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for throwaway. Might be a little

1:22

confusing but please bear with me. Me

1:24

and my boyfriend have been together for a year. My

1:28

boyfriend has been taking care of his siblings 16

1:30

female, 12 female, 11 male

1:32

since his older sister was born. When he

1:35

was 18 he moved out of his

1:37

parents' house and took them with him. He

1:39

currently has custody over all his siblings.

1:42

He is a really hard worker and haven't seen

1:44

him or his siblings struggle at all. They

1:46

have all they need and as far as

1:48

I know has never gone to bed hungry

1:50

because of him. One of

1:52

the reasons I fell in love with him

1:54

is because of his caring nature, especially for

1:56

his siblings. Not Going to explain the

1:59

whole dynamics but. When. I say

2:01

taking care. I mean he took care

2:03

of them from buying food, youth helping

2:05

with homework he did it, or who's

2:07

basically mom and dad, or them they

2:09

still finished school in the process. Youngest

2:12

brother even calls him that his

2:14

parents have a definition of dead

2:16

peace. Current. Situation with them

2:18

is that they don't even know if their

2:20

parents are alive and have no of the

2:22

family. Peaceful as all that

2:25

he has. Last of the whole family. I

2:28

slipped over at his house last night.

2:30

This morning, around six am, his sister

2:32

twelve female came into the kitchen crying

2:34

hysterically. She woke up with

2:36

blood in her pants and freaked out. The

2:39

size of period. My.

2:41

Boyfriend gotta calm down and explain that she

2:43

is alright and everything will be okay. He.

2:46

Then gave her a brief explanation of what

2:48

is happening and a her body is changing.

2:51

He. Also to go take a shower to

2:53

get cleaned up and hold a where to

2:55

find the pads is other sister sixteen female

2:57

is using the use them as the oldest

3:00

sister showed her when she left to go

3:02

and take a shower he said since I

3:04

thought would have another year left. Ask

3:07

what he meant and he said his

3:09

sister sixteen started a period when she

3:11

was thirteen. Mean isn't all females and

3:13

bodies of the same, but he thought it would

3:15

be around the same time. So.

3:18

He was a bit unprepared for the discussion.

3:20

A shock for that came in and the

3:23

fact that he knew his sister used Pats

3:25

or does he know when she started has

3:27

set period in the first place. Or

3:29

does he know what she uses it

3:31

to ask him why? he knows this

3:34

but kept the questions myself. When.

3:36

His sister returned from a shower. He

3:38

asked if everything was alright and issues

3:41

haven't any discomfort. Started to

3:43

get disgusted when he asked that question.

3:46

He. Told us she doesn't have to go to school today.

3:48

He will take a for some shopping. After

3:50

breakfast he sat down and delivery room

3:53

and explain everything in detail to her

3:55

regarding what is going on, what will

3:57

happen with all of it. He.

3:59

said helped the older sister with her first

4:01

time and will help her as well. He

4:04

finished with saying that her sister, 16, will

4:07

be able to help her more with the type of products they

4:10

use and how they work. I was

4:12

surprised, shocked and disgusted about all

4:14

the things he told her. He

4:17

was correct in everything that he told her but

4:19

no brother should know that much about what is

4:21

happening to his sister's bodies. Unfortunately,

4:24

his older sister wasn't at home

4:26

to help. She had a sleepover

4:28

at her friends due to a project for school. So

4:31

he took charge of explaining everything. He

4:34

must have seen the disgust in my face and asked

4:36

me what is wrong and it just slipped out. I

4:39

told him, you're a disgusting

4:42

pig. The words just

4:44

kept coming out of my mouth and I couldn't stop

4:46

talking. I can't remember exactly

4:48

what I thought about the situation but that's

4:50

disgusting that he knows that much especially about

4:52

his own sisters and is now trying to

4:54

coach the younger sister on what to do.

4:57

He just asked me

4:59

to leave. He didn't argue, yell,

5:01

nothing, just said, leave my house. I

5:04

know I went about it in the wrong way but my

5:06

stance is the same. No brother should

5:08

know that much about his own sister's body

5:10

functions. Am I the asshole here?

5:15

Edits, if you don't believe me that is

5:17

fine but don't comment. I was

5:19

there, I said what I said. I don't know what

5:22

I can say other than what I know to prove

5:24

this is real. I just want

5:26

to know if I'm the asshole here, if my stance

5:28

is correct and if I should apologize for everything I

5:30

said. Seeing some of the comments

5:32

I think you guys are not understanding my point. I

5:35

don't want to sound mean but he could have

5:37

just called his sister to explain everything to her

5:39

or better asked me to explain it to her.

5:42

It would have been a lot better if it came from

5:44

another girl. Yes, he explained

5:46

everything correctly and even told her about

5:48

the different products to use but said

5:51

the other sister will explain those better

5:53

and she is experiencing what actually works.

5:56

Why didn't he ask me to explain anything to her?

5:58

I would have done it. There

6:01

are certain things that should stay private

6:03

and especially a brother should not know.

6:07

Now you started off with this

6:09

post explaining what an absolute wonderful

6:11

guy this is, you love him

6:14

for this very reason and then

6:16

this guy starts explaining a totally

6:18

normal bodily function to his younger

6:21

sister, showing her love and support,

6:23

telling her not to be worried

6:25

and how to deal with it

6:28

in that moment, offering advice. And

6:31

this is very much a you problem,

6:33

you called him a disgusting pig for

6:35

explaining this, that says more

6:37

about you than it does him,

6:39

he sounds like a wonderful supportive

6:42

brother, again you explained all of

6:44

this in the very first part of your post

6:47

and you can apologise to your boyfriend but

6:50

to be quite honest I can't see

6:52

forgiveness coming your way but who knows

6:54

Danny Cat's fan says your boyfriend has

6:56

been parentified to hell and it

6:58

sounds as if he's doing a pretty damn good job

7:00

taking care of his younger siblings, given

7:02

that their sperm and egg donors are in the wind.

7:05

I think all guys should have a basic understanding of

7:07

what a period is and how it can affect

7:09

girls and women, it's a basic

7:11

biological function that just about everyone

7:14

born with a uterus experiences and

7:16

if these guys are going to be dating women then

7:18

they should be able to explain what a period is.

7:21

He probably knows about the pads because he has to

7:23

buy them for his 16 year old sister or at

7:25

least is at the store with her when she

7:27

gets them or he sees them

7:29

in the bathroom and remember older sister

7:31

is the one who also showed younger

7:34

sister the ropes, he even said to

7:36

her remember what sister told you. What

7:39

would you have him do when his younger sister

7:41

woke up crying, say sorry I can't help you,

7:43

wait until your sister gets home. It

7:46

has occurred to you to maybe help the

7:48

kid when she was freaked out over her first period

7:50

or did you just sit in judgement of a young

7:52

man as doing the best he can to take care

7:54

of his siblings, even if it involves

7:56

knowing things you don't think a guy should know. boyfriend

8:00

a huge apology. You're

8:03

the arsehole. Eliza

8:05

says you're the arsehole, you're too young

8:07

and too immature. Men should all know

8:09

how it works and he has a

8:11

better reaction than you. It's natural and

8:13

there's no reason to be ashamed or

8:15

disgusted by periods. My son is 11

8:18

and with me and his sister having periods he knows what

8:20

a pad is and when we have

8:22

our period as we all eat chocolate. You

8:25

also know that he had to take care of his

8:28

siblings since they're young and that he has custody on

8:30

them. It was absolutely normal for him

8:32

to know all those things. Leave

8:34

him. He deserves so much better than

8:36

a judgemental little princess. Let them

8:38

be in peace. You're not good enough for that family.

8:41

And one more comment from external rip who

8:44

says you're the arsehole. Your boyfriend is being

8:46

a caretaker. Even if he wasn't

8:48

basically their parents, which he is, they

8:50

clearly trust him enough to share this

8:52

information. Knowing what could be

8:54

helpful for their health is what an empathetic

8:56

family member does. Honestly more

8:59

parents and families could stand to

9:01

have better communication about periods rather

9:03

than having disgust and shame. So

9:07

Opie did update their post and says

9:09

I posted originally in another sub. Can't

9:11

repost here because of rules. Another redditor

9:13

suggested I post here for advice. Original

9:16

posted on my profile which we just

9:18

read. Here's a summary of what happened.

9:20

By now X basically is a parent's

9:22

mum and dad to his three younger

9:24

siblings. Their parents are the definition of

9:26

deadbeast. He moved out at 18 and has been

9:28

taking care of them ever since. He

9:30

had a talk with his 12 year old sister about

9:33

her period because she woke up one morning and a

9:35

period started. He calmed her down and

9:37

took her through the talk. I flipped

9:39

out and told him he's a disgusting pig because

9:41

no brother should know that much about his sister's

9:43

body and he just told me to leave. Current

9:47

Events I went to his house

9:49

to apologise to him and his little sister. The

9:51

16 year old was there as well. She slapped

9:53

me and shouted at me calling me vile

9:56

name. My now ex got her to

9:58

stop and sent her to her room along with her. with

10:00

the other siblings. I wanted

10:02

to apologize but before I could even start he

10:04

told me to keep my mouth shut and listen.

10:07

He forgave me before I even asked for

10:09

forgiveness but said what he can't forgive is

10:12

the fact that I basically turned his little

10:14

sister against him making her doubt his intentions.

10:17

It took him almost a full day to get

10:19

her to talk to him and she only talked

10:22

to him after the 16 year old assured her

10:24

that he did nothing wrong and only want to

10:26

help her like he helped her. His exact

10:28

words were, he turned one of my

10:30

children against me and that is something I can't and

10:32

will not forgive. He was dead to me and

10:35

I would get the fuck out of my house. He

10:37

said it was so much anger in his voice

10:39

and I could see in his eyes that he

10:41

absolutely hated me in that moment. I

10:43

was actually scared for myself in that moment. I

10:46

talked to some of my friends about this but

10:48

I'm losing my friends as well. Even my own

10:50

sister is now refusing to talk to me. Yes

10:53

in our house my father had nothing to

10:55

do with our periods and my mum handled

10:57

everything. What should I have done? I thought

11:00

he did something wrong. I can see

11:03

I'm in the wrong but still why am I being

11:05

punished for this? His words really

11:07

hurt me. That is not fair. I

11:10

didn't even get a chance to explain myself or anything

11:12

after he was done talking. He again just

11:14

kicked me out of his house. I'm

11:16

blocked everywhere and can't get a hold of him. I

11:19

even tried his sister's phone but I'm also

11:21

blocked there. How can I

11:23

fix this relationship? The other

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11:27

a man and that I was wrong. I

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I know I was wrong, I truly do.

12:28

I don't want to dismiss my

12:30

actions, but that is how I was raised. Our

12:33

father had nothing to do with our periods, all of it

12:35

was dealt by our mother. We weren't allowed

12:37

to talk about our periods when our father was

12:39

in the vicinity. If we needed

12:41

products or anything, we had to go to our mother

12:44

for it. If we talked about

12:46

anything relating to our periods, pain, discomfort, our

12:48

father would leave the room. I

12:50

remember once my father actually left the

12:52

house because my sister complained about the

12:54

pain during her period. Couple of top

12:56

comments from that one, not for commenting

12:58

says, You do not deserve

13:00

him back. You do not deserve to

13:02

date any man ever. Given how quickly

13:04

your mind interpreted good parenting as being

13:06

inappropriate sexual interaction with a child, any

13:09

man will be a fool to date you, let

13:11

alone have children with you. Get thee

13:13

to a nunnery. A conscious

13:15

survey says she posted originally on MI the asshole.

13:18

She got railed there for the last two days

13:20

and still thinks she's going to get back together

13:22

with him. Opie replied to

13:24

him, Why? I made a mistake, I see

13:26

that now. I was raised like that. Not

13:29

for commenting and replying saying you're 26. You've

13:32

been exposed to other families in real life,

13:34

on TV, etc. You can't

13:36

blame your parents anymore for failing to know

13:38

what is normal. Janet

13:40

in Spain says, Ooh, my father would never

13:42

have done that for me. And he says,

13:44

that's a mistake. And says,

13:46

and quotes again, you're a disgusting

13:48

pig and says, that's unforgivable. Opie

13:51

says, I Know that no need to

13:53

remind me. I love him and I know he

13:55

still loves me too. Just watch. I will get

13:58

him back and all of you will be fine.

14:00

the sucking it's. A Very me

14:02

and I think you know if I was

14:04

advising Opie I'll just be saying you know

14:06

it's time to move on Now the way

14:08

he spoke you in that last moment I

14:10

can think you'll get him back and god

14:13

be able to forgive you for this at

14:15

the same time your words you know he

14:17

to take this is an educational moment at

14:19

he fucked up need to learn from it

14:21

and move on and just better yourself. What?

14:24

Do you guys make of this

14:27

situation? Let me know your thoughts

14:29

down in the comments below the

14:31

let's move on to another story.

14:35

And. On next or he does have an update

14:37

as well from otherwise sold Seven Three seven

14:39

from the am I the ah so he

14:41

a suburb of their says am I the

14:43

also here for refusing a threesome with my

14:45

girlfriends best friend. A girlfriend

14:47

and her best friend have been friends

14:50

for almost their entire adult life since

14:52

it has three sons with previous on

14:54

us on both sides. Now. I

14:56

didn't know this until recently as my go from

14:58

mention this like a week or so before she

15:00

asked me to if I wanted. Now.

15:03

This may be where I messed up a My

15:05

immediate answer was, but now I'm never doing that.

15:08

I'm. Very monogamous and I'll be

15:10

honest, the idea of being shared

15:12

or sharing simply grosses me out.

15:15

And think it's morally wrong or anything. but it's

15:17

just not the me. Apparently my

15:19

girlfriend told her best friend and now

15:21

the best friend is offended. My.

15:24

Girlfriend says I should apologize to her. I

15:26

don't think I did anything wrong yet. Maybe

15:28

I could have used better word, but it's

15:30

not like the best friend heard me. T

15:33

Bullfrog says on this one, not the also,

15:35

you should be have to have an unfiltered

15:37

reaction with your partner, give them a true

15:39

and potentially rule response to something. Or

15:42

better way to respond. You. React. It.

15:44

Now. You from response. Or. Question

15:46

is. Why? Did your girlfriend share

15:48

your roar unfiltered reaction with a best

15:51

friend? That safe enough for threesome

15:53

says safe enough for you to be honest.

15:55

Or. The only safe when they

15:57

one/need is already feels as

15:59

the ballot. Good. Luck will use

16:02

the says there's no legitimacy behind being

16:04

offended because your friend's boyfriend doesn't. What

16:06

the fuck you. To know your

16:08

problem not the also. To

16:10

Norman says what they said he didn't say

16:12

to them and is not your thing. You

16:15

didn't Nothing wrong. Oh

16:17

oops as how can this guy's not

16:19

questing his relationship and it's future are

16:21

so many red flags. If the

16:24

woods As when I was thinking she's not

16:26

a friend, she's a lava that only a

16:28

matter of time into. he cheats with her.

16:31

I was kind of think under that line as

16:33

well as like just. He. Got blindsided

16:35

by your girlfriend asking you for

16:37

a threesome with her best friend.

16:40

He says liked, hold up. Wait,

16:42

A minute. Semenya right

16:44

as it's. Absolutely

16:46

would not be apologize to lead us

16:48

to days later says hello everyone I

16:50

think it I suppose in up they

16:53

after all he had by your gave

16:55

me. To start off I

16:57

talked with my girlfriend. includes some things that.

16:59

I told her I wasn't sorry for my decision

17:02

or my reaction but I told her at nothing

17:04

to do with a friend. I told her it

17:06

didn't matter whom she suggested that would have been

17:08

and not. I didn't think about your

17:10

mentioned is what what happened of her friends are

17:12

for a threesome with a boyfriend. Friend

17:15

a single right now says is not a

17:17

current issue. As my go from

17:19

what would happen if a friend asked that she

17:21

said she thought to a be cool as the

17:23

previous boyfriends were. But. After seeing my

17:26

reaction she knows I wouldn't approve to then

17:28

ask me why I didn't want a threesome

17:30

with two women. I told her I didn't

17:32

like the idea of having sex with anyone

17:34

but her. After. She

17:36

needed to have reasons to be satisfied. To.

17:39

Try to.the question and said i mean

17:41

that the just been you know and

17:43

it's become a habit by now. I

17:45

told her it was a yes or no question. He

17:48

still wouldn't give me a straight answer. I

17:50

decided that a Sexual Needs a just two

17:53

different broke up with us. I'm

17:55

sad that out of everything because a

17:57

break up. This was it. May.

17:59

Not one. to have sex with someone other than

18:01

my girlfriend. Also to answer

18:03

some of the comments, no, her

18:05

friend wasn't ugly. And

18:08

a couple of top comments from that one, so

18:10

Mad says still not the arsehole, in my opinion

18:13

differing sexual desires is a very valid reason to

18:15

break up. So

18:17

the commenter says, not just the sexual

18:19

incompatibility, but the roping in of real

18:21

feelings into something that she would later

18:24

describe as fun and a habit. That

18:26

is what struck me, a

18:28

girlfriend trying to guilt OP about her friend's

18:30

feelings as if they were polyamorous or a

18:32

throuple. Like he already owed the

18:35

other girl something. Why did OP's

18:37

private reaction have to be shared and

18:39

commiserated over in such detail that it

18:41

would elicit out-race reactions from both people?

18:45

One who was not even there and did not

18:47

have to know. Just doesn't seem

18:49

right. OP did not sign up

18:51

for the extra significant other. That

18:54

alone gave me a red flag and I think

18:56

OP made the right decision. Potential

18:58

Pen says, what I don't understand is

19:00

that now that you are broken up,

19:03

you will never pursue another sexual relationship

19:05

with another woman. So how is

19:07

your previous statement tracking with reality? You don't

19:09

want sex with anyone but her. By the

19:12

way, this is coming from someone who doesn't understand

19:14

monogamy in the least. Is it

19:16

going to take a while to become attracted to other

19:18

women again? Is it like a

19:20

switch you turn off once you break up? Is

19:22

there a process to that? OP

19:25

says I'm a demisexual. I think that's the term.

19:27

I only feel sexually attracted to people

19:29

I have an emotional connection with. I gotta

19:32

be honest, I didn't understand that last comment

19:34

too much. I found that a bit strange

19:36

but maybe you got a different opinion on

19:39

that. But now I'm going to turn this

19:41

one to you guys. What do you guys

19:43

make of this situation? Let me know your

19:46

thoughts down in the comments below. That's

19:48

just a huge thank you from the bottom of

19:50

my heart for getting involved in today's stories. Your

19:52

love, your support, your time always means the absolute

19:55

world to me. So thank you so, so much

19:57

for being involved and don't forget at the very

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