As I make my way through this journey called life, I realize that everything that I have been through and experienced has been FOR me and not happened TO me.  This is a big shift in thinking for me.  It's made me feel empowered to make the changes in my life that I have needed to make.  It's uncomfortable to take responsibility for the aftermath of what has happened in life, espeically when things are painful.  It is necessary to move on and this is the key to freedom.