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We can be Mere Mortals. Welcome
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to another round
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of the Mere Mortals musings.
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You have Kyrin here
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Juan on the side and you've.
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Got Juan on the other side. Beautiful. And I hope that intro went
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well because I could not
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actually hear it coming through. But that is
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because we are live. We're using some live
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software here. Riverside, 7 p.m.,
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Australian
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Eastern Standard Time on
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the 7th of February 20, 24
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is the two Mere Mortals where we dive deeper into a particular
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topic a musings episode
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generally focusing on pragmatic philosophy, some takeaways
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you can apply to it everyday. Real life with everyday
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real examples. And boy,
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do I have quite a few. For today's topic.
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We're talking about pseudo
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convos
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pseudo conversations, so
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we'll look it up for the,
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the actual title for this
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and those like
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fake conversations
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was the initial
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might as doesn't sound right but pseudo is is perfect
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and I'll get into
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the definition of that
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in a little bit. And honestly
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it was because I've had it so one doesn't
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know this news either. This last week
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I'll probably highlight six or seven conversations
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which just perfectly fit
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into this niche of.
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Into this realm. That was a bit
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that was a bit strange. I didn't really understand
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what was going on there. So I think it's a topic
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worth exploring.
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Well, I think it's one of those, you know,
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where it's when you start saying, you know, red car,
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red car, red car, just looking for it,
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you start seeing it more. If you're going to buy
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a particular car, you see it more. Maybe it was that way.
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When it gets hot. This happened
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because we switched the topic on there
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a couple of days ago. So all these.
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It was even before. Yeah. Okay. So autos
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and it was initially triggered by
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a work conversation that you were telling me
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about, which
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just sounded hilarious.
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But that was a couple of other things related to media training
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and things like that.
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So yeah, Do you want me
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to just jump into like a bit of definition
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and then getting into
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what exactly
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a pseudo conversation is?
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Yeah, I want you give me the definition
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and then I want to hear at least an example of some of the ones that
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you've been having lately. And we'll jump from there.
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Sure, sure. So pseudo
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pseudo for those who do not know means non-genuine,
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spurious or a sham.
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So we're probably going to have to cover
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what is real and
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what's a real conversation
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or how.
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If you can judge realness and maybe
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even intent of a of a conversation, because
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if it's non-genuine
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that I think that applies to, to something like that's
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perhaps where the intent has gone
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wrong.
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Conversation interactive communication between two
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or more people. So it doesn't need
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to have a purpose per say
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which. But but skills and
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etiquette are important.
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So I was looking up the definition and I was just kind of
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like focussed on
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the conversational skills and conversational
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etiquette. Is part of it,
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but not necessarily
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the purpose
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of communication.
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So yeah, I'm really just trying
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to get at the heart of what is it when you have a
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conversation,
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I hope everyone has some
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something like this which they can relate to,
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where you come out of it
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just bewildered
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or confused and you got,
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I don't know what just happened. They're like, What?
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What exactly was that thing? Just that just happened.
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It was. But because you can have
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all sorts of different types
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of conversations and have hard ones.
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So this would maybe be like an intervention
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with a friend or someone who's going down
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a wrong route,
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you know, funny ones which are just banter, you know, mundane ones
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which are just the
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pleasantries of everyday,
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ordinary life on the bus
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or train or whatever.
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You have serious ones,
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you know, the DMS
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after a couple of drinks maybe, or at the end of a
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long night argumentative ones,
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debates, etc.,
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you get the point. There's a whole bunch of
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different conversations. You know, it's
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interactive communication.
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Have I done a good enough job
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of explaining the topic
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and what I kind of wanted to get into today? I think I think so.
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I want to hear an example. Give me give me an example
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of a similar conversation you've had recently. I will jump in from there.
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Sure. All right. So where should I start
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with this?
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Because I do I have,
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let's say, on my list
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here, I had one, two, three, four, five, six, seven,
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eight, nine, ten, 11.
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Conversation points,
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which I participated
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in most of them. So.
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All right. Well, we'll start off with probably like one of the worst.
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And I've got a little bit
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of a ranking system
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right towards the end. But this was
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the worst one.
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So my brothers, my brother's dog buddies,
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I took him out
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for my first solo
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walk with him
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and we just went to one
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an area near Bulimba.
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And as I was going along, you do have a lot of kind
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of conversations with people. Your dog meets other dogs
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and then you're
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standing there and
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it's like, okay, dog talk,
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You know, this is this is new for me. I've never actually
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walked a dog solo before,
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so this is.
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What awaits me. Yeah, everyone else is
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like, yeah, car. And obviously the
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and so I had
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this little mini conversations with people and, you know,
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I had to kind of like pretend to be interested
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in their dog, even though I'm
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not really, you know, I'm
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not really a dog person.
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And this was one lady.
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So I walk up to her and she's like,
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my God, your dog. So cute. How old is he?
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I'm like, you know, is is probably
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about four months old.
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Just haven't had his vaccinations and we're after
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our first walk.
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So it's kind of like, you know, exciting
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something, something that they can
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latch onto. There's a few things there
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and she looks at me
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and she's like,
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that's not good for them, You know? I'm like,
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okay, you know,
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it's just like, jeez.
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And then on my All right, come on about us. Let's go. And,
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you know, try to jog away.
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And, you know, he's
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lingering with her dog
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and then she's like, looks me dead in the eyes again. And she's like,
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the vaccinations aren't
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good for people either.
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That's just like, you know,
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if I was witty,
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I would have loved to have
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just responded with like, you know, enjoy your polio
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and hepatitis B,
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you know, something like that. Obviously, I'm not witty, so I just walked
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away from. It should have been should have been during
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the month of month ago that you
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being an arsehole, I would have been perfect. Like, Yeah.
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So that was a pseudo
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conversation
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right there I think, which was, that was interactive
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communication between the two of us.
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But whatever
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the hell happened there,
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I felt was non-genuine
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or was like,
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you know, she was genuine
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on her part, but it lacks the,
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the skills and the etiquette that perhaps
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you'd find in a it was a sham
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conversation. I came out of that
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just being like, what the fuck was that
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interaction?
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So, so that that's, that's
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a little bit of a
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one for you right there. A very minor one.
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I've given you everything
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that I'm close to.
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Word for word. What, what was said? What, what went down.
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Yeah. So, so I do have like a whole
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bunch of things related to like the, the intent
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and the skill of a person and maybe even just the format
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of the conversation. But and it's genuineness.
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But yeah, have you got any the pseudo conversations
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that come to.
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Mind And we're going to, we're probably going to have to play around
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with what what we mean
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a silly conversation because I could see people
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saying that hey,
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well that was
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I guess a conversation
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that someone's trying to, you know, talk with you
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about a particular point.
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You might not care about it, you might not agree
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with it. But I guess
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she was trying to play out a conversation
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of some kind.
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Well, I guess, you know, I would argue that wasn't
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really a conversation,
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you know. Well, and this is the bit
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and I'm like,
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I think we need to be clear because does it take both parties
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or more to claim
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that it's a pseudo conversation? As in?
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No, I think I think you can have
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one party claim it is and the other party
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think it's.
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That was it's something else. I really because I do have
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an example of today of something
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similar to this happening. Okay And I'll I'll lay.
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Out the scenario as well.
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So now I want to make sure like we're talking
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about a similar concept and then we can get into
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the details and what it means, like see me more like so move away
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from phoney conversations.
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I was sitting at a food
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court today after work.
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I was hungry. I hadn't eaten all morning
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ever.
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In fact, I was 1230. I was like, Man, I'm starving. I got to go to the food,
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go get some food. I walked down there.
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Now, inside of the food
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court there was probably
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is a food code words about
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what 200 people mean.
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Lots of people. They got music blaring
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in this food court
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to the point that I got. I got a call from a worker
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and I had
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two points, in fact, like what defines one black a person,
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one one's a work one
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on the work. One is not connected
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to my headphones, my personal one is.
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And so in my work, one, I didn't have a connect
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through the headphones, so I had to have
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the phone. How am I
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holding it out now? I was like,
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I know the end of the.
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Day before my and I had to. I was eating,
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so I didn't really want to like put it up to my head.
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So I have it on
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loudspeaker right now.
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Had a loudspeaker
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to halfway volume.
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However, it was so loud
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in this food court
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and people bustling about that. I was eating my sushi
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and literally placing my ear
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to like the point a bit
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to understand what they were saying and kind of reply
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back. Yeah. About three quarters
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of the way through this conversation. And as I'm eating,
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I see someone come around
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to my left hand side and I thought originally
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about dude is a homeless person. They kind of come
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and eat buffet. It wasn't,
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it was old lady. I'm going to put her in
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like 65 years old.
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She comes around and then just
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unleashes on me, goes,
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Do you have no respect
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for the
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for the public space? I'm I have to move.
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I can't eat my food between you and this music
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in the food court,
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it's unbearable.
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and again, it was one of my similar but I didn't really have
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a funny retort. I was just more like
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I was kind of looked at as like, okay. And got myself off me.
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And I was like,
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Continue the conversation.
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So that I guess
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I would pose it again as I
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look at the phoney conversation in the sense
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that, yes,
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it was interactive,
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but there was no
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like there was like deep reason behind it. There was no intent for
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for my part, I was like,
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What's going on? You probably could have just moved away. Well,
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they don't even have that. So that's why
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I'm trying like, way out. But like,
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is that
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a phoney conversation
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or do you just take it as like a like someone
10:03
just complaining to you and they're talking to you
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about it?
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Yeah. Because there is a
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difference between someone
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and talk. Like if I, if I,
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if I hurl. Abuse
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at a homeless person, is I justify any
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conversation or am I being an arsehole. No, that's, you know,
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that's, that's one way you know,
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there wasn't really much for you to respond to,
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you know, if should,
10:25
if should said like,
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hey, by the way,
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you know, you're talking
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very loudly, you've got this stuff on. It's it's very distracting
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and things like that
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and made it open to
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like a dialogue, I guess.
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Whereas in that case, it sounded like she just wanted
10:40
to unleash on you. So I'd kind of put
10:41
that close to the top, but
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I don't know if she was expecting anything back from you.
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Much like the I get the feeling
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the vaccine lady kind of wanted,
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like she would have been willing
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for a conversation, but I'm like, dragging
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bodies out of them. I don't want any part of
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this.
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So, yeah, there can be
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aspects of that, I think.
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I think we'll have to just go through it and some of it just
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might be us being like,
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okay, that, you know,
11:05
that that was probably
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only one of the only ones
11:09
I had, which was
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related to, I guess a
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it's like an antagonistic
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sort of thing, right?
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Yeah. Let's go on to this. So intent and skill,
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I think related to, to
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a pseudo conversation. So when you come
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into a conversation,
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I feel like, you know,
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there's a couple of things that are going on. You want to either like
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convey some information or
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you kind of
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want some realness to it.
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I guess you want to know like what's
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the other person actually
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thinking or feeling? So like if you're being lied
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to the entire time,
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I'd put that close up to there being with like a pseudo
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conversation. It's non-genuine,
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you know, giving you
11:50
just receiving lies back and forth. Okay, well,
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if you're lying as well.
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So that's, that's one
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or where you're someone's
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come in with like an agenda or talking over the top of
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you and things like that. So
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my month ago, if you go back to them,
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one of them has been to listen intently
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And so I'm trying to do
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this and I'm doing it
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by focusing,
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you know, 100% on one.
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Whatever the person in
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front of me is is saying.
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So in the gym
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setting, for example,
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you know, there's a lot going on in the gym. There's it's pretty girls,
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this music, people doing things.
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But when I'm in there, I'm really trying
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to just hone in on on
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what the other person was
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actually trying to say.
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And so some of this would be
12:30
related to fitness stuff.
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For example, there's a P.T. there who
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I'm pretty friendly with. More, more, more to say.
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He's very friendly with me. Like he is the guy
12:40
who's Max is Max. Yes.
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And and yeah,
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he came over,
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say we were chatting and,
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you know, I'm
12:48
I'm trying to give it
12:48
my all of being like,
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let's make this
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a real conversation here.
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And not just me
12:52
telling you a story or him
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telling me a story and then things like this and I think it's
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it tends to result in like
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lopsided conversations
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if you're really trying to
13:04
get something across or,
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for example,
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in this case because I'm really trying to focus on
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what they're saying,
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I'm I'm tending to like
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ask them questions more
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so I have time to think and kind of analyse
13:21
what's actually going on, what are they
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actually trying to say.
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And then then I can kind of craft a response to it and,
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and not just be in a selfish mode of now
13:29
it's my turn to speak,
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you know, now it's, it's like actually creating a dialogue
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I guess.
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See, this is, this is what we're going to run into a challenge with this
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because
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I can kind of
13:45
think it through on
13:45
how any conversation
13:48
maybe isn't deemed
13:48
a pseudo conversation,
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but maybe, maybe if we, I.
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Wouldn't put a black and white sticker on these either.
13:57
As in yeah, this is pseudo
13:58
and this is not I, I've got my percentage
13:59
system.
14:02
So it goes from 0%
14:02
up to 100.
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To 100%. Well,
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I was going to say it and it's going to be
14:06
largely based here on the outcome
14:08
that you go into
14:10
with the conversation,
14:10
because I think
14:14
in general, Mike Ryan knows more and more like
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most of the conversations that you get in, especially the ones that
14:18
care about you,
14:18
you want to be less
14:22
pseudo conversations
14:22
and more an outcome
14:24
where it's all the things we're talking about. I'm probably
14:26
going to be talking about listening it right
14:28
active listening. It's effective
14:30
communication. It's going
14:31
beyond the surface and actual route
14:33
of the conversation.
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Things like that. So I think in most cases
14:38
what we're talking about here, that's
14:39
kind of the outcome. I think though
14:42
like in the example
14:42
of a salesman, if
14:44
if I'm trying to sell you something and you're feeding me data
14:46
or we're having a chat,
14:48
basically if I'm telling you a car, then I
14:51
might be buying tend
14:54
to be using skills, tools
14:54
or different manoeuvres.
14:57
I'm not really yes, I'm trying to acquire
14:58
information from me, but I'm trying to sell you
14:59
a product of some kind.
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I would say, well, the outcome there is change. It might not be
15:06
I wouldn't exactly turn it into a pseudo
15:07
conversation, but I would
15:09
I would shift away from the meaning
15:10
of a conversation. Yes, it is interactive,
15:13
but it's more a sales pitch. It's a sales pitch
15:14
slash conversation.
15:16
And if you want to turn that into pseudo conversation for the
15:20
maybe for the fact that they're
15:21
putting out a barrier, that it looks like
15:22
I'm getting to know you. I've got another example.
15:25
Actually,
15:25
I have an example to maybe
15:28
help us illustrate this moment. I went to Mercedes-Benz
15:31
in Brazil and I went in
15:31
with my daughter.
15:34
Now nine months old. It was her. It was her.
15:37
The day she turned nine months, we went in there
15:40
and I wanted to look
15:40
for a potential new SUV.
15:42
So I was walking around. They said I will send you
15:44
through someone to come
15:46
and like help you out. Awesome. This individual,
15:48
I won't name her.
15:50
So she sort of came over,
15:53
helped to show me around
15:53
some of the cars,
15:55
darling girls that started
15:55
just losing it.
15:57
Right. It was right around her
15:58
time for the a bit
16:00
at the beginning, the sales lady was like,
16:02
really nice. Yeah.
16:04
Hey, this is the thing, and I'm asking you
16:05
questions. She's answering and it's a conversation
16:07
like a genuine good conversation,
16:09
and she's saying,
16:11
like you have a beautiful daughter, all this sort of stuff, you know, Is it cool? Until
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Michael just, like, started just losing it
16:17
and then there wasn't
16:19
any of that kind of interaction. I just, like,
16:21
fell by the wayside.
16:24
And those you could feel it. There was a little bit
16:25
of a, I'm annoyed
16:27
that you're here now. Like, I'm annoyed
16:28
that you as a customer, I hear what a screaming
16:30
baby. And I kind of
16:32
want to show you anymore. And it actually ended
16:35
pretty shortly
16:35
after that potlucks.
16:37
I was like, okay, cool,
16:37
I need to get out of here.
16:39
But also from the perspective,
16:41
it wasn't the one trying
16:43
to keep the conversation or watch it being genuine. It was more like,
16:46
maybe it's not going to be a sales year. So part of that
16:47
I'll go, yeah,
16:50
to finally conversation. Yeah, part of our time.
16:51
It as well. It's sales pitch
16:53
they're there to sell you something
16:54
so the
16:57
it can be murky
16:57
murky boundaries
17:00
but for sure
17:00
I'd say you know yes
17:02
it's a sliding scale but it definitely depends on the outcome
17:05
of conversations that we're talking about. But I think largely here
17:06
we're talking, you know,
17:09
the outcome of conversations being,
17:10
well meant listening,
17:14
caring about what the other person is saying, kind of saying that's
17:16
that's the opposite of offering in conversation. I think it's with
17:18
if both parties come in
17:21
knowing kind of what to expect. So, you know,
17:22
you went in there
17:25
expecting to be sold something and you were trying
17:27
to acquire information.
17:29
She goes and into that
17:29
same conversation, trying
17:32
to sell you something
17:32
and expecting to
17:35
maybe get a result or not
17:35
get a result.
17:37
You know, that's that's the thing. So I would say like
17:38
that was 100% real.
17:41
Both of your expectations aligned when you were at the start
17:43
and you knew what
17:46
knew what you were getting into. And it sounded like it was
17:47
it was going good as well. You know,
17:51
And then when circumstances change
17:52
and then it's like,
17:54
okay, well, now I've got a screaming
17:55
baby here, So you're obviously not
17:57
paying is giving her
17:59
your full attention. You know, your what,
18:02
maybe like 20 or 30%
18:02
listening to what
18:04
she's saying and the rest, as you know it, you're
18:06
dealing with Vienna. She's noticing
18:07
you're not giving her
18:09
your full attention. And she's starting to be like,
18:11
okay, well, this guy's just being
18:12
like, inconsiderate now
18:15
or he's not listening. So you know
18:16
what's going on here?
18:18
And that's when I'd say the the suddenness came in.
18:22
And so, you know,
18:22
if you are close to like, you know, 90
18:24
to 100% at the start,
18:26
it could have dropped down
18:26
to maybe 40 or 50%.
18:29
And that's that's
18:29
when it's like
18:31
the unpleasantness and the
18:31
the non-real ness starts
18:35
to kick in. You're like, okay, well,
18:35
this isn't whatever's happening here
18:37
isn't as genuine
18:39
as it was before. So yeah, that's yeah, I think that's
18:41
all good info.
18:43
I'll give one here
18:43
once again because it's,
18:46
it's kind of like murky
18:46
what we're talking about
18:48
so people can judge for themselves and then see see
18:50
how my rating system goes
18:53
with those. So last week
18:54
I talked about a podcast
18:56
which was the Dave Asprey
18:56
and Brian with
18:59
a Y Johnson. And this is another reason
19:02
why I wanted to talk about this, because
19:03
they mentioned in there how they had media
19:05
training. And when you have media
19:07
training,
19:09
I think that's
19:09
getting close to like
19:11
the top of pseudo ness. If you're going into
19:14
a press conference
19:14
or something.
19:16
Once again,
19:16
maybe expectations of
19:20
the press are like, okay, this guy's
19:21
going to kind of feed me bullshit and
19:22
not answer my question.
19:24
And he goes into it being like, I'm going
19:26
to try and sell them off and not talk
19:27
about their questions. So maybe for those two
19:29
participants
19:32
it feels real. But if you're watching
19:33
from the outside,
19:35
you're just like, What the hell is this? This person's asking
19:36
questions, this person's
19:39
avoiding the question
19:39
and not answering it.
19:42
This is or what
19:42
it will like.
19:44
What am I watching here? And and so, like, they are
19:49
even just their conversation themselves,
19:49
it seemed like,
19:52
okay, there's a bit of weird stuff going on with whatever
19:55
they're trying to do, these two guys
19:56
and, and like, they were two weird
19:57
guys as well. So it was, you know,
20:00
it was a very weird
20:00
conversation.
20:04
another one I was watching
20:04
was Tim Ferriss with
20:07
Noah Cogan. Once again, this is where
20:08
the context is.
20:12
I would say much more
20:15
in this case, kind of like
20:15
a more realness to it.
20:18
Tim Ferriss is an excellent interviewer
20:19
slash conversationalist,
20:22
but there is this one point in the middle of it where Tim's like,
20:23
Pause, Hey,
20:27
I just go like you know, like you've been saying
20:28
your book title a lot and like,
20:29
we have to cut it out.
20:32
It just comes across
20:32
as being too pushy or too
20:36
much like,
20:36
I'd don't want it.
20:38
I like that. I don't like. I like that Tim kept that
20:40
in the podcast as well.
20:43
Yeah, because the because Noah was really
20:43
cool and said, you know,
20:46
thank you for the feedback and they both agreed
20:47
to keep it in. So like
20:49
they just kept rolling. So yeah, that was,
20:50
that was excellent.
20:53
So once again,
20:53
that's like, okay, up
20:55
until that point
20:55
I would have said like,
20:58
Yeah, man, really genuine conversation
20:58
between these two guys. They're
21:00
talking about topics. Obviously,
21:03
you know, Tim's the host, so he's asking more questions
21:05
and things like that.
21:07
But then there was this this bit creeped in where
21:09
the allusion was kind
21:09
of broken and you're like,
21:13
okay. So I was there to kind
21:14
of spruikers book as well.
21:16
So, you know, it's
21:16
not, it's not like 100%
21:21
a real thing going on
21:21
and there's a
21:23
little bit of something beneath the surface
21:24
as well. He's, he's trying to do
21:25
a bit of a sales pitch to the people at home.
21:28
Seems like he's not trying to do
21:29
the sales pitch to Tim
21:31
is doing that for other people. So yeah, once again,
21:36
I'll give my ranking system a bit later
21:37
and if you wanted to, you can see how yours
21:38
actually adds up to mine.
21:43
But you know, two things
21:44
that seem very similar to podcast conversations.
21:47
One where there's a host on on either side and
21:49
that's just two people.
21:52
But I think you can have very different outcomes of the real ness
21:54
or the genuine ness of,
21:57
of what was actually occurring. Now. Can you
22:00
think just as another
22:00
example to put for people,
22:04
what would you say
22:04
of all the podcasts
22:06
you've listened to? Will you go?
22:09
Yeah,
22:09
that was almost probably
22:11
one of those podcasts. It's really quite genuine
22:12
conversation
22:15
versus maybe, you know, trying to sell
22:18
a particular point
22:18
or reason or a brain
22:22
or something like that versus maybe the one
22:23
that you'd be like, What I was like, I like
22:24
heavy pseudo conversation.
22:28
Like you could tell that there was
22:30
other outcomes than, than a genuine
22:31
conversation to be had.
22:34
I think Joe Rogan is probably the top
22:35
of the list for a person who's
22:37
had the most of them, and that's why he's,
22:39
you know, skyrocketed
22:39
because he's he's he's
22:43
genuinely interested
22:43
and you can't fake it over
22:46
the four or five hour
22:46
episodes that he does
22:49
and probably
22:49
especially his earlier
22:51
episodes as well. So if you want to see
22:54
an example, actually,
22:54
and I'll pull it up
22:56
to make sure I don't get it wrong, but he had a recent conversation
22:58
with a lady, by the way.
23:01
I believe he's resigned
23:01
his deal with Spotify.
23:04
But he's able to go
23:04
back onto YouTube now,
23:06
Something like that. Yeah. So it's not exclusive
23:07
to Spotify. Yeah,
23:09
I still hold the rights,
23:12
but yeah, his they'll
23:12
they'll put the audio.
23:16
The audio will be available on any podcasting app,
23:17
you know
23:19
podcasting 2.0 apps
23:19
included in that. Guy.
23:22
And yes, I believe
23:22
the video is going
23:25
back up
23:25
on, onto YouTube as well.
23:28
that's good. Yeah. Do you reckon
23:29
you'll start watching it? Are we in for a win
23:31
for open podcasting.
23:33
I'll be much more likely to. I don't like them.
23:36
So he does give an example for people
23:37
who want to see it. He had a conversation
23:39
25th of January
23:41
with a lady called Diana
23:41
Walsh, Bazooka Joe Rogan.
23:45
And right
23:45
at the beginning,
23:48
the Diana Diana
23:48
sort of calls out that
23:51
they talk about aliens
23:51
and like religion
23:53
and all this stuff. But right at the beginning, she kind of calls out
23:55
like, yeah, I'm
23:56
a I'm a bit like, scared that I'm going
23:58
to be talking about this particular topic and there's going to be
24:00
so many people listening to this podcast
24:01
and whatnot.
24:03
And you could tell very
24:03
genuinely that beginning
24:05
I was like, basis,
24:05
I don't give a fuck,
24:08
I don't give a shit how many people like I'm I just want to talk to you
24:10
and talk about this
24:11
particular thing. And I think that to me
24:14
I was gonna say similarly it's if you want to see
24:15
an example of just
24:17
a genuine conversation, it is purely just one person
24:19
talking to another
24:19
and trying to get to the
24:22
I guess you call like the topic at hand. That's the outcome.
24:24
Yeah. You can't go too far beyond that. Like it does way
24:26
better than we do it. Because a lot of the
24:28
times when we're talking, there's
24:30
things in our background, we're like, okay, we're thinking
24:31
sometimes about, you know, the be more
24:33
the me more light out there
24:34
and what something. In respond
24:35
to a little comment then
24:38
so you know that's that that reduces
24:38
the genuineness
24:41
of this one for sure. Exactly So yeah that doesn't exist but
24:43
what about the opposite side What's what's a real life?
24:47
Look, I'm
24:47
trying to think of one
24:49
which comes off right
24:49
at the top of my head.
24:51
Probably the
24:51
I think Sam Harris
24:55
had one with her
24:55
Vox once, I believe,
24:58
and that was just a very
25:02
kind of like you can tell it
25:02
when it's like not
25:04
flowing smoothly
25:04
or maybe the
25:07
the first one that he had
25:07
with Jordan Peterson
25:10
was probably another
25:10
good example of that.
25:13
Maybe like one of those middle ones
25:14
where you just like
25:16
I don't I don't really
25:16
know what's going on here.
25:19
This doesn't seem to be progressing forward.
25:22
They're
25:22
getting stuck on semantics
25:25
or they're talking past
25:25
each other
25:27
and not really like there's a lot of confusion and non understanding
25:29
going on, which I think can also be
25:31
a kind of indication
25:34
or a sign. And I don't have one
25:36
out of the out
25:38
of my pocket, but there are
25:40
certainly podcasts where the guest will pay
25:41
to be on the podcast
25:44
and now I think
25:44
by U.S. law.
25:48
So I don't know what
25:48
the law is here
25:50
in Australia, but by US law I believe
25:53
you have to state that
25:53
explicitly at the start of
25:56
the conversation
25:56
or make that known that
26:00
this is a paying guest
26:00
to come on here
26:03
and, and that they're
26:03
talking about their, their
26:05
products
26:05
or things like that. Yeah.
26:08
But if you don't if you don't say that
26:10
as the host
26:12
that that's 100% something that's like meant to come across
26:14
as genuine and here
26:17
perfect example as well
26:17
which is the fake podcasts
26:21
on TikTok using these now
26:21
so it'll be someone who
26:25
there was this one
26:25
dude in particular who is
26:28
he had this back up backdrop that looked
26:30
like the Joe Rogan backdrop.
26:33
And so he was pretending
26:33
like he was speaking to
26:37
with Joe Rogan, like as if he was
26:38
in the actual studio.
26:41
The funny thing was they had the correct mikes
26:42
and everything, but they didn't
26:44
even use the mic. They were just using
26:45
like foreign audio for.
26:48
Shitty like audio. So that's that's one
26:50
where it's like someone 100%
26:53
trying to come across as if they're
26:55
in a real conversation. And it's just like,
26:56
fucking bullshit, you know
26:59
damn well. Actually, just
27:00
I wouldn't really be able to specifically call
27:02
that a podcast. Again,
27:03
we've only listened to like a mind percentage
27:04
of all the podcasts.
27:08
And we will probably, if we see or feel
27:09
something's off,
27:12
you know, I'm not I'm not going to stick around. You know,
27:13
going to continue. Yeah, but I do remember
27:15
this is the early days when we're doing
27:16
the podcast stuff where I looked into
27:18
kind of the name of it,
27:20
but there's apps
27:20
and websites for this
27:23
where you can put yourself down as, Hey, I have this podcast
27:24
or I have this platform.
27:27
Yeah, if anyone would like to jump on
27:28
and have a conversation or an interview,
27:29
like jump in. And similarly
27:32
the other way around, you can kind of
27:33
put yourself down. Yeah, as an individual
27:35
that wants to be interviewed, that that's getting close
27:37
to having some sort of,
27:39
you know, pseudo conversation because it's not like
27:41
it doesn't feel genuine.
27:43
You're doing it for the numbers, for the volume,
27:44
for whatever it may be.
27:46
We've got a couple of those emails today of people
27:47
who are like, you know, this person would be great
27:49
to come on for whatever reason.
27:53
And and, you know, it's nice when they actually put out
27:54
names at the top. I think they did that
27:57
recently where it was like, hey, one car and team
27:58
and it's like, my God, you,
28:01
you spent the 5 seconds
28:01
here to actually
28:03
bother with that. It makes the details. They said there was a Luna
28:05
Luna gem in the chat.
28:09
They said here
28:09
what they aren't saying.
28:12
And I think that's a good point. So I wanted to ask you,
28:15
what are some signs perhaps that you think
28:16
something is a pseudo conversation
28:17
or when
28:21
anyways to identify if someone's perhaps talking with an agenda
28:23
and it's not,
28:26
it's not a real thing
28:26
going on.
28:28
And I think that was kind of like
28:30
a little good point that they had that
28:32
Luna had there, which is sometimes
28:34
you hear the things that they aren't saying.
28:36
So if they'd been asked a question
28:37
and they're like,
28:39
and it's perhaps like a little bit
28:40
of a pointed question and they're like skirting
28:42
around the topic or the,
28:45
you know, they're talking about nuclear
28:48
energy or something, and
28:50
they felt like they don't
28:53
talk about the data at all
28:53
and they immediately
28:55
jump to the fear mongering
28:55
all like Chernobyl
28:59
is going to blow up. You know,
29:00
I think of the kids. Why would somebody please
29:01
like the children
29:04
that sort of. Well, I think so. Just something
29:05
that points out this is and maybe
29:08
maybe we'll touch a lot more on the after the
29:10
the boostagram lounge.
29:12
But from a moving story
29:12
as an individual,
29:16
like someone in a conversation, moving it from a ceremony
29:17
or a pseudo conversation
29:21
into a more genuine
29:21
conversation,
29:24
there's a very
29:26
I think it is I was gonna ask this question we can talk about it
29:28
later. Whether it is
29:29
it is a trainable skill
29:31
or just a skill that you kind of just possess as you grow up
29:33
from a young age to
29:35
be able to assess whether, you know,
29:38
you're hearing what the person isn't saying.
29:39
I want to give an example. So what you just
29:42
like an example
29:42
you just gave there, it's
29:45
having the skill set
29:45
to kind of push beyond.
29:49
Yes. Listening to what
29:49
the person saying,
29:51
but getting that,
29:51
whether it's a feeling
29:54
or the understanding that, hey, there's actually something
29:56
even more deep rooted here that they're not actually saying.
29:59
And I need to get
29:59
to that point
30:01
or kind of like brute
30:01
forcing your way
30:04
past those barriers
30:04
to the real intent.
30:07
But I think it takes some real skill either
30:07
because, A,
30:10
you don't have like the connection with the person
30:12
to get that deep quickly
30:12
or B,
30:15
you do have that connection. But it's about almost
30:16
having the fortitude
30:19
to just do it,
30:19
like the courage to do it.
30:22
That's hard. That's hard because even that can be in the back of your mind.
30:24
You might be, you know,
30:24
you might be
30:26
this random example. You might be talking
30:27
to a random person and you're hearing
30:29
the asking about the day and are you okay? And how's everything?
30:32
And you can see them like, yeah,
30:33
that's kind of good. But you can tell you have like this here
30:34
where they're not saying,
30:38
So you're technically having
30:38
a pseudo conversation about you're asking
30:40
this person how they are
30:41
the kind of lying to you or they're not telling you
30:43
the full thing. If you're also not
30:44
that encompassing or penetrating
30:46
to the conversation,
30:48
it's a pseudo convo. If it didn't happen in not actually
30:51
telling each other
30:51
anything more than lies
30:53
or just very
30:53
superficial thing,
30:55
but it takes some fortitude to push past that boundary
30:56
to the things you can
30:59
see, you can hear. But you know, don't you know, they're actually
31:01
not saying to get to that deep,
31:03
more deep rooted
31:03
conversation to be had.
31:07
But the skills, skill sets
31:07
that come with that
31:09
to do that. 100%. And and it's the ways of
31:13
tackling something as well. So I had a little example
31:14
here, which was
31:18
why was it that
31:18
I've become over the years
31:21
just spent more time looking at Zen and Buddhism
31:23
than I have at, say,
31:26
like Christianity,
31:26
for example,
31:28
and I think that better marketers,
31:29
like I've never had
31:32
a Buddhist person
31:32
really come up to me
31:35
and like, try
31:35
and sell their religion,
31:37
whereas I can think of so many times
31:38
where I've had the,
31:40
you know, the very explicit, they come up to the door
31:43
and they're trying to pitch me a Jehovah's Witness style
31:44
or something like that,
31:47
you know, fine. I kind of once again,
31:47
I kind of know
31:50
what I'm getting into when I open the door
31:51
like that. And it's like, okay, I know
31:52
what's happening here.
31:55
So there's there's like
31:55
a bit of realness to it.
31:58
There. I've had the other ones where you think you're
32:00
just talking with the person and then that
32:01
they're building in
32:03
this lead up to spruiking
32:03
you like, by the way,
32:07
you know, Jehovah's Witness, go to this website.
32:10
I've talked about this on the podcast before many,
32:13
many years ago,
32:13
like two years ago, where
32:16
this lady, like,
32:16
got me to download an app
32:19
like because I thought it was a different app that she was talking about
32:22
and it actually
32:22
was just like a mormon
32:25
or Jehovah's Witness
32:25
like app application.
32:27
I'm like, What the fuck? What just happened here?
32:30
Like, this is the way this should be made. Sneaky God.
32:32
And it can and, and, and yeah,
32:34
people are definitely good
32:34
at better
32:36
this and here's
32:36
another one
32:39
that was
32:39
in the gym very recently.
32:42
It's an older gentleman, but he's pretty well
32:43
built to put together.
32:45
He obviously cares a lot
32:45
about fitness.
32:47
I chatted with him
32:47
a couple of times before
32:50
and he is really cool
32:50
guy, really cool.
32:53
And we're just talking about something. Can I mentioned
32:54
bro science?
32:57
I can't remember how it came up and you know,
32:58
he got real excited
33:01
and he and he was like laughing. And then he's like,
33:03
All right, I got it. I got to tell you
33:04
something. And then he kind of
33:05
tells me about this thing that he's working on.
33:07
And it was basically a
33:11
a fitness box type thing,
33:11
like a home gym,
33:15
1.3 metres
33:15
by 1.2 metres, I believe.
33:18
And it's got all these cables and it can do this
33:19
and could do that. And he spent
33:20
a whole lot of time, money, effort onto it
33:22
creating this thing.
33:24
He originally created it for some friends
33:25
during the COVID time
33:28
or like just peak COVID
33:28
pass over time,
33:31
all this sort of thing. And he was very much
33:32
like talking at me and
33:36
this was where it's like, you know, if if other people
33:37
I've had this before, you know, people
33:39
just talk at you and sometimes it's about some
33:43
really boring shit
33:43
and you don't care.
33:46
In this case, I kind of did care because he was
33:47
he was like, he was telling me a story.
33:49
I was making it funny. It was very interesting.
33:52
He was still talking at me. So it's still lost
33:53
a little bit of the interaction
33:55
of this.
33:57
And and perhaps, you know, it wasn't
33:59
exactly the conversation I thought I was going
34:01
to have with him.
34:04
But, you know, he was funny. He was he was like really
34:05
selling it. And, you know,
34:07
he got to the point eventually and why
34:09
the bro science was funny
34:11
because he's kind of like label the brand is kind of
34:13
sort of like a bro science
34:15
type thing, even though it's more serious
34:17
and, and like scientific.
34:20
And that was one where
34:20
I was like, okay, this,
34:23
this guy was, you know, if if another person
34:25
had done this to me
34:27
and talked about me like that, I would have found
34:29
a way to escape it
34:31
sooner and and just kind
34:31
of like get out of there.
34:35
But because he was good
34:35
at it, I,
34:37
I was, I was like, all right,
34:38
this is you know, this is.
34:41
Like, I'm going to stick. Around. Is not 100%
34:44
I was expecting, but
34:44
it was still worthwhile
34:46
hanging around and hearing him out. And and, you know,
34:50
because he was passionate about it. And passionate
34:52
is also probably like another
34:55
that I'd put that as an
34:55
indicator of genuineness.
34:57
If someone's passionate about what
34:59
they're talking about,
35:01
then I'd probably put that as a as a higher level
35:02
of likely to be genuine.
35:06
Yeah. it's a part of, I guess the authenticity.
35:10
Like it gives you an idea of whether a person
35:11
actually being authentic. If you see them
35:13
almost like letting loose
35:16
and just letting the
35:16
passion flow as opposed to
35:18
the almost like jarring
35:18
or false version of like
35:21
you talking about something else and then pulling it back. I mean, like, anyways,
35:23
yeah, yeah, buy this. Car and if, if they asking
35:24
questions as well.
35:27
Another great one I always love to see this is when
35:30
someone is on someone's podcast
35:32
so it'll be like Noah
35:32
on Tim Ferris's
35:35
but he asks quiz questions back to Tim
35:36
because that's what you get in real life
35:38
conversations.
35:40
A lot of time. It's quite a, it's a back and forth, back and forth,
35:43
and it's not just
35:43
an interview style like.
35:46
Ryan Well, I mean, we'll talk about it
35:46
in the after the best you can, but
35:48
it's an example difference
35:50
between my interview with toif and my interview
35:52
with Emil. I want to get
35:54
I want to get your thoughts on on that
35:55
as well. Yeah, sure. Sure.
35:57
You mentioned that. Let's jump in in the best
35:58
gaps, man. I'll, Yeah, let's it
36:02
Kim is. Jumping up Boostagram Lounge so Boosta
36:04
Gram is a message
36:08
that you can send directly
36:08
within a podcasting app
36:10
and it has to be a good one. So it has to be one
36:12
which has all the cool
36:14
new features of things like transcripts,
36:15
being able to search them
36:18
or being able
36:18
to like create clips
36:20
within the in the app itself of seeing chapters
36:22
chapter images,
36:24
which I always put in there, and you're able to send us
36:26
a message directly
36:29
within the app with a payment of money
36:29
attached to it.
36:33
Satoshis In this case, good apps to do this
36:34
on on places like Fountain Pod versus
36:36
Custom Attic and true
36:40
fans, places like a podcast gallery
36:41
shouldn't, shouldn't forget them
36:43
and yeah, we call them out on the show and thank these people
36:46
for helping to support the show and also give us some
36:48
feedback of and content.
36:51
So one,
36:51
what have we got to see?
36:54
I can, I can hear the excitement here from, from Karen
36:55
because it is a it is a good
36:57
week. It is very. Much. We've got Dave Jones.
37:01
Dave is back. He's back.
37:04
For the memorial
37:04
our nation 12,112 Saturday
37:06
using Ron words. And thank you Dave it's
37:07
so good so good to be.
37:10
Back thank you very much. For those perfect timing
37:12
because I'll talk about it
37:15
a little bit later, but perfect timing. Thank you, Dave.
37:17
Thank you very much. Then. Joe Madden, music
37:19
great episode
37:22
5000 Thoughts on
37:22
Using Fountain. Thank you.
37:24
Thank you, Joe. Man, I believe that was for the one
37:26
I did with Nick.
37:29
Yes, it was. Yesterday as well. Yeah.
37:31
Now I know you're going to get excited about these too,
37:32
so I'll just, I'll say them fully
37:35
that we had both dash
37:35
boys. Yep.
37:38
Yeah, that's. True.
37:40
Two different bursts. Yeah, but both are 30,000.
37:44
That's a fountain. yeah.
37:48
Well, the first
37:48
one, actually, no apology.
37:51
They're the same. No. So I was trying to verify
37:52
this.
37:55
I think I might have sent it twice, so I'm definitely gonna
37:56
have to send some back
37:59
because I was listening
37:59
to one of their episodes
38:03
just. Just now, and I was like, Yeah, I definitely need to send
38:06
some back because the thing. Is, I'm. Like, I'm
38:07
pretty sure it was double
38:10
all the data says it is,
38:10
but like the,
38:12
the just satoshis
38:12
don't stream.
38:16
I believe I'll be it. No, sorry, not all of it
38:18
because I don't think
38:18
I'll be had it So
38:21
yeah I need to,
38:21
I need to see it.
38:23
In any case, the comment there was incredibly
38:24
important interview about the future Fountain
38:26
thought of him and their insights
38:28
into marketing and audience growth.
38:30
Well done, Khan Thanks. Now, as I was saying,
38:31
the conversation they found Fountain as well. So yeah so that was
38:33
the was so as or
38:38
I have apologies
38:38
I forgotten
38:41
the other guy's name but beer bourbon
38:42
and balderdash is there
38:44
is that podcast and you know what it's
38:46
crazy man because I don't like beer
38:47
I don't like bourbon.
38:51
Balderdash. That's okay it's and it's
38:52
nor I game
38:54
it's somewhat interesting but they spend
38:55
probably like the first 25 minutes
38:57
of the episode talking about things
38:59
I don't really enjoy. But because they have
39:01
chapters,
39:03
I skip to the parts where I do. Enjoy the way I enjoy it.
39:05
So once again, I. Can't attest more to that.
39:09
I'm stunned to find myself doing that with a lot more podcast,
39:11
especially when they've got chapters. YouTube as well.
39:14
It's like critical. I'm actually disliking
39:15
the players out there
39:18
who don't have that. So I.
39:20
What was that, the Tim Ferriss No. Cogan When it first came
39:22
up, they had no chapters.
39:24
I refuse to watch it. I'm like,
39:25
No, I'm not going to I'm not going to even bother.
39:28
I'm going to waste my time. Yeah. And the following
39:31
here, Carl McCormack is in
39:31
zero of Ducks 2220
39:34
sets in using fountain.
39:34
He says great upside.
39:37
I stopped listening to Attila because of his outlive
39:38
book. Wow, that's interesting.
39:42
He had a very random coded sentence
39:43
about the COVID VAX
39:45
being innovative
39:47
five breezes later. That ain't longevity.
39:50
Doctors making money off
39:50
of speculation is insane.
39:53
The future of medicine is personal. No universal diet.
39:56
You need to follow
39:56
your own biology.
39:59
Interesting. Now, I haven't actually read. I didn't actually realise
40:00
that he called out
40:02
so specifically that in the book. Are you going to read
40:04
that book? Is that on your list?
40:07
I think I have gifted it
40:07
to my dad,
40:09
so I probably will end up
40:09
reading it at some point.
40:11
It's not for any like it's probably not
40:13
in the next few months. Gotcha. Yeah.
40:16
Yeah. Look, I don't know much
40:16
about the guy personally
40:18
and the book, but, Yeah, but
40:22
this is one of those ones
40:22
where Nicole feels
40:24
very strongly about the about the COVID vaccine
40:25
and things like that.
40:27
I'm I'm probably like,
40:27
on the middle ground.
40:31
I thought it was just like
40:34
he's listening
40:34
to the, the, the convo
40:36
I had with the dog lady
40:36
and it's just like,
40:38
man, I was fucking real. That was a real shit
40:39
of a car run, you idiot.
40:43
Yeah, I would say it's
40:43
similar in the way that
40:46
a meal is and why
40:46
you probably would dislike
40:50
a lot of right here. In the same way
40:52
if you disliked a lot of the way
40:52
that a meal came across.
40:55
Because he is very he's
40:55
very strong in the views
40:59
that he sort of sometimes holds
41:00
and he's pretty
41:02
directly he had a conversation with Tom Billy you listen recently
41:04
that I was listening to
41:06
and there was even parts
41:06
of it that I was like,
41:09
whoa, that's it's pretty hot hitting. This is maybe how Andrew
41:11
Huberman might be
41:15
a little bit more open
41:15
to not open, but I guess
41:19
kind of showcase a little bit more of
41:21
the cloud of haziness that
41:21
ah, can exist in science
41:24
pretty
41:24
I can get pretty direct.
41:27
I'm like, Hey, it's 1.6 grams of protein
41:28
per kilogram of
41:31
the commodity. So and I'm like, well,
41:32
I guess, you know,
41:34
it's definitely some variation, but he's very direct with
41:36
a lot of his calls now.
41:38
Yeah. I think cause
41:38
right though the, you know
41:41
you got to focus on your own sort of thing It's got to be individual,
41:43
you know, the,
41:45
the hurt
41:45
and there's a lot of
41:48
I mean the snake
41:48
oil salesman as, as a meme
41:51
as a thing has existed forever
41:52
because, you know, health
41:54
is like one of the most crucial things.
41:56
And people trying to
41:56
break your shipment,
41:58
whether it be the herbal remedies or whether it be 150
42:00
pills per day
42:03
that people are trying to sell you
42:04
shit, that's that's an area
42:05
where you got to got to keep
42:06
your wits about you. I think that, that.
42:09
And I think it's important to remember that
42:11
in the group or in the herd
42:13
or in the largeness,
42:16
the statistics are
42:16
important.
42:18
It makes sense. But the outcomes
42:20
that come out of a group or a herd mentality
42:21
or the outcomes
42:23
that come out of that gigantic mass of people
42:24
don't always translate
42:28
directly to the individual. So just because from its
42:31
physical perspective,
42:31
you know, it does say that
42:33
I should probably be eating this amount of calories and blah,
42:35
blah, blah, blah, blah,
42:37
Hey, you should probably know just in oneself
42:39
what that actually means specifically,
42:40
as we saw just recently,
42:43
you know, our mice, we're talking about the gym. We went to Current Gym
42:45
just recently,
42:47
a beautiful place. And you know, all of us had different
42:48
metabolic ages. Now, if you just
42:52
kind of thought like, Hey, we're all the same age, we're all
42:53
about the same way. Cool. So your base metabolic
42:55
rate should be about here.
42:57
No, it isn't. When you actually look individually, we are all kind of
42:59
slightly different. I'm saying, you know what
43:00
the metabolic age mean?
43:03
I've no idea. No idea. It basically means that
43:06
whatever that age was
43:06
provided is what you know,
43:09
unlike as a as a standard,
43:09
the lower it is to you
43:13
at your actual age,
43:13
it means the more calories
43:17
you burn in a, you know,
43:17
sort of sedentary mode.
43:20
So you burn calories
43:20
at the rate that,
43:22
I guess a 16 year old would and I would burn calories
43:24
in the right. The 19 year old wouldn't
43:26
just like standing
43:26
metabolic condition.
43:29
Okay. Obviously, the older that is, the slower the rate is.
43:32
What it just means that we can we can consume more
43:33
calories and burn them
43:36
without even having
43:36
to train as much as maybe
43:38
someone who has an older metabolic age. But, you know,
43:40
those numbers, you could
43:42
you could kind of science out. Well, all of you
43:43
guys are 32 years old. 31 years old.
43:46
You should all be roughly eating this amount
43:47
from wrong because it to
43:49
the individual is very different. But statistically,
43:52
an average, you could go, okay, yeah, you could make a good call
43:54
and on the average. But the average is
43:55
not the individual. Yeah, you know what? That kind of
43:57
makes sense, actually, because I've always
43:58
kind of said
44:01
whether I train or
44:01
not doesn't
44:03
seem to really matter because one
44:05
people are always like, yeah, if I do an extra
44:08
five ks on the treadmill,
44:08
like I really like
44:11
the way it really comes off or something. And I'd be like, Man,
44:13
I did. I ran fucking
44:15
half a marathon today
44:15
and I still, I
44:18
the exact same as I would if I did nothing and
44:19
my weight doesn't change.
44:23
Yeah. Okay, cool. That's interesting. Time.
44:24
Thank you so much.
44:26
If I want example, by the way
44:27
of this really clear one is like, you know why
44:29
it's different between averages
44:31
and individual. There's there's
44:32
always a famous saying that you know when
44:35
when or Warren Buffett
44:35
walks into a theatre
44:38
or an amphitheatre with a group of people, all of a sudden everyone
44:40
becomes a millionaire. Yeah, yeah, exactly.
44:41
Yeah. yeah, yeah.
44:43
Yeah, yeah, yeah. The average is very different
44:45
to the individual. Yeah, definitely.
44:47
All right. Very good. Thank you
44:48
everyone for doing that. I did check the PayPal.
44:51
Nothing coming in
44:51
on PayPal this week and
44:54
yeah, I probably should just
44:54
call that out as well.
44:57
If you did want to support the show and you're like,
44:58
I'll base to Grams
45:00
and change my podcast app,
45:00
I don't want to do that.
45:02
That's fine. We have a link down
45:03
in the show notes where you can send
45:05
that in. We actually sent
45:08
Nathaniel's very generous $10 off
45:10
through to Pod Verse LLC
45:14
as a as a
45:14
thank you for to Mitch for
45:17
spreading the pot verse up and doing really awesome
45:18
work with that and we're
45:21
we try and help out developers. I never really
45:22
mentioned it but 10% of
45:25
this very podcast goes
45:25
to developers as well.
45:28
So thank you very much
45:28
everyone for doing that.
45:32
Let's jump onto
45:32
perhaps the format one.
45:34
So I no surprise here,
45:34
but the medium matters
45:38
in terms
45:38
of having a conversation
45:40
in real life beats a video call. So you know,
45:43
Sudan is already you know
45:43
I'll, take off, what, 5%?
45:47
Maybe just just for the very fact that we're doing it
45:49
like this, which beats a phone call,
45:50
which beats, you know,
45:53
email, which beats texting, which beats postcard,
45:56
I'm not sure you can really get lower than Morse code.
45:58
Perhaps perhaps smoke
45:58
signals or something.
46:01
Like that might signal news. Yes. All that's all.
46:04
Yep. Yeah. And, and so, you know,
46:04
I had a truly bizarre
46:08
convo yesterday
46:08
and I closed the convo.
46:10
It was a text conversation
46:10
with a
46:13
really old friend of mine and it was just
46:14
I was like,
46:17
I can't believe they just sent me that. That's like
46:19
the most ridiculous thing. Flabbergasted.
46:23
I was flabbergasted by the guy
46:23
that that would just to.
46:26
Share now what was said. now I comment
46:28
I actually can't. It is is just too much.
46:33
It's too much
46:33
but the that were genuine
46:37
and what they were saying they were trying to give advice basically they were trying
46:39
to give advice. And
46:43
I was just like
46:45
there was no skill, no etiquette and how you did this,
46:47
I like I was shocked
46:49
that they actually sent
46:51
through what they sent through. And so I think like
46:53
the medium really matters.
46:55
And so even if the if you have like
46:57
the genuine this,
46:59
the the quality
46:59
of the conversation,
47:02
the realness, the
47:02
phoniness, the scamming.
47:05
So the just
47:05
yeah, I'd say realness,
47:07
just as a quality
47:07
degrades, if the medium
47:11
is imperfect. So so in real life
47:16
I don't know does anything beat
47:17
in real life in your
47:19
in your in your eyes or do you even agree
47:20
with this?
47:23
I do agree. I think the principle of,
47:25
you know, as you mentioned, from real life to video
47:26
to phone call or audio
47:29
to text and all that, Obviously the app up, the food
47:31
chain, you are the more
47:34
realistic, the conversation. I guess I'm just trying to
47:36
put it into other words.
47:38
I guess there's an essence and a
47:42
multitude of information
47:42
that I guess arrives
47:45
in a conversation
47:45
when you're
47:47
able to be in person
47:47
or video
47:49
that doesn't when it's
47:49
an audio and text phone.
47:52
So of course, when text, you know,
47:53
getting the body,
47:56
the you know, the body positioning
47:58
and the way the eyes are dotting
47:59
or the sweating or the you know,
48:01
as Lena mentioned, the the things that, you know,
48:03
they're not saying. But can you hear them
48:04
so well? Of course you're going
48:06
to see them in text. I have no idea
48:07
what that potentially is.
48:10
So, yes, you're missing a lot of that
48:11
valid that's available
48:12
in just information as part of the mode
48:14
that happens.
48:16
But I
48:16
think that there also is a
48:21
it's kind of like
48:21
a middle ground in that
48:23
the more rudimentary
48:23
the mode gets
48:27
and this might not be global so challenges, but
48:28
I think for me more light
48:31
I'll say it
48:31
this way for me,
48:33
if I'm in like in-person
48:33
one on one with a person
48:38
in real world, I'm not talking a digital world
48:39
or something, I can get 80% of the time.
48:44
Not that not everyone,
48:44
but I can get to
48:46
general good conversations
48:46
or a deep conversation
48:49
if I want to. If we need to get to our
48:49
position, It can be hard.
48:52
And I like that it's you can get the input
48:53
from the other person,
48:55
from, you know,
48:55
all all different ways.
48:58
However,
48:58
when it comes into like
49:01
video and audio formats,
49:01
at least for me,
49:04
I do find it
49:04
challenging to do that.
49:06
Now, this is just personally, I don't know, bother me more like kind of agree
49:08
with what even you do.
49:11
But I I'm not great in
49:13
having a phone conversation with someone
49:14
and getting deep or getting real or talking
49:16
something.
49:18
I was talking to a
49:18
business colleague of mine
49:21
today or the fine and the way that I would
49:23
generally interact
49:26
with them in
49:26
a face to face, sort of in
49:29
wasn't the same through an audio. I could tell
49:30
you could tell that it wasn't as genuine,
49:32
there wasn't as much of a
49:35
care factor,
49:35
was more transactional.
49:37
Maybe it could be said, however, when you go
49:39
kind of one more rung down
49:39
to text messaging,
49:43
all of a sudden it improves. Yeah,
49:44
the ability to get deeper.
49:47
Again
49:47
or the ability to connect
49:49
at a more genuine level. Now, I don't know
49:52
why that is,
49:52
because there's less
49:54
touch points and less ability, but I would say
49:56
it has something to do
49:56
with in person.
50:00
Fantastic to top
50:00
of the food chain, I'd say
50:02
before for whatever, at least personally. For me, yes.
50:06
Video in Texas, video and audio are great
50:07
and Texas maybe goes down
50:09
low and certain
50:09
amount of inputs,
50:12
but for whatever reason,
50:12
I can use text to kind of
50:15
elevate the connection,
50:15
maybe because it removes
50:18
some of the touchpoints
50:18
that make it awkward.
50:22
And not all of. Connection. So yeah, I'll tell
50:26
you that I don't know if that resonates
50:26
with people, but at least I'll be counter that.
50:29
It does for me, man, because
50:30
when I was thinking of
50:33
this, even just like this
50:33
video call, I'm
50:35
kind of like it's a slight degradation,
50:36
but for me,
50:39
some of the skills
50:39
are better
50:41
because I don't have to,
50:41
for example,
50:44
worry about eye contact
50:44
or lack of eye contact.
50:47
It's a bit more natural to be like
50:48
looking around the room. If you're on a
50:50
you're on a video call or you're looking at your screen.
50:52
So there's not
50:52
not this like directness
50:55
that's there for text.
50:58
For me, I'd probably be like,
50:58
you know, real life is still
51:01
probably the best as long as I'm in the zone, I'm really comfortable
51:03
with the person that that's
51:05
probably the most genuine. I'll get video call.
51:08
It's a degradation down,
51:08
but it's not too much.
51:11
It's a little bit audio only.
51:13
Once again, I think by my skills
51:16
probably lend me
51:16
towards that
51:18
or the cutting
51:18
out of a lot of bullshit
51:20
actually add
51:20
something to that for me.
51:23
And while still a step
51:23
down, it's not too much.
51:26
But then when it gets
51:26
to text like boom,
51:29
I just plummet. Man. I'm not not great at text,
51:32
not great at emails,
51:32
not my forte
51:36
way, way
51:36
too easy to misinterpret
51:38
the tone for myself
51:41
of what someone else is saying. So yeah, no,
51:43
I get what you mean
51:43
with it, where it changes.
51:45
And that probably is just based on your skills
51:46
as a person as well.
51:49
And what you're good at
51:52
is here's another one for you. So I was listening to
51:55
Andre and synopsis
51:55
and someone was.
51:58
Currently consuming every single piece of content he's
52:00
created in this month. Since I unsubscribe,
52:03
which was about May of
52:06
last year. So I've got about like
52:06
eight months to get through
52:08
eight or nine months. And he had this question.
52:12
Someone was asking him like, Are you ever going to have
52:13
on Jemmy song? Who's another
52:16
Bitcoin person to
52:16
to like talk about a topic
52:19
that they disagreed with? And he was like,
52:21
nah, because that's that's
52:21
going to be a debate.
52:24
And debates in his mind
52:24
don't illuminate
52:26
that the more
52:26
a battle of personalities,
52:29
rather than getting to like the heart
52:30
or truth of the matter.
52:34
It because both sides
52:34
come in with very
52:39
there's what debates are there's a there's a single statement
52:40
or touch point
52:43
and then one side
52:43
has to argue good for that
52:46
and one side has to argue bad for that, against it
52:47
for and against.
52:50
And this is
52:50
like the classical debate
52:54
thing that you'll see in schools
52:54
and stuff like this
52:57
when it comes to one, it's
52:57
probably a little bit
53:00
different because whilst they might
53:01
be on the opposing sides
53:04
of an issue, I'm sure that they both have a bit more nuance.
53:07
So it wouldn't be full on.
53:09
But I can definitely see
53:09
that there's, there's
53:12
the format of why you're
53:12
coming into something.
53:16
Another example, I had a chat with Trevor
53:18
Bell yesterday and
53:20
it'll be getting released
53:20
after this.
53:22
And Trevor is a
53:28
he called me up on this a couple of times because I just got
53:31
caught in the habit of thinking of this as saying he's not A.V,
53:32
but he's definitely anti
53:36
Bitcoin and using that
53:36
method in the apps or,
53:41
or at the very least
53:41
maybe not
53:43
even anti or that he's,
53:45
he just thinks the emphasis on
53:46
that is way too much
53:48
and there should be more
53:48
talking
53:50
about the PayPal option
53:50
or things like this and
53:55
Trevor is actually
53:55
a lawyer so his his
53:58
he knows his way around words and he knows
53:59
how to have a more debate
54:03
or argumentative style
54:03
conversation.
54:07
I don't believe he was like a barrister or anything, but,
54:08
you know, just just the fact
54:10
that he's a lawyer lent him more to being
54:15
more comfortable with conflict. Perhaps, or better
54:16
in these sorts of cases.
54:18
And he was very much
54:18
playing a devil's advocate
54:21
sort of role with, with me
54:21
on on that conversation
54:25
that we had, I would still rate
54:26
the genuine level of of it
54:30
still pretty high, but it was once again,
54:31
it was like,
54:34
you know, he he came in with something like a little bit to prove
54:35
and so did I. I came at something to be
54:37
like, you know, go V for me.
54:41
And so it probably
54:42
took away like the full,
54:46
the full 100% of it.
54:48
Another reason
54:48
would be like
54:50
that was the reason
54:50
that it came on
54:53
to talk about it. And I wouldn't normally
54:56
have him on as a guest
54:56
because,
54:58
you know, his interests
54:58
get get there.
55:00
So the tagline of his
55:00
podcast is
55:04
Sex politics, religion
55:04
and or sorry news,
55:08
sex, politics, religion,
55:08
something like that.
55:11
And I'm like, Damn, that's the four things
55:12
I care about
55:13
the least in this world. That's that's not up
55:14
my alley at all.
55:17
So he came on for a very
55:17
specific purpose.
55:20
I think it still went pretty well, but it was still
55:25
yeah, it was it was still like it had a little bit
55:26
of a debate type tinge to it as well,
55:28
which. Yeah, look, I was going to
55:29
say on the bait,
55:32
I think to be the most
55:32
effective conversation
55:35
and you kind of have to have a mediator to the debate,
55:36
then I'd say, okay,
55:40
that maybe lends itself
55:40
to a better approach in
55:43
the sense of, yeah, you're going to have
55:44
someone trying cunning, but then you have
55:46
a mediator the might.
55:48
Less less trying to score
55:48
points for example.
55:51
Yeah. Let's trying
55:52
to one up each other as opposed to okay
55:55
we've we've triangulated
55:55
to a narrower perspective
55:58
where we've agreed or disagreed on things. Fantastic.
56:02
Here's
56:04
one one of my summaries
56:04
I was coming to
56:07
with conversations. Right is
56:10
in the end,
56:12
depending on the viewpoint
56:12
of what people say,
56:14
there's conversations,
56:14
obviously where one on one
56:16
you might have in private with someone. But as they start
56:18
getting more public,
56:21
others are being shared
56:21
more broadly.
56:24
It's for debate in terms
56:24
of who is watching it,
56:27
who is listening, and how,
56:27
how much genuineness is
56:31
taken from it, how much someone think
56:31
it's a pseudo conversation,
56:33
how much something is not
56:35
an example. Here again, once again
56:37
is can't listen
56:37
to a little bit,
56:40
a little bit of the Emil
56:40
conversation that I have
56:43
on the podcast. I'm 102
56:45
and you listen to it for a little bit
56:46
and then you're like, not his style is not,
56:48
not up my alley.
56:50
I don't like his style. There's there's
56:52
a difference to a start, whether it's because
56:55
pseudo conversation
56:55
or not, it's more of a
56:58
hey, it's just the style,
56:58
the topic, the idea.
57:00
Not for me, not the way that I want to like,
57:02
consume that information. But then I had
57:05
other commentary feedback
57:07
coming in about shit
57:07
that was really good.
57:11
Like I really enjoyed listening
57:12
to that conversation. That was
57:14
that was a meaningful tone as you can hear genuine
57:16
like direct feedback
57:19
I was getting and I guess
57:20
talking about it from, from this perspective,
57:22
I go when you put it
57:22
into the public sphere,
57:26
there's always going to be
57:26
the challenge
57:29
that even any conversation
57:29
you even might have that
57:32
you feel like this was
57:32
pretty genuine between me
57:34
and even the other person says, Yeah,
57:36
this is pretty genuine. This is a deep
57:37
conversation. You, you,
57:39
you're undoubtedly going to have someone out there. That guy by now is shit.
57:41
That was pseudo.
57:43
No, I think. I think you can have
57:46
the point where I would be like, I didn't like it,
57:49
so I didn't like it at all, but I wouldn't have called
57:52
that a pseudo conversation and I just didn't
57:55
like his style and you know, well,
57:57
I might not like what
57:57
he's saying or even the
58:01
the debate or the
58:01
the not the debate, but,
58:04
you know, his arguments
58:04
for whatever it is saying
58:07
or if they're trying to
58:07
prove a point or if it's
58:09
the data behind it
58:09
or something like that.
58:11
So I think you can
58:11
dislike something
58:14
and it could still be a real genuine conversation
58:16
between two people and I and me personally,
58:17
I just don't.
58:20
That's the. Point. That's good point. But I guess I would
58:22
I guess the
58:25
the differentiation. I was trying
58:26
to make a claim there was you going to
58:27
whether it's a
58:31
likeable thing or not likeable thing. I think once you put
58:33
into the public sphere,
58:35
it's on. It's just a time basis
58:36
when someone's
58:38
going to come across that
58:38
and feel like that.
58:40
That wasn't genuine. And I'm sure if this was
58:43
out long enough and enough people listened to it,
58:44
some would think, Hey
58:47
you guys, that's not genuine yet. Yeah,
58:48
you're not really talk. It feels like you're
58:50
holding back. You're
58:51
talking about genuinely. And you're trying to do
58:53
they're trying to.
58:55
Sort through something. So you're doing. It for
58:56
clout and the mere models.
58:58
Yeah. And so part of me goes
59:03
in, at least in the public
59:03
sphere,
59:05
if you if someone's
59:06
listening to this or you're kind of trying
59:08
to get to a point where, hey, I want to have
59:10
conversations with people
59:11
that I'm sharing are going to be seen as
59:12
deep, genuine, authentic,
59:16
never going to be treated
59:16
as pseudo
59:18
good luck that would happen. That just will not happen.
59:20
Given enough time and enough people listening to it. I will give a -1%
59:22
for any conversation
59:25
that is made public just because
59:27
of it'll have a somewhat
59:27
of a performative
59:31
aspect to it,
59:31
I think. Yeah, for sure.
59:33
The closest I like so maybe I'll I'll be
59:36
to give an example
59:36
for people at home
59:39
the probably
59:39
the most authentic
59:42
genuine
59:44
really there
59:44
for the conversation one
59:47
that I've had was the one, the second one I did
59:48
with Taaffe
59:50
at my place,
59:50
because it was in essence
59:54
a continuation of the conversations that we were having
59:55
already on Iran.
59:58
It was there was some back
59:59
and forth, as I think,
1:00:01
and gave some feedback around. It was the closest
1:00:02
I've had in terms of,
1:00:04
hey, that was a genuine conversation
1:00:05
and if I can replicate
1:00:07
that a lot more, awesome. But again, there's
1:00:09
someone out there that might believe that
1:00:12
it wasn't that
1:00:12
for whatever reason,
1:00:14
I kind of get to a summary of as much
1:00:15
as you want to try. Yeah, if you're putting it
1:00:17
in the public sphere, you kind of have to give
1:00:19
yourself a negative of, of
1:00:19
genuine is just for the,
1:00:22
just for doing that. Yeah.
1:00:22
Yeah. Definitely.
1:00:24
Then I got to say
1:00:24
like I still got a
1:00:26
bunch of notes here. I'll try and get them all, but we haven't talked
1:00:30
about multiple people
1:00:30
and how that can
1:00:32
somewhat turn chaotic
1:00:32
and whether a
1:00:35
because you know, conversations you can have
1:00:36
between multiple people this definitely one where
1:00:40
the skill wise I suck at
1:00:40
and it's not my forte.
1:00:44
I went to a bitcoin
1:00:44
made up on Thursday and
1:00:47
what I really like about them is, you know,
1:00:49
the presentations are somewhat interesting,
1:00:51
but they're not.
1:00:53
Most I go into
1:00:55
when I'm like, I'm not there for the presentation,
1:00:57
I'm there for the kind of chats with people.
1:01:00
And I met some cool people
1:01:00
and you know, that was
1:01:02
right in the after bit. That was, that was like
1:01:03
the after event, I guess.
1:01:06
And we're in small groups
1:01:06
and you know, people
1:01:08
just tend to break off
1:01:08
and certain things.
1:01:11
I was with two other guys
1:01:11
and we were chatting
1:01:13
and that was that was really great. And we're talking about
1:01:14
like all sorts of things
1:01:16
tech, technical topics,
1:01:16
jokes, chit chat.
1:01:19
It was it was a bit
1:01:19
all over the shop
1:01:21
once again, not,
1:01:21
not my best.
1:01:24
And so skill wise
1:01:24
and the reason aside,
1:01:26
I like it, I certainly
1:01:26
suffered for it.
1:01:31
And then that was like
1:01:31
the after after event.
1:01:33
And so this is when like
1:01:33
we're all leaving
1:01:35
while lot of people have already left and there's
1:01:36
five of us left and we go down there
1:01:38
and, you know, you know how, you know,
1:01:41
females and males tend to split off
1:01:41
into their own little groups
1:01:43
and things like that. But that's
1:01:45
what had happened before. But on the way down,
1:01:47
I was with the two
1:01:50
females remaining
1:01:50
and then those two guys
1:01:53
and they started
1:01:53
talking and men like
1:01:56
we went everywhere. And when I say we, I meant
1:01:59
I mean they did
1:01:59
because I put in maybe
1:02:02
like two two words out of
1:02:06
15 minutes,
1:02:06
20 minutes, but
1:02:10
not, not once again,
1:02:10
not my forte.
1:02:12
And it's because like just the style of
1:02:13
the conversation was was
1:02:16
was everywhere, though, You know, they'd go
1:02:18
from like global climate,
1:02:21
global climate warming, whether that's a scam
1:02:22
or not. Talking about Bitcoin,
1:02:24
then I'll be on to like,
1:02:26
you know, who are the people who are secretly
1:02:27
controlling the world and then back to Bitcoin
1:02:30
and then on to this other thing. And I was just like,
1:02:31
I can't the way
1:02:34
they were talking as well was, was, was like,
1:02:35
you know, very strong,
1:02:37
you know, just
1:02:37
putting things out there.
1:02:39
And I just went like,
1:02:39
I've nothing to
1:02:42
really participate here. And if I did
1:02:45
try and participate, it would be me just trying to participate
1:02:47
just to get my voice in,
1:02:50
because I don't really I can't I'm not I'm not
1:02:52
great at just stating like
1:02:57
a something that I'm very
1:02:57
certain of or sure of.
1:02:59
And then just like letting that slide
1:03:00
or things like that. So
1:03:04
the chaotic ness
1:03:04
I think of
1:03:07
of group ones don't, don't lend for me
1:03:09
for realness, although I think,
1:03:11
I think they can be more real and yeah,
1:03:13
some other ways for.
1:03:15
I just trying to
1:03:15
think. Of.
1:03:17
You know what I think I'd be probably pretty good at.
1:03:19
Was that I. Reckon I could be
1:03:20
a good orchestra maestro.
1:03:23
Yeah. And I think and I say that
1:03:24
in the sense that
1:03:28
in a similar way,
1:03:30
navigating conversations
1:03:30
amongst multiple people,
1:03:33
there's definitely
1:03:33
an art of orchestra,
1:03:36
of orchestrating
1:03:36
what's going on.
1:03:38
And that definitely falls
1:03:41
much more on
1:03:41
the skill set versus the
1:03:45
the genuineness
1:03:45
when it's one on one.
1:03:47
You know, as long as you being genuine and authentic and you're
1:03:49
driving your point and you're
1:03:50
talking from the heart, whatever you want
1:03:51
to call it, easy enough, you can get to that point
1:03:54
as long as the other person on the other side or the other entity
1:03:55
wants to do that, cool.
1:03:58
You'll get there. When you've got multiple
1:03:59
people. It's a skill set.
1:04:01
It's very much a practised
1:04:01
skill set of.
1:04:04
When do you interject
1:04:04
that you're saying when?
1:04:06
When do you not
1:04:06
when do you know when to
1:04:09
pick up the train trombones and how you
1:04:10
the drums Indigo here.
1:04:13
I don't know if you've ever picked up when I do this
1:04:15
sometimes in amongst our friendship group, but
1:04:16
I do as well groups where
1:04:20
especially with really choir groups and I've had this
1:04:22
kind of a recently, you know, it's
1:04:23
just knowing like, hey,
1:04:25
we've hit a lull here. You kind of know
1:04:27
like, cool, I need to go around
1:04:28
the ground here and get answers
1:04:30
from everybody or I need to go do this.
1:04:32
You kind of know where where you have to get
1:04:33
the song going, where you get the music flowing.
1:04:36
It's just what it is,
1:04:38
but it's a skill set. Again, I'm saying
1:04:40
some of these things, but it just it's just
1:04:41
a practice of doing it. Fricken Honestly,
1:04:43
at this point, thousands of times.
1:04:46
In fact, I would have
1:04:46
to say that out of
1:04:50
I've been in a position
1:04:50
where I essentially run
1:04:53
a daily session of this,
1:04:53
where I basically
1:04:56
get people to talk in a group right? And there
1:04:59
would be, I'd probably say
1:05:02
out of five years
1:05:02
of working days at sites,
1:05:05
let's say 150 days,
1:05:05
at least five years.
1:05:08
You know, it's more it's
1:05:08
more than
1:05:12
500 days
1:05:12
that I've done this.
1:05:15
Day in, day out of that example. So, you know,
1:05:17
you just take is some skill set
1:05:18
that is just
1:05:20
ingrained in me now that I've done for a very long time.
1:05:23
But I think when it comes
1:05:23
to the multiple to get to
1:05:26
what I guess you can more genuine conversations
1:05:28
or more well-orchestrated
1:05:28
questions
1:05:30
like conversations, I think that that is a
1:05:33
just a repetition
1:05:33
skill set piece.
1:05:36
If you're the conductor,
1:05:36
I would be the perfect
1:05:39
audience member. I'm going to sit there,
1:05:40
I'm going to observe. I might do
1:05:42
like a little cough
1:05:45
every now and then. And then if someone does
1:05:46
something amazing or something
1:05:48
awesome happens, I'll be,
1:05:50
you know, Bravo, bro.
1:05:53
So that's definitely more
1:05:53
my my pot
1:05:56
and that more comes out okay. I like it last, last
1:05:57
best before I get onto my summary,
1:05:59
the genuine. This is two examples
1:06:02
of what I think are like
1:06:06
really non-genuine ones
1:06:06
and really genuine ones
1:06:08
and perhaps even a bit more examples of how
1:06:10
you can make it genuine. I was coming home from my
1:06:14
my parents with my brother
1:06:16
and we had 30 minutes
1:06:16
just to talk and,
1:06:18
you know, were talking about how mom was going,
1:06:19
how we're going. And, you know, he was
1:06:22
he was worried about me, basically. And so he was just like
1:06:26
kind of probing a couple of questions, asking me if stuff
1:06:27
And it was it was it was
1:06:31
not an unpleasant
1:06:31
but it was definitely like
1:06:33
a kind of hard
1:06:33
conversation in some ways.
1:06:35
And it at the end of it,
1:06:35
I was like,
1:06:40
you know, nothing really got resolved. We talked about things,
1:06:41
you know, he made me
1:06:44
aware of what he was
1:06:44
feeling in some respects
1:06:47
and, you know,
1:06:47
like some concerns for me.
1:06:49
And I was like, okay,
1:06:49
you know, that
1:06:51
that was 100% real because like, I know he cares for me,
1:06:54
even if it's stuff that I might not want to
1:06:55
hear, stuff that I might
1:06:57
disagree with. He was
1:07:00
100% real
1:07:00
and he was doing it in
1:07:03
like the skilful way that he did. It was not just like
1:07:06
blurting out,
1:07:06
You should do this. It was
1:07:08
it was like, Have you
1:07:08
thought about this?
1:07:10
I know you're not particularly. I've noticed this when it
1:07:13
when it comes to you, you don't really appreciate
1:07:15
these sorts of things.
1:07:18
another one, a girl at the gym who I was having like,
1:07:20
a shitty day.
1:07:23
I'd seen it before. I wasn't going to
1:07:24
particularly talk to her, but I was like, whatever,
1:07:26
I'll talk to Zoe. So I was like, Hi, Zoe.
1:07:29
And then she's just
1:07:29
so genuine.
1:07:31
That was, was what I got out of her. Like she lifted my spirits
1:07:33
by just being like
1:07:35
a really happy
1:07:35
kind person.
1:07:37
I was like, I don't know this girl,
1:07:38
like, I know my brother,
1:07:41
but the feeling
1:07:43
kind of that I got out
1:07:43
from both of those was,
1:07:46
Man, that was that was really good. I'm glad that happened.
1:07:49
I really, really enjoyed that. Maybe not
1:07:52
even really enjoyed that, but I came out of it
1:07:54
being like that was real.
1:07:56
That was a real thing
1:07:56
that just happened.
1:07:58
On the other hand, and I wanted to ask you
1:07:59
about this was the coal
1:08:01
can't come out.
1:08:03
So when I was
1:08:03
in the mining industry,
1:08:06
there was set deadlines. You know, the coals got to come out
1:08:08
by this date and
1:08:11
this time or something. And then, you know, rain
1:08:12
events will happen, breakdowns, machines,
1:08:13
scheduling stuff.
1:08:16
And, you know, I have to I have to tell someone
1:08:17
like, hey, like we have to
1:08:19
change the schedule up
1:08:21
like this. This can't come at this date. And then they'll be like,
1:08:22
yeah, yeah, yeah.
1:08:25
It's got to come out and say, okay, well now
1:08:28
we could move this around,
1:08:28
we could change this up.
1:08:31
You know, we had some extra
1:08:31
resources and it's like,
1:08:35
yeah, now it's like it's
1:08:35
got to come out or like,
1:08:37
you know, we've got a blast, we've got to do this,
1:08:38
we've got to do that. And it's like kind of
1:08:40
counter to reality.
1:08:42
And I want to ask you
1:08:42
about your
1:08:45
version of this because you experienced like something really
1:08:47
similar recently, right? Which is like products
1:08:50
going to be delivered
1:08:50
at this certain time.
1:08:52
You're like, it can't be done. I can do couple of weeks
1:08:54
after that.
1:08:56
And they're like, No, no, it's got to be. Then you're like,
1:08:58
All right, well, with some extra resources,
1:08:59
it could be done like that.
1:09:02
And I like is just going to be done. This is going to be done.
1:09:05
Okay. Well, it's it's
1:09:05
not going to get done.
1:09:07
And then it's kind of
1:09:07
just like left at that.
1:09:10
What the fuck is that? What kind of is that?
1:09:12
I'm close to the non
1:09:12
realness as you can get.
1:09:16
Yeah. And I think this is
1:09:16
and this, this is a
1:09:20
this probably I'll try to extrapolate it
1:09:20
so when I'm talking to you specifically
1:09:22
from a work context
1:09:24
but I think there's
1:09:24
a so the genuine layer of
1:09:29
having conversations
1:09:29
the expectation
1:09:32
and you mentioned earlier
1:09:32
when the expectations
1:09:37
are so far apart between
1:09:41
what the conversation
1:09:41
is about it.
1:09:44
Case in point here
1:09:44
is these conversations.
1:09:47
One party's coming in
1:09:47
with the mindset of
1:09:51
I've either promised something or I have the expectation
1:09:54
that that's going to be met at a certain date or something's
1:09:55
going to happen when the other party
1:09:58
or entity is coming in
1:09:58
with, Hey,
1:10:00
I'm coming in with a genuine conversation about why
1:10:02
this won't be done, why there's a block,
1:10:04
why there's an issue.
1:10:07
And so again, going back to the first point is there's two parties
1:10:09
coming into this
1:10:11
with completely different outcomes. Once just
1:10:12
in the mindset of
1:10:14
Hey said date has to be met, the other person's
1:10:16
coming in with a Hey,
1:10:18
let's have a conversation about a conversation about why
1:10:20
this can't be done and what we're going to do
1:10:22
from here. And you're essentially
1:10:23
just not, not talking to each other
1:10:26
is just this absolutely
1:10:26
complete makes up.
1:10:28
Whereas you're saying with a couple other examples
1:10:29
is, you know, one party saying,
1:10:32
hey, here's the issues about why we can't do this,
1:10:33
but we can try and do it from X,
1:10:35
Y or Z or whatever,
1:10:37
and the other person basically doesn't doesn't forget that
1:10:39
this guys okay, cool. But it's still going
1:10:41
to be met by the state. So you got to do that.
1:10:43
Yeah, it's like no one's
1:10:43
listening. Now.
1:10:46
You could take from both parties and one could listen
1:10:47
to the other and go, okay,
1:10:48
I understand the, the
1:10:50
dates being put, we fluctuated some other way.
1:10:54
Can we get 80% of the coal out rather than 100%
1:10:56
of the call out? Yeah,
1:10:57
but I it's just a that's a
1:10:59
it happens with a
1:10:59
completely missing of the
1:11:04
the outcome. Are you coming in
1:11:04
or the expectation of it. I think it drives
1:11:06
just a crazy for any conversation.
1:11:09
Yeah. I had written down
1:11:11
aligned incentives perhaps is what makes
1:11:12
for a good conversation.
1:11:16
When I was chatting with my brother. You know both of us are
1:11:18
concerned about my health
1:11:20
or my my well-being and the well-being
1:11:21
of our family as well.
1:11:24
So that that's one of those,
1:11:25
you know, driving forces.
1:11:27
And you can you know, you can have work
1:11:28
conversations where
1:11:30
you're both
1:11:30
aiming towards a goal
1:11:32
and perhaps you're in the same team and you're like, you know,
1:11:34
the goal is reaching
1:11:36
90% productivity
1:11:36
or whatever it is.
1:11:39
And so you're trying to you don, most to
1:11:40
to like focus on that one
1:11:44
goal and like, let's get it, let's do it. And you can have the
1:11:48
opposite, which is perhaps you're in competition and that's
1:11:49
where they don't align.
1:11:53
You know, my incentives over here,
1:11:53
yours is over here. And so
1:11:56
that yeah, once again, they're talking about
1:11:58
this thing over here and you're talking about
1:12:00
this thing over here and it's just like
1:12:01
not buying up. How even get to the point
1:12:03
that in saying yeah if you're
1:12:06
if you're that state in
1:12:06
any type of conversation,
1:12:09
then you're almost better off not having a conversation.
1:12:11
You're almost better off
1:12:11
at just sending each other
1:12:15
in a very low
1:12:15
fidelity way,
1:12:17
what you're
1:12:17
wanting to get across
1:12:19
and send it out to the author and let it be consumed
1:12:21
at the pace that someone else can
1:12:24
and let them send that
1:12:24
out, as opposed to just
1:12:26
what it would be. Just wasting time
1:12:27
because not no one's
1:12:28
listening to each other. It's just
1:12:30
people are just putting hot air into the world
1:12:31
and wasting energy.
1:12:34
Yeah. All right. Here we go. My ranking system
1:12:37
much, much promised and delivered, so I'd consider anything
1:12:39
above
1:12:42
75 and 80% as a worthy.
1:12:45
I'd consider that
1:12:45
a passing grade.
1:12:47
So I've gotten dog lady
1:12:47
0% old friend texting 12%.
1:12:54
The work kind of B.S. 23%.
1:12:57
Dave Asprey and Brian
1:12:57
Johnson 45%.
1:12:59
Come on, fellas,
1:12:59
pick up gym guy.
1:13:01
That was like 56%. The Bitcoin
1:13:04
after after it was 67%,
1:13:04
it was real.
1:13:08
But like, I just wasn't part
1:13:09
of the real ness of it.
1:13:12
Yeah, the bitcoin after
1:13:12
session where it was,
1:13:15
you know, groups of three or what
1:13:16
and things like that. 84%.
1:13:19
Tim Ferriss No. Cogan 90%.
1:13:22
My, my chat with Trevor
1:13:22
Bell 93%.
1:13:24
My brother 100%
1:13:24
and Jim girl,
1:13:26
just because she was cute,
1:13:26
she got 110%.
1:13:28
So that was one.
1:13:28
Hundred and 10% for.
1:13:31
So that was my ranking
1:13:31
system.
1:13:33
So I listened to them Immortals podcast. I don't. Know. Sorry.
1:13:37
Maybe my g them down.
1:13:41
They got a genuine
1:13:41
the genuine.
1:13:43
This is the conversation here is up absolutely
1:13:45
thrown them out. At. The side.
1:13:47
I don't know where that came from. Wow you just probably
1:13:48
just listening to this
1:13:52
right now I'm being like man, this dude was such an ass.
1:13:54
Talk to you. Do I make. A bit of it?
1:13:57
Well, how about you? Was a would you bother with
1:13:59
the ranking system at all?
1:14:03
I wouldn't
1:14:03
bother the ranking system,
1:14:05
but what I would bother
1:14:05
with is the cut-off,
1:14:09
the cut-off
1:14:09
where conversation is.
1:14:12
You can tell that a conversation is a conversation
1:14:14
and then either a
1:14:17
persisting in the conversation, but just not exerting any,
1:14:19
any maximal effort,
1:14:23
no care around. You know,
1:14:24
if it's a is an example.
1:14:27
Everyone knows that the conversation when you go
1:14:29
and buy a burger
1:14:33
from a McDonald's or something like that and you're going to buy
1:14:35
something and maybe you
1:14:37
maybe not even there, but when you go to a fast
1:14:38
food restaurant, maybe you exchange
1:14:40
some pleasantries. Yeah,
1:14:42
no one gives you shit. You know, you're there
1:14:43
for your transaction. Yeah, it's a transaction.
1:14:46
Here's the money. Give me some of it.
1:14:49
You can make that work. But to see the conversation, that's fine.
1:14:53
But when it's in areas like
1:14:55
just no way to detach, have the minimum amount of energy, say,
1:14:56
like, exist, exerting it
1:14:59
so that I guess on the opposite side you're putting in the
1:15:01
maximum effort, listening,
1:15:05
authenticity, being
1:15:05
genuine, maybe empathetic,
1:15:09
you know, telling the truth or as much as that
1:15:10
empathetically is a meet
1:15:13
for the conversations, because to do that
1:15:14
really well
1:15:16
takes a lot of energy, takes a lot of effort. Right?
1:15:19
If I was to go and have a conversation with a good friend of mine
1:15:20
or whatever it may be,
1:15:23
I might go there and go like, shit, This three things that I
1:15:25
really want to talk about
1:15:27
and you might not get through any of them because you know,
1:15:30
you're genuinely having a conversation about something else that they get along
1:15:32
and you never get that. So you also have to be
1:15:33
prepared for all of those eventualities
1:15:36
which do take some
1:15:36
some pure effort.
1:15:39
So I just say I'd be more concerned with
1:15:40
hitting a cut off where
1:15:44
I just go, hey,
1:15:44
I can can tell the
1:15:46
conversation and just see that either it's a default,
1:15:49
I'm just putting minimal energy or I'm going to eject
1:15:51
out of that as quickly as possible.
1:15:54
Yeah, I was kind of saying
1:15:54
like now,
1:15:56
probably in terms of length, most conversations you had
1:16:00
would be on the more genuine side above that 80% cut off
1:16:03
because the longer conversations
1:16:03
you're going to have with friends,
1:16:05
with family, well, the ones that are probably
1:16:07
going to be more aligned
1:16:08
on the incentives
1:16:10
and in terms of whatever
1:16:10
you're talking about and,
1:16:14
you know, unless you're
1:16:14
in a specific job or a specific industry
1:16:16
where
1:16:18
you're more likely to have
1:16:20
those kind of shallow conversations
1:16:21
or or you're in a really
1:16:24
competitive thing
1:16:24
and you're trying to sell
1:16:26
sell all the time or things like that, you're
1:16:27
probably by default, you're just likely
1:16:29
to have more genuine ones.
1:16:33
That being said, you can put in certain steps
1:16:35
to avoid types
1:16:39
with all of those ones
1:16:39
that were beneath my
1:16:41
my kind of 80% cut-off
1:16:44
I'd say like half of them
1:16:44
if I'd been more tactful
1:16:46
or if the people had been more tactful
1:16:48
and had a bit more skills,
1:16:50
they could have raised that up to to a to a higher level.
1:16:53
So yeah, the Bitcoin
1:16:53
after after session,
1:16:56
if I'd been a better participant or,
1:16:59
you know, better at being an audience member
1:17:00
rather than debating like,
1:17:03
should I try and say something here or no, that's kind of
1:17:04
like that sort of thing.
1:17:08
If I just kind of appreciated it
1:17:08
for what it was and been like an outside
1:17:10
observer,
1:17:12
that that would have been better. And so, for example,
1:17:16
I'm not going to walk buddies alone again. I didn't enjoy
1:17:18
those conversations,
1:17:20
didn't enjoy having being forced to it.
1:17:26
I equate it somewhat as being like,
1:17:28
I was the pretty girl for an hour or 2 hours
1:17:29
as I took him out
1:17:31
because no Bottas is adorable
1:17:32
and I saw the amount of
1:17:36
interactions and attention
1:17:36
that he was getting.
1:17:39
And then me by default,
1:17:39
being with him.
1:17:42
And I mean, I didn't
1:17:42
enjoy it actually.
1:17:44
Like, I quite I found it a little bit
1:17:46
stressful to us.
1:17:48
Take him out. So but you know, that's the
1:17:53
and another thing like,
1:17:53
you know, I quit work
1:17:56
partly because of office politics. You know, it was
1:17:58
it was a low percentage of why I did.
1:18:00
But there's a reason I do
1:18:00
this with you rather than
1:18:04
in a competitive sales
1:18:04
industry
1:18:07
or something like that, because I don't
1:18:08
enjoy them. So there's those
1:18:11
you can have a bit of a play if you improve
1:18:14
your skills,
1:18:14
if you put yourself
1:18:17
in certain situations that aren't you avoid or
1:18:18
have more of genuine ones
1:18:23
and but then others, I think you have to just stick to the gym, one
1:18:25
with the with old mate.
1:18:29
I don't think there was much I could have really done to have made
1:18:30
that an 80% conversation.
1:18:36
Yeah. Yeah. The certain. One way you.
1:18:38
Just, I mean you just got to have to plough through it.
1:18:40
Yeah. Yeah. But I also the thing,
1:18:41
not every conversation
1:18:43
in life me and more lights is meant to be frickin deep
1:18:45
dive into the bone DNA
1:18:49
you're putting in motion. It isn't DNA,
1:18:51
but the ability
1:18:51
to stand with your right.
1:18:54
I mean, be genuine,
1:18:54
be authentic.
1:18:56
You know, I've started to do this
1:18:58
more and more in some aspects. I think it was
1:19:03
wasn't a dentist but or something equivalent
1:19:04
with someone else be like
1:19:07
you just the normal
1:19:07
question of how you day
1:19:09
and I've been trying to
1:19:09
answer a lot of these more
1:19:11
or less with the all
1:19:11
good or yeah, fine or what
1:19:14
you know rather than that unless I'm just bizarre
1:19:15
stuff to do and be more
1:19:17
being more genuine and kind of answering
1:19:19
with what the reality is,
1:19:21
whether it might be like, well, you know, kind of crappy
1:19:23
because this happened
1:19:25
or kind of sold because my knee hurts again,
1:19:27
there's certain like bits you can elevate to get
1:19:29
a bit more genuine. This.
1:19:32
But again, it doesn't have to be always right. Not not
1:19:33
every single person and every single
1:19:35
interaction needs to be super genuine.
1:19:37
Honestly, if there's someone out there who doesn't,
1:19:39
I mean, great for you. But it would absolutely
1:19:40
waste away my energy
1:19:43
to then be really genuine,
1:19:44
authentic, and deep in the one
1:19:46
sort of count.
1:19:48
Yeah, Yeah. It's it'd be very
1:19:49
hard. Very, very hard.
1:19:53
Well, I mean, I think that's it. I've got nothing more to,
1:19:54
to add to that.
1:19:57
In the next weeks we'll be talking
1:19:58
about financial security
1:20:00
that was meant to be this one, but I wanted to push it back
1:20:02
because
1:20:05
Yeah. That I haven't
1:20:06
watched enough on dresses
1:20:08
and this was a good topic. So now that I've got I,
1:20:12
I've got a developing
1:20:12
story at the moment.
1:20:14
Developing one developing. Story, not a personal one.
1:20:17
I actually lost it
1:20:17
somewhat earlier.
1:20:20
We interviewed long time ago and they reached out
1:20:21
for a particular ask but it'll
1:20:24
it'll tune into that's okay stay tuned
1:20:26
I will bring back some memories
1:20:28
from a long time ago. If you've been tuning
1:20:30
into the podcast from a while, it. Sounds good.
1:20:33
So it'll be fun and security in the next podcast.
1:20:37
So I guess in short,
1:20:39
if you do want to support us, if you do,
1:20:40
if you've listened to this all the way big long
1:20:42
sessions of music.
1:20:44
yeah, You know what?
1:20:47
All right. That was genuine enough.
1:20:47
I've been sold.
1:20:50
I want to support you
1:20:50
guys.
1:20:52
Look, best way you can kind of already talked about this.
1:20:55
This is PayPal, which you can obviously send to directly,
1:20:58
but you can try to participate in the
1:20:59
valley valleys place with
1:21:02
lots of value. A credit and clip,
1:21:03
you know, what's
1:21:06
what was the most genuine
1:21:06
or best part that you
1:21:08
you thought of that of of everything
1:21:09
that we talked about that
1:21:11
that would be a great one. Best place to do
1:21:13
that is on fountain because then I'll be able
1:21:14
to see it and interact with it
1:21:16
there.
1:21:18
So it'll probably be the final bit where we just say, Good, good, yeah.
1:21:24
So but not you can't
1:21:24
do it through otherwise.
1:21:27
Obviously there's plenty of apps out there. Go and check out our
1:21:30
supporters page on our website to go see the many ways
1:21:33
you can support the podcast. Was all calling it
1:21:34
out there. We have some shirts
1:21:35
still remaining. I'm still in the mindset
1:21:37
of creating some new, more custom ones, at least
1:21:39
just for me and kind. He didn't like my idea
1:21:42
around the Come talk to me
1:21:42
for the podcast,
1:21:45
but there might be it might be some 2024
1:21:47
ones are going to be around the corner some some more custom ones
1:21:48
and so stay tuned.
1:21:52
So they'll definitely be
1:21:52
some of those.
1:21:54
But yeah, there'll be
1:21:54
plenty of good fun stuff
1:21:57
that be tuning in. Obviously
1:21:58
a lot more conversations happening beyond the stuff
1:21:59
that we're doing now.
1:22:01
And one thing you probably
1:22:01
haven't called out,
1:22:03
but at least we'll start talking about it
1:22:04
a lot more is in 2020.
1:22:07
For mere mortals going
1:22:07
global, We're going global
1:22:11
is going to continue to go
1:22:13
in different countries
1:22:13
and different settings.
1:22:16
So, you know, if you reach all this way, be prepared for that.
1:22:18
There's going to be some some fun and will definitely be
1:22:19
needing our consistent supporters
1:22:21
of the podcast
1:22:24
to give us some feedback as well. That's another thing
1:22:25
is really be Yeah. Yeah. There's
1:22:27
going to be a lot of I mean just straight up
1:22:28
technical changes of
1:22:30
how we're doing it.
1:22:30
So yeah.
1:22:32
Have you listened to one of Tim Ferriss latest podcasts around him
1:22:34
doing a walking podcast?
1:22:39
No. So he, he apparently bought
1:22:41
like really high fidelity
1:22:44
audio equipment because he's been having
1:22:45
a lot of lower back problems.
1:22:48
So he had a conversation I can't remember
1:22:49
with the guy. I didn't find that
1:22:50
interesting. Anyway, that's why I kind
1:22:51
of like finished it. But the whole podcast
1:22:52
didn't come out on video
1:22:56
and it's just purely him
1:22:56
and the guy walking around
1:22:59
the area with high
1:22:59
fidelity audio equipment.
1:23:01
But you can kind of he'll go, Yeah,
1:23:03
chanting and whatnot. So, you know,
1:23:05
we're probably going to be
1:23:05
that level of quality.
1:23:08
But yeah, give us some feedback obviously
1:23:09
as we get to those levels. Sounds good.
1:23:12
But then more or less, thank you very much for tuning in. Once again,
1:23:14
7 p.m. Australian
1:23:15
Eastern Standard Time, live on YouTube
1:23:17
and everywhere else. Eventually
1:23:19
we will come to all good
1:23:21
podcasting platforms as well. Live But love is to come
1:23:22
this coming
1:23:26
Wednesday so you can find us for now. Me more or less.
1:23:28
Thank you very much for tuning in. Juan out, Kyrin out.
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