Whenever you have a disagreement with someone you care about and who cares about you, pose this straightforward question:

“How important is this to you on a scale of 1 to 10?”

The size of the disagreement doesn’t matter. Whether it’s about dinner choices or naming your first-born child, this method helps avoid unnecessary disagreements and keeps relationships strong (most of the time, see exceptions below).

You can read the Nir And Far blog post on: Score Your Spats: How to Stop Arguing and Enhance Your Relationships https://www.nirandfar.com/how-to-stop-arguing/

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