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I was on a group session and a woman blurted

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out that anxiety can never

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go away and you have to deal with it . Well

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, I disagree with that and

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I'm going to discuss why . So

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let's start talking about that . Welcome

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to Mindful Hypnosis Podcast

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. It is time to change

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your mind . Learn all

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about how to create new , helpful habits

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and mindset changes . With integrative hypnosis

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Plus , with a sprinkle of mindfulness

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throughout your day , you can easily shift

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into a calmer state of mind . I

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am Cheryl , your hypnotist and

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podcast host , and I welcome you

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to a better way of living your life , one

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minute at a time . This

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is the 50th episode , minus

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two trailers , of course , and

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I am so excited to share that with

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you . But mostly , I

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just want to send out a huge

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thank you to each and every one of

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you who take your precious time

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to listen to me every week . It

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is my goal to make this podcast

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better and better each year

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, to bring you solid

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information that can help you to change your life

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, and that is my goal . And

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in doing this , you are also changing

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my life , and I thank you so

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much . On

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with the show . Welcome

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to Mindful Hypnosis Podcast . My name

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is Cheryl and I am your host . So

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, again , I was

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in a coaching call with

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a couple of people and a woman

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blurted out that anxiety

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can never go away and you have to deal with

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it . And she was very

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adamant about that because she suffered from

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anxiety her entire life , going to counselors

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and therapists and had medication and

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done all sorts of things . And

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I could see her frustration on her face because

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she truly believed this and

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I don't . And let me explain

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why . But before

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I do , I

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have a deep respect for people

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who go through anxiety all the time

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. It is a horrible way to

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live and I know because

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for many years I suffered with

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debilitating anxiety . But

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I am also a stubborn person and

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there has always been a part of me that believes

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that anxiety can go away , because

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it's interesting . And I'll give you this small

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little example . One day I was

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going to work and

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I was very anxious . I

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don't have to explain to you what that feels like . If you

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have anxiety , you know . But I was very anxious and

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I was getting ready to turn on the highway and

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all of a sudden I looked down at my pants and I noticed

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I had a bunch of lint on my pants and I was

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going to work . So here I am picking the lint off

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my pants and it dawned on me after

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about two or three seconds of

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picking lint off my pants , my

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anxiety decreased . And

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it decreased all within a matter of a few moments

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because , number one , I distracted my brain . But

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on top of that , it's very important to understand

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that anxiety only lasts in your brain

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for about 90 seconds . The reason why

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you feel it for a long period of time

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is that you're looping it by overthinking

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it and re-triggering and overthinking

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it and re-looping it , but

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the general chemical rush

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that you get is capped

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off and it never

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feels like it's going to be capped off . This is why people

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who have panic attacks truly believe that panic

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attack is going to get worse and worse and worse . It

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won't . The panic attack you have

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got is the panic attack you

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will have . It is a chemical

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release . That being all said

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, I have seen people go from debilitating

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anxiety and panic who are now living their best

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lives . I have seen

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kids who were bundles of nerves

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who are now thriving , and

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even more so , I have worked with people

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who , even on the one call we

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are on , will go from an anxiety

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of seven to eight down to two or three , what

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a difference that makes in

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your life when you can cut your

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anxiety in half or when

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you can know the moment

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you start to have it , you can do

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things to diminish it or decrease

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it and completely get rid of it . So

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let's get back to our original question Can anxiety

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ever go away ? And I'm

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going to answer that for you . But I'm going to answer it this way

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. There are two types of anxiety . This is

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not a medical term , this is what I'm saying Helpful

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and not so helpful . We can break it down

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that simple . If

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you have general anxiety

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, which means you kind of have it all the time , or you have situational

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anxiety , which basically means a situation

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happens . You know you

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have to go to the store or you have

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to go to work , or maybe you

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know somebody specific is calling you when your anxiety

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bumps up , that's situational

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. It happens because of a situation . That

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is not helpful anxiety . And

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that type of anxiety can go away because

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it's basically a faulty wiring in

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your brain . I like to think of it like that your

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mind has basically got its wires crossed and

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it believes whatever threat or whatever danger

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that is put upon

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you warrants or flood of chemicals

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, but it doesn't . You

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have created a trigger from

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a memory and now what happens

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is , every time you come back to that situation

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or problem , you're recreating that memory

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or trigger and you're reaffirming

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that this needs to happen and you need to have this anxiety

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to be safe . That is unhelpful

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. Helpful

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anxiety is

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the kind of anxiety that keeps you safe

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and wakes you up . It makes

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you become more alert . The

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sympathetic nervous system reacts to danger

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and then it floods your body with the chemicals and

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these are the same exact chemicals you would feel

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if a beer jumped in front of you . These are the same chemicals

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you fear you feel when

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you get anxiety when you're sitting on the couch

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eating popcorn . They're the exact same , they don't

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change . But this particular

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type of anxiety is helpful because it's keeping

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you safe . It's flooding your body with

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adrenaline that will make you want to do something , like

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run or fight . Blood is being

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moved to important areas to your body , like your

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arms and your legs , so you can move and you

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can fight . But it's also taken

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that blood from your

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gut which you don't need at the time

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and that is sometimes why you get nauseous

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. Your heart rate goes up , your pupils

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dilate All of these chemical

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reactions happen in your body and they don't

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feel comfortable . They don't feel

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good . They're not meant to feel comfortable

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because your body wants you to do something

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. It is basically saying yo

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, get frigging moving , you're

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in danger . But when

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you have these same chemicals drop

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into your body when you're eating popcorn

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, it feels even more horrible

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because it's nothing to run from

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, there's nothing to fight about , there's

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nothing to do . So you're sitting

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there and you're just feeling absolutely

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horrible . So

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your body wants to keep you safe and secure

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and it will do whatever it can to keep

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you that way . So for that unhelpful

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situation or anxiety again

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, this is the unhelpful , this is the

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stuff . When you're sitting there in your popcorn and you're having an

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anxiety attack , your mind has

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got its wires crossed . It

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believes as a threat or a danger that is not real

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. Your brain again

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has created a trigger . So now

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your body reacts to the trigger and

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every single time you

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go back to that memory , you go back to that

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situation , you re-trigger yourself

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. What has happened ? Your brain

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has habituated your anxiety

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. So how do we make this

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go away without the traditional treatments

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and therapies and medications that

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take all of very long time , and most

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often , the medications are not changing

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your brain , they're just calming your nervous

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system . Well , since I'm a hypnotist

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, I don't treat your anxiety

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. I'm not allowed to do that . But

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what I do work on is your bad habit

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, and I do so by focusing

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on neuroscience . So , as

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a hypnotist , I worked with your

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direct memory and I changed

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the trigger . And

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by changing the trigger you're taking the charge

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out . This is called memory reconciliation

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and it's on the cutting edge of science

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and it hasn't got

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caught up with traditional therapy

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. But it works

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by directly connecting with the memory

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you have of the anxiety and every time

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you release that energy that

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you have from that anxiety and

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you change the charge

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of the memory , not the memory itself

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. We never affect your memory . You always have

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your memories . It's the anxiety

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and the trigger associated with it . When

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you remove that , then the memory

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just goes back to a memory . It

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has no effect on you . Imagine

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this you get a

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very uncomfortable text and

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the moment you get it , you feel your anxiety

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rise . Six months

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later , that person's name

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pops up on your phone automatically

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. Your anxiety rises . What

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happened along the way is

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you got anxiety from the original trigger

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and then your

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brain recognized that and went oh , this

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is a dangerous situation . We got to help her . It's

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faulty wiring , that's all . So

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imagine now , six

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months later , that

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you did some memory reconciliation and

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we worked on that trigger and all of

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a sudden , that person's face pops up on your

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phone . What happens now ? Maybe

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nothing , you may not feel anything at all , or

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you may giggle . All of a sudden , that

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trigger is gone . Yes

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, this is possible . This is

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what I do , and

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I just got done with a three month

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intensive program about coaching

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the unconscious mind , and I

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have learned hundreds of

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techniques to help with memory

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reconciliation and change

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in the wiring of your brain to help

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with anxiety . So

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can your anxiety ever go away ? No

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, not the good anxiety . You never

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want it to go away . It can't go away . It

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is hardwired in your brain and

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it is there to take over

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your conscious thinking when you're in danger

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, and that's important because

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you need to have that . You need to be

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protected and safe . What we

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want to do is just to make sure that

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the faulty wiring , the

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triggers , and the problem

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you have with anxiety that is not helpful is

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not causing havoc in your life , because

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you don't need to suffer like

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this , like you do . There was so much

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work going on in their neuroscience realm

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and understanding how your brain works

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, and we are learning new things every

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day and traditional therapies , when

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it comes to this , have not caught

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up yet . I'm not saying they don't

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help they do . You

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can have excellent results working

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with a therapist in anxiety . Just

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the differences . It may take a little bit longer , aka

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changing one of your bad habits , ha ha

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ha . Or if you

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wanna try out what I'm talking about and

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get a little bit of help decreasing

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your anxiety , check out one of my

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anxiety workshops . You can find that

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again at the same webpage

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address . You take

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care of yourself and I will talk

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to you soon . Take a big , deep breath in and

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exhale . Thank

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you for listening to the end of this podcast

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. Go on over to the show notes cheryljreynolds

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. com at for

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. Remember , you

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have a powerful mind and it can

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be changed to support the life you

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want to live . In the meantime

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, enjoy your day one minute at

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a time .