:37

Mm-hmm <affirmative> . So we look at them crazy for the women having

13:39

to dress up mm-hmm <affirmative> , but in their eyes, they're

13:41

looking at, if, if I marry this woman

13:43

and she's dressed up and the only time that I get

13:45

to see her undresses me being

13:47

married in her , in our room together,

13:50

then I won't get distracted by the

13:52

social media, the women outside

13:54

that are, I don't want that dress.

13:56

However they want to dress. Mm-hmm <affirmative> so

13:58

what you just said, just resonate with me is everything

14:01

in this world is distracting. So how do you feel about the

14:03

way that Muslim,

14:07

the Muslim society? Do

14:09

you think that there's a connection between the two? Yeah,

14:11

so I , I think, okay. All

14:13

of us are, I think at

14:18

some level we all know that we

14:21

are susceptible to distractions

14:24

that there's something better out there, but

14:27

there's something in us that is

14:29

keeping us from being able to

14:31

get that something out there. Yeah. So

14:34

I think there's two, that's two problems.

14:36

We've note . Uh , and so

14:38

classically, we would say the first problem internally

14:42

is , is us or whatever, you know,

14:44

sin, whatever the word people want

14:46

to use sin. Right. And then , uh

14:49

, then externally the problem is

14:52

I can't find what I'm looking for. If

14:54

I'm looking for a one of one . Right.

14:58

But everything in me says

15:01

it , it says there is

15:03

no one of one out there. Just do whatever it

15:05

is that you're doing. You got two problems. One I

15:07

need to be , I need somebody to help

15:10

me internally. And

15:12

then I need somebody to show me the

15:15

one of one externally. So

15:18

see, to me, I think the issue with the Muslims

15:21

and all of us is we

15:23

try to solve our problems with,

15:26

with solutions that can't keep

15:28

us. Right. So

15:30

I , I , I'm sitting here, I'm , I'm watching

15:32

this, you know, and I'm like, oh, okay,

15:35

well, if I do X, Y, and Z, then I won't

15:37

be distracted. But then , but then

15:39

the problem is, and I

15:41

think this is where Christianity comes in. Okay. This

15:44

is , we need divine intervention.

15:47

I need somebody to come in, remake

15:49

me, right. Or

15:52

regenerate me or renew

15:54

me or make me a new man.

15:57

I new woman, whatever, like, cuz

15:59

my heart is desperately wicked. And

16:02

no matter what I try to do, I

16:05

try to do to change it. Nothing happens.

16:08

Right. Or, you know, and

16:10

you , you you've heard in some of those cultures,

16:12

there's a lot of abuse. Mm-hmm <affirmative> it it's

16:14

undercover, but it ain't. Right.

16:17

So all you'd really do is you push the

16:20

abuse underground versus Hey

16:23

Lord, I need help. I

16:26

I'm a sinner. Change me,

16:28

remake me. And , and so John

16:31

talks about the new birth experience that

16:33

happens from the inside out rather

16:35

than from the outside in . So then

16:38

now I can see that

16:40

there's something that is one

16:43

of one out there that no

16:46

other human being is . And notice

16:48

I don't, I count Jesus as a human,

16:50

no other human being can meet except

16:53

Jesus Christ. The , the

16:55

God man . And so I think

16:57

you gotta have that two point process. We

17:08

were going back full circle with , uh

17:10

, needing divine intervention to get,

17:13

get , hold against cuz instead of looking for the

17:15

worldly things that will help fill

17:17

that void, like the LUS,

17:20

the affection, the, the

17:23

looks that we're looking for in our partner

17:25

, stuff like that. So we need Christ to, to

17:28

renew us, make us new so

17:30

that we can see that he's the most glorious. So

17:33

he is the most glorious thing that

17:35

, that , that we, we can have. I

17:38

mean , uh, uh

17:40

, listen , um, if

17:42

I put , uh , a

17:45

Ford TAUs in the , in

17:48

a Bentley Azu in front

17:50

of you now you automatically

17:53

know which car to

17:55

pick, but if

17:57

you were seven years old, you

18:00

might not know cuz

18:03

you would just look at two cars. You , you

18:05

might pick the tourist , right. Might pick the

18:07

it's a chance that you might pick the tours because

18:10

at seven you don't have the,

18:13

you don't have the knowledge probably

18:16

never driven before you

18:18

kind of just learning about cars or whatnot

18:20

. And you

18:22

might pick the tours , but when your

18:24

eyes have been open and

18:28

you have an appreciation, that's

18:31

when you see a Bentley and

18:33

a tourists together, you are 10 outta

18:35

10 going pick the tours . Yeah . See

18:38

when God, and this is

18:40

divine intervention. This is actually when

18:42

people come to faith, he

18:44

takes them from seven olds to

18:47

adults. He opens their eyes so

18:49

that they can see that, that

18:51

Bentley of a life that

18:53

he has. And if you look at that Bentley, let's say that Bentley

18:56

is Jesus. Okay. I hate to objectify

18:58

Jesus, but it is the only way I could , I

19:00

, this is how I , this is how I think if

19:03

, if you see that, that, that Bitly

19:06

and uh, uh , you

19:08

can appreciate it. But before he

19:11

does his work in our heart, you're

19:14

blind to it. John nine talks about

19:16

the man who was born blind. Like we

19:18

were all born blind and

19:20

it takes Jesus to

19:23

open our eyes. So that now when we look

19:27

it's irresistible, when you see,

19:29

see him for who he is, you're going to choose

19:31

him 10 outta 10 times. Right?

19:34

And so I think this is the process.

19:37

You know, this is gone from Mary to

19:39

this, but I think that's, that's literally, I think

19:41

what happens. We idolize the

19:44

TAUs marriage, right? Because

19:47

we think it's the ultimate. But

19:49

until somebody helps us to see in somebody

19:51

being, Jesus helps us to see that

19:54

know there's a Bentley standing right next to it.

19:56

We will not , we will always put the

19:58

way the God head on the marriage

20:01

situation and run

20:03

that little towards ragged and run that and

20:05

run that towards ragged and

20:08

then do then go and then complain

20:11

that , and then go by a new car, right? Another

20:14

TAs and run it ragged another

20:16

TA versus

20:19

me seeing , okay, wait, this,

20:21

this, this can't sustain

20:24

me. Me. This

20:27

can so that if

20:29

God blesses me to have this

20:32

other situation, this my situation,

20:35

I , I , I can tell I , I can, instead

20:37

of the tool, that's what I was saying. Instead

20:40

of the tool using me, I

20:43

can use a tool for the Gloria guide . Okay.

20:47

So this opens up many

20:49

dimensions of questions for me because

20:52

when you use, so

20:54

if we were to, I

20:57

can't honestly say that I'm pursuing marriage

21:00

and this is my safe space. So y'all just have

21:02

to deal with it. I can't honestly say that I'm a

21:04

hundred percent pursuing marriage for

21:07

Christ. Right? So with,

21:10

with what you've been saying, it's making me think about,

21:13

so how do you actually ch

21:16

cause when you're looking at cars, you look, whatever

21:19

fit , whatever the card looks like is

21:22

what attracts me to it. Are

21:24

we doing it wrong? The way that we're looking for

21:27

a relationship? Are we, are

21:30

we looking too much into our natural

21:34

feelings and inclinations to,

21:36

to pick up a partner? I , I just

21:38

think that we, we

21:41

are making, when you make

21:43

something ultimate, like

21:46

do or die. Yeah. You

21:48

put everything on it versus

21:53

yo I'm F I have a found , well,

21:55

hopefully I'm have a growing foundation

21:58

in Christ. So that then

22:00

I'm trying to figure out how

22:03

can you know who okay. So then when

22:05

we pick it is sometimes we're

22:07

asking the wrong questions. Okay.

22:10

The question probably we should ask is yo,

22:15

is this person somebody

22:18

I can glorify God with? Versus

22:22

is this person somebody who

22:24

is here solely to meet my

22:27

needs, two different things. See

22:30

Jesus is here to meet your needs. Right?

22:35

Our , our marriage is to help praise

22:38

Jesus. Yeah. And I

22:40

just think it's perspective. Yeah. But,

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but , but you can't get that perspective if

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your needs ain't being met. Oh

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, you dropping some heavy stuff today. That's

22:51

crazy. This is the only episode one. You gotta relax. I

22:54

, I , I really , really, we was just

22:56

supposed to do just 30 . We were supposed to

22:58

just do 30 minutes of me thought through 30 minutes to be done . But,

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but no, I mean, if you , if you , if

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you think about it, like, and , and so that's what I

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, I think God is , you know, I , uh

23:08

, Piper has , it said, God is most glorified.

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Yeah. Um , when we are most

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satisfied in him, like, yo

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, yo , you

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are your, your, your needs are

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things that the

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, you know, of

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course, some of , some of 'em , you know, oh,

23:30

I need a Bentley. Well, I mean, you know, you

23:33

want a Bentley, you want , do you need, do

23:35

you need a Bentley, but your basic need,

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your basic God shape . Vacuum is,

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is something that Jesus meets. So

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that then instead, again, instead

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of the tools using you, you

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can use the tools for the glory of God. So

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should we even be sorry, y'all

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, I'm kind of like black and white with it

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Uhhuh . So should we even be looking for relationships until

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we can, until we have some

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kind of sense that God is satisfying

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our needs. I , I think there's wisdom, right.

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B but I , I , I don't think there's

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a one size fits all . Cuz some people get

24:13

married and they figured out why they get married. Right.

24:16

Some people wait and

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you know, they, you

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know, go to school,

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buy a house, do you know? And then they

24:26

get married. But I do think there's some wisdom.

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Cause in asking the

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question, what is it

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that I am looking for in

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this person? Am, am

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I looking for, you

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know, am I really just looking for

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God? And this person is, is,

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is, is somebody that I'm thinking can

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give me God. Or, and

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if that's the case, then you know, I think

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you are at a place where man,

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and I've been there, you know, where

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I'm like, okay, wait, I feel unbalanced.

25:03

I feel like I'm

25:06

leaning too heavily on food

25:10

or leaning too heavily on whatever,

25:12

you know, and why

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is that? Uh , because

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I maybe deep down inside,

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I don't feel

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the satisfaction of knowing that

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I am , uh,

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accepted in the beloved that I am

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grounded in who he is. And so, you

25:32

know, life gets outta balance. And so

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man, I just, I just think you gotta ask those questions.

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Those are questions you ask while

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you ask, is this the person? Could

25:42

you list the questions again? <laugh> is

25:45

there , is there a few questions that okay, so yeah. Well

25:48

I would say one, what is it that I'm

25:50

looking for in a person? Yeah . Right . Uh

25:52

, or what is it that I'm looking for? The person. Yeah. What

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is it that I'm looking for in a person can

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sometimes help you determine what is it

25:59

that you're looking for? Period. Mm-hmm <affirmative>, you know, if

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it's, you know,

26:05

and sometimes we have these unrealistic

26:09

standards or expectations that we're looking for,

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people mm-hmm <affirmative> and what

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you realize is that

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thing that you need is

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something that no, no other human other

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than Jesus can meet. Mm-hmm <affirmative>. And

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so once you get, once you get there, I

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think the next question then is , um,

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just escape me. The

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, the next question is , uh,

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if this is the person , uh,

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I think you gotta , so I guess

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if I broke this down as a man, what

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is your vision? What is God's vision

26:49

for your life? Uh,

26:53

how does he best want you to

26:55

, um,

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how does he best want you to use

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his resources for his

27:05

glory ? And when you're able to answer

27:07

that question, then you could say, well,

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is this person somebody that

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can come alongside me as

27:18

a helpmate to fulfill this vision, you

27:21

know, versus,

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okay, I'm just, you know, I'm

27:27

going through going with the flow . Like, and , and

27:30

I also wanna say this God's

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grace is sufficient. He can

27:34

do anything with, with anybody.

27:38

So, so we need the cheat

27:40

code is never what you can do. The

27:42

cheat code is yo Jesus

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makes miracles happen all the time

27:47

and he can take messed up situations

27:50

and make beautiful things out of

27:52

it. I , the , the questions

27:54

are more so like guidelines. Yo, if you

27:57

are in the situation and you're thinking about it, these are

27:59

some things to ask. I

28:02

mean, they , uh , if anything,

28:04

I learned Uhhuh quite a bit in

28:06

just the little time that we, we have. I

28:08

hope, I hope that everybody else got a piece

28:10

of picked up one of the jewels that you dropped.

28:13

Okay. Because you dropped quite a few

28:15

and it , I have some pondering to do when I

28:17

get home To

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make sure.