Click the link below to purchase my online course. Just starting the course is creating rituals of connection and then as you continue to work on the course, you can bring intentionality to how you want to add rituals of connection to your rela

Keep it Moving

Oct 6th, 2022 14m 54s

Charlie and I narrowly avoid many conflicts throughout the day. I often can't remember examples, but one happened yesterday and I needed to share it with you all.Here a few reasons we were able to avoid this conflict and were able to Keep It Mo

The roommate syndrome roadmap. Ways to avoid it altogether or how to live through it intentionally.

Sep 30th, 2022 14m 14s

Intentional Vacation (logistical edition)

Sep 29th, 2022 14m 54s

Get The Color

Sep 27th, 2022 11m 22s

Identifying your character defects

Sep 27th, 2022 23m

Intentional Vacations (couples edition)

Sep 26th, 2022 21m 55s

Have you ever gone on a long waited for vacation with your partner full of expectations of intimacy and quality time only to find yourself watching the sunset alone or sitting in silence at a very fancy, very expensive dinner? It happens, A LO

Everything you knew about conflict should be called into question.

Sep 23rd, 2022 25m 33s

What is your belief system when it comes to conflict? Where did you learn this belief system? How did it come to be formed into this belief system?So much of what was modeled for us by our primary attachment figures, was a conflict style that

Validation is a game changer!

Sep 20th, 2022 12m 32s

"I just want to feel heard and understood." Have those words ever come out of your mouth? Well, I have heard them many times and I have watched as couples struggle to validate one another's perspective and feelings. I have heard every excuse as

The Front Load

Sep 20th, 2022 11m 5s

In my training with the Gottman Institute, I learned how to help couples bring up an issue softly. I feel (insert feeling) about (what is the issue) and I need(what would you like to change or happen). While this is totally cool, adding some po

The Invitation to a Conversation

Sep 20th, 2022 15m 6s

Ok, so I need you to really listen to me here. If you have something important and/or hard that you need to talk to your partner about, you absolutely need to invite them to a conversation instead of just starting up a that conversation. If we

Meditation and the amygdala

Sep 15th, 2022 14m 48s

Create a meditation practice in order to be aware of how you are feeling when you are feeling it, to be able to slow down your reaction to an event and to create a more positive thought process in your life and in your relationship. Have a list

The "mom shoulder"

Sep 14th, 2022 12m 6s

Affection for the safe of affection is pretty rare in married couples who have kids. AND that creates a lot of disconnection and assumptions that could be cleared up by:1. Listen to this episode2. Talk to your partner about this episode3. Ma

Remove distractions to create more rituals of connection.

Sep 14th, 2022 1h 13m

The more opportunities we create for potential positive connections, the more positive connections we have. Distractions tend to steal those opportunities, and we fall prey to the habits we create around these distractions.Pay attention to the

Call it back.

Sep 14th, 2022 9m 1s

My favorite tool to share with clients is the call it back tool. When you bring up a complaint in a harsh way, or you have a certain negative tone of voice or you just start a conversation with your partner with negative vibes, then I want you

Why didn't you do the dishes?

Sep 13th, 2022 9m 55s

We tend to ask why questions to our partner instead of making an I feel statement.When we ask a why question, we are literally asking our partner to explain themselves....aka be defensive. Once that happens then the conflict has become process

Intentionally creating a more positive relationship.

Sep 12th, 2022 19m 27s

I am a pretty big Sublime fan, so I often think of PMA - positive mental attitude when I think about bids to connect, emotional bank account, deposits and the positive perspective. The PMA idea is that if you think positive thoughts and keep yo

Transition to Parenthood, the reconnection edition

Jul 28th, 2020 23m 5s

In this episode I talk about how to stop roommate syndrome from entering your relationship or how to avoid entering into it. There is a time in your relationship when your children are at a certain age that you have a pivotal decision to make.

Things you need to have before starting couples therapy!

Jul 10th, 2020 22m 25s

You will need to be both willing and motivated. The willingness and motivation shows up as a desire to work hard, see your role in the dysfunctional patterns you and your partner established and make changes within yourself to show up as a bett

Transition to Parenthood

Jun 25th, 2020 37m 37s

The transition to parenthood is one of the most challenging we go through in life. However, very little energy is spent on thinking about how bringing a baby into the mix is going to affect the relationship. Instead we spend hours on researchin

Masters and Disasters of Relationships

Jun 12th, 2020 27m 29s

Learn what makes couples masters of their relationship and what makes them disasters. Couples who fall into the disaster category can move over to the masters category with energy, effort, intention and therapy!

Acceptance of differences

May 28th, 2020 20m 17s

When we got married we did not become one person. We are two people in one marriage. We are different people, who came from different families with different want and needs, and those wants and needs often change over time. Learning to except

Validation; Two realities can be true at the same time.

May 22nd, 2020 25m 48s

Helping couples understand that two realities can be true at the same time and that my reality remains true even after I validate my partners reality. Learn more about these concepts and how to do an exercise that can and will change how you pr