Chapter 1

Trust and commitment (being dedicated to something) are the cornerstones(basic parts, main parts) of any successful long-term relationship.

Every relationship comes to a point where commitment begins to waver(begin to fail, fluctuate). Maybe you met an interesting person, and you begin to consider(think) how your life might be with them instead of your partner. It’s one thing to briefly(in short) fantasize(daydream) about that alternate universe (parallel world). It’s another thing to do so regularly(usually). If this is the case, you may be experiencing a lack(shortage) of commitment in your current relationship.

Commitment means being there for your partner, no matter what. Instead of allowing yourself to get involved (Become associated) in situations that might lead to infidelity(the act of being unfaithful to your husband, wife, or lover), you avoid these situations altogether, as you know they will negatively impact the trust in your relationship. And instead of seeking out(to try to find someone or something, especially when this is difficult) others who might not have the flaws (a flaw in someone's character is an undesirable quality which they have) your partner does, you talk about your feelings and needs with your partner openly(frankly). That’s true commitment, and all long-lasting(everlasting, something that is long-lasting lasts for a long time) relationships are built on it.

The bedrock(base) of commitment is trust. Trust is the oxygen that helps every relationship breathe. Trust isn’t something that happens overnight(in a very short time), but over months and years of helping a relationship grow(thrive). It’s built by being on time, keeping one’s promises and always being there for your partner when they’re in need. Conversely(in contrast, on the other hand), trust is damaged(hurt) when one does the opposite of these things or engages(takes part) in deceitful(dishonest) behavior.

One of the most important ways to build trust in a relationship is through conversation. This leads us to the first of the eight dates, which is all about trust and commitment. Before the date, identify(recognize, try to understand) what trust and commitment mean to you personally. It can be helpful to think about your parents, and how trust and commitment affected your family life growing up. Also, try to come up with (think of) a few examples of how your partner has shown their commitment to you recently.

When date night arrives, it’s time to have a conversation. Take turns (do the same thing one after the other) asking and answering questions like, “When was the last time you didn’t trust me and what could I have done differently?” Or perhaps “What can I do to prove(to show definitely that it is true) that I am committed to you and our relationship?” And finally, “What are the differences between our definitions(meaning, interpretation) of trust and commitment – and how can we resolve(deal with) them?”

💕📚هایلایت قسمت 1 خلاصه کتاب Eight dates 📚💕

✅ Trust: اعتماد

✅ commitment : تعهد

✅ dedicated : متعهد

✅ cornerstone : اساس

✅ long-term : طولانی مدت

✅ relationship : رابطه

✅ waver: نوسان داشتن

✅ fluctuate : نوسان داشتن

✅ interesting person : فرد جالب

✅ consider : فکر کردن، در نظر گرفتن

✅ instead of: بجای

✅ briefly : بطور مختصر

✅ fantasize : رویاپردازی کردن

✅ daydream : رویاپردازی کردن

✅ alternate: دیگر، جایگزین

✅ universe : جهان

✅ regularly : به طور منظم

✅ lack : فقدان

✅ shortage : کمبود

✅ matter : اهمیت داشتن

✅ get involved : درگیر چیزی شدن

✅ associate:ربط داشتن

✅ situations : شرایط

✅ infidelity : خیانت

✅ unfaithful : بی وفا

✅ avoid : دوری کردن

✅ altogether : در کل

✅ negatively impact: تاثیر بد گذاشتن

✅ seeking out : دنبال چیزی گشتن

✅ especially : مخصوصا

✅ flaws : عیب ها

✅ undesirable : نا مطلوب

✅ openly : به راحتی

✅ frankly : صادقانه

✅ long-lasting: طولانی مدت

✅ everlasting : طولانی مدت

✅ bedrock : اساس

✅ overnight : یک شبه

✅ keep promise : سر قول ماندن

✅ conversely : از سوی دیگر

✅ engage : شرکت کردن

✅ deceitful : فریبکارانه

✅ identify : شناسایی کردن

✅ come up with: به چیزی رسیدن

✅ take turns doing sth: نوبتی کاری را انجام دادن

✅ prove: ثابت کردن

✅ definition : تعریف

✅ resolve: حل کردن

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