Taking responsibility for my own pain is something that has really enhanced my life in a way that I never knew possible. Feeling empowerd to own my own life, my own circumstances and my own reactions to things has allowed me to take ownership over myself.  It's allowed me to free myself of being the victim of my life and it's relieved me of a lot of pain I've held onto from the past.  It's been quite a process, I'm still processing it but what I do know is that until you are able to own your life you will never be totally free.