Hello. Welcome back. The kinship code. Hey, man, here and today we're going to be talking to a couple of friends of why. Well, with this episode in talking about everyday stuff that impacts on them. Stick around. Could you?

[00:00:38] Good morning. Good morning from my Brisbane, I guess, Brisbane, Australia, man. Back with you, a guy and my last episode, we got to speak with Jasmine Cruz on her journey and her life. And she was my very first, very first premier of having a guest online. And I'm very proud to say I've got my second guest for this episode. And we met some years ago. But I'm going to introduce you to Julie Smedley. Julianna, cool J. I said really cool. But you know what?

[00:01:11] I welcome you for having me. I'm great. Thank you. I mean, I was with Mountain. You've been hiking in the mountain. Wow. What time did you start?

[00:01:21] Seven. Seven. And how long? How long? Couple of how long? Couple of hours. Fantastic. Fantastic. That Jillian already boarded you into the kinship code because all fine. Ever since I met you from actually from the very first minutes of meeting you, I picked up an energy that resonated to my kinship code way of thinking it back in the day when we first met. I didn't actually know what this kinship code was or where it was taking me to the point to today. I've done a bit of reflection and you know, when we've reconnected just recently and I've gone now, this lady is pretty much in line with with, you know, the kinship code is about Todd. That's why it bothered you in tonight to have a chat. And just before you go on, I want to ask you a question, Julian. He's a question for you. So are you happy with that description of just say it? I hope it might sense and dogs, you know?

[00:02:24] Yeah, I agree. I think we do connect on a lot of different things.

[00:02:28] OK. Well, before I got to the question, what way you what you where what connection, what where do you see a connection between what I do, which is I try to live a kinship kind of. And what what's the connect for you in your life, in your view?

[00:02:43] I think using your God given talents to actually empower others is something that means a lot to me. And I feel you do that. I love your enthusiasm. I'm pretty high energy, too. So I appreciate that and others. And. And I just like the way that you've taken what your parents taught you. And you're using that to help other people do what they need. It's empowering people and stopping the negative talk. You know, being positive is a big thing for me.

[00:03:16] Say judgement, stop. Give me goosebumps. Julia, you're starting to give me goosebumps because I believe when people actually speak the same language or on the same frequency. I think energy is a lot more. We're doing this through Wi-Fi. This podcast, this zoo, it was palpable. I think the human spiritual energy is new, comes up with 17 times. It was 72. And that's the power. And I think what you've said earlier, thank you for that in terms of how you've picked up. I want to help other people. And it's something I didn't even think of doing. I just the way my parents see it's inherent now, because when we talk about this light up, there's two questions I'm going to ask you. The first one is in terms of a tree, what is your favourite tree and why is that tree your favourite tree?

[00:04:20] OK. So trees my nature to me. I love nature because there's something that comes off trees that just changes who you are inside. That's definitely osmosis with the trees. I love the willow.

[00:04:40] I just love it. It it looks beautiful. It swishes in the wind. And whenever I look at one, it feels like pastand normally near water.

[00:04:51] And so to me, that's just the essence of nature, is if you've got this beautiful tree and it gives you shelter as well. And I've recently learned that even the bark is medicinal. It's it takes away pain. But I think trees take like pine.

[00:05:07] But that's stunning. There's a couple of things. They my last guest, Jasmine Curs, she picked the willow tree as well. And she was by a creek river. And yet it's about not giving given to others, yet giving to others the tree, the humble tree. And it gives so much and it seems so much of it here, so much. It's been the trees that this beautiful, like you're saying. I found it in terms of where on from Julian. When we talk about kinship, talking others with us, it's about looking after ourselves to look off the others and also to look after Mother Earth. And I think the tree metaphore is a great way to start conversations around the kinship card and the kinship card. And look, you've said. My parents didn't set out to give me this, but they just said, look, this is how you live and they just live that life. And I'll bet your parents and I can see you with this love to us. Where is this internal us come from? Meuler and Kinship. Cardinal said this early. The judgement of the mother aside is that my kinship code is regardless of what on feeling during the day, regardless if I'm feeling good or excellent, bad, terrible. I'm feeling ugly and I'm just in a bad mood. My code, my personal kinship code is to make sure everybody, whether that man, woman, children, even animals that I do not project that whatever I'm feeling the negativity, I'm sure that there's only positive Tiffanie being passed, that empowerment to others, even though I could have depression as you as well.

[00:06:53] The minute you let off your positivity, it actually comes back to you as well. Automatically you feel better as well.

[00:07:01] Beautiful. So when you say that, Julianne, what what do you what where are you speaking from, Zipp, from your own experience or is it from research or what what what's got you there?

[00:07:15] Well, you've met my dad. My dad is the guy of the castle.

[00:07:19] And he sits there and he goes, are the serenity. And he says, I'm the richest bloke alive. You know, it's not about money. It's about it's about gratitude.

[00:07:31] And there's always, always, always something to be grateful for. Doesn't matter what's happening in your life.

[00:07:38] And I find I'm on personal China. I get up at 5:00 in the morning and some mornings I don't feel like being positive, but the minute and I can be really down when I get there.

[00:07:51] And then the minute I stop moving music and encouraging people, my whole world changes everything to stunning.

[00:07:59] That's only one word that is coming. I love that. I love that because it's so true. Like a human being and the people that you would get this, Julia. Because when you get with other people, your energy, their energy. If there's lack of energy, you'll just you'll code to help others just comes back and then you find yourself in this real positive spice. People say to me, kind of, how can you be happy all the time? I'm happy all the time. There are times I'm feeling like show, but it's not the decision side that I expand on that plays well.

[00:08:37] Sometimes you have to actually just go, okay, I'm going to I'm gonna put my best foot forward. And once you put your best foot forward, it be the natural way that you are comes out.

[00:08:51] But you have to sometimes you have to put that foot forward deliberately and make a decision that I'm going to take that step. And with that action, the rest just flies. It just comes with it.

[00:09:05] Yeah. How long? So. So in terms of that voice with job-seekers, who was just talking to my previous guest, the previous episode job, who I used to work with, people who were pretty vulnerable, that feeling pretty down but haven't got a job. They got my money. Some of them are close to homelessness, if not homeless. And I sell them because simply find it. You can start straight away to change your life. How soon? What's your take on? How soon can someone start changing their lives? I mean, was it in terms of making the decision?

[00:09:41] Well, it starts with thinking and it starts with belief, I think. I don't know about a timeframe on how I'd say a time frame. Everyone's different, but I do believe that if they're given the tools and often that's love. If they're given the tools and someone who believes in them and someone who can maybe tell them which foot to put in front of the other, it can actually.

[00:10:10] It just depends when they get when they actually get into what their natural gift is. And it's about finding that. And it's that's empowering. I think is is finding that natural thing that that you put on this earth to do and to share. And I think when people are feeling better about themselves, that more open to what they get.

[00:10:32] Fantastic. Absolutely. I was gonna say you have a fantastic voice on this.

[00:10:37] Well, thank you.

[00:10:41] You have thought that that I know you have you have you had the other yet? Now look nice to work with the Bundarra with with job-seekers. And I see a little tease from people because I used to look like a tree, like the will.

[00:10:58] I'd like to nurture it and like your signs about giving people the tools and the tools I used to use in those settings with people that come in and you know. And not only that, in the in the job active and I'll say this publicly in the job, Dave, where people gotta to get the youth allowance or their job allowance from the government. It's a pretty tough and sometimes scary environment where people are stood on the side of inspect. And when I get people, I sit there, they're broken and they even feel worse sitting there on my side of them. Look, where you are at the moment does not define who you are yet. You see that things will get better. And you know what I know? And while I'm in that mode, I turned to them and I said, you know how long it takes you to start changing your life to think like that. I said less than a second. It takes a brain y to go through it. I'm out. I'm gonna do something with my life. I'm going to get up. And sure, one might wake up with the best. Don't want to get up and have a shower and go for a walk. I'm going to start doing stuff, getting out. And then and little girls you're talking about is that I think I'd call it the tools. It's the human spirit, too. It's about how do we nurture? How do you nurture the human spirit? You know all about what you're like and like you've always got a smile and a smile. Look at that. Look at that gorgeous smile. Look.

[00:12:27] To be honest, when you did that, I just I felt, Mark, my facial muscles just reacted.

[00:12:35] But it's interesting because all these things we take for granted, like smiling, acknowledging somebody very important.

[00:12:43] Don't you think, Julian, looking them in the eye and acknowledging people? People just want to be nice. They just want to be acknowledged.

[00:12:50] And in the mornings when you're hiking. I love it. Have people always say hello to one another? At some it's it's on in the mornings, especially in Queensland is a Queensland thing doesn't happen in Melbourne.

[00:13:01] Everyone just says, hi, good morning. How are you going? You can't come away from that. Not feeling better.

[00:13:08] You've been here while other people and a lot you know, it's interesting you say that what form that to when I'm walking in the mornings. But especially in Brisbane, there's like a lot of camaraderie that I guess what you've got out of it. We get, you know, one of the sleeping.

[00:13:27] But you did that and let's celebrate.

[00:13:32] Yeah, it's an early morning. I'd it's the early morning, guys. It's got a sign.

[00:13:38] Don't ever give up. Keep going on with you. And it's the fact that I'm getting goose bumps. Goose bumps. It's about just like keep on going. Keep on travelling. Keeping mobile. But, you know, sometimes if when you walk. But then trains like that to site lunch talk Westfield. Well, I hope people that promise fruit, people that sort of say what you like, but not as comraderie, if you like. Yeah. What what are your thoughts on that?

[00:14:08] Yeah, I think there's definitely something about the morning code that you're in it together. They're looking after yourself. I'm a great believer in exercise, obviously, because I feel like it knows the inertia. So if you feel it.

[00:14:25] Sorry, Heather. The question is, what's the inertia main? Sorry.

[00:14:30] Inertia is something that. That it's an energy that sort of stops you from doing what you want to do it. If you don't want to lose, you don't want to move inertia. Can they just say you're feeling something and you're stuck? Movements can help you move through that feeling of being stuck. And yeah, that that's why I hope that's what it means. But it moves it moves things forward. When your cellular li, you can walk through a problem. I really, really believe that. I think that you can move a problem through your body and it just stops things from sticking there and staying there.

[00:15:14] You can move through it. And I think that early morning walk does that. And then you've got sunshine and and and people and I think there is a code in the morning and people are very, very saying.

[00:15:25] Yeah, absolutely. And Julianne, so if you like someone I don't know the answer to this. Like the kind is also like when it's not in the morning and someone's walking. Long the Mai Mai seem lost or whatever the small dollar a year. That's still a coat that I like to do as well. And I know you do that as well. But not everybody seems to want to share something so simple as a smile. What's on your coat? Because that's especially in the cities. I find that people are so busy with their own life in this moment, running their own lives.

[00:16:03] And I believe with the COVID-19, it's actually put the brakes on us running in that straight line just to sit back a bit and think about it all slided. People are dying in all due respect to the families and also the ones we've lost globally. I think it's being, though, the polls, not the positive, but certainly a reaction to this is to people who just stop and get off the treadmill that we all seem to be on them and breathe a bit more.

[00:16:32] I definitely am feeling that my feeling about this is like a computer reset and you shutting down the computer. But what I really, really feel is that we have to be very, very careful about the programs and applications that we put back in. Do we really need all of them? And I don't think we do. I think people should look at that program, look at that application before they install it back on their computer and go to a really, really need this in my life.

[00:17:01] Is this serving me? Is it critically important that my children have forty five after school activities? Is it critically, critically important that I work until 7 o'clock every night? How much of it is needed?

[00:17:19] And I think people are realising they don't need a lot of the stuff I thought they needed each. They don't need the the huge, expensive holidays.

[00:17:28] They might I think some people may realise that they only want to work part time and that's how they go.

[00:17:35] Let's go. Absolutely. Absolutely correct. Oh, somewhat. Yeah. I think it might look in a way that I'm going to include you. You're a bit like me. We like with Social Butterfly is more correct in saying that our slightly flawed.

[00:17:51] Oh, no, I'm not coping with no hugs.

[00:17:54] Oh, Dowlan at all.

[00:17:58] I'm not doing well.

[00:18:00] Oh, I've got a cat. I've got a cat who I don't take. She's probably sick of me now hugging her.

[00:18:05] But they only have you when they want to die. On their terms.

[00:18:12] On their terms or with servants. Julia kept with servants. You get with the program. Cat servants. Not because I being a social butterfly. You're right. The hugs and touching and that just just touching people. I think you like him. A punch on the shoulder boob. But I had taken something away from this because Omentum spent more time at home because I still do the social. Come on now. Physically fit. I've been in terms of being forced to do yoga and are only now meditating for the first time in about 10 12 years. I'm back to meditating. Awesome. And on Thorning. I woke up this morning and actually when I actually breathed, I don't think God breathed that deep since I was in primary school. Wow. Because I didn't have all this. I'm just gonna. Hang on, hang on, hang on. I know my life will change more of the Covid. Well, jury, now I'm gonna be a different breed of cat.

[00:19:17] Yeah. Think a lot of people will be.

[00:19:20] I hope that that's correct. Now, Julianne, I'm going to ask you another two more questions to ask you. You've been a fantastic guest, by the way. Thanks. Hey, man. I mean, how out to deal if you had a kid, like as I said before, what you should code is. Every experience I had with another human being, woman, man, child, even animals. I try to be the most positive and uplifting for them, for them. But they get more out of that than I do. But I will get a return. That's my kinship code at the moment in my life. This is might be putting you on the spot tonight. Just tonight. Now, this very second. What's your ketchup cut for you?

[00:20:07] For me, I'm an encourager. That's number one. I want to make people feel like they're. I've been encouraged to once I've spent time with me. And I also want them to feel sane for who they are and that I appreciate them. That sort of thing.

[00:20:28] Yeah. Yeah. I'm really I'm really interested in people. So I ask a lot of questions and and I get into this story and. And enjoy that and and just. Yeah. I don't like listening. It makes them feel heard. It makes them feel sane. But yeah, I'm very much in the positivity side of things, too. And the encouragement side I can feel.

[00:20:53] I give you a hug, please. Julian, this will be my last question. Okay. Now, how does encouraging you? How does the person give so much to others like the willow tree? You know that you're there for a century sometime.

[00:21:14] These trees are there for centuries, giving, shy, giving posture, giving you keeping the economy, the eco system along like a tree. How does that encourage? How do they keep their own self nurture? What does Julianne Smedley GI known to her friends? How does she keep her vibe?

[00:21:37] Okay. Number one, gratitude.

[00:21:41] Number two, Gillian, gratitude explained what gratitude means to you so that people know your definition. Please. Okay.

[00:21:51] Gratitude for me is taking a deep breath every morning and several, several times a day.

[00:21:58] And this all is something to be grateful for. Always, always, always, always, always something.

[00:22:05] Even if it's just a smile and a straight something like that. I think that's all. Look, I'm I'm blessed because I was born with my my glass half full. And I say it helpful. I never see it, I think. And I also have learned since I've gotten older that any time I don't feel like that it's temporary. And I say it to my clients all the time. They complain about, you know, they they're worried about the size or their fitness or something like that. And that there's only one thing to say. And that's it's temporary.

[00:22:38] Everything is temporary. Good, bad in-between. Love a bar. So even a nice times when you don't feel like you feeling that grateful, it's temporary and there's always something to be grateful for. So I love nature. So all I have to do is go out into nature and my heart just goes, oh, great, beautiful love.

[00:23:03] I love that. And that's why I hike that five times a week. If you're a mountain.

[00:23:11] Wow. So giving back, giving back to yourself, spooling yourself back for me is rest.

[00:23:18] I know some people need to have a nap or something like that. Hiking for me is a arrest. And I know that's weird, but that's how I regenerate. I listen to podcasts. I listen to music. Or I just listen to the birds. Or I go with a friend who's uplifting. And I've got several friends that feel myself. And and I go with them and we've fill each other's tanks while we're doing it.

[00:23:44] And there's two things you've mentioned. There is. And it's interesting, you talked about it all this lovely things for yourself by yourself. And people might call that selfish. Well, it can be selfish because what you've just said is you need to recharge your batteries. Correct. That then be better while others.

[00:24:03] Yes, absolutely. Absolutely. And I had a lot to go to bed very early and I'll get up early.

[00:24:10] But I sleep is imperative to me for recharging. And on the on a bit of a sleep Nazi, I don't go out light my life. I just. Everyone knows I turn into a pumpkin about 9 o'clock and. But that's what I do. And I think sleep is really underrated.

[00:24:32] You know, you're right. And the second thing, the second profound, lovely thing you say was you went through this path where you nurture yourself. It's about Jai in her time in her Beiser music, who walks her talk for self talk. And then you went, OK, that's dumb. Then I surround myself with all the like minded people that do my soul. How important is that?

[00:25:01] It's really, really, really important to to refill your tank. And I know who they are. And I'm at an age now where it's funny. A lot of people who drained me in the past because because I love people, I tend to collect people. And sometimes it got a bit much. I was only giving. But now I've I've I've got a team of people who it's both ways. You know, sometimes one's strong. The other one's not. And that we fill each other's time since it's very reciprocal.

[00:25:36] Beautiful. Yep, surrounding yourself with positive people who you keep that half glass full, but also you can actually make that glass runneth over. Just like your cup runneth over.

[00:25:49] Absolutely. And it often does. And that's where gratitude is.

[00:25:53] That's being grateful for people in your life. And every day.

[00:25:59] Yeah. Like I'm just gonna share something this morning. I'm usually up at 4:30 and I'm usually working. But I did my yoga. I tried it in my yoga then. But later in the day.

[00:26:12] But today I wake up, I'm feeling exhausted. And to be honest. I go do these podcasts and I'm being honest. I'm tyred of it. I'm in a pretty busy week. And zine that my producer from my that's not Canon casting a great sponsor of the kinship guide. Great man. I got up and I thought, you know what? I'm just going to watch some Netflix and I've watch the destruction and keep Chris Hemsworth. I'm a fan of the Hemsworth man. But then I decided I'm going to stop that. It's a bit of fun to watch the show. I watch the second time and I jumped in the car, went up the right opposite one of the coffee and the guy and just highlighted some people. I went to the coffee, got a coffee. And as I was driving out, I went up into a comfortable ride and the sun was coming through the end of the street. And to be honest with you, I'm getting goose bumps talking about it. I pulled over to get my phone out because there's no car on the road. And this was like 6:15. There was no car. The orange light come through the street. It was as if God was talking to me. My God, I thank God. Thank you, Lord, for this gift. Yeah, this gift, which I'm being selfish, but no one else is seeing this gift at this moment.

[00:27:31] In this time I I noticed it anyway.

[00:27:35] Correct. That's good point. I know from the same from. I didn't fight. I did. The father of that. That 7 5. And I'm going to put on Facebook later because it was an incredible fun night. And I thank God. And, you know, it's been an honour to have you. And also, Jasmine and you know, this Blakey's sign, we're just having a check like how Harvard Gold, albeit it all started with that lovely sunrise which was bestowed upon me. And I was grateful for that. And that's why I can come in and be awesome on this podcast with all of you people.

[00:28:15] And you are.

[00:28:18] And it's about the little thing. So the highlight of my day was that sunrise, that highlight lights up, my energy, my spirit. So I can just continue being the light that I can be the best possible light for others. Yeah. Julie Smedley, it's been an absolute pleasure.

[00:28:41] Ditto came in to chat with you.

[00:28:43] And we all do this again, girlfriend.

[00:28:47] I'm again keep zooming because, you know, you're because you're in this mind for this. You've just got that charisma, presence, charisma. You look great.

[00:28:56] They're like two kinds take up and you look really good at that.

[00:29:02] Look, I'm just really I'm just really proud to be your friend. I truly am.

[00:29:07] All the feeling is mutual. Absolutely.

[00:29:10] And yeah, I look forward to that. We're gonna be friends forever. But certainly sharing more this journey about kinship, cut your coat, whatever you do.

[00:29:20] So Jillian's, Mitali, it's been a pleasure. You just have a you don't have that. You keep eyes, your magic, fabulous guys. Absolutely. Thanks for coming on. Thank you.

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