When the emotional abuser apologizes and tries to make amends with their ex-partner after they've done a lot of personal growth and development, should they expect a response from their ex? Is that expecting too much? Or is it time for all to m

Time with yourself is not only necessary, its required

11 days ago 28m 47s

You give, you adapt, and you change who you are almost to your very core... to what end? When you are overly compassionate to others, you might actually be taking away from yourself. This is as harmful to your mind as a lack of sleep is to your

Emotionally abusive behavior is also physically painful

30 days ago 19m 31s

Victims of emotional abuse can experience physical pain from all the trauma, potentially leading to increased tolerance and resilience of harm. They can gradually lose their identity due to the abuser’s actions, becoming a shell of their former

The inner conflict of tough decisions

Mar 24th, 2024 39m 33s

What drives the important decisions in your life, fear or desire? In this episode I talk about a person's fear of visiting his father because of family that doesn't want him there. I also talk about how to start trusting again after someone bet

When the good you do for them leads nowhere

Mar 22nd, 2024 22m

Some emotionally abusive people don't change, no matter how much the victim of their hurtful behavior changes for them. Is there ever a point where they will be the person you want them to be? Or does anything you do really matter at all?

A clever manipulation tactic that makes you believe you are the problem

Mar 2nd, 2024 23m 1s

There's a clever manipulation that can happen in some emotionally abusive relationships. It starts with superficial kindness and vague promises and leads to blameshifting and avoiding true accountability. This very subtle form of gaslighting wi

When you think you're strong enough to get back into the difficult relationship

Feb 22nd, 2024 28m 18s

When you reach your breaking point with someone, you might make the decision to leave. During that time, you can regain your confidence and feel your power again. You might even decide to give the relationship a second chance, knowing that if y

How emotional abuse can enter your life like an infection

Feb 14th, 2024 25m 27s

Sometimes, you can't see the red flags before you're hurt. Emotional abuse can be like an infection that enters your body. You may not know it's there until a lot of time has passed, and you've invested a lot into the relationship. In this epis

If you don't know your limits, you wont have any

Jan 5th, 2024 32m 44s

It can be hard to draw a line in a toxic relationship. Don't make your emotional resilience a prison of your own making. Your personal boundaries are there for a reason. Often, the only way things will change is if you do something because they

When they go silent and emotionally disconnect from you

Nov 29th, 2023 35m 25s

When the emotionally abusive person goes silent in order to make you feel guilty and give them the attention they want, do they have a deeper motive of self-preservation? When abusers use silence to control you, there's a lot going on under the

Should you give in to their perception of you?

Nov 23rd, 2023 36m 56s

Some people are so wrapped up in their need to control you that they completely overlook your worth and importance. They can be so busy keeping you focused on yourself and everything you're doing "wrong," that you might actually start to believ

Their past trauma and abuse isn't the immediate issue in the relationship

Nov 3rd, 2023 31m 53s

The emotionally abusive person can have a traumatic past. Their abusive behaviors can have an abusive origin. Is it better to help them address their past to stop their behaviors toward you? It's an important question that you should definitely

How do you know when your heart is sealed?

Oct 27th, 2023 16m 28s

The victim of hurtful or emotionally abusive behavior has a threshold. When they reach that threshold, their heart can seal permanently, never letting the hurtful person back in again. In this episode, I help identify when your heart is sealed

Is taking a break before breaking up the final blow to the relationship?

Oct 12th, 2023 33m 51s

The thought of breaking up or separating from a toxic person can be a difficult decision to make. But taking a break before a breakup can bring clarity and perspective in a problematic relationship, helping you rediscover something you lost and

How you describe the challenges in your relationship can reveal if youre being emotionally abused

Sep 6th, 2023 13m 15s

The language you use to describe your relationship and how you're getting along with the other person says a lot. If you've ever wondered if you are the hurtful one or they are, the words you use can reveal just what role you play in the dynami

Should you make a list of everything they're doing wrong and hand it to them?

Aug 18th, 2023 37m 15s

What would happen if you decided to write them a loving, supportive letter outlining all of their hurtful behaviors in hopes they'll read it and finally realize they need to change? Will it backfire on you? I talk about that in this episode.

Avoid getting trapped into an emotional prison from which you can't escape

Aug 1st, 2023 38m 57s

The cycle of high ups and deep downs in a relationship is like being trapped in an emotional prison. There are moments of freedom and happiness, followed by a constant underlying fear or worry of being trapped again. The emotional prison is cre

Can you stay connected to friends and family that don't share your morals or values?

Jul 30th, 2023 38m 8s

A friend or family member does behavior that you find immoral or maybe even illegal. Do you keep the connection because they are a great person otherwise, or do you move on staying in alignment with yourself? It can be a tricky thing to navigat

What are the chances of an emotional abuser healing and the relationship surviving?

Jul 27th, 2023 28m 44s

Sometimes an abusive relationship changes into a non-abusive one. Sometimes the abusive person has an epiphany and stops the behavior. Often that happens when the other person reaches their breaking point, which may be too late. But if there's

Why they don't stop hurting you when they see you hurting

Jun 30th, 2023 28m 25s

Why do people who claim to care about us hurt us when they see that we're suffering? Shouldn't our suffering be enough for them to stop the behaviors? It's one of the most common questions I receive: If they really love me, why do they hurt me?

When parents get involved in your difficult relationship

May 5th, 2023 34m 25s

Dealing with a hurtful person is often hard enough. When they have hurtful parents, however, it gets even harder. Especially when you thought you had a somewhat good relationship with them. When their parents can't see their own child being hur

Religious Abuse: When they use your beliefs and faith against you

Mar 31st, 2023 20m 41s

Your religious or spiritual beliefs are supposed to help uplift and inspire you, not make you feel oppressed and exhausted. Religious abuse happens when people who claim to love you use your own beliefs against you to keep their power over you.

When they believe they've changed

Feb 17th, 2023 45m 34s

I get messages from those who are with someone who claims to have changed, but something doesn't feel right to them. What they feel is usually accurate. There are specific thoughts and feelings inside you that can help you tell if someone has a

LAA Insights - The kids in between the breakup from the toxic manipulative partner

Feb 2nd, 2023 23m 10s

When you've realized enough is enough but you're afraid that the kids will get a boatload of abusive behavior from a soon to be ex, knowing what to expect and how to respond to what happens next is the key to trying to maintain the healthiest

The huge wall the emotional abuser puts up

Jan 24th, 2023 39m 9s

Why can't they just change? Why don't they just stop hurting you? Sometimes they've built such a huge wall of protection around themselves that nothing can penetrate it. They keep doing what they're doing because they don't want you to see what