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david uh absolutely excited and
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privileged to have you on this episode
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of leadership bites welcome
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hey thanks for having me on your show
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guys well i can't tell you how
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how happy i am i'll have done an
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introduction to
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who you are and i think a lot of people
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probably will know who you are but
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i'll cover that in the introduction and
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just wanting to keep this punchy
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and to keep this in a kind of a space
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and place where there's immediate value
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i wanted to pull on your experience
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and so i just have a couple of questions
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that i'd like to kind of
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offer to you just to get your response
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if we're okay to move into that space
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yeah sure fantastic so
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my um i think my interest comes
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from people that have trodden the path
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of leadership
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very often have examples of the moments
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maybe where they had leaps in their
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learning
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because you know there's there's a
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there's a path forward which is made up
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of years of experience but that's hard
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to maybe talk about specifically but
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there's often a a person
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a moment a book a revelation a disaster
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whatever it is and i just wonder if you
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could share
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one or two poignant moments from your
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career that go
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those definitely helped me learn about
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myself or or to develop and move forward
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i'd love to hear a few of those
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yeah so of one of the critical moments
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for me
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was shortly after i took over as a
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captain of the nuclear-powered submarine
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uss santa fe
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and i'd come up through the navy system
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and i was being promoted on the strength
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of my ability
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to tell people what to do and get them
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to do it
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and make good decisions and
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i was deeply deeply deeply rooted in
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that
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paradigm of leadership leaders and
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followers
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management and workers how other how
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else could it possibly be
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uh and so i show up on the uss santa fe
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now
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i'd spent a year uh training to take
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over a different submarine
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which was a different kind of submarine
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okay and
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what happened was the santa fe wasn't
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doing well it was the worst performing
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submarine in the fl in the navy
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and the had the worst morale and the
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captain
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to his credit in my mind said i'm not
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the person for this i resign
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a year early so the navy hadn't done the
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normal
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they hadn't sequenced someone into to
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come replace him so at very short notice
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two weeks notice they told me
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hey you're not going to go where you
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thought you're going to go to the santa fe
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different kind of submarine oh by the
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way it's the worst performing submarine
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and it has the worst morale
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and you don't know the ship better than
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that you should be fine
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[ __ ] them crack on and
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and so here's here's the picture of the
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the ceremony but the reality was i
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looked like this
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inside i was i was really quite nervous
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anxious and concerned but
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you don't really can't really show that
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i mean you're a submarine commander you
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don't want to be
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vulnerable and i gave an order
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very early on that couldn't be done it
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was a very simple thing it was about
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shifting
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into the second gear on an engine that
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only had one gear
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and when the navy went to the newest
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ship they sent the
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the navy's constantly simplifying the
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machinery because
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simpler machinery fewer moving parts
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breaks less cost less cheaper to
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maintain more reliable so
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you want to make it exactly as you want
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to get as simple as you can and
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uh with santa fe being one of the newest
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ships ship i'd never been on
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kind of never been on before that
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this this motor now had uh one speed but
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on all the older ships was two speed
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motor
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anyway i um i suggested going to second
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gear on this one speed motor and it came
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to light hey can't do it blah blah blah
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and nothing really happened but the
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thing that really shocked me and rocked
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me back on my heels was
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the fact that the officer ordered it and
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when i asked him
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if he knew about it he said yes and well
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why did you order it because you told me
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to
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and wow in
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yeah now if you're listening to this and
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say oh that would only happen in the
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military
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yeah i don't know commercial spice
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i can list a hundred corporations
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volkswagen wells fargo blockbuster
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wherever
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whatever where people just do what
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they're told i mean it is the number one
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behavior in a corporation that get you
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advanced attach yourself to someone else
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and do
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what do what they want you to do yeah
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and
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it's designed that way the organization
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is designed that way
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we do say we do sprinkle fairy tales say
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oh but i really want you to think
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but the fundamental organizational
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design is for compliance and conformity
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not for thinking and we
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we can tamper with the edges but it
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doesn't really make a fundamental
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difference
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my thought was oh i need to give better
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orders i got to make better decisions
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this had always been my thought in the
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past
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but on the santa fe it was because it
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was a brand new ship
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that was unfamiliar to me i was like
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well how am i possibly going to learn
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everything
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before i kill everybody there's no way
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so the problem wasn't i gave a bad order
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the problem was
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i was the one giving orders and this
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was my damasking moment
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where i realized all my leadership
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training all of it and and i would dare
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say
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basically all leadership training on the
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planet
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90 of it is about telling people what to
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do and getting them to do it and making
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good decisions
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and it's not helpful
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it was that it was the winning formula
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for the industrial revolution but is not
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the winning formula for thinking
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organizations because it's not about
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thinking we need to optimize the
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organization
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not for doing but for thinking and we
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need to balance it with doing
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so we need doing and thinking but right
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now most organizations are 99
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doing one percent thinking now there's
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some a few people at the top
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we reserve those spots those are the
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thinking spots and they make decisions
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and tell everyone else what to do
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so there's two problems for this number
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one
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we're not activating the thinking of
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many people in the organization
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so we're missing out on what they what
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they know it's bad for the organization
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but it's also horrible for them for as
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human beings
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just to show up to work and just be a
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cog in the machine
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and so that's number one number two
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it's fundamentally coercive because
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we separate the people who are making
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the decisions from the people who are
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doing the work
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the people who are doing the work are
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not making decisions about the work
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somebody else is making decisions about
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the work and so everybody in every level
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of hierarchy
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has two problems number one they're
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trying to control
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somebody else and they're being
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controlled by their boss
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both of those things are tremendous
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sources of stress
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because you can't control somebody else
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so you're trying to control something
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you fundamentally cannot control
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and you in turn are being controlled
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which also doesn't feel
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good and we have studies here in the
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united states
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that show the cost of the stress
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and the relationship to toxic workplaces
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is over 200 billion
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dollars a year and was the fifth leading
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cause of death this is pre-coveted fifth
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leading cut
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fifth leading cause of death in the
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united states is toxic workplaces
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why because it's fundamentally designed
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to be stress
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inducing and so we don't
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we can't just tinker on the edges with
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this approach
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what we need to do is let the people who
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are doing the work make make
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as many fundamental decisions about the
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work as possible
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and it and it comes down to the is baked
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into our language
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that's the problem you can say whatever
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you you can you can
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dream up and write policies about
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whatever you want
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but if you show up and you run a meeting
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the same way you ran the meeting two
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years ago
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the same way you ran that your your
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parents ran a meeting that the
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ceo ten years ago ran you're not changed
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nothing's changed
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and that's what we see well that's
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fascinating and
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again i have a sneaky suspicion you know
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as i always do when i speak to somebody
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like yourself that
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i could spend a couple of days with you
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on this so uh keep keeping it tight
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um i'm i'm i'm really alert to what
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you're talking about
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i've also become quite alert i think to
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another thing
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is that people need to be developed
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in themselves as much as they do in the
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role
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primarily because what i also see is
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that people
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put themselves into a submissive state
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sometimes even if they're being asked
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not to
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and what i mean by that is the market
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shifts
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covid happens etc whatever it is and it
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becomes harder to get a job out there
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they've got a mortgage they've got a
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second kid on the way whatever it is
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and even if they've got the recognized
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guru of leadership in in the
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organization
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their fear manifests in a submissive
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state
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and because they're fearful of losing
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job and all those kind of things
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and one thing i'm i'm highly alert to
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is that even if you are actually
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a really skilled leader
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there is something about the
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organization
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has to be more than the individual i had
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gary ridge on the podcast who's the
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md of wd-40 he talks you're very much
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about
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we're a tribe and we're coaches and not
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managers and
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you know that that kind of thing but i'm
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i'm just
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super alert that even when a company
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tries its best and tries
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really hard there are still times when
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people do that to themselves because of
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their own fear
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and i just wonder if you observe that
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where i'm giving you permission
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and yet you're still not stepping up and
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what you might do to bridge that gap
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because it's not
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technically what you're doing it's the
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reaction they're having to
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you know it's an interesting
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conversation for you yeah
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so the way we think about it is
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the leader's job is to create the
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environment where it's safe for people
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to participate
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it being bold and if you're looking for
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bold behavior
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it needs to come from a place of safety
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not from a place of fear
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you can you can goad people and scare
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them into once
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jumping but then they age they all jump
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in different directions
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it's not organized and it doesn't keep
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working it doesn't get everyone's best
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thinking
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so leaders say oh my job is to make it
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as safe as possible
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if if you're the employee the employee's
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job
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is no matter how safe the environment
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feels
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i'm going to be bold i'm going to share
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what i think i'm going to speak up and i
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see things differently
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now you say oh people say oh it's up to
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you to make a decision
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i think these people they're a little
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bit deluding themselves
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and they're blaming the the team
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when they really haven't made made it
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easy to
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to for the team to speak up i'm guessing
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but because i'm just based on what we've
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seen in 100
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corporations they're still running the
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meetings the old way they're going to
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talk about it and then they're going to
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vote
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and they're going to say look everyone
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voted the same way yeah that's because
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you structure the meeting incorrectly
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they're going to ask binary questions
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they're going to say things like so we
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should launch the product next week right
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and then they're going to complain
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because they didn't get any descending
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opinions
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well that whole sentence was was
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a bad way to do it
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the way adding that and adding that
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right
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at the end is is designed to suppress
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different opinions does that make sense
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we good here it's it's coercion those
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are all small
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small coercions and so we're actually
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coercing over and over again
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every binary question is a micro
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coercion because i'm trying to force
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someone
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to take a binary position in a highly
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complex world
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for something about the future you're
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gonna say oh did you go to the game last
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night okay that can be binary but we're
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gonna say
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should we launch the product yeah the
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decision is binary but the input's never
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binary it's like how
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strong how confident are you in the
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product start the question with the word
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how over and over and over again so i s
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what i see
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is here's a very simple here's a simple
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example how this plays out
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on a cross-country flight lady stands up
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falls over she faints she stands up too
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fast and she faints the lights come on
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all the flight attendants rush over are
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you okay are you okay
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yeah i'm i'm fine i'm and she's sort of
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shaking i'm fine they put her in the
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seat next to me which is empty and she's
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sort of recovering and
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pretty soon they all quiet down they go
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back to their they turn the lights back
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off and i say
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how are you not a binary question
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the problem with are you fine everyone
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says yeah of course i'm fine
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i'm fine i was on a bike riding one of
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the guys in our in our bike group
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crashed and he's lying on the ground we
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stop and we're looking at him he's like
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i'm okay i'm okay
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yeah he had broken his pelvis he wasn't
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okay
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look the problem isn't him saying he's
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okay the problem is
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us saying are you okay that's the wrong
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question it's how do you feel
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where does it hurt and
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we are just conditioned
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in the wrong we are programmed to speak
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the industrial age
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language and then we blame our team and
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we say well where's your thinking
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because you're managing me like a cog in
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a machine every word you say
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is programmed to get me to go along with
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what you want me to do
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so does the craft of asking the right
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kind of question and then there's the
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environment that gives me the safety to
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respond to it
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it's the same thing the environment is
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created by
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a quote the question anything now you
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could attain handle
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when people make mistakes which they
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always will
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we say what did we learn it's always
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about learning what do we learn
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everything has two dimensions what did
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we do what did we learn what did we do
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what did we learn if all if your only
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dimension is what did we do
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then you're going to have failures what
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did we do well we didn't quite do
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we didn't quite get there i have a goal
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for this year which i'm
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very close to making but i might not
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make it
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i have a fitness goal at the end of the
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year and [Music]
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so if that's all i'm focused on it's
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going to feel like a failure but
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if you say well oh what did i do what
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did i learn well what did i learn well i
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you always learn something right so it
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mitigates the sense of failure and
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we can get better it's a it's about
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getting better
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yes there's an interesting relationship
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i think between
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the well especially i'm from the
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commercial space i
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i don't know your space that you're
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talking about at all but that
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expectation of an end game that can be
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quite
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selfish for people i.e people are in
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private equity companies they've got an
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earn out or bosses that can get a
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certain bonus
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so you know that that kind of
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um and it's not about running a kibbutz
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but you know balancing the human doing
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and the human being kind of thing and
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actually having a sense of
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social responsibility i'm not a big fan
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of the word corporate social
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responsibility
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but just social responsibility and
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asking come down to that
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um and again i'm not about get rid of
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the profits but
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i'm worth it i'm with you here's here's
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what we see it's it's
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very clear
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if you're doing quote social
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responsibility out of a sense of charity
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that's that's
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to me great have a charity just give the
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money away
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that's corporate social responsibility
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to me yeah run a charity fine do that
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but
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yeah here's the thing you're
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the people in your company are number
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one
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your customer is not number one you
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your job as a leader is to take care of
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the people in your company and the
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people in your company will take care of
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the customer
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if your company if you say customers
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number one then the people
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in your company the doing the care and
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the feeding
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are number two so we work with
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mcdonald's and i'm in a mcdonald's and
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franchise i'm standing in the back
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and the shift manager the team meets
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before the shift and shift managers sort
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of barking at the people
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only two pickles blah blah blah and
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don't forget what happened yesterday
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okay now go out there and serve
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hamburgers with a lot of empathy
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like really you know screw you because
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if i don't get treated with empathy how
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am i gonna treat the customer with any
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kind of empathy
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so the way the path
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look you could get rich with a very
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short-term focus a lot of people have
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done it
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i think ultimately at the end of the at
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the end of your life
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it's a relatively hollow uh
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approach to legacy i think
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long term and we know guys
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compare costco which was run by jim
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senegal costco is a big box store here
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in the united states
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quiet not a big brash guy no one ever
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heard of them
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and in 1980 if you had invested same
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amount of money in costco and ge
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you would have way more i don't know the
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number 100 times more money in costco
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right now
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but then we have jack wells big and
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flashy blah blah blah
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and then crash yeah
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and he had a certain
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genius for achievement but not for
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leadership because as soon as he left
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the thing fell apart his his disciples
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were basically disasters wherever they
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went
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and that's not
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to me leadership happens the day you
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leave
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i'm fascinated by you know this idea of
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you know momentum isn't leadership
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you know and if the product or the
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market is allowing you to have momentum
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that's not in itself great leadership
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it's
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uh and a lot of people think that they
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are the cause of success when actually
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it's happening in spite of them
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i see that a lot right well we always
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when good luck happens we that's that's
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my talent i made that happen
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exactly um and i've been the beneficiary
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of
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of a tremendous benef if i were a
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submarine
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i could be the most famous ever
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submarine commander
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in denmark write a book in danish and
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there's five million people who could
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read it but
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so there's a lot of luck involved but we
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should always remember
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that that there was there's luck
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involved but and when but when you are
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lucky and you're ready then you can
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um okay you can take you can take
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advantage of it but certainly
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for us leadership the path to long-term
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success
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is through your people it's through
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taking care of your people and creating
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a
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thinking team creating a team which
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consistently makes
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good decisions organizations can tell
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you to the tenth of a penny
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what all the different pieces they're
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making building a car they can tell you
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what that screw costs and
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when you ask them well what did it cost
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to make the decision to build
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this car like something why did you use
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these kind of tires or
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why did you place the gas tank where you
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placed it no idea we have no idea what
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our decisions are costing us
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so we always think in two dimensions we
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have decision making factory
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and then we have the factory factory
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where we're making the whatever it is
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the product that we're making and then
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the decisions which improve the product
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the job this is leadership the
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decision-making factor because it's
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about thinking it's about human
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interaction it's designing in human
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interactions
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that activates and allows people to
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express their thinking in
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in a most effective way this
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while you're in the organization we call
20:51
that achievement you're a great achiever
20:54
you're that's a great accomplishment
20:55
that's a great achievement
20:57
it's not great leadership until you
21:00
leave
21:01
and then we see how the organization
21:03
does yeah
21:05
so in your kind of space
21:08
high performance and people that
21:11
actually cause
21:12
problems but are high performers
21:15
and i think i see a lot of organizations
21:17
but for foul
21:18
of they actually have a certain amount
21:21
of incredible talent but it's
21:23
you know they they just pareto's law
21:25
kind of stuff in play
21:27
and when those people are you know good
21:30
contributors that's a beautiful thing
21:31
but when they're
21:32
maybe malcontents or saboteurs or
21:34
whatever it is but they bring
21:35
home the bacon so to speak and i just
21:38
wonder your
21:39
not so much your tolerance but your
21:40
approach to people who are
21:43
technically excellent and worth every
21:45
penny but at the same time
21:47
cause massive issues i just wonder how
21:51
i mean how you how you face into those
21:54
kind of
21:54
people and it depends what kind of a
21:58
company you're running i
22:00
i it's hard for you for me to imagine in
22:03
my experience
22:04
going from your history from your past
22:07
when you're in those places and spaces
22:08
somebody who's a
22:09
bloody great performer but caused
22:12
emotional problems with people it was a
22:14
sort of well you have to get it
22:17
okay on a submarine nothing happens no
22:19
one person is that
22:21
valuable i i would get rid of them you
22:23
have to get rid of that person
22:24
it the the there's we we somehow get
22:27
enamored
22:28
and the the same thing with why are we
22:30
paying ceos 2 000 times the average
22:33
because they're so you really think this
22:35
person is so much better at making
22:37
decisions
22:37
well again that's a fundamentally flawed
22:39
approach because that's not the ceo's
22:41
job the ceo's job is to create
22:44
an organization you got 20 000 people
22:46
working in your company
22:48
isn't there brain power worth something
22:50
no no we're going to bank it on the ceo
22:52
making the right call
22:54
well how about there are hundreds and
22:56
thousands of little decisions that
22:57
happen all day long to the organization
22:59
that add up
23:01
to determine success or failure now
23:05
if if you're fundamentally in the wrong
23:07
business then yeah that's
23:08
that's that's going to be a problem but
23:09
your organization will detect that
23:11
they'll notice it sales will start
23:12
dropping off it'll be harder for the
23:14
salesman to sell the product
23:15
the the people that are talking to are
23:17
going to start talking about well you
23:18
know there's this other thing have you guys heard
23:20
and in the right organization that gets
23:22
filtered and it gets responded to and
23:24
the organization reacts and
23:25
and changes to it yeah you can't i mean
23:28
i'm guessing
23:31
i i i don't know i guess there may be
23:38
you know what i i'm going to just go out
23:39
on a limb and say there is no such thing
23:42
we've seen so during the financial
23:45
crisis
23:46
there were some some hedge funds over
23:50
here
23:50
that got it exactly right this is the
23:53
2008 they
23:54
they saw the thing they saw the
23:56
implosion coming
23:57
they bet against the mortgage markets
23:59
they made billions of dollars they were
24:01
they
24:02
they're on their own private islands of
24:03
their own private yachts
24:06
and then and then and then they don't
24:08
repeat and then everyone throws money at
24:10
them
24:10
and then they underperform for the next
24:12
10 years
24:13
just so just because you made a great
24:16
decision once now you may say that's all
24:17
i need yeah
24:18
all i need is one good decision make a
24:20
billion dollars i'm done fine my family
24:22
said for generations
24:23
okay but i don't think
24:30
i mean i don't know uh
24:34
one of the exercises we do with with uh
24:37
ceos sometimes is we have them say
24:40
right you just got an email from god who
24:43
said this is
24:44
your last day at midnight tonight you're
24:46
gonna you're gonna die
24:48
and what are you what are you thinking
24:49
about just just jot down your thoughts
24:51
for the next 20 minutes most of them
24:55
don't talk about money
24:58
they talk about they talk about people
25:02
and there's a there's an interesting
25:06
little book a nurse in australia wrote
25:09
five uh wishes of the dying or something
25:13
like that
25:14
and really so she's a hospice nurse and
25:17
she's
25:18
it's a chance to talk to people who are
25:21
near death and the things they talk
25:24
about and they talk about
25:27
they don't talk about oh i wish i'd made
25:29
more money that is not one of the top i
25:31
just do a spoiler alert
25:33
top five so yeah i you know what's
25:35
important in your life
25:37
and you gotta you gotta i call it fast
25:39
forward you gotta take
25:41
take the take the movie of your life and
25:44
play it to the end
25:45
imagine or at least play it a year
25:49
in the future or 10 years in the future
25:50
and like well what what is it
25:52
what is what is it about what you're
25:54
trying to get people
25:56
to move away from just being task
25:58
focused to say
25:59
listen jump to that point where actually
26:02
you'll actually know what's really
26:04
important to you
26:05
and connect with that now and actually
26:07
if that is a true thing
26:08
then start behaving like that now yeah
26:12
yeah i i feel that yeah another thing is
26:15
i think we also we view
26:17
we spend too much time what i call
26:19
behind our own eyeballs
26:22
my sense of the world is i'm looking out
26:24
through my
26:25
eyeballs and in me whatever is
26:28
whatever i am is behind my eyeballs
26:31
looking at the world through my eyeballs
26:35
and i say get out from behind your own
26:37
eyeballs
26:38
and basically you want to be over here
26:41
put yourself over here
26:42
look back at yourself in a meeting
26:45
imagine okay i'm sitting over there and
26:46
i'm looking at me
26:47
what do i think this was on a live video
26:50
i have to say this was a live video
26:51
stream
26:52
and the people that you care about were
26:54
watching
26:55
would they be proud of you would they be
26:57
going oh my god
26:59
and very often having that third party
27:02
perspective
27:03
and if you think they'd be proud of you
27:05
well you know crack on but if you if you
27:07
know in your heart they'd be embarrassed
27:08
then you know do something else right
27:11
yeah
27:12
yeah it's an interesting one so in in
27:14
your time
27:15
of developing and nurturing talent and
27:18
bringing people forward you know i often
27:22
you know i often say what's the best
27:24
piece of advice that you've ever
27:25
received but i've actually started to
27:27
ask a different question which is
27:28
what's the best bit of advice you've
27:30
ever given
27:32
which is a slightly different take on it
27:34
and may make you think but i'd love to
27:36
know the answer if you've got one
27:40
well i guess the best piece of advice
27:42
i've given is advice i've given to
27:44
myself
27:46
um and and there's there's a couple of
27:49
things number one is
27:50
only contr all only control what you can
27:54
control
27:56
just control what you can control and
27:58
the only thing you control
27:59
is yourself and give up
28:03
give up trying to control everybody
28:06
else just give it up you can influence
28:10
their behavior
28:11
but it comes by controlling your own
28:12
behavior so what we have instead of
28:15
instead of leaders i walk
28:18
standard situation i walk up to you i
28:20
say hey boss here's a problem
28:23
what should i do well
28:26
either my boss tells me or they'll say
28:29
well
28:30
what do you think uh we should do
28:33
and um i'm like well i don't know you
28:36
tell me okay we'll do this
28:38
so and then i get lecture because i've
28:42
taken enough initiative and
28:46
what they can do is they cannot answer
28:48
the question
28:49
they can say even ask me what do i think
28:52
is that sometimes a
28:53
too big of a bridge you want to start
28:55
with what do you see
28:56
because what do you see is observation
29:00
description which is unemotional even
29:01
what you think can be
29:03
feel emotional because it can be judged
29:05
which is what what you see does not feel
29:07
that judgmental is oh i see
29:08
four rooms i see a wall i see some
29:10
lights it's observations
29:12
it's that that's where you start they
29:14
can't control themselves
29:16
they can't help but speak up or
29:19
be the way they are and so they're then
29:21
they push it on
29:22
other people oh you're empowered but i
29:24
refuse to shut up
29:26
that's the classic and
29:28
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29:30
if your happiness is dependent upon the
29:32
behavior of other people
29:33
you're screwed yeah good luck with that
29:35
yeah good luck with that i
29:37
had this conversation my with my
29:41
my mom she was upset my kids were all in
29:43
their 30s now but
29:44
you know earlier um in their 20s oh they
29:47
didn't send me they
29:48
didn't send a thank you note and i'm
29:51
like well don't send them a present
29:52
next year no no no make them send me a
29:54
thank you will you
29:55
are you i'm really upset they didn't
29:57
tend to think well you
29:59
that's your problem why
30:02
why is there action have any controlling
30:06
your happiness
30:07
so now you're you're you're in a game
30:10
you can't win
30:11
because now you have to control other
30:13
people in order
30:14
to get them to do stuff that you think
30:17
is going to make you happy
30:18
it's a loser's game so stop trying to
30:21
control other people
30:24
and i guess that's my big piece of
30:25
advice i find
30:28
which is interesting when you are
30:31
inverted commas
30:32
in control and that's interesting
30:35
conversation for people i guess
30:36
yeah i say people the team's behaviors
30:39
need to be
30:40
coordinated highly coordinated
30:43
but not when you really have it going
30:46
right people's behaviors are coordinated
30:48
but they're not controlled
30:51
so it is a picture is a team where
30:53
everyone is doing things announcing them
30:56
and synchronizing in in a
31:00
in this beautiful ballet
31:04
uh but there's a lot of communication
31:06
people say i'm doing this i'm about to
31:08
doing this on the submarine it might be
31:10
flooding on torpedo to lining up torpedo
31:13
initializing gyros raising the periscope
31:15
aligning the sonar
31:16
and people are announcing this
31:19
that's what it would sound on on the
31:21
santa fe and i could say
31:23
because they were announcing it i i
31:24
could always stop it i say stop don't do
31:26
that hold on for a second
31:28
i need this other thing to happen first
31:30
but what normally what we see is in the
31:32
movies
31:33
is one person the captain saying
31:36
initialize sonar line up the torpedo and
31:39
so we're controlling things
31:41
which a makes things slower b steals
31:43
people's ownership
31:45
and doesn't get and it doesn't
31:47
distribute the thinking
31:49
we've we've we've uh
31:53
created one singularity of thinking
31:57
and if that thinker makes the wrong
31:59
decision we're all
32:01
dead i love that phrase actually uh
32:03
distributed think
32:04
distributed thinking i think that's a
32:06
it's a it's an easy thing to say but it's
32:08
there's a huge amount of stuff to unpack
32:10
in there which we haven't got time for
32:12
now
32:12
yeah yeah that's a that's a massive
32:14
thing about permission
32:16
safety to do so being trained enough
32:18
well enough to do it
32:21
there's a lot in there yeah exactly yeah
32:24
right and it's not just oh i have an
32:26
opinion on something i don't know
32:27
anything about that's not thinking
32:28
that's just
32:30
an opinion yeah exactly like thank you
32:33
for it but
32:34
yeah this is actually a nuclear reactor
32:36
you actually need to know something so
32:39
or an airplane or surgery or internet
32:42
security what you're talking about is fascinating
32:43
because i my little boy had a
32:45
an asthma attack a couple of years ago
32:47
and the ambulance came
32:49
incredibly quickly and of course they
32:52
told me to get out of the way
32:53
you know because i can i just yeah you
32:56
know as in
32:57
your opinion sir you know but
33:00
if you just step to the side and uh and
33:02
of course what i did say
33:04
was them calling off you know this is
33:06
what i'm doing the check
33:07
well i'll get the pump and they they i
33:09
don't have to look at you but i'm
33:10
hearing
33:12
and so they didn't have to watch each
33:14
other and it was a ballet
33:16
and then when they'd basically saved his
33:18
life and you're stood there going
33:20
holy shmoley because it's their day job
33:24
but to you you've just seen this a
33:27
miracle
33:28
a miracle we got in the ambulance and we
33:30
were going to the
33:31
hospital and my little boy was fine and
33:33
then they did
33:34
a debrief and they went um right
33:38
anything we should think about not
33:41
anything we did wrong
33:42
not anything we did right so then we're
33:44
gonna just give each other a group hug
33:46
but anything we should think about and
33:48
they did this for a bit and i turned
33:49
around and said can i just ask why you
33:50
did that and they go
33:51
and not wait till the end of the shift
33:53
or they go yeah because we might have
33:54
another one in a minute
33:56
and is there i thought yeah of course
33:59
of course it might happen again in
34:01
literally five minutes and if it does
34:03
anything we should have thought about
34:05
and i thought oh this is this
34:07
is what i mean there's obviously a
34:08
hierarchy there was a supervise you
34:10
could tell there was a hierarchy
34:12
but it wasn't in play and that was i
34:15
imagine what we're talking about here
34:16
that's exactly right
34:18
what you described is exactly what
34:21
what i think the highest performing
34:23
teams the way they operate
34:25
the hierarchy comes in play
34:29
two months earlier when we said
34:33
okay when we arrive on scene who's going
34:36
to do what and how are we going to
34:37
interact
34:38
and i've gone through training videos
34:42
american heart association training
34:44
videos of how teams should interact to
34:46
heart attacks
34:47
where the doctor is directing every
34:49
action
34:50
and this is fundamentally in my mind a
34:53
flaw
34:53
it's a it's a it's fragile it's flawed
34:56
because
34:57
of two reasons number one it's very
34:59
fragile
35:00
we we think that being in control makes
35:02
it more safe and reliable
35:04
it's once advised looking out at the
35:06
back of one brain looking at through the
35:08
eyes as you said right yeah and if the
35:10
doctor forgets something
35:11
it's gonna be it's gonna make it harder
35:14
for the team these are all probabilities
35:16
so it's going to be harder for someone
35:18
on the team to speak up and secondly
35:20
it's not invoking everybody's thinking
35:23
we're as good as one person but we have
35:25
eight people on the team
35:27
yeah stupid i love it listen
35:30
i'm going to respect time here dave yeah
35:33
and
35:34
um you know i often say i could you know
35:36
i could keep going until you lost your
35:38
patience so i'm gonna
35:39
keep it at the good side and just from
35:42
my perspective
35:42
just thank you so much for taking that
35:45
time just to come on the episode and i'm
35:46
just going to press stop now and we'll
35:48
have two seconds but thank you
35:50
thank you so much for coming on cheers
36:01
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