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Welcome to this episode of leaders,

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building bandwidth. Today we're

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talking about bandwidth

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busters, things that decrease

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your ability to build capacity

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in your personal life. And

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in your professional life./ So,

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this is really important because I'm

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noticed that most people think.

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that the things that decreased.

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Their capacity. are obvious

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and I'm going to give you a list of them in a minute. and.

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if you think about the image of an iceberg,

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there's a tip that you can see and then

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there's a whole structure. Underneath.

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That is dare to sustain the

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iceberg. And it's a hundred million

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times bigger than the tip that you can see,

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another example of this is a tree. So

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when you have a tree, I remember growing

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up, we had this magnificent.

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Flamboyant tree. And,

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it was beautiful. It was big and it spread

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over our garden. but the roots

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were so huge that

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at one point we had to get rid of the tree

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because the roots have grown so

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large. And they were expanding so

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much that it was literally

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effecting the floor in our

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living room. So. So many

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times. We think

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that the things that are affecting us, the

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things that we see, but then we don't realize that

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there's a whole structure underneath

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those things that is sustaining

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and allowing them to grow in our lives.

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Right. So when it comes to bandwidth,

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he asked some of the reasons people saying

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that they don't have any bandwidth at work.

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They're like I have an excessive workload. You

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know, so much, so many tasks to complete,

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especially, in uncertain

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times, It becomes so overwhelming.

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Number two inefficient delegation.

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So, so many times managers. They

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struggle to delegate. Efficiently.

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And so they think this is why I

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don't have bandwidth because I don't have a team person

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that can help me and I'll have the resources.

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And I have all these bottlenecks because I actually have

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someone that I'm delegating to, but then they're

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not good enough, or so I need

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to really micromanage them. another

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reason is, having too many meetings and

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too many interactions, And

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I am not saying these things are not real because

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all these examples I'm giving you, they come from

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actual client actual situations

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that I see in the workplace every single week.

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Having high expectations and, and

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pressure for performance. So that is

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one thing that will affect your bandwidth

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as a manager, being under considerable

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pressure to me, targets

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to meet expectations, you have pressure from

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your boss pressure from. Your

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team and all of this is compounded

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by tight deadlines, high standards,

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all of these things make it really,

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really challenging for you to

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manage effectively,, lack

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of resources, you know, not having enough

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staff, budget tools, all

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these things. they affect you as a manager. Having

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been in an environment where this rapid

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changes and uncertainty.

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And this is literally what a lot of organizations

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are, are going through in this

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moment. Communication overload.

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this is one of the biggest challenges managers

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have because they have teams

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that are remote. They have emails, they have instant

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messages. They have to do meetings on video.

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Theirs on social media. Managing

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these communications. Without them consuming

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you. Is absolutely

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challenging. And I do recognize that,

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I'm sure that you can recognize more

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than one of these challenges in

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your own life. But what if I told

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you that these are only the tip of

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the iceberg, Most of these issues

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are organizational challenges.

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And I want to focus on you.

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On you, the individual, you, the manager.

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Certainly we can go into the

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organization and change all these other

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factors that are affecting

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your work environment, which

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we actually do. We work with organizations.

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to make organizational changes,

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but you as the individual.

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Your own bandwidth, isn't

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just effected by the organizational

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structures and challenges. So

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here, uh, some of

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the. Challenges that are

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affecting your personal

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bandwidth, because at the end

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of the day, The

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odd people. That even

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though there are so many organizational challenges,

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they still have bandwidth for more. You have

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people who. There are so many challenges,

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organizationally. We know that we need

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to fix them. But I still have bandwidth.

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And they're the ones that are, that say.

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I don't have family because of those challenges

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at work. Right. And so what is, what

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are some of the things that

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are affecting you as an individual?

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That. Have nothing to

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do with the organizational boundary, but, are

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effecting your personal bandwidth.

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Okay. So number one, the first

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one is when you're not

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in integrity with USF.

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This is when there's a misalignment

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between your actions and

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your stated values, beliefs, and

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principles. So your values are

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the cool ideals and standards.

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That guide. How you

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behave and how you make decisions,

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they represent. What

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is most important to you? And

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these are very different for every

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person. You have values,

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they will influence your priorities

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and they serve as a framework

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for evaluating your actions and choices

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and deciding what is wrong and

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what is right for you. When

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you're not in integrity values.

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Then you'll bandwidth will be.

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Busted your beliefs, beliefs,

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our convictions. Oh,

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true. And real to you, things

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that you believe that. Based

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on your experience, your cultural context,

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your education, or your faith. They

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shape who you are and how you perceive

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the world and they influence your

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responses to various.

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Situations. And if

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you are not in integrity with your beliefs,

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that will bust your bandwidth. You principles.

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They are fundamental truths

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that, serve as, as the foundation

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for. Your belief system

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or your behavior? They're often

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considered to be universal guidelines

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that dictate the right way to act

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in a given situation. For

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example, the principle of fairness,

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my dictate, how you choose to treat

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someone right. If fairness

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matters to you, then when you show

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up at work or in your personal life,

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It will dictate how you choose to treat

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people. So you have values

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your beliefs, your principles, if in

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any way, you're not in integrity

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with those three things. That

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will bust. Or

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affect your bandwidth. The second thing

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is, and this was a big one.

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it's when you hold unforgiveness.

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So this is about letting

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go of the things that happened to you

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in the past. And I'm talking about sometimes

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it'll be childhood stuff, and sometimes

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it'll be stuff that happened to you two

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hours ago, and it doesn't matter.

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unforgiveness it's like planting

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thorns in your own garden. To

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keep someone else away. You

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know, and it's like, well, why would you put

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twins in your garden? Because, you're

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going to be living in your garden every, every

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day. Like. You're the one who lives

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there. And you, you, you will

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have to deal with the pain of the thorns every

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single day. Which is only going

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to ruin your experience of being in your garden.

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And it's also going to ruin your own

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beautiful space. So why would you do

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that? But most people.

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Carrie unforgiveness with them and

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they don't know how to get rid of it. And the

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most dangerous part of unforgiveness is

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that you don't realize how

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much it affects the other areas

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of your life in your relationships and how you

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feel about yourself and how you feel

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at work and your ability to learn new

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things. It does matter.

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And people don't talk about this. Right. Because

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it tends to be a little bit of a. You

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know, this is the spirituals, APAC and

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w well, no, it's not. It's a human

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topic. So holding unforgiveness

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will bust your bandwidth,

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your. Capacity for growth for

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more for being resilient,

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it will affect you a hundred percent.

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Okay. Number three is when you don't

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know your own design, knowing

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you'll design will allow you to

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master your energy. This is one of

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the biggest advantages of knowing.

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You'll design. So when I'm talking about your design

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I'm talking about what are the things

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that energize you? What are the things that

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deplete you? What are your

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natural inclinations?

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the natural talents and gifts

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that you were given. Literally

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that come from nowhere. And, and

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the reason why not knowing your design

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will bust your bandwidth is because when you don't

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know your design, You will say yes

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to things that you meant to say no to.

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And when you say yes to something where you meant

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to say, no, it will deplete you and

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that will affect your bandwidth. I

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always say that. Not, knowing

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you'll what energizes you. It's like

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trying to go up a hill. Carrying

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a huge elephant on your back. It's

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the worst thing you can do. Right.

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you wouldn't want you to do that. Well,

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you wouldn't want to carry an elephant, even going

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downhill. But let alone

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going up here, your design

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is, something that is so precious.

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It's your uniqueness. It's what makes you, who

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you are. And.

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People around, you can see it, but

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so many times we're not aware of our

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design. And there's so many tools that

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exist today to help you identify.

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Well, what your. Made

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of what you love, what your, what

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your design is, what, what excites

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you? What motivates you? If

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you're not aware of those things. You

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ended up making the wrong choices and then making

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the wrong choices ends up affecting

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your bandwidth. Alright, when you place more value

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on other people's opinion than your own,?

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Like being a people pleaser or

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really, feeling the need

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to, to constantly

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say care about what other people

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think of you. And I'm, you know,

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I'm saying this with a lot of love and.

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And care because I know this is a

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very sensitive thing. Most

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people on the planet, have this issue.

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they learn this from childhood sadly

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very quickly. The other people's opinions

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matter more than your own. and

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again, I could do a whole series

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of episodes on this alone,

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but I can assure you that

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one of the parts of your adult

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hood journey is to learn.

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To find you your own opinion and

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to give it the weight that it requires in

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your own life. And until

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you're able to do that effectively,

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it will affect your capacity. It will affect

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your bandwidth. Okay. The next one is

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when you don't take radical responsibility

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for your life. This one is

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challenging because many

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adults think that

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they take ownership. And

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responsibility over their lives, but they

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don't right. You are

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either a victim. Of

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life. Or a create tool

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of your life. And most people don't

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know that they're able to create results.

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The decisions and the choices

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that you make today. Have

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an impact on the quality of life

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that you live tomorrow, and every

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single decision that you make today

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will have an impact on your life.

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Tomorrow, So what happens is that when

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you do not take radical responsibility,

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then you're a victim. the things

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that happen to you, they happen to you because someone

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else did them to you. You're not, responsible.

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Right. You're either a child.

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Or an adult, a child depends on other

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people to make decisions for them and

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to, dictate the, trajectory

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of their lives and adopt takes responsibility

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over their lives. They

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make decisions and you

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will be surprised how there

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are 50 year old children

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in the world right now.

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Running companies, leading

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teams, making decisions

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that affect others. So

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taking ownership of your life.

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Is crucial for you to manage

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your bandwidth. Because when you're

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responsible, when you acknowledge

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that the life that you have today, Is

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a consequence the effect.

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Of the cause that started.

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In the past than today, you can make

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decisions that are going to shape the way that

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your tomorrow will look like. And only

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you can do that. So by

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the cool responsibility. Okay,

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the next one is when you live

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with the lens of fear

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and shame, right? lands. If

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you have glasses on, my daughter had this

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really cool glasses and they had

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a blue lens. And, and she

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would look everywhere, and if there was something,

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read to her, they would look purple.

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And if there was something yellow

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to her, the look green, because

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she had a lens that had a blue

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tint in it. And so when you live

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your life with the lens of

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shame, with the lens of

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guilt, This has a huge

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impact on how you live your life. Guilt

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happens when you believe that

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you have done something wrong. and

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you failed Your own moral

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or ethical standards. It makes you

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feel bad, shame is more

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about yourself. Identity.

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Guilt says I did something bad.

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Shame says I am bad.

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And so shame can be more

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debilitating than guilt because it

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attacks the core of your self

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esteem and a sense of value.

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Often leading to feeling. Exposed.

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and it gives you this feeling of. Desire

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to want to hide into the superior. And I

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am going to be Frank with you. Fear.

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You know, shame and guilt.

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Really affected my life for so

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many, many, many years. But when

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you're wearing the lens of guilt

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and shame, It will affect your bandwidth.

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It will affect your capacity. To

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grow to. Live

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free. It will affect

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the way that you show up in the world.

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It will stop you from

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showing up in a way that is authentic

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and freeing to you. Okay.

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And the last one is When you avoid

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feeling pain, right? So.

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And this is really interesting one because when you

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are scared of. Of pain.

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Will you end up doing is every time you do

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feel pain. You hold

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onto it, you nurse it subconsciously.

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Expecting the next moment where you'll

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feel pain again. And when you're doing

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that, You're trying to avoid pain

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by feeling the pain and

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that bus your bandwidth. You cannot

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have capacity for more for growth, for opportunities,

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for excitement, You can't build.

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On top of pain.

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Pain is a fundamental

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part of the human experience.

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Pain is not, a bad thing. And

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the thing about the, the, the lesson

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with pain is that we're meant

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to experience it and walk

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through it. And heal from

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it, but when we hold it and we nurse

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the pain would keep it with us

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and it's like a wound that can never be healed.

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And so we can't get rid of it. Right. And

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so how can you grow if

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you're in pain? Like if you broke

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your leg and, you're in hospital. You

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can't, you can't go and do new things

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while you're in hospital. It doesn't work so

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avoiding pain means

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that you end up living in pain.

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And it, it is a capacity

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Buster. It is a bond with Buster.

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So if you heard any of

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these. buy ugly busters

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and you can identify them in your life. I want

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to say to you, it's not your fault. Like

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welcome to being human. And

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the challenge here is to

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identify which ones

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are in your life so

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that you can deal with

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them in a way that is effective. And

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that is powerful, which is a work that we do, right?

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And it doesn't have to take forever.

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You'll be surprised when you identify

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these things in your life. How

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easily you can shift

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them. So that you can increase your bandwidth,

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but when they're hiding under

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the iceberg, when they're hiding.

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Then you're not able to address them in

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a way that is effective. And

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that will stop your growth,? It will stop your

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capacity. To be able to bandwidth. So.

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Again, We don't learn these things

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as, as cool. We don't learn a uni.

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Even if you pay hundreds of thousands of dollars

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or pounds or euros. To go

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to university. You don't learn these things.

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You don't learn them at home when you go to

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work. The focus of

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your development at work is professional

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development. It's about organizational success.

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It's your personal responsibility.

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To identify these things in your life and to deal

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with them so that you can grow

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because when you, when you build your bandwidth

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so that you can deal with things out at work,

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what happens. Is that you

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build your bandwidth for your personal

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experiences as well? You capacity

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to feel more, to, to, to

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enjoy life more, to, to

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be more to. Love

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more, your capacity for joy, for

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fulfillment. That's what

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it does for you. So it starts

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with identifying them. In

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your own life. and as usual,

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I would love to know if this resonated

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with you in any way. If you can identify

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any of these verses in your life and let

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me know, head to the show notes,

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and there's a link there, so you can send me

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a message about it. All right, bye. For

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now.