3 of my favorite books that I am currently readingright now

1. The Happiness Advantage byShawn Achor

 - this is a book where they have come out andhave done 200 studies in over 25,000 people in the world and found that happypeople (where they say there is happy, neutral or stress) tend to have bettermarriages, better health, more money, have better performance rate and is intoall these amazing stuffs.

I know that you’vebeen hanging with us on Facebook live every day and have heard a lot about thisover the past month. But if you haven’t I didn’t want you to miss out so here’s5 simple things that you can do to what Shawn says is rewire your brain for theHappiness Advantage.

            1. You need to train your brain bywriting down 3 gratitudes per day. At the end of the day, write down “what arethe 3 great things that have happened today that I am grateful for?” It doesnot matter how complex or simple but if you can identify it, what happens isthat you train your brain to scan your world and to look for what’s right withit instead of what’s wrong with it.

            2. You want a journal about 1 greatthing that happened this week. Spend about 10 minutes writing in detail aboutwhat it meant to you and how important it was and what you really appreciatedabout it. This will also boost your happiness.

            3. Exercise for at least 30 minutesat least 4 times a week. What it does is that they did a research study wherethey took people who are clinically depressed and one group they gaveanti-depressants and the second group, they gave just exercise and the thirdgroup – they gave a combination of both. What’s amazing was there was a hugerelapse rate for the people who just took medication. The people who had both,had a much lower relapse rate but the people who just exercised had a relapseof just 8%. Exercise was more effective than and just as effective asmedication was.

            4. Meditate. There’s an awesomedevice called ChooseMuse.com and it’s a little headband. You throw thisheadband on and what it does is that it measures your simple brainwaves andheart rate. This little app gives you bio feedback and neuro feedback. Asyou’re trying to keep your mind silent, it tells you through noise if you’reallowing thoughts to creep in or if you are keeping your mind silent.

            Use it for just 3 minutes each dayand what it starts you to do is to control your thoughts. So when your mindstarts to get flooded with negative thoughts or fearful thoughts, it gives youthe ability to take  a couple of breathsand clear all those thoughts out, refocus, get in the game and get to work andreally perform at your best,

            5. Random Acts of Kindness. Thisdoes not only help you but it also helps the person who’s receiving it andanyone who’s observing it. When you do a random act of kindness, it shows thatdopamine and serotonin both kicks off on your brain. The person who receives itrandomly just says, “Oh wow, thank you!” – they get a kick of dopamine andserotonin. What they found in research is anyone who observes it even in thevideo also gets a kick of dopamine and serotonin. That’s why it feels so goodto see random acts of kindness.

2. Peak: How Great CompaniesGet Their Mojo from Maslow by Chip Conley

In this book,there is a really simple diagram that is so valuable in life, business andrelationships. In this book, he says there are 3 levels of communication andtransaction between individuals. Whether that’s you and your team or employees,you and your clients, you or your significant other, you or your investor.

The first level istransactional. Meaning: I will do X for you if you give me Y.

The 2ndlevel which is the relationship level, you build a true relationship, you careabout these people, you acknowledge, identify their strengths, and reallyconnect with them on those and really help on make them feel valued in whatthey are doing.

Transformationalis the 3rd level – by being part of this relationship, they areliterally becoming a better human being in the process.

How do you createthat?

3. Mindset by Carol Dweck

She did tons andtons of research about the difference of people struggling in feeling vs.people who are radically succeeding. Based on all her scientific research, whatshe found was data that backup that there is a difference between growthmindset vs. fixed mindset.

A fixed mindset issomething that says, “I’m stuck the way I am, I can’t really change it I justhave to figure out what I’m good at and only do that because I am not meant orable to do anything else.” A growth mindset says, “hey, it doesn’t matter whatI am capable yet or not capable yet as long as I am willing to put the time,effort, energy and focus and everything I have inside me, I can become a masterof this.” She relates this book to business, finance, relationships, health andeverything in between!