The next two sections of A New Earth are titled Letting Go Of Self Definitions and Pre-Established Roles. Defining ourselves or others takes the infinite and makes it finite. By making judgements and beliefs of someone, somewhere or something that is limitless we make them limited. We can tell ourselves billions of different stories of who we are, who they are and what the world is like. It's ok to tell stories but we Must remain grounded and stable enough to not get confused into believing that our stories are absolute truth or a part of our identity. The roles we play in our lives are necessary at times. Once you have done your best to do the tasks needed of the role, return to the subject/ object relationship with the role and let go.