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That's R-E-B-A-G-1-0. This
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week's episode of Listen Bitch contains
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very strong language and some
1:30
adult themes as well. It's
1:42
time for Listen Bitch. Nini, this is
1:44
all yours. This is all yours today. I'm
1:46
gonna say nothing. No, that's not fair. I
1:48
made it quite clear last week and you
1:51
agreed that you were going to join in
1:53
and you weren't gonna let me just take
1:55
all of the flack like I normally do.
1:57
Listen, bitch, I've got notes. I've got notes.
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Don't worry about me how you know
2:02
going into with that in that league
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and into posts and into the home
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page Jesus who put from the solo
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it's know I just need you take
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us to the bridge as it was
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take off to the Blue Ridge. Just
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say welcome to Misadventures Wow!
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Can say listen fit. This
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week we are talking about.
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Love history. I. Say.
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I've written some stuff down, I've done some
2:31
historical research he of my life and how
2:34
the patriarchy is effect Sit it. But for
2:36
now on know you guys think I say
2:38
we take this to the floor immediately know
2:40
who I'm Really just want to learn this
2:42
episode on. No, I haven't got much to
2:44
say. just one alarm. Size.
2:47
Suffice to love to have
2:49
our Sos moment of ah.
2:52
Education of the Patriarchy.
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Is time to time. Hi Lily on
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love you Poco So thank you very
3:00
much to me improve the last few
3:02
weeks mornings when a coup or live
3:05
in a small village called mobile he
3:07
was just the signals and on a
3:09
bow and sixty or seventy miles south
3:11
of Manchester to say that you understand
3:13
exactly where on my arms and of
3:16
you Drew Griffin My question is when
3:18
didn't dawn on you have this a
3:20
patriarchal system. What? Was the moment
3:22
would experience on what did
3:24
you do? Thank you thank.
3:26
You Michael the I Do I live really
3:28
kicks announcing thing about my a little and
3:30
house you live in what is your street
3:33
that like so yes and love the details.
3:35
Of the specificities, I'm.
3:38
Not unique Assist. With sea sauce says realize
3:40
that we live in a picture of his. Think
3:43
it might have been day me.
3:46
My. First. Single. Smile
3:49
as is my second single. I.
3:51
Went to number one in the chart. And
3:54
I was at T in the Park festival
3:56
and I was interviewed by I Think It
3:58
with someone from the and. me. And
4:02
they said, how are you going to celebrate your
4:04
number one? And I made a joke, as I
4:06
often do, that I was
4:08
going to engage in some,
4:11
you know, drug taking
4:13
and drinking, because we'd had
4:17
this we were having a conversation about
4:19
drugs in the music industry, me and this
4:21
journalist. And so then to follow up from
4:24
that conversation that we've been having about basically
4:26
how rice cocaine was in the music industry
4:28
at executive level. And so then at the
4:30
end of the conversation that I was having
4:33
with this guy who was like in his
4:35
mid 20s, maybe late 20s,
4:38
early 30s from the enemy. And,
4:41
and then he said, Oh, boy, how are you going to celebrate your
4:44
number one single? And I went, probably, I was
4:46
like, oh, and then the next day,
4:48
I think it was, you
4:50
know, a Sunday. And so it was a
4:53
front page of the
4:55
then news of the world. And
4:57
it was like, Lily Allen says she's
4:59
going to celebrate her number one single
5:01
with plates of cocaine. Now you might
5:04
think, Oh, that doesn't seem that
5:06
strange that that would be sensationalized
5:08
in such a way. But take into
5:10
account, my dad was, you know, an
5:13
actor and hung out with some
5:15
very famous showbiz people who were
5:17
all male, and all engaged in
5:20
these kind of activities, and were pretty vocal
5:22
about it. So, and I had
5:24
watched them all talk quite freely and
5:26
openly about the way that they spent
5:29
their spare time. And, and
5:32
so wrongly assumed that I would be able
5:34
to speak about these things in the same
5:36
way, without it being sensationalized
5:38
and euthanized and used against me in such a
5:40
way. Why was it
5:43
wrong? Oh, yes, you are.
5:45
I remember I was on, I was traveling
5:47
around the country for I think, people some
5:49
at all. And I read I remember seeing
5:51
that in the papers and thinking, Jesus Christ,
5:53
this is a lot. It was cute.
5:55
It was like, just, just that
5:57
language. Like I think it I think
5:59
they genuinely say plates of cocaine or something like that and
6:02
I was like this is bad. I think I had said
6:04
plates of cocaine to be fair
6:06
to them. It was a quote but it was just
6:08
that it was sensational. It was like the
6:11
front, the big headline on the news of
6:13
the world. I'd only just gone to number
6:15
one. I wasn't even around
6:18
for a couple of months so it was kind of like it
6:21
was very crazy. But yes I
6:23
think that was when I realised
6:25
okay, okay there's a different
6:27
set of rules for boys and girls,
6:29
men and women. I
6:32
think mine would probably be the writer's room
6:34
in Potwell when I was about 16 and
6:36
I said something was not funny and
6:41
I didn't think that was a big thing to say
6:43
because it wasn't funny. It was like a pun, you
6:45
know how much I hate a pun and
6:47
I think it involved the word smorgasbord and
6:49
I was like this is bullshit and they
6:51
were like what? You don't think
6:53
this is funny? And I was like no. And
6:56
they were like well have you got, you have to think it's like better
6:58
then. I was like okay. And I
7:00
was like oh right I'm not allowed to think that you're
7:02
not a genius and this is
7:04
dog shit and you know it. So
7:07
I quite like continuing
7:09
to test that theory. I
7:12
don't think men like being told they're not
7:14
geniuses. No, no. It's
7:18
not fun. But yeah thank you. Thank
7:20
you Michael. Thank you. Can we have
7:22
another question for Lissenbitch, the
7:25
patriarchy. Hi it's Liz from Eastbourne.
7:28
We've gone patriarchy-like with this question.
7:30
I would love to know of
7:32
any famous men you've come across
7:34
in your time in your careers
7:36
who were feminists. I'd love to
7:39
hear about some strong feminist
7:42
famous men that you have come across
7:44
that you could tell us about. Thanks.
7:46
That's nice. Patriarchy-lite. Thanks
7:48
Liz. I'll not step on
7:50
anyone. While
7:55
talking about the patriarchy. It's a nightmare.
8:00
Let's keep it light, let's keep it peppy. Lil, what's your
8:02
answer to that question? It's a bit of a
8:04
difficult little answer. Um, I... I
8:08
would say... I'm not my
8:11
husband. My husband is
8:13
famous and he is a feminist. That's
8:16
true. He's true. What
8:19
would you say makes you cool? Why
8:21
would you say that David is a feminist? What
8:23
about him? What about his actions and his moves? Makes
8:26
you feel that way. I think
8:28
maybe it's because he is
8:30
very sensitive to, um,
8:33
you know, my resistance
8:36
to, you know,
8:38
a marriage that adheres to sort of
8:41
like gender norms or societal norms. You
8:43
know, he can see how uncomfortable
8:46
things make me and
8:50
he's very good at helping
8:52
me navigate and negotiate those things. So like,
8:54
you know, I remember once
8:57
when he... We went on a
8:59
holiday and he paid for the whole holiday and that
9:01
never happened to me before. Like, I'd always paid for
9:03
everything and it came out in other ways. Like, we
9:05
were arguing about something and he took me and said,
9:07
can I just have a word with you? And I
9:10
was like, yeah, sure. And he took me off and
9:12
he was just like, no, look. I
9:16
know this makes you very uncomfortable.
9:19
And that's okay. It's okay. I love
9:21
you. I love your children. I
9:23
love this. It's an
9:25
absolute pleasure for me to treat you
9:27
guys to this experience. You don't owe
9:29
me anything. You don't have to do
9:31
anything in return. And I was
9:34
like, shit, I married the right
9:36
person. She knows me and loves me. What
9:38
will I do? No, but he's very good.
9:40
I don't think many people... Well,
9:42
I don't... I'm not going to speak for
9:44
men because I wasn't even articulating or vocalizing,
9:46
but he was able to see exactly what
9:49
was winding me up that
9:51
I didn't want to be... whatever. I
9:54
digress. I get it, babe. I love him
9:56
too. I love him too. question
10:00
I don't think I have a famous one they're all
10:02
unfamous the one that I can
10:04
think of. Matty Healy he's a big old feminist. There
10:07
you go, there you
10:09
go. Steve
10:14
Jones, Steve Jones is a feminist. I
10:16
was going to say Steve Jones but
10:18
I've already talked about Steve Jones so
10:20
we'll just go with Matty Healy. Next
10:22
question. Such a big old feminist. Such
10:25
an incredible feminist. Next question
10:27
please, so listen bitch. Hi Lilly,
10:29
hi Makita. My name is
10:32
Josh. I'm from New Jersey in the United
10:34
States. Question for you
10:36
both about the patriarchy. I
10:38
was wondering if you have any favorite art
10:41
that is reflective of a
10:43
woman's experience living in the patriarchy or
10:45
something that shows how bad the patriarchy
10:47
is or is a good portrayal of
10:50
showing the patriarchy in a way
10:53
that's productive. I guess
10:55
just to plug as a fan really quick I
10:57
think a really good example of something that comes
10:59
out of the patriarchy, Lilly, is your song not
11:01
fair because it's all about men
11:03
focusing on their own pleasure and not the pleasure of
11:05
a woman. So I'm
11:07
just curious. Love you both and if
11:10
you take this question, thanks and yeah
11:12
have a great day. Bye. Thanks
11:15
Josh. I love when Americans say my name. Makita
11:17
is hot. Thanks Josh. Oh
11:19
that's nice. I agree with
11:21
Josh about that. It's
11:23
not fair. It's about a woman's right
11:25
to pleasure in sex. A woman's right to
11:27
pleasure in sex. Look at you you bloody
11:29
feminist. I was talking such shit I didn't even
11:32
have an orgasm at that point. I
11:34
know I regret. I'm
11:36
so about to say at
11:39
that time you were only at the
11:41
beginning of your sexual pleasure journey
11:44
awakening. Well quite. So
11:47
how did you step in those, how did you
11:49
get into that headspace? You
11:51
just sort of women their needs all around the world? No
11:54
I guess maybe it was because I wrongly
11:56
had assumed that my way to an orgasm
11:58
was going to be a... man giving it
12:00
to me and that
12:03
hadn't happened yet and
12:05
so I was cross I was very cross.
12:08
People don't know this about me but I'm
12:10
a big Taylor Swift fan. There's
12:13
a song of hers called The Man. Do
12:16
you know it? Do you know the song? No I
12:18
don't think so. The chorus goes I'm so sick
12:20
of running as fast as I can wondering
12:23
if I'd get there quicker if I
12:25
was a man and I'm so sick
12:27
of them coming at me again. If
12:30
I was a man and I'd
12:32
be the man I'd be the
12:34
man. Yeah? Yeah?
12:37
Yeah? I'd be
12:39
the man. Yeah? Everything
12:41
sounds like a nursery rhyme from Taylor Swift and not
12:43
in a rude way.
12:45
I'm not being derogatory. I think she's very clever.
12:47
They say I'd hustled put
12:50
in the work they wouldn't shake their heads
12:52
and question how much of this sounds good.
12:54
Okay okay we definitely don't have the right
12:56
fees you just keep singing the whole song. Well
12:58
there we go Taylor Swift I love
13:00
your song The Man. David and I
13:02
debate it quite often because he it's
13:04
not his favorite Taylor Swift song and
13:07
it's one of my favorite I think
13:09
the lyrics are very clever and he
13:11
does not. She's very clever at writing
13:13
very simplistic sort of nursery
13:15
rhyme sounding songs
13:17
but actually she's saying something in
13:20
the background. Yeah. She's nice. She's
13:22
undeniably smart. She is exactly. The
13:25
only artist I've ever made a
13:27
billion dollars from music. She's not
13:29
an idiot. News slash. No. Can
13:32
we have another question on Listen Bitch?
13:34
4 Listen Bitch? 2 Listen Bitch? Hello
13:37
Nikita and Lily is Dan here from
13:39
London. About 18 months ago my husband
13:41
and I had a gorgeous daughter, Hargo
13:43
Lily, by a surrogacy in America and
13:46
we've got a little boy just about
13:48
to be born in May.
13:50
Now we're always talking about as two
13:52
dads what the best way to bring
13:55
our daughter up is and we always
13:57
want to make sure she's used to
13:59
it. living the fullest,
14:01
most brilliant, strongest, most incredible
14:04
life. And I would
14:07
love your advice on what tips you
14:09
think we should give her as two
14:11
dads to overcome the patriarchy. Do
14:13
you know what? I just remembered
14:16
something from a previous question, a famous
14:18
male in the world that is a
14:20
brilliant, true feminist is Loyal Connor. He
14:22
was doing for People in America. He
14:24
does well in America, but Loyal Connor's
14:26
a rapper, a musician, he's more
14:28
than a rapper, he's just an artist, he's
14:30
brilliant, and he's a great man, and a
14:32
friend of mine and my mum's. And he
14:36
was doing a six music residency,
14:38
and it was banging, and one
14:40
episode was about, it was
14:42
Mother's Day. And the way he spoke
14:44
about his partner, his girlfriend,
14:46
and his mother, I
14:48
was kind of bowled over by just
14:50
the love he has for women, proper,
14:53
it's true and it's real. And it
14:55
made me think that if
14:57
you're, I know you're raising a daughter, but if
14:59
you were raising sons, it's like how do you
15:01
raise sons to truly love women? And I
15:04
think as a woman, you know, you're raising
15:06
a daughter, as a woman, that's what stands out to
15:08
me when you know that a man has been raised
15:10
to truly love women. That
15:13
for me feels really good. I don't know whether
15:15
that answers the question that you asked, but I
15:17
just wanted to make that point. Because you're raising
15:19
daughters as well, Lil. I am raising
15:21
daughters. I guess language,
15:24
I think, is important.
15:26
I think there are so many words
15:29
that on the surface seem quite
15:32
inoffensive or that
15:35
actually can be quite insidious
15:37
when they're sort of used
15:39
every day. And words that
15:41
would, that you hear
15:44
being used in conjunction with women or girls that
15:46
there isn't really like a male equivalent for. Right,
15:49
like what? Like
15:52
bitchy or nag
15:55
or, you know, do you not
15:57
hear people go like, he's a bit cold. It's
16:00
not really a word associated with men. For
16:03
women maybe like intense
16:05
or stroppy. Forward. You
16:07
just sound like the Daily Mail now.
16:11
Shrill. Shrill
16:13
is a good one. Shrill.
16:15
Isn't that interesting though, that word? Because
16:17
it's literally like the
16:19
sound of a woman's voice
16:22
irking another human being. Just
16:24
the sound of a woman's voice. So basically
16:26
a woman existing and having space and a
16:28
voice. Language
16:30
is a big one. Point though.
16:32
Yes and even when you're talking
16:34
about the way women look, just
16:37
words like, oh you know that's
16:39
flattering. He's
16:42
really let himself go. Never said to be
16:44
a man, ever. Babe
16:48
you look a bit frumpy in that to be honest. I
16:53
used to really like you in that shirt but it looks a
16:55
little bit frumpy. Maybe we should
16:57
do an experiment and try and use some of this
16:59
language again. I don't think I've ever spoken to a
17:01
boy like this. Well you know what actually I was
17:03
looking last night on the
17:05
Daily Mail website just to see what the some
17:07
of the adjectives used for women
17:10
versus men are because there's always like you
17:12
know the person's name and then an adjective
17:14
right. Yes. Nicola
17:16
Pelt suffers unexpected
17:19
backlash. Nicola Pelt's
17:21
Brooklyn Beckham's wife. Henry
17:23
Cavill reveals he is
17:25
expecting his first child. Johnny
17:28
Depp embraces his co-star.
17:32
Salma Hayek puts on a busty display
17:34
as she shows off her chest. Justin
17:40
Bieber makes surprise
17:42
return. Nikki
17:45
Hilton shows off. Keith
17:47
The Sutherland reunites. Jerry
17:51
Bruckheimer looks dapper. Oh
17:53
yes of course always.
17:55
Alessandra Ambrosio flashes her
17:57
taut abs. Paris Hilton shows
17:59
off. shows off. Timothy
18:01
Chalamet is joined by Harrison
18:05
Ford recalls Anna
18:08
Maxwell can't wipe the smile
18:10
off her face and
18:13
I think we'll end with that one.
18:15
I think that says it all really.
18:17
Language is important. So last night I
18:19
was doing a little bit of a
18:21
deep dive around this language
18:23
and communication and was reading the musings
18:25
of Deborah Cameron who was the Rupert
18:28
Murdoch professor of language and communication
18:30
at the University of Oxford.
18:33
Wow. That's right. The
18:35
Rupert Murdoch professor of
18:37
language and communication. She
18:41
specialises in socio-linguistics especially the
18:43
relationship between language and gender,
18:45
language ideologies and linguistic normativity
18:48
discourse analysis. That's the Rupert
18:50
Murdoch professor of language and
18:52
communication at Oxford University. I
18:54
hope that answered your question.
18:56
We really did go on but there
18:58
was a lot to cover within that.
19:00
Thank you very much and good luck
19:02
raising your beautiful daughter in a
19:05
slightly less patriarchal world which we all
19:07
hope for every day. Okay.
19:09
Thank you. And we
19:11
will be back with more questions about the
19:13
patriarchy after this little break. Just
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have a question now from Charlotte. Lovely Charlotte.
20:21
Hello, Charlotte, what would you like to know?
20:23
What would you like to share about the
20:25
patriarchy? Hi, I'm Makeda and Lily. My name
20:27
is Charlotte and I'm based in Kent. So
20:29
for context, I started my
20:32
own social media marketing business when I
20:34
was on maternity leave with my nearly
20:36
two year old daughter now. And somehow
20:38
the majority of my client base is
20:41
made up of middle aged men. And
20:44
with that comes the odd misogynistic comment that you
20:46
get. So my question for you is in your
20:49
career so far, how do you handle these types
20:51
of comments from superiors that you still want to
20:53
work with because they pay you? But how
20:56
can you have a funny comeback that doesn't make
20:58
you lose your job? For example, one of my
21:00
favorites is what weird thing to say out loud,
21:03
but I'd love to hear what yours have been
21:05
and ones that you've used in the past. That's
21:07
very good, Charlotte. Confusion works
21:10
better than in like
21:12
sort of knee jerk
21:15
reactive emotion, I
21:17
think in those kinds of situations. I
21:19
really like that. That's so cutting. What a
21:21
weird thing to say out loud. Oh yeah.
21:24
That's basically saying you're
21:26
a dickhead without saying you're a dickhead. Nice.
21:29
Lily, lyrics thread, songwriting
21:31
genius, Ivan Avelo winning
21:34
lady. You've
21:36
got some bloody corkers
21:39
in this field, haven't you? Really? I'm
21:41
drawing blanks right now. To be
21:43
honest, I don't really have any male
21:45
superiors. I'm self-employed.
21:49
I guess, you know,
21:51
maybe the people that my old record company
21:54
could have been described as being my superiors.
21:56
Yes, and you were with them entangled with
21:59
them for life. 15 years. I
22:01
remember once actually when I wrote this song called
22:03
Hard Out Here, it had
22:05
like the word bitch in it about 176 times. And
22:09
when it got sent to America to like the radio play people,
22:11
we got an email back from them saying, you know, she's going
22:14
to have to take some of the bitches out of this. And
22:16
I was like, which one? And
22:21
there's like bits of it where like she
22:24
refers to herself. I like I referred to myself as
22:26
a bitch. It's like some boys be talking about their
22:28
bitches and be making a fuss. Anyway, he'd like written
22:30
this thing. And he was like, I think, you
22:33
know, men don't really want to hear women
22:35
refer to themselves as a bitch. I was
22:38
like, thank you. Thank
22:40
you for that. Graham
22:42
from radio promotion
22:45
in like Idaho. Like
22:48
why don't you go fuck yourself? There you
22:50
go, Charlotte. Just
22:53
a classic. Why don't you fuck yourself? Just
22:55
keep it classic. Keep it classic. The bitches
22:57
stay. The bitches stayed. And
22:59
I'm scared of him right now. I don't know. It's because we're
23:02
talking about the patriarchy. No,
23:04
no, no. Dino's a feminist. It's fine.
23:07
Dino's taking all this in. He's like, I'm not a fan of him. I'm
23:09
not a fan of him. I'm not a fan of him. I'm not a
23:11
fan of him. I'm not a fan of him. I'm not a fan of
23:13
him. I'm not a fan of him. But if you're
23:15
gay and you do,
23:18
you're gonna be like, I'm sorry.
23:25
If we're sorry. We're
23:29
gonna Only se you For
23:32
blaming Light. That shows you you know what? Well,
23:36
all your love-ins SELL her. For
23:39
what? Sure. I love
23:41
that, I love that. I love that. No. We
23:44
can create life inside of our bodies. We
23:47
literally can grow babies. There's a
23:49
power in that, being able to create
23:51
life. And actually, men are
23:54
resentful of this because they don't have that
23:56
power to do that. And that's why,
23:58
since the beginning of time they've basically
24:00
been trying to take power away
24:03
from women, you know, since forever,
24:05
especially sexual or reproductive freedoms. So
24:07
just wondered if you thought if there was any truth
24:10
to that. Thanks, bye. Absolutely. Sorry,
24:12
I got that so wrong. You're actually
24:14
from North West London. My R is
24:16
a bit so thank you. And
24:18
you're actually called Laura. Thank you, Laura. I totally
24:21
agree. I think it's
24:23
almost, it's also a bit like
24:27
racism towards black people. I feel like
24:30
for millennia, the fear
24:32
was about the power and magic
24:34
of black people. And
24:36
if there's nothing to be scared of,
24:38
you don't try and suppress something or
24:41
dehumanize something if it doesn't scare you.
24:44
And I think that women do scare men with how
24:46
powerful we are, and always have.
24:48
I remember I was doing this, remember
24:50
that there was that brilliant TV show
24:52
The Underground Railroad. It's absolutely brilliant. So
24:54
I did a podcast to accompany it.
24:56
And it was all about rebellions throughout
24:59
enslavement that we aren't told about. And
25:02
there was this incredible story about the
25:04
Dohome tribe. This is men underestimating women.
25:07
And they capture or this whole gang
25:09
of women, but in their head, it's
25:11
just a load of chicks. But actually,
25:13
they're an army. And because they're women,
25:15
and they want to sort
25:17
of rape and torture and sodomize them, they don't put
25:19
them on the lower deck, they put them on the higher
25:21
deck, and they don't tie them up. And
25:23
the women overthrow the boat and turn
25:25
it around and take it back to
25:28
Africa. And that is what happens when
25:30
you underestimate a woman. So I think
25:32
that the power of women is
25:35
underestimated often, but it's known and
25:37
feared, which is why we're suppressed
25:39
by men so often. That's
25:41
what I think. Yeah, no, I totally agree. I
25:43
mean, I think that, you know, ultimately, it's rooted
25:46
in greed as well. I mean, as far as
25:48
I know, I think that like the patriarchy in
25:50
it, you know,
25:53
came from, you know, the transition
25:55
between hunter and gatherer times to
25:58
like, when land and agriculture
26:00
became like tools of
26:02
bargaining and trade and so women kind
26:05
of got lumbered in with that
26:07
as a commodity and that was the sort of
26:09
beginning of like the subjugation of women in that
26:12
sense. I think that yes there's
26:14
a fear of it but it's also like oh that
26:16
we can use them, we can
26:18
profit off of them. I think
26:21
it's interesting as well as that you
26:23
know the period of time
26:26
that we are fertile for that we
26:28
can make babies relatively short and
26:31
I feel like in
26:33
my own life anyway it'd be great to like be
26:35
able to get that stuff over the way, out of
26:38
the way, do the feeding and then get to work
26:40
like actual work in
26:43
the world. That's when I became like smart
26:45
and understood things
26:47
better anyway like before I had kids I
26:49
was relatively a fucking idiot. Excuse me I
26:51
haven't had kids so do you bar? No
26:54
I don't, I'm talking about my own experience
26:56
but I think that like if it was
26:59
the societal norm for you to like get
27:01
them out when you're young and
27:03
chuck them you know and then the dad
27:05
raised them they're like much better made for
27:07
raising kids anyway they can lift them up,
27:09
they can play the games, they're more on
27:11
their emotional level like you know they're
27:14
the ones that should be raising the kids while
27:16
we go and do the proper stuff. That would
27:19
be great. Yeah you know we'll just pop
27:21
them out and I'm like we're done for when we're done
27:23
for like you know find another one
27:25
that you need to knock up the duff
27:27
and but look after the kids while I'm
27:29
out there murning the money. Doing the stuff.
27:32
This is taking a strange chance.
27:35
Well I am with you. Yeah
27:39
exactly. But Lily, alarm for
27:41
Lily to stop.
27:44
I hope that answered your question. I
27:46
feel like we did. Yeah, bit around
27:48
the houses but we definitely got somewhere
27:50
in the end. Next question please for
27:52
listen bitch. Hey Lily and Makita my
27:55
name's Maisie I'm from South London and I've really really
27:57
been enjoying your podcast. It's so nice to hear you
27:59
guys chatting. My question for
28:01
you guys is how do
28:03
you feel that the effect the patriarchy has and
28:06
has had on the creative industries has
28:09
changed since you guys first started out and
28:11
from when someone might be starting out now?
28:14
I think it's gotten easier, it's gotten worse,
28:16
the effects, yeah that's basically my
28:18
question. I really wish I could say it's got
28:20
it's changed so much in 25 years but I don't know
28:25
how much it has in my
28:27
industry anyway in telly. How about in
28:29
music? How about in acting? No I think it's
28:31
worse. Worse?
28:34
Yeah but I think that's rooted in social
28:36
media and rather than anything else I just
28:38
think that social media really plays into those
28:40
like gender
28:42
stereotypes and everything
28:46
was so data-led and so data-driven so
28:48
right in terms of music we
28:50
need it ultimately is like investment right to
28:53
be able to plug things to
28:55
get things you know give things prominence on the
28:57
internet or on the TV or even
28:59
just like going out and about and showcasing your music
29:01
like you need money to be able to do it
29:04
and the way that the people that have the money
29:06
decide on where those funds are spent is
29:08
by looking at the data online and as
29:10
a woman the way that
29:13
you increase those numbers is
29:15
by taking your clothes off or by
29:17
wearing lots of makeup and so I
29:19
think it's got harder I think it's
29:21
got harder for people that aren't considered
29:24
you know beautiful
29:26
or extraordinary looking to
29:30
break through in creative industries. Yeah
29:33
like when I first got my job
29:35
it was like the people around me
29:37
that and the people who preceded me
29:39
like Zoe Ball and Sarah Cox and
29:41
Kat Dealey so I love Kat
29:44
Dealey all very attractive
29:46
but it wasn't really about that
29:48
I thought they were funny and
29:51
smart and I think now
29:53
I think being a TV presenter
29:55
is kind of lost
29:58
in being an influencer. which is
30:00
lost in just being an attractive person. And it's
30:03
not really a job to just be an attractive
30:05
person. True. But then at the same time, like,
30:07
do you really think BBC would have given us
30:09
this podcast if we weren't as hot as we
30:11
are? Yeah. We weren't
30:14
so bloody gorgeous. Good point. Um,
30:17
I don't know. It's audio, baby. Oh,
30:22
yeah. I know we're filming
30:24
it, but it is audio. So
30:27
I don't know how hot we have to
30:29
be for this. I will also say, though,
30:32
in the beginning of my career, like, I
30:34
didn't have hair and makeup people. When I
30:36
look at, like, my performances of me at
30:38
Glastonbury, the idea that, like, Dua Lipa will,
30:40
like, pop up on stage without full hair
30:42
and makeup and styling. And at that point
30:45
in my career, I was literally like, ehh,
30:47
doing it all myself. Totally. I had to
30:49
ask for makeup after about a year of
30:51
doing Pot World. Kevin, my wonderful makeup artist,
30:53
came in with S Club's Juniors, and
30:56
he did, I went in. I said, could you do a bit
30:58
of makeup for me? Because I don't know what I'm doing.
31:00
I don't even know how to put makeup on. I was
31:02
wearing white eyeshadow, and he did it, and I begged him.
31:04
I said, can he stay? Can he, like, be employed? And
31:06
they were like, oh, God, all right. It's like, no,
31:08
it's actually a TV show, and there are cameras and
31:11
lights and stuff. Like, I think we need a makeup
31:13
artist. But we were kind
31:15
of free in that way, I think, again,
31:17
because it wasn't about being really beautiful and
31:19
groomed and glamorous, our jobs. It wasn't. It
31:21
was about me being good at what I
31:23
was doing and you being good at what
31:26
you were doing. And it takes more work,
31:28
by the way, as the older you get
31:30
to be able to conform to those societal
31:32
expectations of how we should look. And obviously,
31:34
I started selling less records for the record
31:36
company. They were like, oh, that's quite
31:38
a lot of money for hair and makeup. I'm like, I'm about to
31:40
be 30 bucks! I'm getting into
31:43
a really tricky area. Yeah,
31:46
like, could you have done this to me at
31:48
26? No,
31:51
they didn't. I did it myself when I
31:53
didn't need it. Now I do need it.
31:55
And they're like, ooh, yeah, sorry. But we're
31:57
giving all that money to the other. Children
32:03
What's the next question please no in
32:05
the last question my darling this last
32:07
can we have a lot Hello,
32:11
it's be from London My
32:14
question for you both on the
32:16
theme of patriarchy is about catcalling
32:19
because I find that catcalling is
32:21
one of those like Loki Annoying
32:24
but like fairly frequent occurrences that happen
32:26
in patriarchy And I wondered whether you
32:28
two have had a situation happen where
32:31
someone is the old something At you
32:33
in the street and you have managed
32:35
to get your wits about you and
32:38
come up with an amazing comeback In
32:40
the moment and if you haven't Then
32:43
I also wanted to know what is
32:45
the ultimate comeback for a shitty man? Yelling
32:48
at you in the street. Love you. Thank
32:50
you. Bye. Thank you, darling I wish I had
32:53
an answer Yeah
32:56
one time I said this but no
32:58
I One thing
33:01
that is particularly creepy is that I have never
33:03
been catcalled more than when I used to go
33:05
to school and be in My school uniform and
33:07
I still think that was truly fucked up because
33:09
the school uniform Literally says I am under 16
33:12
and that's when I got catcalled enough and I didn't
33:14
I didn't have a comeback I felt quite intimidated and
33:16
freaked out. Oh, oh, oh, oh Oh, oh, although
33:19
on my 30th talking about getting a bit older
33:21
on like my 35th birthday So
33:34
sometimes it's quite nice to be catcalled
33:37
it's fancy energy of the cat call the
33:39
energy of the cat call Yeah, I definitely notice
33:41
it's not happening quite as
33:43
much as it used to when I
33:45
was younger. It's okay, babe It's
33:47
okay, babe I will last week actually I was on
33:50
the subway in New York City and I walked down
33:52
the platform and this guy kind of like Locked eyes
33:54
of me and as and I was like is he
33:56
gonna like mug me or something and then I got
33:58
close and she went Stop! Stop!
34:05
I was like, okay, fine. Do
34:09
you know when you're being hit on? I really
34:11
have no idea anymore. Especially now I've got this
34:13
fucking puppy because the puppy is so cute that
34:15
everyone wants to look at us and talk to
34:18
us. I'm like, look at this. I'm like, oh,
34:20
it's the puppy. So I
34:22
never really know when someone is like hitting on me.
34:24
I don't think I've ever been hit on, to be
34:26
honest. But you
34:29
do get cackled. No, I didn't get cackled. That
34:31
was someone literally just locking eyes on me. Didn't
34:34
they used to call it white van man something?
34:36
Yeah, and also like scaffolders. You know,
34:38
when I like drive and cast like a
34:40
bunch of scaffolders and they're like waggling.
34:42
Yeah, but I quite... Is this all what I
34:45
call it? Yeah, don't say
34:47
that. Don't miss it. Don't admit
34:49
it. No, because I fancy
34:51
builders. Well, the
34:53
question is, have you ever had a good
34:55
comeback? And the answer is no. No. I
35:00
don't know why we're pussy flitting around this. No. From
35:07
Texas to New York City. That was
35:09
listen bitch. Live in direct from America.
35:11
Isn't that weird that we're both in
35:14
America? Was that a terrible one? No,
35:16
I really enjoyed the patriarchy.
35:18
But I am gonna lighten
35:21
the mood, I suppose is
35:23
the word. That's three words.
35:25
Yes, lighten. We're gonna lighten
35:27
the... We're gonna nice up
35:29
the area as my mum would say. Nice
35:31
up the dance. We're gonna nice up the dance.
35:34
Let's nice up the dance. Next week's theme
35:36
is... Boobs.
35:43
Oh my God. You can
35:45
call them breasts. You can call them ticks.
35:47
You can call them boobs. But today I'm
35:49
calling them boobs. The theme for next week's
35:51
Listen Bitch is boobs. I think it's really
35:53
important. My boobs are not what they used
35:55
to be. Remember how good they were?
35:58
Uh, yeah. Come. on
36:00
27. I had the best boobs out
36:02
here and I would like to
36:04
talk about... General...
36:10
uh what's the word? Anyway they're not great anymore.
36:12
That'd be great but they're not like what they
36:14
used to be and also
36:16
I've had two friends go
36:19
through breast cancer recently so I've been thinking about
36:21
boobs in a very different way and I think
36:23
you do as you get older. So boobs it
36:25
is bitch, boobs it is. No
36:29
reaction from you at all, nothing to
36:31
say. I mean great great.
36:36
For the audio this is Lily is
36:38
mimicking squeezing breasts now so that's where
36:41
we're at. Great great. Great
36:43
great honk honk. Oh 8,030,40,90. That's right,
36:45
that's right you better believe it. Send
36:54
us a little voice note. Yes send us
36:56
a little voice note, don't forget to leave
36:58
your name and your geographical location. Yeah and
37:00
take Josh's lead and really like I don't
37:02
know what your street looks like at this
37:04
point and if you live in a terraced
37:06
house or social housing or if you
37:09
have a view these things I really
37:11
am interested in. We will see you next
37:13
week. I love you, I'll see
37:15
you later. Bye kids,
37:18
love you. Hope there aren't any
37:20
offended men out there. Hello,
37:27
so welcome to Miss Meat with Lily Allen
37:29
and a missy for Oliver. This is a
37:31
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37:39
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