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Sites like eHarmony ask a series of questions to help you build your online profile. The answers that you give to these questions will either help or hinder your search for YOUR perfect husband.  The questions are a great way to help you attract your perfect match online, the crucial element is to make sure that your answers attract the right man in the first place.

It's easy to sit after a hard day at work or with your children, a glass of wine in one hand and your mouse in the other, rattling off your answers like it's a race.  However, I caution my clients against that approach.  In fact, I actively discourage it and recommend an entirely different approach.  Let's have a look at some of the key points to the questions eHarmony in particular ask, and then I will give you an overview of how my clients approach answering them:

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eHarmony advice – Why The Answers You Give to The Questions Online Dating Sites Ask are Crucial to Your Dating Success.

I spend a lot of my time reviewing online profiles for my clients.  I am referring to the profiles that you complete if you sign up to dating sites such as eHarmony, Match.com etc.  I love these sites (there are lots of other great dating sites out there but I use these, they are also the most well known amongst my clients).  Not forgetting that I met my own husband on the precursor to Match.com so it has a special place in my heart.

Despite spending hours per week looking at online dating profiles, I still only see a few each week that really stand out as great examples of how it should be done.  That's not to say the rest are bad, but they could certainly be better.  The answers you give to the questions online dating sites ask are crucial to your dating success.  I don't want your profile to be one of those that I skim past, so I am going to give you my best tips for getting your answers right.

Today I am going to focus solely on eHarmony.  This site asks the dater to answer a series of questions about themselves.  The questions are then included on their profile for potential dates to review.  I see the answers that you provide to these questions as the “first line of defence” and it is imperative that you nail this part to give you the greatest chance of successs. People looking at your profile are doing exactly the same as you do; they are using a filter (or series of filters) to make wading through profiles a little quicker.  This No-Go/Yes-Go approach means that your profile will only have someone's attention for a very short time before they decide if they should move on or contact you. You must therefore make your profile reflect the real you so that you attract the perfect man for YOU!

So let me share my top tips for answering those question!

1. Ask yourself ‘what is this question trying to ask me?'

The starting point has to be knowing what the question is asking; what is the ‘point' of each particular question? You need to know and understand this so that you can tailor your answer accordingly.

Imagine that you are preparing for a job interview.  You would undoubtedly spend time refreshing your skills and working through sample questions to make sure that you give the best answers during the actual interview. Your online profile is not that much different, it is very much like an interview but you don't get the chance to speak face to face, you only get one shot via your answers to written questions.  I don't tell you this to freak you out even more, I am telling you to help you view each question as a scene setting exercise.  The questions are designed to get you to talk about areas of your life and personality that attract someone with common interests. You should aim to write answers that will trigger recognition in someone reading your profile. If you can make the reader feel that they have things in common with you right from the start then you will have a better chance of securing an initial contact.  The reader will be less likely to pass you over and move on to the next profile.  You only have a short time to make this connection though, so every word counts.

2. Follow the instructions in the question; is it asking for an ‘answer' or ‘answers'?

If a question asks for an ‘answer' in the singular, please try not to get carried away with adding a list of answers. It's all too common to think that more information is better, but honestly this is simply not true. Aim to answer the question, nothing more, nothing less. By doing more than you were asked to do you are saying that you didn't take the time to read the question.  Some people viewing your profile could subconsciously see this as a problem. Similarly if a question asks for ‘answers' don't just add a single lonely word…

3. Give a variety of examples to best showcase your personality

Some questions are quite broad e.g. what books do you read or TV programmes do you watch? I encourage my clients to add at least 3 examples for this question e.g. when listing 3 of your favourite movies include a comedy, a thriller and an action movie.  This answer will highlight the broad range of your taste and shows that you won't just want to watch chick-flicks

Conclusion:

Take your time in answering the questions and read your answers over a few times to make sure they say what you mean. Think carefully about what the question is trying to draw out of you and let this guide you as you draft your response.

As part of my coaching service I help clients put their answers together in a structured way. If you would like help with this please consider working with me.

I have only given a brief overview just to get you to think again about what you may have written in response to the questions on your own profile. I hope that it has been useful to you.

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