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Welcome to the

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Marriages Sexiest Secret

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Okay, so

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today, on this podcast, we're

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Why we chose the subject matter,

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for this month is in the method

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really begin to build the

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relationship. And then another

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we'll be talking from the

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submissives perspective, during

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dynamic? What is a Formal

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Acceptance? And how do you do

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Okay, we have a lot to

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go over here. LK.

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I'm ready.

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All right. Why don't

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you take my hand? Let's do this.

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I thought

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Theresa just something else

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We're gonna do that in the Fox's Den

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It sounds good to me.

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All right.

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Do you want to know a secret?

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SECRET

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Do you want to

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have a secret? A dirty little

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Oh, come on. You must

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be curious.

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Marriage has a

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new secret or relationship

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your marriage ever getting cut.

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Welcome to married with a twist

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Greetings everyone. Mr.

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Fox and little kaninchen or lk?

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Oh man, you

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just told him the secret secret.

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So let's talk community first.

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subMrs. February and review. So

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things self love. And I know all

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you dirty minds out there

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the quote says loving thyself

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helps us love others more. But

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workshop for toys and tools and

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we have a wonderful elf subMrs.

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nice gift.

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It was a it

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was a wonderful discussion. One

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you get your dessert together.

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Just be careful not to get it in

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I was gonna say something's going in the crack

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Yeah, a little

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bit but you have to be careful.

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really one of the best group

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discussions we've ever had about

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discussions we have every single

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month on subMrs. So I encourage

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that your brain is your largest

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sex organ. But even more

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a confidence every single

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Sunday, we posted a great thing

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chakra, great information. If

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you're not a part of

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journey, what steps to take what

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method what parts of the method

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Valentine's night? everybody

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enjoyed that so much. So I would

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I'm gonna leave all

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that with one more comment. And

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just go subMrs.com/events and

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you'll be able to see everything

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goes to the calendar, or

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backslash events, and you'll be

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Yeah, anything

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you want to know about the

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Alright, let's get some good stuff then.

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Okay, the good

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stuff, the cream of the Oreo,

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Yep.

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How to ask for

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Marriage's Sexy Secret Dynamic,

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of it, if you boiled everything

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down, that there's one word that

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going to start,

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Right is crucial if you

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don't put in the work, but you

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and you bring this up to your

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husband or your spouse, if it's

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Yeah. So the

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preparation, we'll just talk

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I'll back us up just a little

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bit and say that you know, your

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something new, that might be a

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little bit shocking. You know,

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You need to build the

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atmosphere, you need to set that

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Yes, the

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framework, that's a good word

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journal or just a notebook and

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start writing some stuff down.

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or some paper, just write down

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these few things in preparation.

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general. You can find those

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terms on subMrs on husDom, you

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Right. So terms would

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be I mean, just some ideas get

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or Dominance and submission

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style relationship, if that's

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down the rabbit hole, but just

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have an idea in your mind

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Right.

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So again, when you're

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reading it, and you go search

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your partner of what this

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relationship or lifestyle is

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Yeah, and if

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you're not sure, we'll just you

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covered this before, but it is

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based on the relationship first,

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There's that question of how

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could you want something like

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promote monogamy. That's one big

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huge difference. I'll just state

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Yeah, I'll just say I

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don't think that's hot topic at

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might draw on their mind

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probably doesn't have to do with

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So the second

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thing I would do is, go through

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or you don't even know what

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those would be, you can get on

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place someplace where cruelty is

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shown. I don't know. You know,

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it's real, and things are

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happening and happening the way

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That's the

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entertainment value I think but

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pain. They don't want to

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disrespect her in any type of

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pictures of somebody humiliating

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and degrading and punishing and

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instantly put up a barrier or a

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wall because he would never want

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into if you get hurt you and it

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becomes a more selfish point of

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Yeah. Like I basically, in the

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whole entire thing says stay

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would say. And back to I think you said

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this in the very beginning of

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people, we would recommend

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starting somewhere where it's

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So I would say

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the next thing is copy excerpts

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can just get your iPad out and

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just show him that. Again. This

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also suggest to him to go to

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husDom.com and register there

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concerns, when they start a

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dynamic like this, he's going to

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And as you're talking

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about that, I can even think of

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resolve the feelings that I was

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feeling inside about, you know,

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anything it was trying to find

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resolution in my own mind and

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Yes. And then,

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you know, I always tell

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would be great that you guys

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have found this couples site.

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just add a lineup of BDSM,

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images, tumblers, again, don't

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doing this as as you're showing

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these pictures, don't just show

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quite like we do or they

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wouldn't guess that we feel. so

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then he can get a better idea of

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what it is that you're wanting,

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Yeah, feelings are

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really powerful. Most guys don't

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think that again, as a man, I'm

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probably just seeing the kink

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popping into his mind. You have

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to express it like lk is saying

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Yes. Well,

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then we get to, once we get

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preparations in order, you're

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going to pick the right time to

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And one of the things

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that I want to say too, is like

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these things in our own

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relationship. There was no

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trying to choose the right time

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and not just choose the right

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Yeah, I'll

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give you just a little This is a

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slept for three days. I think I

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read everything. Then I started

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how this could work for us. Mr.

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Fox is a very dominant person,

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was just like, I got to figure

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out a way to do this. This

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started writing down. How a

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marriage not really think about

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could you make this work? I

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would say it was probably I say

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representation for the married

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couple, monogamous couple. There

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what I did. So yeah, I mean, I

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would say it was weeks and

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But planning the event,

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like what day I would be home

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a lot of preparation and pre

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planning and a whole lot of

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relationship figured out, and

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then came to me with all the

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acceptance until they figure it

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all out, because it's a journey

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like, what would it look like?

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So you can answer those

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So when you're

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picking your time, I kinda like

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Where ther kids are yelling and screaming.

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Yeah, where

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something is stressful, you

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a getaway, someplace where the

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stress is not on.

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Right. And I'm going to

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add to that it's not just like,

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me away and kind of like all

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those got me away from all of

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Yeah, and Mr.

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Fox had the word there, soften

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I'm going to remind all the

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subMrs out there or future

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or make those hard parts soft, I

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guess I don't know where I'm

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No the hard parts are hard.

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Yeah. So like,

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you know, so have lots of sex

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stomach, but it really is the penis.

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Its the penis.

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Then the

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stomach, I would say you have to

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Right? Because I cannot eat.

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Yeah, that's

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what I'm saying. So think about

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the point where you can speak to

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his heart. Some guys you can

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time or setting up the

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atmosphere for everything. You

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gonna get into the atmosphere

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here. But you know, I bought a

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you get out of the shower before

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him, you kind of set up some

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you step out of the shower, and

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you have the lighting, maybe

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and kneel to him, have that all

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set up for him, when he gets

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doing this. So you take his

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hands and you say, you know, I

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are is mine. But you just asked

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him, please, we come in here and

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you just drop your robe. And you

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kneel to him. And you say,

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to just at that point, you have

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to just stop and listen to what

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don't ask, then zip your lips.

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And just listen to what he says.

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of secondary thoughts, you can

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answer those. So you have to

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And also though its the

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power, there's a huge power

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can do that gives somebody the

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most humility is first of all,

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other thing is when somebody

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kneels in front of you is

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my emotions into words about

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like, I didn't understand what

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Dominant. Like she says, just

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wait for an answer. It might

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maybe it was 30 seconds. It felt

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like a lifetime. Like I just,

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Up until that

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point, it was a power struggle

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Yeah. But I don't think there

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were any signs. I mean, there

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Yeah, and I would say you're

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given them a few seconds to

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you're very serious about maybe

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more serious about than just

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marriage, and also do something

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to enrich it and make it a

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Yeah, it's commitment

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and vulnerability, I think. I

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position in front of me. I mean,

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it was, I was awestruck, and

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Yeah. And then

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he may even ask you questions

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sport. Basically this thing

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we're going to do together.

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it's kind of like I scratch your

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back, you scratch mine, you get

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D|s-M dynamic is based on honest

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communication, and healthy

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closet, you're going to have all

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this other things to do that

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responsibilities. And this is

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just not one sided, where the

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knew, blah, blah, blah, you

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know, but we none of us have a

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maybe once he is your dominant,

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they really do start thinking a

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things.

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What I'm about to say

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is not very common, but it does

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that, or however they justified

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in our mind. But it really, that

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mistaking when you're the man

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the level of like lk saying

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be unforgettable. And both of

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your lives very crucial, right

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experience, I think and then

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like, lk said, so there's so

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Yeah, like I

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said, a rite of passage, you

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depends on you know how things

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go, some people are so nervous

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handed it to him like, but then

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they don't feel it as much. So

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kind of a really clusterfuck for

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better other words to use. But I

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the fact and go back over it and

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suggest to him afterwards to

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to other guys at first or feel

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like they don't want to be

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away. And it's really great that

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he gets the gist of from others

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One of the things that

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went through my mind when you're

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it's been if it's five, ten,

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twienty or thirty years ago, I

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minute. Would you remember that

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moment in your life? I mean,

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intimate manner than that. And

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that's the whole purpose of

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Yeah, it's

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it's, and and I tell everybody,

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I mean, it is work. And you do

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have to make your marriage a

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to what he says. And most the

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time everybody kind of reports

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the type of husband that really

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has to know everything before he

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not asking him to like, I don't

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know, cut off his right arm or

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So you're not asking

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him to have any answers. That's

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with me? Like, I don't have it

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figured out? I know, you don't

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Yes, the first

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step is what we're really asking

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Because if you don't

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take that you're not on a

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Right?

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Yeah. And it's

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the best I would say I crack up.

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The research, the

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research, once you get on the

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Yes, yes. And

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it's fun, and you laugh a lot,

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because we quit learning about

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one another. And that's, that's

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partner, but you don't like all

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of us are ever evolving. You

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you really, you take the good

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knowledge you already had. And

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other shoot, some of us hadn't

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seen each other naked for 20

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Yeah. And people will

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have that communication

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started on the journey, they're

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like, I didn't realize the

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Depths that

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they have never went before and

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so you might be coming

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to this with the best

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other that you never know.

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Because every single person I've

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Yeah.

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Out of 20000 people

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yeah, there has not been a

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So well.

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Basically that's our you know,

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time because we know everybody's

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time is so golden

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Are you thinking this dynamic

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could really work for you and

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drink me toss it back and drink

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the Wonderland Kool Aid because

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marriage accessory