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Hello , hello and welcome to Mamas Cup of Ambition

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, the show for ambitious mamas with big

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dreams and little kids . I'm

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your host , Rachel Mae , country singer , songwriter

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and Mama of 2 , and I'm so excited

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to be here presenting another installment of

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the momversation series . I created

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this series as a way to have fun and honest

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conversations with mamas at every stage

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of their dream chasing journey and , through

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a series of questions curated specifically

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for these momversations , we'll

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get acquainted with the mamas in this community . We'll

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chat about everything from their biggest ambitions

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to their favorite TV shows and everything

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in between . My intention is to create a space

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for inspiration , connection and

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solidarity for us mamas navigating

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the wild world of motherhood and

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dream chasing . Wherever you are in your

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journey , this series is for you . So

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grab yourself a cup of coffee or your favorite

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beverage of choice and let's have a momversation .

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I would love

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to just kick things off by a

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little introduction to who you are and

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what you do .

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Thank you so much for having me , Rachel . I

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am Kim Norton . I am a

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professional home organizer . I

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am based in Southeast Louisiana

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. I have two young daughters

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. I have Aria Grace , who is eight

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, almost nine , and Eden James is

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six . I married

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. My husband is in law enforcement

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and see what else is there

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to know .

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Tell us a little bit more about your business . I think we can

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all , as mamas , collectively raise

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our hand and say who doesn't need

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more organization

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and some systems to keep us organized

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? So I'd love to know more about what you do

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and how you got into that in the first place

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.

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So in my past life worked corporate

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restaurant business . I did that for 12

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years . I became a mom . It's

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very , very hard to juggle restaurant

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life if you've ever been there management and restaurants

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and being a great wife and a great mom

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, i kind of felt like

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I loved it . But I wanted more

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from my life . So I set on a journey

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to try to figure out what that was going to be . Tried

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lots of different things , failed at a lot

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of different things . I just

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sat back one day , kind of defeated , and I was just like , okay

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, what ? Because I just kept getting tired

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of everything . So I was like what is something that I don't

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get tired of ? What is something that never

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gets old ? And so I was like

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, even as a kid , i love

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to organize . I would go to sleepovers

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and all the kids would be playing

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and I'm in my friend's room hiding

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up So great . And I

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was like they invite me over a lot because then

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the room gets clean . It's my stress reliever

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. Whereas for most people organizing

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is stressful And for me I

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love it . It's like a big puzzle to me

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. I love trying to be efficient . I was

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like I never get tired of that . And

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so I started spending more time thinking about it in

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my own home Because at the same time

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I was a newer mom , i was new to having

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a second child , so that kind of threw

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things for a loop . It's like , okay , I've got to figure

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this out . And so , after spending time

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finding ways that worked for me in

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my home and my family , i was like you know what I

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could share this , maybe I can do this as a career

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. And so we had just moved as a family

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to a new town And I was like you

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know , i don't know anybody kind of gave me that

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freedom to just fail . I

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didn't know anybody , nobody knew what I was doing

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, and so I put myself out there here locally

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as a home organizer and

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I started doing jobs and it

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just kind of evolved . And so now

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I do in person sessions here locally

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a few times a week And I've been

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able to meet so many people . Like I said , i didn't know

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anybody here , so I've met friends this way

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. All of my clients have been mothers

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. It was kind of a common thread that I was dealing

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with the same challenges , we were working through the same

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things over and over And I was like you know , i love

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the fulfillment I got from helping women

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and helping moms in a

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way that I could to make their lives easier

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, and so I just I felt called

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to do it on a broader scale , and

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so in the past year and a half

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, i have been spending my time trying to take

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what I've learned , what I know works

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for me and my clients , in person and bringing

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that online and finding

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ways to teach women how to do this

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, even , you know , in other states and around

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the world . That's where I'm at now in my journey

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. I have an online course that I

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just created this year to give

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people the knowledge that they need to get organized

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in a real way for real moms

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and real life . Because

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, you know , i just I think that the

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perception of what being organized is , and all

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the Marie Kondo and the home edit

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and this perfection like it's not attainable

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, especially , you know , when you have young kids Like

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that's not real . And so

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, you know , i really want to change people's perception

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of what organized is and then to help

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them find solutions that really do work for

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them .

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I love that so much . I feel like it's

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such a beautiful

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opportunity to create more spaciousness

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for mamas , like at the heart of what you're doing , because

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I mean I can speak for myself here

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Like I get so bogged down just trying

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to manage all of the stuff And I

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feel like I'm constantly on this hamster wheel

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of purging and then people are

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sending us new stuff for the kids and

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we're like holding on to clothes because I'm like

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my youngest can wear these clothes at some point . So

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it's like you're just managing all of this stuff

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And I feel like the mental bandwidth that

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that takes up trying to just

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manage all of that . It's

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like imagine if you could simplify all

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of that , what you could be doing . Like it's

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hard to just sit down and start working

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on like your business or your side hustle or

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whatever you want to be working on . When you look

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around and there's stuff everywhere and you feel

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like , ugh , i really need to

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like get my house in order . So I

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love what you're doing And I love that you're

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specifically helping moms

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and that you're taking this to a broader audience

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and making it accessible for mommas wherever

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they may be So cool , thank you

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, thank you , i like it .

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Just it's so near and dear to me because , like you said , i

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mean , i'm an entrepreneur , i work from home . When

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it comes to this end of it , yeah , and

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so it's hard to not , you

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know , stop what you're doing and get distracted

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by the dishes , they're all the things , and

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I want people's homes to be a place where

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they can enjoy and live

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life and not a place that causes the stress

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in their life . Yeah , that , for me , is success

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.

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Well , let's jump into these momversation questions

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, because I think that you will probably tell

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us a little bit more about what you're building as we move

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through these questions , so let's jump right in . So

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the first question is what do you dream of

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?

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I dream of just touching

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, you know , as many lives , as many women

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, and helping as many women as I can in

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this area . You know like I'm so

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passionate about it and it's it's something like I

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said it's a universal struggle for all of us

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, yeah , and so I just dream of

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making an impact , a large impact

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, on women with my expertise .

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Yeah , so good , and you're doing that So

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.

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I'm sure trying .

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Tell us a moment that you felt proud

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of yourself .

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I think , one of the hardest moments for me , and it

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seems kind of silly , but when I

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finally left my career

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, i was with a company for 12 years

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and I thought that was it . Yeah , i had one

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plan in life . I had no backup plan And

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when I started to see that what I wanted

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was changing , to make that pivot and

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to do the scary thing because

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I like security , i like predictability

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, and just taking that leap was what I'm proud

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of .

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Yeah , that's something to be proud of for sure

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, because look at the doors that leap has

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now opened . So how incredible that you

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were brave enough to make that move , thank you . So

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what's your biggest challenge right now

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?

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My biggest challenge in in general

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in life . I struggle

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in in all aspects of my life

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to stay consistent , even with organizing

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my own home . You know , something I've discovered

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in the last few years on my journey with organizing

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is that I have ADHD , and so

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that's one of those things where people like you're

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an organizer but you have ADHD . Like that

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, it poses its own . You

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know struggles and opportunities , but

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I think that's what makes me

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unique and it's what makes what

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I teach work for so

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many women , because even if you don't have ADHD

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, you still have a lot going on that can cause

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those inconsistencies . So you know I

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have a lot of techniques to combat that that

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I've used my whole life not knowing

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that it was because I had ADHD . I

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just , if I ever had to use a word to describe

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myself that frustrated me , it's inconsistent

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.

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So I feel that I can

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relate to that . I

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feel like there's some areas where , like , I

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can be so consistent and

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I can find a rhythm , and then there are other areas

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where I like kind of go in waves , or

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it's like I'm really good

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and I'm on top of things , and then I'm like , yeah

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, i finally cracked the code . And then

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I turn a corner and something

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happens and I fall off track and then I'm like

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start over , but

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I always come back , i always come back to it eventually

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.

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What I've learned is that . So this is how

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I combat it . So I cannot be

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consistent . It's just not in me . So instead

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I try to be persistent . Love that

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, As long as I don't quit , I'm OK

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with it . You know it may take me six months , longer

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than somebody else , but I'm not going to quit And

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eventually I'm going to get there .

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That's amazing . That is such a like great

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growth mindset to have and you will succeed

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because of that Just be persistent , keep

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going , don't just quit .

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You know , if I'm trying to work out and I

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miss a day , or miss a few days like you

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, can still work out the next day . It doesn't stop

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you . And once I realized that it's

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really changed a lot of stuff for me .

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That is so good . You just dropped a

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real gym , OK . so

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what would your perfect ?

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day look like . for me , Perfect day

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would just be with my family , with my kids

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, my husband . my immediate family

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and I are really close , Just

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out outside . I

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love to be outside . I love , you know

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, just being in nature and just spending

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time being present . You know no phones

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or worrying about having to take pictures and

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, you know , making sure that you share these moments

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. I just want to be in the moment love that .

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Okay , so do you have a power song

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?

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So I thought about this one a lot too , because I'm

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not very good with like , remembering names of

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things . I don't know song lyrics

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to basically any song . I can tell you a little

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bit . But I was like , okay , what is it going to be

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? So I am a huge Hamilton

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nerd . I love that soundtrack

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. I my kids know up . She's listening

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to Hamilton again . It's what I used to clean my

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house . And the song , my shot

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in there is like that's the song that gets

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me amped up because I don't . I feel like this

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is my shot and I'm not going to waste it

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, you know . So that would be my power song

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. That's what makes me feel strong .

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What a great power song . So , kind

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of hand in hand with that , do you have a mantra

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or a motto ?

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So the thing that I repeat to myself all the time

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is just do it scared . I have

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anxiety . I am

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a people pleaser , so I'm constantly

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worried about , you know , what people will perceive

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me as , and so part of my growth

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is just doing it . Anyway , you know

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, not worrying about what people think , and

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so when I've come to something and I'm like , oh

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, i can feel myself , you know , avoiding it , i'm

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like , you know , just do it scared , just dive in , do

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it scared . So I say that to myself constantly

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right now .

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That's great And yeah , that gets you far too

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Like with your mindset of persistent even

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when you can't be consistent and doing

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it scared .

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You know , when I became an entrepreneur instead of , you

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know , working for a company I needed that . I didn't

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have the tools to keep myself going

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or to keep myself motivated and driven

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, So I've had to do a lot of research

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and this is literally real life , what

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I use to get through my days and to

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push myself on this journey , for sure

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.

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Well , what's your go to indulgence ?

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When I think of this question , i got two things that come to mind

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. So first is food . When I hear indulgence

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, my first thought is food , and my guilty

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pleasure with that is cookie dough

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. So , one thing that's a consistent snack of

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mine , and then the other indulgence

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. Anybody who knows me and spends time

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around me knows that it's Bravo shows

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. I love all

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the trash Bravo

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, all the housewives I just got

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into like summer house and all that .

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Oh man , I could binge that

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, yes , okay , I'm going to grab some cookie

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dough and I will be right over . Let's

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go .

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That is , that's okay . That's my second ideal

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day , you know , outside

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of spending time with the kids . Give

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me some cookie dough and some Bravo TV

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and I am a happy girl .

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Yes , if Louisiana was not

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so far from the Pacific Northwest

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, I would be coming over right now to

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join you for some Bravo . I love

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me some like dramatic trashy TV

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.

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It's like I don't have to have the drama in my life because

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I just lived through them .

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Yes , yes , oh my gosh

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. So good , okay , so kind of just touched

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on this , but you're not so guilty

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pleasure TV show Like .

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Is there one Bravo show that you're

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like , oh well so I

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love Bravo shows and I watch those , like

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you know , as they come . I'm going to binge

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something Bridgerton , all

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the Bridgerton series . I've just

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been to Queen Charlotte the weekend it came out

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a few weekends ago . I love anything

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that's period piece . Obviously , Hamilton Bridgerton

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is kind of a theme there . But yes , right

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now I actually will watch the multiple

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times . I like to watch things that I've already seen

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in the background while I do work , And so

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Hamilton or Bridgerton

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or things that I'll just kind of keep on the TV while I'm

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working .

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That's great . I haven't watched Bridgerton yet , but I hear

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people talk about it all the time . I feel like

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I have missed a big

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, a big moment somewhere

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where I just missed the boat and I need to go

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back and catch up . You haven't

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missed it , you've got plenty of , there's only two

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seasons .

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Well , I guess three . if you count Queen Charlotte

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, you're not that far behind . They've got like seven

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kids and each kid has enough season

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, so you can catch up .

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Okay , good to know , i'm going to add it

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to my list . So , from

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guilty pleasure TV to the like , deeper

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philosophical question here but what's

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something that you wish someone had told you

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before becoming a mama ? Oh gosh

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.

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I'd say , before I became a mom

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, to be flexible , you know , to

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not lower expectations , but just

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go into things and just let

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them be . Sometimes , if you

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always trying to predict what's going to happen with kids

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, like you're sadly mistaken , and if you

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have these preconceived notions about what your

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kids are going to be or who they're going to be , based

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off of who you are , let that go and

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let them be who they're going to be , and

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allowing them to do that and watching

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it and just it's beautiful . And so letting

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go of the expectations you have for your kids

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or for yourself as a mom , like just let

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it become when it's going to become . I love that .

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So your go to influencer

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. This could be like a blog or a podcast

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.

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I love to listen to podcasts . That's one

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of those things that I do when I take walks

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or when I'm on a long car ride . So I

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have two people that I listen to consistently

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, actually like look forward to their episodes

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each week , and it's Jenna Kutcher and

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Tanya Eliza . We don't know her , so

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she's not as well known . She's

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also a marketing entrepreneur . She doesn't necessarily

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like do , like course creating and things like

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that . She has courses , but she more

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so talks about the branding

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side of it . I guess I kind of just take

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both of them and kind of morph it together

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to kind of grow my business . But yes , those two

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I listen to every week . I wait for their next episode

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.

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Awesome .

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Okay , So your favorite

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product or resource that has made mom

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life easier Okay so I'm going to

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do a little bit of self promotion

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, just because it's something

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that I've created that we use as

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a family . That I think is super , super

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useful , and so it's actually one of the freebies

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that I have available on my website , and

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it is a morning

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and afternoon checklist for your

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day , okay , so another thing that

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I've learned for myself and

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for my family is that we don't do very good with

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routine . We talked about the fact that I'm

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not very consistent , yeah , and so I

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don't like to do the same thing in the same order

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every day . It becomes boring And then I'm

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uninteresting . Yeah , there's certain things in

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your life that need to get done regularly

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. You know , every day my kids need to brush their teeth

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, but for me to like remember that every

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day and keep track of it is just

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my mind doesn't want to do it , and so

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we have checklists that I've created that

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we can put those things on . Those things are important

15:56

, that I want them to do consistently , and

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they can grab the checklist and I

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tell them I don't care what order you do it in . If you

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want to brush your teeth and then go eat breakfast

16:04

, that's on you

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, but I would advise you not to , but

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it just it's a way for you to dump those things

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that you're like . I want to make sure my kids do

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this every day or every weekday or whatever

16:15

it may be , but I don't want to keep it in my

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brain because I've got a million

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other things in my head that my

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kids reading for 15 minutes . At the end of the

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day I don't always remember that . So

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they're totally customizable . You can go

16:27

in there through Canva and so it's a link to

16:30

a template and you can make it what it needs

16:32

to be for your family . There's two versions

16:34

. There's one with words and then there's one with

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pictures , because at the time

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my little one couldn't read when I made them two

16:40

years ago , and so I didn't

16:42

want to have to keep reading it off to her because I'm a little

16:45

lazy , and so you

16:47

put the pictures and they associate it

16:49

and we laminated them and

16:51

it's made our mornings and our after

16:53

school and before bed . It just it

16:55

makes life so much easier .

16:57

Oh my gosh , that's great . I'm going to go download these when

16:59

we're done . I made something kind

17:01

of similar for my son , waylon , for

17:03

his bed time routine and it's got the pictures

17:05

which just kind of walk us through and

17:07

it's laminated and he'll go and point to

17:09

like , okay , like we're doing bath and then we're going to go

17:11

potty , and it's been great because

17:13

he has that sense of autonomy

17:16

and he knows he's like a part of what

17:18

happens and can tell us what's next

17:21

. But I haven't brought that strategy

17:23

into other parts of my day and I can see how

17:25

that would be really really beneficial and helpful

17:27

to have something like that .

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Well and then . So with these speclos too , like you can

17:31

customize the background and all that , and I always advise

17:33

everybody , like let the kids sit down with

17:35

you and pick the pictures , or

17:38

, you know , pick the background . And because

17:40

anytime you can give , like you said , that kids

17:42

the autonomy or that ownership , like

17:44

this is your checklist You made it today

17:46

will be way more on board . So I made it to where

17:48

you can . You can completely customize it . You could

17:51

redo the whole thing basically , but it just

17:53

gives you a good starting point . That's awesome

17:55

.

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I'm so glad you shared that . We'll make sure that

17:57

we link to that in the show description too

17:59

, so people can easily find it and get their

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hands on that . Yes , for sure , okay

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, answer this question . I'm obsessed

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with .

18:06

I am obsessed with making things easy

18:08

. You know , when I'm in person with a client

18:10

, as I'm going through their stuff , you know

18:13

we're decluttering . I'm looking at all of it

18:15

and I'm looking at how they live with it and where

18:17

it's being used and how can I make it easier

18:19

to get to and easier to put away

18:21

? because the easier it is to get to and the easier it is

18:23

to put away , the more likely that you're

18:26

going to do it . And so in that part of my life

18:28

, that's what I do at home . I'm constantly

18:30

trying to find ways to be efficient . And how

18:32

do I make all these other , all these responsibilities

18:35

in life easier so that I do have more

18:37

time to be present with my kids and spend that

18:39

time with the kids ? So that's what I'm obsessed with

18:41

efficiency and making life easy .

18:44

Okay , your dream vacation

18:46

. What's your dream vacation ?

18:48

So , on top of

18:51

being a home organizer , i am also

18:53

a travel agent specializing

18:55

in Disney vacations . Disney

18:57

is my happy place . I didn't dig into

19:00

it until recently . Like why do I love

19:02

Disney so much ? Like , why is that where I want to go

19:04

every time I go on vacation ? And for me

19:06

and for a lot of people , you

19:08

really can escape the real world . You know

19:10

, like Disney does it on purpose . You won't

19:13

find a newspaper in Disney world

19:15

, which I mean these days . you have your phone but

19:17

there's not a lot of the outside world

19:19

Like you . when you walk through those doors , you're

19:21

there , you're immersed and you

19:23

can really be present and let go

19:25

. And yeah , it's just something about it

19:27

, the permission that it gives to just be a kid

19:29

, be a kid with your kids , like I

19:32

loved it before having kids , but oh , experiencing

19:34

it with them is just the

19:36

best . Like it's absolutely the best

19:39

. And you know , me and my husband just went on a trip

19:41

a few weekends ago , just me and him . We went

19:43

to Epcot for a day and we went to Universal

19:46

. But even without the kids we were more silly

19:48

, we were more like We're free

19:50

and all that And so yeah , so my

19:53

perfect vacation is any time we can go

19:55

to any of the Disney parks , my gosh .

19:57

Well , that's good to know , because that's something my

19:59

husband and I talk about all the time . We

20:01

love Disney too , and that's something we really

20:03

want to do with our boys . I want to wait until

20:05

my youngest is just a little bit older

20:07

to make like traveling with the two of them

20:09

a little easier , but I am definitely going

20:12

to circle back to you when the time comes to

20:14

get all of your like

20:16

support . Yes .

20:18

Yes , i can help you plan it . I can

20:20

give you some tips and advice . I've been

20:22

there with my kids at all ages . Like

20:24

I said , my oldest one's nine now , so we've been going

20:26

since she was little .

20:27

I should just have you back to do a whole episode

20:29

about like Disney with kids . I bet there would be

20:31

a lot of people that would Oh yeah , I

20:34

would love that too . So

20:37

cool This . I see I did not know this about you

20:39

. So how cool . Ok

20:42

, fill it the blank .

20:43

I feel most like myself when I'm

20:46

, i feel most like myself

20:48

when I'm with my family . It's

20:50

sort of a weird thing . So , like I told you that

20:52

, i've recently discovered that I have ADHD

20:54

And so we're a little weird , to

20:57

say it nicely , and so I

20:59

guess for me , like a lot of the quirks and things

21:02

that I had , that turned out to be ADHD . I

21:04

just thought they were normal And it turns out it's because

21:06

I'm in a family full of us who

21:08

probably have ADHD And we're kind of all

21:10

like that . And so

21:13

in the world , when you have ADHD

21:15

and your brain doesn't operate like everybody

21:17

else is , you mask a lot , whether

21:19

it's in school and social

21:21

company . You don't always put your

21:23

real self out And you don't . There's many different

21:26

versions of yourself that you can

21:28

put out there . But when I'm at home with

21:30

my family , the people that I grew

21:32

up with and raised with , i can truly

21:34

just be my weird self , i guess , and I'm

21:37

getting better at being that

21:39

for the world . But it's

21:42

taken a lot of time and a lot of growth to do

21:44

that . But yeah , that's where I'm most comfortable for sure

21:46

, so good .

21:47

Ok , i know we kind of touched on this with

21:49

I dream of , but what's your

21:51

current ambitious goal ?

21:52

It's really right now is to

21:55

help as many women and moms

21:57

to find success

21:59

with organizing their homes . Because , like I

22:01

said , when I go into those clients' homes you

22:03

can see the overwhelm and the stress

22:05

when I get there . There are so many clients

22:07

who it may take me a

22:10

few times of them canceling my consultation

22:12

because they're so scared to let somebody

22:14

in that world . And every time I go for that

22:16

consultation by the end of it they're

22:18

like hugging me and crying because they're

22:20

just like you don't judge me , like you make

22:22

me feel understood , you make me

22:24

feel like it's going to be OK . And then by the time we

22:27

work on the session , just you know they're

22:29

booking the next session and you know I'm working five

22:31

, six , seven sessions with people trying to get the

22:33

whole house situated because they're

22:35

not doing it alone now . But they also don't feel

22:37

like they're being judged , because I understand

22:40

, because I've been there , i'm , i've

22:42

still get there at times .

22:43

Yeah , that's so powerful . I

22:46

wonder if so much of that too plays into

22:48

the like what we see blasted

22:50

on social media . And if you get on Pinterest

22:53

or if you're on Netflix , even Pinterest and Instagram

22:55

I look looking at those pretty things and

22:58

like I love the home edit , i love watching

23:00

that and thinking like that's pretty from the

23:02

TV But like that probably

23:04

like contributes pretty mightily

23:06

to us as mamas feeling

23:08

like some sense of shame around our

23:11

real houses and the way that

23:13

our houses look . And yes , we need support

23:15

and systems and organization . There

23:17

are ways that we can do things easier , like you're saying

23:20

, but how powerful that you're able to

23:22

go into someone's home

23:24

and normalize , like hey , you're not

23:26

alone , there are ways to make

23:28

your life easier and you don't need to feel

23:30

bad about where you're at .

23:32

Let me guide you to a more

23:34

manageable place And you said the word shame

23:36

and I just did . I had a podcast episode

23:38

come out recently about the shame of your clutter

23:41

and how to let go

23:43

of that shame and just accept

23:45

it . Yeah , because a lot of time that shame is what holds

23:47

you back , and so you really have to just

23:49

let that go , which is not that

23:51

easy to do . So it's a three part series

23:53

, and the first part of that series is how

23:56

to let go of the shame . The second part is how to

23:58

let go of the overwhelm And then the third

24:00

is how to actually take action

24:02

on your items .

24:03

Oh , amazing . OK , we got a link to that too . It's

24:06

going to be like a whole list of links in

24:09

this show description because you've got so much

24:11

goodness for us . OK

24:13

, so I'm known for .

24:16

I am known for , the

24:18

best term to say is , I guess , the practical organizing

24:21

. Being a practical organizer for real

24:23

life , real people , real homes

24:25

, I just , you know I would watch Home

24:27

Ed and all that And to be honest , it would give me

24:29

anxiety And I'm an organizer

24:32

And you know , for a while I was like that's what

24:34

I had delivered to people And I'm like they

24:36

don't want that . You know , I'd go into somebody's house

24:38

and start talking about these containers And

24:40

they're like we already have containers . And

24:43

so I've learned I use most

24:45

of the time I use what you already have , Because once

24:47

you've called me , you've already tried . Yeah , You bought

24:49

all the things and you've tried to set

24:51

it up . And so instead of spending more

24:53

money on this acrylic that's going

24:55

to crack the first time your kid drops the cereal

24:58

on the ground , or spending

25:00

thousands of dollars on that , like , save your money

25:02

, Let's use what you have And then , once

25:04

the system is in place , then you can upgrade the

25:06

product . But yeah , so I guess I just I

25:08

try to do things practically . I'm a practical

25:10

organizer , Love that .

25:12

OK , and most folks don't know

25:14

Most people didn't know that I had ADHD

25:16

.

25:17

I mean , my perception of that as a kid was

25:19

usually the boy in class who was hyper

25:21

and bouncing over walls and said what he

25:23

thought . You know I was the people

25:26

pleaser , quiet teachers , pet

25:28

, and you know I was gifted and

25:30

I had great grades . But on the inside

25:32

I was . It manifested differently

25:34

, though , with you know , when I see people now

25:36

for my childhood , they tell them I have ADHD

25:39

, like they think I'm crazy , like what

25:41

you know , like you were perfect camp

25:43

, you know , and what they didn't know was that on

25:45

the inside I was struggling

25:47

, like that was hard And so , yeah , it's been a

25:49

journey .

25:50

Yeah , i feel like it's so . Especially when you're

25:52

people pleasing , it's really easy to , like you said

25:54

before , mask some of those parts of yourself

25:56

, because it feels like , well , this is

25:58

sort of how people know me and see

26:00

me And I don't want to let down that expectation

26:03

of how they view me . So , yes

26:05

, big time . Yeah , ok

26:07

, fill in the blank , i do blank

26:09

. So my kids ?

26:12

I do the self work so

26:14

that my kids will hopefully

26:17

not have to do as much self work

26:19

. Yeah , i spend a lot of time

26:22

trying to be the best version of myself

26:24

and the best mom that I can be for them

26:26

so that when they grow up they're a step ahead

26:28

. I'm not expecting my kids to grow

26:30

up and say I had a perfect childhood and

26:32

you did everything right . Nobody is

26:34

, you know , but I know that my mom

26:37

has done better than what her mom

26:39

did And I just want to continue

26:41

that growth and pass it along

26:43

to my kids . That's a great one .

26:45

Our last question here . Actually

26:47

it's second to last because I'm going to have you share where

26:49

we can find all of your stuff . So second

26:52

to last . But what fills your cup

26:54

, both literally and figuratively

26:56

?

26:57

This is going to be . I swear I'm like a five

26:59

year old child . Literally my cup

27:01

sugar-free grape Kool-Aid

27:03

. I know most people

27:05

wouldn't admit that as a 34 year old

27:07

that I drink Kool-Aid . Most of the time I hate

27:10

water . I hate the taste

27:12

of water , so I've

27:14

settled for , if I want to stay hydrated

27:16

, that I have to drink something that I like right

27:19

now Grape Kool-Aid . Is it So

27:21

that literally fills my cup ? Figuratively

27:24

, it's just making an impact on people . It's

27:27

with my home organizing . But when I

27:29

was in the restaurant business I would

27:31

do the same . I was always coaching

27:33

and teaching and mentoring there

27:36

with people . I just want to help however

27:38

I can , and so the great thing about the organizing

27:40

is now I've realized , like my unique

27:42

way , that I can help people with a unique

27:45

problem , versus just like trying to help

27:47

everybody in every way , doing

27:49

that burden to just every time somebody has a problem

27:51

, fix it . To try to like narrow

27:53

it down and just say you know what ? this

27:55

is my expertise . How can I help

27:57

people with ?

27:58

that , yeah , so good . Okay

28:01

, well , where can everybody find you

28:03

? Where can they work with you and connect

28:06

with you ? Give us all the ways .

28:07

Okay , so my website is liferealignedwithkimcom

28:11

. I try to keep it simple , and so everything

28:14

Facebook , instagram , pinterest

28:17

, anywhere that I'm at it's going to be life-realigned

28:19

, with Kim as my handle . But

28:21

everything is on my website All

28:24

of my freebies that I have . I

28:26

have a podcast like the Life Realigned podcast

28:29

. That also . I also broadcast that on YouTube

28:31

, if you prefer YouTube over

28:33

the podcast . And then I have my

28:35

online course . That's also available on

28:37

my website if anybody's

28:40

interested in that .

28:40

Well , I will make sure to link to all

28:43

of that in the show description to make it super easy

28:45

for everybody to find you , because let's make

28:47

things easy . And I

28:49

just want to thank

28:51

you for coming on today And you

28:53

just you dropped so many gems in this episode

28:56

and I'm so happy

28:58

that we had this conversation

29:00

because I feel like this is going to resonate

29:02

with folks . You are clearly

29:04

very gifted at what you're doing

29:06

and it comes through just so aligned

29:09

and so eloquently So thank you so much

29:11

for being here , kim . It was truly such

29:13

a pleasure . Thank you so much . That's

29:17

it for today's episode , but if you're loving this

29:19

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29:21

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29:23

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29:25

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29:28

, i'd love to connect with you there . You can find

29:30

me at Mama's Cup of Ambition . I want to

29:32

extend a special thanks to today's guests for

29:34

bringing the energy and the good vibes to this podcast

29:37

party , and a great big , heartfelt thanks

29:39

to you as well . This show exists

29:41

because you tune in and I really can't tell

29:43

you how much your support means to me . And

29:45

, last but not least , if you got something out of today's

29:47

episode . It would mean so much

29:50

to me if you would take a moment to leave the show

29:52

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29:54

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29:58

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30:00

and keep it going and growing . Plus

30:02

, it just seriously fills my cup . So thank

30:05

you . Okay , so until next time , may

30:07

your dreams be ambitious and may your coffee

30:09

be strong . I'll talk to you soon .