Ready to start making tough and small decisions with less stress?

Today we will review two formulas you can use with your child when having difficulties making decisions: The 22nd rule and six step formula.

And that's what we're going to do right now. But first, I want to express how much I respect you for your commitment, and of yourself and your kid to improving yourself as hard as it sometimes can be.

So while I love reading, listening, and speaking to the giants of the industry, in business, homeschooling, and other areas, what I continuously wonder, is how to make them actionable to me and my child. And our decisions affect everything around us, especially in turmoil.

Those who mastered the art of decision-making have the ability on making those decisions that others don't do, meaning the difference between failure and success. So, you know, so the difference between fulfillment and a persuasive sense of emptiness.

So if you don't have a system for making these decisions, you often procrastinate and avoid making them or making rash decisions that lead to a host of other problems.

The key is to have a proven system a proven process to use when tough decisions crop up. So are you ready to make those small and complicated decisions quickly and with less stress? Let's jump right in to the 20 seconds but before I do, remember to check out the story weavers, if you're interested to have monthly projects you can use this skill in.

Okay, so let's start working our decision-making muscles. Because ultimately decisions are like muscles, if you don't use them, they become weak.

Most of us have, honestly and flappy decision-making muscle...So some people have a hard time deciding what do they want for dinner.

So how are we going to strengthen this muscle is by giving them a workout, the way to make better decisions is to make more of them.

So set a timer. Give yourself 20 seconds max to decide,

because champions make fast decisions

You have 20 seconds to....

The second level of this is just as important how fast you make decisions, focusing on the state on how you make those decisions, you know, know that no matter decision, you will figure it out. It's this confidence is this calmness, when you make the decision that makes the difference. S

So if you would place a tablespoon of water in the palm of your hand, as long as your hand is relaxed, the water rests and sits there and you could control it. For example, pour it into a cup or move it around. But if you imagine the tension building up in your hand and your hand closes into fists, you lose the control as the water sports or leaks, you know from every Keith. So how you feel about your decision is like having water in your hand. Are you moving steadily along and is centered with confidence or are you teeth-gritting and discomfort.

Use the 22second rule if you have small decisions like if you're sitting in a restaurant if you're deciding what to have for dinner, 20 seconds, go use this with your child as well as a rule.

COMPLEX DECISIONS

Now what about the complex, tough decisions when you know you have to decide what projects you do?

So some of our kids inside our projects we have had this question of well, my kid can choose or it just goes with the first, you know, idea that the kid has and doesn't even you know, look at other options.

So you lack the creativity you're on the other side you lack the actually getting into action mode and out of that brainstorming session brainstorming mode. What you do is you have four tough decisions you use these six steps, number One. And by the way, you might come to the result, even if you don't follow all of the six.

So first you define the outcome, what are your results? Are you after? Why do you want to achieve it, you must be clear about your outcomes and the order of importance, so that you may be even can visualize it so that you have a specific field.

When you go over this with your child, for example, with the project, what is the project about what is maybe a bigger vision that you were the kid has throughout the year, the theme that you could decide on first.

Then you write down the choices.

And remember, one option is no choice two options is a dilemma. Three options is actually when you have a choice. So which options do I have, and write down all of those options, including those that you dislike, or seem far-fetched?

Or even maybe if you can't come up with any, then what you say is simply an option is to do nothing. So that's number two, first define the outcome, then write down the choices.

Then assess possible consequences.

So what are the ups and downs of each option? What do you gain? What do you cost? When you're clear about your goals and committed to your vision, then, you know, the direct consequences of those tough decisions are better than making no decision at all. So you'll be better after, you know, after you assess the rewards and the consequences of each of your options, and choose the best one more quickly. So you can for example, inside the project, well, how much time do we have to actually create the product? How much time would it take us? Is that realistic? Are we willing to put in that effort?

Then, after you've done you, this is already a point where some options normally fall out, then you of course, evaluate your options after you now you've written them down.

And by the way, why don't we write them down? Because Have you ever had it where you have loops in your head? That you continuously think about a question, you didn't make it, you didn't decide on something and then it comes back to you. And it just uses so much energy? The best thing is to write it down, look at it and then decide.

So the next thing is you evaluate,

you write down well, how important are those upsides and downturns? You're meeting those outcomes? What is the probability that you know the downsides will occur? And does it compare with the effort, the time the money that you put in? So with your child, evaluate all of the the possible consequences that you've written them?

The fifth step is to mitigate the damage.

How can I eliminate or reduce those downsides? The reasons these are tough decisions is usually because of what could happen if we make the wrong decision. And that's why you must review all the downsides. in more details. Brainstorm alternative ways to eliminate or reduce those downsides. Again, the more ideas you can come up with, no matter how far-fetched they may seem, the better prepared you'll be to face the potential consequences.

And this part of the decision-making process is important because it allows you to be proactive about how to handle any fallout, and you can start to anticipate the future.

And the last and final step, step number six, of course,

is to decide now,

after you written them, these six steps with your kid, no matter how stuck it is, decide now, because let's face it, in real life, we don't always have all of the resources all of the information we can't. Most of the times wait until we have those facts in order.

Based on the most probable consequences, select the option that provides the greatest certainty that you will need your desired outcome or needs. This is your best option for right now. And because you've looked at some many other possibilities, you know that to be true. So this will help you beat procrastination when making tough decisions and avoid the deadliest decision of all inaction. So what would you decide? And if you would know the best option, which one would you choose?

With these two formulas you have for each situation for small decisions, take the 22nd rule for big decisions, use the six-step formula and you will guide your kid to have the formula to make decisions no matter where they are.

With that, see you next time guys, and if you're serious about it In a language arts program that goes beyond as you see with this, the normal grammar and spelling you know how it's always been done, then definitely check out thestory-weavers.com

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