Health is cumulative. What you put in/on your body over time can positively or negatively affect you. Cancer on the other hand, from my experiences, is something like a random strike of lightning that gives no fucks about anyone, how well you take care of yourself, or medical history. My parents are aging and most of my 'free' days/time are spent at the house or running errands. My Dad isn't in the greatest health and doesn't have control over most of his facilities. His heart is remarkably okay though. The last few months in particular I was asked, told usually, last minute about appointments etc. I get it. Filial piety. But at the same time my life is more than work, my *seemingly* never ending donations, eat/sleep/laundry. I have goals and aspirations I am working towards. Step by step. It is also stressing me out that my mom constantly yells at him, using "I need to get his attention," as an excuse. Like all day long. She knows what he is and is not capable of, so why yell at him to do stuff you know he can't do or yell at him when he can't match your pace WHEN YOU KNOW he can't go the same speed? One day I won't be there to help pick Dad off the floor,put him in bed, go on never ending errands for Mom because she keeps adding stuff to a list she made up but never answers texts in a timely manner, or last minute drives to doctors appointments that eat up an entire, "day off." I am mostly tired of not being listened to, not having my opinions considered, and being asked last minute for everything. Takeaway: if you are in a family where your opinions are AT LEAST considered and valued: Know not everyone has that. Cherish it. Parents: tell your kids the "why" behind everything. Explain everything. Last time I checked: no one likes, "because I said so," as a reason. No one likes a dictator. If you are trying to change your life with some lifestyle/diet changes. Small changes are still changes. Nothing wrong with sustainable steps in a new direction.