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There won't be any episodes for the next three to

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four weeks in October. We'll continue per usual with biweekly

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new powerful episodes.

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But as we have been talking a lot about the

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awakened masculine and the awakened feminine, and

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of course masculine and feminine dynamics, I want

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to share with you some highlights of my previous

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episodes over the years. In this episode today, we're focusing on the highlights

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about the awakened masculine. What are the traits of an awakened man?

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How does an awakened man show up in relationship and what is

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required for an awakened man to truly connect and live from

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his awakened masculine core?

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Today's highlights will give deep answers for

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both men and women. Welcome to the Masculine and Feminine Dynamics podcast.

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My name is Lorin Krenn and I'm a relationship coach.

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I help you to embody your awakened masculine

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and awakened feminine in relationships and life.

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Let's dive in. The relationship to our parents has an enormous

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impact, the biggest impact in our intimate life later on.

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And in this context, if the relationship to your father,

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but you're a woman or a man was in any way traumatizing

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or wound that's, then there's a hundred percent guarantee

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that that is going to show up in your intimately.

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I want to share a little bit about it with my own journey

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of working through my father wounds, as this will help

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you or help some of youm and lead into what's the first

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foundational step in order to start your healing journey.

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My father died of colon cancer in a three year battle, and

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each year I saw him getting thinner and weaker, until he

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eventually died in my arms.

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Now, the more ill my father became and the more

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emotionally unavailable thereby he became, of

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course, because all his energy went into healing

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and trying to overcome this illness, the more unsafe and

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less secure I felt inside myself, inside my body.

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Everyone who suffers from the father wound in any shape

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or form feels unsafe and feels a lack of security and

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trust inside their own body.

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You see, if a father has done the deep work and feels

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secure and safe in his own body, then he's presence

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becomes so immensely healing.

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And as a woman or as a man, as a child, you pick

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this up, you feel this, and you'll take this on.

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It gives you an immense trust in your life.

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A trust in your body, uh, a safety inside yourself.

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And this is invaluable. This is invaluable in every single area of your life, and

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especially in your intimate relationships, because for

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instance, it couldn't be any easier to fall into toxic

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and dysfunctional dynamics in your intimate life, if

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you don't feel safe and secure in your own body.

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Now, when we have a strong father wounds, as we don't

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mention, we don't feel safe in our own body, one of the

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number one reasons for that is that our awareness cannot

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flow easily into our body.

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The reason is, is because when you first try to connect

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and bring your awareness into your body, is that

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you are going to feel all these unresolved trauma, all

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your unexpressed emotions. They're going to be in the way of you

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connecting to your body. See it in this way.

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You have left your home. Let's say your body, your temple is a house with a

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big garden, but if you have left that place for so many

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years, weeds started to grow.

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That garden became uncontrollable.

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Branches started to build up and you don't even know

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where the door is anymore into your home, into your body.

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And this is this, this symbolizes that because

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when it then first start to reconnect and bring your awareness to your body, you start to first

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go into that garden and you exp you don't even know

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where to find that door. All you see is confusion.

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This is because now for the first time you're turning your

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awareness to all this pain, to all this confusion, all this

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anxiety that has been building up in most cases for decades

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or many, many, many years. Trauma is stored inside our body.

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So anything that you can do, any trauma release

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breathwork, any trauma release methods, anything

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that your heart calls you, that your intuition guides

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you towards, anything that has to do with somatic healing is

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from my experience crucial.

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And you just cannot get away from that in order to work

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through these weeds, and all the things that have been

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created, this first layer that your awareness has

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to work through until it's able to enter your body.

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Today I am going to talk about a specific

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relationship dynamic that I've seen again and again.

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I call this dynamic the woman with the father

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wound and the man with the unworthiness wound.

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This is the dynamic where seemingly, no matter how a

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man shows up, no matter what it does, no matter how hard

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he tries, nothing seems to be enough for the woman.

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She seems to demand the impossible for him, from him.

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And in response to this, he tries harder and

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harder to please her, to meet her expectations.

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Both end up feeling disappointed, both end

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up feeling resentment, and both in this dynamic

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end up feeling unworthy.

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Here in this dynamic, the two wounds feed each other

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perfectly and often the woman gets labeled as the one who

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brings all the trauma, the woman with the dead issues.

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However, a dynamic is always co-created.

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In this dynamic, both are part of this dynamic, both

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are feeding this dynamic and both are coming from

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a place of wounding. If a man embodies his awakened masculine core,

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he would not find himself in such a dynamic.

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Now the unique responsibility for the man here is to

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set very clear boundaries. This might sound like the following.

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I am here for you when you need me.

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I want to create safety for you. But for instance, calling me names or talking to me in this

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way is deeply disrespectful.

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I want to be there for you, but I cannot if

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you show up in this way. Now, of course, speak your truth.

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Don't just take these words, stand your ground.

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Allow them to come from your deepest truth, not from a

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place of, of your shadow, of being in a state of emotional

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reactivity, but from your grounded power, from your

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grounded presence, because this will be infinitely

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amplified and infinitely powerful ultimately.

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And of course, also be mindful of how your shadow might

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use this then, um, Okay.

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If you show up in this way, I can't be there for you. That's not what I'm talking about, right?

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That's why it's so subtle, these energy,

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energy dynamics here. But for instance, if she's calling you names, if she's

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clearly deeply disrespecting you, then of course that is

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not coming from her oracle. And then you will set a very clear boundary, and you can

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do this by standing in your power, by letting her know,

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yes, I want to be there for you, but if you show up or

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call me this way or show up in this disrespectful way, then

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I cannot be there for you.

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Like a really powerful, fiercely loving boundary.

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Now you might ask, what if one party does not

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take responsibility? Let's go into this.

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If the man doesn't take responsibility, and for

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instance, the woman starts to shift by becoming

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aware of where she, where you are coming from and

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letting him in, rather than pushing him away and

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setting him up for failure, you then will definitely

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create more harmony. But still, if the man does not work on his hero complex

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or works on his pleaser, being the nice guy, um, then

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you won't experience the strong intimacy and the depth

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that you both deeply desire because there is clearly a

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lack of dark masculine energy.

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There is a lack of ability for, from him to stand his

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ground, to speak his truth, to embody the warrior archetype.

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And when you both take that responsibility, then

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you can both shift the dynamic entirely because

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you interrupt the pattern. And now the wounds cannot feed from each other

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anymore because you have interrupted a pattern

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and you are now creating a new conscious, loving

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reality for both of you. The relationship that you both want to truly

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deep down experience.

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There are many traits that an awakened man embodies.

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Number one trait, and this core trait is that

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he lives with integrity.

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He is in integrity with the feminine, with life, with

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everything and everyone.

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And as a man, if you're listening to this, Reclaiming

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your integrity, that part of you that yearns to be in

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integrity is the key thing in your spiritual journey.

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The second trait that he embodies is

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grounded spirituality. One of the most common traps that men fall into is that

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they step into, or they start doing the spiritual

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work, but it just makes them lost more in their heads and

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living from their heads and being in the clouds, instead

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of actually being in their. body Because at the end of the day, spirituality is about

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being able to be in our body.

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Because only when we set our roots deep into

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the earth can we then actually start to elevate.

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Now the third trait that a, an awakened man embodies is

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that he is willing and open to receive the feminine oracle,

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even if it is challenging.

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This doesn't mean he will always jump around,

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enjoy, or, or deeply enjoy the experience.

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It might be extremely challenging At the same

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time, he will also not blame you for it or project his

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shadow on you and see you as the threat, instead he

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will take responsibility, and he will, he will receive

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you, and will, and will give his best to listen to you.

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The fourth trait is that he is not a pushover.

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He embodies fierce love.

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Or we can say the wild man within him, the the

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warrior archetype, right? He's not passive, complacent.

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He's not afraid to speak his truth, to set boundaries, to

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truly stand for his truth. So even though his practice is to receive your oracle,

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he will also not be afraid to set boundaries and to

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speak his truth, to stand in his truth when you as the

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feminine, or when a woman projects her wounds onto you.

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This is so crucial because if all the other things,

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if they're there but then he puts the feminine on a

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pedestal or you are passive and complacent, that is

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also not going to lead to the intimate life that

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you want to experience. And to, and that is also not going to lead

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to trust and safety and deeper connection and

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intimacy with the feminine. Most men have a wound around receiving the feminine heart.

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Not because they don't want to feel the love or have an

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issue, um, with receiving love from the feminine.

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But receiving her heart often means getting in touch with

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our own deepest emotions.

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So if we are avoiding certain things and certain shame

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and guilt and anger, then feeling her heart means we

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cannot feel her heart without simultaneously feeling

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our own deepest emotions. And this is how you can always create safety

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for the feminine. Because it's not a performance, it's

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not a script, it's not some bullshit. It is you doing the deepest work of feeling into a

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feminine, feeling into a body, and then responding from a

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deeper intelligence within your, rather from your mind,

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trying to fix it, trying to find some logical solutions

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or anything like that. Thank you for listening to these episodes.

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I wish you an amazing day wherever you are, and only

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the very best on your journey.