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Speaker 1: the next week I'm going to get you. Here's a
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question for you Is marriage overrated? Why aren't people
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getting married anymore? A new Pew Research poll found that two
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and five young adults think marriage is an outdated
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tradition. Speaker 2: Marriage rates are at their lowest right now. Is
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marriage really even worth? Speaker 1: it More than half of marriages and divorce. If you
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get married, that's why you get married, so that's why it's
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declining. Why would you get married if you don't? If you
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want to have just one partner when you can have multiple
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marriage is stupid. Speaker 2: Welcome to the Married Day podcast, the
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self-proclaimed greatest marriage relationship podcast on
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the planet. Self-proclaimed. We're not there yet, but we're
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getting there. We are your host, Matthew and Monica Powers, and
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we are here for another new episode of the podcast. You are
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back from Juarez, mexico.
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Speaker 1: Fresh off it plane. Speaker 2: Yes, like this time yesterday you were still in the
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air, but here we are back recording again. Amazing trip,
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but we're so happy that you're back. Speaker 1: And that's why I sound like this.
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Speaker 2: Yes, from you know the change in temperature, change in atmosphere, all the dust being in the desert. You
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know it's just one of those things that it totally worth it.
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Kind of happens, but it's been a great week. You guys had a
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blast. You did a lot of amazing things. Yes but you're back and
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ready to recover. Speaker 1: Yes, two hundred and seventeen children.
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Speaker 2: Amazing. Speaker 1: How many kids we gave Christmas to?
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Speaker 2: yes that would have had none of it, not just, not
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only Christmas, but, you know, unlikely they'll have food, water, anything whatsoever For we're not for you guys. So we're
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so happy that you're back. We're happy everyone is back and
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listening. This week was like a record number of downloads on
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the podcast. I don't know what's going on, but we want to thank
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everyone who is listening and liking and subscribing and commenting and the posts and just all of the different things
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and ways to interact. It's been awesome. So hopefully we'll be
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able to provide something else for you today, but I'm kind of
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excited about it. I think it's going to be fun because we're discussing fun, fun, fun. Have fun in your marriage. I see in
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the episode. See you later. It's that easy. We should have fun.
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We have fun. We have a ton of fun, we laugh a lot, we joke
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around a lot, and I think that that's needed in marriage.
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Speaker 1: Absolutely. Speaker 2: Because I believe that people they don't do it
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anymore. They're not, they're not having fun, they're not
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enjoying themselves, they're not enjoying their spouse. I think
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they're way too serious, they take things way too seriously
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and they're just not laughing. Speaker 1: Why.
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Speaker 2: I don't know what the reason is, but we're here to
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try and change that and let you know how fun it is to laugh and
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joke around and have fun with your spouse and the impact that
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a cat can have. Speaker 1: Do you think it's just their spouse or it's just
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not their spouse? Speaker 2: How do you feel about it and why don't you ask out
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into your life and how are you going to be with them? Across
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the board? Speaker 1: I think overall, across the board, people are
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more anxious and upset and frustrated, and more, I guess
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worried about what the world says and what the world thinks
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about them, that at the end of the day people are taking
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themselves entirely too seriously. I feel like this time
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of year it might get worse. We're in like a week on
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Thanksgiving with their family. Speaker 2: And that's a lot, because a lot of times when you
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get around family and I know it's not true for all people,
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but for a lot of people you get the same well, what's going on?
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What are you doing? How's the job, how's the family, how's the
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wife, how's the kids? Well, why aren't you doing this yet? Why
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haven't y'all done this yet? Why , especially those who aren't
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married? And maybe they're thinking why haven't you gotten
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married yet? You haven't found yourself a husband yet? Or hey,
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when are you gonna give us some grandkids around here? When are
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you gonna have children and when are you gonna do this? And I
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think there's a lot of pressure that's put on people to progress
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in a certain depth of their relationship or depth of their
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lives. Maybe they're just not prepared for it yet, or maybe
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they're a little scared of it. Speaker 1: Maybe. So we got the why I don't have grandkids yet.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, we've heard that. Speaker 1: No, I mean for my parents, mm-hmm, and I wasn't
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having kids. Speaker 2: No, we weren't having kids, and now we got two. But
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you can't anymore. That's done. Speaker 1: Yeah, baby, we talked about that.
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Speaker 2: go back and listen to that episode. But at the end of the day, I think we're taking ourselves way too seriously,
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like we can't make fun of ourselves. Speaker 1: No.
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Speaker 2: At all and we have to be all tidy and buttoned up and
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perfect and we can't make a mistake or be goofy at all.
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Speaker 1: Only when people are watching. Speaker 2: Oh yeah, by when we're by ourselves, we're
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probably very much like that, but when other people are
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watching, for sure it's something that we don't want to
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let the world know. Speaker 1: Right. Speaker 2: We don't want the world to see every one of us.
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Speaker 1: That's why, when the world knows something, maybe,
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that you don't like about yourself, they will run with it
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just to make you feel bad, or they will go back to 1998, when
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you said something stupid.
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Speaker 2: So what was it? Speaker 1: And you were completely. Speaker 2: What was it you said 1998? Then I'm just joking.
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Speaker 1: Just joking, just going with the year here they
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will, they'll find and they'll just press and push, especially
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if you were in a maybe a political life or in the
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mainstream where people you are like a leadership role.
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Speaker 2: Maybe In the spotlight at all. Speaker 1: Influencer.
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Speaker 2: If you're in a spotlight at all, there's any focus put on you, then, yeah, I can see where people are,
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especially if people don't like you. Speaker 1: They're gonna go back and try to dig up the worst
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possible thing you could have ever done in your life.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, you laughed at that joke. You watched that
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movie and thought it was fun. Why? Speaker 1: doesn't anybody go back and say, Kim Kardashian,
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you're famous because you sold a sex tape.
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Speaker 2: That's exactly why she's famous, that her dad was famous, but that.
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Speaker 1: Step dad. She became who she was because of a sex
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tape? Speaker 2: I have no idea. I don't know anything about the
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Kardashians Other than that if you marry into that, watch out
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because it messes you up.
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Speaker 1: Look, kanye was already messed up and he's even worse now. Poor guy.
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Speaker 2: Look at poor Bruce Jenner. We're gonna get hate for
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this and everything, but I mean . Speaker 1: Don't care.
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Speaker 2: Bruce Jenner was you know. Speaker 1: You wanna get real hate.
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Speaker 2: Oh boy. Speaker 1: I'm not a Swifty.
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Speaker 2: Oh no, the podcast is there's your real, mr Powers,
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everybody. Speaker 1: Oh, my God, you're not a Swifty, I don't care.
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Speaker 2: No, no, I don't either. Good for her. I'm happy
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on all the success and everything here in side note.
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This is, in all, what we're gonna talk about. The little side note on Taylor Swift. Here's the thing about Taylor
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Swift, and she's probably lovely . I think she does a lot of real
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good things. People are beyond obsessed with her.
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Speaker 1: That's a problem. Speaker 2: Exactly because they will spend thousands and
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thousands and thousands of dollars on flights, hotel travel
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tickets, the clothes, the outfits, the merch, the this and
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that to go see Taylor Swift in concert and that's like the
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number one thing in their life and everything is involved with
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her and they're just consumed with her and what's happening
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with her, rather than themselves and the things that they're
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doing. And I would almost be led to believe, if there's a large
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percentage of those people, that the opportunity to go see
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Taylor Swift, or Jesus, they're gonna go. Taylor Swift
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absolutely and that's a problem. Speaker 1: That's a big problem, that's another, that's us here,
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in our worldly view, putting someone else as our idol.
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Speaker 2: That's exactly what it is, she is a god to people
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and again she puts out here for her.
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Speaker 1: We're doing all the things, but it's those people who have their priorities mixed up.
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Speaker 2: Yes, and the, the idol, and you know when you read
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the Bible, and Leviticus is the most difficult book to get
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through no, anyone in the one-year Bible plan when they
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get to Leviticus. That's where, though, you one year in the Bible ends, but Leviticus actually even says, hey, no
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idols, no idols, talks about idols, and I mean it could work
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with Taylor Swift, I can work with college football anything
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you want to get rid of that obsession where you have this
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love hate and just Rips your soul apart. There's the idols
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that are, that are setting in right. Speaker 1: Well, look at we. Okay, we're in Alabama, and if
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you're an Alabama fan, most people say it as a joke, but
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honestly it's true. Speaker 2: It's God, nick Saban, everything else pretty much and
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those two are very, very, yeah, and I heard it here, by the way
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. I've just said we're way off topic, but that's okay. Um, when
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it comes to Nick Saban, he was totally wasted on football.
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Speaker 1: He should have been president. Speaker 2: Oh my god. Speaker 1: Can we write him in Saban, for I don't think he'd
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want that job at all. Speaker 2: But the things he accomplishes, in the way that he
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looks at things, the way that he does things, he would be a
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far better candidate than anyone else is out there. And we're
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not getting political one way or another, but the last couple
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elections, and even this one that's coming up, you just kind
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of look at them all and you're like the these are the best we
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could come up with this is what the best America has to offer.
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Speaker 1: This is wonder our country considers us. Everyone
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else in the world to consider our country a joke.
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Speaker 2: I mean, and look at it, what's coming up in the 2024
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election? It's probably gonna be Joe Biden and Donald Trump
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again, and we gotta look at it and you just got to be like
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these are the best two. We got this, this is it in the past
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eight years. Speaker 1: This is the best thing we can come up with to
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we've come up with trying to send people to the moon on
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commercial Jets, and these two guys are the best we can do so
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you got to laugh at all that stuff, because people take that stuff. Yeah, seriously too. Yes, oh, my god.
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Speaker 2: So yeah, I'd write in Nick Saban because way. Absolutely in the way he evaluates people and tries to
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empower people in the discipline that it requires. He was wasted
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on football. I'm thankful for it as an Alabama graduate and
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everything. Thank for it. It's been amazing around, but he was
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wasted on football. He should have been president for forever.
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Speaker 1: Completely agree. Speaker 2: So back to fun. Fun, because politics are gonna drive
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everyone out of here. I'm ten minutes into this thing in there
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thinking oh my gosh, we've hit the Kardashians, we've hit
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Taylor Swift, we've hit football . Speaker 1: We all the clickbait.
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Speaker 2: We've hit politics, we've hit it all. So let's talk
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about fun, because at the end of day, it revolves back to us
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taking ourselves way too seriously. Obviously I don't
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know we don't, because we we like to have fun.
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Speaker 1: But you know, thinking about this because I
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don't know what you have on the schedule, because you're like
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where your nose we want notes I know, okay, sure, I'm sorry that
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the fun part, because I feel like I don't necessarily take
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myself too serious and I have fun in absolutely everything
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that I do I'm not looked at as someone who would be able to
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lead. Oh. Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm.
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Speaker 1: I feel like I have been looked over on so many
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things, but obviously that's not where God wanted me to be.
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Speaker 2: Mm-hmm. There's a reason for all that. There's
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absolutely reason for all that. Speaker 1: But maybe that's a reason why people don't or they
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do take themselves so seriously, because they want other people
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to think that they're Good for this or the good for that, like
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they put on a different show for yeah.
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Speaker 2: Well, they, you, you, it's we've talked to. You know
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what, you have, this version of you and that version of you. And
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then there's at home, and there's why for version, and
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then there's, you know, at work version, and at church version,
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and out the grocery store, and there's all these different
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versions of ourselves and you're just authentic to who you are.
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And, yes, you like to laugh, you like to have fun, because why
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in the world would we want to walk around life so just, I
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Don't know, frustrated at everything and just looking down
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on everything and just being being like?
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Speaker 1: E, or that's who it is you're from the Winnie the
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Pooh. Speaker 2: Well, we're just so down and out about everything
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possible and it just can ruin it . And if you bring that into
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your relationship and into your marriage, where you're so
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serious all the time, it's gonna be more like a job and more
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like a workplace relationship than an actual, true
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Relationship. Speaker 1: I don't know. Some people really like their work
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relationships because that turns into other things it does, but
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it doesn't truly bring out, because when they come home
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they're like E or oh, bother well, and that's you know. Talk
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about the. Speaker 2: That relationship is the work relationships to turn
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into more than they actually should. It probably stems a lot
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from the, the at-home relationship and just not
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laughing with each other. Having that see, and it Dramatically
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affects you know how close you are, the intimacy that you have
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with your spouse unless you're Jim and Pam. That's true, jim
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and Pam Work they had fun. They had a lot of fun at work.
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Speaker 1: They had fun outside of work and it works Well so
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they got that, both the At-home in the work man.
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Speaker 2: Only if life could be a little bit more like the
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office. So let me ask you this question because I I don't don't
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see where it'd be beneficial, but when it comes to the
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intimate and the sexual relationship of it all, To me a
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constant serious person ain't sexy All like all the time. Now,
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yes, there can be times where, man, they're serious and it's
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intense and it's like, oh yeah, OK, I see, but when it's always
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that way, you can't joke around and laugh. I mean, come on,
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there's like I thought what you got.
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Speaker 1: You sparked a thought that happened on vacation when
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we were in Florida, to our timeshare. Speaker 2: I know where you're going with this.
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Speaker 1: The. We have a timeshare and our timeshare is
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great. We love our timeshare. But this time they were trying
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to sell us, as they usually know , what they would. We're trying
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to sell, and that's real quick before. Speaker 2: I don't mean to cut you off, but I mean that's kind
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of the point of the timeshare the and you're ours. We get to
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use it multiple times out of the year whenever we want it's,
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it's, it's incredible, the best. But they always, you know you
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have to go do the thing and it's like just part of, it's like all right, I'll take an hour, I'll have breakfast and let them
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try yeah. Tell me on it and they're just trying to get you
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to pay more money to get get more. But this particular time
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went a little further, so go, go ahead and explain.
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Speaker 1: We can be happier with our timeshare. They made me
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a little mad when I lost a couple of weeks, because you
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know, we're not of the bank, but they were trying to get us to
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do something. And if we did this and extended because of COVID,
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blah, blah, blah, and no matter how many times we kept saying no
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, we don't want to extend, we don't want to go into debt any
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further with a timeshare, we're just not going to do it. So the
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guy says, ok, well, let me go get my boss. Oh boy, she's going
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to, I guess, like talk, talk, a certain that we have to sign
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something. She was literally doing everything she could to
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make us want to extend it or something. But when you were
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tell me how much that's going to cost me, well, it's not going
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to cost you anything, it's still going to cost me because you're
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adding that onto the back end and the interest in this and
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this, and you were just Pointing out all of the things that she
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was not going to tell us and all I could do was to just sit
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there and go. That's my man. So those are the times where like,
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actually, works out everything. Speaker 2: She was so mad she wouldn't even tell us. She would
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not even tell us. She was so mad, she wouldn't even tell us.
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Speaker 1: but she would not even look at you Just slammed
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her pin down and walked away. I remember getting up from that
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table and walking in the doors and going Grab. I grabbed your
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hand and held your hand. I was like you, my man. That was hot.
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You're like what you just told him like it was. You were not
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going to back down and I liked every second of it.
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Speaker 2: And there are definitely times for that and
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when it when it could work. But if I were that way all the time
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about everything, I'd be like oh God, here we go. Speaker 1: he's just going to keep saying no, I know I don't,
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I don't get to see that side of you because we don't work
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together. Speaker 2: No, no. So I mean, I like to laugh and have fun and
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enjoy life as well. So, you know , trying to switch that on and
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off and being able to, you know, not always be serious where you
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can just kind of turn the switch off. But you know what
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I'm going to relax, I'm going to smile, I'm going to laugh, I'm
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going to tell a joke, I'm going to goof around with my wife.
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That's, that's so important. And actually I did some research,
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believe it or not, I did. Speaker 1: You did research. Speaker 2: I did research the benefits of smiling and laughing
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and having fun. First off, when I, when I look up biblically
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all of this, someone, 26 even says our mouths are filled with
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laughter and our tongues with songs of joy, filled with
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laughter. You know you got a lot . God's got a sense of humor.
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Speaker 1: I mean, have you seen some people? Have you seen we're made in his image, dear God.
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Speaker 2: Exactly. Just just go hang out at Walmart for an hour
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You'll see all that you need to see but that's the reason why.
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Speaker 1: There's a reason why they made a website. People of Walmart.
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Speaker 2: Exactly Because you see a lot of crazy stuff you
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like OK you cannot believe that's funny stuff right there.
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But the Mayo Clinic did a study and they they short term and
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long term benefits of laughing just laughing. It stimulates
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your organs, your insides, your heart, your lungs. It stimulates
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your organs, it has shown. It relieves stress and it increases
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circulation throughout your body. It also helps improve your
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immune system, simply by laughing.
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Speaker 1: Explains a lot about me. Speaker 2: That's why you've got the heart of a look I don't
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know, but the heart's incredible . I don't know what has great.
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Speaker 1: I know I fall dead from a heart attack. People are like you remember when you said she had the heart of.
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Speaker 2: They were lying. That's exactly what they would
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think. But then also I thought of Jimmy V. Jim Valvano, the NC
17:50
State basketball coach. Espn did the 30 for 30 thing on him. And
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there's the V foundation, which ESPN is a big part of, for
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cancer research. You know he had cancer and he was. He was a
18:02
great speaker and communicator. But one thing he said on his SB
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speech just before he died and they started the foundation. He
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said if you do these three things daily, you'll have a
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fulfilled life. If you think and if you laugh and if you cry
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every single day, it's like that's, that's a great day.
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Speaker 1: Can we skip the crying part? Speaker 2: Well, crying was more of you know, to tears of joy,
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full list and happiness. And I have to agree, if you think and
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you laugh and you cry every single day, man, what a day.
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Yeah, like you've experienced all sorts of different emotions,
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you've just pure joy to be able to to get through. Yeah, I love
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that. If you laugh, you think and you cry every day, it's like
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, man, that's, that's one heck of a day and that's one great
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day to to live. Speaker 1: Right? Well, you know , people probably is. This is
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more of a female thing. And these are, to the hoity twity
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People, the suits. Speaker 2: I guess Sorry, just real quick. Whenever you said
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hoity twity, all I could think about we're not going to say it
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here because we have to bleep it out, but I'll think about a sweet home, alabama, some hoity toy, the Yankee, and all I can
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think about is Bobby Ray in the in the in the bar playing pool.
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Sorry, anyway, it's going to Sorry. Speaker 1: Hoity toy, my mom's all over the place. I love that
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movie. You can watch it with me because I know every single word
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. Speaker 2: Some hoity toy Yankee Beep, Exactly.
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Speaker 1: Anyways, I'm sorry for interrupting, that's just I was trying to think of what Phil Robertson calls all the Women
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that are maybe a little bit more bougie than the other.
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Speaker 2: Oh my goodness, what does he call them? Speaker 1: Yeah. Speaker 2: I don't remember.
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Speaker 1: I don't remember at all, but I know exactly what
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you're what you're saying, but that's what you're thinking
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about Type of woman? I guess they were not. They're not gonna
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smile because they've been told you smile too much, you're
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gonna get wrinkles. Speaker 2: Oh yeah. Speaker 1: You know what, when I'm 80 years old, my face can be
20:08
filled with wrinkles, because if I've had a long life of
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laughter and those are laugh lines and wrinkles- Well worth
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it. What am I gonna do at 80? What? Why should I care?
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Speaker 2: Well worth it. Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell everybody what I think about
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them. Anyways, at 80. Speaker 2: I mean, at 80 years old you can say whatever you
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want. I mean, that's the point in your life where you can say
20:30
do whatever you want, no one don't matter anymore. Nope, you
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have no, no feelings towards it. You're like just gonna tell,
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like it is all the time and tell people exactly what I think all
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the time. Oh, 80, that's right. Speaker 1: You know what? Maybe that's why God was like Jesus.
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We're gonna give you the 33. Yeah, to really understand being
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an adult, you gotta live to 30. Speaker 2: Yeah, I could agree with that.
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Speaker 1: You don't need to live three years past that, bro. Speaker 2: His ministry was only three years.
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Speaker 1: I know it makes sense right. Speaker 2: This is all it's gonna take. Okay, this is it.
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It's not gonna take anything else. Speaker 1: After 30 there's another four. You bro.
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Speaker 2: Like you, don't need to get married. Speaker 1: Like you've seen every little bit of it, we've
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seen all these marriages and we're just gonna go ahead and
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say, you know? Speaker 2: Yep. Huh, 33 it is 33 is the magic number. So just
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kind of get back to laughing. And I know that's difficult for
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some people when I think about happiness and joy and, just you
21:27
know, a jubilation for life and being over the top happy. A lot
21:32
of that can come from sports, but a lot of anger can come from
21:36
sports also. Like yesterday I don't want to talk about it.
21:40
I've read talks didn't have a chance. Anyways, I know they had
21:43
a small chance. Speaker 1: I want, I was, I didn't. I had my mustard seed of
21:47
faith, Okay. That's all it takes.
21:50
Speaker 2: I did too, and Jesus was like we were constantly have
21:54
you heard anything yet? Speaker 1: Have you heard anything yet? No, I didn't hear
21:57
anything. Speaker 2: For those who haven't heard we're talking about
21:59
Shohei Otani, the baller of a baseball player.
22:03
Speaker 1: Who killed the internet on Friday? The?
22:05
Speaker 2: richest contract in baseball history, really
22:08
probably in sports history, other than soccer, because
22:10
soccer's got unreal type money to be able to do that for
22:13
international soccer, 10 years, $700 million to the Dodgers who
22:18
are already so good. Speaker 1: Why do they need him?
22:23
Speaker 2: already so good. But good for you, shohei, good for
22:28
you. Speaker 1: Yeah. Speaker 2: I'm, I'm, I'm a little sad though.
22:31
Speaker 1: Yeah, and Yankees racked up too, yeah. Speaker 2: They traded for one Soto. It's a one year rental.
22:36
Speaker 1: He'll be a free also got for to go. Speaker 2: They have for do go. Had some, had some, had some of
22:41
them shoes. Speaker 1: He had some issues but they still got doogie.
22:45
Speaker 2: They got. They got doogie but one Soto. It's a one year rental. Listen, he'll be a free agent after the end of the
22:50
year. Speaker 1: It's not like the Red Sox are going to step up and do anything.
22:52
Speaker 2: No, it's. It's been so disappointing they they got
22:55
to go get Yamamoto and I'll be done talking about Red Sox, so
22:59
they got to go get Yamamoto. Speaker 1: I mean, hey, we have a local kid that's going to be
23:03
there pitching the Red Sox. Speaker 2: We did get that. Speaker 1: The name Dick Pitts, speaking of laughter, it is, His
23:12
name is Dick Pitts, I mean. I mean it's Richard, but Do you
23:19
think his mom calls him dick? I don't know. Would you stop being
23:22
a dick, come in here. Speaker 2: I mean, what a name you say. It's from Helena.
23:32
Speaker 1: He's from Helena. Speaker 2: Yeah, that's near nearby us.
23:35
Speaker 1: He played at the high school and he went to Auburn.
23:38
Speaker 2: But I've heard great things about him. I know his
23:40
velocity has increased over the last year. I know that he will
23:44
be in the mix for probably spot in the bullpen this season,
23:48
which always use bullpen help? Yeah, I just dick fits. That's
23:53
who we got. Need Yamamoto, you need another pitcher, need
23:57
another outfield bat? We did get the ripest guy in baseball,
23:59
tyler O'Neill, but hey, what are you going to do? So?
24:04
Speaker 1: at least we got an outfielder. Speaker 2: We got an outfielder and we got dick fits. So moving
24:11
on. See, we like to laugh, we like to have fun.
24:14
Speaker 1: Yes, Okay, sorry, it's the joy of laughter.
24:22
Speaker 2: So getting back to laughter and this and that and
24:28
just want to, it can create for a miserable relationship. But
24:33
secondly, it kills sex. We're going to finish off with some
24:38
sex. It kills. It kills the sex side of everything. So how I
24:48
mean? You're like all over.
24:50
Speaker 1: I'm like my 12 year old boy mind just kicked.
24:53
Speaker 2: Yes, sorry. So you know, and when it comes to sex
24:57
and we've talked about this before whenever it's we talk
25:01
about, you know, laughter and being able to have fun and this,
25:03
and that there's a lot of body insecurities that people have
25:09
that won't allow them to kind of giggle and laugh and, you know,
25:13
be joyful in their sexual experience with their spouse.
25:18
Yeah, so how do we combat that? Especially with the body. You
25:23
know, my body's not what it once was. You know, I don't look like I'm 20 years old anymore. I'm a little loose here, a
25:28
little flab here. This is bigger than it used to be. How do we
25:32
get past that? How do we get past that? Because I got
25:34
thoughts on that also. Speaker 1: Turn off the lights.
25:44
Speaker 2: I mean that is one way. It's probably not the right
25:48
way, but yeah, I guess you could just turn out the lights.
25:52
That's perfectly fine. I think it happens in women more than it
25:59
does men. Speaker 1: I guess so.
26:01
Speaker 2: I think that women are probably a little more insecure about their bodies than men are. So I would say, men
26:07
especially. I mean we're conscious about it too, we're
26:12
self-conscious about it a little bit. But I think women it goes
26:15
a little bit further, mostly because cultures told them hey,
26:18
you need to look like this, like you need to have.
26:20
Speaker 1: You got to look like Barbie. Speaker 2: You have a thin waist and you need to have a nice big
26:24
booty and you need to have boobs, and your face needs to
26:26
look like this, and your hair should look like this, and that's what a man's going to find desirable. That's been
26:30
pounded in your heads for so long and it's not true. Nope,
26:34
not true at all. Speaker 1: I mean, look at Sir Mix a lot. He was only after a
26:38
booty, so what?
26:41
Speaker 2: Santa Conda, don't want none unless you got buns on
26:43
. But there's a lot of truth to that and I would say, you know,
26:51
for women, man, embrace it. Yeah , because your man still loves
26:56
it, he still wants it, he still likes it. And man, tell her how
26:58
much you enjoy what she's got to offer.
27:01
Speaker 1: But you have to do that as a wife too. How Like for
27:08
me. Most guys can't stand the fact that they go bald.
27:14
Speaker 2: You're right. Speaker 1: It's a oh my God. I'm not able to do this. I'm losing
27:21
all my hair. I'm sorry. Sorry, but there is nothing sexier than
27:25
what I'm looking at right now, with a bald head and a beard on
27:29
his face. That's just me. Speaker 2: How are you doing?
27:34
Speaker 1: And that's what you like, that's, that's what I like
27:37
. Granted at 19, when you were losing all of your hair.
27:41
Speaker 2: Listen, I was holding on to that hair, for that hair
27:44
was holding on for dear life. I literally. There was nothing
27:47
left up there and I was just. You know, I was thinking it was
27:50
looking OK. Speaker 1: But it was receding far back. There was a big hole
27:54
back here and I just remember coming home from work one day in
28:00
college and I just looked at you and said you got to shave
28:04
your head. Speaker 2: Yes, you did. Speaker 1: And we're like what are you talking about?
28:07
Speaker 2: I have great hair. Like what hair.
28:13
Speaker 1: It's not growing. No it's not coming back. Speaker 2: Listen it's got to go to two years from then, it
28:19
would have been full on. George Costanza, no doubt about it. I'd
28:21
have the doughnut around the outside. That would have been it
28:23
. I like seven hairs up on top. It just wasn't, it wasn't for me
28:27
, it wasn't wasn't a good luck and you, you did not care for
28:30
that and I'm glad that you said, and you really put the foot
28:33
forward, like hey, you got to shave your head. Speaker 1: You got, you got to do. It wasn't. If you don't do
28:37
this, I'm leaving. No, it was a. You're shaving your head.
28:41
Speaker 2: Yeah, it was. Speaker 1: I'm here to help you, but most men are absolutely
28:45
insecure if they're bald.
28:48
Speaker 2: Well, and let's be honest, you know, not everyone's
28:50
got a good head. Luckily, I have a decent that is true.
28:54
Speaker 1: Some of you don't want a lumpy head. Some heads are a little jacked up looking Listen it is what it is. Some
28:59
might be pointy and I mean does any? Do you really want to be a
29:04
bald guy and walk around with a pointy head? Come on, I think
29:06
it's coneheads. Speaker 2: Exactly no you don't. You don't want that, you don't
29:10
want that, but still that is who you are and you got to think
29:13
back. Your spouse fell in love with you for a reason. It wasn't
29:15
the way you looked, but let's be real. Attraction matters.
29:19
That's what first attracts you to somebody. Speaker 1: You didn't have that beard when we first stated. No
29:24
you had a little bit of a. Speaker 2: I had a fuming shoot.
29:28
Speaker 1: I had a few a few hairs on my chin.
29:30
Speaker 2: That's about it. Speaker 1: I just remember the first thing my dad ever said to
29:33
you was boy, you got some dirt on your face.
29:37
Speaker 2: When I'm covered in blood, I mean, what are you
29:39
going to do? Speaker 1: And I was so embarrassed because he said that
29:43
, because you were 16 years old. I know I could grow beard grow
29:47
nothing, but you were trying to have a little bit. Had a little
29:50
bit. Oh, that boy got some hair on his chin, but no, and you had
29:56
a full head of hair. Speaker 2: I did. Speaker 1: I have good hair then you had great hair, we would go
30:00
get highlights and all that stuff we did. Speaker 2: I did. I had frosted tips. You did it was good hair.
30:05
Speaker 1: Come on now. Shell necklace. Oh, your little
30:08
pucachel necklaces that I would make. Speaker 2: Listen, that was the.
30:13
Speaker 1: Oh, it was the look. It was hilarious Some.
30:15
Speaker 2: Abercrombie Fitch some Hollister. Speaker 1: Oh.
30:18
Speaker 2: I'll, and that was a look. But what I'd say is it's
30:22
you don't look like that now. No , but physical. But my God, I've
30:26
aged OK. Speaker 1: Uh-uh, You're fine. Why, baby? It just gets better
30:31
with age. That that's me Like. I'm seeing all this salt and
30:35
pepper in your beard. It's a distinguished man over there.
30:38
Speaker 2: Very distinguished. Speaker 1: But you wouldn't look at me with gray and black hair
30:43
and go oh, that's a distinguished woman, that's hot,
30:46
Would you Listen?
30:54
Speaker 2: I plead the fifth. Speaker 1: There's a reason why I still highlight my hair. I'm
30:58
not gray or anything. No, I even ask every time I'm like Do I
31:01
have some adult blonde? Yet she's like you're good, there is
31:04
nothing up there. And she goes, and if you ever do get there,
31:07
don't worry about it, we'll cover it up Exactly.
31:09
Speaker 2: I mean that's the beauty of hair salons and hair
31:13
dye and all that. But the attractiveness does matter and
31:17
you've got to be I mean, that's how you first approach someone
31:20
is you're, you're attracted to them and you're like, ok, yeah,
31:24
I want, I want some of that and it's important to kind of keep
31:28
that going. I mean, we do grow older and we lose hair and we
31:32
get gray hair and we kind of fluctuate in size.
31:35
Speaker 1: Like when women, after they have a baby, yes it,
31:38
your body is just not the same. Speaker 2: You produced a human being in nine months OK. The
31:43
most miraculous, crazy thing that a human can do you make
31:47
another human in your body crazy .
31:50
Speaker 1: Now some guys just think, god, pregnant women are
31:52
so sexy and I'm like, oh God, I feel bad for her, you know the
31:56
ones with 37 children. Well, there's that, but I was
32:01
miserable, pregnant and I took full advantage of pregnancy. I
32:08
gained 40 pounds of the first with cash when our first you took full.
32:12
Speaker 2: You're like I'm pregnant Three months, I'm getting huge.
32:15
Speaker 1: Three months pregnant , monica, when are you do? Six
32:19
more months early, wait what?
32:22
Speaker 2: exactly, exactly, exactly. Speaker 1: But I was always told , you will never have, you will
32:26
never get your body back. No, you were.
32:29
Speaker 2: Why will I not get my body? Speaker 1: back. Why will I not get my body back? Oh, because it
32:33
does this and does that and I'm like what you? You said the
32:40
right words to me, though you won't get it back. Like, how
32:45
watch this? Speaker 2: Bam. Speaker 1: I put myself in adult beauty contest like pageants.
32:54
Not only did I need in this, was they were six months after I
32:58
had kids. Speaker 2: Six months after. Speaker 1: Six months after I had both kids, I knew I had to
33:05
be in a bathing suit. Oh, you were fully prepared full two
33:09
piece bathing suits in front of strangers and being judged at
33:13
that. I knew that was my motivation. Tell me I can't. I'm
33:18
going to do it and do it better . And just because you and I
33:21
lost 52 pounds. Speaker 2: It's exactly what you did. I mean you went.
33:24
Speaker 1: you went a step beyond, yeah it might have been
33:27
a little bit more much, but yes, I did lose all my weight and
33:30
more. Not that I am a champion, beauty queen or anything but
33:36
that was just that. Speaker 2: Little extra push, little extra motivation.
33:38
Speaker 1: Well, like this summer, I had a hysterectomy. I
33:42
have. I thought we were only going to have like two punctures
33:45
in my abdomen, but turns out there's. They had to go for four
33:50
, yep. And I was a little irritated because I didn't know
33:55
that until I completely came back to reality and oh God, I'm
34:00
not stuck in drug land going Woo , I'm in pain, give me more. So
34:07
once that kind of settled and I looked at my stomach, I said, oh
34:09
God, that's ugly. Matthew's never gonna look at me like that
34:14
. We're never having sex with the light on again. Don't look
34:17
at my stomach To this day. Even Elkie yesterday she was doing
34:21
something and she saw my stomach and she goes oh, mommy. And she
34:25
kept pulling up my shirt and she goes your Frankenbelly's
34:28
looking so good Because of the stitches that I look like I have
34:33
a Frankenstein belly, so I called it the Frankenbelly. I
34:37
did that so I could laugh at it. Speaker 2: Exactly laugh at it and just kind of not make fun,
34:42
but just kind of laugh at the. Hey, this is what it is, and you
34:45
know what? It hasn't affected anything on my end at all and
34:51
it's all perfectly fine, and I think that's one. Say it, tell
34:55
your spouse hey, that's right, but show it too.
34:58
Speaker 1: Yes. Speaker 2: Like I mean you can't go by me with that little
35:01
squeeze on the butt. Speaker 1: Yeah. Speaker 2: Period. Speaker 1: Like we had to. You had to stop doing that because
35:06
Cashman, like when he was five years old.
35:08
Speaker 2: Yeah. Speaker 1: He would start doing that Like you would just do a
35:11
little slap. Speaker 2: Mm-hmm. Speaker 1: And then this little hand would come by and go slap.
35:15
Speaker 2: Whoa, that can't happen anymore. Speaker 1: Keep your hands to yourself Powers.
35:19
Speaker 2: Because I like it. Now I want to show you like, hey
35:21
, I'm mm-hmm, little squeeze, Little squeeze actually.
35:24
Speaker 1: And now it's when the kids aren't looking. You're like, ooh you.
35:26
Speaker 2: Mm-hmm, and that's okay, because I'm showing you
35:29
like, hey, I'm still all in. Speaker 1: But I do it. The kids never repeated me, I don't know
35:36
why. I guess because guys fart more than girls. I don't know,
35:39
and they just didn't want to touch your butt. So every time I
35:41
walk by you I'm like, ooh, that was a good one. Speaker 2: Maybe that's just because I do it a whole lot more
35:44
than you would. I don't know. Speaker 1: But but you don't. Yours are not seen anymore.
35:50
Speaker 2: No, but that's part of the funny games of a marriage
35:54
is like, hey, you can pop and laugh and ha, ha, ha, and oh,
35:57
that was a good one. I don't know if people do that enough.
35:59
Speaker 1: I don't know. Well, you can walk by me and not do it
36:01
and then go. Speaker 2: Like what's wrong with him? Speaker 1: Why didn't he just touch my butt Exactly?
36:07
Speaker 2: But I think that kind of shows a healthy and fun
36:09
marriage, like, hey, they still still have a lot of fun. So let
36:12
me, let me wrap up with this question, because we do have to
36:15
go, okay, kind of look into where we are now, because, man,
36:18
things are so great and man, everything is like firing on all
36:23
cylinders all the time. It's awesome, and we're 40 years old
36:26
now. Speaker 1: Yes. Speaker 2: And just kind of thinking back over the last 20
36:30
years or so, there was a point in time where you're not sure
36:34
about getting married. Like no, I'm having my fun, I'm liking
36:37
this and I'm getting to do this. Speaker 1: I'm having my cake and I'm eating it.
36:40
Speaker 2: You're getting to do what you want to do and you're getting attention to this and that. So I wanted to ask you,
36:44
you know, if Doc Brown showed up today and he gave you the
36:47
Delorean and said, hey, it's yours for the day, and you want
36:49
to go back and visit 22 year old Monica, who was having a cake
36:52
and eating it too, doing whatever she wanted to do and
36:55
just living what she thought was life. What would you tell her
36:59
about? Hey, this is what it's going to be and this is how
37:02
amazing it is. What would you tell her like? Hey, 22 year old
37:06
you, who thinks everything is great and perfect and awesome,
37:09
what would you tell 22 year old Monica? Speaker 1: Yikes, besides the fact that she's an absolute
37:15
idiot, I don't know that I could go back and change anything or
37:22
would want me to change anything , just because, knowing all the
37:28
things I know now, if I were to go back and tell her to do this
37:35
one, would I have even listened, because it was my way or no way
37:39
? Speaker 2: Right. Speaker 1: But would it be as great as it is right now?
37:45
Speaker 2: See, and I feel this, I feel the exact same way. We
37:48
put each other through hell. Yeah, and man, we did awful
37:51
things and we were selfish and we were hateful, and boy we
37:54
would, boy, we would go behind each other's back in a heartbeat
37:57
. Speaker 1: But couldn't live without the other. Speaker 2: Couldn't live without each other. And boy, those were
38:01
some looking, you know, during that time. Those times were
38:03
miserable, yeah, and we were both so unhealthy.
38:06
Speaker 1: We love. It was the craziest love hate situation.
38:10
Speaker 2: Totally, but I totally agree. If I could go
38:13
back and change any of it, I wouldn't, because I don't know
38:16
that it would lead us to where we are and that may stand a little stupid and cliche, but in all honesty I would not go back
38:20
and change one thing about it because I know where we are now.
38:26
Yeah, so the second part of that is what, in your eyes, has
38:30
got brought our relationship from where it was then to what
38:33
it is now. Speaker 1: Oh, that's a simple answer, god 100%. Not just a God
38:41
, god of the universe, who sent his only son, jesus Christ,
38:47
little baby Jesus. Speaker 2: Eight pounds, six ounce baby Jesus, newborn infant
38:52
Jesus with his golden diapers. But no, it is once we, because
38:57
we've slowly progressed in the last, you know, the first few,
39:03
you know, years so of our marriage. We were slowly
39:05
progressing towards something. But, man, once we and we knew
39:08
who Jesus was. You know we had that, but we didn't, we didn't
39:12
know everything like we do now and we're not that deep,
39:15
intimate relationship like now.
39:17
Speaker 1: No, and after that boy, it just bam.
39:20
Speaker 2: I felt like everything. Speaker 1: Of course, in high school you don't know all the
39:24
things, but I was the big Jesus follower. I was voted most
39:30
likely to become a pastor. Speaker 2: Yes, you were. Speaker 1: And most school spirit but it I would wear a
39:41
shirt that's had Jesus on it and carry my Bible, all the first
39:45
priority stuff. And I was the Jesus freak. Nobody remembers
39:53
that by me. Speaker 2: Yeah. Speaker 1: And when I, when I left high school and went to
39:58
college, got the attention that I never had before, that that's
40:07
not something I ever expected. I was ready to get married right
40:11
out of high school. And you're like no, I got to go to college,
40:14
I got to get an education. I need to get a good job, and I
40:17
didn't care where I worked, what I did or anything, because I
40:23
just wanted to nail you down. I was like this is, this is the
40:26
guy, I know this is the guy. But then college happened and I got
40:32
just a little bit of attention. Then you want a little bit more
40:34
and a little bit more and you're just you think you're
40:38
having fun because you're getting all the wrong attention.
40:42
You don't know that it's the wrong attention because you've never had this attention before. But in reality it's not the. It
40:51
was just happiness that I was chasing, because I did not have
40:56
joy. I knew what joy was. Speaker 2: And you got that happiness. And boy, oh boy, did
41:00
you get it and get it, and get it and get it. But just as you
41:03
got it, we go away and you need a little more, a little more, a
41:06
little more to push you to edges that probably never intended to
41:10
go, trying to seek that so, but man, it's great now.
41:14
Speaker 1: It is. Speaker 2: It's fantastic, but we got to go. Speaker 1: Okay, it's that time.
41:17
Speaker 2: Basketball, let's go time.
41:20
Speaker 1: Yeah, fun, I have fun with you. I always have fun
41:22
with you. I love you, I love you more. Speaker 2: God, we love you, we're so thankful for what
41:25
you're doing. Just pray over this podcast for all the ears
41:29
that hear it, just to come closer to you, because it is you
41:32
who changes everything and improves everything. If we will
41:35
just submit and give it all to you, the magic that you can work
41:38
within ourselves, relationships cannot be comprehended by us
41:43
and just the the, the trust we have in you. It's fully there,
41:47
god. Just pray that this will reach the people that needs to reach. You're in full control of it and we give you full control
41:52
of it. And just thankful for what you're doing in Jesus name,
41:54
amen.
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