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Welcome to Part two of our Mother's

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Day episode. There was so much to discuss,

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we had to do part two. We did, and since

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our premiere episodes, so we wanted to give people something a

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little extra. So we have people calling

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in with advice about their children, which is obviously going

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to be my wheelhouse, and you can pick your own wheelhouse because

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that's mine. I picked it. It's just like a monopoly figure

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is as we keep going, I think your's is gay.

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That would make sense. Yeah, so these are

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women, they've got some kids that are kind

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of sucked up. Well, we don't want to say fucked

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up. You know, just because there's a

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situation happening doesn't mean your kid is fucked

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up. It means your kids might be behaving

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in a fucked up way. We don't want to

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say you're fucked up. Nobody's fucked up.

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That's a permanent description of somebody.

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And everything's temporary. So that's the first thing to

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remember, everybody. Everything is temporary.

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Even if you're an asshole, that can be temporary.

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Even if a kid is an asshole, that can be a temporaries

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asshole kid. And that's what I call attacked

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t A k temporary asshole

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kid. Okay, Well, then today we have a couple

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T a k S temporary asshole kids. These

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kids are up to okay, okay.

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Laura is our first submission. She

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is in her thirties. She's a newly stay at home mom,

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and she says, Dear Chelsea, how

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do I get my toddler to stop swearing? I

1:10

don't know what sort of advice you're going to

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give? Well, I mean, I personally

1:15

like when toddler swears, why so

1:17

I don't mind it, And I as far as

1:19

parenting goes like, they're going to find out what fuck

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and you know in all these word because

1:25

I've been saying that word a lot later for some reason. But

1:28

you know, they're gonna find out fun ship, piss, whatever,

1:30

pussy. They're going to hear these

1:32

words. Yeah, they shouldn't be throwing them around, but

1:34

it is entertaining, and I feel like the entertainment

1:38

value aspect of it outweighs

1:40

the moral one because it's not

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really a moral argument. It's just like, do

1:44

you want your kids cursing or not? Obviously you

1:46

don't, but I think from like until they're five,

1:49

it's fun. Well, so she goes on

1:51

to say. He typically says oh ship with

1:53

conviction and in perfect context. He's almost

1:55

three, so he's old enough to understand that he shouldn't be saying

1:57

these words. I've explained to him

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that he shouldn't, and later that day he said, what the hell

2:02

any advice? Hi? Laura,

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Hi Chelsea? Hi? Is

2:08

it funny? Him cursing, Yeah,

2:10

it sounds funny, It is funny. My

2:12

husband and I usually look at each other and

2:15

kind of do a little giggle and decide

2:18

whether or not we're going to say something to him or just

2:20

trying to ignore it, and

2:23

it's just kind of a we never

2:25

really know what to do. Yeah, I think

2:27

just go with it. I had

2:29

a friend who had a similar

2:31

situation and she told

2:34

the kid, you can only say those words at home. So I don't

2:36

know what sort of impact that had, but

2:38

set it up that like, hey, you know, there are certain things

2:41

that you do and don't say in public, and

2:44

those were if you're going to say those words, you only

2:46

say them at home, like you don't say them at school,

2:48

you don't say them to another kid. I

2:51

don't know how that worked out for them, but I would just like to provide

2:53

you that sort of insight, it's what

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another parents is doing. And also I would enjoy

2:57

the comic relief of it. Yes, it

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is very funny. However, one time

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he did it when we had family members over

3:04

and they kind of shot us some weird looks, so

3:07

we were like, well, we're just trying to ignore it right

3:09

now. Yeah, but you know what fun

3:11

people like when family members how are

3:13

so judgy about like your toddler and

3:15

about other people how they raise their children.

3:18

That is reason enough for your kid to be cursing. In

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my opinion, there's more serious

3:22

ship going on, Like you guys have bigger fish to

3:24

fry when you have a kid. This is the thing, Chelsea

3:27

is not ever going to have kids. I'm on the fence.

3:29

I really wanted them, and now I can't imagine

3:32

having to deal with them. So I give like the utmost

3:34

kudos to anyone who is willing to give

3:36

of themselves to raise children.

3:39

That is the least of your fucking worries. Is

3:42

this kid swearing? Like is he kind?

3:44

That's something? Is he pushing kids down on a playground?

3:47

If the answer is no, then like who

3:49

the fun let him say funk? If that's the worst

3:51

thing this kid is doing, it's probably

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not that bad. He'll grow out of it. He'll

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be able to understand later. That's like

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not appropriate in certain settings. But

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I would think also the less attention you draw

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to it, the less it's going to have impact.

4:05

Right, Yeah, Like if you're laughing at

4:07

him, like he sees he's getting your attention,

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then of course he's going to want more of it. So if

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you're laughing, which I you know, encourage,

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I would look away and laugh with your husband, and

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then, you know, just appreciate those little moments.

4:19

Use it as for play.

4:21

Sounds good. Okay, thanks for calling

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in, Laura, Thank you so much.

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If I had a kid, he would be such a dick.

4:29

Yeah, but not a dick in like a celebrity.

4:33

He would order cocktails at dinner and

4:35

stuff like that. He'd be a dick to me. You would

4:38

have one of those kids though, that people want to be around.

4:40

They engage an adult conversation, like they know what

4:42

the funk is up. I'm just so

4:45

so glad that I don't have children.

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I know, I'm so grateful

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that that never happened to me. I'm

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so grateful that I don't have someone

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at home when I get home except for you and

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my bell and and even

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my belt. I really don't want

5:02

to get home all the time. This is something that

5:04

everyone should know. When Chelsea comes home from

5:07

a trip, she hates if anyone to say

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She's like, I don't want to see people when I come back. Mind you,

5:11

I always have to be there to make sure like things are

5:13

on. You can help me turn the lights on. Usually

5:16

what it is is, I'm bloated and tired.

5:18

You want to decompress, and I want to get in bed and

5:20

sleep. I'm so glad that I, like, there's

5:22

no accidental pregnancies in a gay relationship.

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But I thought for sure I was going to

5:27

have kids by the time I was twenty. That's all I

5:29

wanted. I ever even thought about

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that, that you guys don't have to deal with the threat

5:34

of an accidental pregnancy. No, so

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it's you know, it has to be much

5:38

more organized if you're going to have kids.

5:40

But even then, yeah, like you have to

5:43

do not I cannot

5:45

imagine having kids and

5:47

just have to to sacrifice yourself and

5:49

your time and the questions that they

5:51

ask, repeated questions about

5:54

the sun and the moon and answers.

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I don't have, and I don't want to pretend to know

5:58

ship that I don't. That is so funny. My nephew

6:01

called the other night and asking me how the moon got its

6:03

glow, and so then I had to figure that out.

6:05

I'm like Sun from the Sun. Yeah,

6:08

I am way late on the fucking moon and Sunda

6:11

from Google about three weeks ago, and I got the moon

6:13

and the sun were the same fucking thing until

6:15

like late in life. I thought Chicago was a

6:17

state until I was like nineteen, So that's

6:20

not saying much. But this seems to be a common problem,

6:23

these kids swearing. But guys, like, there's so

6:25

much else to worry about in life

6:27

than your child saying shit, So

6:30

sweet, keep exposing

6:32

yourself. My breasts are exposed and I

6:34

didn't even know stopped out and they're

6:36

fucking huge right now. I mean they're

6:38

always big period. Okay,

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Well, speaking of parenting styles, this next

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emission comes from Lindsay

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A out of California. She writes, Dear

6:48

Chelsea, my goddamn four year old says

6:50

some crazy shit. Usually I can respond

6:52

to him and help him understand. I speak

6:54

to him like an adult. He's allowed to use

6:56

swear words, which many think is fucked up.

6:58

But whatever, the issue that I'm having

7:01

is he now tells me and anyone who will

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listen, I feel like I want to suck my penis.

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Now. If he's into penises, that's cool, but I don't

7:09

believe he is. I asked him why he thought

7:11

that, and he said that he wanted to see what it tastes

7:13

like. Please help, What the fund do I say to this little

7:15

weirdo, Well, it sounds like you created

7:18

this weirdo probably, And I want to

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suck my penis isn't okay to say?

7:22

Even if he is into penises, like, who wants

7:24

That's like me sitting there, I want to suck my own beaver

7:26

in nursery school. No, kids

7:29

aren't supposed to be talking like that for a reason,

7:31

so you can have your kid cursed all the time. I also

7:34

think kids cursing is funny. But I

7:36

mean, you've made your bed,

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now you have to lie in it, right, I guess?

7:41

So? I mean, this isn't a situation i'd ever want

7:43

to encounter. I don't. I don't know what you're seeing A

7:45

kids saying I want to suck my own you can just shut

7:48

up? Yeah, exactly who are the moms

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in your life that you know that, like

7:52

you watch their parenting style and think like that's

7:54

a good fucking mom or that's someone like that's

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the mom I wish I had. Yeah, it's like long

7:59

term, right, I mean I like kids who behave

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so I like their parents, like kids who

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aren't like throwing iPads at their

8:06

mother's faces like that. You

8:08

know, you could see the difference in parenting and

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the effect on the child, like children

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who say hello, goodbye, please, thank

8:14

you, or even more exciting as

8:16

children that engage in conversation,

8:19

you know, where you can connect with a kid

8:21

instead of them just like looking at you as an adult

8:23

and like, okay, you know. So which

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of your friends do you feel like their parenting style

8:28

is close as to how you would parent I

8:31

don't think about that, ever, there

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has to be one of your friends. I just I

8:35

like the way Charlie's parents. Charlie's

8:37

there on she's like fun and cool.

8:40

But again I'm not there all the time, so I don't

8:42

know. Like Charlie's just has

8:44

that attitude that I would want from my parents,

8:46

Like you know, she's strict, but she's

8:48

totally real. Like yeah, like

8:51

if it's really funny. It's really funny, you

8:53

know, like she's not going to be

8:55

in front of you doing that. Like she's

8:57

very she's more private about it, like when she has

8:59

to have real talks with her kids. She's just like

9:02

she's a real person all around. So I

9:04

respect how she behaves in general,

9:06

but related to the kids, Yeah, I like

9:08

those two kids a lot, and I think that's

9:10

a direct result of her and her mom's parenting.

9:13

Okay, well we can call her right

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to get her on the phone. Well, okay,

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we're gonna take a quick break, and then we're gonna see if Charlie's

9:22

their own or throne. Yeah,

9:25

is around and throne Charlie's

9:29

They're wrong throne.

9:31

We'll find out when we get her on the phone. Hi,

9:38

we're back and guess what we do have Charlie's their

9:40

own on the phone. Sweetheart. Are you ready

9:42

to speak to our friend since

9:44

we just discussed her parenting style, Yeah,

9:46

we should wish her, Yeah, a happy Mother's day. Hi,

9:49

Charlie's Hi, chicken.

9:52

Oh, we were talking

9:54

about you and we've decided to call you to

9:56

wish you a happy Mother's Day. What

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you're so cute? How many Mother's Day I

10:03

had asked Chelsea, who amongst

10:05

her friends has a parenting style

10:08

that would be most aligned

10:10

with how Chelsea would parent should she have

10:12

kids, and she said that your parenting style was the one she

10:15

appreciated the most. Well,

10:17

just given that we all know how little she

10:19

wants to do with kids,

10:21

like for herself, I take that

10:23

as a real compliment because you really just don't

10:26

want your own kids. So I mean

10:28

that's like a really high compliment to get

10:30

from you. Thank you. It means you're doing

10:32

something right with those two. What

10:34

is it is specifically that you think that I'm so

10:36

good at because it's probably if it comes

10:39

from you, it probably means I'm doing it raw. It's

10:42

a good note Charley's I would

10:44

say, like, I like that when you get

10:46

mad, like you have long, serious talks

10:48

with them, almost like they're you're

10:50

equal, like they're adults. That's how I would

10:52

describe it. I feel like we do parents

10:55

a little bit like we were parented and

10:57

then we also I don't know whether

10:59

it's trauma or what it is that makes

11:01

us kind of a race some of that stuff, but

11:04

I do know that my mom brought

11:06

that into her parenting and I always appreciated

11:08

it because it always that was my first introduction

11:11

to respect was my mother

11:13

treating me that way, and it felt very

11:15

respectful. And I remember being a young girl

11:17

and you're like, wow, my mom has so

11:19

much respect for me, Like she's sitting me down,

11:22

she's having this discussion with me. And so

11:24

I try to do that with my kids and they respond

11:26

to it. I only do what works,

11:29

and this seems to work. I

11:32

think your dryers is done and your

11:34

laundry is ready. Well, I'm doing laundry.

11:37

Okay, this motherfucker over here cleans your

11:39

house. You don't have to try and prove yourself to be real

11:41

and down to earth. Okay, Chirley's nobody has

11:43

any time for that. We

11:46

need your advice. We had a caller call in

11:48

and she has a little boy that curses

11:50

and says, we had a couple of submissions

11:53

children who are cursing incessantly,

11:55

and then one child who is like

11:58

getting to know his own anatomy and is very fascinated

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with his own dick and he

12:02

really wants to suck his own dick. He says it. He

12:04

says, I want to suck in my own dick and I was like, well,

12:07

I really don't know what to say about that, because

12:09

that's actual real parenting.

12:11

So do you have any advice for them? Both

12:14

of them? There were two? How old are these kids?

12:17

One I think was three and the

12:19

other was four. They were like old enough

12:21

to kind of know what was going on, like one who was swearing

12:24

knew how to use it in context with

12:26

the three year old or four there. So they're both like really

12:28

young, right, So they're off

12:30

to a strong start, is our point. And

12:33

then I guess my other question it would just for contacts.

12:36

Do they have siblings? Were the only children?

12:39

Do you guys know? They did not preface

12:41

a great question, and if we were actually good

12:43

at this, we would have asked it. I

12:45

would say that with young kids, I think to

12:48

lean into anything too much as a mistake.

12:50

I think, you know, sometimes we worry

12:52

when they say inappropriate things or

12:55

when they touched themselves in and I think it's

12:57

purely just innocent to them. It's

13:00

spluratory. They're just they're

13:02

figuring shut out, and some of it

13:04

is uncomfortable for us to watch, but

13:07

you have to always remind yourself at that age they're

13:09

not hurting anybody and I, you

13:12

know, not to embarrass my children, but

13:14

there was definitely one of my kids who

13:17

loved like just the

13:19

feeling of things touching

13:22

down there. So there's a lot

13:24

of like grinding on pillows and she

13:26

would say blatantly says she's like that

13:29

feels so good, and

13:31

it made me so uncomfortable. And

13:33

I knew that she was doing it a little bit of preschool,

13:36

and so my conversation

13:39

with her was just like, that's awesome,

13:41

Like I want her to have like really

13:44

just love how good things feel on her

13:46

body, but to know that maybe she

13:48

should just keep it in our house and not you

13:50

know, there are certain things that we maybe we

13:53

don't take to preschool. So I

13:56

and then it went away, Like I think when you make a

13:58

big deal out of it, it may it becomes

14:00

a bigger thing. And with her, as

14:02

soon as I told her that it was fine to do it,

14:04

it's almost like she lost interest and then she stopped

14:07

doing it. The swearing thing is is

14:09

interesting because I think my youngest one struggles

14:11

with that more than my older one. So that's why I was asking

14:13

if there was siblings, and like, if

14:15

there's a sibling, and I don't know, maybe

14:17

I'm like a little bit more lenient with my older

14:20

kid, Jackson, and so the little one really

14:22

wants to join the coolness.

14:25

I mean, I let Jackson. Every once in a while, I'll

14:27

be like, I'm okay with you saying there's

14:29

certain words that people think are swearing that I'm

14:31

just like, that's not swearing. I don't know, like,

14:34

but you can say, but you can say like they're

14:36

just they're like the S word. I'm like, what's the S

14:38

word? Ship? And they're like, no, stupid, And I'm

14:40

like, it's like we're just getting

14:42

a little too like just speak normal.

14:45

And then every once in a while, because

14:48

we are very big Route Paul fans

14:50

in this house, there's a lot of

14:53

exectives. And the one reason the

14:55

rule that I have is like when

14:58

you get your swear license when

15:00

you're older, you can talk like this, but up

15:02

until then, you're you're not going to talk like that.

15:05

And so every once in a while when we watch it, they'll

15:07

say like, can I just say the B work just once?

15:09

Can I just say it once? And also they're

15:11

surrounded by you and Gerda, so I mean, where do

15:13

you think they're picking this up in the first place? From you

15:15

guys and Gerda just so you know, as Charlie's

15:18

mom, and they basically copare it

15:20

together. I'm gonna blame it on Rue

15:23

and I'm gonna say it's not us. The

15:27

swearing thing goes a little far right. It's

15:29

like I've had kids say to me like, you can't play

15:31

that song because there's it's not the clean

15:33

version. You guys won't know this because you

15:35

don't have kids, but literally kids will talk like that,

15:37

be like, no, we can't listen to this, it's not the

15:39

clean version. And I'm like, we're listening

15:42

to this. It's playing in my car, We're listening to

15:44

it. So do you think it's

15:46

like an over correction? Is it about

15:48

teaching your kids how to like just respectfully

15:50

communicate that, Like these are all words that

15:52

we're all going to use at some point, and

15:54

it's just about how you're using them, Like you're not going to

15:56

go out and call another kid on a playground

15:59

a bit no listen. I am

16:01

probably not the right person any

16:03

advice like when it comes to swearing, because like Chelsea

16:06

said, I really

16:08

I really love to swear and I

16:10

learned it from my mother, and my mother is

16:13

Ton times worse than I am. So I'm

16:15

sure my kids are either gonna go the

16:17

complete opposite and not swear at all,

16:19

or they're gonna totally lean in and like, you

16:22

know, stop their flak jackets. But

16:24

I feel like it's language

16:26

that when you're older you can just like I don't

16:28

feel comfortable with my kids

16:31

up until, like way into their teens,

16:34

you know, saying bitch every once in a while,

16:36

Like I do think it's funny, and I have to watch myself.

16:38

Like the little one will say it with like she's

16:41

just lost her upper two so she's got this big

16:43

cap and she'd be like based every

16:47

group, Paul, she gets one try at just one

16:49

chance, like and then she knows she can't say

16:51

it again. She's like, can I say it? Can I say it? I'm

16:53

like, all right, go for it. She's like, bits, Hey.

16:56

You know what I was talking to Brandon about the other day

16:59

that made me want to talk to you is we were

17:01

talking about apologizing and how like one of the first

17:03

times I learned to apologize was after you

17:05

and I got in that really stupid fight in South Africa.

17:08

We went to South Africa for your charity

17:10

A C. T. A o P. Charlie's they're in African

17:13

outreach program, which everybody should know about. I

17:15

was just being crabby or bitchy, and

17:17

everyone kept using that phrase a hundred percent,

17:20

and you and Mary kept saying a hundred

17:22

percent, a hundred hundred percent,

17:24

And finally I was like, can you flee stop fucking saying

17:26

a hundred percent? And Charlie's

17:28

was like, whoa, whoa, whoa, what's your

17:30

problem, dude? And

17:33

we got into like this fight because of

17:35

because of that, because you guys have been friends for a long

17:38

time, was this your first fight or disagreement?

17:40

Pretty much? Yeah, sure, definitely.

17:42

Yeah. I feel like that was the first time

17:45

that we spent like we were together for close

17:47

to two weeks. I feel like, right we were traveling,

17:49

and I feel like the old thing is true,

17:51

like you really get to know somebody when you travel with

17:53

them like that. That's when you see them

17:56

not just in an hourly period in

17:59

a weekly schedule, like you see them

18:01

every single day, and especially on those trips, we do

18:03

everything together. We have breakfast together, we

18:05

eat dinner together, we write in bands

18:07

together, you know, for five hours and

18:10

then we get on a plane and so the whole. It's

18:12

intense travel, it's exhausting,

18:15

and there's so many moving parts

18:17

to it. So so then you're on this trip

18:20

and this like, even though it seems a minor conflict

18:23

or conversation, what happens does it

18:25

escalate? Who addresses it? Well, we left

18:27

the trip and we were like, I had bad vibes going

18:29

at the end of the trip, Like I kind of blew up

18:31

at dinner, and then I like went up to my room

18:33

and then we just all kind of like played

18:36

nice for the rest of the trip, but we didn't really talk about

18:38

it. So we flew home, and then when we got

18:40

home after a few days had passed, I was like one

18:42

of us said, let's talk about it, and I went over

18:44

to Charlie's and we had that really nice

18:46

long talk. And you know, that's saying about

18:49

being able to apologize is so liberating, is

18:51

cheesy, but it's so true. Being able

18:53

to apologize is like such a friendship

18:56

builder. Also because you end

18:58

up do you do become closer because you're you're

19:00

more honest. You know, you can say I fucked

19:03

up and I'm sorry and I won't do it again, or

19:05

I hope I'm not doing it again, you know that

19:07

sort of thing. So we were talking about that the other day and

19:09

I just thought that was a sweet memory and I wanted

19:11

to issue a happy Mother's Day, so I thought, let's

19:13

call my baby. You know. The thing

19:16

that I remember the most was listening

19:18

your role. I hate this word, but your journey

19:20

with Dan is really inspiring my therapist

19:23

Dan, and was then even

19:25

to me because you were just

19:28

the evidence of whatever he was

19:31

sharing with you information wise. That was

19:33

just I thought, really powerful because you change.

19:37

It was a deeper thing with you, and I think that was

19:39

the thing that freaked me out a little bit was because

19:41

nobody gets that upset about anybody saying

19:44

a hundred percent, maybe way too much like

19:46

I did on that trip, but

19:50

you know, and having some perspective

19:52

on like what we were doing there, and like the

19:54

conversations that we were having. Part of me was like,

19:57

who gets the funk if I say a hundred percent

19:59

a thousand times we're talking about investing

20:02

in use here and like future leaders

20:04

of Africa, Like fuck you. So when

20:06

we came back and you reached out to me, it

20:09

just I think the thing about

20:11

good friends is that you

20:15

reached out came over, was

20:18

not defensive at all, told

20:20

me a little bit about Dan, but didn't say

20:22

it in a way that felt like you were justifying

20:25

your behavior. And then

20:27

I just remember you being so sincerely

20:30

sorry, and I was like, fuck, Like that's

20:33

great right there, and deep

20:35

down inside I thought thank you

20:37

because I don't say a thousand

20:40

times now and I'm sure I sound way more intelligent,

20:43

but I didn't want to let you know that in the moment.

20:46

But yeah, I mean I think of you almost

20:48

like Chelsea pre our Africa

20:51

trip and then Chelsea after our

20:53

Africa trip, Like it's really like, that's

20:56

how I think of you. You've really changed so

20:58

more than anybody in

21:01

my life. Actually, you are the person

21:03

in my life that has definitely made the biggest changes.

21:08

So now, looking back on this, do you think that you would

21:10

have apologized immediately

21:13

after, like or do you think you still would have needed some

21:15

time to decompress from it. If I

21:17

know, if I hadn't been in therapy, I would have been

21:19

defensive still, like I would have just been you

21:22

know, but now with your knowledge and your

21:24

experience, like, was that something you would have had

21:27

this altercation at dinner? Yeah,

21:29

we never get upset at dinner for somebody saying a

21:32

would you apologize quicker? Yes?

21:34

And of course, of course yes, yes. I wouldn't have

21:36

held on to it. I would have been like, I'm so sorry about

21:39

my outburst. That's the best type of relationship,

21:41

the ones that you can and want to apologize for.

21:44

Yes, you know what, what you just brought up was my

21:46

bigger problem with her when she eventually

21:49

came over, because remember Chelsea, I said

21:51

to you. I was like, it's the fact that you

21:54

just stayed there and like never addressed

21:56

it, and I felt like the rest of the trip was

21:58

destroyed. I was like, we were

22:00

like so weird with each other and then we just sit

22:03

on planes with each other and it was so fucking awkward,

22:05

and there were other people there, and I was like, I

22:07

love that she calls me out on ship. I love that that's

22:10

who she is. I hope she never loses that. I

22:12

don't mind her calling me out and be like, you

22:14

sound like an idiot, don't say that. But there

22:17

was this aggression behind it, and then she hung

22:19

onto it. And I

22:21

now know for a fact that that's not Chelsea

22:24

anymore. Like I know that if something came up between

22:26

us, Chelsea would address it. She

22:29

wouldn't be defensive, she'd be sincere

22:31

and wanting to know what the funk it is. It's

22:33

really it's incredible, it's

22:35

really inspiring. Okay. So can

22:37

I ask, for other people who are listening, what

22:40

was the reasoning behind Charley's you not

22:42

addressing it, like giving her the day and then

22:44

being like, hey, we can't go on the rest of the trip like

22:46

this. So for people who have that dynamic with a friend

22:48

or a family member where one of them responds differently,

22:51

like you know, they need either more time or they

22:53

hold onto things longer, I don't

22:55

feel like maybe it's always the person's responsibility

22:57

who isn't holding onto it. But in

22:59

that since, why didn't you just address it, knowing

23:01

that you had these extra days? All

23:04

right, listen, I should have, Yes, I should

23:06

have. I know, I think you did. You came up to my hotel

23:08

room the next morning. I went to her room and

23:11

and I tried. But I would also be very honest

23:13

in saying that I was really pissed and I felt

23:15

like there wasn't there

23:18

was so much. And this is again, you

23:20

know, you have to watch yourself when you talk about this stuff because

23:22

I don't want to sound like I'm making excuses, but like

23:25

part of me was so pissed that I went to her room

23:27

and I was like, instead of going to

23:30

her room and be like, what's going I did say what's

23:32

going on? And I knew we weren't going to get

23:34

there. There was a lot we were basically

23:36

packing to get onto another plane. But

23:38

you're right, brind And like, the thing that

23:41

I learned was that I

23:44

am a little bit scared of conflict. I'm scared

23:46

of rocking the boat, right. And there

23:48

was some stuff going on with my mom.

23:51

We were home, we were kind of reminiscing about

23:53

our family lives, and like there was just

23:55

some deeper issue stuff going on with me as

23:58

well. So part of me and going into

24:00

that room, I wish I went to that room

24:02

and just said I'm not leaving here until

24:04

you can actually just sit down, be quiet,

24:07

look me in the eye, don't move, make

24:09

eye contact, and be fucking a

24:11

us. Since your moment with me where we look at each other

24:13

and we're like, what are we doing? This is

24:15

ridiculous? Well, because when I think of you two,

24:18

that's how I see you in your dynamic together

24:20

like I always compartmentalize her friends

24:22

into her celebrity friends and then her

24:24

real friends, and you are

24:27

like that center piece. You are a real

24:30

friend who happens to be a celebrity, and

24:33

a lot of times that wouldn't be a conversation that you

24:35

have with another person who's just in the industry. You're

24:37

on this trip and like you come and go and you never speak

24:39

again. I think our connection is very

24:42

We became really good friends because

24:44

I think we appreciate that

24:47

directness. I think we appreciate that directness

24:49

that no bullshit, like a lot of people

24:51

are scared by that. I think Chelsea would speak

24:54

that too, Like I've met women in my life we're like,

24:56

I'm just scared, Like you're too direct,

24:58

you're too honest, Like I don't know what's gonna

25:00

come out of your mouth. And I think when you meet

25:02

a like minded person the way Chelsea and

25:04

I met each other, we're like, funk, Okay, I'm

25:06

not scared of you, and she's like, I'm not scared of you, bitch.

25:09

As a matter of fact, stop saying because

25:11

you sound like a fucking yeah,

25:14

that's not our problem. But I think in that moment,

25:16

I also realized like if we were going to fight, we

25:18

were going to be both stubborn, right,

25:20

And like, that's my problem. I have to work

25:23

with that. Like I find that sometimes

25:25

I'm expecting wig too much from the other person

25:29

instead of just like bringing my end to it, my

25:31

part and then like letting it be and

25:33

like then going Okay, I did what I

25:35

was supposed to do. Instead I'm like, what are you gonna do? How

25:38

are you going to fix this? But again, that's kind of like

25:40

the perfect way to wrap this up, because that is you

25:42

always go into these things with the

25:45

intention to fix your part,

25:47

Like you can't fix the other person and you can't

25:49

make them respond to what you want

25:52

them too. So you just have to operate in the best way

25:54

for yourself, knowing that you're doing what you

25:56

can in that relationship. And

25:58

so you can't always expect the other gonna meet you halfways.

26:00

You kind of have to go yourself and if they end

26:03

up meeting you, great, and if not, like you know, you've done your

26:05

part. What a beautiful wrap up,

26:07

sweetheart. I don't know what I would have done if you and Churet

26:09

least would have broken up. Am I going to

26:11

see you later tonight. Yeah, oh

26:14

awesome, I can't wait. You guys, I'm so proud

26:16

of you for doing this podcast. This is

26:18

so thank you for taking the call.

26:22

You never know who's going to pick up, so we

26:25

are Do people just call in like the like

26:27

people just call in and ask questions and stuff.

26:30

People call it for advice on stuff and we either

26:32

talk to them or we read their question and then we

26:34

chime in. Yeah, sometimes you have to

26:36

bring an expert in. Yeah, sometimes we have to bring an

26:38

expert in. A celebrity guest, you know that kind

26:40

of thing. You guys should probably make them sign

26:43

some kind of a liability like I mean,

26:46

trying to preface to take all the advice

26:48

and nondisclosure agreement. Well,

26:51

happy Mother's Day. Tell gird a happy Mother's

26:53

Day. Happy Mother's Day baby,

26:56

thank you, and don't take any of my kid advice please

26:58

all right, bye, thank you, I

27:02

see you later. I just love her. Let's

27:06

tell people about Charlie's charity please. Yeah,

27:08

So it's Charlie's. They're an African outreach program.

27:11

They provide schooling and education

27:13

for people. They provide scholarships

27:16

for young girls to go to college, and they

27:18

do a lot of HIV prevention and they

27:20

serve tons of adolescence in all of Africa,

27:23

so it's really really important work anything

27:25

else, sweetheart, Well, they can donate online if

27:27

they want to go to Charlie's Africa

27:30

Charley's Africa Outreach dot org. Yeah,

27:32

they can donate right on the home screen. It's really easy in

27:34

the money's actually going to And we donate,

27:37

sweetheart, as a family, we donate every year.

27:39

Do your part. Donate. That would be a very good Mother's

27:41

Day donation For anybody who's listening that's

27:44

a mother, and for anybody who's listening that's not a

27:46

mother. We should all donate for Mother's

27:48

Day. I'll make a donation in your name, sweetheart. Oh,

27:50

sweetheart, thank you. You're not a mother and that's for the

27:52

best. Yes, well, it seems like you and Shirley's

27:54

had very similar parenting styles. Yeah,

27:56

very similar takes on the swearing and not drawing

27:59

attention to it, keeping it in the home. So

28:02

I mean, maybe you're honestly, maybe you could

28:04

be a mother. I just know if I had a kid, I'd

28:06

want them to be cool, like I want them to be cool.

28:08

Don't be a dick, don't be an asshole. Don't

28:10

throw your iPad ever at anybody or

28:13

even I wouldn't want a kid like that, so

28:15

I would have to be really diligent.

28:17

You want your kid to have a childhood and experience

28:19

that and enjoy it, but you also want them to operate

28:22

a certain way around adults, like don't be a fucking

28:24

asshole. Yeah, I mean I was

28:26

a real fucking asshole growing up,

28:28

Like I was the worst that you could possibly

28:30

be. I was. I put my parents through

28:33

hell pregnancies. You

28:35

know, I read I

28:37

can have a kid to break that cycle. What cycle?

28:40

I mean, asshole cycle? Oh oh

28:42

right, I thought you met my menstrual cycle. No,

28:45

your period is coming, though it's coming,

28:47

it's always around the corner. I

28:51

thought we were going to try and get me to get early onset

28:53

menopause or is it outset? Is it

28:55

outset? Well, when you're on

28:57

the beginning, on the precipice of something, you're on the

29:00

said of it, though, aren't you. You're

29:03

you're the human, the source and dictionary. I don't

29:05

know. You tell me I

29:07

have to look into it, all right? Well, thank you Shirley's

29:09

but we should probably thinking Gerda her mom because whatever.

29:13

Yeah, thanks bitch, that's what she calls

29:15

me. Gerda calls me bitch, and I call her bitch. Well,

29:18

thank you bitch, and thank you Shirleys for

29:20

calling it. Taking the time to do this, we

29:22

learned a lot well.

29:27

Our last submission comes from a Gabby.

29:30

Is it my aunt Gabby? Because that's like her to write

29:32

it and propose as somebody else, although I posing

29:35

as else? Okay,

29:38

read it? Okay, Dear Chelsea. My girlfriend

29:40

wants kids, not now necessarily, but in

29:42

the next few years, which, as a lesbian couple,

29:44

would require some effort. I love kids,

29:46

and she's always wanted them and I didn't, so it's a

29:49

bit of an adjustment for me. My

29:51

girlfriend's suggestion is using my eighteen

29:53

year old brothers sperm to make this hypothetical

29:55

child, causing my anxiety to quadruple.

29:58

I bought a book on the said jacked, and honestly, it covers

30:01

too many batship scenarios. My

30:04

mom had the same idea as my girlfriend and offered

30:06

up my brother's sperm. My mom recognized that my

30:08

brother is too young to make that call and

30:10

shared some of her own concerns. How old is her

30:13

brother's eighteen why is he too young? Oh? Too

30:15

young? My

30:17

girlfriend is worried about picking some random sperm

30:19

from a bank. So I guess the question is, how

30:21

the fund do you pick sperm? I

30:23

don't know, but I find the brother thing to be weird

30:25

too, But that's something people go through. No, I

30:28

well, I get it, and I get it. It's your genes,

30:30

but like, are you that married to having your own? It's

30:33

like, how important are those genes to you? I'm

30:35

fine with someone else's jeans. I prefer

30:37

it. Actually, just break that side. Yeah,

30:40

I mean she doesn't. She hasn't thought about

30:42

that much about having a child in the first place.

30:45

And to have your brother's child, I

30:47

mean, the brother's eighteen. That's really not fair to him

30:49

either. Well, Gabby's on the phone, so

30:51

let's see what sort of movement they've had on this.

30:54

Hi, Gabby, how you doing. I'm

30:56

doing well in yourself. Um, well,

30:59

we're just sitting here driving as a couple. Thank

31:01

you for asking what's going on

31:03

with you? So I just yeah, he ran and just read

31:05

me your submission. So you're a lesbian

31:08

who wants to have a baby while your partner

31:10

wants to have a baby. Right, More

31:12

so, than you do. But there everyone's

31:15

contemplating now using your eighteen year old brother sperm.

31:17

Is that right? Yeah,

31:19

that's what's going on. Does that creep you out a little

31:22

bit? Oh? Yeah, First,

31:26

we haven't even like talked to him. I

31:28

think it's way too soon to talk to him. Yeah.

31:31

Yeah. And the fact that he's eighteen, it's like it's almost

31:33

not fair to even ask him it's inappropriate.

31:36

Yeah. I would say it's inappropriate too. And

31:39

even in a couple of years, even if he is twenty

31:42

one, I still think that's way

31:44

too young to make a decision like that. Yeah.

31:48

I mean, first of all, it's way too young. You're not even

31:50

sold on. Okay, so you've been convinced

31:52

to have a child, and all of a sudden, now your whole

31:54

family is being roped into having the child,

31:57

like using a sperm donor. People do that

31:59

all the time. Lesbian women do it all

32:01

the time, with or without partners. They use

32:03

sperm donors so that it's not that difficult

32:06

to find something that someone who

32:09

sperm will measure up to what you guys are looking

32:11

for. Well, I don't think I'm being

32:13

roped into it, Like I do want

32:15

to have a kid. I just wasn't it wasn't

32:17

necessarily something on my mind right now. I

32:20

think it is a little early to be having

32:23

that conversation. But as far as having

32:25

using a sperm donor, I think I'm

32:27

more comfortable with that idea because

32:31

it is it just makes more sense. It's

32:33

also your baby, so you get

32:35

to decide if you're going to use your brother's

32:38

sperm or a sperm donors, right,

32:40

I mean, this is your baby with your

32:42

partner. So it's not like they can, you

32:45

know, just go and steal your brother's sperm unless

32:47

you have a jar of it somewhere. No,

32:51

No, of course. And yeah, it's a conversation

32:53

that we're having. I just think that her

32:56

concern or the reason she feels

32:58

that way is because she is that to

33:00

be biologically both

33:02

of ours. You know, she wants to see our traits

33:05

and both of our traits and the kids, and

33:07

it just happens to be as a gay couple.

33:10

That that's that's not a thing. That's not

33:12

real. Um. But like I understand

33:14

where she's coming from with that. I think that's

33:16

fair. But I also think

33:19

for me, having a kid

33:21

does not need to be biologically mine. For

33:23

me to love it, like, I don't even necessarily

33:26

think it has to be biologically my partners. For

33:29

me to love the child, I could adopt

33:31

and I could be content with that. And

33:34

does she feel the same way. No, she

33:36

could not adopt. She said they would have to be at least

33:39

half ours. Yeah, I don't

33:41

understand that. I don't understand what this

33:43

is. Again, it is just

33:45

such a gift. You are saving a

33:48

life, you know. Why

33:50

Why are people so against it? And why are people

33:52

so attached to seeing their biological reproduction?

33:56

Why? Though, what is that? I

33:58

don't know what it is? I mean, get surprised

34:00

by a brand new personality that has nothing

34:02

to do with you. Yeah, live

34:05

why of course, listen, you can love any baby,

34:07

obviously, that's what adoption is, you know. I

34:09

mean, how could you not love a baby? Even I could

34:11

love a baby. If someone dropped one off at my doorstep

34:14

and I had to take care of it, I mean I wouldn't

34:16

I would hire someone, but I would take care

34:18

of it financially, make sure that it was clothed

34:21

and you've fed, and you know I would do the right

34:23

thing. I would have a baby. You would have a baby,

34:25

Brandon, if somebody, yes, but I

34:28

don't understand the tie that people have to seeing

34:30

by their own biological reproduction.

34:33

You know, what I think it is is that there

34:35

is an element of wanting to correct

34:38

issues that people had as children,

34:40

and by having their own, they feel like, oh,

34:42

I can redo all of these things that went wrong

34:45

in my childhood. Because now that I'm thinking about it

34:47

in my own terms, that would be why I want one

34:49

of my own that I'm like, no, no, no, We're going

34:51

to to amend

34:54

all the issues that I went through and

34:56

give you the childhood I wish I had.

34:58

Right, But I see it from both It's because my mom's

35:00

adopted terrible scenario her.

35:03

She had the best parents who adopted her, but

35:05

she did not She was not happy with the adoption

35:08

process like she did not. She does not feel

35:10

good about that, your mother. But you've

35:12

already explained that your mother doesn't feel good about most

35:14

things, Gabby.

35:17

This is we cover this earlier, but so

35:19

for from your partner's perspective, a lot of times people do ever

35:21

reason why they they saw something, to watch something,

35:23

talk to someone and they don't want

35:25

to adopt for that reason, or you know, there's a

35:28

more specific reason why they want a biological

35:31

child of their own. But so many gay couples

35:33

go through this. I mean, I've had this conversation with my partner

35:36

and I actually pulled an article up

35:38

from online of another

35:40

lesbian couple who did this with their brother's

35:42

sperm, and so the process

35:45

that they went through, she says, for

35:47

instance, it enabled us to have a child that

35:49

was biologically related to both of us, and

35:51

it was an amazing and unique way to keep our

35:53

donor involved, which is an issue for a lot of

35:55

people, as do we have an open situation?

35:58

Is it? Are you close with your brother? No?

36:00

Not really. I mean I'm not not close

36:03

with him, but and he's eighteen years

36:05

old. I'm nine.

36:07

There's a big gap. We kind of grew up differently,

36:10

um, and so I'm

36:12

not that close to them. And I also, like I've

36:14

read, I bought a bunch of books. I've read a little

36:17

bit say skim over, you know,

36:19

using a relative spirm. I wonder why,

36:21

because it's weird. Yeah,

36:24

And it's just like I don't think I would ever

36:26

want the donor involved, Like

36:28

I wouldn't see them as a parents, like after

36:30

that, when the kid's eighteen years old, if they want to

36:32

connect with the donor, Okay, that's your decision,

36:35

but I wouldn't want to like use a friends

36:38

firm and so like to be like at Thanksgiving

36:40

dinner and it's like, oh, yeah, there's your

36:42

uncle Dad, Like yeah, yeah,

36:44

Well it sounds like, okay, So your partner is the

36:46

one that wants a biological child of

36:48

her own, so she can accomplish

36:51

that with a sperm donor, And it seems like you're

36:53

pretty cool without having a biological child

36:55

of your own. So it seems like the right thing.

36:58

Just get a sperm donor, and you're just gonna agree to

37:00

love the baby that has no biological relationship

37:02

to you. Well her qualms with

37:04

that, And I'm starting

37:06

to agree a little bit. I've been reading on like sperm

37:09

donors is um that

37:12

you don't really know what you're getting a lot of these guys

37:15

donate when they're young and they need cash, and

37:17

so it's not like, you know, I'm doing this necessarily

37:19

out of the goodness of my heart. I'm doing it for fifty

37:22

bucks because I'm broke. And so

37:24

even if you have a medical history, like you have a

37:26

medical history of a kid up to the age of twenty,

37:28

and he's not necessarily going to contact the sperm

37:31

bank and say, oh, by the way, I found

37:33

out like I have this medical issue or

37:35

this medical issue. And

37:37

then also you have these sperm donors

37:40

who wind up helping a lot of

37:42

couples have kids. So then if

37:44

your kid is eighteen years old and they want to connect

37:47

with the donor dad, then

37:49

they find out that they have, you know, a

37:51

hundred five hundred half siblings, especially

37:54

now when you're doing those like little DNA tests

37:56

you send in that she

37:58

found out she has a son of another. Like

38:01

this guy donated all the sperm and was

38:03

really popular because he was tall, handsome,

38:05

and very bright. So all these women

38:07

picked his sperm and they all have his babies and

38:09

they're all starting to connect with each other. Talk

38:12

about fucking futuristic and weird?

38:15

Does that I need? And will that creep out a kid? Like,

38:17

I mean, I get all kids are going to have some sort of trauma,

38:19

Like that's just unavoidable, but it's

38:22

why, I mean, why why not get the trauma? I think

38:24

you have to lean into the fact that he's going to grow up

38:27

in a diverse household anyway, Yeah,

38:29

and why not get the trauma out of the way right away, Like

38:32

this is what you can be mad at for the rest of your life.

38:34

Okay, you have to find anything normal

38:36

as long as you frame it that way to them, like, hey, sometimes

38:39

moms need help. They get help from

38:42

Tom Dicker Harry down at the Spurm Bank. Like

38:44

it's all how you present it to kids. So if

38:47

you presented as this is the option that this man

38:49

helped this many people, he's

38:52

gonna have a much different response to that than like this

38:54

is what you've missed out on to a certain degree, Like

38:57

oh, you have all these siblings. No, no, No, that's not how you frame

38:59

it, Like look at how many kids this man was able

39:01

to provide these families who really wanted one. Yeah,

39:05

And I've read what I read says

39:07

that kids of gay

39:09

couples do seem more receptive

39:12

and understanding of the sperm donor

39:14

process versus straight

39:16

couples who had fertility issues

39:18

and then had to go with the donor just because

39:21

children of gay couples are cooler as

39:24

soon as understand how children are

39:26

made. Realized that you know

39:28

this, Yeah, I think I also think

39:30

fighting like one, people who want to get in touch with their

39:32

sperm donor. I mean that is a real stretch.

39:35

It's like, that is somebody who got paid for their sperm,

39:37

like and you want to contact them and get to know them better.

39:39

It's like, that's really then that's

39:41

people who did a bad job of parenting if your kid

39:44

is that desperate to meet his sperm donor. But

39:46

I would agree with you that gaik. I mean children

39:48

of gay couples do see him a little bit cooler and a little

39:51

bit more progressive and with it. So,

39:53

but I still would stick to the original plan, which

39:55

is you get a sperm donor, and in

39:58

this day and age, you can get background

40:00

information about sperm donors that is

40:02

available. Okay, I have one, I have a

40:04

question. I have a follow up or I would say suggestion. Maybe

40:07

they should use your sperm you would have before.

40:10

I'll tell you about that. Yeah, So, Gaby,

40:12

what about having your egg

40:15

and her egg, her being the carrier inserted

40:18

with the sperm from the same donors. That way the

40:20

kids look alike and

40:22

also looked like both of you to some degree.

40:24

So now she has to have twins, well

40:26

you would. I'm just I'm offering options.

40:29

But if you use both eggs and you just didn't

40:31

tell each you just didn't know which one which egg

40:33

actually ended up being waste.

40:36

No, but I think you can only do that with sperm, not not

40:38

eggs. You have to use one egg, right or

40:40

no? No, you put in a bunch of eggs

40:43

and a bunch of sperm and then whatever fertilizes.

40:46

So you could I

40:48

D S or I C or

40:51

I UI. You could do that, And

40:53

that's something she's brought up. She thinks she'd

40:56

said, like, you know, if we go the sperm down or route,

40:58

then you know, use her a E and

41:00

the sperm and have a kid, and then if we have

41:02

a second kid, use my egg and the

41:04

same sperm. That way you can kind

41:06

of differentiate what are

41:08

the characteristic you know, like our characteristics

41:11

and the children, and what are the sperm donor's

41:13

characteristics being that you used

41:15

the same sperm for each child.

41:18

So it's just so multifaceted with and

41:22

I'm a lot more comfortable with that. Yeah,

41:24

you you are with that idea? Yeah,

41:27

okay, well then that's yeah, yeah,

41:29

then do that. I think you have the answer that you came

41:31

in with, which is get a sperm donor

41:34

and do that what you just described is sounds

41:36

perfect. Okay, okay,

41:38

thank you. Do you feel confident about your decision

41:40

now? Well? Yeah, yeah, I mean I've

41:42

always felt pretty confident with my

41:45

decision. It's just the fact that it's not

41:48

solely my decision. Yeah, but

41:50

you're doing I mean, I think you're contributing pretty

41:52

much all that you're able to contribute, right

41:55

right without your brother. Leave your brother

41:57

out of it. Yeah. No, the only

41:59

reason and I even considered that, which

42:01

I didn't consider it very highly,

42:04

just because I think

42:06

it was important to her, um, you

42:08

know, to my girlfriend to have both of our characteristics

42:11

and obviously, like I want her to be happy. And

42:14

also, you know, there's a cost

42:16

associated with like sperm donation. So

42:18

if you do it like at home, like at home insemination,

42:22

they say to do like two vials every

42:24

month, and like frozen sperm for

42:27

like healthy woman in our early

42:29

thirties, no fertility issues. There's

42:31

like a ten percent chance of conception, and

42:34

they suggestions in two vials, so it's like two

42:36

grand a month, so like ten chance.

42:39

Let's say after like six seven months you

42:42

finally get pregnant, you're talking like fourteen

42:44

grand and sperm and like, I

42:46

don't know, that's just a it's a lot of money, and

42:49

it's a lot of money. For the idea

42:51

that sperm isn't free is absurd.

42:55

It is. That's one

42:57

of the things where I was leaning towards, you

43:00

know, my brother. I'm like, yeah, I'll make her happy

43:02

and also me from a cost perspective,

43:06

rationally economic

43:09

decision really with no regard for your brother's feelings

43:11

at all in the situation. Can

43:14

keep us posted If

43:17

you find sperm downers, I would love to review

43:19

those with you to see what's going on

43:21

and help help give you some direction that way.

43:24

Yeah, and for next Mother's Day, I'm going to start

43:26

donating sperm. Mine. You're

43:29

gonna pick me out. Thank you,

43:31

Gabby. Thank you, Gabby. Have a great Mother's

43:33

Day when you're a mother you

43:37

Yeah. So I had a professor of

43:39

mine after I graduated. I'd probably

43:41

been graduated from college for two or three years, and

43:44

she reached out asking you if she was with a

43:47

girlfriend. I think they have been long term at the time. And

43:49

she reached out and she said, Hey, this is gonna

43:51

be a really strange question, but would you ever consider

43:55

being our sperm downer? And

43:58

I was about to start for you had so much going

44:00

on, and we had talked about I can't have a baby.

44:03

I was like, I'm not prepared for this. I'm about to start

44:05

on my new life. Adventure was sweetheart,

44:07

I'm not ready to be a dad, even a distant

44:09

ad um. But the

44:12

conversation never ended up really going anywhere. I think

44:14

they've broken up so well. I tried to donate

44:16

my eggs when I was broke

44:19

and I was in my twenties and I was waitressing,

44:21

and I went in and donated my eggs.

44:23

I filled out a questionnaire, did an hour interview,

44:26

and they rejected me and said

44:29

that I should seek a psychiatric

44:31

evaluation. And did you No,

44:33

I just just I was so excited to make

44:36

like thet so I was crestfallen

44:38

when I didn't when I found out that I was psychotic.

44:40

We'll schedule it for this week. Yeah, maybe

44:42

I could donate my eggs now. I

44:45

have a girlfriend who donates eggs regularly,

44:47

and you get more and more as you do

44:49

it. You get more and more eggs, you get more

44:51

money. So it seems like a pyramid scheme

44:54

to me. I don't know how it works, but an egg

44:56

an egg pyramid scheme. It sounds

44:58

like something I want to stay away from. I

45:00

don't blame you. Okay,

45:03

Well that was part two of our

45:05

debut episode. We did it, sweetheart.

45:08

We launched a podcast. We did it. We have

45:10

a podcast. Dear Chelsea. I look

45:12

forward to this little new home of ours and I will see

45:14

and here, well you'll hear

45:17

me and I will see you. Do

45:19

you get the gist. We'll be back every week on Thursdays,

45:21

all right. For anyone who does want to write

45:23

in, they can do that at Dear

45:25

Chelsea Project d E A R

45:28

C h E L S e A P

45:31

R O j E C T at gmail

45:33

dot com. Dear Chelsea Project at gmail

45:35

dot com. That's wonderful, Okay,

45:37

thanks for listening. Happy Mother's Day, everybody,

45:40

Happy Mother's Day. Happy Mother's Day. Brandon,

45:42

Not anytime soon, sweetheart,