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Alright , guys what's going on . Welcome to another

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episode of the more than a silencer

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podcast , where we help non-enforced criminal impact

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My name is Anthony and I'm Jnoka , and thank you

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week and today we were talking about a big change that happened in

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our life and also what you could learn from it .

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We'll be getting into that in a few minutes , but we're gonna start with

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MB listens shout out to you I'll see you for leaving

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us that five star review . You guys could do the

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same and we'll read it live , but we just had a huge

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milestone in our podcast

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history .

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Yeah , so we've hit 75,000

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downloads . We've been doing this now

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for a little over two years

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. This might be the 110th episode or something

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like that . Not sure exactly , but

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we've been doing this consistently for

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a little over two years , so

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we are happy with our journey . Yes

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, we probably could have been further , but listen

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, we're happy where we're at . We're happy that we're able to show

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up . We started this in the midst of

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me being very close

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to the end of my pregnancy , and

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continued it week after week

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. It has not been easy . I think we spoke

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in detail about that in our hundredth episode . It

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has not been easy , but

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we still have done it and it's been consistent

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. So kudos to us , and we had a little clap hands

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there . This is episode 115

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. So 115 .

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And I hope you guys caught the last episode where we discussed

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, we spoke , we bought on a cleaning

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business university alumni of cleaning

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business university alumni students , which is our course

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, and we talk about how they did $30,000 in one

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the information that you share could help someone

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make $30,000 in one day

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in a business or idea

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. So , speaking of sharing information

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, since we just hit 75,000

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downloads , if you guys have a product

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or service or something that you want

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to advertise in front of 70,000 , 75,000

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people , this might be the place to do it . Dave

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Shans , which is a huge podcast . He talked

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about the podcasting space being one

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of the biggest advertising platforms for

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businesses . It was like you can't get the same

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return on ads . You can't get the same return

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on word of mouth or radio

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. We are in someone's ear

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every single week Same

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time

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, same place .

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It's like watching an episode of your favorite

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TV show .

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You know every Tuesday . You know six

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, seven am we're going to drop , so this

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is a best place to advertise . If you're interested in advertising

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your product or service , shoot us a DM or

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email us . At the heart ceremony . You guys know where

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to find us If you listen to this podcast obviously

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it has to make sense , right ?

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We're not going to just be selling cars . Listen

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, listen .

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We don't know , the bag may be good enough to say

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and it's not even about the bag we know people need cars

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. And if there's an alignment here

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and you have a car dealership , it has to make

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sense . We tell listen , we're talking about everything , so

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it has to make sense .

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So , yes , we wanted to start with that and

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thank you guys that do show up and leave

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comments and cheer and leave

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us the reviews that we asked for all

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of the above , thank you . Thank you very much . It makes it even

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better for us to show up week after week , but

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we wanted to get into today something a little

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different . We talk about family a lot and

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there was a change in our life so we're like we might

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as well share it with you . A huge change , so

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we get to that change .

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Now you may say I

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don't have a family , or I

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don't have any kids or wife , or somebody

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. We always talk about our journey

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, which is super important , and we're super transparent

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about . You know where we are and where we're going , and

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you'll be able to look back on this . You know whether you

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are at that stage or whether you're not there . Now

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you might say , oh , now I understand what they were

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talking about , because we want to get you , we want to prepare you

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guys for everything that we are going to do so

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that you guys can know what to expect . And even if you don't know

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what to expect , you'll learn along the way , just like us .

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Yeah , which is our biggest thing is like we always

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can take you to where we've been right . So I

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can't speak off of a teenager because we don't have a teenager

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, but we about to have a two year old , so I could speak off

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of that experience the past two years , but

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the top of the year we went um separate

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memories with our nanny , loved our nanny

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, been with us since our daughter

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was three months old , so definitely

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in the family , flew with us to New York for her

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birthday . Everything in the family and the separation

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was no issues at all . Right , but

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it left us with a choice of figuring out

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do we get another

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nanny or do we now put our daughter

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into school , which has been an ongoing

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discussion for us . When

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she turned one , one and a half , so one

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and so forth , it's been like , okay

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, once you turn one , let's put her in school

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. That past we

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kept pushing it back . Our thought was

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that she's getting individual attention

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that she won't get in school . We understandably

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so , and our nanny spoke

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Spanish , which is important for us to

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make sure our daughter speaks Spanish , and she

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was still doing activities . Right , she has gymnastics

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, swimming and music class

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and she's doing social events

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, so she's around other people , because I know that's a big

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thing for everyone . What about the socialization ? So

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she's around other people . So we didn't feel the

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need to put her into school

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. Our conversation would be if we

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had another child , maybe that would be a time

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that we'd put her in so that we

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can adjust with the new child , so on and so

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forth . But we didn't get

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to that point . So it really was a conversation of

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okay , what do we do now ? How

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do we navigate this

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?

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now In the top of the year . I want to be

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. You know when you ask somebody how was life

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going and they give you that generic answer like , oh , things have

5:58

been good or things have been okay . My

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boy asked me this past weekend oh , he's like I haven't

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seen the top of the year . How are things going ? I'm like it's been hard

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. What you mean is I

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announced it has been hard because we

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make jokes . Like you know , we've been extremely

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privileged in our situation with having a daughter . We've

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had help from the very beginning .

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Very beginning .

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This is the first time . We've never

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had help . There's been no hope , it's just been

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us and Elani for a full month , full

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exactly . So , when

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parents are out there and then like you guys don't understand

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it , we're like no , no , we understand . No , now

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we understand it . I understood .

6:30

I never didn't understand , but you mean first thing

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. Maybe I understood it , feeling it and

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understanding it through different things . I understand

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what pregnancy is , unless you go through it .

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That's fair , yeah , so somebody's like oh pregnancy is hard

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, oh , you have you gone through it ? No

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, oh , business is hard . Have you gone through

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it ? No , because you just know what people tell you . You just kind

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of make an assumption about it . Yeah , you're making assumptions

6:50

about it . This month has been extremely

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hard . The title of this episode is going to be life changes

6:54

. It's been hard , Like that's what

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the episode is going to be . So

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you may say well , just to you

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guys , you got one kid and I

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want to go back into somebody acts like why

7:04

the transition happened . So we talk

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about . We talk about

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this times in life , times in life , we

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have to make changes for yourself and for her . That

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was a time where our nanny had to make that change for

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us . I was just like you know , I'm looking for this

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, this is what I need , and it was just like something we wasn't

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willing to , you know , provide at that time . You

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know you can still connect . You know , weekends , holiday

7:25

, whatever else we could , whatever in whatever way

7:27

we could help , but where we

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are and where you want to be , we just can't bridge

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that for you . And we decided to

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, you know , cut amicably , so top

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of the year . We said it's just gonna be a lot of you and us

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. We got to figure this out . Well , yo , what's going on , guys

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.

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We understood that for what we were saying , three

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weeks to turn into a month , an extra week

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, but that extra week counts . But we understood

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that it would be difficult during that

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time of just us , right

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? So , if you didn't know , I am still at my nine to five

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. Anthony is a full-time entrepreneur , but

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we still have tons of obligations

8:30

, tons of meetings that we have I have

8:33

at work , and then , of course

8:35

, with our businesses right , and things that

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are happening . We have people that work for us . So it

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doesn't stop . I know some people don't really

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grasp , like , what are you doing with entrepreneurship

8:44

? But there's meetings , there's things that he needs

8:46

to accomplish , I need to accomplish with the business

8:48

, and then I still have my nine to five . And then we have Elani

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trying to keep a schedule for

8:52

her as well . Why should ? She's transitioning

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. One thing for us that we kept

8:58

going back and forth was , like you know , kids

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are very resilient , so they are able to

9:02

navigate one . They forget things , but

9:04

just able to navigate and roll with it . So

9:07

a lot of times we put pressure on ourselves of

9:09

like I'm not doing this , I'm not doing this , but

9:11

maybe you're doing it in a different way . So

9:13

that was something that we had to adjust

9:16

to , and then , I think , also just

9:18

really blocking out time in our calendars

9:21

like no , there is no meetings at this time

9:23

, because she is up during

9:25

this time and we have to then feed

9:27

her and put it on for an app at this time . So

9:30

those things were definitely difficult

9:32

to navigate , on top of me

9:34

being obligated at work with meetings that I

9:36

can't necessarily change . Once in a while

9:39

I could say , hey , can we push this back ? But

9:41

a lot of them I can't just change day to day , week

9:43

after week , because my child is on right

9:45

.

9:45

One of the challenges that comes

9:47

with entrepreneurship is that people think that you're always

9:50

available .

9:50

Right .

9:51

Just because I control my time doesn't

9:54

mean I'm always available , so sometimes , like

9:56

it's like I have to be strict , which is very hard for me . I

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pride myself on being actively available

10:01

.

10:01

I'm like no , he ain't available .

10:02

Like you could shoot me a DM , I'll respond , or

10:04

the VA's will respond . I usually respond before the VA's respond

10:07

. Or you shoot us an email , I

10:09

try to be responsive on there . Or you shoot

10:11

me a text I try to be responsive . Or you call me . I try to pick

10:13

up on the first ring . And that's one of the challenges

10:15

where you , when you are

10:17

that responsive to other people , that means you're less responsive

10:19

to somebody else or something else . So

10:22

it's like if I'm always available for everybody else

10:24

, then it takes away from me being available for Elani

10:26

. And during this past month I wanna say we

10:28

probably got a lot closer than we normally would have .

10:30

You and her , me and her , yeah .

10:33

Because we've spent a lot more time together . So , let's say

10:35

, my meetings are done at 12 , I'm like are in that rest of the

10:37

day we're gonna go to the

10:39

park or whatever , or we're gonna go visit this gymnastics

10:42

place , whatever . So I was playing

10:44

. Yeah , you were doing the activities with her .

10:46

The daddy daycare . I tell you you can't say

10:48

that . Why not ? Because I

10:50

can't say , mommy , daycare , it's my child . Yes

10:52

, there's no daycare . Daycare means you're taking care of

10:54

someone else , like being paid for it . That's how

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I look at it . At least You're not getting

10:58

paid for it , it's your child . There's no babysitting

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my child , like that type of kind of stuff . So a lot of people say that

11:03

I think it's foolish . I don't think

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they're taking it in the technical sense , but

11:07

I try not to use those to those terminologies

11:09

, because you never say a mom is babysitting .

11:11

So it's just a dad .

11:12

Some people say , oh , the dad is babysitting , so it's like

11:14

a deadbeat dad situation . Yeah

11:16

, you don't babysit , it's just your child . I'm home

11:18

with the child , like what it is , what it is , I'm home

11:21

with my kid . Yeah , I'm home with my kid , I'm not babysitting

11:23

it you get paid for those things . I

11:26

guess those services at least so deadbeat dad .

11:28

That's how I see it at least . So , deadbeat dad

11:30

, stop saying you babysitting your kids . That's what you know , what I'm saying .

11:32

You're not a deadbeat if you're like , I'm not using it in that sense

11:34

, but just be mindful of the terminology . That's all I'm saying

11:37

. That's all I'm saying . If you show

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up , you show up . It is what it is . But yeah

11:41

, activities he was able to go to . But in the

11:43

meantime , it was that hard

11:45

decision of are we gonna look for another

11:47

nanny ? Do we want to look for another nanny

11:49

or are we gonna put her into school ? So

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the school search started . Something

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like I mentioned that's big for us is her speaking

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Spanish . So a school that has Spanish

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immersion , that brings our window smaller

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and smaller . I just want to make this what's .

12:03

Spanish immersion .

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Spanish immersion means that in the classroom , that's all

12:06

they speak is Spanish . They tend to see

12:08

Spanish immersion and Mandarin immersion are

12:10

at a lot of some schools . They'll

12:13

offer those services , so that means that's the only

12:15

language they speak in that classroom , Maybe

12:17

twice a week . They may get English right

12:19

. So that's what we want , because we know that

12:21

we will speak English with her . She needs to continue

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to learn the Spanish , especially as her vocabulary

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continues to expand . Why was that important ? That's

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important because I don't speak Spanish . My family

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is from Panama . All of my cousins , all of my uncles

12:33

, everyone speaks Spanish fluently and

12:35

English and I do not . I only understand

12:38

it , so I don't speak enough to teach it

12:40

to her at all . So we want to make

12:42

sure that she knows the language

12:44

and is fluent . I don't care

12:46

if we don't understand what she's saying . That's fine with me , but

12:48

that's why that's so important for

12:51

us . So family I'm like speak Spanish to her , Like

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everybody needs to just be speaking Spanish to

12:55

her , which she understands . So she's

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at a good place . But we have to make sure she

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continues with that and that was really important

13:02

for us . Not

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many schools offer that . I want

13:07

to be clear about that , yeah . Then during the

13:09

time that we started to look , a lot of

13:11

the schools were closed due to the holiday

13:13

season , so they were closed out until

13:15

January 2nd or January 9th , so that was another

13:17

two weeks that she would just be home , because we couldn't

13:19

even visit certain schools that we were interested

13:22

in the search

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of Looking through reviews

13:26

and looking at their website , and diversity

13:29

is another big thing .

13:30

So that's kind of I want to kind of put

13:32

this in a tangible way where , because

13:35

we get , we use , the way we use

13:37

our businesses is the same way

13:39

. We kind of have the same process for

13:41

looking for a nanny or looking for

13:44

a day school or a day care . It's the same

13:46

exact process when we're looking for Contractors

13:48

for our cleaning business or whether looking for a nanny

13:50

, we're looking for a daycare , looking for a babysitter , and

13:53

it all comes down to a Few

13:56

steps and I want to give the people tangible ideas

13:59

for this .

13:59

So okay so that . I

14:02

do want to like name the first step thing that I did

14:04

before we went and went into a classroom .

14:06

Yeah , I want to , I want to give them a breakdown

14:08

, because I think a lot of this stuff translates across

14:10

many things and it's not just for . You

14:13

may be thinking , oh , I don't have any kids , but this , the same process

14:15

that we use for this , is same process we use for our

14:18

businesses , our teams , our members

14:20

Contra everything . So I want to give

14:22

them that , that tangible breakdown .

14:23

Which is important . I think the first thing that I would look

14:25

at is why would just like ? Search daycare

14:28

is in my area , right , I literally

14:30

put that in and I would

14:32

start to look at reviews of

14:34

the school . Then I will also go on

14:36

their website see what information I could provide

14:39

there . Many of the schools do not provide pricing

14:41

on their website . That's just some of them do , but

14:43

most of them do not , and I understood that Some

14:46

of them .

14:46

Share so with the website part

14:48

, so you do daycare my area so that's SEO

14:51

, that's urge search optimization right

14:53

there . So you're , if you're in , if you're

14:55

air , and you , if you're in a certain area

14:57

and you type in day camera area , based

14:59

on your search Agent optimization , how you rank

15:02

on Google is where your website

15:04

is going to rank yeah so more than likely , we're

15:06

not going to the second , third , four , fifth pages

15:08

.

15:08

I don't need to go that far . So many show up before

15:10

so many .

15:12

So if you are a local service business

15:14

, now we get into the business side of things . If your

15:16

local service business and you , let's say

15:18

lawn care , you type in lawn came my area

15:20

, the first ones that gonna pop up are the first

15:22

ones you're gonna click , the first ones You're gonna check out . So

15:25

that search engine optimization now there

15:27

are some things you could do to kind of beat that

15:29

process on whether it's blogs , whether

15:31

it's backlinks , you could go into all that . We talk about that stuff

15:33

in cleaning business university . We teach you how to start

15:35

and scale a remote cleaning business without cleaning in houses

15:37

. So day came my area would be

15:39

the first step . And then now go into the website

15:42

. So you said there's a few things you're looking for in their websites

15:44

.

15:44

Yeah , so also it depends that we were looking

15:47

for Monastery type schools

15:49

. It wasn't a must-have , but it was something

15:51

that we were interested in , so that may narrow

15:53

down your search . The type of school that you're

15:55

looking for if , if you , if you care

15:57

about that was a monastery Montessor

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is a type of learning , basically on

16:02

their end , of them Operating independently

16:04

and people kind of encouraging them

16:06

that way , versus you just telling them what to

16:08

do . So so that's a for my

16:10

people . That's a quick check , you can Google it

16:13

, but I'm gonna give you guys a break , now break

16:15

down .

16:15

When I first heard it's her monastery and they

16:17

started breaking it down , I was

16:19

like this is gentrified schooling . So

16:21

if you come from the hood , montessor

16:23

is . Maria Montessori is the name of the monastery

16:26

is exactly when your parents were working at

16:28

. Your parents were working full hours . You go home . You have

16:30

to figure all this stuff out by yourself . You're

16:32

doing stuff that you shouldn't be doing by yourself at a certain

16:35

age . So when you about eight years old

16:37

, you probably shouldn't be taking a bus or the train by yourself

16:39

in New York .

16:40

That's my .

16:43

You get home , you cooking dinner on the stove

16:45

. That's a monastery . You

16:47

, you were literally using the stove . You're using

16:50

a knife that you probably shouldn't be using over

16:52

.

16:52

They give them a safe knife . They're cutting apples

16:54

.

16:54

It's in a guided environment . Yeah , that's

16:57

like to get hurt , but Montessori schooling is essentially

16:59

gentrified schooling , where a

17:01

you didn't have the money growing up and you had

17:03

to figure this stuff out alone . But it's good

17:05

because coming . I mean this is more from New York

17:07

because we're from New York , but I learned a lot

17:09

of skills and tools that I use later

17:11

on in life that the people who didn't

17:14

have that same upbringing was a little bit more I don't

17:16

want to say sheltered , but maybe

17:18

Montessori gives you a lot more freedom to kind

17:20

of roam and figure things out alone .

17:21

Yeah , but obviously a teacher's in the class in the garden .

17:23

It's not all right .

17:24

You don't know what you're doing at all , but yeah , so that was

17:26

another part of it .

17:27

But yeah , I would go bed , you pulling your bed

17:29

out on the floor . You sleep on the floor too .

17:33

Let these people do their own research . So

17:36

yeah , I would check the website . A big thing for me

17:38

would be diversity . If they shared their

17:41

director and Instructors

17:44

information . Not all of them share that on the

17:46

website , but a lot of them do . So I was like

17:48

, okay , let's see who's in whose instructors

17:51

there . That would be important . What

17:54

else I also look for extracurricular activities

17:56

. A lot of them don't allow you

17:58

to do anything until they're about three , but I

18:00

just want to see what they had like soccer , piano

18:02

, violin , yoga , whatever . Did they

18:04

offer anything , even though it's an additional

18:07

fee ? That was important , but

18:09

otherwise they're pretty much standard in

18:12

. You know , they include lunch , or this

18:14

is the structure , or so on and so forth . So

18:16

we had done a search when she was

18:18

one years old Originally , so we had

18:20

an idea of what we were looking for going in again

18:22

this time . So we didn't visit

18:24

the schools that we didn't like last time . So

18:27

this time around I think we visited about eight

18:29

schools or six . Eight schools

18:32

.

18:32

So we got the , we

18:34

got to know what you're looking for Schools

18:37

in my list why you got the website

18:40

. So having a optimized website to give someone

18:42

you know All your services , all your products

18:44

, all your tools that they know . All right , this

18:46

is the school for me , or this is the business for

18:48

me , or this is the , the website . Whatever , it

18:51

is the product of service for me that I need to look at

18:53

. So next , once you kind of break down , all

18:55

right , you know these are the top five things that I want

18:57

to visit . Next thing was probably calling

18:59

. So having someone available to answer

19:01

the phones , customer service . There were times

19:03

we were calling schools and we were like , oh , is

19:05

there even anyone at the front desk ? Or

19:07

one of the things was the same person

19:09

that was a director was the same person answering

19:12

the phones . We kind of ask that question like , oh , are

19:14

you under sweet , trying to use these things as as

19:16

tips and tools so we can say , alright

19:18

, this school might be under staff . So having

19:21

someone readily available to answer the phone

19:23

, but then also not just sending someone

19:25

to an answering service , having someone who could actually

19:27

answer the questions that you have

19:29

, which is going to be an immediate representation

19:31

of your school . So who's picking up the phones

19:34

? What do they know , what don't they know ? Things

19:37

like that .

19:37

I was just trying to look for my exact questions that

19:40

I that I've asked . But , like I said , I think

19:42

once you get into Looking

19:44

at schools you get a sense

19:46

of some of the stuff that that

19:48

you're looking for . So I found it sorry . So

19:51

a lot of it was kind of ratio of

19:53

kid to teacher . Once we get in there we set

19:55

up an interview or they say , come and do a walkthrough

19:58

. The walkthroughs , like I say , I think

20:00

it becomes pretty monotonous . But this time around

20:02

we were looking at six schools , sorry . And

20:04

so kids ratio of kid to teacher is important

20:06

. Some of them I think , like Texas law

20:09

allows them to go up to about 22 to 24

20:11

kids in a classroom . That was

20:13

a lot for X . I'm like I do expect that in the

20:15

public school setting . I mean , growing up in New York

20:17

, that's like 32 kids . I don't even know what the limit

20:20

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it , thank you . Right , so those schools

20:45

that had like 12 and under , even

20:47

if they have two teachers , that was more of what

20:50

we were looking for For her

20:52

, because obviously I know she's coming from

20:54

a one-on-one setting . She's not gonna get that exactly

20:56

, but I find 24 is just overwhelming

20:58

.

20:58

Two or three people , even if it's just too much

21:00

, toddlers

21:03

at that , and

21:06

I want to put this disclaimer out there too , because

21:08

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The other thing we were interested in is turnover at

22:28

the school . So for the directors , for the teachers

22:30

, how long have they been here ? Um

22:33

, five months a year , seven

22:35

years ? Okay , maybe they like their

22:37

job if they hear that long . So turnover

22:40

was also important . So Kid

22:43

to radio ratio of kids to teacher

22:45

turnover , what the curriculum was

22:47

. I mean People say different

22:49

names and it really doesn't matter really , at their

22:51

toddlers , I mean , how much

22:53

are they really comprehending ? That was important

22:55

. But we still wanted to know Qualifications

22:58

. So some of the monasteries another

23:01

thing that people kind of have an issue with monastery schools

23:04

is Any place can just put that

23:06

name . It's not like an accreditation kind

23:08

of following them behind them . However

23:10

, I was aware of what some of the teachers should

23:12

have if they are really a monastery school

23:14

. So it's like , um , ami

23:16

, was it ? Yeah , ami or AMS certified

23:18

. So I would ask if any of the teachers

23:20

had those certifications . If you are saying

23:22

this is a monastery school or is someone

23:25

in the classroom does , because many of them have like

23:27

a lead teacher and then someone else . If

23:29

any of those are , they're working on it . So that was

23:31

important and then just standard like

23:33

policies of how do you handle it If

23:36

the child does something wrong ? What do you do if they

23:38

get hurt ? Those type of things , along

23:40

with many other things . I'm not mentioning that . It's pretty

23:43

standard across across the board . So

23:45

it was a process of

23:47

like . Because it's two of us , we both have

23:49

to see how we feel about it . Like

23:51

we're big I'm big on gut feelings

23:53

. That was something you know . How do you feel about

23:56

with this place once we visited .

23:58

Yeah , that was a weird we

24:00

were both big on gut feeling , so I

24:03

want to go back a few steps to because we're talking about the process

24:05

, so we use this same process

24:07

on many things . So even when we

24:09

visited the location , it was like what does it look

24:11

? Like what does ? It sound like what does it feel ? Like does

24:14

it feel ?

24:14

like home , like was . It smell like old

24:16

. Oh my god .

24:17

That's another big one . You may say , like

24:19

when you go to a hotel , I was like what's your first impression

24:21

of the survive with the vibe ? So there was

24:24

one school that we visited and it was like it felt super

24:26

homely , like it felt like we were in there

24:28

, it's well like family , it felt like , but

24:30

it just didn't give us what we wanted in terms of . I

24:33

forgot what it was , but either need here . Location

24:35

is important and we are big into

24:37

making sure things are central to us , because

24:40

if you're commuting an Hour

24:42

each day or 30 minutes each day , that's

24:44

gonna take you away from everything you

24:46

have ever house , everything else you have to do

24:48

. So occasion is a big part of everything

24:51

we do , so our gyms are nearby , our

24:53

supermarkets are nearby , our

24:55

school is nearby Highways

24:57

, so we try to be to make things

24:59

a lot easier on our lifestyle as well . So

25:02

feeling was a gut , feeling was a big one

25:04

, and the first school we visited

25:06

was actually the when we end

25:08

up choosing , end up choosing , which was two years

25:10

later , and we visited that school probably

25:12

three , three different times because the first time

25:15

situations about turning one yeah . First

25:18

time we was in different situations . We didn't feel it , you know

25:20

, and I don't want to give too much details on it , but

25:22

we've . We went to that school

25:24

three times at different times of our life

25:26

to make sure to make sure , we

25:29

had to be sure , and then you can never , obviously never

25:31

really be sure right , you got

25:33

to kind of take a risk and see how

25:36

it goes .

25:36

You think this is , this feels good , it makes

25:38

sense , so it's see how it goes . And one

25:41

thing that kind of kept us going back

25:43

and forth , I think , was when I really

25:45

break down the

25:47

learning happening and as a toddler you

25:49

really can't expect them to be learning that much but when I

25:52

really break down the learning part of it happening

25:54

, it's not a lot of time , right

25:56

? So if they they're in school

25:58

by maybe say 830 and then my

26:00

12 o'clock they're either

26:02

eating lunch or getting ready to take a nap and

26:05

then they're sleeping for two hours and then

26:07

you're picking them up , right , so the

26:10

work actually happens . If you want that eight

26:12

to 12 , three to four hours , if that

26:14

, and so that was something else that I kept

26:16

we kept toying with . I'm like they don't

26:18

need to be here that long . And so we did find

26:21

some schools that they're like no , they only do eight to 12

26:23

. That's it . I was like damn , how's

26:25

somebody gonna work ? But I get it , because after

26:28

that is kind of you on your own , you got to

26:30

feed them , they're gonna go for a nap and do

26:32

any extra activities . So that was

26:34

another thing that we debated with . Now , we're

26:36

not anti her being in school

26:38

, it just was . Is now the time , or

26:40

is it necessary , right ? I think

26:42

that if we didn't separate from our , our

26:46

nanny , I don't know what the age

26:48

would be for us to say , like

26:50

, okay , yeah , she should go to school . So

26:52

you know .

26:53

I want to even give some examples of

26:55

of that situation where I

26:58

don't think there's ever a right time but there

27:01

could be a better time . So now she's at the age

27:03

where she's interacting with these

27:05

kids . So we see a different interaction even

27:07

when we're visiting other places , like we was

27:09

at the hospital the other day because Lonnie

27:12

had an arm situation and she's like oh

27:14

, doctor , oh , this kid's , it is like Ninos

27:17

right . So she's interacting with other kids

27:19

. And that was one of the biggest things we were thinking about was at

27:21

what point did she get that interaction with other people

27:23

where she's at Right ? She went to a kids party . She's not playing

27:25

with no kids .

27:26

But still the doctor . So that was another thing . We always

27:29

checked in with our doctor as well , like she would ask

27:31

if she in a school setting or she not , and she

27:33

would tell us . And she said she was like , yeah , up until

27:35

two they kind of parallel play , meaning

27:37

like they know that the person exists but

27:39

they're not really playing with each other . It's just kind

27:41

of like I'm a play here . I see her , maybe

27:44

I don't , and that's how she operates really

27:46

. She's like , okay , I see the kid , but

27:48

I don't play with the kid . And even now

27:51

when we go pick her up from school , we try to sneak and

27:53

she's not playing with the

27:55

kids , which to me is fine . It's not a

27:58

big issue

28:00

, because she has been in settings where she

28:02

does socialize or she knows how to share or

28:04

she knows how to give something . So you

28:06

know , we weren't really concerned about what most

28:08

of you are going to yell and attack about the socialization

28:11

part , because she was socializing other settings

28:13

, outside of our nanny and us of course

28:15

. But it still was a decision of

28:18

does it make sense , as it not ? So we said , you know

28:20

, let's put her in , let's do Monday through Friday

28:22

the full time , if we're finding

28:24

that she doesn't need all that . If we

28:26

don't want her there , let her go part time . Monday through Friday

28:29

.

28:29

And this also allows us to get our life

28:31

back together too . So it's like , all right , maybe for

28:33

the first month she might be there full time . But we

28:35

might say , okay , we got things back in

28:37

order , we got things back in alignment with the businesses

28:39

and everything else that can help now is like all

28:42

right , let's kind of eat her back

28:44

out . And it was like all right , friday I was going to take her out but

28:46

she didn't go for half the day . It was like okay , I need to take

28:48

her out because she didn't go in for the first half of the

28:50

day . So , that

28:52

flexibility is important to us . You know , even when we're

28:55

in this lifestyle of entrepreneurship , it's like

28:57

we still want to have that time with our

28:59

daughter .

29:00

So I think what we understood and what we

29:02

communicated with the people

29:04

that we work with at least we have meeting with

29:06

and business stuff . With that first month

29:08

we communicated hey , we have a change in childcare

29:10

. This is what we can do in regards

29:13

to time , this is what

29:15

we can do in regards to hour long

29:17

meetings , 30 long , 30 minute long meetings , when

29:19

we can have these meetings , so on and so forth . That

29:21

was made very clear because for us , the

29:23

business had to go on , but priorities

29:26

take a shift and that was important . That's something that

29:28

we had to keep reiterating and reminding each

29:30

other . Like , yes , I know you usually go to the gym

29:32

at this time . However , right

29:34

now it's not possible Not that you

29:36

can't go , but you just can't go this regular time that

29:38

you usually go , because this is happening

29:40

, this is happening . So that was

29:43

a big , big shift

29:45

for us , but we're finally

29:47

feeling like we're back on track and making

29:50

strides and focused

29:52

on , back on the goals , because when we made

29:54

the goals , we didn't have this in mind . So

29:57

sometimes your goals are going to shift . Take

29:59

a little shift In January , think

30:01

about goals .

30:02

Remember , I did the . So that's why you've also

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I don't know if you guys know it's been a shift in the content

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too that we post on the podcast . So I've

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had a solo episode and we've been posting more

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interviews . We've done because we still have

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this content right , we still have

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people who we interview on

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there . We actually we didn't do a podcast

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about the other podcast we were on , but we

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still have so much content out there we

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were like , all right , let's post some of this older stuff

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30:33

in alignment with what other things we have to

30:35

do . But in some times your gifts I mean

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you're , I was going to say

30:40

your your gifts have to shift in

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season . So we know one of our

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