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Why did God give us the ability to remember
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things? Memory is such a strange thing.
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Memory doesn't have any substance or form
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or physical presence, yet somehow
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it has an immediate and very present effect on
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our everyday reality. God gave
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us the ability to store memories so that these
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memories of the past would help us in
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the present. This is why God continually
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commanded the people of Israel to remember. Remember
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where they came from, remember that they were once slaves,
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remember that they once wandered in the wilderness,
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and most importantly, remember how God saved
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them and brought them through it all. To remember
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is to apply the lessons of the past to the
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circumstances of today. It is
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good to remember.
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Hey, we're Aaron and Jennifer
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Smith, your hosts of the Marriage After God podcast. Today's
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Hey everyone, we're back for another episode.
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That's like my little fake
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drum. Should be a fun one. The
1:46
initial idea was just a
1:48
kind of fun way to get you guys
1:51
inspired and encouraged to be thinking about
1:53
certain areas of your marriage.
1:59
I mean, marriages, especially as the
2:02
years go on. I mean, we've
2:04
been married almost 17 years now. And
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that's not even, I mean, my parents have been married, gosh,
2:09
in their 40s, 40 years, longer. And
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I just,
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you can imagine over the years, we can forget
2:16
some stuff. Sure, some things we need to forget, which
2:18
we'll talk about. That's fine,
2:21
too. But before we jump in all of that, is there anything
2:23
new going on with you this week that you wanna share? Anything
2:26
that's encouraged you or?
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My main focus lately has been
2:31
on marketing the new book, just talking
2:33
about it, preparing stuff, getting all the back-end
2:35
stuff done. And so that's
2:38
what I've been doing. My head's been in that space. That's
2:40
awesome. So I'm forgetting a lot of other things.
2:42
Something
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that was cool that just
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really touched my heart was a
2:49
friend of ours, they had a baby
2:52
recently, and they're going
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through a bit of crisis with her
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health. And
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one of their family members reached out and said,
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hey, let's all, whoever wants to
3:03
join in a fast in prayer on
3:05
a specific day. And everybody
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in the church was game, we all wanted
3:10
to do it. And the
3:12
morning of, I woke up
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and felt really encouraged. I
3:17
was praying, and I thought,
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how cool is it, Lord, that
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everybody's simultaneously praying, specifically
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for this baby girl? And
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the Lord was like, I'm gonna flip your perspective for a second.
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I'm using this baby girl to draw many
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hearts to me right now. And it was
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really cool.
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Both are important, and it shows how the body, like
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all the individual members of the body, work
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together for the good of the body. And it was
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just really beautiful. Yeah, and how God can
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use even the littlest member, the weakest
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member to open up all
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of our eyes, to bring us to our knees
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before him, to draw us, like you said, to himself.
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Yeah, it was super cool. That was a good
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little thing you just shared.
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Thank you for that.
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Yeah. Other than that, we're
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gearing up to start school again. And
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it was funny, I put some of the kids' like
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newer schoolbooks and math and everything in
4:12
their little boxes where we organize our homeschool
4:15
stuff and they've
4:17
already jumped to it. And I feel like
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we haven't even really had a break in summer because
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we lingered with last year's like
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math and language arts and stuff. And so
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they've only been off for a couple of weeks and they wanted to jump
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right back in it. So we start next week, just
4:31
wait. They're excited though.
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That's awesome. What's one of the big
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focuses you're going to focus on this year? I
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really, there's a couple of our kids
4:40
who just aren't confident with reading.
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I feel like I've given them the tools and they, I
4:45
feel like they can do it, but they don't, they're not quick
4:48
or, or excited to jump into
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reading on their own. And so that's, that's
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a big goal for me this year. It's probably genetic because
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I wasn't confident in my reading skills
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either. I just need
5:00
to bring some fun to it. Unfortunately
5:03
for me. And then also I feel like with our older kids,
5:05
like just really encouraging the independent
5:07
learning where they can, um, areas
5:10
of school that maybe they can
5:13
show some initiative and just doing,
5:16
cause I know that they can.
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I'm excited about this year. I think they're going to all grow
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a lot. One aspect is
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we're switching, um, Elliott
5:24
to an online math curriculum,
5:27
which I've never introduced anything like
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technology based with our kids. And so
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there was a part of you that was like, no, let's
5:35
not do that. But we agreed that moving
5:38
forward, it's actually good because they
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live in a
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technology filled world to
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give them healthy opportunities to
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experience technology in a safe way.
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Yeah. It's just a new aspect to me as
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a teacher. Like I don't know
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how it's going to go. Cause I've never done that before. So just
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interesting stuff. That's good. Um,
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something that I know a lot of our listeners. probably
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know this because we mentioned the past but we we do home
6:02
church so we don't go to a regular
6:05
building like a lot of people do which is totally
6:07
fine also but we do it in our homes and
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we've been hosting church how
6:12
many months three months
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yeah we did throughout the summer yeah three
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months in our home and one cool aspect
6:18
of our home church is we take turns we'll
6:21
switch houses for periods of time
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and we just got done doing that so
6:25
we're we're gonna be switching to someone else's house but it's
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a really cool thing that we get to do because everyone in the church
6:30
everyone but many people
6:32
in the church get opportunities to serve the church
6:35
in that
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way yeah it's a little bit layered and serving
6:38
and showing hospitality and preparing
6:41
ahead of time and providing that space for
6:43
everyone it just takes a lot so
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we're always grateful when things get switched up
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a little bit but
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we've had fun like it's been fun here uh-huh
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yep it's good for the kids too they wake up early and
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they put all the chairs out and
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our music binders and things
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yeah they get to help set church up
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yeah which is really cool with
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us talking about church and for everyone
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listening I just want to encourage you guys like we
7:08
want to encourage you guys that church is
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such an integral part of our
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faith and being able to fellowship
7:15
on a weekly regular basis I've
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just seen so much benefit not not not
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only in our family and our life
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and the support the encouragement the prayer
7:24
like everything that it provides but
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also when you're in fellowship and
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there's
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needs that people have and you're able
7:32
to just jump right in because you know them you've
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been walking with them you see them regularly
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you love them and it's just
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a it's a huge
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support system and so if you're listening
7:43
right now and maybe you've been out for a while you haven't
7:46
been really connecting we just want to encourage
7:48
you to find a local community local
7:50
church that you can be participating in
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and fellowshiping with because we all
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need each other I totally
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agree I mean it's and it's
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also not just
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we should do it just because it's good for us, but God
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desires us and commands us as his people to
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be in fellowship with one another. So we
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should be looking if you don't have a church,
8:08
if you don't have a fellowship to find one
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and to look for people who love God and love
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his word.
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Amen. The
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last thing I want to bring up before we get into the topic
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is the pre-launch
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for our new devotional is going really well. I
8:24
just wanted to praise God for that. We were in the top
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selling new releases on Amazon already for
8:28
over a week, and it doesn't even come out
8:31
until October. I just wanted to share with everyone
8:33
because anyone who's pre-ordered that's been listening to our podcast,
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you're one of the reasons they did that.
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So I just want to thank you. God
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is so good. And
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if you haven't already pre-ordered
8:44
the book, we want to again ask you to do that
8:46
and participate in this
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book launch, not only to bless your marriage, but
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also to get the word out about this
8:53
book because the more people that pre-order this, the
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more that the ranking for the book gets
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better on Amazon and more people see it. So you
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can go to the marriage gift dot com, which
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will take you straight to the book.
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Okay. So let's jump into today's
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content. Yeah. You were,
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we wanted to mention how we just, we,
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we just recorded a podcast with
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Liz Bagua from Rhythm
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Restoration. So that episode
9:19
should be coming out soon and we'll share it with you guys.
9:22
When it gets released, I love that
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she uses her background in science. She was in it
9:26
for like two decades. And
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she mixes it with her faith.
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And as she shares on her podcast, like
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that's, that's the way she's getting the message
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out. And I just love that.
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Talking about how biology
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and science just confirms
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things that we did. Yeah. I
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love that. So when we were thinking about this episode,
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even though it was going to be a more lighthearted episode,
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I was like, Oh, we should try and draw in some of the science
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because we're science professionals.
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We might as well
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know what we do love learning. We
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do love learning and we love that you guys love
9:59
to listen to us. get to learn with us. Um,
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we just, uh, you know, pulled a few
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things out that we were going to share with you guys today.
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So on top of the 20 things
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you should never forget in marriage, maybe
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you'll also retain some of this information
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for why I don't know.
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Maybe they'll remember what we're talking
10:18
about with memory. Okay. So in
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the simplest of terms, memory is the
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way we store and retrieve and retrieve
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information. Uh, Wikipedia
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says it's the retention of information over time
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for the purpose of influencing future action,
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which is kind of what I was talking about at the beginning of the
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episode or what you were, I should say, is
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that's the purpose God designed
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memory into us.
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Yeah. What we said was to remember
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is to apply the lessons of the past to
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the circumstances of today.
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A simple example of that
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is, and we learned this as children, um, things
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that hurt us. Things like fire burns,
10:54
right? You remember, you remember that for a long time. It's got a very
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visceral, um, response
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in our body. And so our flesh
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learns real early. I should not
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touch fire because that does not feel good. Right.
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So, okay. So then Johns
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Hopkins medicine says, according
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to scientists, memories are formed as a
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result of connections between neurons in
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the brain. New connections or synapses
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are formed each time a new activity is
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learned. The more a person participates
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in a particular activity, the stronger the synapses
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and associated memories tied to the activity
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become,
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which that's a good reminder and
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a warning. The kinds of things that we do
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over and over again, right?
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They become things that,
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um, our, our minds remember,
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they call them neural pathways. And
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it, the more that pathway is trampled
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on, the easier that pathway is to, is
11:47
to walk. There's a, there's a book
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I read a long time ago that talked about this
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for a specific subject, but
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doing things over and over again is a very powerful way
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of remembering something could be good and bad.
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Yeah. So for a good example,
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I mean, this is just really simple, but everybody will probably
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have a memory flood them right now. But
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just think of grandma's house. Everybody
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going to grandma's house has that memory of like
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what it looked like, what it felt like, or
12:12
that blue carpet or the way it smelled.
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I don't know. Um, the things that
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you did with grandma when you visited
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my grandpa had a very specific clone. I
12:21
think it was Stetson and he,
12:23
and it was the only one he ever wore. And so
12:26
his, it always, he always smelled like Stetson.
12:27
See, so our memories
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are very, very interesting
12:32
as I was doing a little bit of research for this episode
12:34
too, of just, um,
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how the science community has, uh, tried
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to
12:40
in a way dissect, okay, what is memory
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and then define it. Um,
12:45
it's, it still seems like such a mysterious
12:47
thing. It's kind of like when I think about a computer,
12:50
like how is a machine doing
12:52
all of this?
12:53
What you see visually, you know,
12:54
it's strange. I
12:57
was thinking the same thing that
12:58
even though they can explain maybe
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how it works, like, oh, it's neurons being formed,
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but I don't think they can still
13:05
understand how our brain is actually storing
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because like we can all have like images
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and we can remember smells
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and sounds and where does that
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exist? How does that exist
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in our, in the neurons in our brain? It's crazy.
13:19
Yeah.
13:20
But as they try to grasp for how
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exactly it all works, they have defined a few things
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for us. So I thought I would just share what
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some of these things are. So, um, working
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memory is that short term, smaller
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capacity of recalling information.
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Okay.
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Um, it's kind of
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what helps you make a quick
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decision or make a behavior and choose a
13:41
behavior. Okay. Um, explicit
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memory is the more long-term
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recollection or awareness through associations.
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So those are kind of like the two main, like
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what memory is, and then they break it down even further.
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So there's episodic memory,
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which is your kind of everyday experiences,
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what it's,
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you know, you remember what your house is like or where
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you put things. Um, yeah,
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like in the middle of the night when it's pitch black in my room, I can walk
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from my, my side of my bed all
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the way to the bathroom and not hit any walls.
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Well, I have pitch black. Yes.
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I can reach from my phone in one, one take and grab
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it. Oh, there you go. Um, and
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then semantic memory are like,
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think of like fact flash cards, general
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knowledge.
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Yeah. This one's flash
14:25
cards is not, I'm not good at that. You actually
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are. This is like, you know, all those random
14:30
bits of information, like, is that what this would count
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as? Yeah. Yeah. Um, like
14:35
how many bones the human body has those
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kinds of like, no, but you do know
14:40
a lot of facts because you're, you're that
14:42
guy at the part, that's a hard one. You're the guy at the party
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where you'll, you'll be in a conversation with someone and
14:46
you just start. If it's about like a movie,
14:48
maybe movie quotes. Yeah. Or,
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or I can, I have a really good, I
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do a really good time of, or do a good job of
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remembering useless facts. I have a
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lot of storage for that.
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Yeah. Well, that would
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be there. So then, um, procedural memory
15:03
is how we do things. So the procedure
15:05
of it, uh, playing guitar,
15:08
you know, something like that, riding a bike and
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then sensory memory, which is site, sound,
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smell, touch, taste,
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all of that. Okay. So, so
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when I say I'm, I have a bad memory, really,
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I just have
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parts of my memory that are bad. Like I'm looking at these and
15:24
like, okay, um, some of these I'm not
15:26
that great with. Like explicit memory.
15:29
Yeah. Yeah. The long-term recollection of
15:31
things. I'm not good
15:32
at it. I wish that I was better, but that's one of the reasons
15:34
we wanted to do this episode is cause I think we all
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are aware of how, uh, our
15:40
memory can be
15:41
good or bad. And for many
15:43
of us, we probably just need to work on it a little bit, which is
15:45
the encouragement that we actually can
15:48
help our memory. Um, this
15:50
one vlogger I was watching was saying, you
15:52
know, if you're, if you're healthy and you
15:54
get good rest and sleep, which is huge for
15:57
memory and the way that our brains process information.
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eating good brain foods, challenging
16:02
our brain to work to remember. So like
16:05
repetition, working that muscle out. Yeah, it's
16:07
like a muscle. It creates those neural
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pathways, which you already mentioned, and
16:11
it can be made stronger. So the
16:14
encouragement today for all of us listening is we
16:16
just wanted to inspire each other to work
16:19
better at having a good memory
16:21
because, and we'll talk about it in a minute, there are
16:23
things, especially in marriage, that we need
16:25
to remember. So
16:27
before we get there, why do we
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forget? Why are there things that we forget?
16:33
That's
16:35
as hard as it is for me to explain how we even
16:37
remember things. Why
16:40
we might forget those things. Where does it go?
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I
16:42
don't know. There are some things that I really want to remember,
16:45
like even just some silly, but like lyrics
16:47
to a song. I'm like, sometimes
16:50
they stick like glue, like first time right away.
16:52
Other times I'm like, I can't.
16:55
See, song lyrics, like things like that.
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I've never, I would say I've never been good at
17:00
it, but I also don't care.
17:01
Yeah. Well, I think caring is a big
17:03
part of why we forget things. Yeah.
17:06
Is there a initial desire of like, oh, I want
17:08
to be good at this thing or I enjoy
17:11
this thing or I
17:13
want to recall this for the future.
17:15
So people that, you know,
17:18
work in specific careers or fields,
17:21
like the medical field, they focus on this one
17:23
thing because they want to be the best at it. So they
17:26
start retaining things in that
17:28
area. And I would imagine they probably forget
17:31
other things that have nothing to do with that. It's like your
17:33
brain lets go of the non-essential.
17:35
Yeah. Yeah. Okay.
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So do you think that there is,
17:42
that our memory is unlimited
17:44
or that there is a capacity? Well
17:47
mine's very limited. But I
17:49
don't think that's true. I
17:52
think, I think God's pretty incredible and
17:54
he's made our brains to be miraculous.
17:57
I mean, there's, there's people
17:59
that have. Um, there's a, there's a word for
18:01
it in here. I can't see it on the note. Oh, is it hyper
18:03
thymhesia hyper thymhesia?
18:06
They have perfect recollection.
18:08
Yeah. But okay. So that
18:10
is when somebody can recall something like
18:12
perfectly. So there's some people's
18:15
brains, like everything, every experience,
18:17
every fact, everything they can hold it all. Yeah.
18:21
So I would imagine this probably our brains are probably
18:23
capable of remembering quite a bit.
18:25
So I think that's true. But
18:27
can we just talk about there are people in the world
18:29
that have this condition hyper thymhesia,
18:32
but I, I think it would be more of a curse. I
18:35
mean, as far as like,
18:37
we want good memory, but we don't want to remember
18:39
everything because think about it. There's, there's
18:42
even traumatic or, you know, hard situations
18:45
that you've experienced. Let's
18:47
say, um, you know, you forgiven someone who's
18:49
hurt you.
18:51
We tend to be able to forget what has
18:55
happened, but for someone who can't like, that would be
18:57
really hard. Well, a thought I just had
18:59
is we were just reading Genesis one
19:02
to the kids this morning. And we were talking about how
19:04
man is made in God's image and
19:07
God is eternal.
19:08
And it even talks about how the
19:11
amount of thoughts he has towards us that,
19:13
that, that we don't know. And that
19:16
we've been in his mind
19:18
from even before we were born. So
19:21
if you think about, so we're made in his image, he's made
19:23
us able to have memory. I
19:25
mean, he has eternal knowledge.
19:28
Is this, is it memory or is it just a
19:30
constant state of knowing, but
19:33
he knows all
19:34
and he remembers all and he, but
19:36
he, and then later on even says he, but
19:39
he forgets our sin. He does not
19:41
see it anymore, which is an amazing
19:43
concept to think that
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God, the creator who has all knowledge,
19:48
all memory, all, he knows
19:50
all this stuff.
19:52
We'll let go of some of that
19:53
intentionally so that we can have
19:55
a relationship with him through Christ. Listen
19:58
to what it says in Jeremiah 31 34.
19:59
And no longer shall each one teach
20:02
his neighbor and each his brother saying, know
20:04
the Lord, for they shall all know me from
20:06
the least of them to the greatest, declares the Lord,
20:08
for I will forgive their iniquity and I will
20:10
remember their sins no more. That's
20:13
pretty awesome. Yeah.
20:15
So he's choosing to forget our
20:17
sins in Christ, which
20:19
is amazing. When
20:21
we were doing this, the
20:24
notes for this episode, there was two movies
20:26
that stood out to me.
20:28
One of them was Inside
20:30
Out, which- The Pixar
20:32
animated film? Yeah, I thought that was a really
20:34
creative way to kind
20:37
of put in picture form an explanation
20:39
of how the mind works for kids. Like, I
20:41
don't know, did you like that movie? I loved it. I thought
20:43
it was really cool. And then the other one was Remembering
20:47
Frozen 2. Everyone's like, no, don't
20:49
say that. When Olaf
20:52
is talking about how water has memory. And
20:54
I just thought that was really funny.
20:56
And then the whole time me and my kids were talking about
20:58
it, mom, does water actually have memory?
21:00
We're like, we don't know. Anyways,
21:04
it has nothing to do with what we're talking about today. But here
21:06
we go.
21:08
Okay, so we were talking about, so why- Yeah,
21:11
why do we forget? So
21:13
if you guys want the scientific terms, there's
21:15
three different ways we forget
21:18
things. The first one is passive
21:21
oblivescence. So like obliviousness.
21:24
It's just the fading of information. It's just
21:26
like, I don't know where it went. I can't recall
21:28
it. There's one
21:30
called targeted forgetting, which
21:33
is when, it's already mentioned, but at night
21:35
when you get rest, like our brains are processing
21:37
all the information that we gathered that day. And
21:40
it's basically throwing out for
21:42
us or purging the information that it thinks
21:44
we don't need.
21:46
Man, how's our brain decided that is? I don't
21:48
know. And then the third
21:50
one is motivated forgetting, which you kind
21:52
of just brought up with the Lord in this very intentional,
21:55
I'm going to forget this. I'm
21:57
not gonna remember it anymore. And
21:59
for us.
21:59
like intentionally suppressing information
22:02
helps us to specifically regulate emotions
22:05
tied to those things.
22:07
So suppressing bad
22:09
memories. I don't like that. I don't
22:11
want to think about that anymore. Yeah. Okay. So
22:13
those are the three ways we forget things in case you guys
22:16
ever wanted to know. That's
22:18
crazy. So I mentioned
22:21
how I have bad memory, but you keep telling me I don't have a bad
22:23
memory. I don't. I'm
22:25
sure everybody gets frustrated with their inability
22:27
to remember things at times. But I think overall
22:29
you actually do have a very sharp
22:31
memory.
22:32
There's certain kinds of like, yeah, certain
22:34
kinds of memories. I'm better at like for some reason I
22:36
don't have a great
22:38
long term memory like that for my
22:40
past as a child. Not that I think
22:42
I'm suppressing anything on purpose. I just think I
22:44
haven't remembered a lot of stuff, but
22:46
you're right. There's other kinds of things that I'm good at remembering
22:49
like facts and different
22:51
ideas and concepts and a lot of biblical
22:53
stuff. I feel like a lot of that's stuck with me
22:55
for some reason.
22:56
I will say that because
22:58
I've had the opportunity to do interviews with
23:00
you or like talking to other people and just meeting
23:02
new people. Your
23:05
timeline doesn't always add up. Dates
23:09
of things or when things happen. And I don't
23:11
know
23:11
why that is. Maybe because my memory
23:13
compresses everything so much. I've been in
23:15
a conversation with you where like we're rolling
23:17
through like what the next year is going to look like. And it'll
23:19
be like September and you're like, so what's
23:22
next month, January? And I'm like, what? I don't
23:24
have enough room in my mind for all this information. It's
23:26
useless. About normal things. It's
23:30
just funny. So this is a good episode for me to be thinking
23:32
about. Pay attention, Eun. Because simple
23:35
things like my kids' birthdays. I know that sounds funny,
23:37
but if you ask me what
23:40
my kids' birthdays are on the spot, I'm going to stumble.
23:42
No, you're going to say, Jen, what was it? Yeah, I
23:44
can be like, I think it's like in December. No,
23:47
I was like, Wyatt, what day is your birthday? All my kids
23:49
know their birthdays. But you just admitted
23:51
like five minutes ago or something like that, maybe 20. I
23:54
don't know that there are
23:56
some things we don't remember because we just don't
23:58
care. Do you feel like? there's parts
24:00
of what we're talking about that you're like,
24:03
well, I just haven't cared enough about those
24:05
things. Well, yes, I think
24:07
in some sense, not that I don't care about my kids
24:09
birthdays, I think it's like, I haven't put
24:11
the care into remembering
24:14
them storing those like, Oh, I'm going to need that in the future. But
24:17
I have done that. So one of the things I do is I
24:19
put all the birthdays in my calendar, right? And it tells
24:22
you which, well, the simple act of
24:24
adding them in my calendar, and then
24:26
them coming up helps solidify
24:28
those in my brain. But
24:31
yeah, so I've tried there. There's things like
24:34
a long time ago, a friend of ours did
24:36
this whole demonstration, we had a marriage
24:38
ministry and there was, there was probably what 50
24:41
leaders or so 30 leaders or
24:43
so.
24:44
And he wanted to add a leadership training.
24:47
He wanted to show how we can all be
24:49
good
24:50
people who are a good name remembers.
24:52
If you ever talk to someone, I'm
24:54
not good at remembering names. Okay. I
24:57
used to say that. And he started off with saying, stop saying, you're not good at remembering
25:00
names. And I'm like, Oh, so I should just say something better.
25:02
We talked about positive affirmations a few episodes ago. So
25:06
I stopped saying immediately, I'm bad at saying
25:08
yet remembering names. And I just, I
25:10
don't say that to people anymore. And
25:12
what happens is you actually start to remember
25:15
better when you tell yourself you can remember people's names.
25:17
Well, also you're intentional about trying to remember
25:19
people's names. And so you'll immediately repeat
25:22
their name or you'll say it a few times. Like
25:24
I've seen you do this. So that's part
25:26
of the working the muscle where you actually can work
25:28
on your memory.
25:29
Yeah. He went around
25:31
the room and he said every single person's name
25:33
out of all 50 of us in a
25:35
circle without skipping a beat. And
25:37
I couldn't have named two thirds of
25:40
the room. Not that I, I mean, I knew them in passing, but
25:42
I didn't have like close relationships with all those people. So
25:45
he gave tips on like, yeah,
25:47
repeat their name when you first meet them, say it several times
25:50
in the sentence, in a sentence while you're talking to them.
25:52
And then something I also practice is when
25:55
it comes to names is even if I think I'm
25:57
going to say their name wrong, I say it.
25:59
So what that does is that gets me in this confidence of like, oh
26:02
no, I do know their name. Yeah. And then they're like,
26:04
no, it's not that. I'm like, Ooh, but I was really close. Or
26:06
I'll say like, I was actually the first thing I was going to say, but
26:08
I didn't say it because I wasn't confident,
26:11
but
26:12
yeah. So there's, there's definitely ways we can get
26:14
better at remembering things. Well,
26:17
should we jump into the list? Yeah, this
26:19
is, yeah. 20 things. Not an exhaustive
26:21
list, but it is an interesting list. We
26:24
came up for you to share
26:26
just to get your minds wrapped around marriage
26:28
and maybe things that you haven't been thinking
26:31
about lately, or like maybe you can use this as
26:33
like a time to evaluate. Um,
26:35
and it might be intentional to remember these things
26:37
and why is it important? So
26:39
why don't you kick us off with the first one?
26:41
So definitely do not
26:44
forget
26:45
your anniversary. That a simple
26:47
one. Yeah. This
26:49
is a, this seems funny, but this is
26:51
a common thing. Not that we don't
26:54
know about our anniversary, but life
26:56
gets busy. We're not paying attention. Days past
26:58
eight weeks past where we're busy. Things are
27:00
happening. Um, you could be in a season
27:03
of just being overwhelmed. A season of like lots of planning,
27:05
a season of lots of execution. And then
27:07
you're
27:08
like, Oh no, is my anniversary
27:10
next week? And you're like, or, or you
27:12
just forget altogether. Why is it important
27:14
to remember your anniversary? Well, it's, it's a, it's
27:17
just a, it's a conscious decision
27:20
to
27:20
remember this, to celebrate your anniversary.
27:23
It's remembering something important to your
27:25
spouse. And I would
27:27
even say, so one of the tips we give is set
27:29
an alarm, of course, like I did with my kid's birthdays, but
27:32
I would say settle arm a month in advance
27:35
to give yourself time to prepare because then
27:37
you can, then you can schedule out a dinner. You can figure
27:40
out. Really? We're not saying don't forget
27:42
your anniversary. We're saying don't forget to celebrate
27:44
your anniversary, which is even more intentional
27:46
of, of, you know, getting
27:49
her those flowers or getting him that gift,
27:51
you know, whatever it is. So we're
27:52
making sure to like, there's that restaurant
27:54
that you've been wanting to go to, but it's always booked
27:57
and you're never booking it out far enough. Get that babysitter.
27:59
Yeah.
27:59
Go have fun. All the things. All the things.
28:02
Okay, two, number two, don't
28:04
forget to go the distance to gift your
28:06
love to your spouse. So again,
28:09
maybe not all the time. Are you talking
28:11
about giving gifts or gifting your love as
28:13
in?
28:13
It could look different for everybody,
28:16
but I think the message
28:18
here is don't forget to love
28:21
on them. And it could look
28:23
like giving a gift. It could just look like
28:26
a loving gesture, but
28:29
loving them, loving on them.
28:31
Remembering that you do love them. Yeah.
28:33
I mean, again, this sounds simple, but
28:37
we just, we become ships that
28:39
pass in the night sometimes. We're all doing our
28:41
things and we forget.
28:42
And the reason we say go the distance is because I think
28:45
sometimes even like the
28:47
smaller gestures or the easy ones,
28:49
it's like, okay, those are, even on
28:52
autopilot, you can do that. Say I
28:54
love you in passing or whatever, but if you're
28:56
going the distance, you're really putting some thoughtfulness
28:58
to it. And I think we need that
29:00
in marriage. Yeah.
29:02
Number three, don't forget to kiss.
29:05
What? Do
29:07
we forget to kiss sometimes? Yeah. A lot
29:10
actually. Yeah. We actually
29:12
talked about this and I was like, we should be, we should like just do
29:14
a challenge. We're going to kiss every day. And
29:16
we like immediately forgot.
29:19
We're like, wait, we looked at each other. It
29:21
was like the next day or two days later, we're
29:23
like, oh, we didn't even do that. That
29:25
thing we just said we were going
29:26
to do. I like your note here. It says
29:28
don't shoot straight for the prize without warming things up throughout
29:30
the day. Like if you're married, you know what we're talking
29:33
about. You need a flirt. Yeah. It's
29:35
amazing how powerful this one thing can be that
29:39
throughout the day, taking a moment, there's
29:41
challenges out there. Like kiss for more than three
29:43
seconds, kiss for five seconds, like
29:46
have a real kiss, not just a peck on the lips, but
29:48
like make out with your wife, make out with your husband.
29:52
It's an amazing thing to, amazing
29:54
way to connect physically throughout the day. That's
29:56
not necessarily sexual. I
29:59
mean, it is sexual, but it's not. Yeah, that makes
30:01
sense. So number four would be don't forget
30:04
to affirm each other often I mean
30:06
we all need it and if you want to learn
30:08
about affirmation go back a few episodes
30:11
ago I listen to our episode on affirmation
30:13
do it give that encouragement send that verse
30:16
and that text write a letter call them But
30:19
we all need we all need that affirmation. We
30:21
all struggle with the temptation to have Insecurities
30:24
doubts frustrations and we need to be
30:26
encouraged on a daily basis. So don't
30:28
forget to do that for each other
30:30
number five Don't forget your
30:33
spouse does not Exist
30:35
just to serve you but that's why
30:37
I got married Yeah, they're not there like
30:40
oh my wife needs just be making me happy needs
30:42
to be serving me all the time My husband needs to be just that's
30:45
not what your spouse is there for him.
30:48
It's a part of it Serving you is definitely
30:50
a part of
30:51
their role as your spouse
30:52
I'm gonna add to this one just because for
30:54
me like I know that I struggle with this that
30:56
it's not a matter of you Serving me per se
30:59
but it is There's a
31:01
love me serving you I do love you serving me
31:03
But there's also just this overall codependency
31:05
on you that like like if you
31:07
want to hang out with your guy friends It's I get this. Well,
31:10
why don't you want to hang out with me? Why
31:12
don't you come work from home? Why don't you be close to
31:14
me like this constant need for
31:16
your
31:17
Presence your affection your
31:19
help help. Yeah, it's all of it. So
31:21
it's not just even serving. It's just all of it So
31:24
I put some to add to that I put
31:26
some notes here. They're your friend. They're
31:28
your partner. They are the lover They're
31:30
helper your helper your teammate.
31:33
Yeah, like all these things But
31:35
they also are an individual and
31:38
so I think we should be mindful of how
31:40
we are How
31:43
how we are being thoughtful
31:45
of their yeah personhood
31:49
What do they need what do they need? Yeah. Yeah thinking
31:52
about the other person. That's good Okay, number
31:54
six. Don't forget you are still dating
31:56
just because you're married doesn't mean that
31:58
you're off the hook Oh, dating only happened
32:01
while we were dating. I did love dating
32:03
you. That was fun. But being
32:05
married is still fun. Couples
32:07
don't like to be on autopilot or feel
32:09
like they're roommates. We kind of already mentioned that, but if
32:12
you need to schedule a date night, if you
32:16
need to make it more routine just to be
32:19
familiar with that and remember it, do that if
32:21
you need to. But don't forget
32:23
that you guys are still dating and
32:26
you need that time together. Mm-hmm. Number
32:29
seven,
32:30
don't forget your spouse has weaknesses
32:32
and breaking points.
32:34
That's a good one. Like, I mean, for husbands
32:36
specifically, the Bible tells
32:38
us that our wives are fragile, that
32:40
they are like fine china, that
32:42
they're the Bible says the weaker vessel.
32:45
And it's not putting them beneath us. What that's doing is it is
32:47
explaining that they have
32:50
weaknesses, they are fragile, and that we need to handle
32:52
them with care. And so
32:55
remembering, and husbands too, as
32:58
men, we have emotional breaking
33:01
points. We have mental breaking
33:03
points. Not that we're having emotional
33:04
breakdowns and mental breakdowns, but I mean,
33:06
some people actually do. But recognizing
33:09
that we have kind of- We're not superhuman. Yeah,
33:11
we can't handle everything all the time
33:13
and do all of the things perfectly. So
33:16
just remember that your spouse,
33:19
that they have
33:20
weaknesses and breaking points.
33:23
And I'd love to add, I keep adding notes,
33:25
sorry, making this an even longer
33:27
list, but with
33:29
this one, if your spouse has
33:31
communicated
33:32
to you that
33:34
they are at a breaking point or they are feeling
33:37
emotional or sensitive for whatever reason,
33:39
and maybe they told you that, and now we're on the
33:42
next day, like
33:42
don't forget. Remember
33:45
that they just told you that because you might start the
33:48
day off feeling great and they're
33:50
still stuck in this low
33:52
place. And if you forget, you're
33:54
gonna meet them in that
33:57
place of tension. I'm saying this because
33:59
it's happening.
33:59
to us and it happened recently where
34:02
I was feeling
34:03
down and in a hard place and
34:06
I had communicated
34:08
that to you and then the next day
34:11
there was a moment where you
34:13
move on like life's normal
34:15
and I felt rushed and frustrated
34:19
over the way that you had communicated
34:21
with me and I
34:23
could have walked with you in a little bit better
34:25
grace and but you have weaknesses but
34:27
I have weaknesses and so I guess my
34:30
my note here is just that when
34:33
your spouse does communicate or you just see
34:35
it like remember that it doesn't just
34:37
go away in a day it sometimes it takes
34:39
time
34:40
so I hope I I agree explain
34:42
that well I'm sorry number
34:45
eight don't forget the plans
34:47
they made this is huge well
34:51
because I don't know if this
34:53
is like a husband and wife thing you
34:56
know like everyone can relate
34:58
to this but I'll plan something
35:00
and I'll share hey
35:02
this thing's coming up hey this thing's coming up hey
35:04
this thing's here well sometimes you don't
35:07
share the plan and I find out
35:09
the day of the plan so that doesn't
35:11
count but there are times that you do tell me I think we
35:13
both do it to each other but
35:15
just not planning over each
35:17
other being thoughtful like oh I think something
35:19
happened again having a family calendar
35:22
well we finally had to because we were doing this
35:26
to each other actually yeah you had your own calendar I had
35:28
my own calendar I was like no this is happening today you're like nope
35:30
this is happening today I remember this okay double
35:32
booking our families
35:33
yeah which I've been getting more and more
35:36
like you know um when
35:38
ads or you know Instagram suggests
35:41
things to you or Facebook suggests things to you um
35:45
there's this company out there that makes like a
35:48
family calendar that sits on your counter
35:50
and it's all digital like digitized but
35:53
it's pretty cool I don't know what it's
35:55
called okay it exists
35:57
but now everyone listening to this is gonna start getting that out
36:00
on their Facebook. So
36:02
you're welcome. Okay. Number
36:05
nine. Number nine, don't forget to follow
36:07
through because your word is part
36:09
of integrity. You're either walking in it or you're
36:12
choosing not to. And this is a
36:14
big deal in marriage because we
36:16
hurt each other when we don't follow through with what we
36:18
say we're going to do.
36:18
This is a big deal in parenting. How
36:21
many times do we tell our kids, oh, tomorrow night for
36:24
something. Our kids are always like, will you snuggle me?
36:26
Like every night they want to say, well, we can't tonight.
36:29
Like, will you do tomorrow? If you tell
36:31
them yes, like, make sure you follow through
36:33
that. Okay.
36:34
Number 10, don't
36:37
forget the boundaries. Like
36:39
any boundaries, all boundaries, all
36:42
boundaries. So social media,
36:44
dealing with opposite sex in laws,
36:46
money, money. Yeah. Whatever
36:48
boundaries you guys have set, whatever boundaries the word
36:51
is set. Like, you know,
36:53
remember those boundaries and
36:56
this will protect your marriage. If
36:58
you walk in, that's what boundaries are for. Yeah. Like, can you
37:00
go to the zoo? Do you go over the boundaries
37:03
into the lion's cage? But I thought about it now. A lot
37:05
of people have, and there's
37:07
lots of videos about that, but
37:09
boundaries, they're literally a man for there
37:12
to show what's your territory and
37:14
to keep you safe from outside that territory.
37:17
Number 11, don't forget to walk spiritually
37:19
together. It's not just going to happen
37:22
magically. You have to be doing it
37:24
and you have to be checking in on each other. Ask, ask
37:26
each other, have you been reading the word? Have
37:28
you been digging in? What have you been learning? Where has
37:30
God been teaching you? Um, and,
37:33
and prayer is a part of that. Do you want to pray together?
37:35
Have you been praying? You know, what's
37:38
that like? So
37:39
that's a major one. That should have been number one. Number 12,
37:44
don't forget what attracted you to each
37:46
other.
37:47
This is a big, I think this is a big one. It's good.
37:50
What attracted you to each other, like back
37:52
then, like when you said I do, but also
37:54
what it
37:55
makes you to each other now. Yeah, because things
37:57
change. I should, I'll say develop over. over
38:00
time. Like, I'm saying we get older
38:02
and we get, our character
38:04
gets even stronger and better. Yeah,
38:07
sometimes we change for the better. Sometimes we change for the
38:09
worse, but there's always something to look to,
38:13
always something to remember and
38:15
say, oh, you know, I actually love this
38:16
so much about it. Number 13,
38:19
don't forget you already forgave them. This
38:23
is when you don't need to remember, oh,
38:26
everything. This is one of the things we
38:28
should forget. When the Bible says love keeps
38:30
no record of wrongs. Exactly. Yeah.
38:34
Yeah, if we say we forgive,
38:36
because we should, we're commanded to, and
38:40
yet we bring that thing up every
38:42
single time, then did you really
38:45
forgive? And this is a hard one for us. We've
38:47
talked about this in the past, about forgiveness and
38:49
repentance and- I think if the
38:51
Lord's willing to forgive us and remember
38:53
our sins no more, we need to be able to walk like
38:56
that in marriage.
38:57
And it's exactly what Jesus
38:59
tells us to do, that we must forgive each other. So
39:03
yeah, number 14, don't forget
39:05
you sin too. Ouch. So
39:08
when you're in that heated
39:10
moment or feeling frustrated
39:13
by your spouse because their sin has
39:15
affected you and hurt you and hurt your marriage,
39:18
just remember,
39:19
you have sin too.
39:20
Yeah, and we all do. And
39:22
not that we should ever overlook
39:24
sin because of that. I guess in like, don't
39:26
say anything, but having that understanding,
39:29
that base foundation, I was like, well, you're
39:31
a sinner, I'm a sinner. Helps you forgive,
39:34
helps you reconcile, helps you walk in
39:36
truth and in love. So it's just remember
39:39
we all have sinned. What is it? First
39:41
John says, if anyone says they do not have sin, they're a liar and the
39:43
truth is not in them. Yeah.
39:45
Crazy. Okay, number 15, I
39:47
like this one. Don't forget to do things together
39:50
and not just make plans separately. Because
39:52
sometimes we can get in a mode of like, oh,
39:54
here's a free pocket of time. I'm gonna go do
39:56
this thing over here. And then the next
39:58
day, she says.
39:59
I'm gonna take this time over
40:01
here and then eventually you guys realize. Months have gone by and
40:03
you only do things alone. Yeah, don't do that. Doing
40:05
things alone could be necessary sometimes. Sure.
40:08
There's times that I go watch a movie by myself but
40:11
I don't do that often. But a
40:13
lot of the stuff we do together. Yeah. And
40:15
so. It's good. Number 16, don't
40:17
forget to have fun. Together. I
40:21
feel like I have to remind you of this one sometimes. I
40:24
do. I get like, I have
40:26
to do this. Especially with my kids with you sometimes like,
40:29
I don't know what it is. Maybe it
40:31
was genetic the way I was raised.
40:32
Maybe some personality. But I have to like,
40:34
tell myself like, no, have fun right
40:36
now. Don't be a stick in the mud. That's
40:39
what I have to tell myself. So
40:41
maybe you listening needed to hear that.
40:43
Don't forget to have fun.
40:44
Number 17, don't forget
40:46
to explore together. We've
40:49
talked about this a lot. We are. I
40:51
think. One of our favorite things to do is explore and adventure together.
40:53
One especially just to bring it back up. We've already mentioned
40:55
like couples don't like to be on autopilot and it's
40:58
so easy to find yourself there where you're just kind of going
41:00
through the motions. If you're
41:02
week to week is feeling boring or tedious
41:05
or monotonous, which by the way, in our notes, I
41:08
had to look up how
41:10
to spell up monotonous because it's not a word
41:12
I use all the time. Oh man. I
41:14
spelled it like four different ways.
41:15
Min-not-t-ness. Min-not-t-ne-ot-ness.
41:18
Min-not-t-ness. Min-ot-t-ness.
41:21
Anyways, here's your word. Ready? Go.
41:24
Go have fun. Go explore. Go
41:27
do something. This is your
41:28
permission. Okay. Just a quick note.
41:30
We lived in California for most of our lives and
41:33
most of California we never explored.
41:35
Is that silly? Like there's so many things in California
41:38
I'm like, no. Have you ever been,
41:40
no. We're kind of creatures of habit in the sense that
41:42
like you kind of get in your routine of like school,
41:45
work, friends, family,
41:47
neighborhood.
41:48
We just went with for
41:50
like the third or fourth time to Crater Lake here
41:52
in central Oregon. It's a national park. It's
41:55
beautiful. And we took my parents and
41:57
I talked to someone that has lived here their whole
41:59
life.
41:59
lives and has never been to Crater Lake
42:02
and it's only a couple hour drive and
42:04
it's beautiful. And so
42:06
wherever you're at, you have things around
42:08
you to go explore and you're just not thinking about
42:10
it.
42:10
Yeah, go explore stuff and find what
42:12
those things are. Yeah. Be the
42:15
one person that everyone's like, wow, you've done all those things in our area.
42:17
You're like, oh yeah. And why is it
42:19
important? Because it draws you guys close together
42:21
in an experience and you're forming that memory.
42:24
You're making a memory together of something
42:26
really spectacular. You know, maybe it's
42:28
something natural that the Lord has made and you get
42:30
to sit there and be
42:33
in wonder about it, but
42:35
maybe it's just a walk.
42:37
Maybe it's just getting outside. Maybe
42:39
for some of you, it's hard to get outside. I don't know. That's
42:42
good. Yeah. Number 18, we're
42:44
almost done. Don't forget to say, I love
42:47
you.
42:48
Don't just assume they know,
42:49
tell them often. And
42:52
the best way to tell someone you love them is
42:54
by your actions. Show them
42:57
all the time that you love them.
42:59
I think with that whole don't assume that they
43:01
know is something
43:03
where you end up regretting later.
43:06
Um, if you, you know, something tragic
43:08
happens or something like nobody's guaranteed tomorrow.
43:11
Nobody's guaranteed the next five minutes and
43:13
you just don't know. And so it's really important
43:15
that we can
43:16
be mindful of what it means to say, I
43:19
love you and to say it often and to show it
43:21
often. So a quick
43:23
little, if you don't mind me saying, um,
43:26
we're actually working on some children's books
43:28
around this topic. If you've been following
43:31
us and listening for a very long time, like
43:34
it's been years in the making forever. It took us
43:36
a while to find an artist and then we, we
43:38
found her and they're so beautiful. You
43:40
guys, I'm so excited to share this. And then it
43:42
took time to format and then we
43:45
moved and that was the whole process. And so it got lost
43:47
in the shuffle, but they're so close. I'm
43:49
so excited.
43:50
And we're not going to say the name of the titles, but
43:52
it's around this idea of how to say,
43:54
I love you. Okay. So
43:56
that's coming. Um, where are we at? What number
43:58
are we on?
43:59
Don't forget your vows and the commitment
44:02
that you made to each other. They're not
44:04
just words. They were a declarative promise
44:06
and we should remember them often.
44:08
That's good. Last one, but
44:10
not least, don't forget
44:13
to initiate also. To
44:16
T-O-O. Don't forget to initiate.
44:21
If the husband or the wife, if one
44:23
of you is always doing the initiation
44:25
of sexual intimacy or
44:28
spiritual intimacy
44:30
or going on adventures or
44:33
dating, if there's one of you that's kind of doing
44:35
the moving of that, first of all,
44:38
kudos to you. But don't
44:41
let them be the only one doing it. Initiate.
44:44
Make it a mutual initiation where you desire
44:47
to, as the word says, outdo one
44:49
another in honor. That you're seeking to,
44:51
you're like, oh, you initiate. I'm going
44:54
to initiate more than you. And
44:56
then you guys do this good
44:58
fight of initiation. You
45:00
won't regret it. I promise.
45:01
We were just talking to the kids about the good fight of
45:03
like, we don't want you guys to argue just
45:05
for the sake of arguing or fighting, you know, but
45:08
if you all have said you may not do each other
45:10
with kindness and we're like, yes. So she gave
45:12
an example of like, you can go first. You
45:14
can go first. No, you go first. I'm like, yeah, that's kind of
45:16
arguing. I want to see.
45:18
Yeah, I would love that. Okay. So
45:20
that's the list of 20 things you should never forget
45:23
in marriage, but there's one more bonus
45:26
round. This is 20 plus one. You
45:28
guys don't forget to remember
45:30
what God has done for the both of you on
45:33
the cross and in your relationship and
45:35
then reminisce together and think about those things.
45:37
Just like he told the people of Israel.
45:40
He wanted them to remember his works for
45:42
them, his efforts in
45:44
their life, what he has done, because when
45:46
you remember those things, you worship
45:48
him
45:49
and you thank him. Amen. We hope
45:52
more than anything that this was a fun episode to listen
45:54
to, but also an encouraging one to
45:56
not forget some very important things when it
45:58
comes to our marriage relationships.
45:59
And not just remember them, but to be
46:02
intentional about them and do them. Okay,
46:05
so to close out for the growth spurt,
46:07
this is the last day of the month. And
46:10
so in August, we've been talking about keeping
46:12
your eyes on the prize and doting over each other.
46:14
And so this is the last day to do that. If you
46:16
guys want to do it right now,
46:19
never do it again. You can never do it again after this. Just
46:21
kidding. You have to do it every day because you're married and
46:23
being married is awesome. And
46:24
don't forget to don't over each other. So
46:27
give a cute glance,
46:30
a wink, an encouraging word,
46:32
whatever you want to let them know that they're your special
46:34
prize. Hand on the lower back. I said a hand on the
46:36
lower back. Just letting them know.
46:38
Only if you're going to massage because I
46:41
need that. A massage would be a good way to do this.
46:43
All right, so challenge
46:45
is that's for you. Do you want to praise?
46:48
Yeah. Dear Lord, thank
46:50
you for the gift of memory.
46:52
Thank you for the ability to remember the important
46:54
things and remember all that you have done for us. We
46:57
pray we would grow in our memory. We pray
46:59
it would grow stronger over time and never
47:01
deteriorate.
47:02
Lord, please help us to not just remember what is
47:05
important, but also be willing to intentionally
47:07
love each other well as we remember
47:10
and pursue these things in marriage.
47:12
We pray our marriage is blessed and that your
47:14
will is done in us. In Jesus name,
47:17
Amen.
47:56
Amen. the
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