We all need heroes. Heroes inspire us. They protect us. They create larger vision for who we are and what we can do, but I have a question for you. Are you setting your hero up to fail? Let me back up, and let’s talk about that a little bit, because I see it happening more and more, and I have to admit, it’s happened with me. For the longest time, I kept trying to figure out what I was doing wrong. Then, I couldn’t figure that out, and so then I bought into the fact I wasn’t good enough. Oh, my gosh. I need to be perfect, because if I’m not perfect, then I can’t talk about these things that I’m so passionate about. Then I realized both of those things were pretty much coming from a very strong place of ego, in that it had nothing to do with me when someone else was setting me up to be perfect. It had everything to do with them.

 When we set our heroes up to be perfect, it’s actually a way that our subconscious is keeping us safe and doing the same thing. That’s what our subconscious is wired to do, to keep us doing exactly the same thing, but that doesn’t get you healthy. That doesn’t get you living your dreams. That doesn’t get you where you want to be. So recognizing that if you are setting your hero up to be perfect, that it’s your subconscious buying into the pattern of perfectionism, because if you think they’re perfect, it’s actually a way for you to back away from doing what you know that you need to be doing for 100% accountability, because you know ultimately you cannot be perfect. Therefore, you have distanced yourself from your own greatness. You’ve distanced yourself from being a hero for someone else. It’s all tied into perfectionism, which we know ultimately is tied into shame.

 My question again, does your hero have to be perfect to be your hero? Have you projected perfectionism on that person that you admire? Could you see them in a discouraged moment, on a bad day, and still allow them to be your hero? If you can, it’s because you’ve allowed to love yourself imperfectly. If you can’t, let’s do some work so that we can all get there together, because we all need heroes. I know my heroes have inspired me once I figured out what I was doing to them.

 We need heroes. We need women standing up and making a difference. In fact, I want to share with you two of my new heroes. Have you watched them? Maverick Mamas? They make me laugh, and in their own unique individual way, they are calling out the craziness in this world and allowing ourselves through laughing to look at what we’re doing on social media to each other. If you haven’t watched their videos, I beg you. Now, if you can hear tiredness in my voice today, it’s because I stayed up way too late watching Maverick Mama videos. They’re amazing. They’re laugh starters. There are two kind of people in the world. There are laugh starters, and there are laugh joiners. I’m a laugh joiner. I need laugh starters in my life. People who can start laughing, and I’m really good at jumping in and joining. I am so grateful when I find laugh starters. You might enjoy listening to them, too. Here’s the deal. Don’t make them be perfect. Don’t set them up to be perfect. Allow them to walk an imperfect path and still create the incredible inspiration that they are for women.

 My name is Kristen Bowen. I’m the founder of Living the Good Life Naturally, and I’m going to do something that I have never done before, and it may be so corny and cheesy. I have to do it. This podcast is dedicated to a group of women that have inspired me, called Project Radiate. They have allowed me to lead them without having to be perfect. Because of that, our journey has taken on more clarity and purpose and depth than any group I’ve ever been a part of. This is for them. I love them with all my heart. I should say imperfect heart.

 Thanks for joining us, and I’ve you’ve enjoyed this podcast, go ahead and leave a review. Our goal is to get into the new and noteworthy, and they look at reviews, and they look at how many downloads that it’s getting, because you see, I’m passionate about women waking up feeling amazing so that they can go about their day and lift other people. It’s our gift as women, that feminine energy and power. The minute we feel good, we start making a difference in other people’s lives.

 Now, that gift can actually kick our butt, and we just keep doing more and more and more and more, and we never feel better, but as you stop and slow down and balance that give/receive cycle, you can really make a difference in the world. And the world needs you standing up. Go check out Maverick Mamas while you’re at it.

 

 

 

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