Remember back in 2015 when Ashley put in a two-years-out down payment for bottom surgery with Dr. Bowers? Well, that two years later is now now, and Ashley has just gone through gender-confirmation surgery with Dr. Bowers, and she and Jay talk

Generally Hopeful (s02e13)

Jan 31st, 2016 32m 35s

After Ashley’s wobbly visit with her parents over Independence Day weekend in which her parents carelessly outed Ashley to her brother’s parents-in-law, Ashley came to realize that her parents weren’t using her pronouns when she wasn’t around.

Are Things Getting Better? (s02e12)

Aug 23rd, 2015 36m 20s

Ashley went to see her parents over Independence Day weekend. Her brother Adrian, and his wife and parents-in-law were also there, so Ashley felt some reassurance that even if her parents weren’t any better with her name and pronouns, at least

Mom and Dad: Still Doofuses (s2e11)

Feb 13th, 2015 46m 39s

Ashley chats with Jay about visiting her parents in December. They didn’t use her birthname during the trip, but they didn’t call her Ashley that often, either. Worse, it seems as if her parents are putting on an act while she’s around — becaus

So Many Trips! (s02e10)

Dec 31st, 2014 52m 1s

Ashley and Jay talk about Ashley’s travels over the last few months, including the family reunion she attended in July, her brother’s wedding in August, and her dad’s 70th birthday in October. Her extended family at the reunion were super accep

Ashley’s New Face (s02e09)

Jun 2nd, 2014 44m 26s

Ashley gives Jay all the details about her recent trip to Argentina for her FFS (Facial Feminization Surgery) with Dr. Di Maggio, and the amazing help she got from her friend Andrea (on Twitter @ButtermilkPecan) while recovering and getting set

Winterfamilytime 2013 (s02e08)

Jan 30th, 2014 30m 29s

After a promising visit with her parents over Thanksgiving, Ashley felt somewhat optimistic about seeing them in December, but since there’d be fewer allies in the house, she worried her parents would backslide into the wrong name and pronouns.

Thankful

Dec 16th, 2013 47m 19s

After Ashley sent a second letter to her parents about using her correct name, she realized that they would probably just fall back to calling her Snooks all the time, a childhood nickname. She decided that if her they called her Snooks the nex

Immovable Object

Jul 1st, 2013 47m 39s

About a year ago, Ashley sent her parents a letter asking them to call her Ashley. At the time, she left open the possibility that her parents could still call her by a childhood nickname sometimes, Snooks-Pooks. But her parents now call her Sn

This Is No Good

Jan 24th, 2013 56m 16s

Ashley visited her parents at the beginning of winter. Over her previous visit for Thanksgiving, she had heaps of support from visiting relatives, but this time Ashley had fewer allies — mostly just her brother, who gets her name and pronouns r

Thanksgiving Too

Dec 21st, 2012 44m 19s

Even though Ashley’s name change has gone through, she’s wasn’t sure whether it would make any difference when she visited her parents over Thanksgiving. It turns out, Ashley’s cousins, aunts, and uncles seem to have become all the more support

Name Change Day

Sep 14th, 2012 36m 55s

After having filed her paperwork and heaps of waiting — among other steps — Ashley’s court date for her name change finally arrived. Ashley goes over the happenings that day and how things played out, including her game plan for getting out of

No More Ms. Nice Girl

Aug 6th, 2012 49m 59s

Ashley had been trying to remain patient with her parents’ refusal to use her new name or correct pronouns, hoping that they’d come around on their own. In a letter she sent them a couple months ago, she sternly asked them to call her Ashley an

The Letter

Jun 22nd, 2012 45m 18s

Ashley has waited for months for her parents to start using the name Ashley instead of her birth name, but they won’t, so she tries to explain her request again in a carefully worded letter. Unfortunately, the letter doesn’t go over well and he

7 Questions

Apr 1st, 2012 35m 31s

Ashley answers 7 Questions for the we happy trans project, such as who’s been most supportive of her transition, changes she’d like to see in the world, and how she’s helping to make those changes. Jay asks how Ashley’s new coworkers are accept

Support Groups

Mar 16th, 2012 47m 31s

Ashley is frustrated by her parents’ lack of acceptance, and suggests that instead of emphasizing her new happiness to them, she could instead explain how bad she’d feel if she had to return to her life before transition. And if they don’t come

The T Word

Feb 29th, 2012 45m 16s

Ashley teaches Jay about the nuances and changing meanings of some of the more hurtful slurs directed toward trans folks, with help from GLAAD’s transgender glossary of terms. Jay asks Ashley to elaborate on what she means when she says she’s “

Accept? Yes. Condone? No.

Feb 15th, 2012 54m 18s

Ashley’s father seems to view her gender therapist as a sort of puppet-master (puppet-mistress?) pulling Ashley’s strings, even though Ashley switched from individual counseling to group support. Ashley’s parents say that they accept what she’s

Winter Family Time

Jan 31st, 2012 46m 16s

Ashley visits with family and friends during the yuletide season and her parents obstinately use the wrong name and pronouns for her, creating confusion among some guests. For Ashley, it’s like insisting on using a woman’s married name even aft

Laid Off

Jan 23rd, 2012 32m 52s

Ashley gets laid off, inferring through the business-speak that it was a means for the company to cut costs. She and Jay discuss searching for a new job now that Ashley is presenting as female full-time, but Ashley expresses doubts about whethe

Thanksgiving

Jan 16th, 2012 40m 54s

Over Thanksgiving, Ashley’s parents reveal that they still misunderstand her transgender status, claiming that she’s cross-dressing and that she’s making her coworkers uncomfortable. Her parents also wonder if Ashley’s gender therapist is putti

Sexytime

Dec 31st, 2011 45m 47s

Jay figures it’s time to ask Ashley about sex and romance as a trans woman, asking her about underwear preferences, whether she ever finds panties arousing, and the added complexities of a trans woman dating lesbians. For instance, would Ashley

Catcalling

Dec 15th, 2011 51m 13s

Ashley gets catcalled and wolf whistled at while entering Target and feels a little apprehensive, but also feels a little pleased. Jay asks if her mixed feelings are unique to transwomen or if they’re common among all women. They discuss the me

Clothes & Shopping

Nov 30th, 2011 39m 26s

Jay asks Ashley if she had considered wearing a wig until her hair had grown out to a length that she felt was more feminine. Ashley answers a question from a viewer about her views on men wearing women’s clothing as she was growing up, includi

Call Me Ashley?

Nov 21st, 2011 43m 15s

Ashley talks about her parents’ recent visit and how she asked them to consider calling her Ashley rather than her birth name. She also recounts the reprimand she received from her employer for using the bathrooms matching her gender presentati