Could your sex life be missing the point? Dr. Michael Sytsma talks about why we have sex…and the key to wow-level sex that changes everything.Show Notes and ResourcesDownload our app to listen to Brian Goins, Michael Sytsma and Shaunti Feld

7. When Sex is Boring

Mar 21st, 2023 37m 47s

Has your married sex coasted into the blahs? Sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma's got solutions to keep you both captivated in the bedroom.Show Notes and ResourcesDownload our app to listen to Brian Goins, Michael Sytsma and Shaunti Feldhahn

6. When Sex is Painful: Dr. Michael Sytsma

Mar 14th, 2023 47m 50s

Sex can be painful in more ways than one: from trauma, to physical pain, to porn. But these don't need to doom your relationship. Sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma offers ideas to transform hurt to eventual healing and wholeness.Show Notes and

5. Not Tonight? Why Good Signals Make Sexual Sparks Fly: Dr. Michael Sytsma

Mar 7th, 2023 33m 11s

Initiating or declining sex: It's tricky. Are your signals clear to your spouse? Sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma helps you with “not tonight” and “yes, please.”Show Notes and ResourcesDownload our app to listen to Brian Goins, Michael Syts

4. When Your Married Sex Life Hits a Snag

Feb 28th, 2023 53m 31s

Wondering how to keep your married sex life sizzling—or just move around conflict or hurt? Sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma helps you troubleshoot.Show Notes and ResourcesDownload our app to listen to Brian Goins, Michael Sytsma and Shaunti

3. Sexual Desire: What to Do When You’re Not on the Same Page

Feb 21st, 2023 48m 40s

Does one of you want more sex than the other? Sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma offers ideas and insight to work through differences in sexual desire.Show Notes and ResourcesDownload our app to listen to Brian Goins, Michael Sytsma and Shau

2. What if My Spouse Doesn’t Want Me? Sex Drive in Your Marriage

Feb 14th, 2023 40m 48s

1. When It Comes to Sex Drive–What’s Normal?

Feb 7th, 2023 46m 8s

When it comes to sex…what’s normal? Sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma and Shaunti Feldhahn discuss research about drive, initiative, and other questions.Show Notes and ResourcesGrab Shaunti and Dr. Sytsma’s book in our shop: Secrets of Sex a

13: Rapid-Fire: Questions (a lot of) Other Husbands are Asking

Jul 13th, 2020 31m 8s

Gathered from a live audience at FamilyLife's Love Like You Mean It cruise, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn and Brian Goins answer a variety of questions from husbands--like, "Why does she ask for my opinion, then do her own thing?" "Why does she pic

12: Why Does My Wife Expect Me to Read Her Mind?

Jul 6th, 2020 24m 53s

Trying to figure out why your wife expects you to know what she's thinking? Does trying to interpret all that mystery feel frustrating, even exhausting? Brian, Shaunti, and guest Jim Mitchell explore how to uncover what's whirring beneath the s

11: When Conflict with Your Wife Leaves You Defeated

Jun 29th, 2020 27m 54s

In this episode, Brian, Jen, and Shaunti address the common insecurities husbands experience in conflict with their wives. At work they feel they can tackle anything, but everything changes at home when emotions enter the scene. Are you curious

10: My Wife Cries A Lot…Help!

Jun 29th, 2020 26m 27s

Husbands all over the world struggle to understand and respond to their wife's tears. Considering two thirds of women admit to crying for no reason, they have good reason to. Curious why women cry so much? Shaunti and Brian, joined by Brian's w

9: Every Hallmark Movie Is The Same. Why Does She Still Watch Those?

Jun 16th, 2020 26m 45s

In season #1 of Married With Benefits we explained what a wife can learn about the mind of her husband from watching ESPN. Here Brian and Shaunti explain the heart of most wives as revealed in Hallmark movies. What core question is she asking t

8: Why Aren’t Decisions Ever Final For My Wife?

Jun 8th, 2020 21m 12s

Does it feel like decisions are never final with your wife? Does she like to "taaaaaaaaaalk" things thru way too long? And what should you do when it feels like she's questioning a decision you've made and felt was final? Host Brian Goins and S

7. How can I restore trust after pornography or an affair?

Jun 1st, 2020 40m 17s

How can a couple restore trust in the area of sexual brokenness (pornography, affairs, etc.)? Licensed sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma joins host Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn to instruct husbands and wives on the necessary steps to take to

6: What Do I Do If My Wife Doesn’t Trust Me?

May 25th, 2020 30m 8s

As crazy as it sounds, it's not uncommon for trust to be broken within a marriage and the husband not even realize it. Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn are joined by FamilyLife Today co-host Ann Wilson to offer hope and wise counsel for couples

5: Why Does She Ask The Deep Questions At 11pm At Night?

May 22nd, 2020 20m 53s

Have you ever wondered why, just when your mind is shutting down for the night, your wife's mind seems to be just getting started? Married with Benefits host Brian Goins, along with Harvard trained researcher Shaunti Feldhahn, discuss this and

4: Why Can’t My Wife Land The Plane In Conversations?

May 22nd, 2020 24m 54s

Husbands, do you get tired head in conversations with your wife as she circles the airport but never lands the plane? Listen as Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn demystify this very common frustration. Understand the brain science behind these e

3: How Important Is My Physical Appearance to Her Desire of Me?

May 22nd, 2020 26m 30s

Your wife can't really be attracted to your "dad bod" right? A lot of guys assume they need to be workout warriors to be desiraable, but the reality is that a trip to the doctor is probably way more attractive to your wife than another tip to t

Bonus B: Top 5 All-Star Moves – You got this!

May 22nd, 2020 5m 41s

In episode 2.1 you heard the top 5 "rookie mistakes" of husbands who want more sex with their wives. Now learn from host Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn your top 5 "all-star moves." You got this!Show Notes and ResourcesFor more from Shaunt

Bonus A: Top 5 Rookie Mistakes – Come on man!

May 22nd, 2020 7m 33s

In episode 2, we were joined by Dr. Juli Slattery, co-founder and President of Authentic Intimacy, to dive deep into the question, "Why can't my wife focus more on sex." Here, host Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn keep it simple as they offer a

2: Why Can’t My Wife Focus More On Sex?

May 22nd, 2020 37m 6s

Husbands often ask, "Why can't my wife focus more on sex?" Dr. Juli Slattery, co-founder and President of Authentic Intimacy, joins host Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn to answer this important question. Learn how most women are wired sexually

1: How Long Until My Wife Believes She’s Beautiful?

May 22nd, 2020 30m 6s

Research shows that many women struggle with hidden insecurities and find it difficult to believe that their own husbands see them as beautiful. Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn explain what drives a woman's feelings of inadequacy. They explain

15: Season Finale – Live Women’s Conference Speed Round

Sep 30th, 2019 23m 4s

Season one of "Married With Benefits" comes to a close in glorious, speed-round fashion as Brian Goins, alongside Shaunti Feldhahn, enters the arena like a gladiator and fields rapid-fire questions live from a women's conference crowd of over 1

14: Why Doesn’t My Marriage Look Anything Like a Hallmark Movie?

Sep 24th, 2019 21m 31s

No, your husband doesn't act like those guys in the Hallmark movies. Not even close. Shaunti Feldhahn and Brian Goins explain why that's by God's design and why it's actually a good thing for you and for your marriage. Don't worry, it doesn't m