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[intro music] Welcome
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to Season Three of the National
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Institute of Neurological Disorders
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and Stroke's Building Up the Nerve
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where we help you strengthen your
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mentoring relationships with tools and
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advice from both trainees and faculty. We know that navigating your career can
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be daunting, but we're here to help.
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It's our job. [music fades]
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Hello, I'm Marguerite
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Matthews, a program director at NINDS.
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And I'm Lauren
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Ullrich, a program director at
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NINDS and we're your hosts today.
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In the last
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episode, we discussed finding mentors
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and building a mentoring team. In this episode, we are talking with
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mentor- mentee pairs about how they
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develop productive relationships,
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including aligning their expectations
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and working through challenges. [musical interlude]
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Our guests today are Dr.
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Avi Rodal, Dr. Matthew Pescosolido, Dr.
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Kay Tye, and Dr. Austin Coley.
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So let's get started with our introductions.
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My name is Avi Rodal,
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and I'm an Associate Professor of
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Biology at Brandeis University.
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I've been here running my
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independent lab since 2010.
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My research lab here at Brandeis
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studies how, um, intracellular membrane
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traffic machinery is specially deployed
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in the nervous system to do all the
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specialized things that neurons need
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to do, including rapidly recycling
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neurotransmitters, moving growth
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factors and signaling molecules for
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long distances, including between cells.
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So lately we've been working a lot on
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extracellular vesicles, and we're mostly
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using the fruit fly nervous system as
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our experimental model because it's
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amenable to genetics and also a lot
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of really fun live imaging using all
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the latest developments in microscopy. Three words that describe my
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mentoring philosophy are invested,
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uh, supportive, and honest.
2:01
I'm Matthew
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Pescosolido and I'm a post-doctoral fellow
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in the Rodal lab at Brandeis University.
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And I'm interested in understanding
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how a particular form of cell
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to cell communication known as
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extracellular vesicles, or EVs,
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are harnessed by the nervous system
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for central processes, as well as
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their role in neurological disease. Now, although EVs have been found
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to mediate synaptic plasticity in an
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activity dependent manner, we don't fully
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understand the underlying mechanisms and
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that's what I'm currently investigating. And through this work in Drosophila,
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we found an interesting relationship in
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which a key synaptic protein associated
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with synaptic plasticity regulates
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EV cargoes to form new synapses
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in an activity dependent manner.
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Ultimately, I hope to uncover how
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EVs support, fundamental neurological
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processes, how EV dysfunction can
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bleed to disease and whether EVs can
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be used as an effective treatment
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strategy for neurological diseases.
3:04
And I would describe, uh, my
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mentoring style or philosophy as
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anchor, empowering, and guiding.
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My name is Kay Tye. I'm the Wylie Vale Chair at the Salk
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Institute and an HHMI investigator.
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And I'm interested in understanding
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the neural circuit underpinnings
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of emotion and social processes.
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Essentially my lab is focused on
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dissecting and providing quantitative
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biological mechanistic level understanding
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of psychological concepts, things
3:34
like anxiety states or depression or
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substance use disorders and states that
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are relevant to psychiatric disease. If I were to describe my mentoring style
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or philosophy in three words, um, they
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would be authentic, transparent, and fun.
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Fun. I like fun!
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At least that's what I aspire to.
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I hope it's heavy on the fun! [laughs]
3:58
I am Austin Coley. I'm a postdoctoral fellow in Dr.
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Kay Tye's laboratory
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at the Salk Institute.
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I've been a postdoc for
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about two and a half years.
4:08
And the purpose of my project is to
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investigate the prefrontal cortex,
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neuronal populations and circuits
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that are involved in Anhedonia um, so
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Anhedonia is the inability to experience
4:17
pleasure, and it's a core feature in major
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depressive disorder and schizophrenia. And what I'm doing is I'm using in vivo
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two photon calcium imaging techniques, as
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well as behavioral analysis to detect the
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neuronal populations that are affected
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within this, uh, anhedonic condition.
4:38
And, um, I guess three words to
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describe my mentoring philosophy.
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I would say communication, um, I
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would say creativity, as well as
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I would say, also like hard work. [musical interlude]
4:54
How did each of
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you approach establishing expectations
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and shared goals, um, and would love
4:58
to hear about your current mentoring
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relationship now, but perhaps also in
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other types of mentoring relationships,
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maybe noticing when you didn't set up,
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um, certain expectations and shared
5:10
goals, how that sort of impacted the way
5:10
in which you were able to do your work.
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Um, so I think this
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is a really important topic.
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And a lot of the times expectations
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are assumed that you should
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obviously know these expectations,
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but we're not mind readers.
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And so when I was a post-doc
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and I had just gotten this job,
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I had no space yet, no people. And I was like, okay, I
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got to create the website. What is the content I'm
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going to put on this website?
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Because I don't have
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anything to take pictures of.
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So I, um, you know, obviously
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you have some papers.
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And then I wrote out a lab philosophy.
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That was just, you know, random
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musings as a postdoc of things I
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thought about a lot as a trainee and,
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you know, it's 10 years later and
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the text is like minor, minor edits.
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And so on the website, I have some
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general expectations for lab members.
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And so it really just serves to filter
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out who would even apply, you know.
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If anything I wrote turns you off then
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you're probably just not even going to
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apply, we don't even have to, you know,
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there's no awkward conversations needed.
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In the current state, after doing it
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for a decade, the upfront expectations
6:11
and talking about everything
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really early has worked for me.
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And with Austin it's
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been very transparent.
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I met Austin at a meeting and,
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it was very effortless, so...
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Yeah. I think it was established very,
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very early on when I was looking
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into, to postdoc positions and,
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uh, looking into Kay's lab.
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During my PhD, I met Kay at a
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optogenetics Gordon Research conference.
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I actually, uh, immediately walked
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up to her and told her, like my
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sort of aspirations, goals, and,
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um, and from there I told her my
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projected timeline for not only
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graduating with my PhD, but also even
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afterwards, becoming a postdoc and even
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transitioning into a faculty position.
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So, we had these conversations
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during the interview process.
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And I wasn't having this communication
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actually with the other PIs
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that I was interviewing with. So this was what sort of, like, separated
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Kay from a lot of the potential post-doc,
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uh, places that I was looking at. So we had those initial expectations as
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it relates to like career goals, but then
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we started to discuss potential projects
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that I could run within her laboratory.
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And what was huge was, um, going
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through the interview process
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and proposing this potential
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project that I was interested in.
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And then she was also equally
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interested in, um, and that
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was established like during the
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interview process, which was huge.
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It was a major reason on why I wanted
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to, to join her lab was we had similar
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interests in this project proposal.
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I didn't know that!
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Yeah. Um, I think that if I didn't have
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those conversations, like one, I
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wouldn't know your mentoring style.
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And two, I wouldn't know like what I was
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capable of doing also at the next level.
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So I had a different, uh, background.
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For my PhD, it's a very heavy
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molecular and synaptic background.
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I did ex vivo electrophysiology
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and, um, Kay has also ex vivo
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uh, electrophysiology background. So she was able to like,
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see both sides of it.
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I can only see one side. Um, she actually, even before the
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interview process, she was telling me
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it's definitely a doable technique for
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me to transition into doing in vivo work.
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And she also informed me that it was
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beneficial for my career in the end
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anyway to like learn these new techniques.
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So that was all talked about even
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before the interview process which
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was extremely helpful regardless
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of how the interview went anyway.
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[laughs] I was, I was like, oh, thanks,
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thanks for telling me all this info, Kay!
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[laughs]
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Yeah. I think having shared goals and interests
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expressed very early on helps develop
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that relationship and allows there to
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be trust to say, um, what it is that you
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want and need out of this beyond just
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the, I want to get a postdoc, I need a
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postdoc to get a faculty position, or
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I need a place to work [laughs] because
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I need to be able to support myself. Um, but also knowing what, what you can
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expect from someone in terms of their
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philosophy or that they even like, even
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hearing someone say they want to work with
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you can really change how you approach
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your next steps and career development.
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I think one
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of the keys is that there needs
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to be a foundation built on both
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mutual respect and trust and like
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any type of relationship, that
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foundation needs to be solid.
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And a lot of these things that we'll
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talk about today, I don't think are
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achievable without that foundation.
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And as a mentee, a few things that
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are really important, and are related
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to that, is this sense that you feel
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valued by your mentor, and that your
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opinions, your time is important, not
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just to yourself, but also to the mentor.
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And I think another piece that really
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elevates a mentor in my eye is that they
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have a vested interest in my training,
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and in my, uh, development and in my
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future career, whatever that, that may be.
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So maybe I'll follow up by
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saying like, you know, what are some ways
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that you can formally actualize that?
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It's helpful to have some of
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these things down in writing.
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Um, and so we have a lab manual that
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everybody reads when they join the lab.
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And it has some like very
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general principles of like,
10:47
what are our lab values? Everybody has to treat each other
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with kindness in every interaction,
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no matter what career stage you're at. Um, and then I do have in the lab
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manual our, uh, diversity equity
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and inclusion policy practices.
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I have an explicit statement in
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there that says, this is a formal
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and official part of our job to
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make sure that our environment has
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those really important features. So having that stuff in
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writing is really important.
11:14
And then I also have sections that
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say sort of what my expectations
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are for what my job is in the lab,
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providing funding, giving advice,
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being available, that sort of thing. Um, and then what people at
11:24
different career stages, what I'm
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expecting them to get out of the lab.
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and I found it super helpful to look
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at other people's similar lab manuals
11:35
or norms and policy statements.
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'Cause sometimes I'm like, oh, that
11:37
was so well said and between me and my
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colleagues, where , you could see a lot
11:41
of shared language [laughs] between our
11:44
lab manuals, because it really helps
11:44
you think about like what kind of lab
11:47
environment do you want to set up? Just what Matt was talking about.
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But then there also has to be something
11:50
in writing individually, right?
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'Cause I, I feel like it's not, um, so
11:53
much of a contract as much as when you
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put something in writing, um, you can both
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agree on the language in a way that's very
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difficult to do with verbal communication.
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So we have our annual
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individual development plan.
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And the way I like to do that is we
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have a meeting that's dedicated towards
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what are the person's career goals? Short-term development
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goals, long-term goals.
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And they'll fill out a whole
12:19
questionnaire beforehand and then
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we'll go through it and I will type
12:22
what I think what they're saying about
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what we should do for the next year. And then I like to have the person
12:29
look at what I've written and I'm
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asking is what came out on paper
12:33
really what you're thinking too.
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So I think paper, well, it's a Google
12:36
doc, but same thing [laughs], um, is
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a really good way to make sure we have
12:40
a shared language and shared goals.
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Um, and then that maybe, we had a really
12:44
great experience writing Matt's F32
12:50
fellowship last year that I think, um,
12:50
maybe he can talk about, about that.
12:55
Yes. So the F32 process, um, I was really
12:55
fortunate to work kind of hand in hand
13:02
with Avi with this, um, in the past,
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I was fortunate enough to be funded
13:07
for a pre-doctoral F31 with my, uh,
13:07
graduate school mentor who was wonderful.
13:12
And now that, uh, I worked on my F32,
13:12
taking more of a, uh, leadership active
13:19
role, and also seeing how there, there
13:19
might be different styles, both, uh,
13:23
incredibly valuable, both incredibly
13:23
productive, but, but seeing that
13:27
there's no say, "right way" to write
13:27
a grant or different grant styles.
13:32
And so, um, with this F32, it allowed
13:32
us the ability to really outline what
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activities I am really responsible
13:38
for during my postdoctoral fellowship,
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and, uh, likewise what responsibilities
13:44
Avi has to me and also what are our
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responsibilities for professional
13:52
development and making sure that I'm,
13:55
I'm giving clear presentations, I'm
13:55
able to kind of write clearly with
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my manuscripts and then also what are
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some of the, uh, mentoring or teaching
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opportunities that I have to hopefully
14:05
pass down to a younger generation.
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Yeah, I think that, um,
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you know, that your experience with the
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F32 really dovetails with a lot of what
14:12
we heard in Season Two, where we actually
14:18
went through and talk to applicants
14:18
about the different parts of the grant
14:21
application, where even just the act
14:21
of writing and putting the application
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together really help them formalize
14:26
their relationships and their plans and
14:31
the expectations and all that stuff. So it's good to hear that echoed here too.
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So in terms of like the nitty gritty,
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um, how often do you two meet together?
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Um, has that sort of changed over time?
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What kinds of things do you
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talk about in your meetings?
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So I know, Avi, you had mentioned
14:49
an annual IDP review, but do you
14:55
review the goals and expectations
14:55
and, and your alignment, um, in
14:59
other ways, or at other times?
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So I have a set meeting
15:02
time weekly with everybody in my
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lab and it can be a long meeting.
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It can be a short meeting. It's just kind of a, a check-in.
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And what we do is we have like a living
15:11
Google doc that exists all the time.
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And every time I'm thinking about
15:18
Matt and this project, I'll just
15:21
sort of jot that in the document. And when Matt has something to update on
15:23
or some question, he can jot it in there.
15:28
And sometimes we just communicate
15:28
back and forth through that Google
15:30
doc, and other times we'll use that
15:30
weekly meeting to kind of go through it.
15:35
Um, and the Google doc
15:35
is sort of continuous.
15:37
You just sort of add on
15:37
your new meeting to the top.
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And I found that to be, uh, like a
15:40
super helpful mentoring tool to keep
15:46
open the lines of communication. And it's also searchable, which
15:47
is not true of conversations.
15:51
[laughs] Um, I started my lab 12 years
15:51
ago and I definitely tried all kinds
15:56
of different management tools, Gantt
15:56
charts, you name it, um, to try to keep
16:02
on top of people's, um, project so that
16:02
I can offer as much as, as possible.
16:07
And many of those things
16:07
like quickly dropped.
16:09
Nobody liked them. Um, but this particular strategy with
16:11
the weekly meetings in the Google
16:14
doc, as a way to keep open lines
16:14
of communication has been awesome.
16:19
Yes, Avi's very
16:19
responsive to the Google doc, uh,
16:23
sometimes I'll be putting data up and
16:23
I'm still kind of working through my
16:27
interpretations and [laughs] Avi will
16:27
already be, be kind of typing away.
16:31
So, I think with maybe some of these
16:31
other, say, mentoring techniques as a
16:37
mentee you feel that grinding of someone's
16:37
trying to mentor you and it just doesn't
16:41
feel as natural, um, as opposed to, say
16:41
we can have regular communications offline
16:49
with our Google doc, Avi's made it very
16:49
clear I can email her really at any time.
16:54
And as a mentee, I want to be
16:54
respectful of that so that I'm
16:57
not sending the panicked emails
16:57
every few minutes about something.
17:02
But that when we do meet it's
17:02
productive for both of us.
17:06
And, um, I don't know,
17:06
maybe this is a challenging question,
17:10
but were there any surprises or things
17:10
that you hadn't discussed that uh kind
17:15
of came up after you started working
17:15
together that you've had to work through?
17:20
There weren't
17:20
many challenges with Kay's
17:23
mentoring or any surprises.
17:26
I knew what I was getting
17:26
into before I went there.
17:30
There were challenges just during
17:30
like technical aspects of it because
17:33
of the, uh, the pandemic going on.
17:36
So I was sort of out of the lab for
17:36
a good amount of time, um, which was
17:40
challenging to learn this new technique,
17:40
that's not the best way to do it, but
17:45
that had nothing to do with mentoring.
17:47
And like, Kay, was completely different
17:47
opposite personality from myself, but even
17:55
though it was like completely opposite
17:55
it was very, very easy to communicate
17:59
with her with pretty much everything.
18:02
So science career-wise, it was like very,
18:02
very easy, transparent communications.
18:09
I think the thing that makes
18:09
Austin really easy to work with is
18:11
that he's very communicative and,
18:11
um, emotionally regulated and stable.
18:17
Like I've had a lot of trainees and sometimes there are surprises, I'll tell you.
18:20
There definitely have been surprises. And at this point, you know, I
18:22
used to really beat myself up when
18:27
something would go wrong with a
18:27
trainee and feel really horrible.
18:30
Like I failed, I'm like a bad person.
18:33
Like, you know, like I would just really
18:33
take it to heart at the beginning of
18:35
my, you know, when I was assistant
18:35
professor and then not that I don't
18:39
still take it to heart, but I sort of
18:39
just recognize, if you have X number
18:43
of people in your lab, there's going
18:43
to be X number of people that have this
18:47
problem and X number of people that have
18:47
this problem, like, it's just, you're
18:49
going to see all the problems that you
18:49
hear about like, you know, on occasion.
18:55
And it's never pleasant to have
18:55
to deal with any of those things.
18:58
And only recently, have I been able
18:58
to recognize that, um, to be a really
19:04
good mentor, sometimes I have to,
19:04
you know, tell people bad news.
19:10
And those are really difficult
19:10
conversations to have, or even just
19:12
something like, you know, "I'm not
19:12
gonna make you an offer for this
19:15
position" can be really challenging at
19:15
the beginning, but I think I've really
19:19
found this one, um, literature helpful,
19:19
which is called situational leadership.
19:24
Situational leadership really helps
19:24
me just to think about at every stage,
19:27
everyone's going to start out bright
19:27
eyed and bushy tailed and super excited.
19:30
And then everyone's going to get
19:30
bored and frustrated and their
19:33
desire to be able to do stuff, uh,
19:33
outpaces their ability to do stuff.
19:37
And then, you know, everybody's going
19:37
to go through that developmental
19:40
stage until they eventually reach
19:40
competence and like autonomy and
19:44
independence, and just feeling like
19:44
they have mastery over their craft.
19:47
And there's no shortcut for that. For me, I've definitely experienced
19:49
challenges and a lot of really fun
19:53
successes, mostly like really enjoyable
19:53
relationships, but definitely there have
19:57
been some challenges and sometimes those
19:57
challenges make the relationship better.
20:00
And sometimes those challenges help us
20:00
realize what we're supposed to be doing
20:03
in life might not be this, you know?
20:06
We have a later
20:06
episode in the season that sort of
20:08
talks about transitioning out of
20:08
a mentoring relationship, and you
20:12
know how to know when something's
20:12
salvageable versus when it's time to
20:17
sort of cut your losses and move on. So I think it's good to
20:18
foreshadow that, uh, conversation.
20:24
So one of the things we wanted to tackle
20:24
in sort of the second half of this episode
20:28
was a few common mentor- mentee challenges
20:28
or frictions that can happen and kind
20:37
of get your, your thoughts or your
20:37
advice on navigating these situations.
20:40
So I think first, just to set
20:40
the stage is how do each of you
20:45
really identify when there even
20:45
is a problem in the relationship?
20:49
Like, are there any, um, red
20:49
flags that you see from either
20:53
the mentor or the mentee side, if
20:53
like something's not right here.
20:56
We gotta, we got to work this out.
20:58
I think maybe that gets to,
20:58
um, Matt's point about being valued.
21:04
And I totally agree with him. That's the foundation of everything.
21:07
Every person in the lab is here
21:07
because they're valued and they have
21:11
something to bring to the table. And I think if people start feeling like
21:12
they're not valuing themselves, right?
21:20
So they're not meeting their own
21:20
expectations or that other people
21:23
aren't valuing them or respecting
21:23
them, um, then everything falls apart.
21:28
[laughs] So I think addressing
21:29
why you feel that way.
21:34
Is it something where your actions aren't
21:34
matching what your actual goals are?
21:40
Right. So I think that can be a very
21:40
common mismatch where the way you
21:44
spend your time isn't matching
21:44
sort of what you want to achieve.
21:49
Um, and then you can not be valuing
21:49
how you're spending your own time.
21:52
I certainly go through that as
21:52
a mid career faculty member.
21:56
[laughs] Um, and then the
21:56
issue of respect, right?
22:00
If someone is feeling disrespected, that
22:00
just needs to be addressed right away.
22:04
I mean, just in
22:04
terms of any relationship, I found that
22:07
if there is a problem kind of early
22:07
on, sitting on it for too long and
22:12
letting it build up, there's a lot of
22:12
stress and all of these interactions
22:18
are kind of funneled through that. And, and you just kind of take on more
22:19
and more of that stress and it really can
22:24
build so that it's clouding all of your,
22:24
kind of, day to day lab work productivity.
22:32
Um, but then I've found that when you
22:32
do have those moments where you're
22:37
talking to someone about the problem,
22:37
feeling that connection, that both
22:40
you understand the problem and they
22:40
understand the problem and you're both
22:44
working to solve it, it really is able
22:44
to lift that tightness and that feeling.
22:49
So, hopefully a mentee can identify
22:49
some of these problems earlier
22:54
and feels comfortable bringing
22:54
it to their mentor, again early.
22:57
And if that's not the case where they
22:57
feel comfortable bringing it to a
23:01
mentor, hopefully there are other social
23:01
supports, whether that's directly in
23:07
the lab, um, or other colleagues either
23:07
within that institution, department, or
23:12
outside it, which is another key part
23:12
is having a strong, scientific network,
23:20
which Avi's uh, encouraged and has been
23:20
a part of my professional development.
23:24
We've talked about quite a bit of
23:24
really having key mentors who are able
23:30
to provide various support, guidance,
23:30
insight that say, I need, and Avi may
23:38
not have the expertise in something. And I think having a mentor who's
23:40
very clear about where their strengths
23:44
are and where they, they may not have
23:44
that expertise in, and to seek that
23:49
expertise out is key in any mentor.
23:52
I think another thing to
23:52
think about is like, when things aren't
23:57
going swimmingly, which happens often
23:57
in a professional career in science,
24:03
um, just really taking some time
24:03
together to think about how much of
24:08
this is the normal struggle, right?
24:13
You know, if we start from the premise
24:13
that we're out here to answer questions
24:18
that nobody knows the answer to, and maybe
24:18
we don't even know exactly how to answer.
24:23
We're venturing into the unknown and
24:23
we know it's going to be hard, right?
24:28
And so when we have a particular
24:28
challenge, if we can sit down together and
24:33
agree that we've decided to do something
24:33
hard together, that goes a really long way
24:40
to helping the person not struggle alone.
24:43
But then on the other hand, if
24:43
you're trying to do something and
24:45
everybody around you is like, hmm
24:45
this seems like not a sensible risk.
24:51
I don't think that you're spending
24:51
your time in a way that you've told me
24:55
what outcomes you want to achieve, I
24:55
think you're not going to get there.
24:59
Then you sit down together and
24:59
you decide maybe this isn't the
25:03
best way to spend your time. So like, either being in the white
25:04
water rafting together versus
25:10
deciding together to pull the
25:10
boat into less dangerous waters.
25:15
So move away from the actual problem
25:15
you're tackling a little bit and
25:18
decide is that actually something
25:18
that we've agreed to work on together?
25:23
And I think many conflicts
25:23
can be resolved that way.
25:28
There are other things that
25:28
are sort of more interpersonal.
25:31
And those don't benefit from that kind
25:31
of solution, but what Matt said is
25:35
definitely the best way to address those.
25:38
Yeah. Can we talk a little bit more about
25:38
those interpersonal struggles of how
25:42
do you get around when maybe your
25:42
mentoring style is not matching up with,
25:45
um, what the mentee needs, perhaps,
25:45
maybe you're really hands-on because
25:50
you think they need help, but they feel
25:50
micromanaged or you think they've got
25:54
it all figured out and so you're very
25:54
hands-off and they feel like, "Ah!
25:57
You just let me out here to drown! You're my life vest, I need you."
26:01
Have either of you been
26:01
able to navigate that?
26:03
Um, whether it's with each other or
26:03
even perhaps, um, other folks in the
26:07
lab and how can you sort of address
26:07
some of those interpersonal conflicts,
26:12
if it seems like it can be resolved.
26:15
I think this gets to a
26:15
particular challenge in the way that
26:21
biomedical research academic environments
26:21
are set up where the mentor and mentee
26:29
are also often an employer and employee,
26:29
and also someone who's developing
26:37
their career, and their sponsor who
26:37
will help them in their future career.
26:41
So I think the answer to your question in
26:41
terms of those conflicts of independence
26:46
versus, um, micromanaging, all that
26:46
kind of thing, um, if we were just in a
26:52
pure mentor- mentee relationship, then
26:52
I might say, oh, if a person wants me
26:56
to be hands-off, I should absolutely
26:56
be hands-off and give the mentee
27:01
exactly what they need at all times.
27:03
But then at the same time, um, we're
27:03
a lab generously funded by NINDS to
27:09
hopefully push forward the frontiers
27:09
of knowledge and that's our goal as
27:13
well to do that in an efficient way.
27:15
And then on the other hand, my
27:15
mentees also might want to impress
27:21
me so that I sponsor them in the
27:21
future for their future careers.
27:25
And they might not be
27:25
willing to show weakness.
27:28
And so there, there are some tensions
27:28
between those different roles
27:31
that don't exist in other fields. In other fields, you would have a separate
27:33
person in each one of those roles.
27:37
And I think that, at the beginning
27:37
of the relationship, talking about
27:42
that and establishing sort of how
27:42
the mentor deals with those tensions
27:48
in roles, is really important.
27:51
Yeah, I think it
27:51
was really important when I first started
27:54
in Avi's lab as, you know, a new postdoc
27:54
you clearly want to impress upon your
28:01
mentor, that you care deeply about the
28:01
science, you love these questions, and
28:05
you're going to really tease them apart
28:05
in a high level, in a high quality.
28:11
I'm remembering one of my earliest
28:11
experiments were I was trying to get this,
28:16
this one type of stimulation to work.
28:19
And it just, it just wasn't working, and
28:19
it stretched on for maybe a few weeks
28:24
, and Avi and I had one of our meetings
28:24
and she was like, this probably took
28:27
longer than it needed to for us to make
28:27
this decision not to pursue it further.
28:32
And I thought, okay, this sets
28:32
the tone for how I'm going
28:37
to spend my time in the lab. And we can be nimble in determining
28:39
whether or not some of these projects
28:43
may be fruitful, may be productive, or
28:43
it's just not worth the amount of time,
28:48
which as a postdoc, is in short supply.
28:51
So now in the future, if I'm starting
28:51
to have those same feelings, if it
28:55
feels like I'm going down that same
28:55
road, maybe have this discussion with
28:58
Avi, that it isn't probably the best
28:58
use of my time, or there are other
29:03
projects that are a higher priority.
29:05
I think that I've
29:05
done something in the past
29:08
that has been helpful to me. So I probably people have heard about
29:09
these different quadrants of management
29:15
or mentorship where, you know, one
29:15
axis is how directive you are and
29:20
another axis is how supportive you are.
29:22
And so you can be very supportive and
29:22
not very directive, and then you're
29:25
just kind of leaving someone to their
29:25
own devices, but supporting them.
29:29
You can be very directive and very
29:29
unsupportive and that's, you know,
29:33
the shame management strategy.
29:36
And there are certain quadrants
29:36
that I personally would never go to.
29:41
[laughs] Um, I couldn't
29:41
based on my personality.
29:44
And I also think some of
29:44
those quadrants are wrong.
29:47
So like very directive and
29:47
very unsupportive or very
29:50
unsupportive and very undirective. So those I wouldn't go to, but I'm
29:52
willing to move around in those quadrants.
29:57
And I've had experiences where, like I had
29:57
an idea for something I wanted to say to
30:02
a mentee, but I actually asked, I drew the
30:02
little graph and I said, is it okay if I
30:06
go here, I see an opportunity to go here
30:06
and I would listen if the mentee said, no,
30:11
I want to make my own choice here, or, um,
30:11
I want to hear some tough words, right?
30:16
I'm willing to, to go there with
30:16
the permission of my mentee.
30:19
Yeah. And communication has been such a
30:20
theme throughout this whole podcast.
30:23
So, you know, that's just another
30:23
great, uh, theme to be highlighting.
30:28
I think, Kay, you talk a little bit about situational leadership, but what
30:29
does that actually look like?
30:32
Like how do you go about trying to figure
30:32
out, do I need to be more hands-on?
30:37
Do I need to be less hands-on? Anything like, like that.
30:40
So, yeah, I mean, wow,
30:40
it's a really good question.
30:44
And I, as you're asking me this question,
30:44
I'm just like, literally my mind is
30:47
just going through the archives of like
30:47
every situation and like, what did I do?
30:51
And was it a good decision? Should I have done that or not? And what ends up being a breaking point
30:53
for me when I decide like, okay, I
30:59
got to drop the hammer, so to speak? A lot of the decision-making I
31:01
do for both hiring and firing
31:04
is very transparent in the lab. I run my lab and it's sort of evolved.
31:08
It's its own little culture. Um, but you know, everyone who comes into
31:09
the lab, we need to vote unanimously.
31:14
We have a discussion. Everybody has a veto power and you
31:15
know, there's different grades of
31:17
enthusiasm, but everybody has veto
31:17
power and we need to unanimously
31:21
decide to give someone an offer. And I think that has been a really
31:23
effective process for me for filtering
31:29
and understanding their problems. It's always harder when it emerges
31:30
when someone's already in the lab, they
31:34
already are friends with a lot of people. And, you know, they've made a lot of
31:35
contributions for which I'm grateful.
31:39
Um, so I think those
31:39
challenges have been trickier.
31:42
And I think for me, the line is if someone
31:42
is not doing well in the lab, it doesn't
31:45
necessarily mean that they couldn't
31:45
begin to do well in the lab later.
31:49
However, if someone is not doing well in
31:49
the lab and they are harming or making a
31:53
toxic environment or making other people
31:53
feel uncomfortable or otherwise burdening
31:58
other people in a way that is not relevant
31:58
to any professional responsibilities.
32:03
I need to do something. And it's irresponsible for me to not act.
32:06
So, as soon as that becomes
32:06
apparent, I act pretty swiftly.
32:10
What do you think, Austin?
32:12
Um, I definitely do
32:12
empathize with like the things that you
32:16
have to deal with, um, because I don't
32:16
think they're easy decisions to make.
32:21
I feel like as a mentee, we have to
32:21
be more conscious of and to like,
32:27
try to put ourselves in your position
32:27
the best way we can to just like,
32:33
see like, all right, your job is not
32:33
easy, managing all these different
32:37
personalities at different career
32:37
stages, I mean, that's like a tough task.
32:42
So yeah, I don't know where
32:42
you are coming from because
32:45
I'm not in your position.
32:46
Yeah. You know, I appreciate that very much.
32:48
I think that if you're ever
32:48
curious, you should ask.
32:52
In the anonymous lab survey that we
32:52
recently did, a lot of people complain
32:56
there's too many meetings and like,
32:56
there's like too much discussing
33:00
all these like transparency things. And then some people love it.
33:02
They're like, this is super useful. This is like going to
33:03
teach me how to run my lab. Like all this stuff is
33:05
like behind the curtain.
33:08
Like this is basically going to be my job. And I just never thought about it before.
33:11
So it's mixed bag. Some people like it,
33:12
some people dislike it.
33:14
Oh. Will you talk more
33:14
about this, this survey?
33:16
Like is this something you've done
33:16
regularly or sort of a new thing and
33:21
what kinds of questions do you ask?
33:24
Yeah. So I, um, originally did my
33:25
very first anonymous lab survey.
33:28
That was at, I dunno, maybe five or six
33:28
years ago, but as Aruta and then Leslie
33:34
Vosshall popularized this anonymous
33:34
lab survey, this just is a Google form.
33:38
And so we kind of use that
33:38
template and added a lot more
33:41
stuff so it's pretty extensive. People say a lot and give me a lot
33:43
of perspective about how they're
33:47
feeling that like, I definitely
33:47
wasn't aware of all of it, you know?
33:50
And then have a lab meeting to
33:50
discuss issues and give people
33:52
a chance to air things and also
33:52
I'm just responding to everyone.
33:56
Yeah. I don't know. Maybe that might be a little bit
33:56
burdensome for my lab and it's been a
34:00
burst of a lot of this type of thing. But on the plus side, the majority of
34:02
the lab feels empowered to say what
34:07
they really think and feels that, you
34:07
know, they're able to say what they
34:11
think that their voice will be heard. So I guess that's the plus side.
34:14
I don't know. Austin you tell me what he thinks? If it's too much, it's a lot.
34:17
[laughs]
34:18
Yeah. Uh, I mean, I'm actually not a
34:18
fan of the anonymous feedback.
34:23
I am a fan of feedback, um, and
34:23
prefer, you know, one-on-one feedback.
34:29
I typically can handle critical
34:29
feedback, so, I'm like not averse to it.
34:36
Um, but I also understand, like from
34:36
the other side that people are not sort
34:42
of comfortable saying things to other
34:42
people's faces in a one-on-one meeting.
34:48
It's just like not my particular
34:48
style that I would want.
34:53
It is hard to receive
34:53
anonymous feedback when it's
34:57
everyone giving you feedback at once.
34:59
Yeah.
34:59
But I will say that, you know,
34:59
like in, in our survey, Austin knows
35:04
like, you know, I could see how a lot
35:04
of people would feel uncomfortable
35:08
saying, Kay, you talk too much. You need to talk less.
35:10
Can you please [laughs] stop talking
35:10
so that other people can talk.
35:13
Yeah, but I hear you, Austin. I mean, I've had to give
35:15
the anonymous feedback.
35:17
And sometimes I feel like the things
35:17
that I have to say feel, they feel
35:22
almost harsher when they're anonymous
35:22
than if I came to a person and was
35:27
like, Hey, like here's my personal
35:27
feedback and take it or leave it um,
35:33
and here's the context around it. But I also, you know, obviously like
35:35
the flip side of the power dynamics
35:39
and the not everyone feels comfortable
35:39
giving that kind of feedback.
35:42
Yeah. It definitely cuts both ways.
35:44
Yeah.
35:45
One point to make that we
35:45
didn't really touch on yet, is that,
35:49
when you're mentoring in this sort of
35:49
responsive and flexible way, one thing
35:54
to be on the lookout for is burnout.
35:58
Uh, and I think that's one of my main
35:58
jobs as, as a mentor is to sort of,
36:05
um, sense and respond to when people
36:05
have entered into a time in their
36:13
weeks or their months or their years
36:13
where there's too much on their plates.
36:18
And it's ending up having
36:18
a negative feedback.
36:22
And so I personally try to talk to
36:22
people about that and obviously to set
36:28
a tone in the lab where, um, people
36:28
learn how to sense that for themselves,
36:32
if they don't already know how. And then, you know, take things
36:34
off their plate, take a vacation.
36:38
In the long-term, it's much more
36:38
important to reduce sometimes.
36:42
Um, and it's not going to make a
36:42
difference in terms of long-term
36:45
productivity or reaching your goals. Or it is going to make a
36:47
difference, but a positive one. [laughs]
36:50
Absolutely. Emotional intelligence is not
36:50
something we discuss or even promote
36:55
a lot of times in the sciences. And it's almost as if it's
36:57
combating, you know, this idea of
37:01
being reasonable and logical is
37:01
if those two things can't coexist.
37:05
And so I think that's a really great
37:05
point to, to mention is being able to
37:08
recognize it in yourself as the mentor,
37:08
because you probably need a break too.
37:12
But especially in your trainees, because
37:12
sometimes they won't ask for help.
37:15
They'll just be dangling out there
37:15
thinking that it's normal, it's normal
37:18
to feel this way because getting a PhD is
37:18
hard or, or, you know, being on the job
37:24
market to get a faculty position is hard. Yeah, I think having that mental
37:26
wellness really is important.
37:29
Yeah. And I think that point about, um, that
37:29
this will be better in the long run.
37:34
I think sometimes trainees, they
37:34
might feel shame that they can't
37:38
get it all done or feel like,
37:38
"no, I can do it, I can do it."
37:42
And it's like, you don't have to,
37:42
[laughs] you don't have to do it.
37:46
You don't have to push yourself in this way. Like it's, it's going to
37:47
be better in the long run.
37:50
It's a really good message.
37:51
And as a mentor, I
37:51
can really help like redistribute
37:55
load, um, in addition to
37:55
encouraging people to take breaks.
37:59
And to Avi's
37:59
point, I think of a mentor as a role
38:02
model, not just for, uh, scientific
38:02
reasons, but as uh lab management.
38:09
And, uh, I remember there was one time
38:09
during kind of the peak of the pandemic
38:15
where I think we all were experiencing
38:15
burnout and Avi did something very, I
38:20
think simple for her as a mentor, of just
38:20
saying, this week we don't need to have
38:25
our one-on-one meetings, but you know,
38:25
I've got a lot of things on my plate.
38:31
I'm sure you will have a lot of things
38:31
on your plate and by Avi doing that
38:35
very simple thing of just saying we
38:35
don't need to meet, it made it okay
38:40
for all of us to then say something
38:40
like that as well to one another.
38:44
And that it wasn't as though, well,
38:44
Avi's doing all of these things and I
38:48
need to do all of these things, too.
38:52
It gave us that permission.
38:54
Well, we all need to be kind to each other, but we also need to be kind to ourselves.
38:57
[laughs] [musical interlude]
39:02
Can I ask
39:02
each of you for one last piece of
39:04
parting advice for our audience?
39:07
I think I would say that the
39:07
interpersonal relationships that you
39:12
develop in a research environment are,
39:12
um, as important to your satisfaction in
39:19
this career as your scientific results.
39:22
And so you have to do them as you do
39:22
for your scientific work, you have to
39:26
conduct your interpersonal relationships
39:26
in a way that matches your values.
39:31
And that makes you feel
39:31
satisfied and good.
39:34
So if you find yourself doing
39:34
something that goes against that in
39:37
your interpersonal relationships,
39:37
to try to, you know, do some more
39:42
science or something, it's not going
39:42
to make you happy in the long run.
39:46
So really working on those interpersonal
39:46
relationships, particularly the
39:49
mentor- mentee relationship, I
39:49
think it's really important for
39:52
long-term satisfaction in this career.
39:54
I guess I'd say
39:54
that being in science, we're fortunate
39:56
to have a lot of incredible mentors.
39:59
And that there isn't necessarily one
39:59
or a few mentors that one needs for
40:06
particular area of, of science that you
40:06
can find really good mentors all over.
40:12
Uh, whether that's your particular,
40:12
say, PI that you're working with,
40:17
your colleagues, whether they're a
40:17
post-doctoral fellows, senior scientists,
40:22
graduate students, or undergraduate
40:22
students who will more than likely
40:25
change the world in incredible ways in
40:25
the future, and you'll look up to them.
40:30
And I guess I'd also say we're incredibly
40:30
fortunate to be in these positions
40:34
to ask questions, work on science,
40:34
and I guess we're all responsible for
40:40
one another and building each other
40:40
up when that's necessary and being
40:45
critical when it's necessary as well,
40:45
but that, uh, as scientists, we're
40:51
all part of this larger group that,
40:51
that needs to support one another.
40:54
Yeah. So I think as it relates to advice,
40:55
if you're looking for a mentor, start
40:59
to, one, look early and, two, I would
40:59
see what this mentor can do for you
41:08
as it relates to, like, your career. I think you should have these
41:10
conversations, um, very, very early on.
41:15
Candid conversations. And so you're not like running
41:17
into any surprises, during your
41:22
PhD or your post-doc . So I think
41:22
my advice is have those candid
41:28
talks, and be as honest as you can.
41:33
I understand this could be a little
41:33
bit fearful, um, especially if you're
41:38
talking to, um, a famous PI then you
41:38
probably like, want to put up a front,
41:45
but that's probably not the best.
41:47
It's not going to help you
41:47
out in the end, anyway.
41:49
So, um, have those conversations and then
41:49
yeah, start to like figure, figure it out.
41:56
I think that's really good advice. Um, I think my advice is to integrate
41:58
over your emotional response to a
42:06
complicated situation over time.
42:08
So I think that a lot of times we're
42:08
just like making, you know, trying to
42:12
make decisions about, um, you know,
42:12
choosing a mentor or what to do.
42:17
And I think a lot of the times,
42:17
actually, your emotional abstraction
42:22
of the whole situation is taking into
42:22
account many different inputs that you
42:26
are weighting in and then, you know,
42:26
you're coming up with an amalgam.
42:30
And so if you can't necessarily
42:30
articulate what the problem is, but
42:34
you just have a, not a great feeling. I would say, trust that feeling and like,
42:36
you know, try to investigate more before
42:40
you make a final decision, but this is
42:40
effectively your chosen science family.
42:45
And so it is a very important decision
42:45
and both when things are really good
42:49
and when things are really bad, I
42:49
think trust that, trust that feeling.
42:53
If you feel drawn to someone, you really want to talk to them, you want to work with them.
42:56
Like you should do that, you know? And don't hold back.
42:59
I think Austin's point is really good. When you are trying to find a mentor
43:01
and, um, you know, presenting yourself
43:06
to a mentor or mentee just to present
43:06
yourself authentically, because so
43:11
much of the success of a mentor-
43:11
mentee relationship comes down to fit.
43:15
And if you are presenting and trying
43:15
to be someone else that you're not
43:18
like to impress someone, which everyone
43:18
kind of does, but like, if you can make
43:22
the version of yourself as close to
43:22
that actual reality as possible, that
43:26
would be most helpful for, you know,
43:26
knowing if it's going to be a good fit.
43:31
Um, so I think that's, that's
43:31
kind of obvious, but yet
43:35
everybody sort of does it.
43:37
So no
43:37
mentoring cat fishing going on.
43:40
[laughs]
43:41
Right.
43:42
I like that advice. That's good advice.
43:44
All right, Lauren, what's your advice?
43:47
I think I want to return
43:47
to the theme of communication, because
43:52
I-I- really, like as Avi was saying like,
43:52
we really are, in academia, navigating
43:56
a lot of, um, sometimes conflicting
43:56
roles where you're a student and you're
44:02
a researcher and you're, you know, an
44:02
employee and a mentee and it's really
44:09
hard to do that or to have any of these
44:09
relationships without communication.
44:13
And I think the advice part of
44:13
that is that it's never too late.
44:17
Even if you think you, you know, maybe
44:17
you started off on the wrong foot
44:20
with someone or you feel like things
44:20
are kind of veering off, or I haven't
44:25
ever brought this up before, so how
44:25
do I even start the conversation?
44:30
Um, I think people are more open
44:30
to these kinds of conversations.
44:35
They might not even know that you want
44:35
to talk about this thing or they feel
44:40
like they're, you know, they don't
44:40
know how to have the conversation
44:43
either, even if they're the mentor. So, um, bringing in your support
44:44
community, figuring out the best
44:49
way to broach the subject and then
44:49
just floating some test balloons I
44:53
think is a great way to start there.
44:55
And then on the mentor
44:55
side, it's the same, right?
44:58
Like, you can still start having these
44:58
conversations or set up the lab, um,
45:02
expectations, the lab book now, and
45:02
you can work on it and develop it as
45:07
a lab and make it a group exercise. And so never too late to open
45:09
the lines of communication.
45:13
What about you, Marguerite?
45:14
I think I'm going
45:14
to sort of combine everything that has
45:17
been said, even just recently, um, I love
45:17
this idea Avi specifically you mentioning
45:23
about incorporating the lab in various
45:23
ways, both in terms of your shared values,
45:29
shared expectations, um, and everyone
45:29
investing in what's happening in the lab.
45:34
I think so often we look to one
45:34
person who is called our mentor to do
45:40
everything, uh, to be the best mentor
45:40
ever and have all of the expertise,
45:45
the emotional intelligence, the ability
45:45
to read minds and all of the things.
45:50
And sometimes, you may not get
45:50
everything from that person.
45:53
I don't even think the expectation
45:53
should be to have that, but when you
45:56
have other people around, other people
45:56
to lean on in the lab, being able to say,
46:00
Hey, I'm really struggling with this.
46:03
And I don't know how to tell Avi. I don't know how to tell my mentor
46:04
that I'm having this problem, can
46:07
you kind of help me, you know, figure
46:07
out the best way to approach this?
46:11
Or I'm really struggling in
46:11
maintaining my, um, work-life balance.
46:15
And I think creating a lab
46:15
environment is so important where
46:19
everyone can help each other.
46:21
So yeah, so I really like the idea of
46:21
having an environment where everyone is
46:26
mentoring each other or providing, um, the
46:26
support that is needed to get work done,
46:33
but also to be well and to be a whole
46:33
human being, since those are people you
46:38
probably spend most of your time with,
46:38
[laughs] um, you probably don't even spend
46:42
as much time in your own house in solitude
46:42
as you do with your lab mates, so..
46:45
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46:49
That's all we have time
46:49
for today on Building Up the Nerve.
46:52
And this season, we're ending every
46:52
episode with a reflection question.
46:56
So this episode we invite you
46:56
to reflect on, what are the most
47:00
important expectations for you to
47:00
set in your mentoring relationships
47:03
and how do you go about doing that? Thank you to our guests this week
47:06
for sharing their expertise and thank
47:09
you to NINDS program director, Dr.
47:11
Bob Riddle, who composed
47:11
our theme song and music.
47:14
We'll see you next time for episode
47:14
four, where we discuss developing
47:17
an adaptive mentoring style.
47:20
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47:20
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