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Truth is , I didn't even know Bereaved Mother's

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Day existed until my son passed

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away , but when I learned about it I

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was thankful . It is good to recognize

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and remember mothers who've lost a

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child . Hello and

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welcome to New Mercy Moms , your grief

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and hope podcast . I'm your host

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, kathy , and I am so

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thankful that you are here . I

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am so sorry that you've lost a child

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. I know it's so hard

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. I've been there . But I

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want you to know two things you

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are not alone , and Jesus

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wants to meet you in your pain . Now

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, mother's Day is just a couple weeks away , and

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Bereaved Mother's Day is the Sunday

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before traditional Mother's

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Day . It's such a great

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thing because , even though

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we who've lost a child

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, you know , there's such a roller

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coaster of , yes , I want to remember

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my child , oh , but it's so painful

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and heavy to remember and

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hold these memories . Bereaved

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Mother's Day gives you an opportunity to share those memories

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with others , and so today , in this podcast , we're going to go over these things

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. I'm going to share some Bible verses just to

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remind us of the blessing

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that God gives those who mourn

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and weep when words fail . What

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do you pray ? I know I've been

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there . When I lost my child . I didn't know

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what to pray and that's what drove me to

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create this free guide Bible Prayers

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for Bereaved Parents . I want

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to send that to you . So if you would like to

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get this , go ahead and go to newmercymomscom

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. Forward slash prayer dash guide

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and you can get our Bible Prayers for

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Bereaved Parents delivered straight to your inbox

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. Now , please don't forget

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this . It really could be life-changing

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. Your Bible-based prayer guide is just a

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few clicks away . Matthew

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5 , 4 , blessed are those who mourn

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, for they shall be comforted . Maybe

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we've heard that verse a lot of times

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and I get that , but it still

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applies to us . It still applies

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to me Because

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just yesterday I was crying , crying and sad

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missing my little boy . This day offers us a moment

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to reflect and connect , to

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face our grief while also embracing

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the comfort and hope that comes from knowing

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we do not walk this

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path alone . And it was on a bereaved

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Mother's Day that I found out another woman

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in my church had lost her older child

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, and I remember her coming over

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to me and while

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it was really hard for her to talk about it

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and I get it she gave me

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a hug and she said I know what it's like

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, I'm sorry and

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I'm praying for you and that was so kind

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and I'm

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just tearing up because I'm thinking that's

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just the grace and the love that God

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showed me through that sweet lady . Like

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English was her second language , but she made

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the effort and it's really meant a lot

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to me . Now just some

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background for the history of Bereaved Mother's

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Day . Why it matters Bereaved Mother's

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Day it's a special day we

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set aside to honor and remember mothers

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who have experienced this unimaginable

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loss of a child . In 2010

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, a lady named Carly Marie Dodd , after

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having lost her own child and seeing

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the need in her community of grieving mothers

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, she felt we were unrecognized

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by traditional Mother's Day , and she's right . We were

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unrecognized by traditional Mother's Day , and she's right . Unlike traditional Mother's

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Day , which celebrates motherhood and its joy

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and it should be celebrated

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bereaved

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Mother's Day acknowledges the profound pain and really the unique journey of grief

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that mothers , who carry love and loss together in their hearts , experience

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. Psalm 3418

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says the Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the's experience . Psalm

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34 , 18 says the Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed

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spirit . So

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I want to encourage you to

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lean into God during

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this time . You

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know , naturally I say during this time . The

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truth is , it's our whole life that we carry

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this grief . So let's lean

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into the Lord . He's the one who's

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near us . He's the one who saves us

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, saves our crushed spirit , saves

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us who are crushed in spirit

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. Now , one

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of the things that I appreciate about Breathe

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Mother's Day that our culture as a

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whole doesn't typically recognize

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, because we're all about the future

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and go , go , go . Sometimes we

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forget the last chapter or

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the current chapter of our lives . That actually

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establishes the

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whole rest of our story , transforms

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it from what we think is going to happen

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to what reality

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is . This day says your

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child your love and your loss

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matter . It's a way to remember

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that , even in the deepest sorrow , you

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are not alone , and

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I'm thankful . It's a time where maybe

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our communities , perhaps for Read

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, mother's Day isn't something that

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the whole world or even

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our culture as a whole recognizes

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, but it could be something

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that your circle

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, those around you , can recognize

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and honor . It's a time for them

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to show that every mother's experience

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is valid , the grief

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we feel is totally valid

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, and that every child is remembered . I

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know some of you have lost one

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child who are listening . Some of you

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have lost four or six or more

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. Some of you have had to say

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goodbye or have never had the chance

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to say hello to every

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child that you've carried

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, and I am so sorry that is extremely

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hard

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. This day is for you

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, even if you have nine

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other children who are alive and healthy , praise

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God but you have lost one . This

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day is for you too , because

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every life matters

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. Every life is precious . This

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day recognizes the love

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that every life has received

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from its mother . You know , I even

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think of the moms who maybe chose an abortion

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and regret it . This day is for you too

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. We sorrow with you . We

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don't judge or anything , but

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we sorrow with you . So

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why does Bereave Mother's Day matter ? Well

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, it's just a time for us to sit down

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and reflect and remember

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and honor the love that God has

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given us for our children living in

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past and to

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remember the hope and healing found in Jesus

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, who walks beside us every step of

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the way . I'm not sure I've done

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anything special on Bereaved Mother's

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Day in the past . I typically

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do my days of

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remembering during the anniversaries

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of my son's birth

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and passing , but it

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is a time where I want

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to seek out other moms who've lost and

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pray with them . You

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know , if you go to church on

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Bereaved Mother's Day , maybe there's

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a mom you know who has lost

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a child . This would be a perfect time to

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go to them , even if they don't

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feel ready to talk about it , just to

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have some things to say to them . Some

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things you could say is I'm remembering

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your child with you today . I

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have several things you could say , and if

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you want to write them down or check out the blog post , feel free to do that . I have several things you could say , and if you want to write them down

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or check out the blog post , feel free to do that . I have

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them there as well . Your love for

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your child is beautiful , invisible

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, I don't know . The thing could be . Would

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you like to share a memory of your child

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with me ? Or your child's

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story has touched my heart in profound

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ways . I'm here to listen

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. If you want to talk about your child , you

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know , especially if the grief is fresh

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, how can I support you best today

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and in the days to come ? And

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maybe , if you don't know

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the family super well , you could

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say I'd love to know more about

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your child . If you feel like sharing . Your

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journey has been incredibly tough , but

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you're not alone . You could also

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say would you like to do something special

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to honor your child's memory today ? Some

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things , definitely to not say

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it's time to move on

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, and you know what these examples

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. Sometimes we might be listening and think , oh

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, who says that ? I know some

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of these have been said to me , some

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of these have been said to my friends who've lost

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. It's not too far from any

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of us to say something unthoughtful

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, uncaring , even if it's unintentional

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. So let's be humble and

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take this into account so we can try

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to avoid this and actually show love . So

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, like I mentioned before , let's

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try to avoid saying and not say

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it's time to move on . Or

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at least you have other children , or

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even you can always have more children

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, or they're in a better place now

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, or it will all work out for good . You

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just have to have faith . Those

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probably aren't the most sensitive

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things to say and if

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you are wanting to say something like that

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, just don't open your mouth . Think

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, look for an opportunity to say something

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more positive , like

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the ideas I gave you

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just a minute ago . Now

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it's important to make space

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for remembrance on this day Now

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you know if you'd rather

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not on Bereaved Mother's Day and

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if you'd rather create the space on the anniversaries

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of your loss . I totally get that

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. That's typically the way I

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do things , but I

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think it's also really helpful if

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you don't have a day and you need a day

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. I think it's really important to

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make space for remembrance . At some

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point and earlier

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in the grief , your

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mind , your heart , your body probably need

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more space than less to

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process , to grieve . On Bereaved

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Mother's Day , creating a moment of

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remembrance can be as simple

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or as elaborate as what

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you would like . You could simply burn a candle

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, or you could do

10:11

more section

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on my blog , a whole post

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on like a dozen ways

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, I think , where you

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can remember and

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kind of memorialize , I guess , the

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memory of your child , and I

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think there's just so many from

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like creating a garden , writing

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a book , writing in your journal or something

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like that , sharing with others . Lots

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of ideas that could be really helpful if you're wanting to utilize that space on Bereaved Mother's

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Day for remembering your child and the love you have for them . You

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can share stories about your child with someone

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who understands , and sometimes

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, though , that can feel like a way to process

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more , even find some healing

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. Sometimes people think that just

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overlooking it and moving on and muscling

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through it , or even trying

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to point out the positives , maybe

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the good things that somehow God

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is giving you through loss . I

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don't know if that makes sense , but I saw a post

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from a friend the other day who said you

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don't have to thank God for the hard thing , but

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you can thank him for the good things that come

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from that . And I see what she's

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saying . But I

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think there's more than that

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. But Berean , mother's Day is a good

11:31

time to start thanking

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God for the good things that come

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from this hard thing . And maybe you're not

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in a place to even see that as a fact

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yet , and I get that . It

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literally took me years

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, years to see good

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that came from this pain , the

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pain of losing my child , and , of

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course , anytime I saw good

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, I asked God . I don't know if it

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was worth it or I told God really , but

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the truth is it's so good

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to make space for remembrance , to

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remind yourself and to let others know

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and to remind them to thank

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God with them for their life , because

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their life is a gift . No matter

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how short or how long or

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how difficult their life was , their

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life is a gift . They lived , they

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mattered and they were

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so valuable to God , to

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you , so let's take

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time to remember them and if you're

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a support person , maybe a family

12:30

member or a friend I believe Mother's

12:32

Day is coming up this would be . This would

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mean so much to someone

12:36

Now , granted , you know , even

12:39

if they may not recognize or celebrate

12:41

themselves , it would mean

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so much to them for you to

12:45

just acknowledge and remember

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with them , even if just a moment . I

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know it's messy Me and some of

12:52

my friends were just talking last week of

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why is it so hard for

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people to reach out and to

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talk about this with others , to

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talk about loss and to

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try to be there for each other and

13:05

some of the ideas we threw around . We're

13:07

sure there's plenty more ideas

13:10

of why someone might be afraid

13:12

to talk to somebody about their loss

13:14

, but one of the ones I was thinking of

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was it's difficult when we

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see pain , like our natural

13:20

response is to not want to dive into the pain

13:22

at first , except for love

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. Right , if it weren't for us

13:27

loving somebody enough to

13:29

want to get into their pain with them , then

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I can see how it would be hard

13:34

and a person wouldn't want to avoid

13:36

talking about loss

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, right , whether it's your own or somebody else's

13:40

, maybe a friend or family member but

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avoidance doesn't actually

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help . It doesn't actually help you

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process through grief . It can be a way of survival

13:49

and I get that . There's a time and

13:51

a place if that's needed . But eventually

13:54

, eventually in time , processing

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is needed for healing . So

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bereaved mother's day is meant to

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create space for that , a pause

14:04

, a time to remember , to reflect

14:07

, to grieve , and it's a good

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thing , it's a good thing to

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do after loss . I

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think of , maybe , some scenarios you might

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be going through Now . I don't know which

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of you are listening or whatever , but I think maybe some scenarios you

14:20

might be going through Now . I don't know which of you are listening or whatever , but I think of some

14:22

scenarios that some moms have written and shared with us , shared

14:24

with New Mercy moms about right , maybe there

14:27

is a couple the wife

14:29

has lost her baby and the husband doesn't

14:32

want to talk about it and doesn't understand

14:34

why the wife needs to talk about it , because

14:36

it's so painful . We don't need to bring this

14:38

up and it's really hard

14:40

. It's separating them two . But

14:43

I almost think of bereaved mother's day

14:45

as like someone coming alongside

14:47

you in the ring and you know , I hope it's not like

14:49

a fight , but this is the kind

14:51

of the picture that my brain came up with . But it's

14:53

kind of like you're trying to defend

14:56

yourself of why it's important

14:58

to remember and grieve and process out loud

15:00

or even have space to process personally

15:03

. And it's like somebody coming alongside

15:05

you and saying , yes , this is worthy

15:07

, this is worthy of talking

15:09

about , this is worthy of remembering

15:11

. Their life mattered and

15:14

it's okay to talk about it and we're

15:16

going to normalize this a little more

15:18

and it's not to like bash

15:21

the other person who's struggling

15:23

to understand this . You know there's probably

15:26

some education and grief

15:28

that could be helpful , but

15:31

just know that probably maybe

15:33

something in their life or the culture they

15:36

grew up in didn't allow them to grief

15:38

. They didn't see what godly

15:40

open grief looks like that

15:42

was actually helpful in

15:45

processing and healing . I think that's

15:47

important . My goals for New Mercy Moms

15:49

is to actually show what godly

15:51

grief looks like and how processing

15:54

it in an open way , but

15:57

also in a healthy way , can

15:59

lead to some hope

16:01

and healing in your life . Now you might

16:03

be in a place where it's early in your grief and you

16:05

think there is no way I will

16:07

ever find hope again . I can't even think

16:09

about the tomorrow . I can hardly think about

16:11

getting through today , and I remember being there

16:14

. It wasn't a day by day grace , it was

16:16

a moment by moment , like literally 10

16:18

minutes . I'd be like , okay , lord , help me get

16:20

through the next 10 minutes of my life , help me to

16:22

get through the next 30 minutes of my life , and

16:25

then the day would be done . And then the days

16:27

ended up turning into months

16:29

, and months into years . And now

16:31

it's been almost a decade and I can tell

16:33

you that it's not my own strength , it is God

16:36

who's carried me , and I pray that

16:38

that actually brings comfort to you , because you

16:40

don't have to feel like you are strong

16:42

enough to continue . It's okay . Lean

16:45

hard into God . He will carry you every

16:47

step of the way . Now , honestly

16:49

, after my son Jack passed away , I

16:52

would be filled with dread as

16:54

Mother's Day approached . The

16:57

thought of sitting in church surrounded by families

16:59

celebrating their children , while my arms

17:01

ached for my baby Jack I mean

17:04

literally ached it

17:06

was unbearable . I would wish that I would

17:08

be sick for that day . I just

17:10

wish that I would come down with something just

17:12

to avoid the day and not to face others

17:14

, and especially with

17:16

seeing children who are around my son's age

17:18

. It was just so painful , but

17:21

the joy that I saw in others , it

17:23

just felt like it highlighted

17:26

more of my pain . The

17:28

celebration of the moms who had children with

17:30

them made me feel so empty

17:32

and broken . But the truth

17:35

is there were other mothers

17:37

who struggled silently , friends

17:40

who had lost their own moms

17:42

and mothers who had lost their children . But

17:44

because I grieved so openly

17:47

, some felt comfortable sharing

17:49

their own pain and loss with me and

17:51

it helped me feel not alone . This

17:53

is literally something that

17:55

I've . That was told to me years

17:57

ago that openness brings

18:00

openness . Well , I

18:02

thought I understood

18:04

that , but did I

18:06

put it in action ? It wasn't

18:08

until I started putting it in action that I

18:10

really saw the fruit of that , and

18:13

it means openness about

18:15

what you're going through , about what God is

18:17

doing in your life , when that happens too

18:19

, because you know what One of the things

18:21

is . Sometimes I thought I couldn't share . Until

18:24

I started seeing God work in me , I couldn't

18:26

share where I really was . Well , I

18:29

was wrong . And when I started sharing with

18:31

maybe close friend or

18:33

counselor or a family member where

18:35

I really was . Then , as

18:38

God started working in my heart , they

18:40

heard about that as well . They would

18:42

give glory to God . You don't have

18:44

to have your life all wrapped up in

18:46

this perfect package before you

18:48

share it with others . It

18:50

doesn't have to have the bow of healing

18:53

and hope on it just yet before you share it with

18:55

others . And I'm so thankful

18:58

, actually , that moms have felt comfortable

19:00

sharing their grief story with us before

19:02

they've actually felt like they

19:04

found some healing Helps

19:06

me know how to pray for them in

19:09

this moment , helps me know

19:11

how I can come alongside them in this moment

19:13

. Then , as God works because

19:16

I know he's faithful and he does not leave his

19:18

children alone it'll help me praise

19:20

God even more . Sometimes

19:22

it reminds me of what Jesus said about

19:25

how it's sinners

19:28

who need a savior . It's not

19:30

the healthy who need a doctor , it's the sick who need

19:32

a doctor , the sick who need healing , and what

19:34

I believe . One of the things that Jesus was trying

19:36

to share there was that we

19:39

have to realize our need before we come

19:41

to him . And actually , when

19:43

we realize the depth of our

19:45

own pain and our

19:47

own heartache and

19:49

loss and our own brokenness

19:51

, then when Jesus

19:53

comes in and we see that he actually

19:55

can heal things that are very deep and dark

19:58

and painful and broken . Jesus

20:00

can heal that . Then we can praise

20:02

his name even more , because

20:05

we're amazed at the richness

20:08

and the depth of his love and

20:10

his willingness to go into the deepest , darkest

20:12

places to rescue us . I'm

20:14

so thankful . Now , one of the

20:16

things also that Breathe Mother's Day

20:18

can do is allow

20:21

us to have space to be thankful , and

20:24

for me personally , it was a

20:26

chance to shift my focus

20:29

from my loss to

20:31

also include thankfulness

20:33

, and I mentioned it took me years to reach

20:35

this point , because grief has no timeline

20:37

. Maybe for you it actually didn't

20:39

take that long . Maybe it only

20:42

took a couple of days or weeks for

20:44

some reason , and I'm thankful and I

20:46

praise God for that . I know every

20:48

story , every journey through loss . It's going

20:50

to look different from mine , and that's okay

20:52

. The one I know the best is my

20:54

own story , so that's what I share . But

20:56

each path through grief is unique , it's

20:58

deeply personal and it's valid . So

21:01

what does it look like to have thankfulness

21:03

though , amidst loss ? Now , this

21:06

is a trigger warning , okay , so if you're listening

21:08

, just skip ahead two minutes . I'm going

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to share some deep , hard things

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. Okay . So for me , having

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thankfulness amidst loss meant acknowledging

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the precious moments I did have

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with my baby Jack , despite us only

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having two weeks . I am so thankful

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, so thankful for every memory

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, every touch , every whisper of

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his existence . I remember so

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intently being able to feel him

21:33

move inside my tummy and I'm so thankful

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and I thank God for the privilege

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of being able to carry him , the chance

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to see him , to touch him and hear his

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little , tiny voice the one

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time . I just pray that God will help

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me never forget that . And

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when Jack passed , I'm so thankful

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I was able to hold him as

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he left my arms to be in the arms of

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Jesus , thankful , I was able to kiss his

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face , his sweet , little , cute

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face , and his fingers and his

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toes . Your experience is probably

22:04

different from mine and if you're

22:06

speeding ahead to try to skip

22:09

over the triggers , we're in the clear now . But

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maybe your time with your child

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, it was confined

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to a few weeks in the womb , or perhaps you mourn an older child . But

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this pain , it's immeasurable

22:21

, it's unique and deeply personal and

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just a reminder every life

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is a gift worthy to

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be remembered and celebrated and

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treasured , not just just you , but with other

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people . Feel free to use

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these words with those who don't quite get

22:37

it too . Now , this

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thankfulness it does not

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negate the grief or the longing

22:44

. It's not meant to mask the pain

22:46

with like a veneer of happiness . Instead

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, thankfulness can coexist with

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our sorrow , it can offer a

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glimmer of hope and

22:56

, as bereaved mothers acknowledging these moments

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of gratitude , they don't diminish

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our grief . It actually serves

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to honor our children and the

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profound impact they've had on our lives

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. One person shared

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it to me with this picture . It's

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like our life . If it's a book , right

23:14

, there's this chapter in our

23:16

lives of loss and sometimes we

23:18

think that turning the page to

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the next chapter , or even simply

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turning the page in general , even

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if you're not ending that chapter , feels like we're

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moving on in a sense . No

23:29

, no , it's actually not like that part is that

23:32

page that you're unwilling to turn

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. It's still a part of your story

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and it's a critical , critical

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part , an integral part for the rest

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of the story . It's never not

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becoming a part of your book , the

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book of your life . It matters

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and it might be the page

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that's stained with the most tears and

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it might be just beginning of

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pages that are stained with tears . It's

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okay to be thankful

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, even if that feels like turning a page

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, but I know that can take time to understand

24:06

and implement . So there's no rush , but

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know that it's okay and in

24:10

when it happens it's . It's

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a good thing and it's not negating

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loss , but it's it's

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finding out ways to remember it and

24:20

make it a part of your story and

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to find purpose in it as well . Now

24:24

, as we approach bereaved mother's day

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, let's give ourselves permission to feel

24:28

the full spectrum of our emotions . It's

24:31

okay to dwell in the sadness , to acknowledge

24:33

the ache in our hearts , but let's also consider

24:36

, even if it's just for a moment , the

24:38

aspects of motherhood for which we

24:40

can still be thankful , whether

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it's as simple as a positive

24:44

pregnancy test , because that's

24:47

the only indicator

24:49

of the life you had within you , or

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whether it's years of being able to

24:54

enjoy their smiles and their laughter , or

24:57

even years of being able to care

24:59

for them if they were handicapped

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or had some limitations . It's

25:05

a journey , one that takes time , and it's

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perfectly okay to be wherever you are

25:09

on that path . I wanted to share a couple

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verses with you as well . Second

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Corinthians , 1 , 3 through 4 , says

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blessed be the God and Father of our

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Lord Jesus Christ , father of mercies

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and God of all comfort

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, who comforts us in all our

25:24

affliction , so that we may be able to comfort

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those who are in any affliction with the comfort

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with which we ourselves are comforted

25:30

by God . Comfort

25:33

doesn't always look like moving on Sometimes

25:35

it can , but the point

25:37

is that God is with us in our pain . He

25:39

wants to comfort you . The

25:41

next verse I want to share is Revelation 21.4

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. He will wipe away every tear from

25:46

their eyes and death shall be no more . Neither

25:49

shall there be mourning , nor crying , nor pain

25:51

anymore for the former things that passed

25:53

away . Now I share this verse not to like

25:55

give you an excuse to say , oh

25:57

, everything will be okay , so I don't really need to process

25:59

it . The point is is to

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lean into the one who will redeem

26:03

everything . It's okay

26:05

to embrace your feelings . It's good

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to find comfort in community

26:10

. It's a day to remember you're not alone

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. It's a day to remember that God heals

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the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds

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. So I just want to encourage

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you that your

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child's legacy and their memory matter

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. So if you want more resources

26:26

, more information on what this would

26:28

look like , visit this blog

26:31

post online . I'll put it in the show notes , a

26:33

link , and I

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just want to share that . I hope

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you have a blessed , bereaved

26:40

Mother's Day . It may not be happy

26:42

, but that may mean

26:44

that it is a gift for you , and

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that's what I hope is that this Bereaved Mother's Day

26:48

is a gift for you for space to remember

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, breathe , be thankful

26:53

and share the story of your beloved

26:56

child with someone else . Hey

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, everyone , thanks so much for tuning in today . I

27:01

can't express enough how grateful I am that you're

27:03

a part of this journey with us . Whether

27:05

you are a mom who's lost a child or you

27:07

know someone who has , make sure to sign

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up for our weekly newsletter as

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a thank you . We put together some really heartfelt Bible-based prayers just for parents like us who've

27:18

gone through loss . They've been an encouragement to me personally

27:21

and I hope they can be for you too . You'll

27:23

find all the details in our episode description

27:25

, and if today's episode

27:27

spoke to your heart , I'd be so thankful

27:30

if you could leave a review . It's

27:32

not just about helping your podcast grow . It's

27:34

about reaching other parents

27:36

also , who might need to hear that they're

27:39

not alone in this . Make

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sure to hit follow on New Mercy Moms on your favorite

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podcast app . Each week , we

27:45

talk about how we can practically lean

27:47

into Jesus as we find hope and healing

27:49

on our grief journey after child loss . Don't

27:52

forget to join our little family on Facebook too

27:54

. We're sharing , supporting

27:57

and just holding space for each other every

27:59

day . Your

28:06

voice , your story . It matters so much in this space

28:09

. And as we wrap up today , just remember even

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on the toughest days , you are not alone and Jesus wants to meet you in your need , sending

28:15

you all my love and prayers for comfort

28:17

and strength until we meet again . This

28:20

is Kathy Clown signing off for New Mercy

28:22

Moms . And remember your

28:24

pain will push you somewhere . Your pain

28:27

needs to push you to God . See you

28:29

next time .