If the goal is following Jesus what do you hope to get out of following him? Knowing what you hope to get out of something determines whether or not you’ll be disappointed by what you actually get. In Mark 10, Jesus is clear what he offers us in the gospel - an inner renewal for your present life and a hope for your future that creates within a human-being not just the ability to endure hardship and suffering but to actually be made stronger by it.

“When the ten heard about this, they became indignant with James and John. Jesus called them together and said, ‘You know that those who are regarded as rulers of the Gentiles lord it over them, and their high officials exercise authority over them. Not so with you. Instead, whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant, and whoever wants to be first must be slave of all. For even the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.’”

Mark 10:41-45 (NIV)

“There is a great deal of disappointment expressed today about the character and the effects of Christian people, about Christian institutions, and—at least by implication—about the Christian faith and understanding of reality. Most of the disappointment comes from Christians themselves, who find that what they profess ‘just isn’t working’—not for themselves nor, so far as they can see, for those around them.”
Dallas Willard | The Great Omission