People want a deeper understanding of their own relationships and attachment than what they get from watching Sex in the City. Tracy McMillan is a Hollywood writer turned relationship expert who brings relatable, well-known characters to her descriptions to help you understand attachment and relationships. She’s always talked about relationships, and throughout her own life experiences she’s learned so much about relationships and it’s naturally progressed. That’s why episode 83 of the Love Intently Podcast is about how to identify and satisfy your own personal attachment style! 

Find your Attachment Style with this Quiz! Understanding the science behind adult attachment and how it can help us find and keep love.

In this episode of the Love Intently Podcast, Tracy is sharing the importance of understanding your insecure attachment style and some actionable steps you can take right now to start experiencing autonomy in your relationships. 

Key topics discussed in this episode:

• Tracy shares the statistics around insecure and secure attachments, and how if you exhibit insecure attachment patterns you’re actually not unusual. 
• The 3 types of insecure attachment types, as well as the subtypes, to better understand the type you have or have exhibited before, between genders, relationship styles, and other key factors.
• How to know if your significant other is actually the One, or if it’s your attachment style being triggered, based on your reaction to the other person.
• Tracy has a lot of built self-trust and self-love, so she shares how important that has been on her journey, and can be on your own as well, especially around infinite choice.
• How one of the greatest lessons she’s learned in her current relationship has been to throw out all she knows about being a relationship coach.
• Ways to choose love over fear by being vulnerable and honest about where you in your life, and what you want, and how that can be scary but also so freeing to dispel.
• How secure and insecure attachments are tones, and how those around you can tell your relationship tone clearly. 
• What autonomy is, what it means in a relationship, and ways people experience or ask for it in relationships. 
• Why Tracy believes people aren’t married even when they want to be.
• Why you should be looking for Grace, more than anything else, and why Tracy believes it’s the most important thing to look for in a relationship.
• Why people generally don’t reveal things, like their past or expectations, but why you should reveal the truth as soon as possible. 
• The question you should always be asking in any relationship, or end of the relationship, in order to grow and transform for the next relationship.

The key to a healthy, grace-filled relationship comes from stating your truth and understanding your attachment type.

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